The Lie Rejection Wants You to Believe

So, rejection is an important part of So, rejection is an important part of the journey that you've had. Right. the journey that you've had. Right. the journey that you've had. Right. And that's not about just fathers and And that's not about just fathers and And that's not about just fathers and sons. Rejection is a part of life. sons. Rejection is a part of life. sons. Rejection is a part of life. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> And there's so many things we live in a >> And there's so many things we live in a >> And there's so many things we live in a culture now where I think it's an culture now where I think it's an culture now where I think it's an epidemic. epidemic. epidemic. Uh we have a lot of fatherless homes. Uh we have a lot of fatherless homes. Uh we have a lot of fatherless homes. We have a lot of divorce. We have a lot of divorce. We have a lot of divorce. We have a lot of blended families. Jesus We have a lot of blended families. Jesus We have a lot of blended families. Jesus had a blended family. had a blended family. had a blended family. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> So, I I think if your family >> So, I I think if your family >> So, I I think if your family circumstances less than ideal, it circumstances less than ideal, it circumstances less than ideal, it doesn't mean doesn't mean doesn't mean you are second-class citizen in the you are second-class citizen in the you are second-class citizen in the kingdom of God or the God's purposes kingdom of God or the God's purposes kingdom of God or the God's purposes can't fill your life. can't fill your life. can't fill your life. But I think we have to have the help of But I think we have to have the help of But I think we have to have the help of God. God. God. >> Right. >> Right. >> Right. >> And so, maybe we take a minute and walk >> And so, maybe we take a minute and walk >> And so, maybe we take a minute and walk through that idea of rejection through that idea of rejection through that idea of rejection and how people overcome that. You know, and how people overcome that. You know, and how people overcome that. You know, if you've been through a divorce, if you've been through a divorce, if you've been through a divorce, if if you've been through an adoptive if if you've been through an adoptive if if you've been through an adoptive process, process, process, your parents cared enough Somebody cared your parents cared enough Somebody cared your parents cared enough Somebody cared enough about you to give you birth cuz enough about you to give you birth cuz enough about you to give you birth cuz in our culture in our culture in our culture children are disposable. children are disposable. children are disposable. >> Right. >> Right. >> Right. >> But it still opens your heart and your >> But it still opens your heart and your >> But it still opens your heart and your life to a spirit of rejection.

life to a spirit of rejection. life to a spirit of rejection. Or maybe your family circumstances are Or maybe your family circumstances are Or maybe your family circumstances are like yours through something you had like yours through something you had like yours through something you had nothing to do with. nothing to do with. nothing to do with. You you become kind of a a piece of a You you become kind of a a piece of a You you become kind of a a piece of a larger mosaic and you feel the rejection larger mosaic and you feel the rejection larger mosaic and you feel the rejection in that. in that. in that. >> Normally, with my experience per- >> Normally, with my experience per- >> Normally, with my experience per- personally and in helping people for 50 personally and in helping people for 50 personally and in helping people for 50 years, years, years, rejection, [snorts] rejection, [snorts] rejection, [snorts] you never you never you never cause it. cause it. cause it. You get all of the emotion and the hurt You get all of the emotion and the hurt You get all of the emotion and the hurt from it. Other circumstances produce it. from it. Other circumstances produce it. from it. Other circumstances produce it. And the real issue that people don't And the real issue that people don't And the real issue that people don't realize realize realize when they're experiencing it, it doesn't when they're experiencing it, it doesn't when they're experiencing it, it doesn't matter if they don't pick you for the matter if they don't pick you for the matter if they don't pick you for the first string on the ball team, first string on the ball team, first string on the ball team, that's that's that's an experience of rejection of some an experience of rejection of some an experience of rejection of some magnitude. But in mostly in our homes, magnitude. But in mostly in our homes, magnitude. But in mostly in our homes, what it is that we don't realize it's is what it is that we don't realize it's is what it is that we don't realize it's is what my grandmother was able to give me what my grandmother was able to give me what my grandmother was able to give me was love. was love. was love. That can be taken care of, That can be taken care of, That can be taken care of, but it's hard for the to use humans.

but it's hard for the to use humans. but it's hard for the to use humans. That's where our lives as a family That's where our lives as a family That's where our lives as a family changed when we came changed when we came changed when we came to know the truth about Jesus, like you to know the truth about Jesus, like you to know the truth about Jesus, like you said. said. said. And that's the place you can finally get And that's the place you can finally get And that's the place you can finally get love that will stay love that will stay love that will stay and meet the needs. and meet the needs. and meet the needs. >> Well, that's the heart of our faith. >> Well, that's the heart of our faith. >> Well, that's the heart of our faith. >> Right. >> Right. >> Right. >> We tend to think of it in terms of >> We tend to think of it in terms of >> We tend to think of it in terms of eternity. eternity. eternity. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> But the reality of the love of God >> But the reality of the love of God >> But the reality of the love of God when you finally accept that when you finally accept that when you finally accept that and you are accepted. and you are accepted. and you are accepted. >> Right. >> Right. >> Right. >> God accepts us through Jesus. He made >> God accepts us through Jesus. He made >> God accepts us through Jesus. He made provision for all of our brokenness and provision for all of our brokenness and provision for all of our brokenness and all of our failures all of our failures all of our failures and all of our ungodliness because we and all of our ungodliness because we and all of our ungodliness because we all have that. all have that. all have that. >> It gives you value. >> It gives you value. >> It gives you value. It It It the place you have in the body of Christ the place you have in the body of Christ the place you have in the body of Christ with the people you know that are with the people you know that are with the people you know that are believers. It puts value to you. believers. It puts value to you. believers. It puts value to you. >> Well, God valued us. >> Well, God valued us. >> Well, God valued us. >> Right. >> Right. >> Right. >> He valued us enough that he asked his >> He valued us enough that he asked his >> He valued us enough that he asked his son son son to come accept an unthinkable role to offer accept an unthinkable role to offer himself as a sacrifice.

himself as a sacrifice. himself as a sacrifice. And God didn't do that to make a And God didn't do that to make a And God didn't do that to make a theological point or to establish a theological point or to establish a theological point or to establish a religion. religion. religion. He did it because he thought as an He did it because he thought as an He did it because he thought as an individual individual individual you or me or whom whomever might be you or me or whom whomever might be you or me or whom whomever might be listening to this listening to this listening to this was valuable enough to make that was valuable enough to make that was valuable enough to make that investment in them. investment in them. investment in them. >> Right. >> Right. >> Right. >> That That's why >> That That's why >> That That's why it's irrational to think that God wants it's irrational to think that God wants it's irrational to think that God wants something from you know that something from you know that something from you know that I was afraid to trust God for so long I was afraid to trust God for so long I was afraid to trust God for so long cuz I thought he needed you know he's cuz I thought he needed you know he's cuz I thought he needed you know he's going to make my life difficult. going to make my life difficult. going to make my life difficult. I make my life difficult. God's made my I make my life difficult. God's made my I make my life difficult. God's made my life better. life better. life better. And he values you. And he values you. And he values you. And if you can if once that realization And if you can if once that realization And if you can if once that realization once you're given that revelation cuz I once you're given that revelation cuz I once you're given that revelation cuz I think it takes the spirit of God for think it takes the spirit of God for think it takes the spirit of God for that revelation to break through. that revelation to break through. that revelation to break through. It changes our total existence. Yeah, we It changes our total existence. Yeah, we It changes our total existence. Yeah, we >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> we don't realize >> we don't realize >> we don't realize that we come into this world that we come into this world that we come into this world with so much opportunity with so much opportunity with so much opportunity for failure. for failure. for failure. We're equipped for failure We're equipped for failure We're equipped for failure until we come to know Jesus.

until we come to know Jesus. until we come to know Jesus. Then we have to see how Then we have to see how Then we have to see how to to to take the truths that we've learned on a take the truths that we've learned on a take the truths that we've learned on a personal level with the scripture to personal level with the scripture to personal level with the scripture to begin to prepare ourselves to live from begin to prepare ourselves to live from begin to prepare ourselves to live from that point on. that point on. that point on. And I don't think we've understood that And I don't think we've understood that And I don't think we've understood that we're we're we're we're so equipped for we're so equipped for we're so equipped for failure from the beginning that we need failure from the beginning that we need failure from the beginning that we need to to to apply apply apply truths that you get that will change you truths that you get that will change you truths that you get that will change you so you can change your future. so you can change your future. so you can change your future. What you experience, what you do for What you experience, what you do for What you experience, what you do for others, others, others, what what life produces through you. what what life produces through you. what what life produces through you. And that's that's where our family was And that's that's where our family was And that's that's where our family was the change came when the change came when the change came when we as a family found out about we as a family found out about we as a family found out about putting Jesus in the center of it putting Jesus in the center of it putting Jesus in the center of it and not on a one day a week basis. and not on a one day a week basis. and not on a one day a week basis. >> We became Christians, not church people. >> We became Christians, not church people. >> We became Christians, not church people. >> Right. >> Right. >> Right. >> There's a difference. >> There's a difference. >> There's a difference. >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> It's not you you your words were we're >> It's not you you your words were we're >> It's not you you your words were we're equipped for failure, but we're born equipped for failure, but we're born equipped for failure, but we're born into a broken world.

into a broken world. into a broken world. >> Right. >> Right. >> Right. >> And and you've got zero chance of >> And and you've got zero chance of >> And and you've got zero chance of overcoming the world apart from the help overcoming the world apart from the help overcoming the world apart from the help of God. of God. of God. >> Takes the power of God to change you. >> Takes the power of God to change you. >> Takes the power of God to change you. >> or gifted or talented or how amazing >> or gifted or talented or how amazing >> or gifted or talented or how amazing your circumstances or your circumstances or your circumstances or and even to parents that have smaller and even to parents that have smaller and even to parents that have smaller children children children or maybe because of your life choices or maybe because of your life choices or maybe because of your life choices your kids have had to deal with some your kids have had to deal with some your kids have had to deal with some rejection. rejection. rejection. And even if they haven't, none of us are And even if they haven't, none of us are And even if they haven't, none of us are good enough to fill that space in one good enough to fill that space in one good enough to fill that space in one another's lives. We need God. another's lives. We need God. another's lives. We need God. That's why the Christian faith makes That's why the Christian faith makes That's why the Christian faith makes such a difference. We can be accepted by such a difference. We can be accepted by such a difference. We can be accepted by God. God. God. And when we know loves us, then we're And when we know loves us, then we're And when we know loves us, then we're capable of loving ourselves and loving capable of loving ourselves and loving capable of loving ourselves and loving one another. one another. one another. And apart from God, we can't do that. And apart from God, we can't do that. And apart from God, we can't do that. >> And it it takes >> And it it takes >> And it it takes knowing him on a significantly personal knowing him on a significantly personal knowing him on a significantly personal level so that we can incorporate level so that we can incorporate level so that we can incorporate all aspects all aspects all aspects of the Trinity, the Father, the Son, and of the Trinity, the Father, the Son, and of the Trinity, the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit, to have the power to be the Holy Spirit, to have the power to be the Holy Spirit, to have the power to be willing. willing. willing. It takes Jesus to get us to the place we It takes Jesus to get us to the place we It takes Jesus to get us to the place we are willing to consider there could be are willing to consider there could be are willing to consider there could be change, but it takes yielding to the change, but it takes yielding to the change, but it takes yielding to the Holy Spirit to bring the change.

Holy Spirit to bring the change. Holy Spirit to bring the change. And that's what's so needed in our And that's what's so needed in our And that's what's so needed in our culture right now culture right now culture right now is people to be willing to accept I can is people to be willing to accept I can is people to be willing to accept I can be changed, but I have to be willing. be changed, but I have to be willing. be changed, but I have to be willing. >> Well, I have I have watched you show >> Well, I have I have watched you show >> Well, I have I have watched you show kindness kindness kindness to dozens and dozens of people because to dozens and dozens of people because to dozens and dozens of people because you recognize they were having to live you recognize they were having to live you recognize they were having to live through rejection through rejection through rejection for a whole variety of reasons. for a whole variety of reasons. for a whole variety of reasons. >> Oh, yeah. >> Oh, yeah. >> Oh, yeah. >> And and typically >> And and typically >> And and typically your approach is you pay attention to your approach is you pay attention to your approach is you pay attention to them. them. them. I mean, that's a bit of a I mean, that's a bit of a I mean, that's a bit of a simplification, but you listen to them. simplification, but you listen to them. simplification, but you listen to them. You I've heard you say, you know, I I I You I've heard you say, you know, I I I You I've heard you say, you know, I I I want to be their friend. want to be their friend. want to be their friend. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Which isn't normal. Most of us are >> Which isn't normal. Most of us are >> Which isn't normal. Most of us are really busy and we've got an agenda and really busy and we've got an agenda and really busy and we've got an agenda and and people are like and people are like and people are like um pawns on a chessboard. We need to um pawns on a chessboard. We need to um pawns on a chessboard. We need to move them around in order for us to move them around in order for us to move them around in order for us to accomplish what we want. accomplish what we want. accomplish what we want. Which is a pretty typical human Which is a pretty typical human Which is a pretty typical human response, but you response, but you response, but you So, ministry, [snorts] So, ministry, [snorts] So, ministry, [snorts] but from your perspective, and you're but from your perspective, and you're but from your perspective, and you're not a beginner at this point, not a beginner at this point, not a beginner at this point, it was less about um theological nuance.

it was less about um theological nuance. it was less about um theological nuance. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> And but you you've got this really weird >> And but you you've got this really weird >> And but you you've got this really weird idea that people matter. idea that people matter. idea that people matter. People used to I I'll confess here, that People used to I I'll confess here, that People used to I I'll confess here, that would annoy my brothers and I to no end would annoy my brothers and I to no end would annoy my brothers and I to no end cuz he would welcome them into our home cuz he would welcome them into our home cuz he would welcome them into our home or to our kitchen table, and or to our kitchen table, and or to our kitchen table, and we weren't thrilled about it. This we weren't thrilled about it. This we weren't thrilled about it. This wasn't when we had a church or any wasn't when we had a church or any wasn't when we had a church or any >> No, no, no. >> No, no, no. >> No, no, no. >> any religious functions >> any religious functions >> any religious functions This was not about professional function This was not about professional function This was not about professional function and liability. and liability. and liability. >> qualified to do what we did. >> qualified to do what we did. >> qualified to do what we did. >> Trust me, we felt the same way that you >> Trust me, we felt the same way that you >> Trust me, we felt the same way that you were. [laughter] were. [laughter] were. [laughter] But I we watched you care about people. But I we watched you care about people. But I we watched you care about people. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> And >> And >> And you you wouldn't um you you wouldn't um you you wouldn't um treat them with respect and dignity and treat them with respect and dignity and treat them with respect and dignity and listen to them and listen to them and listen to them and um it it was it was really how God began um it it was it was really how God began um it it was it was really how God began to use you to to bring healing in the to use you to to bring healing in the to use you to to bring healing in the lives of people. That's where the church lives of people. That's where the church lives of people. That's where the church came from. The church grew out of that. came from. The church grew out of that. came from. The church grew out of that. And the the church still gives And the the church still gives And the the church still gives expression to that, but expression to that, but expression to that, but I mean, when you I'm watching you do it I mean, when you I'm watching you do it I mean, when you I'm watching you do it today with young people and today with young people and today with young people and older people and older people and older people and your definition of what's young and your definition of what's young and your definition of what's young and old's gotten a little messed up.

old's gotten a little messed up. old's gotten a little messed up. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> Yeah, but >> Yeah, but >> Yeah, but >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> you recognize a good player in a sport >> you recognize a good player in a sport >> you recognize a good player in a sport when you've played that sport. when you've played that sport. when you've played that sport. And And And when you've lived life when you've lived life when you've lived life and it's given you some and it's given you some and it's given you some understanding, that's a sweet way to say understanding, that's a sweet way to say understanding, that's a sweet way to say what life throws at you a lot of times, what life throws at you a lot of times, what life throws at you a lot of times, that you can spot them before they know that you can spot them before they know that you can spot them before they know it themselves. it themselves. it themselves. I mean, I mean, I mean, I think about a person I was with here a I think about a person I was with here a I think about a person I was with here a few weeks ago and few weeks ago and few weeks ago and they were out just cleaning up around they were out just cleaning up around they were out just cleaning up around their office their office their office and by spending a little time with them, and by spending a little time with them, and by spending a little time with them, they opened up to what was going on in they opened up to what was going on in they opened up to what was going on in their life and I was able to their life and I was able to their life and I was able to encourage them spiritually in the encourage them spiritually in the encourage them spiritually in the direction they needed to go. direction they needed to go. direction they needed to go. >> So, somebody's listening >> So, somebody's listening >> So, somebody's listening and they feel like they have their and they feel like they have their and they feel like they have their their life dream has been sidetracked their life dream has been sidetracked their life dream has been sidetracked or train wrecked or or train wrecked or or train wrecked or subverted. subverted. subverted. What if you were going to give them What if you were going to give them What if you were going to give them in a minute or two some invitation in a minute or two some invitation in a minute or two some invitation towards a better place.

towards a better place. towards a better place. What does that look like? What does that look like? What does that look like? You're going to start with a You're going to start with a You're going to start with a I'm sure you're going to start with I'm sure you're going to start with I'm sure you're going to start with Jesus, but well. Jesus, but well. Jesus, but well. >> I think the first thing is you've >> I think the first thing is you've >> I think the first thing is you've got to be willing to be honest got to be willing to be honest got to be willing to be honest and recognize where you are and recognize where you are and recognize where you are and not try and and not try and and not try and say I'll fix it and I'll go on. say I'll fix it and I'll go on. say I'll fix it and I'll go on. Be willing to let someone Be willing to let someone Be willing to let someone come into your life and bring some truth come into your life and bring some truth come into your life and bring some truth and help for you. and help for you. and help for you. Just like if you were hungry Just like if you were hungry Just like if you were hungry um um um you need somebody to bring you some you need somebody to bring you some you need somebody to bring you some food. food. food. >> And we're going to do that right now cuz >> And we're going to do that right now cuz >> And we're going to do that right now cuz they can't all have an appointment with they can't all have an appointment with they can't all have an appointment with you. you. you. >> Okay. >> Okay. >> Okay. >> It's okay. >> It's okay. >> It's okay. >> So, we're going to give them some food. >> So, we're going to give them some food. >> So, we're going to give them some food. If if if they've survived a divorce If if if they've survived a divorce If if if they've survived a divorce >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> or they lost a parent or their parents >> or they lost a parent or their parents >> or they lost a parent or their parents divorced divorced divorced and they probably feel like somehow they and they probably feel like somehow they and they probably feel like somehow they contributed to that. contributed to that. contributed to that. Cuz that's kind of what the devil does Cuz that's kind of what the devil does Cuz that's kind of what the devil does to us. to us. to us. >> Right. Well, the first place that we >> Right. Well, the first place that we >> Right. Well, the first place that we learned that um learned that um learned that um you have to begin you have to begin you have to begin and that was [snorts] like when a man and that was [snorts] like when a man and that was [snorts] like when a man told us his testimony how told us his testimony how told us his testimony how he was at a crisis with his family and he was at a crisis with his family and he was at a crisis with his family and how he personally how he personally how he personally accepted Jesus accepted Jesus accepted Jesus was willing to transform his life.

was willing to transform his life. was willing to transform his life. He was willing to make whatever change He was willing to make whatever change He was willing to make whatever change was necessary. was necessary. was necessary. Friends Friends Friends uh conduct uh conduct uh conduct and to let Jesus become a and to let Jesus become a and to let Jesus become a truth that he applied in his life truth that he applied in his life truth that he applied in his life according to the scripture. according to the scripture. according to the scripture. Acknowledge Acknowledge Acknowledge I need you. I need you. I need you. Acknowledge where who I've been Acknowledge where who I've been Acknowledge where who I've been but I want to change and turn away from but I want to change and turn away from but I want to change and turn away from it 100%. it 100%. it 100%. But I need you to help me. But I need you to help me. But I need you to help me. And that that's the beginning point. And that that's the beginning point. And that that's the beginning point. And And And with that then if with that then if with that then if you have someone that has some you have someone that has some you have someone that has some experience experience experience it will it will it will increase the momentum increase the momentum increase the momentum of the experience but they can help you. of the experience but they can help you. of the experience but they can help you. The first thing that they did with us is The first thing that they did with us is The first thing that they did with us is show us a Bible. show us a Bible. show us a Bible. >> Right. Well, they have somebody with >> Right. Well, they have somebody with >> Right. Well, they have somebody with some experience so we're going to add some experience so we're going to add some experience so we're going to add some momentum. some momentum. some momentum. >> Okay. >> Okay. >> Okay. >> We've got about 5 minutes.

>> We've got about 5 minutes. >> We've got about 5 minutes. >> Oh, okay. >> Oh, okay. >> Oh, okay. >> That's what we're here for. >> That's what we're here for. >> That's what we're here for. >> Well, last time you made me do two more. >> Well, last time you made me do two more. >> Well, last time you made me do two more. >> Yes. [laughter] I'm going to reject you this time. You I'm going to reject you this time. You don't get to don't get to don't get to >> Okay. Good. >> Okay. Good. >> Okay. Good. >> No, but it does begin with an >> No, but it does begin with an >> No, but it does begin with an acknowledgement of Jesus and acknowledgement of Jesus and acknowledgement of Jesus and the specific words around that aren't as the specific words around that aren't as the specific words around that aren't as critical to me as the acknowledgement critical to me as the acknowledgement critical to me as the acknowledgement that you believe Jesus is God's son that you believe Jesus is God's son that you believe Jesus is God's son and you ask him to be Lord of your life. and you ask him to be Lord of your life. and you ask him to be Lord of your life. I mean, it gets down to being that I mean, it gets down to being that I mean, it gets down to being that simple. simple. simple. >> Right. >> Right. >> Right. >> I need a savior and I believe Jesus is >> I need a savior and I believe Jesus is >> I need a savior and I believe Jesus is your son and I want you to be Lord of my your son and I want you to be Lord of my your son and I want you to be Lord of my life. That's the first step for all of life. That's the first step for all of life. That's the first step for all of us. us. us. That's more important than being Baptist That's more important than being Baptist That's more important than being Baptist or Methodist or Lutheran or Pentecostal or Methodist or Lutheran or Pentecostal or Methodist or Lutheran or Pentecostal or or or >> at World Outreach. >> at World Outreach. >> at World Outreach. And that's a decision that you don't And that's a decision that you don't And that's a decision that you don't need a pastor or a priest or need a pastor or a priest or need a pastor or a priest or professional Christian for. professional Christian for. professional Christian for. You can make that decision in your car. You can make that decision in your car. You can make that decision in your car. You can make that decision in your home. You can make that decision in your home. You can make that decision in your home. You can make that decision where it's a You can make that decision where it's a You can make that decision where it's a personal choice between you and God. personal choice between you and God. personal choice between you and God. And I think it's more I think it's And I think it's more I think it's And I think it's more I think it's helpful to say it out loud. helpful to say it out loud. helpful to say it out loud. >> Yeah, you can do it for wherever you are >> Yeah, you can do it for wherever you are >> Yeah, you can do it for wherever you are that the person is willing to agree with that the person is willing to agree with that the person is willing to agree with the truth that you're giving them. I the truth that you're giving them. I the truth that you're giving them. I mean, I've prayed with people in noisy mean, I've prayed with people in noisy mean, I've prayed with people in noisy restaurants.

restaurants. restaurants. Uh Uh Uh I've prayed with them I've prayed with them I've prayed with them before you got up to preach and they before you got up to preach and they before you got up to preach and they hadn't started the worship yet. I mean, hadn't started the worship yet. I mean, hadn't started the worship yet. I mean, where you are, God's put you there, the where you are, God's put you there, the where you are, God's put you there, the timing's right. Do what you know to do. timing's right. Do what you know to do. timing's right. Do what you know to do. >> So, it's as simple as God, I need a >> So, it's as simple as God, I need a >> So, it's as simple as God, I need a savior and I believe Jesus is your son. savior and I believe Jesus is your son. savior and I believe Jesus is your son. Forgive me of my sins. I choose Jesus as Forgive me of my sins. I choose Jesus as Forgive me of my sins. I choose Jesus as Lord. Lord. Lord. >> Right. And I forgive those that have >> Right. And I forgive those that have >> Right. And I forgive those that have hurt me and wronged me and hurt me and wronged me and hurt me and wronged me and brought me to this place. I choose I brought me to this place. I choose I brought me to this place. I choose I don't understand it, but I choose to do don't understand it, but I choose to do don't understand it, but I choose to do it. it. it. >> And it it if they're listening to a >> And it it if they're listening to a >> And it it if they're listening to a podcast on Father's Day at the topic of podcast on Father's Day at the topic of podcast on Father's Day at the topic of which has been for a large part which has been for a large part which has been for a large part rejection. rejection. rejection. >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> And they're conscious that they have had >> And they're conscious that they have had >> And they're conscious that they have had to endure rejection. to endure rejection. to endure rejection. And if you've made that step to And if you've made that step to And if you've made that step to acknowledge Jesus as Lord of your life, acknowledge Jesus as Lord of your life, acknowledge Jesus as Lord of your life, then I I think if we were going to have then I I think if we were going to have then I I think if we were going to have if they were going to sit at the table if they were going to sit at the table if they were going to sit at the table with us, with us, with us, we would say to them we need to we would say to them we need to we would say to them we need to acknowledge we've been rejected. Whether we deserved it or didn't deserve Whether we deserved it or didn't deserve it, whether we contributed to it or we it, whether we contributed to it or we it, whether we contributed to it or we didn't. But sometimes if if they've been didn't. But sometimes if if they've been didn't. But sometimes if if they've been through a divorce, they may have through a divorce, they may have through a divorce, they may have contributed to it. Right.

contributed to it. Right. contributed to it. Right. Or there can be circumstances where Or there can be circumstances where Or there can be circumstances where there's enough scoundrel in some of us there's enough scoundrel in some of us there's enough scoundrel in some of us that we've been a part. that we've been a part. that we've been a part. Or it may be something where you're a Or it may be something where you're a Or it may be something where you're a complete victim, but you but I would complete victim, but you but I would complete victim, but you but I would just as we as we suggested that they say just as we as we suggested that they say just as we as we suggested that they say out loud, out loud, out loud, then I would say God, I I recognize I've then I would say God, I I recognize I've then I would say God, I I recognize I've been rejected. been rejected. been rejected. >> I feel hurt. >> I feel hurt. >> I feel hurt. >> And there's some symptoms that come with >> And there's some symptoms that come with >> And there's some symptoms that come with that. You feel like you're on the that. You feel like you're on the that. You feel like you're on the outside. outside. outside. >> Well, I gave the name to a >> Well, I gave the name to a >> Well, I gave the name to a teaching I did on why I feel this way teaching I did on why I feel this way teaching I did on why I feel this way because because because you don't realize and understand why at you don't realize and understand why at you don't realize and understand why at times you get times you get times you get gloomy, gloomy, gloomy, depressed, discouraged. depressed, discouraged. depressed, discouraged. It's the reaction to where you feel like It's the reaction to where you feel like It's the reaction to where you feel like a failure. a failure. a failure. And with those, what I've found through And with those, what I've found through And with those, what I've found through the years, the years, the years, they need to recognize it and when they they need to recognize it and when they they need to recognize it and when they recognize it, recognize it, recognize it, the feelings have opened the door for a the feelings have opened the door for a the feelings have opened the door for a spiritual aspect. spiritual aspect. spiritual aspect. And they need to say And they need to say And they need to say or you lead them and say, we let that or you lead them and say, we let that or you lead them and say, we let that spirit go that has caused you to feel spirit go that has caused you to feel spirit go that has caused you to feel this way that has affected your life.

this way that has affected your life. this way that has affected your life. Let it go in Jesus' name. Let it go in Jesus' name. Let it go in Jesus' name. >> I renounce the spirit of rejection? >> I renounce the spirit of rejection? >> I renounce the spirit of rejection? >> Right. >> Right. >> Right. And by the blood of Jesus I'm set free. And by the blood of Jesus I'm set free. And by the blood of Jesus I'm set free. >> It has no place in me and no power over >> It has no place in me and no power over >> It has no place in me and no power over me. me. me. >> That's right. >> That's right. >> That's right. >> Through the blood of Jesus. >> Through the blood of Jesus. >> Through the blood of Jesus. >> That's right. >> That's right. >> That's right. >> I am free of the spirit of rejection. >> I am free of the spirit of rejection. >> I am free of the spirit of rejection. >> Take a big breath and let that go like >> Take a big breath and let that go like >> Take a big breath and let that go like you're letting all of that hurt go at you're letting all of that hurt go at you're letting all of that hurt go at the same time. the same time. the same time. >> Jesus is my Lord. >> Jesus is my Lord. >> Jesus is my Lord. >> Amen. >> Amen. >> Amen. >> I'm a member of the family of God. >> I'm a member of the family of God. >> I'm a member of the family of God. I belong to the greatest family in the I belong to the greatest family in the I belong to the greatest family in the universe. universe. universe. God loves me. He has accepted me. God loves me. He has accepted me. God loves me. He has accepted me. I am not a failure. I am not a failure. I am not a failure. >> That's right. >> That's right. >> That's right. >> I have not been rejected. >> I have not been rejected. >> I have not been rejected. I'm accepted in the beloved if I can I'm accepted in the beloved if I can I'm accepted in the beloved if I can borrow a biblical phrase. borrow a biblical phrase. borrow a biblical phrase. >> Right. >> Right. >> Right. >> So and then then my my country self say >> So and then then my my country self say >> So and then then my my country self say then it really doesn't matter to me who then it really doesn't matter to me who then it really doesn't matter to me who didn't like me, God does. didn't like me, God does. didn't like me, God does. And and that starts to build something And and that starts to build something And and that starts to build something back into me that I need to know. back into me that I need to know. back into me that I need to know. I've got a little thing in my office I've got a little thing in my office I've got a little thing in my office that said Jesus loves everybody but I'm that said Jesus loves everybody but I'm that said Jesus loves everybody but I'm his favorite. his favorite. his favorite. >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> [snorts] [laughter] [laughter] [laughter] >> Deal with it.

Okay? So Okay? So but if if that's been a part of your but if if that's been a part of your but if if that's been a part of your life for a long time life for a long time life for a long time which in most of us our lives it has which in most of us our lives it has which in most of us our lives it has been before we get to the place where been before we get to the place where been before we get to the place where we're ready for some real freedom. we're ready for some real freedom. we're ready for some real freedom. You you say that prayer and I think You you say that prayer and I think You you say that prayer and I think you'll experience freedom. I think you'll experience freedom. I think you'll experience freedom. I think there'll be a change there'll be a change there'll be a change in in in how you feel. There'll be a there'll be how you feel. There'll be a there'll be how you feel. There'll be a there'll be a heaviness that lifts. a heaviness that lifts. a heaviness that lifts. >> Right. Definitely. >> Right. Definitely. >> Right. Definitely. >> but it's entirely possible that some of >> but it's entirely possible that some of >> but it's entirely possible that some of those emotions will revisit cuz our those emotions will revisit cuz our those emotions will revisit cuz our emotions are fickle. emotions are fickle. emotions are fickle. And when that feeling comes back And when that feeling comes back And when that feeling comes back that sense of being alone or that that that sense of being alone or that that that sense of being alone or that that sense of being on the outside or left sense of being on the outside or left sense of being on the outside or left out then I think you have to come back out then I think you have to come back out then I think you have to come back and say no. and say no. and say no. God has accepted me. God has accepted me. God has accepted me. I'm not rejected. I'm not rejected. I'm not rejected. Because to think that you're going to Because to think that you're going to Because to think that you're going to pray that prayer one time and your life pray that prayer one time and your life pray that prayer one time and your life is going to change and a light switch is going to change and a light switch is going to change and a light switch comes on and there's never going to be comes on and there's never going to be comes on and there's never going to be another shadow. another shadow. another shadow. >> The people around you >> The people around you >> The people around you are the ones that precipitated are the ones that precipitated are the ones that precipitated >> You have to be enough free in your >> You have to be enough free in your >> You have to be enough free in your spirit spirit spirit to know to stand against it by the blood to know to stand against it by the blood to know to stand against it by the blood of Jesus.

of Jesus. of Jesus. >> Well, then >> Well, then >> Well, then >> And it's a beginning. It's not an end >> And it's a beginning. It's not an end >> And it's a beginning. It's not an end point when we get here. point when we get here. point when we get here. >> But see, I I think of rejection >> But see, I I think of rejection >> But see, I I think of rejection in a very similar way that I think of in a very similar way that I think of in a very similar way that I think of forgiveness. forgiveness. forgiveness. >> Right. >> Right. >> Right. >> When I meet somebody that isn't a >> When I meet somebody that isn't a >> When I meet somebody that isn't a Christian or hasn't lived a Christian Christian or hasn't lived a Christian Christian or hasn't lived a Christian life, they may have been churched. life, they may have been churched. life, they may have been churched. One of the first One of the first One of the first skill sets they have to develop is skill sets they have to develop is skill sets they have to develop is forgiveness. You have to forgive other forgiveness. You have to forgive other forgiveness. You have to forgive other people people people so that you can be forgiven. so that you can be forgiven. so that you can be forgiven. But that's not a one-time event But that's not a one-time event But that's not a one-time event because as you continue to walk through because as you continue to walk through because as you continue to walk through the days of your life, you're going to the days of your life, you're going to the days of your life, you're going to need to forgive other people. need to forgive other people. need to forgive other people. And you're going to need to be forgiven And you're going to need to be forgiven And you're going to need to be forgiven by God. by God. by God. And I think the same is true with And I think the same is true with And I think the same is true with rejection. rejection. rejection. Rejection's not a one-time life Rejection's not a one-time life Rejection's not a one-time life experience. You weren't just rejected experience. You weren't just rejected experience. You weren't just rejected when your mother died and you were left when your mother died and you were left when your mother died and you were left >> [sighs] >> [sighs] >> [sighs] >> in that place. You've had to face >> in that place. You've had to face >> in that place. You've had to face rejection rejection rejection >> all the rest of your life. >> all the rest of your life. >> all the rest of your life. >> the journey. >> the journey. >> the journey. And so what I what I'm what we're trying And so what I what I'm what we're trying And so what I what I'm what we're trying to introduce to the people is a tool. to introduce to the people is a tool. to introduce to the people is a tool. >> Right. >> Right. >> Right. >> So that you're not going to lead a life >> So that you're not going to lead a life >> So that you're not going to lead a life free of rejection. We're not offering free of rejection. We're not offering free of rejection. We're not offering them some mystical prayer that if you if them some mystical prayer that if you if them some mystical prayer that if you if you repeat this after me, if you back up you repeat this after me, if you back up you repeat this after me, if you back up this this this podcast and you listen to that prayer podcast and you listen to that prayer podcast and you listen to that prayer again, again, again, it's not going to vaporize rejection it's not going to vaporize rejection it's not going to vaporize rejection forever in your life, but now you've got forever in your life, but now you've got forever in your life, but now you've got a tool so that rejection doesn't shape a tool so that rejection doesn't shape a tool so that rejection doesn't shape your response to the world. You can lead your response to the world. You can lead your response to the world. You can lead it a the life of an overcomer, a it a the life of an overcomer, a it a the life of an overcomer, a triumphant life in Christ Jesus.

triumphant life in Christ Jesus. triumphant life in Christ Jesus. >> You have the >> You have the >> You have the the power available to you to deal with the power available to you to deal with the power available to you to deal with it and it will no longer control you it and it will no longer control you it and it will no longer control you like it once did because the what Jesus like it once did because the what Jesus like it once did because the what Jesus did, you have that confession, the blood did, you have that confession, the blood did, you have that confession, the blood of Jesus. of Jesus. of Jesus. And you can And you can And you can come against it. come against it. come against it. >> Which to me is the amazing part of the >> Which to me is the amazing part of the >> Which to me is the amazing part of the gospel. The good news of Jesus is even gospel. The good news of Jesus is even gospel. The good news of Jesus is even though we live in this fallen broken though we live in this fallen broken though we live in this fallen broken world world world and we're going to continue to see and we're going to continue to see and we're going to continue to see expressions of ungodliness and sin and expressions of ungodliness and sin and expressions of ungodliness and sin and some of them will encroach on our own some of them will encroach on our own some of them will encroach on our own life and our own experience. life and our own experience. life and our own experience. Now we have a set of tools Now we have a set of tools Now we have a set of tools that aren't fueled by our intellect or that aren't fueled by our intellect or that aren't fueled by our intellect or by our affiliation with the right by our affiliation with the right by our affiliation with the right denomination or affiliation with the denomination or affiliation with the denomination or affiliation with the right ministry. right ministry. right ministry. They're fueled by the grace of God They're fueled by the grace of God They're fueled by the grace of God through the revelation of Jesus that through the revelation of Jesus that through the revelation of Jesus that we've had we've had we've had and we can overcome every one of those and we can overcome every one of those and we can overcome every one of those expressions of evil. expressions of evil. expressions of evil. So that forgiveness and understanding So that forgiveness and understanding So that forgiveness and understanding you're accepted by God and that you're accepted by God and that you're accepted by God and that rejection doesn't define your future. rejection doesn't define your future. rejection doesn't define your future. So you didn't get accepted to the school So you didn't get accepted to the school So you didn't get accepted to the school you wanted or you didn't get the job you wanted or you didn't get the job you wanted or you didn't get the job that you wanted or you whatever.

that you wanted or you whatever. that you wanted or you whatever. That God will write a story for you. That God will write a story for you. That God will write a story for you. He's the author and the completer of our He's the author and the completer of our He's the author and the completer of our story. story. story. And he'll keep writing the end of that And he'll keep writing the end of that And he'll keep writing the end of that story until he gets to the one that he story until he gets to the one that he story until he gets to the one that he wants us to have. But it all begins with wants us to have. But it all begins with wants us to have. But it all begins with we have to be con- we have to be con- we have to be con- convinced that we can make choices convinced that we can make choices convinced that we can make choices and we can make right choices or wrong and we can make right choices or wrong and we can make right choices or wrong choices. choices. choices. What got us in the ditch in the first What got us in the ditch in the first What got us in the ditch in the first place, but we can see there is a place place, but we can see there is a place place, but we can see there is a place to make right choices. to make right choices. to make right choices. Accepting Jesus. Accepting Jesus. Accepting Jesus. Being free of the things that hold us Being free of the things that hold us Being free of the things that hold us bound. bound. bound. Um Um Um there is a spiritual world there is a spiritual world there is a spiritual world and Jesus has brought victory for us. We and Jesus has brought victory for us. We and Jesus has brought victory for us. We can We can have victory, but we must can We can have victory, but we must can We can have victory, but we must make right choices. make right choices. make right choices. >> you you can't choose to stay a victim. >> you you can't choose to stay a victim. >> you you can't choose to stay a victim. >> No. >> No. >> No. >> You may have been victimized. >> You may have been victimized. >> You may have been victimized. >> True. >> True. >> True. >> Not denying that. >> Not denying that. >> Not denying that. >> Not even your fault. You're just >> Not even your fault. You're just >> Not even your fault. You're just it's the way life fell out for you. it's the way life fell out for you. it's the way life fell out for you. >> But you can't choose to >> But you can't choose to >> But you can't choose to you can't accept that and allow that to you can't accept that and allow that to you can't accept that and allow that to shape you. You have to choose the Lord shape you. You have to choose the Lord shape you. You have to choose the Lord and the power of God to write you a new and the power of God to write you a new and the power of God to write you a new future.

future. future. >> Right. >> Right. >> Right. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> It's important we can't sit with them >> It's important we can't sit with them >> It's important we can't sit with them all. So we're we're working on a little all. So we're we're working on a little all. So we're we're working on a little We've got a little freedom session going We've got a little freedom session going We've got a little freedom session going here. here. here. >> Uh-huh. >> Uh-huh. >> Uh-huh. >> So no matter what your circumstance is, >> So no matter what your circumstance is, >> So no matter what your circumstance is, no matter how unfair, no matter how unfair, no matter how unfair, in Jesus, you can be free. in Jesus, you can be free. in Jesus, you can be free. >> Exactly. It's a It's a whole new path >> Exactly. It's a It's a whole new path >> Exactly. It's a It's a whole new path you've got to choose. I mean, if you you've got to choose. I mean, if you you've got to choose. I mean, if you look and see where you've been coming look and see where you've been coming look and see where you've been coming from, from, from, and it hasn't been working, and it hasn't been working, and it hasn't been working, seek the Lord. You will see a new path.