Everyday Courage | Part 2 | Andy Stanley

Well, welcome to North Point. So glad Well, welcome to North Point. So glad you guys joined us. Happy back to school you guys joined us. Happy back to school you guys joined us. Happy back to school bash. I know the kids are all in school. bash. I know the kids are all in school. bash. I know the kids are all in school. It's amazing. Uh my name is Holly. I'm It's amazing. Uh my name is Holly. I'm It's amazing. Uh my name is Holly. I'm coming to you from the West auditorium coming to you from the West auditorium coming to you from the West auditorium this morning. And if it's your first this morning. And if it's your first this morning. And if it's your first time with us, we are so glad that you time with us, we are so glad that you time with us, we are so glad that you joined us. And I want to introduce you joined us. And I want to introduce you joined us. And I want to introduce you to somebody in the East Auditorium. He's to somebody in the East Auditorium. He's to somebody in the East Auditorium. He's no stranger around here, but he is our no stranger around here, but he is our no stranger around here, but he is our brand new Inside Out director, which brand new Inside Out director, which brand new Inside Out director, which means he leads our high school ministry. means he leads our high school ministry. means he leads our high school ministry. And we threw him into the deep end. We And we threw him into the deep end. We And we threw him into the deep end. We sent him straight to Daytona with 700 sent him straight to Daytona with 700 sent him straight to Daytona with 700 students and he survived. Not only that, students and he survived. Not only that, students and he survived. Not only that, he thrived. Everybody give a warm he thrived. Everybody give a warm he thrived. Everybody give a warm welcome to Clay Cooney. welcome to Clay Cooney. welcome to Clay Cooney. >> That's right. Thank you. Thank you. We >> That's right. Thank you. Thank you. We >> That's right. Thank you. Thank you. We got a slight applause over here when you got a slight applause over here when you got a slight applause over here when you said that. It was awesome. Uh, but today said that. It was awesome. Uh, but today said that. It was awesome. Uh, but today is an amazing day. It is back to school is an amazing day. It is back to school is an amazing day. It is back to school bash, which is so exciting for our bash, which is so exciting for our bash, which is so exciting for our church. There are so many different church. There are so many different church. There are so many different events happening around here in every events happening around here in every events happening around here in every different ministry area, but I wanted to different ministry area, but I wanted to different ministry area, but I wanted to let you all know about one that I am let you all know about one that I am let you all know about one that I am particularly excited about and that is particularly excited about and that is particularly excited about and that is happening tonight. It is called Lyft happening tonight. It is called Lyft happening tonight. It is called Lyft Night OA for your high school students.

Night OA for your high school students. Night OA for your high school students. It is going to be an incredible event. It is going to be an incredible event. It is going to be an incredible event. This is an event that we tell all of our This is an event that we tell all of our This is an event that we tell all of our students to invite their friends to who students to invite their friends to who students to invite their friends to who have maybe never come here for the first have maybe never come here for the first have maybe never come here for the first time. And if your student does this, time. And if your student does this, time. And if your student does this, we're going to give them a uh them and we're going to give them a uh them and we're going to give them a uh them and their friend a free hat. So, this is uh their friend a free hat. So, this is uh their friend a free hat. So, this is uh one of those invest and invite events one of those invest and invite events one of those invest and invite events that we're super excited about. And this that we're super excited about. And this that we're super excited about. And this event is going to be happening over in event is going to be happening over in event is going to be happening over in the West Auditorium where Holly is the West Auditorium where Holly is the West Auditorium where Holly is standing right now. And the fun thing standing right now. And the fun thing standing right now. And the fun thing about that is we're also doing a West about that is we're also doing a West about that is we're also doing a West Coast theme. So, think all things Coast theme. So, think all things Coast theme. So, think all things California, Hollywood, Los Angeles, California, Hollywood, Los Angeles, California, Hollywood, Los Angeles, maybe minus the Dodgers because I really maybe minus the Dodgers because I really maybe minus the Dodgers because I really don't like the Dodgers at all. Uh they don't like the Dodgers at all. Uh they don't like the Dodgers at all. Uh they can wear a Braves jersey. It's okay. Um can wear a Braves jersey. It's okay. Um can wear a Braves jersey. It's okay. Um and then we're going to move out to the and then we're going to move out to the and then we're going to move out to the lawn. It's going to be really fun. We've lawn. It's going to be really fun. We've lawn. It's going to be really fun. We've got water slides because it's way too got water slides because it's way too got water slides because it's way too hot outside. A dunk tank. We're gonna hot outside. A dunk tank. We're gonna hot outside. A dunk tank. We're gonna have waffles, snow cones, screen have waffles, snow cones, screen have waffles, snow cones, screen printing, all of the things. So, you're printing, all of the things. So, you're printing, all of the things. So, you're going to want to be there if you have a going to want to be there if you have a going to want to be there if you have a high school student, make sure that they high school student, make sure that they high school student, make sure that they know about this and tell them to invite know about this and tell them to invite know about this and tell them to invite a friend. It's going to be awesome. But a friend. It's going to be awesome. But a friend. It's going to be awesome. But if you don't have a student and maybe if you don't have a student and maybe if you don't have a student and maybe you're just a family with an elementary you're just a family with an elementary you're just a family with an elementary age kid uh in our church as well, then age kid uh in our church as well, then age kid uh in our church as well, then we have something special for you, too. we have something special for you, too. we have something special for you, too. This is happening after the 9:00 service This is happening after the 9:00 service This is happening after the 9:00 service and the 11:00 service. It's called Kids and the 11:00 service. It's called Kids and the 11:00 service. It's called Kids Stuff, but instead of me being the one Stuff, but instead of me being the one Stuff, but instead of me being the one to tell you about it, my friend John is to tell you about it, my friend John is to tell you about it, my friend John is live in the theater, and he's going to live in the theater, and he's going to live in the theater, and he's going to tell you about it right here.

tell you about it right here. tell you about it right here. >> Hey, Holly, Clay, and everyone in the >> Hey, Holly, Clay, and everyone in the >> Hey, Holly, Clay, and everyone in the East and the West auditoriums. I'm John, East and the West auditoriums. I'm John, East and the West auditoriums. I'm John, one of the hosts of Kids Stuff. And if one of the hosts of Kids Stuff. And if one of the hosts of Kids Stuff. And if you've got kids in K through fifth you've got kids in K through fifth you've got kids in K through fifth grade, you have got to join us today grade, you have got to join us today grade, you have got to join us today after the service. Now, when you walk after the service. Now, when you walk after the service. Now, when you walk into the theater today, you're getting into the theater today, you're getting into the theater today, you're getting one of these. Yes, a Thunder Stick. And one of these. Yes, a Thunder Stick. And one of these. Yes, a Thunder Stick. And we definitely have a giant surprise for we definitely have a giant surprise for we definitely have a giant surprise for you. Now, of course, your kids, they're you. Now, of course, your kids, they're you. Now, of course, your kids, they're going to love it. But the purpose of going to love it. But the purpose of going to love it. But the purpose of Kids Stuff is to partner with you as Kids Stuff is to partner with you as Kids Stuff is to partner with you as parents. The theme today is start parents. The theme today is start parents. The theme today is start strong, stay strong. Cuz as our kids are strong, stay strong. Cuz as our kids are strong, stay strong. Cuz as our kids are back in school, we know they're going to back in school, we know they're going to back in school, we know they're going to face challenges like a tough subject or face challenges like a tough subject or face challenges like a tough subject or a mean kid, some fears that pop up, and a mean kid, some fears that pop up, and a mean kid, some fears that pop up, and we want them to know that no matter what we want them to know that no matter what we want them to know that no matter what they face this year, they can rely on they face this year, they can rely on they face this year, they can rely on God and also that they can talk to you God and also that they can talk to you God and also that they can talk to you about it. To help, every family at about it. To help, every family at about it. To help, every family at KidStuff is going to leave with this. KidStuff is going to leave with this. KidStuff is going to leave with this. We call it in the night, right? Now, We call it in the night, right? Now, We call it in the night, right? Now, it's a nightly check-in for your kids so it's a nightly check-in for your kids so it's a nightly check-in for your kids so you can help them navigate all the hard you can help them navigate all the hard you can help them navigate all the hard things. We say kids stuff is a show you things. We say kids stuff is a show you things. We say kids stuff is a show you experience together that makes your experience together that makes your experience together that makes your family better. So, please grab your family better. So, please grab your family better. So, please grab your family after the service and head on in family after the service and head on in family after the service and head on in here to the theater. Please come.

here to the theater. Please come. here to the theater. Please come. Please, cuz we'll have way too many Please, cuz we'll have way too many Please, cuz we'll have way too many thunder sticks if you don't. Okay, back thunder sticks if you don't. Okay, back thunder sticks if you don't. Okay, back to you, Holly. to you, Holly. to you, Holly. Oh, that's awesome. Hey, I'm going to Oh, that's awesome. Hey, I'm going to Oh, that's awesome. Hey, I'm going to get one of those thunder sticks cuz get one of those thunder sticks cuz get one of those thunder sticks cuz those can double as like breaking up those can double as like breaking up those can double as like breaking up fights in the backseat of the car. So, fights in the backseat of the car. So, fights in the backseat of the car. So, there you go. We're here to help. No, there you go. We're here to help. No, there you go. We're here to help. No, we're going to actually be me and my son we're going to actually be me and my son we're going to actually be me and my son and my husband. We're going to be a kid and my husband. We're going to be a kid and my husband. We're going to be a kid stuff right after the service today. And stuff right after the service today. And stuff right after the service today. And so I hope you guys will join us there. so I hope you guys will join us there. so I hope you guys will join us there. And then for all the gentlemen in the And then for all the gentlemen in the And then for all the gentlemen in the room, we've got something coming your room, we've got something coming your room, we've got something coming your way this week. It's our men's breakfast. way this week. It's our men's breakfast. way this week. It's our men's breakfast. It's this Thursday morning, 7:30 a.m. It's this Thursday morning, 7:30 a.m. It's this Thursday morning, 7:30 a.m. And Andy is going to be our guest And Andy is going to be our guest And Andy is going to be our guest speaker. And so, uh, you're going to get speaker. And so, uh, you're going to get speaker. And so, uh, you're going to get a speaker, some breakfast, you'll be out a speaker, some breakfast, you'll be out a speaker, some breakfast, you'll be out the door on the way to work. And we the door on the way to work. And we the door on the way to work. And we would love for you to join us. So visit would love for you to join us. So visit would love for you to join us. So visit the top three if you would like to be the top three if you would like to be the top three if you would like to be there this Thursday. Well, that's there this Thursday. Well, that's there this Thursday. Well, that's everything that's coming up today. Hey, everything that's coming up today. Hey, everything that's coming up today. Hey, we got a great service for you and we're we got a great service for you and we're we got a great service for you and we're about to get started by singing about to get started by singing about to get started by singing together. Mark over in the east is going together. Mark over in the east is going together. Mark over in the east is going to lead this first song. And in this to lead this first song. And in this to lead this first song. And in this first song, there's a lyric that says, first song, there's a lyric that says, first song, there's a lyric that says, "Why would I make my bed in my shame "Why would I make my bed in my shame "Why would I make my bed in my shame when [music] a fountain of grace is when [music] a fountain of grace is when [music] a fountain of grace is coming my way?" That's what we're coming my way?" That's what we're coming my way?" That's what we're celebrating this morning. The grace of celebrating this morning. The grace of celebrating this morning. The grace of God. It is more and bigger than we could God. It is more and bigger than we could God. It is more and bigger than we could even imagine. and [music] every single even imagine. and [music] every single even imagine. and [music] every single one of us is invited into it. If you one of us is invited into it. If you one of us is invited into it. If you will stand, say hi to somebody, and will stand, say hi to somebody, and will stand, say hi to somebody, and let's get started.

Yeah. And I hope that you brought your Yeah. And I hope that you brought your voices this morning. Did you bring your voices this morning. Did you bring your voices this morning. Did you bring your voices this morning? voices this morning? voices this morning? [music] [music] [music] >> All right. Well, here we go. >> All right. Well, here we go. >> All right. Well, here we go. I wasn't made [music and singing] to be I wasn't made [music and singing] to be I wasn't made [music and singing] to be tending a grave. I was called by name. tending a grave. I was called by name. tending a grave. I was called by name. Born [singing] and raised [music] back Born [singing] and raised [music] back Born [singing] and raised [music] back to life again. to life again. to life again. I [singing] was made for. So [music] why would I be So [music] why would I be in my shame when a fountain of grace is in my shame when a fountain of grace is in my shame when a fountain of grace is running my [singing and music] way? I running my [singing and music] way? I running my [singing and music] way? I know I am yours. know I am yours. know I am yours. >> [singing] >> [singing] >> [singing] >> I was made for. [music] cuz I know who you are. cuz I know who you are. Because of salvation [music and singing] was only [music] was only [music] the start [singing] and now I am chosen.

and now I am chosen. [music] [music] [music] I'm free and forgive [singing] I'm free and forgive [singing] I'm free and forgive [singing] me. me. me. I have [music] a future I have [music] a future I have [music] a future [singing] [singing] [singing] and it's worth [music] living. I was made to be pretending I was made to be pretending [music] to to [music] be in [singing] my be in [singing] my [music] [music] [music] running my way. I know. [music] name tended [singing] a grave. I [music] name tended [singing] a grave. I was called by name. Born and [music] was called by name. Born and [music] was called by name. Born and [music] raised back to life. [singing] I was made for more [singing]

I was made for more [singing] for more for more for more [music] [music] [music] bra. >> I sing of >> I sing of all [music] your time [singing] all [music] your time [singing] all [music] your time [singing] and I remember [music] and I remember [music] and I remember [music] how far you carried me from the how far you carried me from the how far you carried me from the beginning [music and singing] beginning [music and singing] beginning [music and singing] until the end. You are faithful, [music and singing] You are faithful, [music and singing] faithful faithful faithful to the end.

[music] The father's heart that's for [music] The father's heart that's for [singing] me. Neverending [music] [singing] me. Neverending [music] [singing] me. Neverending [music] story. story. story. Love that's [singing] always chasing me. Love that's [singing] always chasing me. Love that's [singing] always chasing me. [music] [music] [music] Kindness [singing] overwhelm me. [music] Kindness [singing] overwhelm me. [music] Kindness [singing] overwhelm me. [music] Hope for me and Hope for me and Hope for me and never [singing] giving up on me. never [singing] giving up on me. never [singing] giving up on me. [music] [music] [music] Yeah. [singing] [singing] [singing] How about you? How about you? How about you? [music] [music] [music] Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat.

Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] Heat. [music] Heat. [music] [singing] [music] [music] Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] [music] [music] [singing] All [music] of my life All [music] of my life has been true.

has been true. has been true. So part of my life [music] see see [music] [music] [music] [singing] [music] [music] of my life. [singing] [music] [music] life. life. life. I will worship I will worship I will worship you. [music] Oh, I will worship you. [music] Oh, I will worship you. [music] You're so faithful God. You're so faithful God. You're so faithful God. Oh, I will [music and singing] worship Oh, I will [music and singing] worship Oh, I will [music and singing] worship you.

>> There's a grace when the heart is on >> There's a grace when the heart is on fire. [music] [music] another [singing] way when the walls are another [singing] way when the walls are another [singing] way when the walls are closing in. [music] [music] And when I look at the space between And when I look at the space between And when I look at the space between where [singing] I used to be and this where [singing] I used to be and this where [singing] I used to be and this [music] reckoning, [music] reckoning, [music] reckoning, I know [singing] I will never be alone. I know [singing] I will never be alone. I know [singing] I will never be alone. [music] There was another in the [music] There was another in the [music] There was another in the standing next [singing] to me. There was standing next [singing] to me. There was standing next [singing] to me. There was another in the wall. another in the wall. another in the wall. holding [music] back the seas. holding [music] back the seas. holding [music] back the seas. Should I ever need reminded Should I ever need reminded Should I ever need reminded of how I've been set free, there is a of how I've been set free, there is a of how I've been set free, there is a cross [music] that [singing] they could cross [music] that [singing] they could cross [music] that [singing] they could die for me. [music] There is another. There is [singing and music] another There is [singing and music] another far.

All my dead forget All my dead forget the water [singing] cuz I'm no longer a slave [music] to my cuz I'm no longer a slave [music] to my sin [singing] anymore. >> [music] >> [music] >> You should fall in the space between >> You should fall in the space between >> You should fall in the space between what remains of me and the record. what remains of me and the record. what remains of me and the record. Either way, [singing] I will bow to the Either way, [singing] I will bow to the Either way, [singing] I will bow to the things of this world. Cuz I know I know. things of this world. Cuz I know I know. things of this world. Cuz I know I know. [music] [music] [music] I know [singing] I will never be alone. I know [singing] I will never be alone. I know [singing] I will never be alone. [music] There is another [singing] in [music] There is another [singing] in [music] There is another [singing] in the fire the fire the fire standing [music] next to me. There is standing [music] next to me. There is standing [music] next to me. There is [singing] another in the world. [singing] another in the world. [singing] another in the world. Holding back [music] the seas. Holding back [music] the seas. Holding back [music] the seas. Should I ever need Should I ever need Should I ever need [music] the power sets [singing] me [music] the power sets [singing] me [music] the power sets [singing] me free. There is a grave that holds free. There is a grave that holds free. There is a grave that holds nobody. [music] nobody. [music] nobody. [music] Now the power lives in me. Now the power lives in me. Now the power lives in me. There is an end in the fire. [music] There is an end in the fire. [music] There is an end in the fire. [music] Oh, Oh, Oh, there is another [music] in the fire.

there is another [music] in the fire. there is another [music] in the fire. Oh, Oh, Oh, there is nothing. [music] There is [music] another in the fire. There is [music] another in the fire. Oh, and I can see the [music and singing] and I can see the [music and singing] light in the darkness where the darkness light in the darkness where the darkness light in the darkness where the darkness [music] through him. I can feel the ro [music] through him. I can feel the ro [music] through him. I can feel the ro of the heaven and the [music] space of the heaven and the [music] space of the heaven and the [music] space between. between. between. I can feel the road [music] taking me as I can feel the road [music] taking me as I can feel the road [music] taking me as a prison wall. He's [music] standing at your He's [music] standing at your real should I ever leave.

should I ever leave. [music] [music] [music] Will you bless your name? I'll count Will you bless your name? I'll count Will you bless your name? I'll count [music] the joy from everybody. [music] the joy from everybody. [music] the joy from everybody. [singing] Cuz I know that's where you'll be. I'll Cuz I know that's where you'll be. I'll come [music] to show you every battle come [music] to show you every battle come [music] to show you every battle cuz I know where you'll be. I'll count cuz I know where you'll be. I'll count cuz I know where you'll be. I'll count the joy. Oh God, we thank you for your grace. Oh God, we thank you for your grace. We thank you [music] that the veil is We thank you [music] that the veil is We thank you [music] that the veil is torn, Lord. That we have been reconciled torn, Lord. That we have been reconciled torn, Lord. That we have been reconciled to you. Lord, you made a way. to you. Lord, you made a way. to you. Lord, you made a way. We [music] are so thankful and honored We [music] are so thankful and honored We [music] are so thankful and honored to be in your presence, Lord. to be in your presence, Lord. to be in your presence, Lord. Be with us today, Lord. Draw us ever Be with us today, Lord. Draw us ever Be with us today, Lord. Draw us ever near to you. [music] near to you. [music] near to you. [music] We praise you. We magnify you in this We praise you. We magnify you in this We praise you. We magnify you in this place place place in the name of Jesus. Amen. Thank you so in the name of Jesus. Amen. Thank you so in the name of Jesus. Amen. Thank you so much for worshiping with us. So you can much for worshiping with us. So you can much for worshiping with us. So you can take a seat. [music] something that we um I think probably

something that we um I think probably most of us maybe all of us have in most of us maybe all of us have in most of us maybe all of us have in common. And if um you're from a common. And if um you're from a common. And if um you're from a different faith tradition or you're not different faith tradition or you're not different faith tradition or you're not really a Christian or somebody made you really a Christian or somebody made you really a Christian or somebody made you come to church with them or they invited come to church with them or they invited come to church with them or they invited you to watch today, this is this is kind you to watch today, this is this is kind you to watch today, this is this is kind of an everybody thing. It's not like a of an everybody thing. It's not like a of an everybody thing. It's not like a religious thing. But most most of I religious thing. But most most of I religious thing. But most most of I should put it this way, I think I think should put it this way, I think I think should put it this way, I think I think that the most difficult person for us to that the most difficult person for us to that the most difficult person for us to be um honest with sometimes is the be um honest with sometimes is the be um honest with sometimes is the person in the mirror or or to put it person in the mirror or or to put it person in the mirror or or to put it this way that the things and and I'm this way that the things and and I'm this way that the things and and I'm including myself. In fact, I'm going to including myself. In fact, I'm going to including myself. In fact, I'm going to give you an illustration in a minute. Um give you an illustration in a minute. Um give you an illustration in a minute. Um things we need to admit to ourselves things we need to admit to ourselves things we need to admit to ourselves about ourselves are often difficult to about ourselves are often difficult to about ourselves are often difficult to admit. Now, things that we ought to admit. Now, things that we ought to admit. Now, things that we ought to admit to ourselves aren't difficult for admit to ourselves aren't difficult for admit to ourselves aren't difficult for other people to admit to ourselves about other people to admit to ourselves about other people to admit to ourselves about ourselves, right? But we push back ourselves, right? But we push back ourselves, right? But we push back because we look in the mirror and you're because we look in the mirror and you're because we look in the mirror and you're like, I just don't see that. I mean, I I like, I just don't see that. I mean, I I like, I just don't see that. I mean, I I hear what you're saying, but I just hear what you're saying, but I just hear what you're saying, but I just don't see it. So, it's what I'm talking don't see it. So, it's what I'm talking don't see it. So, it's what I'm talking about are things like I'll give you the about are things like I'll give you the about are things like I'll give you the extreme ones. Things like jealousy. You extreme ones. Things like jealousy. You extreme ones. Things like jealousy. You see, you know, some jealous you've met see, you know, some jealous you've met see, you know, some jealous you've met people who you're like, they're just people who you're like, they're just people who you're like, they're just jealous. But you probably have never jealous. But you probably have never jealous. But you probably have never heard anybody say, "I got to tell you, I heard anybody say, "I got to tell you, I heard anybody say, "I got to tell you, I think I'm jealous." I mean, it is think I'm jealous." I mean, it is think I'm jealous." I mean, it is difficult to admit jealousy, but it difficult to admit jealousy, but it difficult to admit jealousy, but it exists. But it is it's one of those exists. But it is it's one of those exists. But it is it's one of those things that we just don't see. Or greed.

things that we just don't see. Or greed. things that we just don't see. Or greed. You've met some people you're like, You've met some people you're like, You've met some people you're like, they're just greedy. But you probably they're just greedy. But you probably they're just greedy. But you probably never met anybody that says, you know, never met anybody that says, you know, never met anybody that says, you know, my issue is I think I'm greedy. I mean, my issue is I think I'm greedy. I mean, my issue is I think I'm greedy. I mean, you it's hard to see jealousy or greed you it's hard to see jealousy or greed you it's hard to see jealousy or greed in the mirror. The other one that's hard in the mirror. The other one that's hard in the mirror. The other one that's hard to see in the mirror, um, which to see in the mirror, um, which to see in the mirror, um, which shouldn't be is is anger. And and so shouldn't be is is anger. And and so shouldn't be is is anger. And and so here's what happens. And we all do this here's what happens. And we all do this here's what happens. And we all do this before the embarrassing truth about before the embarrassing truth about before the embarrassing truth about ourselves can ding our conscience. We ourselves can ding our conscience. We ourselves can ding our conscience. We all do this. We quickly substitute other all do this. We quickly substitute other all do this. We quickly substitute other words. So we divert. So it's like words. So we divert. So it's like words. So we divert. So it's like jealous. No, no, no. I'm not jealous. jealous. No, no, no. I'm not jealous. jealous. No, no, no. I'm not jealous. I'm just concerned that all that success I'm just concerned that all that success I'm just concerned that all that success he's having is going to go to his head he's having is going to go to his head he's having is going to go to his head and it's going to distract him from and it's going to distract him from and it's going to distract him from being a good parent and a good husband. being a good parent and a good husband. being a good parent and a good husband. And everybody else is like, "No, we And everybody else is like, "No, we And everybody else is like, "No, we heard what you said. You're jealous. No, heard what you said. You're jealous. No, heard what you said. You're jealous. No, I'm not. I'm just concerned, you know, I'm not. I'm just concerned, you know, I'm not. I'm just concerned, you know, greedy. I'm not greedy. I'm careful. I'm greedy. I'm not greedy. I'm careful. I'm greedy. I'm not greedy. I'm careful. I'm frugal. I'm a planner. I'm just I'm just frugal. I'm a planner. I'm just I'm just frugal. I'm a planner. I'm just I'm just looking out for for our family. And looking out for for our family. And looking out for for our family. And you're you're thinking, "Yeah, but I you're you're thinking, "Yeah, but I you're you're thinking, "Yeah, but I mean, you would look, you know, you gave mean, you would look, you know, you gave mean, you would look, you know, you gave them $100, you could have given them them $100, you could have given them them $100, you could have given them $10,000 and never, you know, you're just $10,000 and never, you know, you're just $10,000 and never, you know, you're just it's like it's hard to see greed in the it's like it's hard to see greed in the it's like it's hard to see greed in the mirror." And then anger, you know, I'm mirror." And then anger, you know, I'm mirror." And then anger, you know, I'm not angry. Real real quick story. This not angry. Real real quick story. This not angry. Real real quick story. This is this was mine years ago. I met with a is this was mine years ago. I met with a is this was mine years ago. I met with a counselor named Steve and he kept counselor named Steve and he kept counselor named Steve and he kept explain telling me about my anger and explain telling me about my anger and explain telling me about my anger and dealing with my anger towards a specific dealing with my anger towards a specific dealing with my anger towards a specific group of people and I'm like Steve I'm group of people and I'm like Steve I'm group of people and I'm like Steve I'm not angry I but it sounded more like not angry I but it sounded more like not angry I but it sounded more like this I'm not angry you know it's like this I'm not angry you know it's like this I'm not angry you know it's like I'm not angry right and I would say over I'm not angry right and I would say over I'm not angry right and I would say over and over say Steve I'm not angry I'm and over say Steve I'm not angry I'm and over say Steve I'm not angry I'm just frustrated I'm just frustrated so just frustrated I'm just frustrated so just frustrated I'm just frustrated so we give a different word so my father

we give a different word so my father we give a different word so my father one day he called me out he was amazing one day he called me out he was amazing one day he called me out he was amazing I've quoted him so many times he said I've quoted him so many times he said I've quoted him so many times he said what is the difference between being what is the difference between being what is the difference between being angry and being frustrated and I thought angry and being frustrated and I thought angry and being frustrated and I thought for a minute and I said, "Um, well, it for a minute and I said, "Um, well, it for a minute and I said, "Um, well, it sounds better. sounds better. sounds better. It sounds better to just say, I'm It sounds better to just say, I'm It sounds better to just say, I'm frustrated." He's like, "Yeah, but frustrated." He's like, "Yeah, but frustrated." He's like, "Yeah, but there's no difference. It It's the same there's no difference. It It's the same there's no difference. It It's the same thing." So, we're all really good at thing." So, we're all really good at thing." So, we're all really good at this. Now, the point of all that is that this. Now, the point of all that is that this. Now, the point of all that is that another thing we have a very difficult another thing we have a very difficult another thing we have a very difficult time seeing in the mirror and that we time seeing in the mirror and that we time seeing in the mirror and that we tend to re to relabel because it's hard tend to re to relabel because it's hard tend to re to relabel because it's hard to admit this to ourselves about to admit this to ourselves about to admit this to ourselves about ourselves is this fear. Because like ourselves is this fear. Because like ourselves is this fear. Because like jealousy and greed, we camouflage it jealousy and greed, we camouflage it jealousy and greed, we camouflage it with other terms. We even camouflage it with other terms. We even camouflage it with other terms. We even camouflage it with other emotions because it's hard to with other emotions because it's hard to with other emotions because it's hard to admit when we're afraid. But here's the admit when we're afraid. But here's the admit when we're afraid. But here's the thing, and here's what we're going to thing, and here's what we're going to thing, and here's what we're going to talk about. Until we admit it, until we talk about. Until we admit it, until we talk about. Until we admit it, until we correctly diagnose it, we can't move correctly diagnose it, we can't move correctly diagnose it, we can't move past it. And I want you I want us past it. And I want you I want us past it. And I want you I want us regardless of your religious persuasion regardless of your religious persuasion regardless of your religious persuasion to move past your fear. So today is part to move past your fear. So today is part to move past your fear. So today is part two of our series every day courage. Um two of our series every day courage. Um two of our series every day courage. Um [clears throat] [clears throat] [clears throat] and to kind of go back and recap really and to kind of go back and recap really and to kind of go back and recap really what a little bit of what we said last what a little bit of what we said last what a little bit of what we said last time. Um, something we've are all aware time. Um, something we've are all aware time. Um, something we've are all aware of, something we've seen, something we of, something we've seen, something we of, something we've seen, something we celebrate in movies and novels and books celebrate in movies and novels and books celebrate in movies and novels and books and maybe something you've experienced and maybe something you've experienced and maybe something you've experienced is is this that oftentimes a single act is is this that oftentimes a single act is is this that oftentimes a single act of courage by someone or a group of of courage by someone or a group of of courage by someone or a group of people. A single act of courage is often people. A single act of courage is often people. A single act of courage is often the catalyst or the instigator of

the catalyst or the instigator of the catalyst or the instigator of something extraordinary. That a single something extraordinary. That a single something extraordinary. That a single act of courage is often the catalyst for act of courage is often the catalyst for act of courage is often the catalyst for extraordinary. That again, we we've all extraordinary. That again, we we've all extraordinary. That again, we we've all can stand up and tell our favorite um can stand up and tell our favorite um can stand up and tell our favorite um illustration of this from history. um in illustration of this from history. um in illustration of this from history. um in the midst of disaster or change or the midst of disaster or change or the midst of disaster or change or tragedy or danger, someone decides not tragedy or danger, someone decides not tragedy or danger, someone decides not to wait for their fear to disappear to wait for their fear to disappear to wait for their fear to disappear because fear don't disappear. You pick because fear don't disappear. You pick because fear don't disappear. You pick it up and you carry it with you. And it up and you carry it with you. And it up and you carry it with you. And there's always there's been a group of there's always there's been a group of there's always there's been a group of people or an individual who decided not people or an individual who decided not people or an individual who decided not to wait for their fear to disappear and to wait for their fear to disappear and to wait for their fear to disappear and they acted. They did the unexpected. they acted. They did the unexpected. they acted. They did the unexpected. They did the unprecedented. They did the They did the unprecedented. They did the They did the unprecedented. They did the thing that other people were trying to thing that other people were trying to thing that other people were trying to muster the courage to do, but they did muster the courage to do, but they did muster the courage to do, but they did it and they went first. And it sets it and they went first. And it sets it and they went first. And it sets something good in motion. And of course, something good in motion. And of course, something good in motion. And of course, history is just filled with examples of history is just filled with examples of history is just filled with examples of that, right? Men, men and women who that, right? Men, men and women who that, right? Men, men and women who decided that in light of what was at decided that in light of what was at decided that in light of what was at stake, in light of what was at risk, in stake, in light of what was at risk, in stake, in light of what was at risk, in light of what needed to change, what light of what needed to change, what light of what needed to change, what they knew they needed to do, they in they knew they needed to do, they in they knew they needed to do, they in spite of their fear, they acted. And as spite of their fear, they acted. And as spite of their fear, they acted. And as we talked about last time, in spite of we talked about last time, in spite of we talked about last time, in spite of what they thought might transpire. They what they thought might transpire. They what they thought might transpire. They didn't let projecting into the future didn't let projecting into the future didn't let projecting into the future keep them from what they needed to do in keep them from what they needed to do in keep them from what they needed to do in the moment. And isn't this true? Because the moment. And isn't this true? Because the moment. And isn't this true? Because when you read the books, when you see when you read the books, when you see when you read the books, when you see the the movies, when you hear of these the the movies, when you hear of these the the movies, when you hear of these accounts or even, you know, modern day accounts or even, you know, modern day accounts or even, you know, modern day examples of this, you think to yourself, examples of this, you think to yourself, examples of this, you think to yourself, what I think to myself, we think, "Wow, what I think to myself, we think, "Wow, what I think to myself, we think, "Wow, I hope that if I ever face anything like I hope that if I ever face anything like I hope that if I ever face anything like that, if I ever was in a situation, that, if I ever was in a situation, that, if I ever was in a situation, maybe a life or death situation, I hope maybe a life or death situation, I hope maybe a life or death situation, I hope that I would have the courage to do what that I would have the courage to do what that I would have the courage to do what they did. I hope that I would have the

they did. I hope that I would have the they did. I hope that I would have the courage to respond or act the same way." courage to respond or act the same way." courage to respond or act the same way." But meanwhile, But meanwhile, But meanwhile, meanwhile, back at home, back at work, meanwhile, back at home, back at work, meanwhile, back at home, back at work, back at school, meanwhile, in the back at school, meanwhile, in the back at school, meanwhile, in the context of our less than epic everyday context of our less than epic everyday context of our less than epic everyday lives, lives, lives, we may not face, as we see, we may not we may not face, as we see, we may not we may not face, as we see, we may not face Goliath, but we all have our own face Goliath, but we all have our own face Goliath, but we all have our own giants, right? We we don't peer up at giants, right? We we don't peer up at giants, right? We we don't peer up at literal walls lined with a literal literal walls lined with a literal literal walls lined with a literal enemy, but we all face walls from time enemy, but we all face walls from time enemy, but we all face walls from time to time that need to be scaled. But to time that need to be scaled. But to time that need to be scaled. But because in those situations which are because in those situations which are because in those situations which are usually relational, but because we're usually relational, but because we're usually relational, but because we're not facing, this is important, because not facing, this is important, because not facing, this is important, because we're not facing immediate physical we're not facing immediate physical we're not facing immediate physical danger, we don't interpret our danger, we don't interpret our danger, we don't interpret our hesitation, our reluctance, or our hesitation, our reluctance, or our hesitation, our reluctance, or our unwillingness to act or engage or unwillingness to act or engage or unwillingness to act or engage or confront. We don't we don't see it. We confront. We don't we don't see it. We confront. We don't we don't see it. We don't label it for what it is. We don't label it for what it is. We don't label it for what it is. We mislabel it. We call it something else.

mislabel it. We call it something else. mislabel it. We call it something else. We don't call it fear. We we say things We don't call it fear. We we say things We don't call it fear. We we say things like, "Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa." In fact, like, "Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa." In fact, like, "Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa." In fact, some of you are already starting this in some of you are already starting this in some of you are already starting this in your mind. So, let me just join you in your mind. So, let me just join you in your mind. So, let me just join you in your mind. I'm not Andy. I'm not Andy. your mind. I'm not Andy. I'm not Andy. your mind. I'm not Andy. I'm not Andy. It's not that I'm afraid. And if you're It's not that I'm afraid. And if you're It's not that I'm afraid. And if you're not saying this yet, wait till the end not saying this yet, wait till the end not saying this yet, wait till the end of the message. I I the the issue for me of the message. I I the the issue for me of the message. I I the the issue for me is I'm not afraid. Ready? You don't is I'm not afraid. Ready? You don't is I'm not afraid. Ready? You don't understand. understand. understand. Which I probably don't understand Which I probably don't understand Which I probably don't understand because I haven't heard your story. And because I haven't heard your story. And because I haven't heard your story. And then you would say, because we've all then you would say, because we've all then you would say, because we've all said this, I I said this, it's it's said this, I I said this, it's it's said this, I I said this, it's it's complicated. It's complicated. But to to complicated. It's complicated. But to to complicated. It's complicated. But to to to get us all on the same page, and to get us all on the same page, and to get us all on the same page, and don't raise your hand or shout out, but don't raise your hand or shout out, but don't raise your hand or shout out, but unless you're at a different campus, unless you're at a different campus, unless you're at a different campus, then we can't hear you here. But anyway, then we can't hear you here. But anyway, then we can't hear you here. But anyway, can you think of a single can you think can you think of a single can you think can you think of a single can you think of a single epic history making, you of a single epic history making, you of a single epic history making, you know, something worth writing about, know, something worth writing about, know, something worth writing about, something that most of us know about? something that most of us know about? something that most of us know about? Can you think of a single epic Can you think of a single epic Can you think of a single epic history-making act of courage that history-making act of courage that history-making act of courage that wasn't wasn't wasn't complicated? complicated? complicated? CMA can you imagine I mean if you want CMA can you imagine I mean if you want CMA can you imagine I mean if you want to kind of put your complication within to kind of put your complication within to kind of put your complication within the proper context can you imagine um the proper context can you imagine um the proper context can you imagine um explaining your complicated situation to explaining your complicated situation to explaining your complicated situation to Rosa Parks as she sat there decided Rosa Parks as she sat there decided Rosa Parks as she sat there decided whether or not she's going to get up or whether or not she's going to get up or whether or not she's going to get up or or can you imagine explaining your or can you imagine explaining your or can you imagine explaining your complicated can I imagine explaining my complicated can I imagine explaining my complicated can I imagine explaining my complicated situation to the signers of complicated situation to the signers of complicated situation to the signers of the Declaration of Independence. It's the Declaration of Independence. It's the Declaration of Independence. It's like guys okay real quick I I know that like guys okay real quick I I know that like guys okay real quick I I know that you're about to give up your you're about to give up your you're about to give up your livelihoods. You're risking your life.

livelihoods. You're risking your life. livelihoods. You're risking your life. You could lose everything, but you don't You could lose everything, but you don't You could lose everything, but you don't know my boss. know my boss. know my boss. You never met my wife. You've never met You never met my wife. You've never met You never met my wife. You've never met my husband. You don't know what my dad my husband. You don't know what my dad my husband. You don't know what my dad is like. I mean, my situation's is like. I mean, my situation's is like. I mean, my situation's complicated. And they're looking at us complicated. And they're looking at us complicated. And they're looking at us like, "Okay, we we're we're busy, like, "Okay, we we're we're busy, like, "Okay, we we're we're busy, right?" But isn't it true that every right?" But isn't it true that every right?" But isn't it true that every single act of courage, the circumstances single act of courage, the circumstances single act of courage, the circumstances surrounding those epic act acts of surrounding those epic act acts of surrounding those epic act acts of courage, they were all complicated courage, they were all complicated courage, they were all complicated situations? And here's the thing, the situations? And here's the thing, the situations? And here's the thing, the longer we make excuses not to act, the longer we make excuses not to act, the longer we make excuses not to act, the more complicated things become, more complicated things become, more complicated things become, especially especially especially relationally. So for many of us, relationally. So for many of us, relationally. So for many of us, maybe you, and I'm going to push it hard maybe you, and I'm going to push it hard maybe you, and I'm going to push it hard today, for many of us, maybe you, the today, for many of us, maybe you, the today, for many of us, maybe you, the real issue isn't it's complicated. The real issue isn't it's complicated. The real issue isn't it's complicated. The real issue is you're afraid. real issue is you're afraid. real issue is you're afraid. You're afraid. And here's the thing, You're afraid. And here's the thing, You're afraid. And here's the thing, just you want to do a a thought exercise just you want to do a a thought exercise just you want to do a a thought exercise later. Don't do it during the message, later. Don't do it during the message, later. Don't do it during the message, please. But you want to do a thought please. But you want to do a thought please. But you want to do a thought exercise later. Listen, if you excuse if exercise later. Listen, if you excuse if exercise later. Listen, if you excuse if you will excuse your reluctance to act, you will excuse your reluctance to act, you will excuse your reluctance to act, to confront, to step in, whatever the to confront, to step in, whatever the to confront, to step in, whatever the circumstances are, if you will excuse circumstances are, if you will excuse circumstances are, if you will excuse your reluctance to act out loud, in your reluctance to act out loud, in your reluctance to act out loud, in other words, say the words out loud. If other words, say the words out loud. If other words, say the words out loud. If you do that long enough, eventually you you do that long enough, eventually you you do that long enough, eventually you will bump into the real culprit, which will bump into the real culprit, which will bump into the real culprit, which is fear. Let me explain what I mean. Oh, is fear. Let me explain what I mean. Oh, is fear. Let me explain what I mean. Oh, no, no, no. You don't you don't you no, no, no. You don't you don't you no, no, no. You don't you don't you don't understand what this you don't don't understand what this you don't don't understand what this you don't understand. It's complicated. You see, understand. It's complicated. You see, understand. It's complicated. You see, if I this is when you got to what you if I this is when you got to what you if I this is when you got to what you got to do out loud. If I then he will

got to do out loud. If I then he will got to do out loud. If I then he will probably probably probably if I whatever it is she may choose to. if I whatever it is she may choose to. if I whatever it is she may choose to. If I they will because that's what they If I they will because that's what they If I they will because that's what they always do. Here's my point. If a always do. Here's my point. If a always do. Here's my point. If a potential outcome, we talked about this potential outcome, we talked about this potential outcome, we talked about this last time. If a potential outcome is last time. If a potential outcome is last time. If a potential outcome is what's keeping you from doing what needs what's keeping you from doing what needs what's keeping you from doing what needs to be done, to be done, to be done, that is fear. If a potential outcome is that is fear. If a potential outcome is that is fear. If a potential outcome is keeping you from what you need to do, if keeping you from what you need to do, if keeping you from what you need to do, if it's keeping you from what you know you it's keeping you from what you know you it's keeping you from what you know you should do, that's fear. And having the should do, that's fear. And having the should do, that's fear. And having the courage, this is what I'm going to push courage, this is what I'm going to push courage, this is what I'm going to push you on today. Having the courage to you on today. Having the courage to you on today. Having the courage to rediagnose your reluctance and your rediagnose your reluctance and your rediagnose your reluctance and your hesitation to do what you know you hesitation to do what you know you hesitation to do what you know you should do may give you the courage may should do may give you the courage may should do may give you the courage may give you the courage to do what you know give you the courage to do what you know give you the courage to do what you know you should you should you should do do do because it is complicated because it is complicated because it is complicated but everything's complicated and the but everything's complicated and the but everything's complicated and the longer you wait the more complicated longer you wait the more complicated longer you wait the more complicated it's going to get now in the time it's going to get now in the time it's going to get now in the time remaining Today I want to go super deep remaining Today I want to go super deep remaining Today I want to go super deep on one specific thing, one specific on one specific thing, one specific on one specific thing, one specific expression of fear. I want to highlight expression of fear. I want to highlight expression of fear. I want to highlight a fear we have all we all have a a fear we have all we all have a a fear we have all we all have a tendency, me included, a fear that we tendency, me included, a fear that we tendency, me included, a fear that we all have a tendency to mislabel. Now all have a tendency to mislabel. Now all have a tendency to mislabel. Now when I start what I'm about to do, some when I start what I'm about to do, some when I start what I'm about to do, some of you are going to be tempted to just of you are going to be tempted to just of you are going to be tempted to just immediately just dismiss what I say out

immediately just dismiss what I say out immediately just dismiss what I say out of hand. Um you're immediately going to of hand. Um you're immediately going to of hand. Um you're immediately going to start having conversations in your mind start having conversations in your mind start having conversations in your mind with me. I'm so I'm going to ask you for with me. I'm so I'm going to ask you for with me. I'm so I'm going to ask you for just a few minutes and this will be hard just a few minutes and this will be hard just a few minutes and this will be hard for some of you and I'm more sensitive for some of you and I'm more sensitive for some of you and I'm more sensitive to your situation than you know even to your situation than you know even to your situation than you know even though I don't know your story but if though I don't know your story but if though I don't know your story but if you do what I do long enough or you do you do what I do long enough or you do you do what I do long enough or you do what a pastor does long enough you've what a pastor does long enough you've what a pastor does long enough you've heard everything. You've heard every heard everything. You've heard every heard everything. You've heard every kind of heartbreaking story. You've kind of heartbreaking story. You've kind of heartbreaking story. You've heard every kind of you know heard every kind of you know heard every kind of you know dysfunctional family and here's the dysfunctional family and here's the dysfunctional family and here's the result story. You've heard every kind of result story. You've heard every kind of result story. You've heard every kind of being mistreated at work. You we you've being mistreated at work. You we you've being mistreated at work. You we you've heard it all. So, if you'll just trust heard it all. So, if you'll just trust heard it all. So, if you'll just trust me for a few minutes and at least be me for a few minutes and at least be me for a few minutes and at least be open to what I'm suggesting and if open to what I'm suggesting and if open to what I'm suggesting and if you'll try not to cross your arms you'll try not to cross your arms you'll try not to cross your arms today, I want to unpack today, I want to unpack today, I want to unpack the fear the fear the fear to forgive. to forgive. to forgive. Now, we don't normally associate these Now, we don't normally associate these Now, we don't normally associate these two things. And the reason we don't is two things. And the reason we don't is two things. And the reason we don't is because we mislabel what is keeping us because we mislabel what is keeping us because we mislabel what is keeping us from forgiving.

from forgiving. from forgiving. So at the risk of sounding terribly So at the risk of sounding terribly So at the risk of sounding terribly insensitive insensitive insensitive today for a few minutes I want to be today for a few minutes I want to be today for a few minutes I want to be terribly direct. So let me just rip the terribly direct. So let me just rip the terribly direct. So let me just rip the scab off real quick or the band-aid off. scab off real quick or the band-aid off. scab off real quick or the band-aid off. That was gross. Okay. That was gross. Okay. That was gross. Okay. The band-aid that may rip. Okay. Anyway, The band-aid that may rip. Okay. Anyway, The band-aid that may rip. Okay. Anyway, look up here. All everybody, some of you look up here. All everybody, some of you look up here. All everybody, some of you need to forgive someone. Some of you need to forgive someone. Some of you need to forgive someone. Some of you need to forgive someone once and for all need to forgive someone once and for all need to forgive someone once and for all and move on with your life. and move on with your life. and move on with your life. You may need to forgive something for You may need to forgive something for You may need to forgive something for something someone for something big or something someone for something big or something someone for something big or little, something that was years ago or little, something that was years ago or little, something that was years ago or maybe something that was just yesterday, maybe something that was just yesterday, maybe something that was just yesterday, career related, um parent related, career related, um parent related, career related, um parent related, former employer related, a former spouse former employer related, a former spouse former employer related, a former spouse related, former fiance related, current related, former fiance related, current related, former fiance related, current fiance related, a teacher perhaps fiance related, a teacher perhaps fiance related, a teacher perhaps something of such magnitude, and I get something of such magnitude, and I get something of such magnitude, and I get this, I promise you, something of such this, I promise you, something of such this, I promise you, something of such magnitude that if you were to stand up magnitude that if you were to stand up magnitude that if you were to stand up in front of your church or in front of in front of your church or in front of in front of your church or in front of your friends and tell your entire story your friends and tell your entire story your friends and tell your entire story of what happened to you or what you went of what happened to you or what you went of what happened to you or what you went through, we may all be tempted to give through, we may all be tempted to give through, we may all be tempted to give you a pass to say, "Okay, everybody else you a pass to say, "Okay, everybody else you a pass to say, "Okay, everybody else needs to forgive. There's no way you needs to forgive. There's no way you needs to forgive. There's no way you need to forgive. You get to sit over in need to forgive. You get to sit over in need to forgive. You get to sit over in the past section and here's what you've the past section and here's what you've the past section and here's what you've done, and I I'm sensitive to this.

done, and I I'm sensitive to this. done, and I I'm sensitive to this. You've given Look up here. You've given You've given Look up here. You've given You've given Look up here. You've given yourself a pass. yourself a pass. yourself a pass. You're in fact you're offended that I You're in fact you're offended that I You're in fact you're offended that I would even suggest such a thing without would even suggest such a thing without would even suggest such a thing without having first heard your story. But having first heard your story. But having first heard your story. But because I care, it's time to forgive. it's time to forgive. It is time to scale that wall and It is time to scale that wall and It is time to scale that wall and liberate yourself from your righteous liberate yourself from your righteous liberate yourself from your righteous and perhaps justified and perhaps justified and perhaps justified resentment. resentment. resentment. it. It's time to confront the giant that it. It's time to confront the giant that it. It's time to confront the giant that continues to whisper and to make his or continues to whisper and to make his or continues to whisper and to make his or her or its way into all of your most her or its way into all of your most her or its way into all of your most important relationships. It continues to important relationships. It continues to important relationships. It continues to breathe life into your lowgrade breathe life into your lowgrade breathe life into your lowgrade anger. That anger that just simmers anger. That anger that just simmers anger. That anger that just simmers beneath the surface that goes with you beneath the surface that goes with you beneath the surface that goes with you wherever you go. Anger that shows up in wherever you go. Anger that shows up in wherever you go. Anger that shows up in your marriage unexpectedly. your marriage unexpectedly. your marriage unexpectedly. the way you're raising your kids and the way you're raising your kids and the way you're raising your kids and discipline your kids and respond to your discipline your kids and respond to your discipline your kids and respond to your kids. In fact, sometimes you surprise kids. In fact, sometimes you surprise kids. In fact, sometimes you surprise yourself, you ask the question, where yourself, you ask the question, where yourself, you ask the question, where did that come from? It didn't come from did that come from? It didn't come from did that come from? It didn't come from this current event. Where did that come this current event. Where did that come this current event. Where did that come from? The anger that's impacting that from? The anger that's impacting that from? The anger that's impacting that controls or fuels your temper, your controls or fuels your temper, your controls or fuels your temper, your criticism, gentlemen, your sarcasm.

criticism, gentlemen, your sarcasm. criticism, gentlemen, your sarcasm. Did you know there is no place for Did you know there is no place for Did you know there is no place for sarcasm within the context of family? sarcasm within the context of family? sarcasm within the context of family? Zero. Zero. Zero. Maybe it fuels the standards you have Maybe it fuels the standards you have Maybe it fuels the standards you have for everybody else that nobody else for everybody else that nobody else for everybody else that nobody else seems to be able to live up to. Your seems to be able to live up to. Your seems to be able to live up to. Your inability to admit you're wrong. Your inability to admit you're wrong. Your inability to admit you're wrong. Your inability to even see that you're wrong. inability to even see that you're wrong. inability to even see that you're wrong. But your family sees it. Your friends But your family sees it. Your friends But your family sees it. Your friends see it. In fact, they your family and see it. In fact, they your family and see it. In fact, they your family and your friends, they feel it. And your friends, they feel it. And your friends, they feel it. And sometimes sometimes sometimes they fear it. they fear it. they fear it. And the reason you haven't forgiven, the And the reason you haven't forgiven, the And the reason you haven't forgiven, the reason you haven't moved on, the reason reason you haven't moved on, the reason reason you haven't moved on, the reason you've tried and failed to forgive is you've tried and failed to forgive is you've tried and failed to forgive is fear. But you've labeled it something fear. But you've labeled it something fear. But you've labeled it something else, but it's fear. And until you label else, but it's fear. And until you label else, but it's fear. And until you label it correctly, it correctly, it correctly, you cannot address it successfully. you cannot address it successfully. you cannot address it successfully. And yes, I will admit it's complicated.

And yes, I will admit it's complicated. And yes, I will admit it's complicated. But please hear this next statement. But please hear this next statement. But please hear this next statement. Even if you just check out after this, Even if you just check out after this, Even if you just check out after this, [clears throat] [clears throat] [clears throat] it's complicated isn't a reason. it's complicated isn't a reason. it's complicated isn't a reason. It's complicated is an observation It's complicated is an observation It's complicated is an observation that you've used as a reason. And it's that you've used as a reason. And it's that you've used as a reason. And it's time for you to quit using it's time for you to quit using it's time for you to quit using it's complicated complicated complicated as an excuse. as an excuse. as an excuse. And I want to say again what I said a And I want to say again what I said a And I want to say again what I said a minute ago. The longer you wait, the minute ago. The longer you wait, the minute ago. The longer you wait, the more complicated it becomes. But here's more complicated it becomes. But here's more complicated it becomes. But here's what's even worse. The longer you wait, what's even worse. The longer you wait, what's even worse. The longer you wait, the more complicated you the more complicated you the more complicated you become. become. become. Besides, let's just be honest. Besides, let's just be honest. Besides, let's just be honest. Let's have the courage to be honest. Let's have the courage to be honest. Let's have the courage to be honest. You're you're waiting for something that You're you're waiting for something that You're you're waiting for something that will probably never happen. will probably never happen. will probably never happen. An apology. They're not going to An apology. They're not going to An apology. They're not going to apologize. They don't even know what apologize. They don't even know what apologize. They don't even know what they did. An admission of guilt. They're they did. An admission of guilt. They're they did. An admission of guilt. They're never going to admit they're guilty if never going to admit they're guilty if never going to admit they're guilty if they already would have, right? You're they already would have, right? You're they already would have, right? You're you're waiting for them to have this you're waiting for them to have this you're waiting for them to have this somehow this awareness of how deeply somehow this awareness of how deeply somehow this awareness of how deeply they hurt you. That's probably never they hurt you. That's probably never they hurt you. That's probably never ever going to happen. You're waiting ever going to happen. You're waiting ever going to happen. You're waiting them for them to express regret for all them for them to express regret for all them for them to express regret for all they took from you. Wait. You realize they took from you. Wait. You realize they took from you. Wait. You realize that the longer you wait, you know what that the longer you wait, you know what that the longer you wait, you know what you're doing? And you've heard this you're doing? And you've heard this you're doing? And you've heard this before. This isn't new. In fact, before. This isn't new. In fact, before. This isn't new. In fact, somebody's already told you this.

somebody's already told you this. somebody's already told you this. Waiting is handing your heart and your Waiting is handing your heart and your Waiting is handing your heart and your mind and your emotions to the person mind and your emotions to the person mind and your emotions to the person that hurt you or the people that hurt that hurt you or the people that hurt that hurt you or the people that hurt you the most. And again, we can't nobody you the most. And again, we can't nobody you the most. And again, we can't nobody knows who said this originally, but it's knows who said this originally, but it's knows who said this originally, but it's true and you've heard it a hundred true and you've heard it a hundred true and you've heard it a hundred times. It's like drinking poison and times. It's like drinking poison and times. It's like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. What was taken from you can't be What was taken from you can't be returned. You can't be repaid. No one returned. You can't be repaid. No one returned. You can't be repaid. No one can return your past, your childhood, a can return your past, your childhood, a can return your past, your childhood, a first marriage, right? They can't re first marriage, right? They can't re first marriage, right? They can't re replace that opportunity or the replace that opportunity or the replace that opportunity or the affection or the intimacy that they affection or the intimacy that they affection or the intimacy that they stole from you. So stole from you. So stole from you. So it is time to forgive. And here is the it is time to forgive. And here is the it is time to forgive. And here is the good news. Ready for this? This is I good news. Ready for this? This is I good news. Ready for this? This is I mean mean mean forgiveness forgiveness forgiveness is courageous. is courageous. is courageous. Forgiveness is an expression of courage Forgiveness is an expression of courage Forgiveness is an expression of courage because forgiveness requires what acts because forgiveness requires what acts because forgiveness requires what acts of courage always require.

of courage always require. of courage always require. It requires you to make a sacrifice. It requires you to make a sacrifice. It requires you to make a sacrifice. It's giving someone something they don't It's giving someone something they don't It's giving someone something they don't deserve. And forgiveness is not a deserve. And forgiveness is not a deserve. And forgiveness is not a quiddle. Forgiveness isn't a declaration quiddle. Forgiveness isn't a declaration quiddle. Forgiveness isn't a declaration of you're not guilty. Forgiveness is of you're not guilty. Forgiveness is of you're not guilty. Forgiveness is simply a declaration of you are guilty. simply a declaration of you are guilty. simply a declaration of you are guilty. You did something. You actually owe me You did something. You actually owe me You did something. You actually owe me something. But you are doing the something. But you are doing the something. But you are doing the courageous thing. courageous thing. courageous thing. You're cancelling that debt. Listen to You're cancelling that debt. Listen to You're cancelling that debt. Listen to this. You are choosing independent of this. You are choosing independent of this. You are choosing independent of them to stop holding it over them them to stop holding it over them them to stop holding it over them because your heart, mind, and your because your heart, mind, and your because your heart, mind, and your emotions don't belong to them. emotions don't belong to them. emotions don't belong to them. Forgiveness Forgiveness Forgiveness is courageous. It is the everyday is courageous. It is the everyday is courageous. It is the everyday brand, an expression brand, an expression brand, an expression of courage. Look up here. You can do of courage. Look up here. You can do of courage. Look up here. You can do this.

this. this. You have everything you need to do this. You have everything you need to do this. You have everything you need to do this. To show my age, To show my age, To show my age, you have been wearing the ruby red you have been wearing the ruby red you have been wearing the ruby red slippers the whole time. slippers the whole time. slippers the whole time. Eight of you got that. [clears throat] Eight of you got that. [clears throat] Eight of you got that. [clears throat] Okay, look up here. Look, this is why. Okay, look up here. Look, this is why. Okay, look up here. Look, this is why. This is why, you know, if you I mean, I This is why, you know, if you I mean, I This is why, you know, if you I mean, I say to you all the time, follow Jesus say to you all the time, follow Jesus say to you all the time, follow Jesus through a gospel. Follow Jesus through through a gospel. Follow Jesus through through a gospel. Follow Jesus through the gospels. Follow Jesus through the the gospels. Follow Jesus through the the gospels. Follow Jesus through the gospels. When you follow Jesus through gospels. When you follow Jesus through gospels. When you follow Jesus through the gospels and you read what Jesus says the gospels and you read what Jesus says the gospels and you read what Jesus says about forgiveness taken at face value, about forgiveness taken at face value, about forgiveness taken at face value, it is sometimes it is so offensive. But it is sometimes it is so offensive. But it is sometimes it is so offensive. But this is what I'm saying is why Jesus this is what I'm saying is why Jesus this is what I'm saying is why Jesus insisted without ever hearing your insisted without ever hearing your insisted without ever hearing your story. Why Jesus insisted before there story. Why Jesus insisted before there story. Why Jesus insisted before there was you to have a story to tell. It's was you to have a story to tell. It's was you to have a story to tell. It's why he insisted that you should and I why he insisted that you should and I why he insisted that you should and I should forgive should forgive should forgive regardless. If you grew up in church, regardless. If you grew up in church, regardless. If you grew up in church, you will remember this little exchange you will remember this little exchange you will remember this little exchange between Peter. If you didn't grow up in between Peter. If you didn't grow up in between Peter. If you didn't grow up in church, this is again just find a Bible church, this is again just find a Bible church, this is again just find a Bible and just follow Jesus through Matthew, and just follow Jesus through Matthew, and just follow Jesus through Matthew, Mark, Luke, or John. But Jesus was Mark, Luke, or John. But Jesus was Mark, Luke, or John. But Jesus was talking about forgiveness. And Peter's talking about forgiveness. And Peter's talking about forgiveness. And Peter's listening and he's thinking, "Okay, I listening and he's thinking, "Okay, I listening and he's thinking, "Okay, I hear what you're saying, but let's let's hear what you're saying, but let's let's hear what you're saying, but let's let's be practical, Jesus. Let's be realistic, be practical, Jesus. Let's be realistic, be practical, Jesus. Let's be realistic, Jesus." And so, he raises his hand and Jesus." And so, he raises his hand and Jesus." And so, he raises his hand and he asks Jesus a question about he asks Jesus a question about he asks Jesus a question about forgiveness. He's like, you know, I hear forgiveness. He's like, you know, I hear forgiveness. He's like, you know, I hear what you're saying, and you know, I'm what you're saying, and you know, I'm what you're saying, and you know, I'm I'm a follower. you know, I'm one of I'm a follower. you know, I'm one of I'm a follower. you know, I'm one of your guys. I was one of your first guys, your guys. I was one of your first guys, your guys. I was one of your first guys, you know, but Lord, let's let's be real.

you know, but Lord, let's let's be real. you know, but Lord, let's let's be real. Let's be practical. Lord, how how many Let's be practical. Lord, how how many Let's be practical. Lord, how how many times times times how many times shall I forgive my how many times shall I forgive my how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister? And the implication brother or sister? And the implication brother or sister? And the implication is my same brother and the same sister, is my same brother and the same sister, is my same brother and the same sister, the same person who sins against me. How the same person who sins against me. How the same person who sins against me. How about I mean, I'm I'm a good guy. I'm about I mean, I'm I'm a good guy. I'm about I mean, I'm I'm a good guy. I'm generous guy. What about seven times? generous guy. What about seven times? generous guy. What about seven times? What if I'm willing to forgive them What if I'm willing to forgive them What if I'm willing to forgive them seven times for them to repeating the seven times for them to repeating the seven times for them to repeating the same thing seven times? Apparently, same thing seven times? Apparently, same thing seven times? Apparently, Peter had somebody in his life, like Peter had somebody in his life, like Peter had somebody in his life, like maybe you have in your life, who was a maybe you have in your life, who was a maybe you have in your life, who was a constant source of hurt and irritation. constant source of hurt and irritation. constant source of hurt and irritation. And seven times for the same thing. I And seven times for the same thing. I And seven times for the same thing. I mean, that's a gracious mean, that's a gracious mean, that's a gracious plenty. plenty. plenty. Do you remember Jesus? Yeah. Most of you Do you remember Jesus? Yeah. Most of you Do you remember Jesus? Yeah. Most of you are like, "Oh, yeah. I remember this. are like, "Oh, yeah. I remember this. are like, "Oh, yeah. I remember this. Jesus answered." This is why you should Jesus answered." This is why you should Jesus answered." This is why you should follow Jesus. This is Anyway, Jesus follow Jesus. This is Anyway, Jesus follow Jesus. This is Anyway, Jesus says, remember this? Jesus answered, "I says, remember this? Jesus answered, "I says, remember this? Jesus answered, "I tell you, Peter, not seven times, tell you, Peter, not seven times, tell you, Peter, not seven times, but 77 times." And here's what they but 77 times." And here's what they but 77 times." And here's what they heard Jesus say. Not seven times, an heard Jesus say. Not seven times, an heard Jesus say. Not seven times, an unlimited number unlimited number unlimited number of times. And then to reiterate this, of times. And then to reiterate this, of times. And then to reiterate this, look it up for yourself. Jesus tells look it up for yourself. Jesus tells look it up for yourself. Jesus tells them a parable. Jesus tells them a them a parable. Jesus tells them a them a parable. Jesus tells them a parable to remind them that God's parable to remind them that God's parable to remind them that God's extravagant forgiveness paved the way extravagant forgiveness paved the way extravagant forgiveness paved the way for extravagant. I'll show you for extravagant. I'll show you for extravagant. I'll show you forgiveness. Extravagant. I'll show them forgiveness. Extravagant. I'll show them forgiveness. Extravagant. I'll show them forgiveness. Extravagant. I have the forgiveness. Extravagant. I have the forgiveness. Extravagant. I have the power to release you so you no longer power to release you so you no longer power to release you so you no longer control me. That Jesus modeled control me. That Jesus modeled control me. That Jesus modeled extravagant forgiveness and showed us

extravagant forgiveness and showed us extravagant forgiveness and showed us the way toward extravagant forgiveness. the way toward extravagant forgiveness. the way toward extravagant forgiveness. That because you have everything you That because you have everything you That because you have everything you need to do this. Your forgiveness is not need to do this. Your forgiveness is not need to do this. Your forgiveness is not dependent on anyone dependent on anyone dependent on anyone else. You can do this. else. You can do this. else. You can do this. It does not require that your situation It does not require that your situation It does not require that your situation become less complicated. You have bought become less complicated. You have bought become less complicated. You have bought a lie. You have misdiagnose what's a lie. You have misdiagnose what's a lie. You have misdiagnose what's actually going on. Again, complicated is actually going on. Again, complicated is actually going on. Again, complicated is real and complicated is an observation, real and complicated is an observation, real and complicated is an observation, but it is not a reason not to forgive. but it is not a reason not to forgive. but it is not a reason not to forgive. It doesn't require that your situation It doesn't require that your situation It doesn't require that your situation become less complicated. Do you know become less complicated. Do you know become less complicated. Do you know what it requires? It requires courage what it requires? It requires courage what it requires? It requires courage because forgiveness is courageous. And because forgiveness is courageous. And because forgiveness is courageous. And for somebody today listening or watching for somebody today listening or watching for somebody today listening or watching or in one of our rooms, or in one of our rooms, or in one of our rooms, your act to forgive your act to forgive your act to forgive may be one of the most courageous things may be one of the most courageous things may be one of the most courageous things you do in your life, but you won't do it you do in your life, but you won't do it you do in your life, but you won't do it until you're willing to acknowledge, I'm afraid.

I'm afraid. I'm afraid. It's why Paul again follow I'm afraid. It's why Paul again follow I'm afraid. It's why Paul again follow everything in the the that Paul writes everything in the the that Paul writes everything in the the that Paul writes in his letters. He's essentially taking in his letters. He's essentially taking in his letters. He's essentially taking what Jesus said to a Jewish audience and what Jesus said to a Jewish audience and what Jesus said to a Jewish audience and he's saying it to a gentile audience, he's saying it to a gentile audience, he's saying it to a gentile audience, teasing it out and trying to make it teasing it out and trying to make it teasing it out and trying to make it applicable to a culture that was very applicable to a culture that was very applicable to a culture that was very different than the culture that Jesus different than the culture that Jesus different than the culture that Jesus spoke to in Jerusalem and in Galilee spoke to in Jerusalem and in Galilee spoke to in Jerusalem and in Galilee specifically. And it's why the Apostle specifically. And it's why the Apostle specifically. And it's why the Apostle Paul who had again like Jesus never Paul who had again like Jesus never Paul who had again like Jesus never heard your story. It's like the Apostle heard your story. It's like the Apostle heard your story. It's like the Apostle Paul who wrote to a group of people and Paul who wrote to a group of people and Paul who wrote to a group of people and he'd never heard their stories either. he'd never heard their stories either. he'd never heard their stories either. And yet, get this, he has the audacity, And yet, get this, he has the audacity, And yet, get this, he has the audacity, again, leveraging the teaching of Jesus again, leveraging the teaching of Jesus again, leveraging the teaching of Jesus and leveraging who he recognized Jesus and leveraging who he recognized Jesus and leveraging who he recognized Jesus was, he has the audacity, never having was, he has the audacity, never having was, he has the audacity, never having heard his audience stories to say this. heard his audience stories to say this. heard his audience stories to say this. Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and Andy, it's not frustration, it's anger. Andy, it's not frustration, it's anger. Andy, it's not frustration, it's anger. Get rid of all your bitterness, rage, Get rid of all your bitterness, rage, Get rid of all your bitterness, rage, and anger. The implication is we have and anger. The implication is we have and anger. The implication is we have the tools to do that. We have the the tools to do that. We have the the tools to do that. We have the ability to do that. Our decision to ability to do that. Our decision to ability to do that. Our decision to forgive is not contingent upon anyone forgive is not contingent upon anyone forgive is not contingent upon anyone else. Regardless of the role they played else. Regardless of the role they played else. Regardless of the role they played in our lives and regardless what they in our lives and regardless what they in our lives and regardless what they did to us or took from us, we don't have did to us or took from us, we don't have did to us or took from us, we don't have to wait to wait to wait on anybody.

on anybody. on anybody. He says, ' Along with, while we're He says, ' Along with, while we're He says, ' Along with, while we're talking about it, along with every form talking about it, along with every form talking about it, along with every form of malice that imaginary conversations, of malice that imaginary conversations, of malice that imaginary conversations, if I ever had the opportunity, if she if I ever had the opportunity, if she if I ever had the opportunity, if she ever came to me, if he ever owned up to ever came to me, if he ever owned up to ever came to me, if he ever owned up to this, if if if if this, if if if if this, if if if if he says, "Come on, come on. You're a he says, "Come on, come on. You're a he says, "Come on, come on. You're a Jesus follower now. I want you to get Jesus follower now. I want you to get Jesus follower now. I want you to get rid of it, forgiving rid of it, forgiving rid of it, forgiving each other." To which, of course, we each other." To which, of course, we each other." To which, of course, we say, "Yeah, but they don't deserve it." say, "Yeah, but they don't deserve it." say, "Yeah, but they don't deserve it." to which Paul would say, "Correct, to which Paul would say, "Correct, to which Paul would say, "Correct, but you don't deserve to be held hostage but you don't deserve to be held hostage but you don't deserve to be held hostage to their ill treatment of you." And to their ill treatment of you." And to their ill treatment of you." And Jesus has provided the way forward. You Jesus has provided the way forward. You Jesus has provided the way forward. You don't have to be held hostage. This is don't have to be held hostage. This is don't have to be held hostage. This is an invitation. It sounds like I'm doing an invitation. It sounds like I'm doing an invitation. It sounds like I'm doing this. Your savior is saying, "No, no, this. Your savior is saying, "No, no, this. Your savior is saying, "No, no, no. This is an invitation to be free." no. This is an invitation to be free." no. This is an invitation to be free." that that God sent Jesus into the world that that God sent Jesus into the world that that God sent Jesus into the world to pave the way for us to be free, to to pave the way for us to be free, to to pave the way for us to be free, to ensure that we had all the tools we ensure that we had all the tools we ensure that we had all the tools we needed to move on. He modeled the way.

needed to move on. He modeled the way. needed to move on. He modeled the way. Listen to how the Apostle Paul wraps up Listen to how the Apostle Paul wraps up Listen to how the Apostle Paul wraps up this long passage. I've skipped some this long passage. I've skipped some this long passage. I've skipped some verses. You can read the whole thing verses. You can read the whole thing verses. You can read the whole thing later. Forgiving each other just as, not later. Forgiving each other just as, not later. Forgiving each other just as, not because of, because of, because of, not because they deserve it, not because not because they deserve it, not because not because they deserve it, not because No, no. And he said, "No, this isn't No, no. And he said, "No, this isn't No, no. And he said, "No, this isn't this isn't a refle your decision to this isn't a refle your decision to this isn't a refle your decision to forgive has very little to do with them. forgive has very little to do with them. forgive has very little to do with them. It has everything to do with who you are It has everything to do with who you are It has everything to do with who you are now following. now following. now following. You are choosing to no longer follow You are choosing to no longer follow You are choosing to no longer follow fear. You are choosing to follow your fear. You are choosing to follow your fear. You are choosing to follow your king just as in Christ God forgave king just as in Christ God forgave king just as in Christ God forgave you." you." you." Now, I'm about to to throw down Now, I'm about to to throw down Now, I'm about to to throw down about this is this I'm about to This is about this is this I'm about to This is about this is this I'm about to This is almost not fair what I'm about to say. almost not fair what I'm about to say. almost not fair what I'm about to say. But Luke records this for us because But Luke records this for us because But Luke records this for us because Luke knew we needed to hear this. Luke knew we needed to hear this. Luke knew we needed to hear this. Look up here. Jesus forgave the men who Look up here. Jesus forgave the men who Look up here. Jesus forgave the men who nailed him to the cross. nailed him to the cross. nailed him to the cross. From From From the cross. the cross. the cross. He did not need anything from them to He did not need anything from them to He did not need anything from them to forgive forgive forgive them.

them. them. and he invites you and he invites me and he invites you and he invites me and he invites you and he invites me to follow him. to follow him. to follow him. So, here's what I want you to consider. So, here's what I want you to consider. So, here's what I want you to consider. And let me just say this. I my I would And let me just say this. I my I would And let me just say this. I my I would imagine there are people who know you imagine there are people who know you imagine there are people who know you and are close to you that if they're and are close to you that if they're and are close to you that if they're listening to this are silently saying, listening to this are silently saying, listening to this are silently saying, "Please, oh God, please let this get "Please, oh God, please let this get "Please, oh God, please let this get through to her. Let this get through to through to her. Let this get through to through to her. Let this get through to him. If I let if I pay my children to him. If I let if I pay my children to him. If I let if I pay my children to watch this, I pray that I because they watch this, I pray that I because they watch this, I pray that I because they feel it and sometimes they fear it. And feel it and sometimes they fear it. And feel it and sometimes they fear it. And you don't want to live like that. In you don't want to live like that. In you don't want to live like that. In fact, like I said while ago, you hear fact, like I said while ago, you hear fact, like I said while ago, you hear things come out of your mouth. You think things come out of your mouth. You think things come out of your mouth. You think about things later on that you said or about things later on that you said or about things later on that you said or did and you think, "Where did that come did and you think, "Where did that come did and you think, "Where did that come from? What's wrong with me?" from? What's wrong with me?" from? What's wrong with me?" You're carrying that anger You're carrying that anger You're carrying that anger as Don Henley said, and it is eating you as Don Henley said, and it is eating you as Don Henley said, and it is eating you up inside and it is leaking out on the up inside and it is leaking out on the up inside and it is leaking out on the people you love people you love people you love and who love you. So the invitation and who love you. So the invitation and who love you. So the invitation is the standing invitation. Jesus says, is the standing invitation. Jesus says, is the standing invitation. Jesus says, "I want you to follow me and I want you "I want you to follow me and I want you "I want you to follow me and I want you to follow me in this. I want you to to follow me in this. I want you to to follow me in this. I want you to forgive as you've been forgiven."

forgive as you've been forgiven." forgive as you've been forgiven." So I want you to name your resistance So I want you to name your resistance So I want you to name your resistance for what it is. It's fear. And then do for what it is. It's fear. And then do for what it is. It's fear. And then do the thing. the thing. the thing. forgive. And here's the promise. You forgive. And here's the promise. You forgive. And here's the promise. You know this this is you you know this from know this this is you you know this from know this this is you you know this from other people's stories. Your courage to other people's stories. Your courage to other people's stories. Your courage to forgive may in fact be the catalyst for forgive may in fact be the catalyst for forgive may in fact be the catalyst for extraordinary extraordinary extraordinary for you, for you, for you, for the people closest to you, for the for the people closest to you, for the for the people closest to you, for the people watching you who work with you. people watching you who work with you. people watching you who work with you. And I want to give you a first step. In And I want to give you a first step. In And I want to give you a first step. In fact, I want to give you three fact, I want to give you three fact, I want to give you three questions. The second one's the most questions. The second one's the most questions. The second one's the most important. Here's where to begin. important. Here's where to begin. important. Here's where to begin. If you're thinking, "Okay, yeah, I may If you're thinking, "Okay, yeah, I may If you're thinking, "Okay, yeah, I may need to forgive, but it has nothing to need to forgive, but it has nothing to need to forgive, but it has nothing to do with fear." Here's where to begin. I do with fear." Here's where to begin. I do with fear." Here's where to begin. I want you to think later on. Ask this want you to think later on. Ask this want you to think later on. Ask this question. What do I have to fear? question. What do I have to fear? question. What do I have to fear? What do I have to fear? If I choose what What do I have to fear? If I choose what What do I have to fear? If I choose what what do I have to fear? And then here's what do I have to fear? And then here's what do I have to fear? And then here's the most important question. That's kind the most important question. That's kind the most important question. That's kind of the intro question. Ready? What do I of the intro question. Ready? What do I of the intro question. Ready? What do I have to lose? have to lose? have to lose? What do I have to lose by forgiving? What do I have to lose by forgiving? What do I have to lose by forgiving? What do I have to lose by forgiving? And What do I have to lose by forgiving? And What do I have to lose by forgiving? And here's what I want to encourage you to here's what I want to encourage you to here's what I want to encourage you to do. I dare you. Preachers dare. It's a do. I dare you. Preachers dare. It's a do. I dare you. Preachers dare. It's a preacher dare. I dare you to write down preacher dare. I dare you to write down preacher dare. I dare you to write down your answer to this second question.

your answer to this second question. your answer to this second question. What are you giving up by forgiving? What are you giving up by forgiving? What are you giving up by forgiving? What will what will it force you? What What will what will it force you? What What will what will it force you? What will it force you to let go of? Write it will it force you to let go of? Write it will it force you to let go of? Write it down. And here's why I want you to write down. And here's why I want you to write down. And here's why I want you to write it down. I want you to expose it to the it down. I want you to expose it to the it down. I want you to expose it to the light. To get it out of your heart, to light. To get it out of your heart, to light. To get it out of your heart, to get it out of your emotions, to get it get it out of your emotions, to get it get it out of your emotions, to get it on paper. Expose it to the light. And I on paper. Expose it to the light. And I on paper. Expose it to the light. And I want you to look at it. And here's my want you to look at it. And here's my want you to look at it. And here's my prediction. When you look at it prediction. When you look at it prediction. When you look at it objectively written down, it will objectively written down, it will objectively written down, it will probably amount to very little. And then probably amount to very little. And then probably amount to very little. And then ask yourself the third question. ask yourself the third question. ask yourself the third question. How much longer do I intend to allow How much longer do I intend to allow How much longer do I intend to allow fear fear fear to boss me around? How much longer do I to boss me around? How much longer do I to boss me around? How much longer do I plan to let fear be the boss of me? And plan to let fear be the boss of me? And plan to let fear be the boss of me? And you say, Andy, that's kind of strong. you say, Andy, that's kind of strong. you say, Andy, that's kind of strong. No. Look, if you know you need to No. Look, if you know you need to No. Look, if you know you need to forgive, but you have refused to get forgive, but you have refused to get forgive, but you have refused to get forgive for fear of what you're giving forgive for fear of what you're giving forgive for fear of what you're giving up, up, up, then fear has become then fear has become then fear has become your master.

your master. your master. And fear is a poor And fear is a poor And fear is a poor master. So tell your fear out loud, master. So tell your fear out loud, master. So tell your fear out loud, "Fear, we're done. You have enslaved me. "Fear, we're done. You have enslaved me. "Fear, we're done. You have enslaved me. Jesus forgave me. I'm following Jesus. Jesus forgave me. I'm following Jesus. Jesus forgave me. I'm following Jesus. I'm no longer following fear. I choose I'm no longer following fear. I choose I'm no longer following fear. I choose to forgive. And when you make that to forgive. And when you make that to forgive. And when you make that decision, when you choose that act, when decision, when you choose that act, when decision, when you choose that act, when you choose what's unprecedented, you choose what's unprecedented, you choose what's unprecedented, especially when you think about what especially when you think about what especially when you think about what you've experienced at the hands or the you've experienced at the hands or the you've experienced at the hands or the the decisions of other people, that is, the decisions of other people, that is, the decisions of other people, that is, as we talked about last week, that is as we talked about last week, that is as we talked about last week, that is the win. What happens after that is not the win. What happens after that is not the win. What happens after that is not the win. The win is your decision to the win. The win is your decision to the win. The win is your decision to follow Jesus. The win is your decision follow Jesus. The win is your decision follow Jesus. The win is your decision to obey. Your the win is to decision is to obey. Your the win is to decision is to obey. Your the win is to decision is your decision to do what Jesus asked you your decision to do what Jesus asked you your decision to do what Jesus asked you to do and to trust him with outcomes. to do and to trust him with outcomes. to do and to trust him with outcomes. And instead of living in the I'm not And instead of living in the I'm not And instead of living in the I'm not sure, I don't know. What if what if what sure, I don't know. What if what if what sure, I don't know. What if what if what if what if to decide to live with the if what if to decide to live with the if what if to decide to live with the confidence that you have placed yourself confidence that you have placed yourself confidence that you have placed yourself and your h and your future in the hands and your h and your future in the hands and your h and your future in the hands of the God who loves you and sent his of the God who loves you and sent his of the God who loves you and sent his son to forgive you so you could forgive.

son to forgive you so you could forgive. son to forgive you so you could forgive. This is the win is to say yes to your This is the win is to say yes to your This is the win is to say yes to your king. king. king. Now, [clears throat] for somebody Now, [clears throat] for somebody Now, [clears throat] for somebody listening today or watching today, I listening today or watching today, I listening today or watching today, I know this is so heavy and it's like I'm know this is so heavy and it's like I'm know this is so heavy and it's like I'm telling you this is what you need to do. telling you this is what you need to do. telling you this is what you need to do. Okay? In just a few minutes, you can Okay? In just a few minutes, you can Okay? In just a few minutes, you can cross your arms and start arguing with cross your arms and start arguing with cross your arms and start arguing with me, but just one more minute. For me, but just one more minute. For me, but just one more minute. For somebody today that what I've said so somebody today that what I've said so somebody today that what I've said so far is all you need to hear. You're far is all you need to hear. You're far is all you need to hear. You're like, Andy, okay, you're right. You like, Andy, okay, you're right. You like, Andy, okay, you're right. You know, I've already thought about this. know, I've already thought about this. know, I've already thought about this. I've been considering this. Other people I've been considering this. Other people I've been considering this. Other people have told me this. Okay, you're you're have told me this. Okay, you're you're have told me this. Okay, you're you're right. I'm going to write it down. I right. I'm going to write it down. I right. I'm going to write it down. I real before I even write it down, I real before I even write it down, I real before I even write it down, I realize I have virtually I have nothing realize I have virtually I have nothing realize I have virtually I have nothing to lose. I have everything to win. But to lose. I have everything to win. But to lose. I have everything to win. But for some of you, your response for some of you, your response for some of you, your response legitimately is, Andy, I'm not arguing legitimately is, Andy, I'm not arguing legitimately is, Andy, I'm not arguing with you. I I I I with you. I I I I with you. I I I I agree. I believe I those passages you agree. I believe I those passages you agree. I believe I those passages you showed me, I've read those a dozen showed me, I've read those a dozen showed me, I've read those a dozen times, but I just can't seem to do it. times, but I just can't seem to do it. times, but I just can't seem to do it. I've tried and tried and tried and I I've tried and tried and tried and I I've tried and tried and tried and I just can't seem to let it go and move just can't seem to let it go and move just can't seem to let it go and move on. And if that's you, as it turns out, on. And if that's you, as it turns out, on. And if that's you, as it turns out, there is I if if that's you, you you you there is I if if that's you, you you you there is I if if that's you, you you you just seem to have an inability. You're just seem to have an inability. You're just seem to have an inability. You're willing to forgive, but there seems to willing to forgive, but there seems to willing to forgive, but there seems to be an inability. I if our if you have an be an inability. I if our if you have an be an inability. I if our if you have an inability to forgive, often times, I inability to forgive, often times, I inability to forgive, often times, I would say most times, but we'll just say would say most times, but we'll just say would say most times, but we'll just say oftentimes, your inability to do what oftentimes, your inability to do what oftentimes, your inability to do what you know you need to do is actually you know you need to do is actually you know you need to do is actually linked to a second even more insidious linked to a second even more insidious linked to a second even more insidious fear.

fear. fear. And that's what we're going to talk And that's what we're going to talk And that's what we're going to talk about about about next time. For some of you, you're good next time. For some of you, you're good next time. For some of you, you're good to go. You know what to do. For others to go. You know what to do. For others to go. You know what to do. For others of you, it's like, I've tried. I've of you, it's like, I've tried. I've of you, it's like, I've tried. I've tried. I've tried. There is yet another tried. I've tried. There is yet another tried. I've tried. There is yet another insidious fear that we mislabel. And insidious fear that we mislabel. And insidious fear that we mislabel. And until you correctly diagnose it, you until you correctly diagnose it, you until you correctly diagnose it, you can't move past it. And again, that's can't move past it. And again, that's can't move past it. And again, that's what we're going to talk about next time what we're going to talk about next time what we're going to talk about next time in part three of everyday in part three of everyday in part three of everyday courage. I'd love to pray for you. courage. I'd love to pray for you. courage. I'd love to pray for you. And then here at North Point, we're And then here at North Point, we're And then here at North Point, we're going to sing a song to dismiss. Let's going to sing a song to dismiss. Let's going to sing a song to dismiss. Let's pray together. pray together. pray together. Heavenly Father, this this lands with all of us this this lands with all of us differently. Some of us are grateful differently. Some of us are grateful differently. Some of us are grateful that we heard this years ago and dealt that we heard this years ago and dealt that we heard this years ago and dealt with it. Others of us are in the middle with it. Others of us are in the middle with it. Others of us are in the middle of it. Others of us just don't buy it. of it. Others of us just don't buy it. of it. Others of us just don't buy it. Father, for those from a different faith Father, for those from a different faith Father, for those from a different faith tradition, the whole Jesus thing kind of tradition, the whole Jesus thing kind of tradition, the whole Jesus thing kind of wigs them out a little bit, but there's wigs them out a little bit, but there's wigs them out a little bit, but there's there's something that lands with all of there's something that lands with all of there's something that lands with all of us with this. So, would you please in us with this. So, would you please in us with this. So, would you please in your grace and mercy give each of us the your grace and mercy give each of us the your grace and mercy give each of us the wisdom to know what to do with what we wisdom to know what to do with what we wisdom to know what to do with what we just heard?

just heard? just heard? And father, I just pray for I don't know And father, I just pray for I don't know And father, I just pray for I don't know dozens, hundreds of people listening or dozens, hundreds of people listening or dozens, hundreds of people listening or watching that this would be the watching that this would be the watching that this would be the breakthrough that they would do the breakthrough that they would do the breakthrough that they would do the courageous thing because forgiving courageous thing because forgiving courageous thing because forgiving forgiveness is courageous and I pray forgiveness is courageous and I pray forgiveness is courageous and I pray that it would be an almost immediate that it would be an almost immediate that it would be an almost immediate catalyst for extraordinary in their catalyst for extraordinary in their catalyst for extraordinary in their marriage with their children with their marriage with their children with their marriage with their children with their who they're dating their relationships who they're dating their relationships who they're dating their relationships with friends whatever it might be that with friends whatever it might be that with friends whatever it might be that you would bring their emotions in their you would bring their emotions in their you would bring their emotions in their hearts back into line with what is hearts back into line with what is hearts back into line with what is healthy, what is good, what is pure, healthy, what is good, what is pure, healthy, what is good, what is pure, what is right, what is holy, what is what is right, what is holy, what is what is right, what is holy, what is like Jesus. like Jesus. like Jesus. So none of us can do that for anybody So none of us can do that for anybody So none of us can do that for anybody else. So I pray that you would take it else. So I pray that you would take it else. So I pray that you would take it from here and take what is true and take from here and take what is true and take from here and take what is true and take your word and drive it deep into the your word and drive it deep into the your word and drive it deep into the crevices of our hearts so it could do crevices of our hearts so it could do crevices of our hearts so it could do its work and that you would have your its work and that you would have your its work and that you would have your way in each of our lives in Jesus name. way in each of our lives in Jesus name. way in each of our lives in Jesus name. Amen.

I am [music] a child I am [music] a child God. God. God. I'm no longer a [music] slave to fear. I [music] I [music] am a child am a child am a child God. [singing] You unravel [music and singing] me You unravel [music and singing] me with a melody. with a melody. with a melody. You [music and singing] surround me with You [music and singing] surround me with You [music and singing] surround me with song song song of [singing and music] deliverance of [singing and music] deliverance of [singing and music] deliverance from my enemies from my enemies from my enemies till all [music and singing] my fears till all [music and singing] my fears till all [music and singing] my fears they're gone. they're gone. they're gone. I'm no longer I'm no longer I'm no longer too late to [music] fear. too late to [music] fear. too late to [music] fear. I am I am I am I am a child [music] I am a child [music] I am a child [music] of God.

of God. of God. I'm no longer [music] I'm no longer [music] I'm no longer [music] slave. I am [music] I am [music] a child [singing] a child [singing] a child [singing] of God. Come on. I'm no longer [music] to feel. to feel. I am I [music and singing] am a child I am I [music and singing] am a child I am I [music and singing] am a child of God. of God. of God. I'm [music] no longer I'm [music] no longer I'm [music] no longer to fear. You split the sea [music] so I could You split the sea [music] so I could walk right through. You [music] split the sea so I can walk You [music] split the sea so I can walk [singing] right through.

[singing] right through. [singing] right through. [music] [music] [music] You found my fears in perfect love. >> [music] >> [music] >> I am a child. Yes, I am [music] Yes, I am [music] a child. I am a child of [music] God. I am a child of [music] God. I'm no [singing] longer I'm no [singing] longer I'm no [singing] longer slain to fear as [music] I am a child as [music] I am a child of God. [singing] of God. [singing] of God. [singing] [music] Heavy morning. I know we have three Heavy morning. I know we have three questions to help keep [music] this questions to help keep [music] this questions to help keep [music] this conversation going or to get it going.

conversation going or to get it going. conversation going or to get it going. may be somebody that you introduce this may be somebody that you introduce this may be somebody that you introduce this message to. [music] You can find those message to. [music] You can find those message to. [music] You can find those at northpoint.org/top3. at northpoint.org/top3. at northpoint.org/top3. Especially for those of you who are Especially for those of you who are Especially for those of you who are watching online. Today is a kids stuff watching online. Today is a kids stuff watching online. Today is a kids stuff Sunday, so you want to get pick up your Sunday, so you want to get pick up your Sunday, so you want to get pick up your kids and get there pretty quick. And on kids and get there pretty quick. And on kids and get there pretty quick. And on your way out today, [music] we're going your way out today, [music] we're going your way out today, [music] we're going to give you a magnet with some upcoming to give you a magnet with some upcoming to give you a magnet with some upcoming events at North Point to keep these on events at North Point to keep these on events at North Point to keep these on your schedule so you don't make sure your schedule so you don't make sure your schedule so you don't make sure that you don't miss any of those. And I that you don't miss any of those. And I that you don't miss any of those. And I hope to see a bunch of you men on hope to see a bunch of you men on hope to see a bunch of you men on Thursday morning. You're dismissed.