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Well, hey church online. Welcome. If we haven't met, my name is Carlos and I haven't met, my name is Carlos and I haven't met, my name is Carlos and I serve as pastor of digital disciplehip. serve as pastor of digital disciplehip. serve as pastor of digital disciplehip. And I'm so glad you're spending part of And I'm so glad you're spending part of And I'm so glad you're spending part of your weekend with us today. Hey, we are your weekend with us today. Hey, we are your weekend with us today. Hey, we are wrapping our best of summer series, the wrapping our best of summer series, the wrapping our best of summer series, the run where every week we've revisited run where every week we've revisited run where every week we've revisited some of the most impactful messages from some of the most impactful messages from some of the most impactful messages from here at Lake Point and Pastor Josh's here at Lake Point and Pastor Josh's here at Lake Point and Pastor Josh's messages, and we're going out with one messages, and we're going out with one messages, and we're going out with one you will not forget. This message comes you will not forget. This message comes you will not forget. This message comes from our love life series called the from our love life series called the from our love life series called the building blocks of godly dating, single building blocks of godly dating, single building blocks of godly dating, single and married. It is practical. It is and married. It is practical. It is and married. It is practical. It is biblical. And honestly, it'll change how biblical. And honestly, it'll change how biblical. And honestly, it'll change how you live this week. So, lean in. If you you live this week. So, lean in. If you you live this week. So, lean in. If you are here and maybe you're new with us are here and maybe you're new with us are here and maybe you're new with us today, welcome. After today, head to our today, welcome. After today, head to our today, welcome. After today, head to our YouTube channel and catch the full Love YouTube channel and catch the full Love YouTube channel and catch the full Love Life series. These messages build on Life series. These messages build on Life series. These messages build on each other and they'll challenge and each other and they'll challenge and each other and they'll challenge and encourage you. And if by the way, you encourage you. And if by the way, you encourage you. 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Hey, our hosts are lives. Our prayer Hey, our hosts are lives. Our prayer team is ready. And if you need prayer team is ready. And if you need prayer team is ready. And if you need prayer today at any point, text the word prayer today at any point, text the word prayer today at any point, text the word prayer to 2041. [music] to 2041. [music] to 2041. [music] All right, let's open up our hearts All right, let's open up our hearts All right, let's open up our hearts right now and let's worship our God right now and let's worship our God right now and let's worship our God together. >> [music] >> [music] >> Lake Point family, welcome to church. We >> Lake Point family, welcome to church. We >> Lake Point family, welcome to church. We are so glad that you're joining us here are so glad that you're joining us here are so glad that you're joining us here today. Come on, [music] can we lift up today. Come on, [music] can we lift up today. Come on, [music] can we lift up our voices to the only one who's worthy our voices to the only one who's worthy our voices to the only one who's worthy of all of the honor, [music] of all of the honor, [music] of all of the honor, [music] all of the glory, and all of the praise.

We praise you, Lord. We praise you, Lord. [music] [music] [music] I have felt the hands that bear the I have felt the hands that bear the I have felt the hands that bear the scars. Reach down and rescue me. I have scars. Reach down and rescue me. I have scars. Reach down and rescue me. I have [music] known the love of the father's [music] known the love of the father's [music] known the love of the father's heart. A prodal [music] heart. A prodal [music] heart. A prodal [music] now redeemed. From where I was to where now redeemed. From where I was to where now redeemed. From where I was to where I'm now, it's overwhelming. The more and more I see you move [music] The more and more I see you move [music] all around me. Oh, I can't help but all around me. Oh, I can't help but all around me. Oh, I can't help but praise you. Praise you, Lord. [music] praise you. Praise you, Lord. [music] praise you. Praise you, Lord. [music] I can't help but lift up [music] I can't help but lift up [music] I can't help but lift up [music] shouts of joy. shouts of joy. shouts of joy. >> [music] >> [music] >> [music] >> When I think about how good you've been, >> When I think about how good you've been, >> When I think about how good you've been, faithful now to the end. Oh, [music] I faithful now to the end. Oh, [music] I faithful now to the end. Oh, [music] I can't help but praise you. Praise you, can't help but praise you. Praise you, can't help but praise you. Praise you, Lord.

Heat. Heat. [music] [music] [music] Heat. Heat. >> Oh, I can't help but [music] I'm free. I >> Oh, I can't help but [music] I'm free. I know she's on me. I'm here to redeem. know she's on me. I'm here to redeem. know she's on me. I'm here to redeem. [music] [music] [music] Oh, I can't help but call on the day Oh, I can't help but call on the day Oh, I can't help but call on the day that bury my sh. that bury my sh. that bury my sh. Oh, I can't [music] help but I'm free Oh, I can't [music] help but I'm free Oh, I can't [music] help but I'm free on me. I can't [music] on me. I can't [music] on me. I can't [music] Heat. Heat. [music] [music] Heat. Heat.

Praise you. [music] Praise you. [music] I can't praise you. Praise you. [music] I can't help praise you. Praise you, I can't help praise you. Praise you, Lord. Lord. Lord. [music] I can't help but praise you. Praise you, I can't help but praise you. Praise you, Lord. [singing] Lord. [singing] Lord. [singing] Oh, I can't help but lift some shouts of Oh, I can't help but lift some shouts of Oh, I can't help but lift some shouts of joy. Cuz when I think of how good you've Cuz when I think of how good you've been, faithful now. been, faithful now. been, faithful now. Oh, I can't help praise you. Praise you, Oh, I can't help praise you. Praise you, Oh, I can't help praise you. Praise you, Lord. Lord. Lord. No, I can't help but praise [music] you. No, I can't help but praise [music] you. No, I can't help but praise [music] you. Praise you, oh [singing] we praise you, [music] Lord.

we praise you, [music] Lord. >> Come on, Lake Point family. Why don't we >> Come on, Lake Point family. Why don't we >> Come on, Lake Point family. Why don't we go ahead and praise the name of the Lord go ahead and praise the name of the Lord go ahead and praise the name of the Lord our God, Jesus Christ, his son. What a our God, Jesus Christ, his son. What a our God, Jesus Christ, his son. What a wonderful, wonderful name it is. The wonderful, wonderful name it is. The wonderful, wonderful name it is. The Bible says in Proverbs 18:10 that the Bible says in Proverbs 18:10 that the Bible says in Proverbs 18:10 that the name of the Lord is a strong tower and name of the Lord is a strong tower and name of the Lord is a strong tower and the righteous run in and they are safe. the righteous run in and they are safe. the righteous run in and they are safe. So in this moment we're going to So in this moment we're going to So in this moment we're going to continue lifting up the name of Jesus in continue lifting up the name of Jesus in continue lifting up the name of Jesus in worship and adoration. [music] So come worship and adoration. [music] So come worship and adoration. [music] So come on, let's sing together. on, let's sing together. on, let's sing together. I could sing [music] I could sing [music] I could sing [music] your name for all my [singing] life and your name for all my [singing] life and your name for all my [singing] life and still [music] still [music] still [music] find more [singing] love each time. find more [singing] love each time. find more [singing] love each time. >> Jesus, your name ever. [music] >> Jesus, your name ever. [music] >> Jesus, your name ever. [music] >> Sweeter every time that I call. >> Sweeter every time that I call. >> Sweeter every time that I call. Sweeter [music] every time that I call. Sweeter [music] every time that I call. Sweeter [music] every time that I call. There's just something about your name. There's just something about your name. There's just something about your name. [music] [music] [music] There's just something about your name.

There's just something about your name. There's just something about your name. Come on, lift it up. There's just Come on, lift it up. There's just Come on, lift it up. There's just something about your name [music] something about your name [music] something about your name [music] that makes me cry. There is no other name. There is no other name. There is no other name. [music] No, there is no other name. No, there is no other name. Jesus, [music] you're worthy. Jesus, [music] you're worthy. Jesus, [music] you're worthy. Oh, Oh, Oh, you have been the [music] friend who you have been the [music] friend who you have been the [music] friend who never never never let I won't forget [music] let I won't forget [music] let I won't forget [music] your faithfulness. Jesus [music] be the day ever. Jesus [music] be the day ever. Sweeter every time that I fall. Sweeter every time that I fall. Sweeter every time that I fall. Sweeter every [music] time I wake you Sweeter every [music] time I wake you Sweeter every [music] time I wake you up. There's just something. There's just up. There's just something. There's just up. There's just something. There's just something about your name. [music] something about your name. [music] something about your name. [music] There's something about your name. There's something about your name. There's something about your name. There's something [music] about your There's something [music] about your There's something [music] about your name name name that makes me cry.

>> [music] >> [music] >> There is no there is no [music] there is no [music] Jesus. this morning. Let's lift up our praise this morning. Let's lift up our praise to the King of Kings. Come on, let's to the King of Kings. Come on, let's to the King of Kings. Come on, let's sing. Oh Jesus, your name is like sing. Oh Jesus, your name is like sing. Oh Jesus, your name is like [music] the morning light. The one in [music] the morning light. The one in [music] the morning light. The one in darkness can the resurrection darkness can the resurrection darkness can the resurrection and [music] life. Jesus.

and [music] life. Jesus. and [music] life. Jesus. Jesus your name Jesus your name Jesus your name your name can [music] heal your name your name can [music] heal your name your name can [music] heal your name the storm still you never fail the storm still you never fail the storm still you never fail [music] [music] [music] Jesus Jesus Jesus Jesus the braus Yeah. Yeah. [music] Heat. [music] [music] Heat. Heat. Heat.

Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] [music] [music] Heat. Heat. [music] [music] Yes. You get all of the glory. You get all of the glory. You [music] get all of the praise. You [music] get all of the praise. You [music] get all of the praise. You get all of the glory. [music] You get all of the glory. [music] You get all of the glory. [music] Oh, Oh, Oh, Lakewood family. In this moment, can I Lakewood family. In this moment, can I Lakewood family. In this moment, can I invite you to lift your hands towards invite you to lift your hands towards invite you to lift your hands towards heaven and begin to [music] speak out heaven and begin to [music] speak out heaven and begin to [music] speak out the words that we've just sung? Say, the words that we've just sung? Say, the words that we've just sung? Say, Jesus, you get the glory with my life. Jesus, you get the glory with my life. Jesus, you get the glory with my life. You get the glory with my family and in You get the glory with my family and in You get the glory with my family and in everything I do. [music] Come on, speak everything I do. [music] Come on, speak everything I do. [music] Come on, speak that out to Jesus.

that out to Jesus. that out to Jesus. He gets all of the glory, all the He gets all of the glory, all the He gets all of the glory, all the worship. worship. worship. Yes, Jesus. [music] We hold nothing back Yes, Jesus. [music] We hold nothing back Yes, Jesus. [music] We hold nothing back in this moment. We surrender absolutely in this moment. We surrender absolutely in this moment. We surrender absolutely everything to you because you are worthy everything to you because you are worthy everything to you because you are worthy of it all. of it all. of it all. You are worthy of it all, Jesus. You are worthy of it all, Jesus. You are worthy of it all, Jesus. We lay everything down. Come on, let's We lay everything down. Come on, let's We lay everything down. Come on, let's continue in worship. continue in worship. continue in worship. Shall we [music] fall down, Shall we [music] fall down, Shall we [music] fall down, we lay our crowns we lay our crowns we lay our crowns at the feet of [music] Jesus. of [music] Jesus. >> The greatness of mercy, the greatness >> The greatness of mercy, the greatness >> The greatness of mercy, the greatness [singing] [singing] [singing] of of of [music] mercy and love [music] mercy and love [music] mercy and love at the feet of Jesus. of Jesus. >> We [music] sing. We fall down. We lay it >> We [music] sing. We fall down. We lay it >> We [music] sing. We fall down. We lay it over. over. over. >> We fall down. [music] We lay our grounds >> We fall down. [music] We lay our grounds >> We fall down. [music] We lay our grounds at the feet of Jesus. [music] Of Jesus.

at the feet of Jesus. [music] Of Jesus. at the feet of Jesus. [music] Of Jesus. >> The great song. The great mercy [music] and love mercy [music] and love at the feet at the feet at the feet of Jesus. of Jesus. of Jesus. >> So we [music] cry holy. >> So we [music] cry holy. >> So we [music] cry holy. So we cry holy, holy. [singing] So we cry holy, holy. [singing] So we cry holy, holy. [singing] >> Come on. This is your song. This is your >> Come on. This is your song. This is your >> Come on. This is your song. This is your [music] song. We cry holy. And we cry [music] song. We cry holy. And we cry [music] song. We cry holy. And we cry holy, holy, [music] holy, holy, [music] holy, holy, [music] holy. holy. holy. We cry holy, holy, We cry holy, holy, We cry holy, holy, holy [music] is the lamb. Holy is the lamb now and is the lamb. Holy is the lamb now and forever more. [music] We cry holy. We forever more. [music] We cry holy. We forever more. [music] We cry holy. We cry holy. We are [music] Heat.

Heat. [music] Heat. Heat. [music] [music] [music] Holy, holy, Holy, holy, Holy, holy, holy holy holy is the lamb. is the lamb. is the lamb. [music] One more time we sing. We cry [music] One more time we sing. We cry [music] One more time we sing. We cry holy. We cry. Yes, we cry holy. Holy. holy. We cry. Yes, we cry holy. Holy. holy. We cry. Yes, we cry holy. Holy. Sing it out. We cry holy. We cry holy. Sing it out. We cry holy. We cry holy. Sing it out. We cry holy. We cry holy. [music] [music] [music] Holy. [singing] Holy. [singing] Holy. [singing] Holy. Holy. Holy. We [music] cry holy. We [music] cry holy. >> [singing] >> Holy, >> Holy, >> Holy, holy holy holy is the lamb. [music] is the lamb. [music] is the lamb. [music] Come on, we celebrate the one who is Come on, we celebrate the one who is Come on, we celebrate the one who is holy now, [music] forever and ever more.

holy now, [music] forever and ever more. holy now, [music] forever and ever more. The king of kings, worthy is the lamb, The king of kings, worthy is the lamb, The king of kings, worthy is the lamb, seated upon [music] the throne. Holy is seated upon [music] the throne. Holy is seated upon [music] the throne. Holy is the Lord God Almighty. Amen. Amen. Amen. the Lord God Almighty. Amen. Amen. Amen. the Lord God Almighty. Amen. Amen. Amen. [music] Family, it's a joy to worship [music] Family, it's a joy to worship [music] Family, it's a joy to worship Jesus with you. Can go ahead and take a Jesus with you. Can go ahead and take a Jesus with you. Can go ahead and take a seat. And in this moment, let's seat. And in this moment, let's seat. And in this moment, let's celebrate with those declaring [music] celebrate with those declaring [music] celebrate with those declaring [music] their faith in Jesus Christ through their faith in Jesus Christ through their faith in Jesus Christ through baptism. baptism. baptism. >> That's right. We're going to continue to >> That's right. We're going to continue to >> That's right. We're going to continue to worship together through [music] the worship together through [music] the worship together through [music] the celebration of baptisms and we're going celebration of baptisms and we're going celebration of baptisms and we're going to get it started here with my friend to get it started here with my friend to get it started here with my friend Mark. So Mark, question for you, Mark. So Mark, question for you, Mark. So Mark, question for you, brother. Have you put your trust in brother. Have you put your trust in brother. Have you put your trust in Jesus as the Lord and Savior of your Jesus as the Lord and Savior of your Jesus as the Lord and Savior of your life? life? life? Amazing. Well, because of that, it is Amazing. Well, because of that, it is Amazing. Well, because of that, it is going to be my honor to baptize you in going to be my honor to baptize you in going to be my honor to baptize you in the name of the Father, the Son, and the the name of the Father, the Son, and the the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Come on. Come on. And now what a privilege your your And now what a privilege your your And now what a privilege your your daughter Alice is here as well to make daughter Alice is here as well to make daughter Alice is here as well to make the same declaration of faith. So Alice, the same declaration of faith. So Alice, the same declaration of faith. So Alice, the question is the same for you. Have the question is the same for you. Have the question is the same for you. Have you put your trust in Jesus as the Lord you put your trust in Jesus as the Lord you put your trust in Jesus as the Lord and Savior of your life? and Savior of your life? and Savior of your life? >> Incredible. Well, because of that, it's >> Incredible. Well, because of that, it's >> Incredible. Well, because of that, it's your dad's honor to baptize you in the your dad's honor to baptize you in the your dad's honor to baptize you in the name of the Father, the Son, and Holy name of the Father, the Son, and Holy name of the Father, the Son, and Holy Spirit.

Spirit. Spirit. [snorts] >> Amazing. Praise God. Praise God. >> Amazing. Praise God. Praise God. Congratulations, guys. And now we've got Congratulations, guys. And now we've got Congratulations, guys. And now we've got my friend Rue. Let's go. Ru, the my friend Rue. Let's go. Ru, the my friend Rue. Let's go. Ru, the question is the same for you. Have you question is the same for you. Have you question is the same for you. Have you put your trust in Jesus as the Lord and put your trust in Jesus as the Lord and put your trust in Jesus as the Lord and Savior of your life? Savior of your life? Savior of your life? >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Well, because of that, it is my honor to >> Well, because of that, it is my honor to >> Well, because of that, it is my honor to baptize you in the name of the Father, baptize you in the name of the Father, baptize you in the name of the Father, the Son, and Holy Spirit. >> Well, hey, church online. We are >> Well, hey, church online. We are wrapping up our best of summer series wrapping up our best of summer series wrapping up our best of summer series with a big one. And I am so excited with a big one. And I am so excited with a big one. And I am so excited because this one right here is coming because this one right here is coming because this one right here is coming from our love life series. We are from our love life series. We are from our love life series. We are bringing back the [music] building bringing back the [music] building bringing back the [music] building blocks for godly dating, single, and blocks for godly dating, single, and blocks for godly dating, single, and married. And here's the heart of it. married. And here's the heart of it. married. And here's the heart of it. From building your relationship in the From building your relationship in the From building your relationship in the right order to protecting and right order to protecting and right order to protecting and strengthening and also leading well strengthening and also leading well strengthening and also leading well years into marriage, this message speaks years into marriage, this message speaks years into marriage, this message speaks to every season. And by the way, for our to every season. And by the way, for our to every season. And by the way, for our parents with young children, this series parents with young children, this series parents with young children, this series right here is deemed PG11. So you may right here is deemed PG11. So you may right here is deemed PG11. So you may want to have some other activities for want to have some other activities for want to have some other activities for those young ears at home joining you those young ears at home joining you those young ears at home joining you [music] right now. Also in this sermon [music] right now. Also in this sermon [music] right now. Also in this sermon we will see that at discipline life we will see that at discipline life we will see that at discipline life doesn't grow in isolation. You need doesn't grow in isolation. You need doesn't grow in isolation. You need people around you who know your name, people around you who know your name, people around you who know your name, pray for you and keep you anchored when pray for you and keep you anchored when pray for you and keep you anchored when the world feels uncertain and when life the world feels uncertain and when life the world feels uncertain and when life gets tough, man, that's what you need gets tough, man, that's what you need gets tough, man, that's what you need people with you for. And that's honestly people with you for. And that's honestly people with you for. And that's honestly what the local church is for. People what the local church is for. People what the local church is for. People here are meeting Jesus, getting here are meeting Jesus, getting here are meeting Jesus, getting baptized, and taking real next steps. By baptized, and taking real next steps. By baptized, and taking real next steps. By the grace of God, campuses are growing the grace of God, campuses are growing the grace of God, campuses are growing and soon we will be expanding further and soon we will be expanding further and soon we will be expanding further into Colin County as the Lakeoint family

into Colin County as the Lakeoint family into Colin County as the Lakeoint family moves to Lucas, Texas. And here's what moves to Lucas, Texas. And here's what moves to Lucas, Texas. And here's what you need to know. It is because of your you need to know. It is because of your you need to know. It is because of your generosity that we see what we're seeing generosity that we see what we're seeing generosity that we see what we're seeing right now happening at Lakepoint Church. right now happening at Lakepoint Church. right now happening at Lakepoint Church. And so, if you want to be a part of what And so, if you want to be a part of what And so, if you want to be a part of what God is doing through Lake, you can give God is doing through Lake, you can give God is doing through Lake, you can give anytime by texting the word give to anytime by texting the word give to anytime by texting the word give to 2041. 2041. 2041. Or you can also visit lakpoint.urch/g. Now, here's your next step. If you are Now, here's your next step. If you are here joining us right now and you're in here joining us right now and you're in here joining us right now and you're in the DFW area, come see us in person. the DFW area, come see us in person. the DFW area, come see us in person. There's nothing like being in the room There's nothing like being in the room There's nothing like being in the room with the people of God. So find a campus with the people of God. So find a campus with the people of God. So find a campus near you at lakpoint.urch/loations. near you at lakpoint.urch/loations. near you at lakpoint.urch/loations. And if you are outside of the DFWA area, And if you are outside of the DFWA area, And if you are outside of the DFWA area, we want to encourage you to get planted we want to encourage you to get planted we want to encourage you to get planted in a Bible believing church near you. in a Bible believing church near you. in a Bible believing church near you. Text the word map to 2041 and you will Text the word map to 2041 and you will Text the word map to 2041 and you will find a church Lake Point has [music] find a church Lake Point has [music] find a church Lake Point has [music] planted. Hey, uh let's not waste a planted. Hey, uh let's not waste a planted. Hey, uh let's not waste a single day. Let's live on purpose single day. Let's live on purpose single day. Let's live on purpose together. together. together. All >> right. Well, good morning, Lake family.

>> right. Well, good morning, Lake family. And if you guys got your Bibles, um, And if you guys got your Bibles, um, And if you guys got your Bibles, um, head over to Song of Solomon, chapters 2 head over to Song of Solomon, chapters 2 head over to Song of Solomon, chapters 2 and three. That's going to be today. and three. That's going to be today. and three. That's going to be today. Well, hey, we are in week three of a Well, hey, we are in week three of a Well, hey, we are in week three of a series that we're just calling Love series that we're just calling Love series that we're just calling Love Life, where we're preaching verse by Life, where we're preaching verse by Life, where we're preaching verse by verse, chapter by chapter through a book verse, chapter by chapter through a book verse, chapter by chapter through a book of the Bible. It's very interesting book of the Bible. It's very interesting book of the Bible. It's very interesting book of the Bible called Song of Songs. And of the Bible called Song of Songs. And of the Bible called Song of Songs. And here's what this book is. Um, for those here's what this book is. Um, for those here's what this book is. Um, for those of us who are are newer to this book, of us who are are newer to this book, of us who are are newer to this book, it's just like we call Jesus King of it's just like we call Jesus King of it's just like we call Jesus King of Kings cuz he's the greatest king and Kings cuz he's the greatest king and Kings cuz he's the greatest king and Lord of Lords cuz he's the Lord over all Lord of Lords cuz he's the Lord over all Lord of Lords cuz he's the Lord over all the other lords. Um Solomon in the the other lords. Um Solomon in the the other lords. Um Solomon in the Bible, a king, wrote a thousand5 songs. Bible, a king, wrote a thousand5 songs. Bible, a king, wrote a thousand5 songs. And then there was this one song that And then there was this one song that And then there was this one song that God pointed to and went that's the song God pointed to and went that's the song God pointed to and went that's the song of songs. That's the one above all the of songs. That's the one above all the of songs. That's the one above all the other songs. And it's about romance, other songs. And it's about romance, other songs. And it's about romance, dating, sex, marriage, all the things. dating, sex, marriage, all the things. dating, sex, marriage, all the things. And so we are leaning in to that and And so we are leaning in to that and And so we are leaning in to that and preaching through it. And let me just go preaching through it. And let me just go preaching through it. And let me just go ahead and lay this principle down. Um if ahead and lay this principle down. Um if ahead and lay this principle down. Um if you are in any way have struggled with you are in any way have struggled with you are in any way have struggled with with parts of this series, I'm just with parts of this series, I'm just with parts of this series, I'm just going to tell you why. Here's why. Um going to tell you why. Here's why. Um going to tell you why. Here's why. Um because here here's our principle is because here here's our principle is because here here's our principle is that God has a plan to bless your life that God has a plan to bless your life that God has a plan to bless your life and your marriage and Satan has a plan and your marriage and Satan has a plan and your marriage and Satan has a plan to steal, kill, and destroy your life to steal, kill, and destroy your life to steal, kill, and destroy your life and marriage. And ultimately, you get to and marriage. And ultimately, you get to and marriage. And ultimately, you get to decide which plan you're on. God's plan decide which plan you're on. God's plan decide which plan you're on. God's plan to bless your marriage is in his word.

to bless your marriage is in his word. to bless your marriage is in his word. And Satan's plan to curse your marriage And Satan's plan to curse your marriage And Satan's plan to curse your marriage is in the world. And ultimately, you is in the world. And ultimately, you is in the world. And ultimately, you have to decide which one stands in have to decide which one stands in have to decide which one stands in authority over the other. Does what the authority over the other. Does what the authority over the other. Does what the word says stand in authority over what word says stand in authority over what word says stand in authority over what the world says and judge it and say that the world says and judge it and say that the world says and judge it and say that it's wrong and evaluate it? Or are you a it's wrong and evaluate it? Or are you a it's wrong and evaluate it? Or are you a person that's going to prioritize what person that's going to prioritize what person that's going to prioritize what the world says over what the word says? the world says over what the word says? the world says over what the word says? And the world's opinion judges the word And the world's opinion judges the word And the world's opinion judges the word and says what is right and wrong in it. and says what is right and wrong in it. and says what is right and wrong in it. And ultimately, if you follow God's And ultimately, if you follow God's And ultimately, if you follow God's plan, it leads to blessing. And if you plan, it leads to blessing. And if you plan, it leads to blessing. And if you follow Satan's plan, there is only one follow Satan's plan, there is only one follow Satan's plan, there is only one thing that he wants to ever, ever, ever thing that he wants to ever, ever, ever thing that he wants to ever, ever, ever do is he wants to steal, kill, and do is he wants to steal, kill, and do is he wants to steal, kill, and destroy everything you hold dear. Very destroy everything you hold dear. Very destroy everything you hold dear. Very much including your marriage and your much including your marriage and your much including your marriage and your family. And so in this series, what family. And so in this series, what family. And so in this series, what we're doing is we're just walking we're doing is we're just walking we're doing is we're just walking through and going, "Okay, what's God's through and going, "Okay, what's God's through and going, "Okay, what's God's God's plan for this?" Now, here's what God's plan for this?" Now, here's what God's plan for this?" Now, here's what we're doing in week three. This week, we're doing in week three. This week, we're doing in week three. This week, we're going to talk uh we're going to we're going to talk uh we're going to we're going to talk uh we're going to talk about dating and pursuits. Now, talk about dating and pursuits. Now, talk about dating and pursuits. Now, quick heads up. Um if you are especially quick heads up. Um if you are especially quick heads up. Um if you are especially a guy who hears that and you're like, a guy who hears that and you're like, a guy who hears that and you're like, "Dating? I don't hear about dating. I'm "Dating? I don't hear about dating. I'm "Dating? I don't hear about dating. I'm already married. I I'm already done with already married. I I'm already done with already married. I I'm already done with that." I have just figured out what is that." I have just figured out what is that." I have just figured out what is wrong with your marriage. I can tell you wrong with your marriage. I can tell you wrong with your marriage. I can tell you right now exactly what's wrong with your right now exactly what's wrong with your right now exactly what's wrong with your marriage. We We can figure that out marriage. We We can figure that out marriage. We We can figure that out later. But, um it was interesting in later. But, um it was interesting in later. But, um it was interesting in getting ready for this message. You getting ready for this message. You getting ready for this message. You know, me and Jana, we take our little know, me and Jana, we take our little know, me and Jana, we take our little walk every night and we'll talk through walk every night and we'll talk through walk every night and we'll talk through the sermons. And so J told me this and the sermons. And so J told me this and the sermons. And so J told me this and and um and we I we started talking about and um and we I we started talking about and um and we I we started talking about us dating. So just for fun, um I'm going us dating. So just for fun, um I'm going us dating. So just for fun, um I'm going to show you I think the only picture to show you I think the only picture to show you I think the only picture that we have from the ent we only dated that we have from the ent we only dated that we have from the ent we only dated for 4 months. Uh from the entire time we for 4 months. Uh from the entire time we for 4 months. Uh from the entire time we dated. Um so here it is. This is the dated. Um so here it is. This is the dated. Um so here it is. This is the only picture I'm aware of of us dating.

only picture I'm aware of of us dating. only picture I'm aware of of us dating. I know some of you are aing and some of I know some of you are aing and some of I know some of you are aing and some of you are laughing. The ones that are you are laughing. The ones that are you are laughing. The ones that are laughing are looking to the left side of laughing are looking to the left side of laughing are looking to the left side of the picture and the ones that are awing the picture and the ones that are awing the picture and the ones that are awing are looking to the right side of the are looking to the right side of the are looking to the right side of the picture. Now I just want to point a picture. Now I just want to point a picture. Now I just want to point a couple things out. Um number one, that's couple things out. Um number one, that's couple things out. Um number one, that's 50 lbs ago for me. That's number one. 50 lbs ago for me. That's number one. 50 lbs ago for me. That's number one. And number two, um, I grew into my And number two, um, I grew into my And number two, um, I grew into my eyebrows. Uh, that's great. Love that. eyebrows. Uh, that's great. Love that. eyebrows. Uh, that's great. Love that. It's great. Love that. I've never met It's great. Love that. I've never met It's great. Love that. I've never met anybody else who had to grow into their anybody else who had to grow into their anybody else who had to grow into their eyebrows, but I did. The other thing I eyebrows, but I did. The other thing I eyebrows, but I did. The other thing I want to point out is I am virtually want to point out is I am virtually want to point out is I am virtually unrecognizable. unrecognizable. unrecognizable. And Jana looks exactly the same. Like And Jana looks exactly the same. Like And Jana looks exactly the same. Like literally exact. It's freakishly the literally exact. It's freakishly the literally exact. It's freakishly the same. She might be a vampire, red-headed same. She might be a vampire, red-headed same. She might be a vampire, red-headed vampire. vampire. vampire. So, uh, and you know, here's your So, uh, and you know, here's your So, uh, and you know, here's your principle is that, um, women age like principle is that, um, women age like principle is that, um, women age like wine and men age like milk. And that is wine and men age like milk. And that is wine and men age like milk. And that is very, very clear. Okay. So, here's what very, very clear. Okay. So, here's what very, very clear. Okay. So, here's what we're going to do. We're going to get we're going to do. We're going to get we're going to do. We're going to get right into this and talk about, um, talk right into this and talk about, um, talk right into this and talk about, um, talk about pursuit and dating. Okay. So, here about pursuit and dating. Okay. So, here about pursuit and dating. Okay. So, here we go. Uh, here we go. Chapter 2, we go. Uh, here we go. Chapter 2, we go. Uh, here we go. Chapter 2, starting in verse 10. The woman in the starting in verse 10. The woman in the starting in verse 10. The woman in the passage again, all this book is is a a passage again, all this book is is a a passage again, all this book is is a a king and a country girl with a farmer king and a country girl with a farmer king and a country girl with a farmer stand. They fall in love, sing songs to stand. They fall in love, sing songs to stand. They fall in love, sing songs to each other. That's the whole book.

each other. That's the whole book. each other. That's the whole book. Chapter 2:10. What you got is the woman Chapter 2:10. What you got is the woman Chapter 2:10. What you got is the woman is singing and she says this, "My is singing and she says this, "My is singing and she says this, "My beloved spoke and said to me," arise my beloved spoke and said to me," arise my beloved spoke and said to me," arise my darling. So this is what he says. Arise darling. So this is what he says. Arise darling. So this is what he says. Arise my darling, my beautiful one, and come my darling, my beautiful one, and come my darling, my beautiful one, and come with me. Notice this. It is the man. with me. Notice this. It is the man. with me. Notice this. It is the man. It's the future husband. And he does It's the future husband. And he does It's the future husband. And he does this after the marriage in the book. He this after the marriage in the book. He this after the marriage in the book. He is the one that is primarily initiating is the one that is primarily initiating is the one that is primarily initiating in the relationship. So, principle in the relationship. So, principle in the relationship. So, principle number one, in a godly relationship, a number one, in a godly relationship, a number one, in a godly relationship, a husband pursues his wife. Now, I'm going husband pursues his wife. Now, I'm going husband pursues his wife. Now, I'm going to talk about ladies in a second, but to talk about ladies in a second, but to talk about ladies in a second, but principle number one, a husband pursues principle number one, a husband pursues principle number one, a husband pursues his wife. Okay? Now, when I say pursue, his wife. Okay? Now, when I say pursue, his wife. Okay? Now, when I say pursue, we we're talking about dating. It we we're talking about dating. It we we're talking about dating. It doesn't have to be like literal actual doesn't have to be like literal actual doesn't have to be like literal actual date. You just need to figure it out date. You just need to figure it out date. You just need to figure it out what works for you. But there needs to what works for you. But there needs to what works for you. But there needs to be something in your marriage where it's be something in your marriage where it's be something in your marriage where it's like, hey, I am pursuing her. We are like, hey, I am pursuing her. We are like, hey, I am pursuing her. We are spending relational time together. And spending relational time together. And spending relational time together. And I'm going to talk about what the Bible I'm going to talk about what the Bible I'm going to talk about what the Bible says that needs to look like. Now, what says that needs to look like. Now, what says that needs to look like. Now, what I have learned in just how I am as a as I have learned in just how I am as a as I have learned in just how I am as a as a guy and what I've learned talking to a guy and what I've learned talking to a guy and what I've learned talking to dudes is you can't just tell men like dudes is you can't just tell men like dudes is you can't just tell men like what to do. It's like they got to know what to do. It's like they got to know what to do. It's like they got to know why, you know, lose your why, lose your why, you know, lose your why, lose your why, you know, lose your why, lose your way. So, husbands, let me help you out.

way. So, husbands, let me help you out. way. So, husbands, let me help you out. I want to I want to point out four I want to I want to point out four I want to I want to point out four things that we are doing when we date things that we are doing when we date things that we are doing when we date our wives. Four things that happen when our wives. Four things that happen when our wives. Four things that happen when we date our wives. Help us establish the we date our wives. Help us establish the we date our wives. Help us establish the wives. Here we go. Number one, when a wives. Here we go. Number one, when a wives. Here we go. Number one, when a husband dates his wife, number one, you husband dates his wife, number one, you husband dates his wife, number one, you are misery proofing your wife. You're are misery proofing your wife. You're are misery proofing your wife. You're misery proofing your wife. Okay? which misery proofing your wife. Okay? which misery proofing your wife. Okay? which is kind of a big deal. Kind of a big is kind of a big deal. Kind of a big is kind of a big deal. Kind of a big deal. Now, here's what I mean. Um, well, deal. Now, here's what I mean. Um, well, deal. Now, here's what I mean. Um, well, the Bible says that a uh that a a a the Bible says that a uh that a a a the Bible says that a uh that a a a godly wife, a good wife, is like a godly wife, a good wife, is like a godly wife, a good wife, is like a well-watered garden. Husbands, if I look well-watered garden. Husbands, if I look well-watered garden. Husbands, if I look at a woman, ultimately over time, your at a woman, ultimately over time, your at a woman, ultimately over time, your wife is your resume. Ultimately, over wife is your resume. Ultimately, over wife is your resume. Ultimately, over time, your wife is your resume. So, if I time, your wife is your resume. So, if I time, your wife is your resume. So, if I look at a woman that's the longer she's look at a woman that's the longer she's look at a woman that's the longer she's married to a man, the longer she's married to a man, the longer she's married to a man, the longer she's married to him, there's a joy that married to him, there's a joy that married to him, there's a joy that grows. There's a beauty that continue to grows. There's a beauty that continue to grows. There's a beauty that continue to grows. her confidence continues to grow. grows. her confidence continues to grow. grows. her confidence continues to grow. She's growing in godliness. Um that She's growing in godliness. Um that She's growing in godliness. Um that there there's a she's moving towards a there there's a she's moving towards a there there's a she's moving towards a calling. Okay. Well, that tells me calling. Okay. Well, that tells me calling. Okay. Well, that tells me something about that man. Now, something about that man. Now, something about that man. Now, conversely, when you see a woman who the conversely, when you see a woman who the conversely, when you see a woman who the longer she's married to a man, it's like longer she's married to a man, it's like longer she's married to a man, it's like the more beaten down she is, the more the more beaten down she is, the more the more beaten down she is, the more tired, the less joy she has, is her tired, the less joy she has, is her tired, the less joy she has, is her confidence is eroded. That tells me confidence is eroded. That tells me confidence is eroded. That tells me something not just about her, it tells something not just about her, it tells something not just about her, it tells me something about that man. Why?

me something about that man. Why? me something about that man. Why? Because the way that rel the Because the way that rel the Because the way that rel the relationship works is that over time relationship works is that over time relationship works is that over time your wife becomes your resume in general your wife becomes your resume in general your wife becomes your resume in general in some ways. Okay. Now there's a in some ways. Okay. Now there's a in some ways. Okay. Now there's a theology to this. Let me go back to week theology to this. Let me go back to week theology to this. Let me go back to week one of this series so that so that we one of this series so that so that we one of this series so that so that we understand this. So in Genesis chapter 1 understand this. So in Genesis chapter 1 understand this. So in Genesis chapter 1 and 2, God creates all the things and and 2, God creates all the things and and 2, God creates all the things and then he creates a man that's alone. then he creates a man that's alone. then he creates a man that's alone. That's the only thing that God says is That's the only thing that God says is That's the only thing that God says is not good. A man alone. We all know this. not good. A man alone. We all know this. not good. A man alone. We all know this. You've seen college dorm rooms. So then You've seen college dorm rooms. So then You've seen college dorm rooms. So then what God does is he creates a watch this what God does is he creates a watch this what God does is he creates a watch this a helper that will be suitable for him. a helper that will be suitable for him. a helper that will be suitable for him. That's the Bible language. And then in That's the Bible language. And then in That's the Bible language. And then in Hebrew, he uses this language that he is Hebrew, he uses this language that he is Hebrew, he uses this language that he is creating. These are the Hebrew words. creating. These are the Hebrew words. creating. These are the Hebrew words. Azer connectto. Azer connecto. Azer Azer connectto. Azer connecto. Azer Azer connectto. Azer connecto. Azer means helper. And then condo is a weird means helper. And then condo is a weird means helper. And then condo is a weird word that's hard hard to translate. If word that's hard hard to translate. If word that's hard hard to translate. If you go back to your King James version you go back to your King James version you go back to your King James version Bible, what you're going to notice is it Bible, what you're going to notice is it Bible, what you're going to notice is it it just smashes these two words together it just smashes these two words together it just smashes these two words together and it gives the he gives the and it gives the he gives the and it gives the he gives the translation help. Bad translation. translation help. Bad translation. translation help. Bad translation. Nobody knows what the heck that means. Nobody knows what the heck that means. Nobody knows what the heck that means. So what what conneto means is it means So what what conneto means is it means So what what conneto means is it means um it means something like uh a a um it means something like uh a a um it means something like uh a a compliment. It literally means in front compliment. It literally means in front compliment. It literally means in front of. Okay. So he created a woman in front of. Okay. So he created a woman in front of. Okay. So he created a woman in front of. Now let's go back to week one and of. Now let's go back to week one and of. Now let's go back to week one and then let's make it another application.

then let's make it another application. then let's make it another application. Husbands, what this means is your Husbands, what this means is your Husbands, what this means is your marriage is going to be one of three marriage is going to be one of three marriage is going to be one of three types of marriages. And [snorts] you types of marriages. And [snorts] you types of marriages. And [snorts] you need to know which type your wife feels need to know which type your wife feels need to know which type your wife feels like she's in. Not you. Your wife feels like she's in. Not you. Your wife feels like she's in. Not you. Your wife feels like she's in. Okay. Three types of like she's in. Okay. Three types of like she's in. Okay. Three types of marriages. Back to back, side to side. marriages. Back to back, side to side. marriages. Back to back, side to side. Wait, how did I do that? Back to backs. Wait, how did I do that? Back to backs. Wait, how did I do that? Back to backs. Let me do it. Back to back, side to Let me do it. Back to back, side to Let me do it. Back to back, side to side, face to face. Back to back, side side, face to face. Back to back, side side, face to face. Back to back, side to side, face to face. In a backtoback to side, face to face. In a backtoback to side, face to face. In a backtoback marriage, this is when she gets in bed marriage, this is when she gets in bed marriage, this is when she gets in bed and she faces that way. He gets in bed and she faces that way. He gets in bed and she faces that way. He gets in bed and he faces that way. And never the and he faces that way. And never the and he faces that way. And never the twain shall meet. In fact, there's twain shall meet. In fact, there's twain shall meet. In fact, there's actually a little conflict, a little actually a little conflict, a little actually a little conflict, a little electricity, a little tension in the electricity, a little tension in the electricity, a little tension in the home. And this is where primarily home. And this is where primarily home. And this is where primarily because of unforgiveness, sin, and because of unforgiveness, sin, and because of unforgiveness, sin, and bitterness that what's happened is bitterness that what's happened is bitterness that what's happened is instead of husband and wife, it's become instead of husband and wife, it's become instead of husband and wife, it's become man versus wife. and they feel like man versus wife. and they feel like man versus wife. and they feel like enemies. Now, some people, they're not enemies. Now, some people, they're not enemies. Now, some people, they're not in a in a back backtoback marriage. in a in a back backtoback marriage. in a in a back backtoback marriage. They're in a side to side marriage. And They're in a side to side marriage. And They're in a side to side marriage. And this is where the marriage, it feels this is where the marriage, it feels this is where the marriage, it feels like, it feels like two relationally like, it feels like two relationally like, it feels like two relationally sterile co-workers. It's like he's sterile co-workers. It's like he's sterile co-workers. It's like he's moving this way and she's moving this moving this way and she's moving this moving this way and she's moving this way. We work on projects. We're getting way. We work on projects. We're getting way. We work on projects. We're getting stuff done, chores. I'm in a a season of stuff done, chores. I'm in a a season of stuff done, chores. I'm in a a season of life where I'm like a professional life where I'm like a professional life where I'm like a professional chauffeur for my kids like 70% of the chauffeur for my kids like 70% of the chauffeur for my kids like 70% of the time. You're in that season of life.

time. You're in that season of life. time. You're in that season of life. Okay. But there's no time for intimacy Okay. But there's no time for intimacy Okay. But there's no time for intimacy emotionally, physically, relationally. emotionally, physically, relationally. emotionally, physically, relationally. And so it just feels like co-workers. And so it just feels like co-workers. And so it just feels like co-workers. We're just getting stuff done. Okay? But We're just getting stuff done. Okay? But We're just getting stuff done. Okay? But then whenever God creates the marriage, then whenever God creates the marriage, then whenever God creates the marriage, watch this. He creates a helper that's watch this. He creates a helper that's watch this. He creates a helper that's face to face that's in front of Adam. So face to face that's in front of Adam. So face to face that's in front of Adam. So what we want is a marriage that's face what we want is a marriage that's face what we want is a marriage that's face to face. Okay? Now intimacy, it's marked to face. Okay? Now intimacy, it's marked to face. Okay? Now intimacy, it's marked by intimacy. Intimacy just means into me by intimacy. Intimacy just means into me by intimacy. Intimacy just means into me see. In fact, watch this definition of see. In fact, watch this definition of see. In fact, watch this definition of the relational nature of a godly the relational nature of a godly the relational nature of a godly marriage. In Song of Solomon 5:16, it marriage. In Song of Solomon 5:16, it marriage. In Song of Solomon 5:16, it says this. His kisses are sweet. I says this. His kisses are sweet. I says this. His kisses are sweet. I desire him so much. Young women of desire him so much. Young women of desire him so much. Young women of Jerusalem, watch this. He is my lover Jerusalem, watch this. He is my lover Jerusalem, watch this. He is my lover and he is my friend. A lover and a and he is my friend. A lover and a and he is my friend. A lover and a friend. These two things, it's a face friend. These two things, it's a face friend. These two things, it's a face tof face marriage. We're seeing into tof face marriage. We're seeing into tof face marriage. We're seeing into each other's souls. We're spending time each other's souls. We're spending time each other's souls. We're spending time with each other. We're enjoying with each other. We're enjoying with each other. We're enjoying physical, relational, emotional physical, relational, emotional physical, relational, emotional intimacy. This is a face-to-face intimacy. This is a face-to-face intimacy. This is a face-to-face marriage. So, he is my lover. He is my marriage. So, he is my lover. He is my marriage. So, he is my lover. He is my friend. The Bible literally says that a friend. The Bible literally says that a friend. The Bible literally says that a great marriage is friends with benefits.

great marriage is friends with benefits. great marriage is friends with benefits. That's what you have right here. That's That's what you have right here. That's That's what you have right here. That's number one. Okay. Number two, husbands. number one. Okay. Number two, husbands. number one. Okay. Number two, husbands. Now, I need everybody to make sure you Now, I need everybody to make sure you Now, I need everybody to make sure you do not misinterpret what I'm about to do not misinterpret what I'm about to do not misinterpret what I'm about to say. So, I'm going to talk about what say. So, I'm going to talk about what say. So, I'm going to talk about what this does not mean. Husbands, what we're this does not mean. Husbands, what we're this does not mean. Husbands, what we're also trying to do is a fair proof your also trying to do is a fair proof your also trying to do is a fair proof your marriage. Now, here's my disclaimer. You marriage. Now, here's my disclaimer. You marriage. Now, here's my disclaimer. You are never responsible for somebody are never responsible for somebody are never responsible for somebody else's sin. Their sin is their fault. So else's sin. Their sin is their fault. So else's sin. Their sin is their fault. So if your spouse has cheated on you, does if your spouse has cheated on you, does if your spouse has cheated on you, does not matter what you did. Their decision not matter what you did. Their decision not matter what you did. Their decision was their sin and not your fault. was their sin and not your fault. was their sin and not your fault. Understood? Now listen to me. God will Understood? Now listen to me. God will Understood? Now listen to me. God will judge them for that. Hold them judge them for that. Hold them judge them for that. Hold them responsible for their thing. He's going responsible for their thing. He's going responsible for their thing. He's going to hold you responsible for your things. to hold you responsible for your things. to hold you responsible for your things. Now that being said, what I'm talking Now that being said, what I'm talking Now that being said, what I'm talking about here is the dynamic. It's speaking about here is the dynamic. It's speaking about here is the dynamic. It's speaking to our desire to remove any opportunity to our desire to remove any opportunity to our desire to remove any opportunity for Satan to get a foothold in our for Satan to get a foothold in our for Satan to get a foothold in our marriages as far as it depends on us. marriages as far as it depends on us. marriages as far as it depends on us. Okay? So, here's [snorts] what I mean. Okay? So, here's [snorts] what I mean. Okay? So, here's [snorts] what I mean. Husbands, just in a straightforward way, Husbands, just in a straightforward way, Husbands, just in a straightforward way, date your wife before somebody else date your wife before somebody else date your wife before somebody else tries to. If you dated her to get tries to. If you dated her to get tries to. If you dated her to get married to her, date her to stay married married to her, date her to stay married married to her, date her to stay married to her. This is what we do. Now, I I'll to her. This is what we do. Now, I I'll to her. This is what we do. Now, I I'll just I'll give an example. I I got a just I'll give an example. I I got a just I'll give an example. I I got a bunch of of areas in my life where bunch of of areas in my life where bunch of of areas in my life where honestly, man, I I'm just as in need of honestly, man, I I'm just as in need of honestly, man, I I'm just as in need of the grace of Jesus as you. Like, man, the grace of Jesus as you. Like, man, the grace of Jesus as you. Like, man, I'm failing forward in a million things I'm failing forward in a million things I'm failing forward in a million things and that kind of thing. I got areas and that kind of thing. I got areas and that kind of thing. I got areas where I I need to grow, but man, by the where I I need to grow, but man, by the where I I need to grow, but man, by the by the grace of God, like the the maybe by the grace of God, like the the maybe by the grace of God, like the the maybe one area of my life that's like, man, I one area of my life that's like, man, I one area of my life that's like, man, I I I got a really good marriage. And I I I I got a really good marriage. And I I I I got a really good marriage. And I I can just tell you like I treat Jana as

can just tell you like I treat Jana as can just tell you like I treat Jana as precious because I have figured out precious because I have figured out precious because I have figured out really quick this woman is precious. really quick this woman is precious. really quick this woman is precious. Okay. Now, because of the way I treat Okay. Now, because of the way I treat Okay. Now, because of the way I treat Jana, if any man ever tried to come up Jana, if any man ever tried to come up Jana, if any man ever tried to come up in in in Jan's vicinity and like try to in in in Jan's vicinity and like try to in in in Jan's vicinity and like try to romance Janice sweeper off her feet, two romance Janice sweeper off her feet, two romance Janice sweeper off her feet, two things would happen. Number one, I'd be things would happen. Number one, I'd be things would happen. Number one, I'd be doing prison ministry from the inside. doing prison ministry from the inside. doing prison ministry from the inside. That's number one. [clears throat] Like, That's number one. [clears throat] Like, That's number one. [clears throat] Like, listen, we uh we got more than Bibles at listen, we uh we got more than Bibles at listen, we uh we got more than Bibles at the Howard House. I'll just let me just the Howard House. I'll just let me just the Howard House. I'll just let me just say, welcome to Texas. Okay, that's say, welcome to Texas. Okay, that's say, welcome to Texas. Okay, that's number one. Number one. Okay, all the number one. Number one. Okay, all the number one. Number one. Okay, all the dudes sitting on the ends of the rows dudes sitting on the ends of the rows dudes sitting on the ends of the rows like Amen. Amen. That's what they're like Amen. Amen. That's what they're like Amen. Amen. That's what they're doing. Okay, that's number one. Okay, doing. Okay, that's number one. Okay, doing. Okay, that's number one. Okay, number two. Listen, I number two, I can number two. Listen, I number two, I can number two. Listen, I number two, I can say with complete integrity with my wife say with complete integrity with my wife say with complete integrity with my wife sitting in the services, I can say this sitting in the services, I can say this sitting in the services, I can say this complete integrity. It doesn't matter complete integrity. It doesn't matter complete integrity. It doesn't matter how any man would ever try to sweep Jan how any man would ever try to sweep Jan how any man would ever try to sweep Jan off her feet. No one will ever treat her off her feet. No one will ever treat her off her feet. No one will ever treat her better than me. So, you see this? Well, better than me. So, you see this? Well, better than me. So, you see this? Well, here's what I'm saying. What? Here's here's what I'm saying. What? Here's here's what I'm saying. What? Here's what I'm saying. I'm That's not fishing what I'm saying. I'm That's not fishing what I'm saying. I'm That's not fishing for applause. That's not Well, what I'm for applause. That's not Well, what I'm for applause. That's not Well, what I'm saying is that's our goal, husbands, is saying is that's our goal, husbands, is saying is that's our goal, husbands, is we want to treat our wives in such a way we want to treat our wives in such a way we want to treat our wives in such a way that it's like, man, I'm guarding this that it's like, man, I'm guarding this that it's like, man, I'm guarding this thing. I'm treating her as precious. All thing. I'm treating her as precious. All thing. I'm treating her as precious. All right. So, here here's what happens to right. So, here here's what happens to right. So, here here's what happens to some foolish men. What foolish men do, some foolish men. What foolish men do, some foolish men. What foolish men do, you see the same story on repeat is they you see the same story on repeat is they you see the same story on repeat is they get married and they're giving her lots get married and they're giving her lots get married and they're giving her lots of attention and then they get get a of attention and then they get get a of attention and then they get get a little older and and they just get a little older and and they just get a little older and and they just get a little crusty. They stop doing the little crusty. They stop doing the little crusty. They stop doing the pursuit thing. Not there's no into me pursuit thing. Not there's no into me pursuit thing. Not there's no into me see in the relationship anymore see in the relationship anymore see in the relationship anymore physically, emotionally, spiritually.

physically, emotionally, spiritually. physically, emotionally, spiritually. There's nothing there. And then all of a There's nothing there. And then all of a There's nothing there. And then all of a sudden, because of that, because you're sudden, because of that, because you're sudden, because of that, because you're not putting in, then you know other not putting in, then you know other not putting in, then you know other things aren't happening. Well, then all things aren't happening. Well, then all things aren't happening. Well, then all of a sudden what happens is because of of a sudden what happens is because of of a sudden what happens is because of the nature of the relationship, he the nature of the relationship, he the nature of the relationship, he starts getting bored or she starts starts getting bored or she starts starts getting bored or she starts getting bored. Start peeking over the getting bored. Start peeking over the getting bored. Start peeking over the fence and then it's like, "Oh, okay. I'm fence and then it's like, "Oh, okay. I'm fence and then it's like, "Oh, okay. I'm I'm going to look for a a new model or I'm going to look for a a new model or I'm going to look for a a new model or whatever, whatever it is." Hey, can I whatever, whatever it is." Hey, can I whatever, whatever it is." Hey, can I just say this? Listen to me. Hey, the just say this? Listen to me. Hey, the just say this? Listen to me. Hey, the grass isn't greener on the other side of grass isn't greener on the other side of grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. The grass is greener where the fence. The grass is greener where the fence. The grass is greener where you water it. Okay, so this is it. you water it. Okay, so this is it. you water it. Okay, so this is it. That's number two. That's number two. That's number two. That's number two. That's number two. That's number two. Now, check this out. Number three. Now, Now, check this out. Number three. Now, Now, check this out. Number three. Now, before that, don't put it on the screen before that, don't put it on the screen before that, don't put it on the screen yet. This next one has a bit of an edge yet. This next one has a bit of an edge yet. This next one has a bit of an edge to it. to it. to it. It has a bit of an edge to it on It has a bit of an edge to it on It has a bit of an edge to it on purpose. I want the gravity of this to purpose. I want the gravity of this to purpose. I want the gravity of this to fall on especially my fellow fathers, fall on especially my fellow fathers, fall on especially my fellow fathers, husbands and fathers in the house. husbands and fathers in the house. husbands and fathers in the house. Number three, husbands, when you date Number three, husbands, when you date Number three, husbands, when you date your wife, the third thing that happens your wife, the third thing that happens your wife, the third thing that happens is you loser proof your daughter. You're is you loser proof your daughter. You're is you loser proof your daughter. You're loser proofing your daughter. This is loser proofing your daughter. This is loser proofing your daughter. This is something you may not be thinking of. something you may not be thinking of. something you may not be thinking of. There's like four people who think There's like four people who think There's like four people who think that's a good idea. Okay, that's great. that's a good idea. Okay, that's great. that's a good idea. Okay, that's great. This is something you may not be This is something you may not be This is something you may not be thinking of. So, husbands, here's what thinking of. So, husbands, here's what thinking of. So, husbands, here's what you need to know. in the way that you you need to know. in the way that you you need to know. in the way that you treat your wife and in the way that you treat your wife and in the way that you treat your wife and in the way that you love your wife. Again, Ephesians 5, how love your wife. Again, Ephesians 5, how love your wife. Again, Ephesians 5, how are we supposed to love her? We're are we supposed to love her? We're are we supposed to love her? We're supposed to love her as Christ loved the supposed to love her as Christ loved the supposed to love her as Christ loved the church and laid himself down for her, church and laid himself down for her, church and laid himself down for her, washing her with water by the washing of washing her with water by the washing of washing her with water by the washing of the of the word. Ephesians chapter 5. In the of the word. Ephesians chapter 5. In the of the word. Ephesians chapter 5. In the way, husbands, fathers, that we the way, husbands, fathers, that we the way, husbands, fathers, that we treat our wives, we are setting a treat our wives, we are setting a treat our wives, we are setting a standard for our sons about how a man standard for our sons about how a man standard for our sons about how a man should treat a woman. And we are, should treat a woman. And we are, should treat a woman. And we are, listen, the gravity of this ought to listen, the gravity of this ought to listen, the gravity of this ought to fall on you if you're a dad. We are

fall on you if you're a dad. We are fall on you if you're a dad. We are setting a standard of expectations for setting a standard of expectations for setting a standard of expectations for our daughter about how they should our daughter about how they should our daughter about how they should expect men to treat them. And if you expect men to treat them. And if you expect men to treat them. And if you listen, if you treat your daughter listen, if you treat your daughter listen, if you treat your daughter poorly or sorry, if you treat your wife poorly or sorry, if you treat your wife poorly or sorry, if you treat your wife poorly, if you ignore her, if you run poorly, if you ignore her, if you run poorly, if you ignore her, if you run her down at home, if you lose your her down at home, if you lose your her down at home, if you lose your temper on her, if there is no intimacy, temper on her, if there is no intimacy, temper on her, if there is no intimacy, what you are doing is giving permission what you are doing is giving permission what you are doing is giving permission to every man that comes into her orbit to every man that comes into her orbit to every man that comes into her orbit for the rest of her life to treat her for the rest of her life to treat her for the rest of her life to treat her like that and her be okay with it. So like that and her be okay with it. So like that and her be okay with it. So listen, I'll just like this is like one listen, I'll just like this is like one listen, I'll just like this is like one of my proudest dad moments in history. of my proudest dad moments in history. of my proudest dad moments in history. Two two of my daughters are like at kind Two two of my daughters are like at kind Two two of my daughters are like at kind of that age where like little school of that age where like little school of that age where like little school crushes. They start talking about little crushes. They start talking about little crushes. They start talking about little school crushes that are all the things school crushes that are all the things school crushes that are all the things that are going on in their class. I'm that are going on in their class. I'm that are going on in their class. I'm like super not about it, but that that's like super not about it, but that that's like super not about it, but that that's what they're talking about. And so uh it what they're talking about. And so uh it what they're talking about. And so uh it was like there was one time one of my was like there was one time one of my was like there was one time one of my daughters came home and I'm driving them daughters came home and I'm driving them daughters came home and I'm driving them home from school and I'm always like, home from school and I'm always like, home from school and I'm always like, "Hey, how's the day? Let's talk about "Hey, how's the day? Let's talk about "Hey, how's the day? Let's talk about everything." and uh and she tells me everything." and uh and she tells me everything." and uh and she tells me about a guy in the class that she heard about a guy in the class that she heard about a guy in the class that she heard or somebody said that that he had a or somebody said that that he had a or somebody said that that he had a crush on her and I was like what's his crush on her and I was like what's his crush on her and I was like what's his address? You know, kind of but then the address? You know, kind of but then the address? You know, kind of but then the but then the the eventually I I just but then the the eventually I I just but then the the eventually I I just asked I'm like hey so like we we have a asked I'm like hey so like we we have a asked I'm like hey so like we we have a very try to keep the the communication very try to keep the the communication very try to keep the the communication super open. That's what we're going for.

super open. That's what we're going for. super open. That's what we're going for. So I was like, "Hey, um so shoot me So I was like, "Hey, um so shoot me So I was like, "Hey, um so shoot me straight. Do you have a crush on him?" straight. Do you have a crush on him?" straight. Do you have a crush on him?" Here's her response. Proudest dad moment Here's her response. Proudest dad moment Here's her response. Proudest dad moment ever. She said, "Oh no, Dad. He doesn't ever. She said, "Oh no, Dad. He doesn't ever. She said, "Oh no, Dad. He doesn't even hold the door open for me. I was even hold the door open for me. I was even hold the door open for me. I was like, "Yeah, let's go, baby. Let's go." like, "Yeah, let's go, baby. Let's go." like, "Yeah, let's go, baby. Let's go." You know? I'm like, "Yeah." Now, listen, You know? I'm like, "Yeah." Now, listen, You know? I'm like, "Yeah." Now, listen, the reason she said that is because she the reason she said that is because she the reason she said that is because she has watched me for years. That's what has watched me for years. That's what has watched me for years. That's what dad does for mom. So, that's what a guy dad does for mom. So, that's what a guy dad does for mom. So, that's what a guy is supposed to do for a girl. You see, is supposed to do for a girl. You see, is supposed to do for a girl. You see, hey dads, when we treat our wives like hey dads, when we treat our wives like hey dads, when we treat our wives like the the book of Proverbs says that a the the book of Proverbs says that a the the book of Proverbs says that a noble wife is more precious than rubies. noble wife is more precious than rubies. noble wife is more precious than rubies. When we treat our wife with nobility, When we treat our wife with nobility, When we treat our wife with nobility, honor, character, integrity, love, honor, character, integrity, love, honor, character, integrity, love, intimacy, what we're doing, again, intimacy, what we're doing, again, intimacy, what we're doing, again, you're loser proofing your daughter you're loser proofing your daughter you're loser proofing your daughter because he's going to come up near her because he's going to come up near her because he's going to come up near her at some point. That's going to happen to at some point. That's going to happen to at some point. That's going to happen to every single one of our daughters. every single one of our daughters. every single one of our daughters. And when he gets in her vicinity, if you And when he gets in her vicinity, if you And when he gets in her vicinity, if you have set the right example and standard, have set the right example and standard, have set the right example and standard, she's going to be like, "Oo, gross. No, she's going to be like, "Oo, gross. No, she's going to be like, "Oo, gross. No, no, no, not for me." Okay, so this is no, no, not for me." Okay, so this is no, no, not for me." Okay, so this is what we're going for. This is what we're what we're going for. This is what we're what we're going for. This is what we're going for. Okay. Now, number number going for. Okay. Now, number number going for. Okay. Now, number number four, last one. When you date your when four, last one. When you date your when four, last one. When you date your when we date our wives, husbands, we are we date our wives, husbands, we are we date our wives, husbands, we are god-proofing our prayers. I'm going to god-proofing our prayers. I'm going to god-proofing our prayers. I'm going to read a passage from 1 Peter 3 that when read a passage from 1 Peter 3 that when read a passage from 1 Peter 3 that when you read it, it doesn't make sense and you read it, it doesn't make sense and you read it, it doesn't make sense and I'm going help it make sense. It says, I'm going help it make sense. It says, I'm going help it make sense. It says, "Likewise, husbands, live with your "Likewise, husbands, live with your "Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way." Now, wives in an understanding way." Now, wives in an understanding way." Now, some of your Bibles are going to say, some of your Bibles are going to say, some of your Bibles are going to say, "According to understanding." Here's all "According to understanding." Here's all "According to understanding." Here's all this means. It means husbands, the Bible this means. It means husbands, the Bible this means. It means husbands, the Bible is specifically commanding us to study is specifically commanding us to study is specifically commanding us to study the souls of our wives. It's like our my the souls of our wives. It's like our my the souls of our wives. It's like our my job is to get a PhD in the soul of Janet job is to get a PhD in the soul of Janet job is to get a PhD in the soul of Janet Howton. I am supposed to make sure I

Howton. I am supposed to make sure I Howton. I am supposed to make sure I don't got a GED in the soul of Jan don't got a GED in the soul of Jan don't got a GED in the soul of Jan Howton. So like I'll just tell you like Howton. So like I'll just tell you like Howton. So like I'll just tell you like I here's what I've learned. Like over I here's what I've learned. Like over I here's what I've learned. Like over the years it listen I'm in it with you. the years it listen I'm in it with you. the years it listen I'm in it with you. Like I just want to point out there's Like I just want to point out there's Like I just want to point out there's probably a reason the Bible was like probably a reason the Bible was like probably a reason the Bible was like you're going to have to study really you're going to have to study really you're going to have to study really hard when it said that to the husband to hard when it said that to the husband to hard when it said that to the husband to the wife and it never said that to the the wife and it never said that to the the wife and it never said that to the wife to the husband. Okay? There's wife to the husband. Okay? There's wife to the husband. Okay? There's probably a reason for that. We are probably a reason for that. We are probably a reason for that. We are simple simple creatures ladies. Simple simple simple creatures ladies. Simple simple simple creatures ladies. Simple preachers. Okay. But over the years, preachers. Okay. But over the years, preachers. Okay. But over the years, what I've learned about Jana is I I've what I've learned about Jana is I I've what I've learned about Jana is I I've learned some things. Like I I've learned learned some things. Like I I've learned learned some things. Like I I've learned I've learned the words that strike I've learned the words that strike I've learned the words that strike Jana's heart in a way that other words Jana's heart in a way that other words Jana's heart in a way that other words don't. It's like I can say I shower Jana don't. It's like I can say I shower Jana don't. It's like I can say I shower Jana with I love you. I love you. I love you. with I love you. I love you. I love you. with I love you. I love you. I love you. But I've learned Jana's wired in such a But I've learned Jana's wired in such a But I've learned Jana's wired in such a way there are other things that I can way there are other things that I can way there are other things that I can say that actually mean more to her than say that actually mean more to her than say that actually mean more to her than just I love you. Like I've learned for just I love you. Like I've learned for just I love you. Like I've learned for Jana, Jana's got a work ethic like Jana, Jana's got a work ethic like Jana, Jana's got a work ethic like through the roof. Like insane work through the roof. Like insane work through the roof. Like insane work ethic. I've learned if I say to Jana, ethic. I've learned if I say to Jana, ethic. I've learned if I say to Jana, "Hey babe, I I noticed something she "Hey babe, I I noticed something she "Hey babe, I I noticed something she did." And I say, "Hey babe, thank you did." And I say, "Hey babe, thank you did." And I say, "Hey babe, thank you for working so hard for our family. It for working so hard for our family. It for working so hard for our family. It just does something for her, man." Or, just does something for her, man." Or, just does something for her, man." Or, "Hey, heads up. Uh, dads, "Hey, heads up. Uh, dads, "Hey, heads up. Uh, dads, there is no such thing as a mom who there is no such thing as a mom who there is no such thing as a mom who doesn't almost always feel like she's doesn't almost always feel like she's doesn't almost always feel like she's failing or could be doing better. Almost failing or could be doing better. Almost failing or could be doing better. Almost no such thing." So, what I've noticed no such thing." So, what I've noticed no such thing." So, what I've noticed for Janice is if I'm like I notice for Janice is if I'm like I notice for Janice is if I'm like I notice something specific and I'm like, "Babe, something specific and I'm like, "Babe, something specific and I'm like, "Babe, our kids are so blessed to have you as a our kids are so blessed to have you as a our kids are so blessed to have you as a mother or something like, man, I'm so mother or something like, man, I'm so mother or something like, man, I'm so glad I married you." Okay, here's here's

glad I married you." Okay, here's here's glad I married you." Okay, here's here's my point is you study the soul of your my point is you study the soul of your my point is you study the soul of your wife. This is what it's saying. P PhD, wife. This is what it's saying. P PhD, wife. This is what it's saying. P PhD, not GED. Now, here, watch what happens. not GED. Now, here, watch what happens. not GED. Now, here, watch what happens. It says, "Showing honor to the woman is It says, "Showing honor to the woman is It says, "Showing honor to the woman is a weaker vessel." That's not an insult. a weaker vessel." That's not an insult. a weaker vessel." That's not an insult. That is a biological reality. If we That is a biological reality. If we That is a biological reality. If we lined all of you up and did an arm lined all of you up and did an arm lined all of you up and did an arm wrestling comp competition, I dearly wrestling comp competition, I dearly wrestling comp competition, I dearly hope you would beat your wife in an arm hope you would beat your wife in an arm hope you would beat your wife in an arm arm wrestling competition. That's all arm wrestling competition. That's all arm wrestling competition. That's all that means. And then [snorts] watch what that means. And then [snorts] watch what that means. And then [snorts] watch what it says. What it says, okay, so why do it says. What it says, okay, so why do it says. What it says, okay, so why do we live with them in an understanding we live with them in an understanding we live with them in an understanding way, showing honor to them? Why do we do way, showing honor to them? Why do we do way, showing honor to them? Why do we do that? Listen, so that your prayers may that? Listen, so that your prayers may that? Listen, so that your prayers may not be hindered. Now, you may be going, not be hindered. Now, you may be going, not be hindered. Now, you may be going, "Huh? God, what God is saying is he's "Huh? God, what God is saying is he's "Huh? God, what God is saying is he's saying, the way some of you are treating saying, the way some of you are treating saying, the way some of you are treating your wives is causing me I'm not your wives is causing me I'm not your wives is causing me I'm not listening to any of your prayers." Now, listening to any of your prayers." Now, listening to any of your prayers." Now, now here's the reason for this. Think now here's the reason for this. Think now here's the reason for this. Think about this this logic. When about this this logic. When about this this logic. When [clears throat] God entrusted you with [clears throat] God entrusted you with [clears throat] God entrusted you with your wife, he entrusted you with one of your wife, he entrusted you with one of your wife, he entrusted you with one of his daughters. If somebody comes to me his daughters. If somebody comes to me his daughters. If somebody comes to me in the lobby and they're like, "Oh, in the lobby and they're like, "Oh, in the lobby and they're like, "Oh, Pastor Josh, I love [clears throat] you. Pastor Josh, I love [clears throat] you. Pastor Josh, I love [clears throat] you. Your ministry has blessed me so much. I Your ministry has blessed me so much. I Your ministry has blessed me so much. I just or maybe they want something from just or maybe they want something from just or maybe they want something from me like, man, could you send me a me like, man, could you send me a me like, man, could you send me a resource on? I would love to know what resource on? I would love to know what resource on? I would love to know what you think about whatever it is." If they you think about whatever it is." If they you think about whatever it is." If they say that to me, but then they hate or say that to me, but then they hate or say that to me, but then they hate or they are actively harming my daughter.

they are actively harming my daughter. they are actively harming my daughter. Listen, if you love me but you cuss her, Listen, if you love me but you cuss her, Listen, if you love me but you cuss her, I punch you. That's how that triangle I punch you. That's how that triangle I punch you. That's how that triangle works right there. Okay, does that make works right there. Okay, does that make works right there. Okay, does that make sense? I'm sounding very violent in this sense? I'm sounding very violent in this sense? I'm sounding very violent in this sermon, but these are jokes. Great joke. sermon, but these are jokes. Great joke. sermon, but these are jokes. Great joke. [clears throat] What God is saying, hey, [clears throat] What God is saying, hey, [clears throat] What God is saying, hey, hey, husbands, some of you right now, hey, husbands, some of you right now, hey, husbands, some of you right now, because of the way that you speak to because of the way that you speak to because of the way that you speak to your wives, your wives, your wives, the way that you are not faithful to the way that you are not faithful to the way that you are not faithful to your wife, the way that you lose your your wife, the way that you lose your your wife, the way that you lose your temper on her and create a situation temper on her and create a situation temper on her and create a situation where she is scared. God forbid you lay where she is scared. God forbid you lay where she is scared. God forbid you lay a hand on your wife. a hand on your wife. a hand on your wife. God is saying, "The way some of you are God is saying, "The way some of you are God is saying, "The way some of you are treating your wives, I won't listen to a treating your wives, I won't listen to a treating your wives, I won't listen to a single one of your prayers." Because single one of your prayers." Because single one of your prayers." Because there's only one conversation I'm there's only one conversation I'm there's only one conversation I'm interested in having with you, fix the interested in having with you, fix the interested in having with you, fix the way you're treating my daughter. See, way you're treating my daughter. See, way you're treating my daughter. See, when we honor our wives, what we're when we honor our wives, what we're when we honor our wives, what we're doing, don't the person you don't want doing, don't the person you don't want doing, don't the person you don't want to be against your prayers is God. Okay? to be against your prayers is God. Okay? to be against your prayers is God. Okay? So, we're God proofing our prayers. Now, So, we're God proofing our prayers. Now, So, we're God proofing our prayers. Now, let me get real practical. Emotional let me get real practical. Emotional let me get real practical. Emotional gear shift. Let me get real practical. gear shift. Let me get real practical. gear shift. Let me get real practical. Husbands, notice throughout Song of Husbands, notice throughout Song of Husbands, notice throughout Song of Solomon, I've already talked in chapter Solomon, I've already talked in chapter Solomon, I've already talked in chapter 1 and two. Yes, in the marriage she is 1 and two. Yes, in the marriage she is 1 and two. Yes, in the marriage she is the one who is very frequently the the one who is very frequently the the one who is very frequently the sexual initiator. Be aggressive, be sexual initiator. Be aggressive, be sexual initiator. Be aggressive, be aggressive, all the things. But what aggressive, all the things. But what aggressive, all the things. But what you're seeing right here is that in you're seeing right here is that in you're seeing right here is that in general, the initiating, the pursuing general, the initiating, the pursuing general, the initiating, the pursuing energy is primarily coming from the man energy is primarily coming from the man energy is primarily coming from the man and the husband. Okay? So, husbands, and the husband. Okay? So, husbands, and the husband. Okay? So, husbands, let's start right here. Throughout this let's start right here. Throughout this let's start right here. Throughout this uh series already, the question is like, uh series already, the question is like, uh series already, the question is like, okay, I'm hearing that as a husband, I'm okay, I'm hearing that as a husband, I'm okay, I'm hearing that as a husband, I'm supposed to lead my wife and family. How supposed to lead my wife and family. How supposed to lead my wife and family. How do I do it? That's the question. Or do I do it? That's the question. Or do I do it? That's the question. Or you'll hear from wives, my husband's not you'll hear from wives, my husband's not you'll hear from wives, my husband's not leading. What should I be doing? I got a leading. What should I be doing? I got a leading. What should I be doing? I got a lot of thoughts. I I I'll give you one.

lot of thoughts. I I I'll give you one. lot of thoughts. I I I'll give you one. Husband, this is actually really easy, Husband, this is actually really easy, Husband, this is actually really easy, man. It's not a million Bible studies at man. It's not a million Bible studies at man. It's not a million Bible studies at home. That's not what I'm talking about. home. That's not what I'm talking about. home. That's not what I'm talking about. Just start here. Lead with let's. That's Just start here. Lead with let's. That's Just start here. Lead with let's. That's it. Lead with let's. So, you be the one it. Lead with let's. So, you be the one it. Lead with let's. So, you be the one who says, "Let's go to church together who says, "Let's go to church together who says, "Let's go to church together this weekend." You be the one that this weekend." You be the one that this weekend." You be the one that before meal, let's give thanks. Two before meal, let's give thanks. Two before meal, let's give thanks. Two seconds. Real quick prayer. You be the seconds. Real quick prayer. You be the seconds. Real quick prayer. You be the one that before your wife goes to do one that before your wife goes to do one that before your wife goes to do something hard, work, home, friends, something hard, work, home, friends, something hard, work, home, friends, whatever, you be the one that says, whatever, you be the one that says, whatever, you be the one that says, "Hey, let's pray together real quick. I "Hey, let's pray together real quick. I "Hey, let's pray together real quick. I want to bless you." And then here's what want to bless you." And then here's what want to bless you." And then here's what this is. You be the one that initiates this is. You be the one that initiates this is. You be the one that initiates and goes, "Hey, let's figure out a way and goes, "Hey, let's figure out a way and goes, "Hey, let's figure out a way to spend some relational, emotional to spend some relational, emotional to spend some relational, emotional time, relational time together. Let's time, relational time together. Let's time, relational time together. Let's figure out the date thing. Lead with figure out the date thing. Lead with figure out the date thing. Lead with less." Now, husbands, here's what's less." Now, husbands, here's what's less." Now, husbands, here's what's going to happen. You've had this happen. going to happen. You've had this happen. going to happen. You've had this happen. You're going to get in the car to go on You're going to get in the car to go on You're going to get in the car to go on a date and you're doors are going to a date and you're doors are going to a date and you're doors are going to close. And then I need you to help me close. And then I need you to help me close. And then I need you to help me finish this phrase. And this is group finish this phrase. And this is group finish this phrase. And this is group therapy. You're going to get in the car, therapy. You're going to get in the car, therapy. You're going to get in the car, door's going to close, and then you're door's going to close, and then you're door's going to close, and then you're going to look at her and say, "Where do going to look at her and say, "Where do going to look at her and say, "Where do you want to eat?" And she's going to you want to eat?" And she's going to you want to eat?" And she's going to say, "What?" She's going to say, "I say, "What?" She's going to say, "I say, "What?" She's going to say, "I don't know. I don't know." That's what don't know. I don't know." That's what don't know. I don't know." That's what she's going to say. Now, first of all, she's going to say. Now, first of all, she's going to say. Now, first of all, there's a theology behind this. If you there's a theology behind this. If you there's a theology behind this. If you go back to Genesis chapter 2, there's a go back to Genesis chapter 2, there's a go back to Genesis chapter 2, there's a Bible reason. Think about Eve with the Bible reason. Think about Eve with the Bible reason. Think about Eve with the apple. The reason that sometimes women apple. The reason that sometimes women apple. The reason that sometimes women can struggle to choose where they're can struggle to choose where they're can struggle to choose where they're going to eat is because the first time going to eat is because the first time going to eat is because the first time they chose what to eat, they doomed all they chose what to eat, they doomed all they chose what to eat, they doomed all of humanity. Okay, that's it. That's of humanity. Okay, that's it. That's of humanity. Okay, that's it. That's That's number one. Number one. Okay. So, That's number one. Number one. Okay. So, That's number one. Number one. Okay. So, husband, I'm gonna give you a little husband, I'm gonna give you a little husband, I'm gonna give you a little trick. Ladies, I need you all to close trick. Ladies, I need you all to close trick. Ladies, I need you all to close your ears. Close your ears. Close your your ears. Close your ears. Close your your ears. Close your ears. Close your not allowed to listen for the next five not allowed to listen for the next five not allowed to listen for the next five seconds. Husbands, here's your trick.

seconds. Husbands, here's your trick. seconds. Husbands, here's your trick. You get in the car and then you say, You get in the car and then you say, You get in the car and then you say, "Babe, I have picked a place for us to "Babe, I have picked a place for us to "Babe, I have picked a place for us to go that you've been dying to go for the go that you've been dying to go for the go that you've been dying to go for the last few weeks. Guess where it is." last few weeks. Guess where it is." last few weeks. Guess where it is." First place she guesses, take her there. First place she guesses, take her there. First place she guesses, take her there. You're welcome. You're welcome. That's You're welcome. You're welcome. That's You're welcome. You're welcome. That's it, man. You're welcome. Okay. Now, what it, man. You're welcome. Okay. Now, what it, man. You're welcome. Okay. Now, what you need to do is again again what you you need to do is again again what you you need to do is again again what you got here is um you have the the got here is um you have the the got here is um you have the the definition of marriage in Song of definition of marriage in Song of definition of marriage in Song of Solomon is you are my lover, you are my Solomon is you are my lover, you are my Solomon is you are my lover, you are my friend. So, you're looking for friend. So, you're looking for friend. So, you're looking for friendship. Guys, if you are anything friendship. Guys, if you are anything friendship. Guys, if you are anything like me, I know this surprises people. I like me, I know this surprises people. I like me, I know this surprises people. I am an introvert. I am an introverted am an introvert. I am an introverted am an introvert. I am an introverted person. So, if you're the type of guy person. So, if you're the type of guy person. So, if you're the type of guy that gets in the truck and you're like, that gets in the truck and you're like, that gets in the truck and you're like, I don't know what to talk about. Okay, I don't know what to talk about. Okay, I don't know what to talk about. Okay, welcome aboard. I get it. So, here's welcome aboard. I get it. So, here's welcome aboard. I get it. So, here's what you need to do. This is easy stuff. what you need to do. This is easy stuff. what you need to do. This is easy stuff. I'm trying to real practical. You can I'm trying to real practical. You can I'm trying to real practical. You can literally Google conversation questions literally Google conversation questions literally Google conversation questions for date night and then you stick them for date night and then you stick them for date night and then you stick them in I literally I do this sometimes. You in I literally I do this sometimes. You in I literally I do this sometimes. You stick them in an iPhone note and on the stick them in an iPhone note and on the stick them in an iPhone note and on the drive to the restaurant you just take drive to the restaurant you just take drive to the restaurant you just take turns. You pick one. I pick one. You turns. You pick one. I pick one. You turns. You pick one. I pick one. You pick one. I pick one. If you're married pick one. I pick one. If you're married pick one. I pick one. If you're married you can put some spicy questions in you can put some spicy questions in you can put some spicy questions in there. It's going to be fun later. there. It's going to be fun later. there. It's going to be fun later. Whatever you want to do. You just got to Whatever you want to do. You just got to Whatever you want to do. You just got to figure it out. Now here I'm going to figure it out. Now here I'm going to figure it out. Now here I'm going to give you one little hint. Okay. One give you one little hint. Okay. One give you one little hint. Okay. One hint. An older godly couple with an hint. An older godly couple with an hint. An older godly couple with an amazing marriage gave me and Jana this amazing marriage gave me and Jana this amazing marriage gave me and Jana this conversation question years ago. And conversation question years ago. And conversation question years ago. And probably nothing has resulted in more probably nothing has resulted in more probably nothing has resulted in more blessing in our marriage than we do this blessing in our marriage than we do this blessing in our marriage than we do this about once a month. Okay? So like if about once a month. Okay? So like if about once a month. Okay? So like if you're gonna take a like I'm gonna put you're gonna take a like I'm gonna put you're gonna take a like I'm gonna put it on the screen. You can take a little it on the screen. You can take a little it on the screen. You can take a little iPhone picture, whatever you write it iPhone picture, whatever you write it iPhone picture, whatever you write it down, memorize it, get a tattoo, down, memorize it, get a tattoo, down, memorize it, get a tattoo, whatever you need to do, whatever you need to do, whatever you need to do, this one thing. Total marriage cheat this one thing. Total marriage cheat this one thing. Total marriage cheat code. Total marriage cheat code. It's

code. Total marriage cheat code. It's code. Total marriage cheat code. It's this question on a date night. You just this question on a date night. You just this question on a date night. You just go, "Hey, what are three ways I'm go, "Hey, what are three ways I'm go, "Hey, what are three ways I'm blessing you right now? What's one way I blessing you right now? What's one way I blessing you right now? What's one way I could bless you more? could bless you more? could bless you more? What are three ways I'm blessing you What are three ways I'm blessing you What are three ways I'm blessing you right now? What's one way I could bless right now? What's one way I could bless right now? What's one way I could bless you more? Now, here's what's awesome you more? Now, here's what's awesome you more? Now, here's what's awesome about this. There's a cheat code to about this. There's a cheat code to about this. There's a cheat code to this. When she tells you this, you're this. When she tells you this, you're this. When she tells you this, you're going to feel amazing. going to feel amazing. going to feel amazing. Amazing. Crushing it. And this question Amazing. Crushing it. And this question Amazing. Crushing it. And this question is worded in a way where it's is worded in a way where it's is worded in a way where it's essentially asking, "How do I stink as a essentially asking, "How do I stink as a essentially asking, "How do I stink as a husband?" But it sounds positive. Okay? husband?" But it sounds positive. Okay? husband?" But it sounds positive. Okay? But it sounds positive. And then you But it sounds positive. And then you But it sounds positive. And then you flip it. Okay? And and then you go, "But flip it. Okay? And and then you go, "But flip it. Okay? And and then you go, "But this one thing going to result in more this one thing going to result in more this one thing going to result in more blessing in in uh in the car than you blessing in in uh in the car than you blessing in in uh in the car than you can imagine." Okay, now ladies, let me can imagine." Okay, now ladies, let me can imagine." Okay, now ladies, let me talk to you. Look at look at what um talk to you. Look at look at what um talk to you. Look at look at what um look at how the woman in the passage is look at how the woman in the passage is look at how the woman in the passage is responding to his pursuit. Okay, check responding to his pursuit. Okay, check responding to his pursuit. Okay, check this out. She says, "Listen, my beloved. this out. She says, "Listen, my beloved. this out. She says, "Listen, my beloved. Look here. He comes leaping across the Look here. He comes leaping across the Look here. He comes leaping across the mountains, bounding over the hills. My mountains, bounding over the hills. My mountains, bounding over the hills. My beloved is like a gazelle or a young beloved is like a gazelle or a young beloved is like a gazelle or a young stag. He's a stud." Now, watch this. stag. He's a stud." Now, watch this. stag. He's a stud." Now, watch this. Look, there he stands. Now, I hit this Look, there he stands. Now, I hit this Look, there he stands. Now, I hit this last week. This is not a peeping time last week. This is not a peeping time last week. This is not a peeping time situation. There he stands behind our situation. There he stands behind our situation. There he stands behind our wall, gazing through the windows, wall, gazing through the windows, wall, gazing through the windows, peering through the lattice. Now, this peering through the lattice. Now, this peering through the lattice. Now, this is essentially a 3,000-y old way to say is essentially a 3,000-y old way to say is essentially a 3,000-y old way to say she was taking a long time to get ready she was taking a long time to get ready she was taking a long time to get ready and he was waiting. Now, here's the and he was waiting. Now, here's the and he was waiting. Now, here's the point that's been happening for 3,000 point that's been happening for 3,000 point that's been happening for 3,000 years. Here's the point, ladies. Notice years. Here's the point, ladies. Notice years. Here's the point, ladies. Notice this. She is intentional about trying to this. She is intentional about trying to this. She is intentional about trying to make herself attractive for her man.

make herself attractive for her man. make herself attractive for her man. She's intentionally trying to do that. She's intentionally trying to do that. She's intentionally trying to do that. She's excited. She's engaged. She's She's excited. She's engaged. She's She's excited. She's engaged. She's showing him, "I'm into you and I'm into showing him, "I'm into you and I'm into showing him, "I'm into you and I'm into this time together." Principle number this time together." Principle number this time together." Principle number two, a lot shorter. In a godly two, a lot shorter. In a godly two, a lot shorter. In a godly relationship, the wife makes it fun to relationship, the wife makes it fun to relationship, the wife makes it fun to be pursued. Okay? So, the husband is be pursued. Okay? So, the husband is be pursued. Okay? So, the husband is pursuing, the wife is making it fun to pursuing, the wife is making it fun to pursuing, the wife is making it fun to be be pursued. So, ladies, let me just be be pursued. So, ladies, let me just be be pursued. So, ladies, let me just say something like, "Ladies, be fun to say something like, "Ladies, be fun to say something like, "Ladies, be fun to actually date." What? Be be fun. Be fun actually date." What? Be be fun. Be fun actually date." What? Be be fun. Be fun to date. Okay? We hit last week. The to date. Okay? We hit last week. The to date. Okay? We hit last week. The book of Proverbs says, "Like a continual book of Proverbs says, "Like a continual book of Proverbs says, "Like a continual dripping on a rainy day is a life with a dripping on a rainy day is a life with a dripping on a rainy day is a life with a contentious woman." If he tries to take contentious woman." If he tries to take contentious woman." If he tries to take you out on a date this week and then you you out on a date this week and then you you out on a date this week and then you get in a truck and your response is, get in a truck and your response is, get in a truck and your response is, "Well, finally, finally, you want to "Well, finally, finally, you want to "Well, finally, finally, you want to take me on a date. Finally, we always go take me on a date. Finally, we always go take me on a date. Finally, we always go to the same places and you always wear to the same places and you always wear to the same places and you always wear the same things." And Pastor Josh said the same things." And Pastor Josh said the same things." And Pastor Josh said not to wear a t-shirt with a team logo not to wear a t-shirt with a team logo not to wear a t-shirt with a team logo on it and you have a team logo on your on it and you have a team logo on your on it and you have a team logo on your shirt and you know you're the you're shirt and you know you're the you're shirt and you know you're the you're only doing this because Pastor Josh said only doing this because Pastor Josh said only doing this because Pastor Josh said to said so. Drip drip drip drip drip to said so. Drip drip drip drip drip to said so. Drip drip drip drip drip drip drip drip drip. That's you. That's drip drip drip drip. That's you. That's drip drip drip drip. That's you. That's you. Better to be waterboarded by ISIS you. Better to be waterboarded by ISIS you. Better to be waterboarded by ISIS than go on a date with you. That's the than go on a date with you. That's the than go on a date with you. That's the book of Proverbs. Okay.

book of Proverbs. Okay. book of Proverbs. Okay. Okay. So, this is listen. Proverbs. Okay. So, this is listen. Proverbs. Okay. So, this is listen. Proverbs. Proverbs. Proverbs. Proverbs. So, it's [clears throat] man, it's So, it's [clears throat] man, it's So, it's [clears throat] man, it's little things, ladies. It's little little things, ladies. It's little little things, ladies. It's little things. Again, listen. The goal is things. Again, listen. The goal is things. Again, listen. The goal is always two people who are doing always two people who are doing always two people who are doing everything in their power to bless one everything in their power to bless one everything in their power to bless one another. To bless one another. You're another. To bless one another. You're another. To bless one another. You're just always asking question. How can I just always asking question. How can I just always asking question. How can I be a blessing to him? How can I be a be a blessing to him? How can I be a be a blessing to him? How can I be a blessing to her? like wear his favorite blessing to her? like wear his favorite blessing to her? like wear his favorite stuff. stuff. stuff. Engage in and enjoy the conversation. Engage in and enjoy the conversation. Engage in and enjoy the conversation. You want to make sure as much as You want to make sure as much as You want to make sure as much as possible the date ends Pentecostal loss possible the date ends Pentecostal loss possible the date ends Pentecostal loss of tongues and the laying on of hands. of tongues and the laying on of hands. of tongues and the laying on of hands. That's you PG11. Loosen up. Everybody That's you PG11. Loosen up. Everybody That's you PG11. Loosen up. Everybody loosen up. Okay, listen. You do that loosen up. Okay, listen. You do that loosen up. Okay, listen. You do that stuff, he's going to love it. Okay, now stuff, he's going to love it. Okay, now stuff, he's going to love it. Okay, now let me finish. Let me finish sermon let me finish. Let me finish sermon let me finish. Let me finish sermon right here. Principle number three. right here. Principle number three. right here. Principle number three. Don't toss on the screen yet. It took me Don't toss on the screen yet. It took me Don't toss on the screen yet. It took me a second to I to figure out how do I a second to I to figure out how do I a second to I to figure out how do I want to word some of these last things want to word some of these last things want to word some of these last things from Song of Solomon for a principle and from Song of Solomon for a principle and from Song of Solomon for a principle and I couldn't figure out a way to do it. I couldn't figure out a way to do it. I couldn't figure out a way to do it. So, this is a junk drawer principle. I'm So, this is a junk drawer principle. I'm So, this is a junk drawer principle. I'm just going to say a whole bunch of just going to say a whole bunch of just going to say a whole bunch of things for single people. That's what things for single people. That's what things for single people. That's what I'm going to do. Okay. Now, real quick.

I'm going to do. Okay. Now, real quick. I'm going to do. Okay. Now, real quick. Um, married people here. Here's what I Um, married people here. Here's what I Um, married people here. Here's what I need from you in the next few minutes. need from you in the next few minutes. need from you in the next few minutes. Our single people, they have to hear me Our single people, they have to hear me Our single people, they have to hear me talk about marriage all the time. talk about marriage all the time. talk about marriage all the time. Can you please Shouldn't we honor, Can you please Shouldn't we honor, Can you please Shouldn't we honor, respect, and value the single people in respect, and value the single people in respect, and value the single people in our church by being engaged and honoring our church by being engaged and honoring our church by being engaged and honoring some Bible teaching towards single some Bible teaching towards single some Bible teaching towards single people for a few minutes? Can we do people for a few minutes? Can we do people for a few minutes? Can we do that? Because the these people are all that? Because the these people are all that? Because the these people are all around us. And we we need to do that. around us. And we we need to do that. around us. And we we need to do that. Okay. So, here's what I need from you. Okay. So, here's what I need from you. Okay. So, here's what I need from you. It's one, I still need you to lean in. It's one, I still need you to lean in. It's one, I still need you to lean in. You got sons, daughters, grandkids. You got sons, daughters, grandkids. You got sons, daughters, grandkids. You're going to need need some of this. You're going to need need some of this. You're going to need need some of this. And [clears throat] And [clears throat] And [clears throat] when you hear something and you're like, when you hear something and you're like, when you hear something and you're like, that's true from experience, you can that's true from experience, you can that's true from experience, you can affirm that and that will help them affirm that and that will help them affirm that and that will help them know, okay, that really is true. Okay. know, okay, that really is true. Okay. know, okay, that really is true. Okay. Okay. So, here we go. Let me talk to our Okay. So, here we go. Let me talk to our Okay. So, here we go. Let me talk to our single people real quick and then single people real quick and then single people real quick and then sermon's done. Single people, you need sermon's done. Single people, you need sermon's done. Single people, you need to, according to the Bible, you need to to, according to the Bible, you need to to, according to the Bible, you need to shift your focus from finding to shift your focus from finding to shift your focus from finding to becoming. becoming. becoming. From finding to becoming. Okay? See From finding to becoming. Okay? See From finding to becoming. Okay? See that? That's people are going, "That's that? That's people are going, "That's that? That's people are going, "That's true. That's true. That's true." Now, true. That's true. That's true." Now, true. That's true. That's true." Now, here's what I mean. Sometimes as a here's what I mean. Sometimes as a here's what I mean. Sometimes as a preacher, what I got to do is I got to preacher, what I got to do is I got to preacher, what I got to do is I got to blast something out before I build blast something out before I build blast something out before I build something up. It's like a construction something up. It's like a construction something up. It's like a construction project. This is where I need to blast project. This is where I need to blast project. This is where I need to blast something out. There is a lie that something out. There is a lie that something out. There is a lie that circulates in Christian circles all the circulates in Christian circles all the circulates in Christian circles all the time. That's one of the most damaging time. That's one of the most damaging time. That's one of the most damaging lies to single people and to married lies to single people and to married lies to single people and to married people imaginable. Here's the lie. It's people imaginable. Here's the lie. It's people imaginable. Here's the lie. It's I call it the myth of the one. The myth I call it the myth of the one. The myth I call it the myth of the one. The myth of the one. Okay. So I'm here's here's of the one. Okay. So I'm here's here's of the one. Okay. So I'm here's here's what happens. I'm looking for the one.

what happens. I'm looking for the one. what happens. I'm looking for the one. Okay. Who's the one? Is he the one? Is Okay. Who's the one? Is he the one? Is Okay. Who's the one? Is he the one? Is she the one? Okay. And and here here's she the one? Okay. And and here here's she the one? Okay. And and here here's how it goes. It's the idea that God how it goes. It's the idea that God how it goes. It's the idea that God created just one person out there and he created just one person out there and he created just one person out there and he created them exactly just for you, created them exactly just for you, created them exactly just for you, perfect for you, and that your job is to perfect for you, and that your job is to perfect for you, and that your job is to search among the 7 billion people on search among the 7 billion people on search among the 7 billion people on Earth and find the one. You got to find Earth and find the one. You got to find Earth and find the one. You got to find the one, the only person that you would the one, the only person that you would the one, the only person that you would ever be happy being married to, the one. ever be happy being married to, the one. ever be happy being married to, the one. And when you find them, you're going to And when you find them, you're going to And when you find them, you're going to fit together like perfect puzzle pieces fit together like perfect puzzle pieces fit together like perfect puzzle pieces and rainbows and unicorns and and rainbows and unicorns and and rainbows and unicorns and snowflakes. Everything's going to snowflakes. Everything's going to snowflakes. Everything's going to happen. and you'll just live easily, happen. and you'll just live easily, happen. and you'll just live easily, just happily ever after. Wrong. Do not just happily ever after. Wrong. Do not just happily ever after. Wrong. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. There is pass go. Do not collect $200. There is pass go. Do not collect $200. There is nothing, listen man, there is not one nothing, listen man, there is not one nothing, listen man, there is not one verse, not one verse in the Bible that verse, not one verse in the Bible that verse, not one verse in the Bible that says anything like that. And watch this. says anything like that. And watch this. says anything like that. And watch this. Here's why it's damaging. Because when Here's why it's damaging. Because when Here's why it's damaging. Because when Christians, single people believe that, Christians, single people believe that, Christians, single people believe that, all their energy is toward finding. I all their energy is toward finding. I all their energy is toward finding. I got to find them. I got to find her. got to find them. I got to find her. got to find them. I got to find her. Find find. If you open your Bible and Find find. If you open your Bible and Find find. If you open your Bible and look for Bible verses on how to find the look for Bible verses on how to find the look for Bible verses on how to find the perfect spouse, you're not going to find perfect spouse, you're not going to find perfect spouse, you're not going to find one verse. But if you open your Bible one verse. But if you open your Bible one verse. But if you open your Bible asking the question, how do I how do I asking the question, how do I how do I asking the question, how do I how do I become the type of person who would be become the type of person who would be become the type of person who would be an amazing spouse? Every verse is an amazing spouse? Every verse is an amazing spouse? Every verse is speaking to you. So watch this. The speaking to you. So watch this. The speaking to you. So watch this. The assumption of the Bible is that when you assumption of the Bible is that when you assumption of the Bible is that when you become the right type of person, then become the right type of person, then become the right type of person, then you will attract the right type of you will attract the right type of you will attract the right type of person. Okay? So So check this out.

person. Okay? So So check this out. person. Okay? So So check this out. That's great. Check this out. I'm I'm That's great. Check this out. I'm I'm That's great. Check this out. I'm I'm going to give one example and then let going to give one example and then let going to give one example and then let let me move on. This is so important, let me move on. This is so important, let me move on. This is so important, man. So, before I became a senior man. So, before I became a senior man. So, before I became a senior pastor, I used to like travel around to pastor, I used to like travel around to pastor, I used to like travel around to a million youth camps. So, I get into a million youth camps. So, I get into a million youth camps. So, I get into youth camp, bunch of eighth grade, nth youth camp, bunch of eighth grade, nth youth camp, bunch of eighth grade, nth grade boys, and I get in a Bible study grade boys, and I get in a Bible study grade boys, and I get in a Bible study and I teach a Bible study. And then I and I teach a Bible study. And then I and I teach a Bible study. And then I would always ask them like, "Hey, what would always ask them like, "Hey, what would always ask them like, "Hey, what do you guys want to talk about?" And do you guys want to talk about?" And do you guys want to talk about?" And they would always, I mean, eighth grade, they would always, I mean, eighth grade, they would always, I mean, eighth grade, nth grade boys, they're always going to nth grade boys, they're always going to nth grade boys, they're always going to say, they're like, "Now, keep in mind, say, they're like, "Now, keep in mind, say, they're like, "Now, keep in mind, these are the kid, you know, it's like these are the kid, you know, it's like these are the kid, you know, it's like they got no jobs. They'd never take a they got no jobs. They'd never take a they got no jobs. They'd never take a shower, 30 hours of Xbox, living with shower, 30 hours of Xbox, living with shower, 30 hours of Xbox, living with their mom, all the things. And then you their mom, all the things. And then you their mom, all the things. And then you ask them like, "Oh, what do you want to ask them like, "Oh, what do you want to ask them like, "Oh, what do you want to talk about?" They're like, "Oh, when's talk about?" They're like, "Oh, when's talk about?" They're like, "Oh, when's God going to give me a wife?" They're God going to give me a wife?" They're God going to give me a wife?" They're like in ninth grade. When's God going to like in ninth grade. When's God going to like in ninth grade. When's God going to give me a wife? And and the question you give me a wife? And and the question you give me a wife? And and the question you want to ask somebody like that is, "Hey, want to ask somebody like that is, "Hey, want to ask somebody like that is, "Hey, bro, if you were God, would you give you bro, if you were God, would you give you bro, if you were God, would you give you a wife?" Like, look at you. If you were a wife?" Like, look at you. If you were a wife?" Like, look at you. If you were God, would you give you a wife? You God, would you give you a wife? You God, would you give you a wife? You wouldn't even know what to do with them. wouldn't even know what to do with them. wouldn't even know what to do with them. And then when you say that, they get a And then when you say that, they get a And then when you say that, they get a little rice smile on their face and little rice smile on their face and little rice smile on their face and like, "Oh, I'd know what to do with like, "Oh, I'd know what to do with like, "Oh, I'd know what to do with them." Okay. It's like, "Sure you would, them." Okay. It's like, "Sure you would, them." Okay. It's like, "Sure you would, buddy. Sure you would." Okay. But then, buddy. Sure you would." Okay. But then, buddy. Sure you would." Okay. But then, so here's a little exercise that I would so here's a little exercise that I would so here's a little exercise that I would do with bunch of ninth grade guys in a do with bunch of ninth grade guys in a do with bunch of ninth grade guys in a Bible study. Okay. Okay, man. Two-minute Bible study. Okay. Okay, man. Two-minute Bible study. Okay. Okay, man. Two-minute drill. I'm going to set a two-minute drill. I'm going to set a two-minute drill. I'm going to set a two-minute timer. You write down the type of wife timer. You write down the type of wife timer. You write down the type of wife you hope God brings you. And bro, it's you hope God brings you. And bro, it's you hope God brings you. And bro, it's like they can't they can't do a homework like they can't they can't do a homework like they can't they can't do a homework assignment for their life. But they were assignment for their life. But they were assignment for their life. But they were like dissertation like like burning up like dissertation like like burning up like dissertation like like burning up the paper. Okay. And then when you're the paper. Okay. And then when you're the paper. Okay. And then when you're done, I'm like, "Okay, you you know, done, I'm like, "Okay, you you know, done, I'm like, "Okay, you you know, read it out loud." And that, you know, read it out loud." And that, you know, read it out loud." And that, you know, their list is insane. And it's like, oh, their list is insane. And it's like, oh, their list is insane. And it's like, oh, she's got to have the beauty of Sydney she's got to have the beauty of Sydney she's got to have the beauty of Sydney Sweeney and the, you know, the, you Sweeney and the, you know, the, you Sweeney and the, you know, the, you know, I'm I'm looking for somebody with know, I'm I'm looking for somebody with know, I'm I'm looking for somebody with a, you know, the godliness of Mother a, you know, the godliness of Mother a, you know, the godliness of Mother Teresa and the wisdom of Solomon and, Teresa and the wisdom of Solomon and, Teresa and the wisdom of Solomon and, you know, whatever, all the things. And you know, whatever, all the things. And you know, whatever, all the things. And they'll read out loud. Now, you can only

they'll read out loud. Now, you can only they'll read out loud. Now, you can only talk to other guys like this. You don't talk to other guys like this. You don't talk to other guys like this. You don't talk to eighth grade girls like this talk to eighth grade girls like this talk to eighth grade girls like this ever, ever, ever, ever, ever. But with ever, ever, ever, ever, ever. But with ever, ever, ever, ever, ever. But with eighth grade guy, he can read his list eighth grade guy, he can read his list eighth grade guy, he can read his list like that. And he reads that out loud. like that. And he reads that out loud. like that. And he reads that out loud. And I say, "Bro, that girl would never And I say, "Bro, that girl would never And I say, "Bro, that girl would never marry you. The girl you just described marry you. The girl you just described marry you. The girl you just described is never going to as you are right now, is never going to as you are right now, is never going to as you are right now, that girl is never going to marry you. that girl is never going to marry you. that girl is never going to marry you. Here's the point. Your goal is to become Here's the point. Your goal is to become Here's the point. Your goal is to become the type of person that the type of the type of person that the type of the type of person that the type of person you're looking for is looking person you're looking for is looking person you're looking for is looking for. I've heard that said. So, it's for. I've heard that said. So, it's for. I've heard that said. So, it's becoming. Here's the other thing. Now, becoming. Here's the other thing. Now, becoming. Here's the other thing. Now, married people, if you believe the myth married people, if you believe the myth married people, if you believe the myth of the one, you'll walk into marriage of the one, you'll walk into marriage of the one, you'll walk into marriage with insane expectations. Notice this. with insane expectations. Notice this. with insane expectations. Notice this. The Bible doesn't say uh the Bible says The Bible doesn't say uh the Bible says The Bible doesn't say uh the Bible says the two shall become one. It does not the two shall become one. It does not the two shall become one. It does not say the halves shall become whole. say the halves shall become whole. say the halves shall become whole. If two halves walk into a marriage, they If two halves walk into a marriage, they If two halves walk into a marriage, they don't make a hole. They make hell don't make a hole. They make hell don't make a hole. They make hell because they walk into the marriage because they walk into the marriage because they walk into the marriage asking their spouse to complete them and asking their spouse to complete them and asking their spouse to complete them and fill the parts of their heart that fill the parts of their heart that fill the parts of their heart that actually only a fully satisfying actually only a fully satisfying actually only a fully satisfying relationship with Jesus Christ can do. relationship with Jesus Christ can do. relationship with Jesus Christ can do. Okay, so that's it. That's number one. I Okay, so that's it. That's number one. I Okay, so that's it. That's number one. I got to do the others much quicker.

got to do the others much quicker. got to do the others much quicker. Number two, for single people, dating in Number two, for single people, dating in Number two, for single people, dating in the Bible is a process to move through. the Bible is a process to move through. the Bible is a process to move through. It is not a status suit to sit in. It is not a status suit to sit in. It is not a status suit to sit in. Dating is a process to move through Dating is a process to move through Dating is a process to move through through, not a status to sit in. Okay? through, not a status to sit in. Okay? through, not a status to sit in. Okay? Notice in Song of Solomon, there's this Notice in Song of Solomon, there's this Notice in Song of Solomon, there's this whole courtship thing right here. whole courtship thing right here. whole courtship thing right here. Dating, whatever you want to call it. Dating, whatever you want to call it. Dating, whatever you want to call it. They immediately move towards marriage. They immediately move towards marriage. They immediately move towards marriage. Watch this. The Bible says nothing about Watch this. The Bible says nothing about Watch this. The Bible says nothing about dating. What dating? It says everything dating. What dating? It says everything dating. What dating? It says everything about deciding what you're doing in about deciding what you're doing in about deciding what you're doing in marriage or what you're doing in dating marriage or what you're doing in dating marriage or what you're doing in dating is you're evaluating. Is this the type is you're evaluating. Is this the type is you're evaluating. Is this the type of person that I want to decide to link of person that I want to decide to link of person that I want to decide to link with and become one with? That is with and become one with? That is with and become one with? That is listen, that's the only purpose of listen, that's the only purpose of listen, that's the only purpose of dating. If you're doing anything else, dating. If you're doing anything else, dating. If you're doing anything else, you are playing with people's hearts and you are playing with people's hearts and you are playing with people's hearts and you're putting them in a position to be you're putting them in a position to be you're putting them in a position to be in significant amounts of temptation and in significant amounts of temptation and in significant amounts of temptation and heartbreak. Okay? So, let me just say it heartbreak. Okay? So, let me just say it heartbreak. Okay? So, let me just say it like this. Okay? This becomes real clear like this. Okay? This becomes real clear like this. Okay? This becomes real clear when you become a dad with daughters. when you become a dad with daughters. when you become a dad with daughters. I like just imag if a guy from our I like just imag if a guy from our I like just imag if a guy from our church were to walk up to me and say church were to walk up to me and say church were to walk up to me and say something like this. Hey, Pastor Josh. something like this. Hey, Pastor Josh. something like this. Hey, Pastor Josh. Um, I'm not ready for marriage and I Um, I'm not ready for marriage and I Um, I'm not ready for marriage and I have no intention of ending up with your have no intention of ending up with your have no intention of ending up with your daughter, but could I please have your daughter, but could I please have your daughter, but could I please have your daughter for the next few months? She's daughter for the next few months? She's daughter for the next few months? She's going to give me parts of her heart that going to give me parts of her heart that going to give me parts of her heart that she might not be able to ever get back.

she might not be able to ever get back. she might not be able to ever get back. She's going to give me all of her time She's going to give me all of her time She's going to give me all of her time and attention. She's going to give me and attention. She's going to give me and attention. She's going to give me all of her emotional uh agility. And I all of her emotional uh agility. And I all of her emotional uh agility. And I may, honestly, we may end up being in may, honestly, we may end up being in may, honestly, we may end up being in spots where we're tempted to give each spots where we're tempted to give each spots where we're tempted to give each other parts of our bodies physically or other parts of our bodies physically or other parts of our bodies physically or sexually that we shouldn't. I have no sexually that we shouldn't. I have no sexually that we shouldn't. I have no intention of ending up with her, but intention of ending up with her, but intention of ending up with her, but could I please have your daughter for a could I please have your daughter for a could I please have your daughter for a while? Okay. I mean, if that were to while? Okay. I mean, if that were to while? Okay. I mean, if that were to happen, it's like, you know, my eyes happen, it's like, you know, my eyes happen, it's like, you know, my eyes would turn red, sky would turn dark, would turn red, sky would turn dark, would turn red, sky would turn dark, voice would say, "Finish him." It's like voice would say, "Finish him." It's like voice would say, "Finish him." It's like out of the sky. Like, really quick, man. out of the sky. Like, really quick, man. out of the sky. Like, really quick, man. Really, really quick. Really quick. Really, really quick. Really quick. Really, really quick. Really quick. Okay. So, here's the point. Hey, here's Okay. So, here's the point. Hey, here's Okay. So, here's the point. Hey, here's the point. The only purpose of dating is the point. The only purpose of dating is the point. The only purpose of dating is to move toward marriage. That's the only to move toward marriage. That's the only to move toward marriage. That's the only purpose. It's like gentle pastoral purpose. It's like gentle pastoral purpose. It's like gentle pastoral encouragement. Do not date until you're encouragement. Do not date until you're encouragement. Do not date until you're ready to move towards marriage. And do ready to move towards marriage. And do ready to move towards marriage. And do not date someone you would not consider not date someone you would not consider not date someone you would not consider for marriage. Because watch this. If you for marriage. Because watch this. If you for marriage. Because watch this. If you do that, you're not dating them. You're do that, you're not dating them. You're do that, you're not dating them. You're using them. You're using them. Okay? So, using them. You're using them. Okay? So, using them. You're using them. Okay? So, here we go. Last one. Last one. here we go. Last one. Last one. here we go. Last one. Last one. [clears throat] [clears throat] [clears throat] Men, I just want to continue to say Men, I just want to continue to say Men, I just want to continue to say this. Men, be clear with your this. Men, be clear with your this. Men, be clear with your intentions. I met three couples last intentions. I met three couples last intentions. I met three couples last night after Saturday services who heard night after Saturday services who heard night after Saturday services who heard week one and a dude literally walked up week one and a dude literally walked up week one and a dude literally walked up to a godly girl as a greeter, asked her to a godly girl as a greeter, asked her to a godly girl as a greeter, asked her on a date, and now they're they're going on a date, and now they're they're going on a date, and now they're they're going out. I love it. Okay, so I just want to out. I love it. Okay, so I just want to out. I love it. Okay, so I just want to Hey, I celebrate it. All in, all in. All Hey, I celebrate it. All in, all in. All Hey, I celebrate it. All in, all in. All in. That's awesome. But man, continue.

in. That's awesome. But man, continue. in. That's awesome. But man, continue. Let me say this. You need to be clear Let me say this. You need to be clear Let me say this. You need to be clear with your intentions. Whenever you ask a with your intentions. Whenever you ask a with your intentions. Whenever you ask a girl out on a date, you need to use the girl out on a date, you need to use the girl out on a date, you need to use the word date so she knows what the heck you word date so she knows what the heck you word date so she knows what the heck you are asking her to do. Use the word date. are asking her to do. Use the word date. are asking her to do. Use the word date. Three times in the Song of Solomon, it Three times in the Song of Solomon, it Three times in the Song of Solomon, it says, "Do not arouse or awaken love says, "Do not arouse or awaken love says, "Do not arouse or awaken love before so desires." If you ask her before so desires." If you ask her before so desires." If you ask her something stupid like, "Hey girl, you something stupid like, "Hey girl, you something stupid like, "Hey girl, you want to chill sometime?" She doesn't want to chill sometime?" She doesn't want to chill sometime?" She doesn't know what you're talking about. Hey know what you're talking about. Hey know what you're talking about. Hey girl, you want to hang out? That's real girl, you want to hang out? That's real girl, you want to hang out? That's real weird. If you send her a stupid text weird. If you send her a stupid text weird. If you send her a stupid text message at 10:30, you up? message at 10:30, you up? message at 10:30, you up? Whatever it is, she doesn't know what Whatever it is, she doesn't know what Whatever it is, she doesn't know what you're doing. She doesn't know what you're doing. She doesn't know what you're doing. She doesn't know what you're doing. So, use the word date. You you're doing. So, use the word date. You you're doing. So, use the word date. You want to say something like, "Could I get want to say something like, "Could I get want to say something like, "Could I get your number sometime? I would like to your number sometime? I would like to your number sometime? I would like to take you out on a coffee date next take you out on a coffee date next take you out on a coffee date next Friday. And just a little pro tip, Friday. And just a little pro tip, Friday. And just a little pro tip, single guys, here's a pro tip. If you single guys, here's a pro tip. If you single guys, here's a pro tip. If you want to make it easier on her and you, want to make it easier on her and you, want to make it easier on her and you, the way that you ask her out, you also the way that you ask her out, you also the way that you ask her out, you also give her an out. So you say, "Hey, I'd give her an out. So you say, "Hey, I'd give her an out. So you say, "Hey, I'd like to take you out on a date next like to take you out on a date next like to take you out on a date next Friday, but I understand if you're Friday, but I understand if you're Friday, but I understand if you're busy." It's just a little gentlemanly busy." It's just a little gentlemanly busy." It's just a little gentlemanly way to give her an easy out to if she's way to give her an easy out to if she's way to give her an easy out to if she's not into it. Now, the other thing I'll not into it. Now, the other thing I'll not into it. Now, the other thing I'll say to the young men, you need to honor say to the young men, you need to honor say to the young men, you need to honor her and protect her heart in that her and protect her heart in that her and protect her heart in that process. So, do not do this. If you go process. So, do not do this. If you go process. So, do not do this. If you go on a date and by the end of the date on a date and by the end of the date on a date and by the end of the date you're like not into it for the love of you're like not into it for the love of you're like not into it for the love of Jesus and the love of her, do not say to Jesus and the love of her, do not say to Jesus and the love of her, do not say to her just to feel awkward silence at the her just to feel awkward silence at the her just to feel awkward silence at the end of the date something like, "I had a end of the date something like, "I had a end of the date something like, "I had a great time. Looking forward to do it great time. Looking forward to do it great time. Looking forward to do it again. I'll call you." Don't lie to her.

again. I'll call you." Don't lie to her. again. I'll call you." Don't lie to her. Your job is to protect her heart just Your job is to protect her heart just Your job is to protect her heart just like you would expect somebody to do for like you would expect somebody to do for like you would expect somebody to do for you. Okay? Now ladies, let me just say you. Okay? Now ladies, let me just say you. Okay? Now ladies, let me just say and I just want to gently pastor you to and I just want to gently pastor you to and I just want to gently pastor you to our young single ladies just watching on our young single ladies just watching on our young single ladies just watching on online and talking to some people in our online and talking to some people in our online and talking to some people in our church in the lobby. Let me just say you church in the lobby. Let me just say you church in the lobby. Let me just say you need to have realistic expectations. need to have realistic expectations. need to have realistic expectations. Realistic expectations. Some of you guys Realistic expectations. Some of you guys Realistic expectations. Some of you guys like for real, your list is ridiculous like for real, your list is ridiculous like for real, your list is ridiculous of expectations. Okay? God could walk up of expectations. Okay? God could walk up of expectations. Okay? God could walk up to you like the spirit of Elijah and the to you like the spirit of Elijah and the to you like the spirit of Elijah and the body of Samson. You'd be like, "Oh, I body of Samson. You'd be like, "Oh, I body of Samson. You'd be like, "Oh, I don't know. He's not 6'4." don't know. He's not 6'4." don't know. He's not 6'4." Okay? Like, can I can I just like let me Okay? Like, can I can I just like let me Okay? Like, can I can I just like let me just point this out in Song of Solomon? just point this out in Song of Solomon? just point this out in Song of Solomon? Notice who [clears throat] this this Notice who [clears throat] this this Notice who [clears throat] this this song is about. It's a king that falls in song is about. It's a king that falls in song is about. It's a king that falls in love with a peasant country girl with a love with a peasant country girl with a love with a peasant country girl with a farmer stand. If he had made his list farmer stand. If he had made his list farmer stand. If he had made his list early, I doubt that was what would what early, I doubt that was what would what early, I doubt that was what would what would have been on the list. But he met would have been on the list. But he met would have been on the list. But he met her and he fell in love with her her and he fell in love with her her and he fell in love with her character, her beauty, her personality. character, her beauty, her personality. character, her beauty, her personality. Okay, so like let's let's do that Okay, so like let's let's do that Okay, so like let's let's do that ladies. Character is more important than ladies. Character is more important than ladies. Character is more important than cute and attraction grows with cute and attraction grows with cute and attraction grows with connection. Okay, that's it. Now, here's connection. Okay, that's it. Now, here's connection. Okay, that's it. Now, here's how the sermon is going to end. I'm how the sermon is going to end. I'm how the sermon is going to end. I'm going to take everything I just said and going to take everything I just said and going to take everything I just said and both for married people and for single both for married people and for single both for married people and for single people, I I want to show you the order people, I I want to show you the order people, I I want to show you the order that God wants us to build and that God wants us to build and that God wants us to build and strengthen our relationships uh in the strengthen our relationships uh in the strengthen our relationships uh in the Song of Solomon. So, we need to build it Song of Solomon. So, we need to build it Song of Solomon. So, we need to build it in the right order. Okay? So, here's the in the right order. Okay? So, here's the in the right order. Okay? So, here's the order that God wants us to build a order that God wants us to build a order that God wants us to build a relationship with uh in. If you're relationship with uh in. If you're relationship with uh in. If you're single, this is your order. If you're single, this is your order. If you're single, this is your order. If you're married, this is your strengthening

married, this is your strengthening married, this is your strengthening order. Okay. Number one, it needs to order. Okay. Number one, it needs to order. Okay. Number one, it needs to start. You're evaluating the person start. You're evaluating the person start. You're evaluating the person spiritually. Book New Testament. Do not spiritually. Book New Testament. Do not spiritually. Book New Testament. Do not be unequally yolked with someone. So, be unequally yolked with someone. So, be unequally yolked with someone. So, you're asking, is this person running you're asking, is this person running you're asking, is this person running towards Jesus? Do they value moral towards Jesus? Do they value moral towards Jesus? Do they value moral purity? Are they consecrated to the purity? Are they consecrated to the purity? Are they consecrated to the purposes of God? You're evaluating purposes of God? You're evaluating purposes of God? You're evaluating spirit. Are they a Jesusloving person? spirit. Are they a Jesusloving person? spirit. Are they a Jesusloving person? Actual Jesus loving person. You're Actual Jesus loving person. You're Actual Jesus loving person. You're evaluating spiritually. Now once you evaluating spiritually. Now once you evaluating spiritually. Now once you look around you see you know a greeter look around you see you know a greeter look around you see you know a greeter somewhere at your campus and you're like somewhere at your campus and you're like somewhere at your campus and you're like ah seems like it. [snorts] Then the next ah seems like it. [snorts] Then the next ah seems like it. [snorts] Then the next phase is what you're doing here is phase is what you're doing here is phase is what you're doing here is you're moving to to a social it's a you're moving to to a social it's a you're moving to to a social it's a social relationship. Notice in Song of social relationship. Notice in Song of social relationship. Notice in Song of Solomon she actually I forgot to read Solomon she actually I forgot to read Solomon she actually I forgot to read the passage. We're preaching the Bible. the passage. We're preaching the Bible. the passage. We're preaching the Bible. Let me read the passage. She says this Let me read the passage. She says this Let me read the passage. She says this all night long on my bed I look for the all night long on my bed I look for the all night long on my bed I look for the one my heart loves. I looked for him but one my heart loves. I looked for him but one my heart loves. I looked for him but did not find him. So notice he's not in did not find him. So notice he's not in did not find him. So notice he's not in her bed. They're not doing married her bed. They're not doing married her bed. They're not doing married people things before they're married. people things before they're married. people things before they're married. Verse two, I will get up now and go Verse two, I will get up now and go Verse two, I will get up now and go about the city through its streets and about the city through its streets and about the city through its streets and squares. I will search for the one my squares. I will search for the one my squares. I will search for the one my heart loves. So I looked for him but did heart loves. So I looked for him but did heart loves. So I looked for him but did not find him. The watchmen found me as not find him. The watchmen found me as not find him. The watchmen found me as they made their rounds in the city. Have they made their rounds in the city. Have they made their rounds in the city. Have you seen the one my heart loves? She's you seen the one my heart loves? She's you seen the one my heart loves? She's like, where is he? I I just want to be like, where is he? I I just want to be like, where is he? I I just want to be around him right now. Scarcely had I around him right now. Scarcely had I around him right now. Scarcely had I passed them when I found the one my passed them when I found the one my passed them when I found the one my heart loves. I held him and I wouldn't heart loves. I held him and I wouldn't heart loves. I held him and I wouldn't let him go till I had brought him into let him go till I had brought him into let him go till I had brought him into my Now watch this. Till I had brought my Now watch this. Till I had brought my Now watch this. Till I had brought him to my mother's house. She's getting him to my mother's house. She's getting him to my mother's house. She's getting him, this person she's interested in, him, this person she's interested in, him, this person she's interested in, around godly family members and other around godly family members and other around godly family members and other godly people. Important to the room of godly people. Important to the room of godly people. Important to the room of the one who conceived me. Verse 5,

the one who conceived me. Verse 5, the one who conceived me. Verse 5, daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazels and those of the field. There the gazels and those of the field. There the gazels and those of the field. There it is. Do not arouse or awaken love till it is. Do not arouse or awaken love till it is. Do not arouse or awaken love till it so desires. So after spiritually, she it so desires. So after spiritually, she it so desires. So after spiritually, she immediately gets him around. Watch this. immediately gets him around. Watch this. immediately gets him around. Watch this. It It's around her friends. Chapter one It It's around her friends. Chapter one It It's around her friends. Chapter one and two, they're all around their and two, they're all around their and two, they're all around their friends. That's why the friends hop in, friends. That's why the friends hop in, friends. That's why the friends hop in, sing their little diddy, and then they sing their little diddy, and then they sing their little diddy, and then they hop out. She's like getting her friend's hop out. She's like getting her friend's hop out. She's like getting her friend's eyes on him. Then she's getting mom and eyes on him. Then she's getting mom and eyes on him. Then she's getting mom and dad's eyes on him. She's got godly dad's eyes on him. She's got godly dad's eyes on him. She's got godly parents. I want my parents to see this parents. I want my parents to see this parents. I want my parents to see this person here. Listen, here's why that's person here. Listen, here's why that's person here. Listen, here's why that's really important. I I really need you to really important. I I really need you to really important. I I really need you to hear this. It's important that you have hear this. It's important that you have hear this. It's important that you have at least three older godly people that at least three older godly people that at least three older godly people that you can ask if the person you're dating you can ask if the person you're dating you can ask if the person you're dating is a good choice for you. But here's is a good choice for you. But here's is a good choice for you. But here's why. Because when emotion gets high, why. Because when emotion gets high, why. Because when emotion gets high, logic gets low. So this is what she's logic gets low. So this is what she's logic gets low. So this is what she's doing. She's like, "Okay, let me doing. She's like, "Okay, let me doing. She's like, "Okay, let me evaluate uh socially." Now, after you evaluate uh socially." Now, after you evaluate uh socially." Now, after you look around and you're like, "Man, I look around and you're like, "Man, I look around and you're like, "Man, I like who this person seems to be." Then like who this person seems to be." Then like who this person seems to be." Then it moves to a personal relationship. it moves to a personal relationship. it moves to a personal relationship. Let's spend some one-on-one time Let's spend some one-on-one time Let's spend some one-on-one time together. Appropriate times, appropriate together. Appropriate times, appropriate together. Appropriate times, appropriate ways. Let's go coffee. Now, I'm learning ways. Let's go coffee. Now, I'm learning ways. Let's go coffee. Now, I'm learning about your heart, your soul, your about your heart, your soul, your about your heart, your soul, your dreams, what God has done in your life, dreams, what God has done in your life, dreams, what God has done in your life, you know, your calling. Then after you know, your calling. Then after you know, your calling. Then after personal, the more personal time you personal, the more personal time you personal, the more personal time you spend, it's going to get emotional. Now spend, it's going to get emotional. Now spend, it's going to get emotional. Now you it's this is the I'm falling in love you it's this is the I'm falling in love you it's this is the I'm falling in love and I'm really into this person and you and I'm really into this person and you and I'm really into this person and you know it's so all this stuff is coalesing know it's so all this stuff is coalesing know it's so all this stuff is coalesing the emotions are forming emotional bond the emotions are forming emotional bond the emotions are forming emotional bond now for a godly person this is where now for a godly person this is where now for a godly person this is where marriage happens this is the phase right marriage happens this is the phase right marriage happens this is the phase right here is where marriage happens nothing here is where marriage happens nothing here is where marriage happens nothing else happens before marriage happens else happens before marriage happens else happens before marriage happens this is where marriage happens then this is where marriage happens then this is where marriage happens then after marriage has happened then you add

after marriage has happened then you add after marriage has happened then you add the physical part okay does that make the physical part okay does that make the physical part okay does that make sense then you add the physical part sense then you add the physical part sense then you add the physical part that's it that's it that's it This is how God has designed the This is how God has designed the This is how God has designed the relationship to be built. Now, here's relationship to be built. Now, here's relationship to be built. Now, here's the problem. In our culture, you are the problem. In our culture, you are the problem. In our culture, you are getting discipled to do the exact getting discipled to do the exact getting discipled to do the exact opposite. In our culture, a lot of times opposite. In our culture, a lot of times opposite. In our culture, a lot of times it starts with a physical. Swipe left, it starts with a physical. Swipe left, it starts with a physical. Swipe left, swipe right, hook up, shack up, break swipe right, hook up, shack up, break swipe right, hook up, shack up, break up. We hooked up starts physical. Then up. We hooked up starts physical. Then up. We hooked up starts physical. Then listen, do not lie to yourself. If you listen, do not lie to yourself. If you listen, do not lie to yourself. If you get involved sexually with somebody, it get involved sexually with somebody, it get involved sexually with somebody, it is 100% [snorts] is 100% [snorts] is 100% [snorts] going to become emotional because sex is going to become emotional because sex is going to become emotional because sex is not just two bodies together. It's the not just two bodies together. It's the not just two bodies together. It's the mingling of souls. Do not lie to mingling of souls. Do not lie to mingling of souls. Do not lie to yourself. That's why, check this out. yourself. That's why, check this out. yourself. That's why, check this out. Why do they say what they caught Why do they say what they caught Why do they say what they caught feelings? feelings? feelings? That is always going to happen. So, when That is always going to happen. So, when That is always going to happen. So, when this happens, the emotions are going to this happens, the emotions are going to this happens, the emotions are going to kick in. And then now you're all kick in. And then now you're all kick in. And then now you're all emotional about the person. You start emotional about the person. You start emotional about the person. You start going, "Well, I I guess we ought to go going, "Well, I I guess we ought to go going, "Well, I I guess we ought to go on some dates. I mean, we're real on some dates. I mean, we're real on some dates. I mean, we're real emotionally into each other. I I guess emotionally into each other. I I guess emotionally into each other. I I guess we ought to go on some dates and do, you we ought to go on some dates and do, you we ought to go on some dates and do, you know, get to know each other a little know, get to know each other a little know, get to know each other a little bit. This feels awkward if we don't. So, bit. This feels awkward if we don't. So, bit. This feels awkward if we don't. So, you start doing this. And then after you start doing this. And then after you start doing this. And then after you've done a bunch of one-on-one dates, you've done a bunch of one-on-one dates, you've done a bunch of one-on-one dates, at the very end of that, then you're at the very end of that, then you're at the very end of that, then you're like, "Well, I mean, I guess he needs to like, "Well, I mean, I guess he needs to like, "Well, I mean, I guess he needs to meet my friends and my parents." At the meet my friends and my parents." At the meet my friends and my parents." At the very end, I I guess he needs to meet my very end, I I guess he needs to meet my very end, I I guess he needs to meet my friends and my parents. You know, that friends and my parents. You know, that friends and my parents. You know, that that kind of thing. And then here, now that kind of thing. And then here, now that kind of thing. And then here, now watch this. This is the spot where it watch this. This is the spot where it watch this. This is the spot where it gets real fragile and people are like, gets real fragile and people are like, gets real fragile and people are like, "Ah." They start lying to themselves. I "Ah." They start lying to themselves. I "Ah." They start lying to themselves. I think it's a good relationship.

think it's a good relationship. think it's a good relationship. It's good when it's good. It's good when it's good. It's good when it's good. You know, we both like pickle ball. You You know, we both like pickle ball. You You know, we both like pickle ball. You know, whatever you do, it's like you're know, whatever you do, it's like you're know, whatever you do, it's like you're lying to yourself. lying to yourself. lying to yourself. Then at the very end, what people try to Then at the very end, what people try to Then at the very end, what people try to do is like, well, I guess we should get do is like, well, I guess we should get do is like, well, I guess we should get married. Like, where's a pastor? Can I married. Like, where's a pastor? Can I married. Like, where's a pastor? Can I find a pastor to do a do a wedding and find a pastor to do a do a wedding and find a pastor to do a do a wedding and read me a Bible verse? And you add this read me a Bible verse? And you add this read me a Bible verse? And you add this at the end and watch. Because the at the end and watch. Because the at the end and watch. Because the foundation is the smallest part of the foundation is the smallest part of the foundation is the smallest part of the relationship, it's totally unstable. relationship, it's totally unstable. relationship, it's totally unstable. Real easy for it to fall. Now listen, Real easy for it to fall. Now listen, Real easy for it to fall. Now listen, here's listen listen. If you are not here's listen listen. If you are not here's listen listen. If you are not married yet and you're moving towards married yet and you're moving towards married yet and you're moving towards it, listen to me. Hey, Lake Point it, listen to me. Hey, Lake Point it, listen to me. Hey, Lake Point Church. Let's build it the right way. Church. Let's build it the right way. Church. Let's build it the right way. Let's build it the right way. Okay? And Let's build it the right way. Okay? And Let's build it the right way. Okay? And some of you, listen, listen, listen, some of you, listen, listen, listen, some of you, listen, listen, listen, listen. Some of you like literally the listen. Some of you like literally the listen. Some of you like literally the whole reason you're at the love life whole reason you're at the love life whole reason you're at the love life series and we got still got two more series and we got still got two more series and we got still got two more weeks is because you're here and you're weeks is because you're here and you're weeks is because you're here and you're trying to add this. Listen, no judgment. trying to add this. Listen, no judgment. trying to add this. Listen, no judgment. I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you, man. I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you, man. I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you, man. I'm proud of you. And listen, here's I'm proud of you. And listen, here's I'm proud of you. And listen, here's what you got to know, man. Here's what what you got to know, man. Here's what what you got to know, man. Here's what you got to know is my Bible tells me the you got to know is my Bible tells me the you got to know is my Bible tells me the Lord can restore the years the locusts Lord can restore the years the locusts Lord can restore the years the locusts have eaten. He can do that in your life.

have eaten. He can do that in your life. have eaten. He can do that in your life. We are not Listen, we are not a bunch of We are not Listen, we are not a bunch of We are not Listen, we are not a bunch of good people trying to tell bad people good people trying to tell bad people good people trying to tell bad people how to be good. We are a bunch of how to be good. We are a bunch of how to be good. We are a bunch of forgiven nobodyies trying to tell forgiven nobodyies trying to tell forgiven nobodyies trying to tell everybody about a somebody who can everybody about a somebody who can everybody about a somebody who can redeem anybody and anything. He can do redeem anybody and anything. He can do redeem anybody and anything. He can do that for you and he can do that in your that for you and he can do that in your that for you and he can do that in your marriage. Okay, that's it. Amen. Amen. Amen. Hey, what an amazing Amen. Amen. Amen. Hey, what an amazing message from Pastor Josh. Hey, church message from Pastor Josh. Hey, church message from Pastor Josh. Hey, church online, thank you for being with us online, thank you for being with us online, thank you for being with us today and for journeying through this today and for journeying through this today and for journeying through this whole best of series with us this whole best of series with us this whole best of series with us this summer. I hope today's message left you summer. I hope today's message left you summer. I hope today's message left you with more hope and encouragement. So, with more hope and encouragement. So, with more hope and encouragement. So, let's live ready and on purpose starting let's live ready and on purpose starting let's live ready and on purpose starting this week. Also, if you're in the DFW this week. Also, if you're in the DFW this week. Also, if you're in the DFW area, we would love to see you in area, we would love to see you in area, we would love to see you in person. We have campuses across all of person. We have campuses across all of person. We have campuses across all of the DFW and there is a place for you the DFW and there is a place for you the DFW and there is a place for you here. And don't forget, next weekend we here. And don't forget, next weekend we here. And don't forget, next weekend we kick off our brand new sermon series, kick off our brand new sermon series, kick off our brand new sermon series, Fight the Good Fight. Make sure that you Fight the Good Fight. Make sure that you Fight the Good Fight. Make sure that you are subscribed on YouTube with are subscribed on YouTube with are subscribed on YouTube with notifications on so you don't miss it. notifications on so you don't miss it. notifications on so you don't miss it. And Monday's live free episode also is And Monday's live free episode also is And Monday's live free episode also is going deeper into this weekend's going deeper into this weekend's going deeper into this weekend's conversation. If you need prayer this conversation. If you need prayer this conversation. If you need prayer this week for anything at all, text the word week for anything at all, text the word week for anything at all, text the word prayer to 20411 prayer to 20411 prayer to 20411 and our team would be honored to pray and our team would be honored to pray and our team would be honored to pray for you by name. Let us know and we'd for you by name. Let us know and we'd for you by name. Let us know and we'd love to do that. Hey, would you go ahead love to do that. Hey, would you go ahead love to do that. Hey, would you go ahead and let's pray together. Father, thank and let's pray together. Father, thank and let's pray together. Father, thank you for our time together. Thank you for you for our time together. Thank you for you for our time together. Thank you for that word. I pray that the seed that was that word. I pray that the seed that was that word. I pray that the seed that was planted may continue to bear fruit in an planted may continue to bear fruit in an planted may continue to bear fruit in an abundant way. Lord, that we may uh by abundant way. Lord, that we may uh by abundant way. Lord, that we may uh by your grace be a reflection of the love your grace be a reflection of the love your grace be a reflection of the love of Christ for his church. um that we may of Christ for his church. um that we may of Christ for his church. um that we may walk in light of that truth every single walk in light of that truth every single walk in light of that truth every single day as a church, light in the middle of day as a church, light in the middle of day as a church, light in the middle of darkness. We thank you for your word. We darkness. We thank you for your word. We darkness. We thank you for your word. We thank you for this time together and we

thank you for this time together and we thank you for this time together and we pray all of this in your name, Jesus pray all of this in your name, Jesus pray all of this in your name, Jesus Christ. Amen. Amen and amen. Hey, we Christ. Amen. Amen and amen. Hey, we Christ. Amen. Amen and amen. Hey, we love you. God bless you and your family love you. God bless you and your family love you. God bless you and your family and we will see you next week for Fight and we will see you next week for Fight and we will see you next week for Fight the Good Fight. Yeah.

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