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[music] >> Well, hey church online. Welcome. If we >> Well, hey church online. Welcome. If we >> Well, hey church online. Welcome. If we haven't met, my name is Carlos and I haven't met, my name is Carlos and I haven't met, my name is Carlos and I serve as pastor of digital disciplehip. serve as pastor of digital disciplehip. serve as pastor of digital disciplehip. And I'm so glad you're spending part of And I'm so glad you're spending part of And I'm so glad you're spending part of your weekend with us today. Hey, we are your weekend with us today. Hey, we are your weekend with us today. Hey, we are wrapping our best of summer series, the wrapping our best of summer series, the wrapping our best of summer series, the run where every week we've revisited run where every week we've revisited run where every week we've revisited some of the most impactful messages from some of the most impactful messages from some of the most impactful messages from here at Lakepoint and Pastor Josh's here at Lakepoint and Pastor Josh's here at Lakepoint and Pastor Josh's messages. And we're going out with one messages. And we're going out with one messages. And we're going out with one you will not forget. This message comes you will not forget. This message comes you will not forget. This message comes from our love life series called the from our love life series called the from our love life series called the building blocks of godly dating, single building blocks of godly dating, single building blocks of godly dating, single and married. It is practical. It is and married. It is practical. It is and married. It is practical. It is biblical and honestly it'll change how biblical and honestly it'll change how biblical and honestly it'll change how you live this week. So lean in. If you you live this week. So lean in. If you you live this week. So lean in. If you are here and maybe you're new with us are here and maybe you're new with us are here and maybe you're new with us today, welcome. After today, head to our today, welcome. After today, head to our today, welcome. After today, head to our YouTube channel and catch the full Love YouTube channel and catch the full Love YouTube channel and catch the full Love Life series. These messages build on Life series. These messages build on Life series. These messages build on each other and they'll challenge and each other and they'll challenge and each other and they'll challenge and encourage [music] you. And if by the encourage [music] you. And if by the encourage [music] you. And if by the way, you are here because of the Live way, you are here because of the Live way, you are here because of the Live Free podcast, welcome. We're so glad Free podcast, welcome. We're so glad Free podcast, welcome. We're so glad you're here. Let us know in the chat. you're here. Let us know in the chat. you're here. Let us know in the chat. We'd love to find out. Live free podcast We'd love to find out. Live free podcast We'd love to find out. Live free podcast episodes drop every Monday and takes the episodes drop every Monday and takes the episodes drop every Monday and takes the weekend conversation even deeper. And so weekend conversation even deeper. And so weekend conversation even deeper. And so to our regular church online attenders, to our regular church online attenders, to our regular church online attenders, welcome back. You showing up every welcome back. You showing up every welcome back. You showing up every single week means more than you know.

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>> Lake Point family. Welcome [music] to church. We are so glad that you're church. We are so glad that you're church. We are so glad that you're joining us here today. Come on. Can we joining us here today. Come on. Can we joining us here today. Come on. Can we lift up our voices to the only one who's lift up our voices to the only one who's lift up our voices to the only one who's worthy [music] of all of the honor, all worthy [music] of all of the honor, all worthy [music] of all of the honor, all of the glory, and all of the praise. of the glory, and all of the praise. of the glory, and all of the praise. [music] [music] [music] We praise you, Lord. I have felt [music] I have felt [music] the hands that bear the scars reach down the hands that bear the scars reach down the hands that bear the scars reach down and rescue [music] me. I have known the and rescue [music] me. I have known the and rescue [music] me. I have known the love of the father's heart. [music] love of the father's heart. [music] love of the father's heart. [music] A prodical nowadays from where I was to A prodical nowadays from where I was to A prodical nowadays from where I was to where [music] I'm now. It's overwhelming more and more. I see your move [music] more and more. I see your move [music] all around me. Oh, I can't help [music] all around me. Oh, I can't help [music] all around me. Oh, I can't help [music] but praise you. Praise you, Lord. but praise you. Praise you, Lord. but praise you. Praise you, Lord. [music] [music] [music] I can't help but I can't help but I can't help but shout shout shout [music] when I think about how good you when I think about how good you faithful [music] faithful [music] faithful [music] now to the end. Oh, I can't help but now to the end. Oh, I can't help but now to the end. Oh, I can't help but praise you. Praise you, Lord.

praise you. Praise you, Lord. praise you. Praise you, Lord. [music] [music] [music] For the blood still save my life [music] for the cross you [music] pull me off. for the cross you [music] pull me off. Salvation for my life. From where I was Salvation for my life. From where I was Salvation for my life. From where I was [music] [music] [music] to where I'm to where I'm to where I'm overwhel [music] [music] I see you move I see you move I see you move all around me. all around me. all around me. I [music] can't help I [music] can't help I [music] can't help you. you. you. >> [music] >> [music] >> [music] >> You can't I can't help [music] but praise you. I can't help [music] but praise you. Praise you, Lord. [music] Praise you, Lord. [music] Praise you, Lord. [music] Oh, I can't help but dance cuz I'm free.

Oh, I can't help but dance cuz I'm free. Oh, I can't help but dance cuz I'm free. Got no chains on me. I'm healed [music] Got no chains on me. I'm healed [music] Got no chains on me. I'm healed [music] and redeemed. Oh, I can't help but call and redeemed. Oh, I can't help but call and redeemed. Oh, I can't help but call on the name [music] on the name [music] on the name [music] that bearing my strength. Open my grave. that bearing my strength. Open my grave. that bearing my strength. Open my grave. Oh, I can't [music] help but dance cuz Oh, I can't [music] help but dance cuz Oh, I can't [music] help but dance cuz I'm free. Your sh I'm healed and I'm free. Your sh I'm healed and I'm free. Your sh I'm healed and redeemed. Oh, I can't [music] Praise [music] Praise [music] you, Lord. you, Lord. you, Lord. Oh, I can't [music] help but praise you.

Oh, I can't [music] help but praise you. Oh, I can't [music] help but praise you. Praise you, Lord. Praise you, Lord. Praise you, Lord. No, I can't help [music] but praise you. No, I can't help [music] but praise you. No, I can't help [music] but praise you. Praise you, Lord. [music] And I can't help but praise you. Praise And I can't help but praise you. Praise you, Lord. you, Lord. you, Lord. Oh, I can't help but lift up when I think of how good you been. when I think of how good you been. [music] [music] [music] Faithful now until the end. I can't help Faithful now until the end. I can't help Faithful now until the end. I can't help but praise you. Praise you, Lord. but praise you. Praise you, Lord. but praise you. Praise you, Lord. Oh, I can't help but praise you. Praise Oh, I can't help but praise you. Praise Oh, I can't help but praise you. Praise you, Lord. [singing] We praise you, Lord. We praise you, Lord. >> Come on, church. Why don't we go ahead >> Come on, church. Why don't we go ahead >> Come on, church. Why don't we go ahead and praise the name of the Lord our God and praise the name of the Lord our God and praise the name of the Lord our God Jesus Christ your son. What a wonderful, Jesus Christ your son. What a wonderful, Jesus Christ your son. What a wonderful, wonderful name it is. Listen, family.

wonderful name it is. Listen, family. wonderful name it is. Listen, family. The Bible says in Proverbs 18 10 that The Bible says in Proverbs 18 10 that The Bible says in Proverbs 18 10 that the name of the Lord [music] is a strong the name of the Lord [music] is a strong the name of the Lord [music] is a strong tower and the righteous run in and they tower and the righteous run in and they tower and the righteous run in and they are safe. Isn't it [music] amazing to are safe. Isn't it [music] amazing to are safe. Isn't it [music] amazing to feel safe in our Lord Jesus Christ? So, feel safe in our Lord Jesus Christ? So, feel safe in our Lord Jesus Christ? So, we're going to continue in worshiping we're going to continue in worshiping we're going to continue in worshiping his holy name. Come on, let's sing his holy name. Come on, let's sing his holy name. Come on, let's sing together. together. together. I could sing your name for all my life I could sing your name for all my life I could sing your name for all my life and still find more to love [music] and still find more to love [music] and still find more to love [music] each time. each time. each time. Jesus be the [music] name ever on my Jesus be the [music] name ever on my Jesus be the [music] name ever on my lips. Sweeter every time that I call. lips. Sweeter every time that I call. lips. Sweeter every time that I call. Sweeter every time that I call. Sweeter every time that I call. Sweeter every time that I call. There's just something about your name. There's just something about your name. There's just something about your name. [music] There's just something about your name. There's just something about your name. [music] There's just something about [music] There's just something about [music] There's just something about your name your name your name that makes me cry.

There is no [music] other name. There is no [music] other name. There is no other name. There is no other name. There is no other name. There [music] is no other name. There [music] is no other name. There [music] is no other name. Jesus, you're worthy. Jesus, you're worthy. Jesus, you're worthy. You are worthy, Lord. You make the You are worthy, Lord. You make the You are worthy, Lord. You make the friend [music] who never friend [music] who never friend [music] who never lets. I won't forget lets. I won't forget lets. I won't forget [music] your faithfulness. [singing] Jesus be [music] the name ever on my Jesus be [music] the name ever on my sweeter every time that I call. sweeter every time that I call. sweeter every time that I call. Sweeter [music] every time that I call. Sweeter [music] every time that I call. Sweeter [music] every time that I call. There's something about you. There's something about you. There's something about you. There's something [music] about your There's something [music] about your There's something [music] about your name. name. name. There is something about your name There is something about your name There is something about your name [music] [music] [music] that makes me wor. that makes me wor. that makes me wor. [music] [music] [music] There is no other day. There is no other day. There is no other day. There is no [music] other day. No, there There is no [music] other day. No, there There is no [music] other day. No, there is no other day.

is no other day. is no other day. Jesus, [music] your word. There's just Jesus, [music] your word. There's just Jesus, [music] your word. There's just something about your name. There is something about your name. There is something about your name. There is something. There's [music] something about There's [music] something about There something about There something about There something about that makes me cry. [music] There is no other way. [music] There is no other way. [music] There is no other way. There is no other way. There is no other way. No, there is no [music] Jesus. Jesus. [music] Lord, Lord, the honor and the praise. Lord, come on in this moment. Let's Lord, come on in this moment. Let's boast about the King [music] of Kings. boast about the King [music] of Kings. boast about the King [music] of Kings. Let's sing. Jesus, your name. Yes. Let's sing. Jesus, your name. Yes. Let's sing. Jesus, your name. Yes. Jesus, your name is like the morning Jesus, your name is like the morning Jesus, your name is like the morning [music] light. The one the darkness can [music] light. The one the darkness can [music] light. The one the darkness can not the resurrection [music] not the resurrection [music] not the resurrection [music] and life. Jesus, [music] and life. Jesus, [music] and life. Jesus, [music] Jesus, your name. You save your name.

Jesus, your name. You save your name. Jesus, your name. You save your name. You heal [music] your name. You make the You heal [music] your name. You make the You heal [music] your name. You make the stormy be still. You never fail. You stormy be still. You never fail. You stormy be still. You never fail. You never will. [music] Jesus. never will. [music] Jesus. never will. [music] Jesus. Jesus the great life Jesus the great life Jesus the great life for us [music] for us [music] for us [music] and the worthy one and the worthy one and the worthy one last [music] Jesus. Jesus. Jesus the king [music] Jesus. Jesus. Oh Jesus [music] be the Oh Jesus [music] be the Oh Jesus [music] be the Jesus be the Jesus be the Jesus be the Jesus be the Jesus be the Jesus be the Jesus be the Jesus be the Jesus be the [music] [music] [music] glorus Heat. Heat.

Heat. Heat. [music] Heat. Heat. [music] [music] [music] They get all the glory They get all the glory They get all the glory [music] [music] [music] all the glory. [music] [music] The name above every other name [music] The name above every other name [music] The name above every other name [music] is Jesus. is Jesus. is Jesus. Family in this moment if you feel you Family in this moment if you feel you Family in this moment if you feel you just lift up your [music] hands towards just lift up your [music] hands towards just lift up your [music] hands towards heaven and just begin to say Jesus you heaven and just begin to say Jesus you heaven and just begin to say Jesus you get the glory. You get the [music] glory get the glory. You get the [music] glory get the glory. You get the [music] glory from my life. You get the glory in my from my life. You get the glory in my from my life. You get the glory in my family. You get the [music] glory in family. You get the [music] glory in family. You get the [music] glory in everything I do. Come on, just speak everything I do. Come on, just speak everything I do. Come on, just speak that out to Jesus.

that out to Jesus. that out to Jesus. Lord Jesus, we [music] just hold nothing Lord Jesus, we [music] just hold nothing Lord Jesus, we [music] just hold nothing back in this moment. And we surrender it back in this moment. And we surrender it back in this moment. And we surrender it all to you. We surrender it [music] all all to you. We surrender it [music] all all to you. We surrender it [music] all to you because you alone are worthy of to you because you alone are worthy of to you because you alone are worthy of our lives. our lives. our lives. Thank you, Jesus. Thank you, Jesus. Thank you, Jesus. Thank you, Jesus. Thank you, Jesus. Thank you, Jesus. Come on, let's continue [music] worship. Come on, let's continue [music] worship. Come on, let's continue [music] worship. So we fall down. So we fall down. So we fall down. We lay [music] our grounds We lay [music] our grounds We lay [music] our grounds at the feet at the feet at the feet of Jesus. [music] The greatness show The greatness show mercy [music] mercy [music] mercy [music] and and and at the feet of [music] Jesus. of [music] Jesus. Sing we fall down. As we [music] fall Sing we fall down. As we [music] fall Sing we fall down. As we [music] fall down, down, down, we lay our cross we lay our cross we lay our cross at the feet of Jesus. [music] at the feet of Jesus. [music] at the feet of Jesus. [music] Of Jesus, Of Jesus, Of Jesus, the greatness of the greatness, your mercy [music] and love your mercy [music] and love at the feet, at the feet, at the feet, feet of Jesus. So we cry holy. So feet of Jesus. So we cry holy. So feet of Jesus. So we cry holy. So [music] we cry holy, [singing] [music] we cry holy, [singing] [music] we cry holy, [singing] holy, holy, holy, holy.

holy. holy. We cry [music] We cry [music] We cry [music] holy, holy, holy, holy, holy, holy, holy. We cry holy, holy. We cry, holy, holy. We cry holy, holy. We cry, holy, holy. We cry holy, holy. We cry, holy, [music] [music] [music] holy, holy, holy, holy holy holy is [music] is [music] is [music] we. We join with the angels of cry. we. We join with the angels of cry. we. We join with the angels of cry. Yes, we [music] Yes, we [music] Yes, we [music] are. This is your story. are. This is your story. are. This is your story. Yes, we are. [music] Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] And I will [music] say we cry. You say And I will [music] say we cry. You say we cry holy, holy, we cry holy, holy, we cry holy, holy, holy.

holy. holy. Yes, we cry holy, holy, Yes, we cry holy, holy, Yes, we cry holy, holy, holy. holy. holy. We cry holy, holy, [singing] We cry holy, holy, [singing] We cry holy, holy, [singing] holy [music] holy [music] holy [music] is the lamb. is the lamb. is the lamb. >> [music] >> [music] >> [music] >> Oh, come on. Can we celebrate the king >> Oh, come on. Can we celebrate the king >> Oh, come on. Can we celebrate the king who is holy? There is no one else like who is holy? There is no one else like who is holy? There is no one else like him. The King of Kings, the Lord of him. The King of Kings, the Lord of him. The King of Kings, the Lord of Lords, [music] and our Savior. Holy is Lords, [music] and our Savior. Holy is Lords, [music] and our Savior. Holy is the Lord our God Almighty. Amen. Church, the Lord our God Almighty. Amen. Church, the Lord our God Almighty. Amen. Church, it's a joy to worship [music] Jesus with it's a joy to worship [music] Jesus with it's a joy to worship [music] Jesus with you. You can go ahead and take a seat. you. You can go ahead and take a seat. you. You can go ahead and take a seat. And as we turn to the screens, let's And as we turn to the screens, let's And as we turn to the screens, let's celebrate [music] those declaring their celebrate [music] those declaring their celebrate [music] those declaring their faith in Jesus Christ through baptisms. faith in Jesus Christ through baptisms. faith in Jesus Christ through baptisms. >> That's right. [music] We're going to >> That's right. [music] We're going to >> That's right. [music] We're going to continue to worship the Lord together by continue to worship the Lord together by continue to worship the Lord together by celebrating all of these who are taking celebrating all of these who are taking celebrating all of these who are taking their next step in baptism. And we're their next step in baptism. And we're their next step in baptism. And we're getting started here with my friend getting started here with my friend getting started here with my friend Porter. So, Porter, a question for you, Porter. So, Porter, a question for you, Porter. So, Porter, a question for you, man. Have you put your trust in Jesus as man. Have you put your trust in Jesus as man. Have you put your trust in Jesus as the Lord and Savior [music] of your the Lord and Savior [music] of your the Lord and Savior [music] of your life? life? life? >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Praise God, man. Well, because of that, >> Praise God, man. Well, because of that, >> Praise God, man. Well, because of that, it's my honor to baptize you in the name it's my honor to baptize you in the name it's my honor to baptize you in the name of the Father, the Son, and Holy Spirit.

of the Father, the Son, and Holy Spirit. of the Father, the Son, and Holy Spirit. >> Come on, man. Let's go. All righty. >> Come on, man. Let's go. All righty. >> Come on, man. Let's go. All righty. Yeah. And next up, we've got my friend Yeah. And next up, we've got my friend Yeah. And next up, we've got my friend Vanessa. Vanessa. Vanessa. And we've got dad with us today. Praise And we've got dad with us today. Praise And we've got dad with us today. Praise God. We love families. Vanessa, the God. We love families. Vanessa, the God. We love families. Vanessa, the question is the same for you. Have you question is the same for you. Have you question is the same for you. Have you put [music] your trust in Jesus as the put [music] your trust in Jesus as the put [music] your trust in Jesus as the Lord and Savior of your life? Amazing. Lord and Savior of your life? Amazing. Lord and Savior of your life? Amazing. Well, because of that, it's your dad's Well, because of that, it's your dad's Well, because of that, it's your dad's honor to baptize [music] you in the name honor to baptize [music] you in the name honor to baptize [music] you in the name of the Father, the Son, and Holy Spirit. >> Awesome. Praise God. And we've got >> Awesome. Praise God. And we've got Riley. Come on, Riley. Come on, Riley. Come on, Riley. The [music] same question. Have Riley. The [music] same question. Have Riley. The [music] same question. Have you put your faith and trust in Jesus as you put your faith and trust in Jesus as you put your faith and trust in Jesus as the Lord and Savior of your life? the Lord and Savior of your life? the Lord and Savior of your life? >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Amazing. Well, because of that, it is >> Amazing. Well, because of that, it is >> Amazing. Well, because of that, it is going to be my honor to baptize you in going to be my honor to baptize you in going to be my honor to baptize you in the Father, the Son, and Holy Spirit. >> Awesome. >> Awesome. And we've got my friend Fay And we've got my friend Fay And we've got my friend Fay and brother with us today. Praise God. and brother with us today. Praise God. and brother with us today. Praise God. Fay, have you put your trust in Jesus as Fay, have you put your trust in Jesus as Fay, have you put your trust in Jesus as the Lord and Savior of your life? the Lord and Savior of your life? the Lord and Savior of your life? >> Absolutely. >> Absolutely. >> Absolutely. >> Awesome. Well, because of that, it is >> Awesome. Well, because of that, it is >> Awesome. Well, because of that, it is your brother's honor to baptize you in your brother's honor to baptize you in your brother's honor to baptize you in the name of the Father, the Son, and the name of the Father, the Son, and the name of the Father, the Son, and Holy Spirit.

It's beautiful. It's beautiful. And our friend Marcos from California, And our friend Marcos from California, And our friend Marcos from California, man, have you put your faith and trust man, have you put your faith and trust man, have you put your faith and trust in Jesus as the Lord and Savior of your in Jesus as the Lord and Savior of your in Jesus as the Lord and Savior of your life? life? life? >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Amazing. Well, because of that, it's >> Amazing. Well, because of that, it's >> Amazing. Well, because of that, it's going to be my honor to baptize you in going to be my honor to baptize you in going to be my honor to baptize you in the name of the Father, the Son, and the name of the Father, the Son, and the name of the Father, the Son, and Holy Spirit. >> Well, hey, church online. We are >> Well, hey, church online. We are wrapping up our best of summer series wrapping up our best of summer series wrapping up our best of summer series with a big one. And I am so excited with a big one. And I am so excited with a big one. And I am so excited because this one right here is coming because this one right here is coming because this one right here is coming from our love life series. We are from our love life series. We are from our love life series. We are bringing back the building blocks for bringing back the building blocks for bringing back the building blocks for godly dating, single, and married. And godly dating, single, and married. And godly dating, single, and married. And here's the heart of it. From building here's the heart of it. From building here's the heart of it. From building your relationship in the right order to your relationship in the right order to your relationship in the right order to protecting and strengthening, and also protecting and strengthening, and also protecting and strengthening, and also leading well years into marriage, this leading well years into marriage, this leading well years into marriage, this message speaks to every season. And by message speaks to every season. And by message speaks to every season. And by the way, for our parents with young the way, for our parents with young the way, for our parents with young children, this series right here is children, this series right here is children, this series right here is deemed PG11. So you may want to have deemed PG11. So you may want to have deemed PG11. So you may want to have some other activities for those young some other activities for those young some other activities for those young ears at home [music] joining you right ears at home [music] joining you right ears at home [music] joining you right now. Also in this sermon we will see now. Also in this sermon we will see now. Also in this sermon we will see that a discipline life doesn't grow in that a discipline life doesn't grow in that a discipline life doesn't grow in isolation. You need people around you isolation. You need people around you isolation. You need people around you who know your name, pray for you and who know your name, pray for you and who know your name, pray for you and keep you anchored when the world feels keep you anchored when the world feels keep you anchored when the world feels uncertain and when life gets tough, man, uncertain and when life gets tough, man, uncertain and when life gets tough, man, that's what you need people with you that's what you need people with you that's what you need people with you for. And that's honestly what the local for. And that's honestly what the local for. And that's honestly what the local church is for. People here are meeting church is for. People here are meeting church is for. People here are meeting Jesus, getting baptized, and taking real Jesus, getting baptized, and taking real Jesus, getting baptized, and taking real next steps. By the grace of God, next steps. By the grace of God, next steps. By the grace of God, campuses are growing and soon we will be campuses are growing and soon we will be campuses are growing and soon we will be expanding further into Colin County as expanding further into Colin County as expanding further into Colin County as the Lakeoint family moves to Lucas, the Lakeoint family moves to Lucas, the Lakeoint family moves to Lucas, Texas. And here's what you need to know.

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book of the Bible called Song of Songs. book of the Bible called Song of Songs. And here's what this book is. Um, for And here's what this book is. Um, for And here's what this book is. Um, for those of us who are are newer to this those of us who are are newer to this those of us who are are newer to this book, it's just like we call Jesus King book, it's just like we call Jesus King book, it's just like we call Jesus King of Kings because he's the greatest king of Kings because he's the greatest king of Kings because he's the greatest king and Lord of Lords cuz he's the Lord over and Lord of Lords cuz he's the Lord over and Lord of Lords cuz he's the Lord over all the other lords. Um Solomon in the all the other lords. Um Solomon in the all the other lords. Um Solomon in the Bible, a king wrote a thous05 songs. And Bible, a king wrote a thous05 songs. And Bible, a king wrote a thous05 songs. And then there was this one song that God then there was this one song that God then there was this one song that God pointed to and went that's the song of pointed to and went that's the song of pointed to and went that's the song of songs. That's the one above all the songs. That's the one above all the songs. That's the one above all the other songs. And it's about romance, other songs. And it's about romance, other songs. And it's about romance, dating, sex, marriage, all the things. dating, sex, marriage, all the things. dating, sex, marriage, all the things. And so we are leaning in to that and And so we are leaning in to that and And so we are leaning in to that and preaching through it. And let me just go preaching through it. And let me just go preaching through it. And let me just go ahead and lay this principle down. Um if ahead and lay this principle down. Um if ahead and lay this principle down. Um if you are in any way have struggled with you are in any way have struggled with you are in any way have struggled with with parts of this series, I'm just with parts of this series, I'm just with parts of this series, I'm just gonna tell you why. Here's why. Um gonna tell you why. Here's why. Um gonna tell you why. Here's why. Um because here here's our principle is because here here's our principle is because here here's our principle is that God has a plan to bless your life that God has a plan to bless your life that God has a plan to bless your life and your marriage and Satan has a plan and your marriage and Satan has a plan and your marriage and Satan has a plan to steal, kill, and destroy your life to steal, kill, and destroy your life to steal, kill, and destroy your life and marriage. And ultimately, you get to and marriage. And ultimately, you get to and marriage. And ultimately, you get to decide which plan you're on. God's plan decide which plan you're on. God's plan decide which plan you're on. God's plan to bless your marriage is in his word. to bless your marriage is in his word. to bless your marriage is in his word. And Satan's plan to curse your marriage And Satan's plan to curse your marriage And Satan's plan to curse your marriage is in the world. And ultimately, you is in the world. And ultimately, you is in the world. And ultimately, you have to decide which one stands in have to decide which one stands in have to decide which one stands in authority over the other. Does what the authority over the other. Does what the authority over the other. Does what the word says stand in authority over what word says stand in authority over what word says stand in authority over what the world says and judge it and say that the world says and judge it and say that the world says and judge it and say that it's wrong and evaluate it? or are you a it's wrong and evaluate it? or are you a it's wrong and evaluate it? or are you a person that's going to prioritize what person that's going to prioritize what person that's going to prioritize what the world says over what the word says the world says over what the word says the world says over what the word says and the world's opinion judges the word and the world's opinion judges the word and the world's opinion judges the word and says what is right and wrong in it and says what is right and wrong in it and says what is right and wrong in it and ultimately if you follow God's plan and ultimately if you follow God's plan and ultimately if you follow God's plan it leads to blessing and if you follow it leads to blessing and if you follow it leads to blessing and if you follow Satan's plan there is only one thing Satan's plan there is only one thing Satan's plan there is only one thing that he wants to ever ever ever do is he that he wants to ever ever ever do is he that he wants to ever ever ever do is he wants to steal kill and destroy wants to steal kill and destroy wants to steal kill and destroy everything you hold dear very much everything you hold dear very much everything you hold dear very much including your marriage and your family

including your marriage and your family including your marriage and your family and so in this series what we're doing and so in this series what we're doing and so in this series what we're doing is we're just walking through and going is we're just walking through and going is we're just walking through and going okay what's God's God's plan for this okay what's God's God's plan for this okay what's God's God's plan for this now here's we're doing in week three. now here's we're doing in week three. now here's we're doing in week three. This week we're going to talk uh we're This week we're going to talk uh we're This week we're going to talk uh we're going to talk about dating and pursuit. going to talk about dating and pursuit. going to talk about dating and pursuit. Now, quick heads up. Um if you are Now, quick heads up. Um if you are Now, quick heads up. Um if you are especially a guy who hears that and especially a guy who hears that and especially a guy who hears that and you're like, "Dating? I don't hear about you're like, "Dating? I don't hear about you're like, "Dating? I don't hear about dating. I'm already married. I'm already dating. I'm already married. I'm already dating. I'm already married. I'm already done with that." I have just figured out done with that." I have just figured out done with that." I have just figured out what is wrong with your marriage. I can what is wrong with your marriage. I can what is wrong with your marriage. I can tell you right now exactly what's wrong tell you right now exactly what's wrong tell you right now exactly what's wrong with your marriage. We we can figure with your marriage. We we can figure with your marriage. We we can figure that out later. But um it was that out later. But um it was that out later. But um it was interesting in getting ready for this interesting in getting ready for this interesting in getting ready for this message. You know, me and Jana, we take message. You know, me and Jana, we take message. You know, me and Jana, we take our little walk every night and we'll our little walk every night and we'll our little walk every night and we'll talk through the sermons. And so James talk through the sermons. And so James talk through the sermons. And so James was telling me this and and um and we I was telling me this and and um and we I was telling me this and and um and we I we started talking about us dating. So we started talking about us dating. So we started talking about us dating. So just for fun um I'm going to show you I just for fun um I'm going to show you I just for fun um I'm going to show you I think the only picture that we have from think the only picture that we have from think the only picture that we have from the ent we only dated for 4 months uh the ent we only dated for 4 months uh the ent we only dated for 4 months uh from the entire time we dated. Um so from the entire time we dated. Um so from the entire time we dated. Um so here it is. This is the only picture I'm here it is. This is the only picture I'm here it is. This is the only picture I'm aware of of us dating. I know some of aware of of us dating. I know some of aware of of us dating. I know some of you are aing and some of you are you are aing and some of you are you are aing and some of you are laughing. The ones that are laughing are laughing. The ones that are laughing are laughing. The ones that are laughing are looking to the left side of the picture looking to the left side of the picture looking to the left side of the picture and the ones that are awing are looking and the ones that are awing are looking and the ones that are awing are looking to the right side of the picture. Now I to the right side of the picture. Now I to the right side of the picture. Now I just want to point a couple things out.

just want to point a couple things out. just want to point a couple things out. Um number one that's 50 lbs ago for me. Um number one that's 50 lbs ago for me. Um number one that's 50 lbs ago for me. That's number one. And number two, um, I That's number one. And number two, um, I That's number one. And number two, um, I grew into my eyebrows. Uh, that's great. grew into my eyebrows. Uh, that's great. grew into my eyebrows. Uh, that's great. Love that. It's great. Love that. I've Love that. It's great. Love that. I've Love that. It's great. Love that. I've never met anybody else who had to grow never met anybody else who had to grow never met anybody else who had to grow into their eyebrows, but I did. The into their eyebrows, but I did. The into their eyebrows, but I did. The other thing I want to point out is I am other thing I want to point out is I am other thing I want to point out is I am virtually unrecognizable. virtually unrecognizable. virtually unrecognizable. And Jana looks exactly the same. Like And Jana looks exactly the same. Like And Jana looks exactly the same. Like literally exactly. It's freakishly the literally exactly. It's freakishly the literally exactly. It's freakishly the same. She might be a vampire, red-headed same. She might be a vampire, red-headed same. She might be a vampire, red-headed vampire. vampire. vampire. So, uh, and so you know, here's your So, uh, and so you know, here's your So, uh, and so you know, here's your principle is that, um, women age like principle is that, um, women age like principle is that, um, women age like wine and men age like milk. And that is wine and men age like milk. And that is wine and men age like milk. And that is very, very clear. Okay. So, here's what very, very clear. Okay. So, here's what very, very clear. Okay. So, here's what we're going to do. We're going to get we're going to do. We're going to get we're going to do. We're going to get right into this and talk about, um, talk right into this and talk about, um, talk right into this and talk about, um, talk about pursuit and dating. Okay. So, here about pursuit and dating. Okay. So, here about pursuit and dating. Okay. So, here we go. Uh, here we go. Chapter 2, we go. Uh, here we go. Chapter 2, we go. Uh, here we go. Chapter 2, starting in verse 10. The woman in the starting in verse 10. The woman in the starting in verse 10. The woman in the passage again, all this book is is a passage again, all this book is is a passage again, all this book is is a king and a country girl with a farmer king and a country girl with a farmer king and a country girl with a farmer stand. They fall in love, sing songs to stand. They fall in love, sing songs to stand. They fall in love, sing songs to each other. That's the whole book. each other. That's the whole book. each other. That's the whole book. Chapter 2, verse 10. What you got is the Chapter 2, verse 10. What you got is the Chapter 2, verse 10. What you got is the woman is singing and she says this. My woman is singing and she says this. My woman is singing and she says this. My beloved spoke and said to me, "Arise my beloved spoke and said to me, "Arise my beloved spoke and said to me, "Arise my darling." So this is what he says. Arise darling." So this is what he says. Arise darling." So this is what he says. Arise my darling, my beautiful one, and come my darling, my beautiful one, and come my darling, my beautiful one, and come with me. Notice this. It is the man.

with me. Notice this. It is the man. with me. Notice this. It is the man. It's the future husband. And he does It's the future husband. And he does It's the future husband. And he does this after the marriage in the book. He this after the marriage in the book. He this after the marriage in the book. He is the one that is primarily initiating is the one that is primarily initiating is the one that is primarily initiating in the relationship. So principle number in the relationship. So principle number in the relationship. So principle number one, in a godly relationship, a husband one, in a godly relationship, a husband one, in a godly relationship, a husband pursues his wife. Now, I'm going to talk pursues his wife. Now, I'm going to talk pursues his wife. Now, I'm going to talk about ladies in a second, but principle about ladies in a second, but principle about ladies in a second, but principle number one, a husband pursues his wife. number one, a husband pursues his wife. number one, a husband pursues his wife. Okay? Now, when I say pursue, we we're Okay? Now, when I say pursue, we we're Okay? Now, when I say pursue, we we're talking about dating. It doesn't have to talking about dating. It doesn't have to talking about dating. It doesn't have to be like literal actual date. You just be like literal actual date. You just be like literal actual date. You just need to figure it out what works for need to figure it out what works for need to figure it out what works for you. But there needs to be something in you. But there needs to be something in you. But there needs to be something in your marriage where it's like, "Hey, I your marriage where it's like, "Hey, I your marriage where it's like, "Hey, I am pursuing her. We are spending am pursuing her. We are spending am pursuing her. We are spending relational time together." And I'm going relational time together." And I'm going relational time together." And I'm going to talk about what the Bible says that to talk about what the Bible says that to talk about what the Bible says that needs to look like. Now, what I have needs to look like. Now, what I have needs to look like. Now, what I have learned in just how I am as a as a guy learned in just how I am as a as a guy learned in just how I am as a as a guy and what I've learned talking dudes is and what I've learned talking dudes is and what I've learned talking dudes is you can't just tell men like what to do. you can't just tell men like what to do. you can't just tell men like what to do. It's like they got to know why, you It's like they got to know why, you It's like they got to know why, you know, lose your wife, lose your way. So, know, lose your wife, lose your way. So, know, lose your wife, lose your way. So, husbands, let me help you out. I want to husbands, let me help you out. I want to husbands, let me help you out. I want to I want to point out four things that we I want to point out four things that we I want to point out four things that we are doing when we date our wives. Four are doing when we date our wives. Four are doing when we date our wives. Four things that happen when we date our things that happen when we date our things that happen when we date our wives. Help us establish the wives. Here wives. Help us establish the wives. Here wives. Help us establish the wives. Here we go. Number one, when a husband dates we go. Number one, when a husband dates we go. Number one, when a husband dates his wife, number one, you are misery his wife, number one, you are misery his wife, number one, you are misery proofing your wife. You're misery proofing your wife. You're misery proofing your wife. You're misery proofing your wife. Okay, which is kind proofing your wife. Okay, which is kind proofing your wife. Okay, which is kind of a big deal. Kind of a big deal. Now, of a big deal. Kind of a big deal. Now, of a big deal. Kind of a big deal. Now, here's what I mean. Um, well, the Bible here's what I mean. Um, well, the Bible here's what I mean. Um, well, the Bible says that a uh that a a a godly wife, a says that a uh that a a a godly wife, a says that a uh that a a a godly wife, a good wife, is like a well-watered good wife, is like a well-watered good wife, is like a well-watered garden. Husbands, if I look at a woman, garden. Husbands, if I look at a woman, garden. Husbands, if I look at a woman, ultimately over time, your wife is your ultimately over time, your wife is your ultimately over time, your wife is your resume. Ultimately, over time, your wife resume. Ultimately, over time, your wife resume. Ultimately, over time, your wife is your resume. So, if I look at a woman is your resume. So, if I look at a woman is your resume. So, if I look at a woman that's the longer she's married to a that's the longer she's married to a that's the longer she's married to a man, the longer she's married to him, man, the longer she's married to him, man, the longer she's married to him, there's a joy that grows. There's a

there's a joy that grows. There's a there's a joy that grows. There's a beauty that continue to grows. Her beauty that continue to grows. Her beauty that continue to grows. Her confidence continues to grow. She's confidence continues to grow. She's confidence continues to grow. She's growing in godliness. um there there's a growing in godliness. um there there's a growing in godliness. um there there's a she's moving towards a calling. Okay. she's moving towards a calling. Okay. she's moving towards a calling. Okay. Well, that tells me something about that Well, that tells me something about that Well, that tells me something about that man. Now, conversely, when you see a man. Now, conversely, when you see a man. Now, conversely, when you see a woman who the longer she's married to a woman who the longer she's married to a woman who the longer she's married to a man, it's like the more beaten down she man, it's like the more beaten down she man, it's like the more beaten down she is, the more tired, the less joy she is, the more tired, the less joy she is, the more tired, the less joy she has, is her confidence is eroded. That has, is her confidence is eroded. That has, is her confidence is eroded. That tells me something not just about her, tells me something not just about her, tells me something not just about her, it tells me something about that man. it tells me something about that man. it tells me something about that man. Why? Because the way that rel the Why? Because the way that rel the Why? Because the way that rel the relationship works is that over time relationship works is that over time relationship works is that over time your wife becomes your resume in general your wife becomes your resume in general your wife becomes your resume in general in some ways. Okay. Now there's a in some ways. Okay. Now there's a in some ways. Okay. Now there's a theology to this. Let me go back to week theology to this. Let me go back to week theology to this. Let me go back to week one of this series so that so that we one of this series so that so that we one of this series so that so that we understand this. So in Genesis chapter 1 understand this. So in Genesis chapter 1 understand this. So in Genesis chapter 1 and two, God creates all the things and and two, God creates all the things and and two, God creates all the things and then he creates a man that's alone. then he creates a man that's alone. then he creates a man that's alone. That's the only thing that God says is That's the only thing that God says is That's the only thing that God says is not good. A man alone. We all know this. not good. A man alone. We all know this. not good. A man alone. We all know this. You've seen college dorm rooms. So then You've seen college dorm rooms. So then You've seen college dorm rooms. So then what God does is he creates, watch this, what God does is he creates, watch this, what God does is he creates, watch this, a helper that will be suitable for him. a helper that will be suitable for him. a helper that will be suitable for him. That's the Bible language. And then in That's the Bible language. And then in That's the Bible language. And then in Hebrew, he uses this language that he is Hebrew, he uses this language that he is Hebrew, he uses this language that he is creating. These are the Hebrew words.

creating. These are the Hebrew words. creating. These are the Hebrew words. Azer condo. Aerkto. Azer condo. Aerkto. Azer condo. Aerkto. Aer means helper. And then conto is a Aer means helper. And then conto is a Aer means helper. And then conto is a weird word that's hard hard to weird word that's hard hard to weird word that's hard hard to translate. If you go back to your King translate. If you go back to your King translate. If you go back to your King James version Bible, what you're going James version Bible, what you're going James version Bible, what you're going to notice is it it just smashes these to notice is it it just smashes these to notice is it it just smashes these two words together and it gives the he two words together and it gives the he two words together and it gives the he it gives the translation help. Bad it gives the translation help. Bad it gives the translation help. Bad translation. Nobody knows what the heck translation. Nobody knows what the heck translation. Nobody knows what the heck that means. So what what connetodo means that means. So what what connetodo means that means. So what what connetodo means is it means um it means something like is it means um it means something like is it means um it means something like uh a a compliment. It literally means in uh a a compliment. It literally means in uh a a compliment. It literally means in front of. Okay? So he created a woman in front of. Okay? So he created a woman in front of. Okay? So he created a woman in front of. Now let's go back to week one front of. Now let's go back to week one front of. Now let's go back to week one and then let's make it another and then let's make it another and then let's make it another application. Husbands, what this means application. Husbands, what this means application. Husbands, what this means is your marriage is going to be one of is your marriage is going to be one of is your marriage is going to be one of three types of marriages. And you three types of marriages. And you three types of marriages. And you [snorts] need to know which type your [snorts] need to know which type your [snorts] need to know which type your wife feels like she's in. Not you, your wife feels like she's in. Not you, your wife feels like she's in. Not you, your wife feels like she's in. Okay. Three wife feels like she's in. Okay. Three wife feels like she's in. Okay. Three types of marriages. Back to back, side types of marriages. Back to back, side types of marriages. Back to back, side to side. Wait, how did I do that? Back to side. Wait, how did I do that? Back to side. Wait, how did I do that? Back to backs. Let me do it. Back to back, to backs. Let me do it. Back to back, to backs. Let me do it. Back to back, side to side, face to face. Back to side to side, face to face. Back to side to side, face to face. Back to back, side to side, face to face. In a back, side to side, face to face. In a back, side to side, face to face. In a backtoback marriage, this is when she backtoback marriage, this is when she backtoback marriage, this is when she gets in bed and she faces that way. He gets in bed and she faces that way. He gets in bed and she faces that way. He gets in bed and he faces that way. And gets in bed and he faces that way. And gets in bed and he faces that way. And never the twain shall meet. In fact, never the twain shall meet. In fact, never the twain shall meet. In fact, there's actually a little conflict, a there's actually a little conflict, a there's actually a little conflict, a little electricity, a little tension in little electricity, a little tension in little electricity, a little tension in the home. And this is where primarily the home. And this is where primarily the home. And this is where primarily because of unforgiveness, sin, and because of unforgiveness, sin, and because of unforgiveness, sin, and bitterness that what's happened is bitterness that what's happened is bitterness that what's happened is instead of husband and wife, it's become instead of husband and wife, it's become instead of husband and wife, it's become man versus wife. and they feel like man versus wife. and they feel like man versus wife. and they feel like enemies. Now, some people, they're not enemies. Now, some people, they're not enemies. Now, some people, they're not in a in a back backtoback marriage.

in a in a back backtoback marriage. in a in a back backtoback marriage. They're in a side to side marriage. And They're in a side to side marriage. And They're in a side to side marriage. And this is where the marriage, it feels this is where the marriage, it feels this is where the marriage, it feels like it feels like two relationally like it feels like two relationally like it feels like two relationally sterile co-workers. It's like he's sterile co-workers. It's like he's sterile co-workers. It's like he's moving this way and she's moving this moving this way and she's moving this moving this way and she's moving this way. We work on projects. We're getting way. We work on projects. We're getting way. We work on projects. We're getting stuff done, chores. I'm in a a season of stuff done, chores. I'm in a a season of stuff done, chores. I'm in a a season of life where I'm like a professional life where I'm like a professional life where I'm like a professional chauffeur for my kids like 70% of the chauffeur for my kids like 70% of the chauffeur for my kids like 70% of the time. You're in that season of life. time. You're in that season of life. time. You're in that season of life. Okay? But there's no time for intimacy Okay? But there's no time for intimacy Okay? But there's no time for intimacy emotionally, physically, relationally. emotionally, physically, relationally. emotionally, physically, relationally. And so it just feels like co-workers. And so it just feels like co-workers. And so it just feels like co-workers. We're just getting stuff done. Okay? But We're just getting stuff done. Okay? But We're just getting stuff done. Okay? But then whenever God creates the marriage, then whenever God creates the marriage, then whenever God creates the marriage, watch this. He creates a helper that's watch this. He creates a helper that's watch this. He creates a helper that's face to face that's in front of Adam. So face to face that's in front of Adam. So face to face that's in front of Adam. So what we want is a marriage that's face what we want is a marriage that's face what we want is a marriage that's face to face. Okay? Now, intimacy, it it's to face. Okay? Now, intimacy, it it's to face. Okay? Now, intimacy, it it's marked by intimacy. Intimacy just means marked by intimacy. Intimacy just means marked by intimacy. Intimacy just means into me see. In fact, watch this into me see. In fact, watch this into me see. In fact, watch this definition of the relational nature of a definition of the relational nature of a definition of the relational nature of a godly marriage. In Song of Solomon 5:16, godly marriage. In Song of Solomon 5:16, godly marriage. In Song of Solomon 5:16, it says this, "His kisses are sweet. I it says this, "His kisses are sweet. I it says this, "His kisses are sweet. I desire him so much." Young women of desire him so much." Young women of desire him so much." Young women of Jerusalem, watch this. He is my lover Jerusalem, watch this. He is my lover Jerusalem, watch this. He is my lover and he is my friend.

and he is my friend. and he is my friend. A lover and a friend. These two things, A lover and a friend. These two things, A lover and a friend. These two things, it's a face tof face marriage. We're it's a face tof face marriage. We're it's a face tof face marriage. We're seeing into each other's souls. We're seeing into each other's souls. We're seeing into each other's souls. We're spending time with each other. We're spending time with each other. We're spending time with each other. We're enjoying physical, relational, emotional enjoying physical, relational, emotional enjoying physical, relational, emotional intimacy. This is a face-to-face intimacy. This is a face-to-face intimacy. This is a face-to-face marriage. So, he is my lover. He is my marriage. So, he is my lover. He is my marriage. So, he is my lover. He is my friend. The Bible literally says that a friend. The Bible literally says that a friend. The Bible literally says that a great marriage is friends with benefits. great marriage is friends with benefits. great marriage is friends with benefits. That's what you have right here. That's That's what you have right here. That's That's what you have right here. That's number one. Okay. Number two, husbands. number one. Okay. Number two, husbands. number one. Okay. Number two, husbands. Now, I need everybody to make sure you Now, I need everybody to make sure you Now, I need everybody to make sure you do not misinterpret what I'm about to do not misinterpret what I'm about to do not misinterpret what I'm about to say. So, I'm going to talk about what say. So, I'm going to talk about what say. So, I'm going to talk about what this does not mean. Husbands, what we're this does not mean. Husbands, what we're this does not mean. Husbands, what we're also trying to do is a fair proof your also trying to do is a fair proof your also trying to do is a fair proof your marriage. Now, here's my disclaimer. You marriage. Now, here's my disclaimer. You marriage. Now, here's my disclaimer. You are never responsible for somebody are never responsible for somebody are never responsible for somebody else's sin. Their sin is their fault. So else's sin. Their sin is their fault. So else's sin. Their sin is their fault. So if your spouse has cheated on you, does if your spouse has cheated on you, does if your spouse has cheated on you, does not matter what you did. Their decision not matter what you did. Their decision not matter what you did. Their decision was their sin and not your fault. was their sin and not your fault. was their sin and not your fault. Understood? Now listen to me. God will Understood? Now listen to me. God will Understood? Now listen to me. God will judge them for that. Hold them judge them for that. Hold them judge them for that. Hold them responsible for their thing. He's going responsible for their thing. He's going responsible for their thing. He's going to hold you responsible for your things. to hold you responsible for your things. to hold you responsible for your things. Now that being said, what I'm talking Now that being said, what I'm talking Now that being said, what I'm talking about here is the dynamic. It's speaking about here is the dynamic. It's speaking about here is the dynamic. It's speaking to our desire to remove any opportunity to our desire to remove any opportunity to our desire to remove any opportunity for Satan to get a foothold in our for Satan to get a foothold in our for Satan to get a foothold in our marriages as far as it depends on us.

marriages as far as it depends on us. marriages as far as it depends on us. Okay? So, [snorts] here's what I mean. Okay? So, [snorts] here's what I mean. Okay? So, [snorts] here's what I mean. Husbands, just in a straightforward way, Husbands, just in a straightforward way, Husbands, just in a straightforward way, date your wife before somebody else date your wife before somebody else date your wife before somebody else tries to. If you dated her to get tries to. If you dated her to get tries to. If you dated her to get married to her, date her to stay married married to her, date her to stay married married to her, date her to stay married to her. This is what we do. Now, I I'll to her. This is what we do. Now, I I'll to her. This is what we do. Now, I I'll just I'll give an example. I I got a just I'll give an example. I I got a just I'll give an example. I I got a bunch of of areas in my life where bunch of of areas in my life where bunch of of areas in my life where honestly, man, I I'm just as in need of honestly, man, I I'm just as in need of honestly, man, I I'm just as in need of the grace of Jesus as you. Like, man, the grace of Jesus as you. Like, man, the grace of Jesus as you. Like, man, I'm failing forward in a million things I'm failing forward in a million things I'm failing forward in a million things and that kind of thing. I got areas and that kind of thing. I got areas and that kind of thing. I got areas where I I need to grow, but man, by the where I I need to grow, but man, by the where I I need to grow, but man, by the by the grace of God, like the the maybe by the grace of God, like the the maybe by the grace of God, like the the maybe one area of my life that's like, man, I one area of my life that's like, man, I one area of my life that's like, man, I I I got a really good marriage. And I I I I got a really good marriage. And I I I I got a really good marriage. And I I can just tell you like I treat Jana as can just tell you like I treat Jana as can just tell you like I treat Jana as precious because I have figured out precious because I have figured out precious because I have figured out really quick this woman is precious. really quick this woman is precious. really quick this woman is precious. Okay. Now, because of the way I treat Okay. Now, because of the way I treat Okay. Now, because of the way I treat Jana, if any man ever tried to come up Jana, if any man ever tried to come up Jana, if any man ever tried to come up in in in Jana's vicinity and like try to in in in Jana's vicinity and like try to in in in Jana's vicinity and like try to romance Janet Sweeper off her feet, two romance Janet Sweeper off her feet, two romance Janet Sweeper off her feet, two things would happen. Number one, I'd be things would happen. Number one, I'd be things would happen. Number one, I'd be doing prison ministry from the inside. doing prison ministry from the inside. doing prison ministry from the inside. That's number one. Like, [clears throat] That's number one. Like, [clears throat] That's number one. Like, [clears throat] listen, we uh we got more than Bibles at listen, we uh we got more than Bibles at listen, we uh we got more than Bibles at the Howard House. I'll just let me just the Howard House. I'll just let me just the Howard House. I'll just let me just say, welcome to Texas. Okay, that's say, welcome to Texas. Okay, that's say, welcome to Texas. Okay, that's number one. Number one, okay? All the number one. Number one, okay? All the number one. Number one, okay? All the dudes sitting on the ends of the rows dudes sitting on the ends of the rows dudes sitting on the ends of the rows like, "Amen. Amen. That's what they're like, "Amen. Amen. That's what they're like, "Amen. Amen. That's what they're doing." Okay, that's number one. Okay, doing." Okay, that's number one. Okay, doing." Okay, that's number one. Okay, number two. Listen, I number two, I can number two. Listen, I number two, I can number two. Listen, I number two, I can say with complete integrity with my wife say with complete integrity with my wife say with complete integrity with my wife sitting in the services, I can say this sitting in the services, I can say this sitting in the services, I can say this complete integrity. It doesn't matter complete integrity. It doesn't matter complete integrity. It doesn't matter how any man would ever try to sweep Jan how any man would ever try to sweep Jan how any man would ever try to sweep Jan off her feet. No one will ever treat her off her feet. No one will ever treat her off her feet. No one will ever treat her better than me. So, you see this? What?

better than me. So, you see this? What? better than me. So, you see this? What? Here's what I'm saying. What? Here's Here's what I'm saying. What? Here's Here's what I'm saying. What? Here's what I'm saying. I'm That's not fishing what I'm saying. I'm That's not fishing what I'm saying. I'm That's not fishing for applause. That's not Well, what I'm for applause. That's not Well, what I'm for applause. That's not Well, what I'm saying is that's our goal, husbands, is saying is that's our goal, husbands, is saying is that's our goal, husbands, is we want to treat our wives in such a way we want to treat our wives in such a way we want to treat our wives in such a way that it's like, man, I'm guarding this that it's like, man, I'm guarding this that it's like, man, I'm guarding this thing. I'm treating her as precious. All thing. I'm treating her as precious. All thing. I'm treating her as precious. All right. So, here here's what happens to right. So, here here's what happens to right. So, here here's what happens to some foolish men. What foolish men do, some foolish men. What foolish men do, some foolish men. What foolish men do, you see the same story on repeat is they you see the same story on repeat is they you see the same story on repeat is they get married and they're giving her lots get married and they're giving her lots get married and they're giving her lots of attention and then they get get a of attention and then they get get a of attention and then they get get a little older and and they just get a little older and and they just get a little older and and they just get a little crusty. They stop doing the little crusty. They stop doing the little crusty. They stop doing the pursuit thing. Not there's no into me pursuit thing. Not there's no into me pursuit thing. Not there's no into me see in the relationship anymore see in the relationship anymore see in the relationship anymore physically, emotionally, spiritually. physically, emotionally, spiritually. physically, emotionally, spiritually. There's nothing there. And then all of a There's nothing there. And then all of a There's nothing there. And then all of a sudden, because of that, because you're sudden, because of that, because you're sudden, because of that, because you're not putting in, then you know other not putting in, then you know other not putting in, then you know other things aren't happening. Well, then all things aren't happening. Well, then all things aren't happening. Well, then all of a sudden what happens is because of of a sudden what happens is because of of a sudden what happens is because of the nature of the relationship, he the nature of the relationship, he the nature of the relationship, he starts getting bored or she starts starts getting bored or she starts starts getting bored or she starts getting bored. Start peeking over the getting bored. Start peeking over the getting bored. Start peeking over the fence. And then it's like, "Oh, okay. fence. And then it's like, "Oh, okay. fence. And then it's like, "Oh, okay. I'm I'm going to look for a a new model I'm I'm going to look for a a new model I'm I'm going to look for a a new model or what whatever it is." Hey, can I just or what whatever it is." Hey, can I just or what whatever it is." Hey, can I just say this? Listen to me. Hey, the grass say this? Listen to me. Hey, the grass say this? Listen to me. Hey, the grass isn't greener on the other side of the isn't greener on the other side of the isn't greener on the other side of the fence. The grass is greener where you fence. The grass is greener where you fence. The grass is greener where you water it. Okay, so this is it. That's water it. Okay, so this is it. That's water it. Okay, so this is it. That's number two. That's number two. Now, number two. That's number two. Now, number two. That's number two. Now, check this out. Number three. Now, check this out. Number three. Now, check this out. Number three. Now, before that, don't put it on the screen before that, don't put it on the screen before that, don't put it on the screen yet. This next one has a bit of an edge yet. This next one has a bit of an edge yet. This next one has a bit of an edge to it.

to it. to it. It has a bit of an edge to it on It has a bit of an edge to it on It has a bit of an edge to it on purpose. I want the gravity of this to purpose. I want the gravity of this to purpose. I want the gravity of this to fall on especially my fellow fathers, fall on especially my fellow fathers, fall on especially my fellow fathers, husbands and fathers in the house. husbands and fathers in the house. husbands and fathers in the house. Number three, husbands, when you date Number three, husbands, when you date Number three, husbands, when you date your wife, the third thing that happens your wife, the third thing that happens your wife, the third thing that happens is you lose your daughter. You're is you lose your daughter. You're is you lose your daughter. You're losering your daughter. This is losering your daughter. This is losering your daughter. This is something you may not be thinking of. something you may not be thinking of. something you may not be thinking of. There's like four people who think There's like four people who think There's like four people who think that's a good idea. Okay, that's great. that's a good idea. Okay, that's great. that's a good idea. Okay, that's great. This is something you may not be This is something you may not be This is something you may not be thinking of. So, husbands, here's what thinking of. So, husbands, here's what thinking of. So, husbands, here's what you need to know. in the way that you you need to know. in the way that you you need to know. in the way that you treat your wife and in the way that you treat your wife and in the way that you treat your wife and in the way that you love your wife. Again, Ephesians 5, how love your wife. Again, Ephesians 5, how love your wife. Again, Ephesians 5, how are we supposed to love her? We're are we supposed to love her? We're are we supposed to love her? We're supposed to love her as Christ loved the supposed to love her as Christ loved the supposed to love her as Christ loved the church and laid himself down for her, church and laid himself down for her, church and laid himself down for her, washing her with water by the washing of washing her with water by the washing of washing her with water by the washing of the of the word. Ephesians chapter 5. In the of the word. Ephesians chapter 5. In the of the word. Ephesians chapter 5. In the way, husbands, fathers, that we the way, husbands, fathers, that we the way, husbands, fathers, that we treat our wives, we are setting a treat our wives, we are setting a treat our wives, we are setting a standard for our sons about how a man standard for our sons about how a man standard for our sons about how a man should treat a woman. And we are, should treat a woman. And we are, should treat a woman. And we are, listen, the gravity of this ought to listen, the gravity of this ought to listen, the gravity of this ought to fall on you if you're a dad. We are fall on you if you're a dad. We are fall on you if you're a dad. We are setting a standard of expectations for setting a standard of expectations for setting a standard of expectations for our daughter about how they should our daughter about how they should our daughter about how they should expect men to treat them. And if you expect men to treat them. And if you expect men to treat them. And if you listen, if you treat your daughter listen, if you treat your daughter listen, if you treat your daughter poorly or sorry, if you treat your wife poorly or sorry, if you treat your wife poorly or sorry, if you treat your wife poorly, if you ignore her, if you run poorly, if you ignore her, if you run poorly, if you ignore her, if you run her down at home, if you lose your her down at home, if you lose your her down at home, if you lose your temper on her, if there is no intimacy, temper on her, if there is no intimacy, temper on her, if there is no intimacy, what you are doing is giving permission what you are doing is giving permission what you are doing is giving permission to every man that comes into her orbit to every man that comes into her orbit to every man that comes into her orbit for the rest of her life to treat her for the rest of her life to treat her for the rest of her life to treat her like that and her be okay with it. So like that and her be okay with it. So like that and her be okay with it. So listen, I'll just like this is like one listen, I'll just like this is like one listen, I'll just like this is like one of my proudest dad moments in history.

of my proudest dad moments in history. of my proudest dad moments in history. Two two of my daughters are like at kind Two two of my daughters are like at kind Two two of my daughters are like at kind of that age where like little school of that age where like little school of that age where like little school crushes. They start talking about little crushes. They start talking about little crushes. They start talking about little school crushes that are all the things school crushes that are all the things school crushes that are all the things that are going on in their class. I'm that are going on in their class. I'm that are going on in their class. I'm like super not about it, but that that's like super not about it, but that that's like super not about it, but that that's what they're talking about. And so uh it what they're talking about. And so uh it what they're talking about. And so uh it was like there was one time one of my was like there was one time one of my was like there was one time one of my daughters came home and I'm driving them daughters came home and I'm driving them daughters came home and I'm driving them home from school and I'm always like, home from school and I'm always like, home from school and I'm always like, "Hey, how's the day? Let's talk about "Hey, how's the day? Let's talk about "Hey, how's the day? Let's talk about everything." and uh and she tells me everything." and uh and she tells me everything." and uh and she tells me about a guy in the class that she heard about a guy in the class that she heard about a guy in the class that she heard or somebody said that that he had a or somebody said that that he had a or somebody said that that he had a crush on her and I was like what's his crush on her and I was like what's his crush on her and I was like what's his address? You know, kind of but then the address? You know, kind of but then the address? You know, kind of but then the but then the the eventually I I just but then the the eventually I I just but then the the eventually I I just asked I'm like hey so like we we have a asked I'm like hey so like we we have a asked I'm like hey so like we we have a very try to keep the the communication very try to keep the the communication very try to keep the the communication super open. That's what we're going for. super open. That's what we're going for. super open. That's what we're going for. So I was like, "Hey, um so shoot me So I was like, "Hey, um so shoot me So I was like, "Hey, um so shoot me straight. Do you have a crush on him?" straight. Do you have a crush on him?" straight. Do you have a crush on him?" Here's her response. Proudest dad moment Here's her response. Proudest dad moment Here's her response. Proudest dad moment ever. She said, "Oh no, Dad. He doesn't ever. She said, "Oh no, Dad. He doesn't ever. She said, "Oh no, Dad. He doesn't even hold the door open for me. I was even hold the door open for me. I was even hold the door open for me. I was like, "Yeah, let's go, baby. Let's go." like, "Yeah, let's go, baby. Let's go." like, "Yeah, let's go, baby. Let's go." You know? I'm like, "Yeah." Now, listen, You know? I'm like, "Yeah." Now, listen, You know? I'm like, "Yeah." Now, listen, [cheering] [cheering] [cheering] the reason she said that is because she the reason she said that is because she the reason she said that is because she has watched me for years. That's what has watched me for years. That's what has watched me for years. That's what dad does for mom. So, that's what a guy dad does for mom. So, that's what a guy dad does for mom. So, that's what a guy is supposed to do for a girl. See, hey is supposed to do for a girl. See, hey is supposed to do for a girl. See, hey dads, when we treat our wives like the dads, when we treat our wives like the dads, when we treat our wives like the the book of Proverbs says that a noble the book of Proverbs says that a noble the book of Proverbs says that a noble wife is more precious than rubies. When wife is more precious than rubies. When wife is more precious than rubies. When we treat our wife with nobility, honor, we treat our wife with nobility, honor, we treat our wife with nobility, honor, character, integrity, love, intimacy, character, integrity, love, intimacy, character, integrity, love, intimacy, [snorts] what we're doing, again, you're [snorts] what we're doing, again, you're [snorts] what we're doing, again, you're loser proofing your daughter because loser proofing your daughter because loser proofing your daughter because he's going to come up near her at some he's going to come up near her at some he's going to come up near her at some point. That's going to happen to every point. That's going to happen to every point. That's going to happen to every single one of our daughters.

single one of our daughters. single one of our daughters. And when he gets in her vicinity, if you And when he gets in her vicinity, if you And when he gets in her vicinity, if you have set the right example and standard, have set the right example and standard, have set the right example and standard, she's going to be like, "Oo, gross. No, she's going to be like, "Oo, gross. No, she's going to be like, "Oo, gross. No, no, no. Not for me." Okay, so this is no, no. Not for me." Okay, so this is no, no. Not for me." Okay, so this is what we're going for. This is what we're what we're going for. This is what we're what we're going for. This is what we're going for. Okay. Now, number number going for. Okay. Now, number number going for. Okay. Now, number number four, last one. When you date your when four, last one. When you date your when four, last one. When you date your when we date our wives, husbands, we are we date our wives, husbands, we are we date our wives, husbands, we are god-proofing our prayers. I'm going to god-proofing our prayers. I'm going to god-proofing our prayers. I'm going to read a passage from 1 Peter 3 that when read a passage from 1 Peter 3 that when read a passage from 1 Peter 3 that when you read it, it doesn't make sense and you read it, it doesn't make sense and you read it, it doesn't make sense and I'm going help it make sense. It says, I'm going help it make sense. It says, I'm going help it make sense. It says, "Likewise, husbands, live with your "Likewise, husbands, live with your "Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way." Now, wives in an understanding way." Now, wives in an understanding way." Now, some of your Bibles are going to say, some of your Bibles are going to say, some of your Bibles are going to say, "According to understanding." Here's all "According to understanding." Here's all "According to understanding." Here's all this means. It means husbands, the Bible this means. It means husbands, the Bible this means. It means husbands, the Bible is specifically commanding us to study is specifically commanding us to study is specifically commanding us to study the souls of our wives. So, like our my the souls of our wives. So, like our my the souls of our wives. So, like our my job is to get a PhD in the soul of Janet job is to get a PhD in the soul of Janet job is to get a PhD in the soul of Janet Howton. I am supposed to make sure I Howton. I am supposed to make sure I Howton. I am supposed to make sure I don't got a GED in the soul of Jan don't got a GED in the soul of Jan don't got a GED in the soul of Jan Howardon. So, like I'll just tell you Howardon. So, like I'll just tell you Howardon. So, like I'll just tell you like I here's what I've learned. Like like I here's what I've learned. Like like I here's what I've learned. Like over the years it listen bro I'm in it over the years it listen bro I'm in it over the years it listen bro I'm in it with you. Like I just want to point out with you. Like I just want to point out with you. Like I just want to point out there's probably a reason the Bible was there's probably a reason the Bible was there's probably a reason the Bible was like you're going to have to study like you're going to have to study like you're going to have to study really hard when it said that to the really hard when it said that to the really hard when it said that to the husband to the wife and it never said husband to the wife and it never said husband to the wife and it never said that to the wife to the husband. Okay? that to the wife to the husband. Okay? that to the wife to the husband. Okay? There's probably a reason for that. We There's probably a reason for that. We There's probably a reason for that. We are simple simple creatures ladies.

are simple simple creatures ladies. are simple simple creatures ladies. Simple creatures. Okay. But over the Simple creatures. Okay. But over the Simple creatures. Okay. But over the years, what I've learned about Jana is I years, what I've learned about Jana is I years, what I've learned about Jana is I I've learned some things. Like I I've I've learned some things. Like I I've I've learned some things. Like I I've learned I've learned the words that learned I've learned the words that learned I've learned the words that strike Janna's heart in a way that other strike Janna's heart in a way that other strike Janna's heart in a way that other words don't. It's like I can say I words don't. It's like I can say I words don't. It's like I can say I shower Jana with I love you. I love you. shower Jana with I love you. I love you. shower Jana with I love you. I love you. I love you. But I've learned Jana's I love you. But I've learned Jana's I love you. But I've learned Jana's wired in such a way there are other wired in such a way there are other wired in such a way there are other things that I can say that actually mean things that I can say that actually mean things that I can say that actually mean more to her than just I love you. Like more to her than just I love you. Like more to her than just I love you. Like I've learned for Jana, Jana's got a work I've learned for Jana, Jana's got a work I've learned for Jana, Jana's got a work ethic like through the roof. Like insane ethic like through the roof. Like insane ethic like through the roof. Like insane work ethic. I've learned if I say to work ethic. I've learned if I say to work ethic. I've learned if I say to Jana, "Hey babe, I I noticed something Jana, "Hey babe, I I noticed something Jana, "Hey babe, I I noticed something she did." And I say, "Hey babe, thank she did." And I say, "Hey babe, thank she did." And I say, "Hey babe, thank you for working so hard for our family. you for working so hard for our family. you for working so hard for our family. It just does something for a man." Or, It just does something for a man." Or, It just does something for a man." Or, "Hey, heads up. Uh, dads, "Hey, heads up. Uh, dads, "Hey, heads up. Uh, dads, there is no such thing as a mom who there is no such thing as a mom who there is no such thing as a mom who doesn't almost always feel like she's doesn't almost always feel like she's doesn't almost always feel like she's failing or could be doing better." failing or could be doing better." failing or could be doing better." Almost no such thing. So, what I've Almost no such thing. So, what I've Almost no such thing. So, what I've noticed for Janice is if I'm like I noticed for Janice is if I'm like I noticed for Janice is if I'm like I notice something specific and I'm like, notice something specific and I'm like, notice something specific and I'm like, "Babe, "Babe, "Babe, our kids are so blessed to have you as a our kids are so blessed to have you as a our kids are so blessed to have you as a mother." Or something like, "Man, I'm so mother." Or something like, "Man, I'm so mother." Or something like, "Man, I'm so glad I married you." Okay, here's here's glad I married you." Okay, here's here's glad I married you." Okay, here's here's my point is you study the soul of your my point is you study the soul of your my point is you study the soul of your wife. This is what it's saying. P PhD, wife. This is what it's saying. P PhD, wife. This is what it's saying. P PhD, not GED. Now, here, watch what happens.

not GED. Now, here, watch what happens. not GED. Now, here, watch what happens. It says, "Showing honor to the woman is It says, "Showing honor to the woman is It says, "Showing honor to the woman is the weaker vessel." That's not an the weaker vessel." That's not an the weaker vessel." That's not an insult. That is a biological reality. If insult. That is a biological reality. If insult. That is a biological reality. If we lined all of you up and did an arm we lined all of you up and did an arm we lined all of you up and did an arm wrestling comp competition, I dearly wrestling comp competition, I dearly wrestling comp competition, I dearly hope you would beat your wife in an arm hope you would beat your wife in an arm hope you would beat your wife in an arm arm wrestling competition. That's all arm wrestling competition. That's all arm wrestling competition. That's all that means. And then watch what it says. that means. And then watch what it says. that means. And then watch what it says. What it says, okay, so why do we live What it says, okay, so why do we live What it says, okay, so why do we live with them in an understanding way, with them in an understanding way, with them in an understanding way, showing honor to them? Why do we do showing honor to them? Why do we do showing honor to them? Why do we do that? Listen. So that your prayers may that? Listen. So that your prayers may that? Listen. So that your prayers may not be hindered. Now, you may be going, not be hindered. Now, you may be going, not be hindered. Now, you may be going, "Huh? [snorts] "Huh? [snorts] "Huh? [snorts] God, what God is saying is he's saying, God, what God is saying is he's saying, God, what God is saying is he's saying, the way some of you are treating your the way some of you are treating your the way some of you are treating your wives is causing me I'm not listening to wives is causing me I'm not listening to wives is causing me I'm not listening to any of your prayers." Now, now here's any of your prayers." Now, now here's any of your prayers." Now, now here's the reason for this. Think about this the reason for this. Think about this the reason for this. Think about this this logic. When [clears throat] God this logic. When [clears throat] God this logic. When [clears throat] God entrusted you with your wife, he entrusted you with your wife, he entrusted you with your wife, he entrusted you with one of his daughters. entrusted you with one of his daughters. entrusted you with one of his daughters. If somebody comes to me in the lobby and If somebody comes to me in the lobby and If somebody comes to me in the lobby and they're like, "Oh, Pastor Josh, I love they're like, "Oh, Pastor Josh, I love they're like, "Oh, Pastor Josh, I love [clears throat] you. Your ministry has [clears throat] you. Your ministry has [clears throat] you. Your ministry has blessed me so much. I just or maybe they blessed me so much. I just or maybe they blessed me so much. I just or maybe they want something from me like, man, could want something from me like, man, could want something from me like, man, could you send me a resource on? I would love you send me a resource on? I would love you send me a resource on? I would love to know what you think about whatever it to know what you think about whatever it to know what you think about whatever it is." If they say that to me, but then is." If they say that to me, but then is." If they say that to me, but then they hate or they are actively harming they hate or they are actively harming they hate or they are actively harming my daughter. Listen, if you love me, but my daughter. Listen, if you love me, but my daughter. Listen, if you love me, but you cuss her, I punch you. That's how you cuss her, I punch you. That's how you cuss her, I punch you. That's how that triangle works right there. Okay?

that triangle works right there. Okay? that triangle works right there. Okay? Does that make sense? I'm sounding very Does that make sense? I'm sounding very Does that make sense? I'm sounding very violent in this sermon, but these are violent in this sermon, but these are violent in this sermon, but these are jokes. Great joke. [clears throat] What jokes. Great joke. [clears throat] What jokes. Great joke. [clears throat] What God is saying, hey, hey, husbands, some God is saying, hey, hey, husbands, some God is saying, hey, hey, husbands, some of you right now, because of the way of you right now, because of the way of you right now, because of the way that you speak to your wives, that you speak to your wives, that you speak to your wives, the way that you are not faithful to the way that you are not faithful to the way that you are not faithful to your wife, the way that you lose your your wife, the way that you lose your your wife, the way that you lose your temper on her and create a situation temper on her and create a situation temper on her and create a situation where she is scared. God forbid you lay where she is scared. God forbid you lay where she is scared. God forbid you lay a hand on your wife. a hand on your wife. a hand on your wife. God is saying, "The way some of you are God is saying, "The way some of you are God is saying, "The way some of you are treating your wives, I won't listen to a treating your wives, I won't listen to a treating your wives, I won't listen to a single one of your prayers." Because single one of your prayers." Because single one of your prayers." Because there's only one conversation I'm there's only one conversation I'm there's only one conversation I'm interested in having with you, fix the interested in having with you, fix the interested in having with you, fix the way you're treating my daughter. See, way you're treating my daughter. See, way you're treating my daughter. See, when we honor our wives, what we're when we honor our wives, what we're when we honor our wives, what we're doing, the person you don't want to be doing, the person you don't want to be doing, the person you don't want to be against your prayers is God. Okay? So, against your prayers is God. Okay? So, against your prayers is God. Okay? So, we're God proofing our prayers. Now, let we're God proofing our prayers. Now, let we're God proofing our prayers. Now, let me get real practical. Emotional gear me get real practical. Emotional gear me get real practical. Emotional gear shift. Let me get real practical. shift. Let me get real practical. shift. Let me get real practical. husbands. [snorts] Notice throughout husbands. [snorts] Notice throughout husbands. [snorts] Notice throughout Song of Solomon, I've already talked in Song of Solomon, I've already talked in Song of Solomon, I've already talked in chapter 1 and two, yes, in the marriage, chapter 1 and two, yes, in the marriage, chapter 1 and two, yes, in the marriage, she is the one who is very frequently she is the one who is very frequently she is the one who is very frequently the sexual initiator. Be aggressive, be the sexual initiator. Be aggressive, be the sexual initiator. Be aggressive, be aggressive, all the things. But what aggressive, all the things. But what aggressive, all the things. But what you're seeing right here is that in you're seeing right here is that in you're seeing right here is that in general, the initiating, the pursuing general, the initiating, the pursuing general, the initiating, the pursuing energy is primarily coming from the man energy is primarily coming from the man energy is primarily coming from the man and the husband. Okay? So, husbands, and the husband. Okay? So, husbands, and the husband. Okay? So, husbands, let's start right here. Throughout this let's start right here. Throughout this let's start right here. Throughout this uh series already, the question is like, uh series already, the question is like, uh series already, the question is like, okay, I'm hearing that as a husband, I'm okay, I'm hearing that as a husband, I'm okay, I'm hearing that as a husband, I'm supposed to lead my wife and family. How supposed to lead my wife and family. How supposed to lead my wife and family. How do I do it? That's the question. Or do I do it? That's the question. Or do I do it? That's the question. Or you'll hear from wives, "My husband's you'll hear from wives, "My husband's you'll hear from wives, "My husband's not leading. What should I be doing? I not leading. What should I be doing? I not leading. What should I be doing? I got a lot of thoughts. I I'll give you got a lot of thoughts. I I'll give you got a lot of thoughts. I I'll give you one." Husband, this is actually really one." Husband, this is actually really one." Husband, this is actually really easy, man. That it's not a million Bible easy, man. That it's not a million Bible easy, man. That it's not a million Bible studies at home. That's not what I'm studies at home. That's not what I'm studies at home. That's not what I'm talking about. Just start here. Lead

talking about. Just start here. Lead talking about. Just start here. Lead with lets. That's it. Lead with let's. with lets. That's it. Lead with let's. with lets. That's it. Lead with let's. So, you be the one who says, "Let's go So, you be the one who says, "Let's go So, you be the one who says, "Let's go to church together this weekend." You be to church together this weekend." You be to church together this weekend." You be the one that before meal, let's give the one that before meal, let's give the one that before meal, let's give thanks. Two seconds. Real quick prayer. thanks. Two seconds. Real quick prayer. thanks. Two seconds. Real quick prayer. You be the one that before your wife You be the one that before your wife You be the one that before your wife goes to do something hard, work, home, goes to do something hard, work, home, goes to do something hard, work, home, friends, whatever, you be the one that friends, whatever, you be the one that friends, whatever, you be the one that says, "Hey, let's pray together real says, "Hey, let's pray together real says, "Hey, let's pray together real quick. I want to bless you." And then quick. I want to bless you." And then quick. I want to bless you." And then here's what this is. You be the one that here's what this is. You be the one that here's what this is. You be the one that initiates and goes, "Hey, let's figure initiates and goes, "Hey, let's figure initiates and goes, "Hey, let's figure out a way to spend some relational, out a way to spend some relational, out a way to spend some relational, emotional time, relational time emotional time, relational time emotional time, relational time together. Let's figure out the date together. Let's figure out the date together. Let's figure out the date thing. Lead with less." Now, husbands, thing. Lead with less." Now, husbands, thing. Lead with less." Now, husbands, here's what's going to happen. You've here's what's going to happen. You've here's what's going to happen. You've had this happen. You're going to get in had this happen. You're going to get in had this happen. You're going to get in the car to go on a date and your door's the car to go on a date and your door's the car to go on a date and your door's going to close. And then I need you to going to close. And then I need you to going to close. And then I need you to help me finish this phrase. And this is help me finish this phrase. And this is help me finish this phrase. And this is group therapy. You're going to get in group therapy. You're going to get in group therapy. You're going to get in the car. Door's going to close. And then the car. Door's going to close. And then the car. Door's going to close. And then you're going to look at her and say, you're going to look at her and say, you're going to look at her and say, "Where do you want to eat?" And she's "Where do you want to eat?" And she's "Where do you want to eat?" And she's going to say, "What?" She's going to going to say, "What?" She's going to going to say, "What?" She's going to say, "I don't know. I don't know." say, "I don't know. I don't know." say, "I don't know. I don't know." That's what she's going to say. Now, That's what she's going to say. Now, That's what she's going to say. Now, first of all, there's a theology behind first of all, there's a theology behind first of all, there's a theology behind this. If you go back to Genesis chapter this. If you go back to Genesis chapter this. If you go back to Genesis chapter 2, there's a Bible reason. Think about 2, there's a Bible reason. Think about 2, there's a Bible reason. Think about Eve with the apple. The reason that Eve with the apple. The reason that Eve with the apple. The reason that sometimes women can struggle to choose sometimes women can struggle to choose sometimes women can struggle to choose where they're going to eat is because where they're going to eat is because where they're going to eat is because the first time they chose what to eat, the first time they chose what to eat, the first time they chose what to eat, they doomed all of humanity. Okay, they doomed all of humanity. Okay, they doomed all of humanity. Okay, that's it. That's That's number one.

that's it. That's That's number one. that's it. That's That's number one. Number one. Okay. So, husband, I'm gonna Number one. Okay. So, husband, I'm gonna Number one. Okay. So, husband, I'm gonna give you a little trick. Ladies, I need give you a little trick. Ladies, I need give you a little trick. Ladies, I need you all to close your ears. Close your you all to close your ears. Close your you all to close your ears. Close your ears. Close your ear. You're not allowed ears. Close your ear. You're not allowed ears. Close your ear. You're not allowed to listen for the next five seconds. to listen for the next five seconds. to listen for the next five seconds. Husbands, here's your trick. You get in Husbands, here's your trick. You get in Husbands, here's your trick. You get in the car and then you say, "Babe, I have the car and then you say, "Babe, I have the car and then you say, "Babe, I have picked a place for us to go that you've picked a place for us to go that you've picked a place for us to go that you've been dying to go for the last few weeks. been dying to go for the last few weeks. been dying to go for the last few weeks. Guess where it is." First place she Guess where it is." First place she Guess where it is." First place she guesses, take her there. You're welcome. guesses, take her there. You're welcome. guesses, take her there. You're welcome. You're welcome. That's it, man. You're You're welcome. That's it, man. You're You're welcome. That's it, man. You're welcome. Okay. Now, what you need to do welcome. Okay. Now, what you need to do welcome. Okay. Now, what you need to do is again again what you got here is um is again again what you got here is um is again again what you got here is um you have the the definition of marriage you have the the definition of marriage you have the the definition of marriage in Song of Solomon is you are my lover, in Song of Solomon is you are my lover, in Song of Solomon is you are my lover, you are my friend. So, you're looking you are my friend. So, you're looking you are my friend. So, you're looking for friendship. Guys, if you are for friendship. Guys, if you are for friendship. Guys, if you are anything like me, I know this surprises anything like me, I know this surprises anything like me, I know this surprises people. I am an introvert. I am an people. I am an introvert. I am an people. I am an introvert. I am an introverted person. So, if you're the introverted person. So, if you're the introverted person. So, if you're the type of guy that gets in the truck and type of guy that gets in the truck and type of guy that gets in the truck and you're like, I don't know what to talk you're like, I don't know what to talk you're like, I don't know what to talk about. Okay, welcome aboard. I get it. about. Okay, welcome aboard. I get it. about. Okay, welcome aboard. I get it. So, here's what you need to do. This is So, here's what you need to do. This is So, here's what you need to do. This is easy stuff. I'm trying to real easy stuff. I'm trying to real easy stuff. I'm trying to real practical. You can literally Google practical. You can literally Google practical. You can literally Google conversation questions for date night conversation questions for date night conversation questions for date night and then you stick them in I literally I and then you stick them in I literally I and then you stick them in I literally I do this sometimes. You stick them in an do this sometimes. You stick them in an do this sometimes. You stick them in an iPhone note and on the drive to the iPhone note and on the drive to the iPhone note and on the drive to the restaurant you just take turns. You pick restaurant you just take turns. You pick restaurant you just take turns. You pick one. I pick one. You pick one. I pick one. I pick one. You pick one. I pick one. I pick one. You pick one. I pick one. If you're married you can put some one. If you're married you can put some one. If you're married you can put some spicy questions in there. It's going to spicy questions in there. It's going to spicy questions in there. It's going to be fun later. Whatever you want to do.

be fun later. Whatever you want to do. be fun later. Whatever you want to do. You just got to figure it out. Now here You just got to figure it out. Now here You just got to figure it out. Now here I'm going to give you one little hint. I'm going to give you one little hint. I'm going to give you one little hint. Okay. One hint. An older godly couple Okay. One hint. An older godly couple Okay. One hint. An older godly couple with an amazing marriage gave me and with an amazing marriage gave me and with an amazing marriage gave me and Jana this conversation question years Jana this conversation question years Jana this conversation question years ago and probably nothing has resulted in ago and probably nothing has resulted in ago and probably nothing has resulted in more blessing in our marriage than we do more blessing in our marriage than we do more blessing in our marriage than we do this about once a month. Okay? So like this about once a month. Okay? So like this about once a month. Okay? So like if you're going to take a like I'm going if you're going to take a like I'm going if you're going to take a like I'm going to put it on the screen. You can take a to put it on the screen. You can take a to put it on the screen. You can take a little iPhone picture whatever you write little iPhone picture whatever you write little iPhone picture whatever you write it down memorize it. Get a tattoo. it down memorize it. Get a tattoo. it down memorize it. Get a tattoo. Whatever you need to do. Whatever you need to do. Whatever you need to do. This one thing total marriage cheat This one thing total marriage cheat This one thing total marriage cheat code. Total marriage cheat code. It's code. Total marriage cheat code. It's code. Total marriage cheat code. It's this question on a date night. You just this question on a date night. You just this question on a date night. You just go, "Hey, what are three ways I'm go, "Hey, what are three ways I'm go, "Hey, what are three ways I'm blessing you right now? What's one way I blessing you right now? What's one way I blessing you right now? What's one way I could bless you more? What are three could bless you more? What are three could bless you more? What are three ways I'm blessing you right now? What's ways I'm blessing you right now? What's ways I'm blessing you right now? What's one way I could bless you more?" Now, one way I could bless you more?" Now, one way I could bless you more?" Now, here's what's awesome about this. here's what's awesome about this. here's what's awesome about this. There's a cheat code to this. When she There's a cheat code to this. When she There's a cheat code to this. When she tells you this, you're going to feel tells you this, you're going to feel tells you this, you're going to feel amazing. amazing. amazing. Amazing. Crushing it. And this question Amazing. Crushing it. And this question Amazing. Crushing it. And this question is worded in a way where it's is worded in a way where it's is worded in a way where it's essentially asking, "How do I stink as a essentially asking, "How do I stink as a essentially asking, "How do I stink as a husband?" But it sounds positive. Okay?

husband?" But it sounds positive. Okay? husband?" But it sounds positive. Okay? But it sounds positive. And then you But it sounds positive. And then you But it sounds positive. And then you flip it. Okay? Okay. And and then you flip it. Okay? Okay. And and then you flip it. Okay? Okay. And and then you go, but this one thing going to result go, but this one thing going to result go, but this one thing going to result in more blessing in in uh in the car in more blessing in in uh in the car in more blessing in in uh in the car than than you can imagine. Okay. Now, than than you can imagine. Okay. Now, than than you can imagine. Okay. Now, ladies, let me talk to you. Look at look ladies, let me talk to you. Look at look ladies, let me talk to you. Look at look at what um look at how the woman in the at what um look at how the woman in the at what um look at how the woman in the passage is responding to his pursuit. passage is responding to his pursuit. passage is responding to his pursuit. Okay, check this out. She says, "Listen, Okay, check this out. She says, "Listen, Okay, check this out. She says, "Listen, my beloved. Look here. He comes leaping my beloved. Look here. He comes leaping my beloved. Look here. He comes leaping across the mountains, bounding over the across the mountains, bounding over the across the mountains, bounding over the hills. My beloved is like a gazelle or a hills. My beloved is like a gazelle or a hills. My beloved is like a gazelle or a young stag. He's a stud." Now, watch young stag. He's a stud." Now, watch young stag. He's a stud." Now, watch this. Look, there he stands. Now, I hit this. Look, there he stands. Now, I hit this. Look, there he stands. Now, I hit this last week. This is not a peeping this last week. This is not a peeping this last week. This is not a peeping time situation. There he stands behind time situation. There he stands behind time situation. There he stands behind our wall, gazing through the windows, our wall, gazing through the windows, our wall, gazing through the windows, peering through the lattice. Now, this peering through the lattice. Now, this peering through the lattice. Now, this is essentially a 3,000-y old way to say is essentially a 3,000-y old way to say is essentially a 3,000-y old way to say she was taking a long time to get ready, she was taking a long time to get ready, she was taking a long time to get ready, and he was waiting. Now, here's the and he was waiting. Now, here's the and he was waiting. Now, here's the point that's been happening for 3,000 point that's been happening for 3,000 point that's been happening for 3,000 years. Here's the point, ladies. Notice years. Here's the point, ladies. Notice years. Here's the point, ladies. Notice this. She is intentional about trying to this. She is intentional about trying to this. She is intentional about trying to make herself attractive for her man. make herself attractive for her man. make herself attractive for her man. She's intentionally trying to do that.

She's intentionally trying to do that. She's intentionally trying to do that. She's excited. She's engaged. She's She's excited. She's engaged. She's She's excited. She's engaged. She's showing him, "I'm into you and I'm into showing him, "I'm into you and I'm into showing him, "I'm into you and I'm into this time together." Principle number this time together." Principle number this time together." Principle number two, a lot shorter. In a godly two, a lot shorter. In a godly two, a lot shorter. In a godly relationship, the wife makes it fun to relationship, the wife makes it fun to relationship, the wife makes it fun to be pursued. Okay? So, the husband is be pursued. Okay? So, the husband is be pursued. Okay? So, the husband is pursuing, the wife is making it fun to pursuing, the wife is making it fun to pursuing, the wife is making it fun to be be pursued. So, ladies, let me just be be pursued. So, ladies, let me just be be pursued. So, ladies, let me just say something like, "Ladies, be fun to say something like, "Ladies, be fun to say something like, "Ladies, be fun to actually date." What? Be be fun. Be fun actually date." What? Be be fun. Be fun actually date." What? Be be fun. Be fun to date. Okay? We hit last week the book to date. Okay? We hit last week the book to date. Okay? We hit last week the book of Proverbs says like a continual of Proverbs says like a continual of Proverbs says like a continual dripping on a rainy day is a life with a dripping on a rainy day is a life with a dripping on a rainy day is a life with a contentious woman. If he tries to take contentious woman. If he tries to take contentious woman. If he tries to take you out on a date this week and then you you out on a date this week and then you you out on a date this week and then you get in a truck and your response is, get in a truck and your response is, get in a truck and your response is, "Well, finally, finally you want to take "Well, finally, finally you want to take "Well, finally, finally you want to take me on a date. Finally, we always go to me on a date. Finally, we always go to me on a date. Finally, we always go to the same places and you always wear the the same places and you always wear the the same places and you always wear the same things and Pastor Josh said not to same things and Pastor Josh said not to same things and Pastor Josh said not to wear a t-shirt with a team logo on it wear a t-shirt with a team logo on it wear a t-shirt with a team logo on it and you have a team logo on your shirt and you have a team logo on your shirt and you have a team logo on your shirt and you know you're you're the you're and you know you're you're the you're and you know you're you're the you're only doing this because Pastor Josh said only doing this because Pastor Josh said only doing this because Pastor Josh said to said so." Drip drip drip drip drip to said so." Drip drip drip drip drip to said so." Drip drip drip drip drip drip drip drip drip. That's you. That's drip drip drip drip. That's you. That's drip drip drip drip. That's you. That's you. Better to be waterboarded by ISIS you. Better to be waterboarded by ISIS you. Better to be waterboarded by ISIS than go on a date with you. That's the than go on a date with you. That's the than go on a date with you. That's the book of Proverbs. Okay.

book of Proverbs. Okay. book of Proverbs. Okay. Okay. So, this listen Proverbs. Okay. So, this listen Proverbs. Okay. So, this listen Proverbs. Proverbs. Proverbs. Proverbs. So, it's [clears throat] man, it's So, it's [clears throat] man, it's So, it's [clears throat] man, it's little things, ladies. It's little little things, ladies. It's little little things, ladies. It's little things. Again, listen, the goal is things. Again, listen, the goal is things. Again, listen, the goal is always two people who are doing always two people who are doing always two people who are doing everything in their power to bless one everything in their power to bless one everything in their power to bless one another. To bless one another. You're another. To bless one another. You're another. To bless one another. You're just always asking question. How can I just always asking question. How can I just always asking question. How can I be a blessing to him? How can I be a be a blessing to him? How can I be a be a blessing to him? How can I be a blessing to her? like wear his favorite blessing to her? like wear his favorite blessing to her? like wear his favorite stuff, stuff, stuff, engage in and enjoy the conversation. engage in and enjoy the conversation. engage in and enjoy the conversation. You want to make sure as much as You want to make sure as much as You want to make sure as much as possible the date ends Pentecostal, loss possible the date ends Pentecostal, loss possible the date ends Pentecostal, loss of tongues, and the laying on of hands. of tongues, and the laying on of hands. of tongues, and the laying on of hands. That's you, PG-11. Loosen up, everybody. That's you, PG-11. Loosen up, everybody. That's you, PG-11. Loosen up, everybody. Loosen up. Okay, listen. You do that Loosen up. Okay, listen. You do that Loosen up. Okay, listen. You do that stuff, he's going to love it. Okay, now stuff, he's going to love it. Okay, now stuff, he's going to love it. Okay, now let me finish. Let me finish sermon let me finish. Let me finish sermon let me finish. Let me finish sermon right here. Principle number three. right here. Principle number three. right here. Principle number three. Don't toss on the screen yet. It took me Don't toss on the screen yet. It took me Don't toss on the screen yet. It took me a second to I to figure out how do I a second to I to figure out how do I a second to I to figure out how do I want to word some of these last things want to word some of these last things want to word some of these last things from Song of Solomon for a principle and from Song of Solomon for a principle and from Song of Solomon for a principle and I couldn't figure out a way to do it. I couldn't figure out a way to do it. I couldn't figure out a way to do it. So, this is a junk drawer principle. I'm So, this is a junk drawer principle. I'm So, this is a junk drawer principle. I'm just going to say a whole bunch of just going to say a whole bunch of just going to say a whole bunch of things for single people. That's what things for single people. That's what things for single people. That's what I'm going to do. Okay. Now, real quick, I'm going to do. Okay. Now, real quick, I'm going to do. Okay. Now, real quick, um married people here here's what I um married people here here's what I um married people here here's what I need from you in the next few minutes.

need from you in the next few minutes. need from you in the next few minutes. Our single people, they have to hear me Our single people, they have to hear me Our single people, they have to hear me talk about marriage all the time. talk about marriage all the time. talk about marriage all the time. Can you please Shouldn't we honor, Can you please Shouldn't we honor, Can you please Shouldn't we honor, respect, and value the single people in respect, and value the single people in respect, and value the single people in our church by being engaged and honoring our church by being engaged and honoring our church by being engaged and honoring some Bible teaching towards single some Bible teaching towards single some Bible teaching towards single people for a few minutes? Can we do people for a few minutes? Can we do people for a few minutes? Can we do that? Because the these people are all that? Because the these people are all that? Because the these people are all around us. And we we need to do that. around us. And we we need to do that. around us. And we we need to do that. Okay. So, here's what I need from you. Okay. So, here's what I need from you. Okay. So, here's what I need from you. It's one, I still need you to lean in. It's one, I still need you to lean in. It's one, I still need you to lean in. You got sons, daughters, grandkids. You got sons, daughters, grandkids. You got sons, daughters, grandkids. You're going to need need some of this. You're going to need need some of this. You're going to need need some of this. And [clears throat] And [clears throat] And [clears throat] when you hear something and you're like, when you hear something and you're like, when you hear something and you're like, that's true from experience, you can that's true from experience, you can that's true from experience, you can affirm that and that will help them affirm that and that will help them affirm that and that will help them know, okay, that really is true. Okay. know, okay, that really is true. Okay. know, okay, that really is true. Okay. Okay. So, here we go. Let me talk to our Okay. So, here we go. Let me talk to our Okay. So, here we go. Let me talk to our single people real quick and then single people real quick and then single people real quick and then sermon's done. Single people, you need sermon's done. Single people, you need sermon's done. Single people, you need to, according to the Bible, you need to to, according to the Bible, you need to to, according to the Bible, you need to shift your focus from finding to shift your focus from finding to shift your focus from finding to becoming. becoming. becoming. From finding to becoming. Okay? See From finding to becoming. Okay? See From finding to becoming. Okay? See that? That's people are going, "That's that? That's people are going, "That's that? That's people are going, "That's true. That's true. That's true." Now, true. That's true. That's true." Now, true. That's true. That's true." Now, here's what I mean. Sometimes as a here's what I mean. Sometimes as a here's what I mean. Sometimes as a preacher, what I got to do is I got to preacher, what I got to do is I got to preacher, what I got to do is I got to blast something out before I build blast something out before I build blast something out before I build something up. It's like a construction something up. It's like a construction something up. It's like a construction project. This is where I need to blast project. This is where I need to blast project. This is where I need to blast something out. There is a lie that something out. There is a lie that something out. There is a lie that circulates in Christian circles all the circulates in Christian circles all the circulates in Christian circles all the time that's one of the most damaging time that's one of the most damaging time that's one of the most damaging lies to single people and to married lies to single people and to married lies to single people and to married people imaginable. Here's the lie is I people imaginable. Here's the lie is I people imaginable. Here's the lie is I call it the myth of the one. The myth of call it the myth of the one. The myth of call it the myth of the one. The myth of the one. Okay. So I'm here's here's what the one. Okay. So I'm here's here's what the one. Okay. So I'm here's here's what happens. I'm looking for the one. Okay.

happens. I'm looking for the one. Okay. happens. I'm looking for the one. Okay. Who's the one? Is he the one? Is she the Who's the one? Is he the one? Is she the Who's the one? Is he the one? Is she the one? Okay. And and here here's how it one? Okay. And and here here's how it one? Okay. And and here here's how it goes. It's the idea that God created goes. It's the idea that God created goes. It's the idea that God created just one person out there and he created just one person out there and he created just one person out there and he created them exactly just for you, perfect for them exactly just for you, perfect for them exactly just for you, perfect for you, and that your job is to search you, and that your job is to search you, and that your job is to search among the seven billion people on Earth among the seven billion people on Earth among the seven billion people on Earth and find the one. You got to find the and find the one. You got to find the and find the one. You got to find the one, the only person that you would ever one, the only person that you would ever one, the only person that you would ever be happy being married to, the one. And be happy being married to, the one. And be happy being married to, the one. And when you find them, you're going to fit when you find them, you're going to fit when you find them, you're going to fit together like perfect puzzle pieces and together like perfect puzzle pieces and together like perfect puzzle pieces and rainbows and unicorns and snowflakes. rainbows and unicorns and snowflakes. rainbows and unicorns and snowflakes. Everything's going to happen and you'll Everything's going to happen and you'll Everything's going to happen and you'll just live easily just happily ever just live easily just happily ever just live easily just happily ever after. Wrong. Do not pass go. Do not after. Wrong. Do not pass go. Do not after. Wrong. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. There is nothing. Listen collect $200. There is nothing. Listen collect $200. There is nothing. Listen man, there is not one verse, not one man, there is not one verse, not one man, there is not one verse, not one verse in the Bible that says anything verse in the Bible that says anything verse in the Bible that says anything like that. And watch this. Here's why like that. And watch this. Here's why like that. And watch this. Here's why it's damaging. Because when Christians, it's damaging. Because when Christians, it's damaging. Because when Christians, single people believe that, all their single people believe that, all their single people believe that, all their energy is toward finding. I got to find energy is toward finding. I got to find energy is toward finding. I got to find them. I got to find her. Find, find, them. I got to find her. Find, find, them. I got to find her. Find, find, find, find, find. If you open your Bible find, find, find. If you open your Bible find, find, find. If you open your Bible and look for Bible verses on how to find and look for Bible verses on how to find and look for Bible verses on how to find the perfect spouse, you're not gonna the perfect spouse, you're not gonna the perfect spouse, you're not gonna find one verse. But if you open your find one verse. But if you open your find one verse. But if you open your Bible asking the question, how do I how Bible asking the question, how do I how Bible asking the question, how do I how do I become the type of person who would do I become the type of person who would do I become the type of person who would be an amazing spouse? Every verse is be an amazing spouse? Every verse is be an amazing spouse? Every verse is speaking to you. So watch this. The speaking to you. So watch this. The speaking to you. So watch this. The assumption of the Bible is that when you assumption of the Bible is that when you assumption of the Bible is that when you become the right type of person, then become the right type of person, then become the right type of person, then you will attract the right type of you will attract the right type of you will attract the right type of person. Okay? So So check this out.

person. Okay? So So check this out. person. Okay? So So check this out. That's great. That's great. That's great. Check this out. I'm I'm going to give Check this out. I'm I'm going to give Check this out. I'm I'm going to give one example and then let let me move on. one example and then let let me move on. one example and then let let me move on. This is so important, man. So, before I This is so important, man. So, before I This is so important, man. So, before I became a senior pastor, I used to like became a senior pastor, I used to like became a senior pastor, I used to like travel around do a million youth camps. travel around do a million youth camps. travel around do a million youth camps. So, I get into youth camp, bunch of So, I get into youth camp, bunch of So, I get into youth camp, bunch of eighth grade, nth grade boys. And I get eighth grade, nth grade boys. And I get eighth grade, nth grade boys. And I get in a Bible study and I teach a Bible in a Bible study and I teach a Bible in a Bible study and I teach a Bible study. And then I would always ask them study. And then I would always ask them study. And then I would always ask them like, "Hey, what do you guys want to like, "Hey, what do you guys want to like, "Hey, what do you guys want to talk about?" And they would always, I talk about?" And they would always, I talk about?" And they would always, I mean, eighth grade, nth grade boys, mean, eighth grade, nth grade boys, mean, eighth grade, nth grade boys, they're always going to say the same they're always going to say the same they're always going to say the same thing. They're like, "Now, keep in mind, thing. They're like, "Now, keep in mind, thing. They're like, "Now, keep in mind, these are the kid, you know, it's like these are the kid, you know, it's like these are the kid, you know, it's like they got no jobs. They'd never take a they got no jobs. They'd never take a they got no jobs. They'd never take a shower. 30 hours at Xbox living with her shower. 30 hours at Xbox living with her shower. 30 hours at Xbox living with her mom, all the things. And then you ask mom, all the things. And then you ask mom, all the things. And then you ask them like, "Oh, what do you want to talk them like, "Oh, what do you want to talk them like, "Oh, what do you want to talk about?" They're like, "Oh, when's God about?" They're like, "Oh, when's God about?" They're like, "Oh, when's God going to give me a wife?" They're like going to give me a wife?" They're like going to give me a wife?" They're like in ninth grade. When's God going to give in ninth grade. When's God going to give in ninth grade. When's God going to give me a wife? And and the question you want me a wife? And and the question you want me a wife? And and the question you want to ask somebody like that is, "Hey, bro, to ask somebody like that is, "Hey, bro, to ask somebody like that is, "Hey, bro, if you were God, would you give you a if you were God, would you give you a if you were God, would you give you a wife?" Like, look at you. If you were wife?" Like, look at you. If you were wife?" Like, look at you. If you were God, would you give you a wife? You God, would you give you a wife? You God, would you give you a wife? You wouldn't even know what to do with them. wouldn't even know what to do with them. wouldn't even know what to do with them. And then when you say that, they get a And then when you say that, they get a And then when you say that, they get a little rice smile on their face and little rice smile on their face and little rice smile on their face and like, "Oh, I'd know what to do with like, "Oh, I'd know what to do with like, "Oh, I'd know what to do with them." Okay? It's like, "Sure you would, them." Okay? It's like, "Sure you would, them." Okay? It's like, "Sure you would, buddy. Sure you would." Okay? But then, buddy. Sure you would." Okay? But then, buddy. Sure you would." Okay? But then, so here's a little exercise that I would so here's a little exercise that I would so here's a little exercise that I would do with bunch of ninth grade guys in a do with bunch of ninth grade guys in a do with bunch of ninth grade guys in a Bible study. Okay. Okay, man. Two-minute Bible study. Okay. Okay, man. Two-minute Bible study. Okay. Okay, man. Two-minute drill. I'm going to set a two-minute drill. I'm going to set a two-minute drill. I'm going to set a two-minute timer. You write down the type of wife timer. You write down the type of wife timer. You write down the type of wife you hope God brings you. And bro, it's you hope God brings you. And bro, it's you hope God brings you. And bro, it's like they can't they can't do a homework like they can't they can't do a homework like they can't they can't do a homework assignment for their life. But they were assignment for their life. But they were assignment for their life. But they were like dissertation like like burning up like dissertation like like burning up like dissertation like like burning up the paper. Okay. And then when you're the paper. Okay. And then when you're the paper. Okay. And then when you're done, I'm like, "Okay, you you know, done, I'm like, "Okay, you you know, done, I'm like, "Okay, you you know, read it out loud." And you know, their read it out loud." And you know, their read it out loud." And you know, their list is insane. It's like, "Oh, she's list is insane. It's like, "Oh, she's list is insane. It's like, "Oh, she's got to have the beauty of Sydney Sweeney got to have the beauty of Sydney Sweeney got to have the beauty of Sydney Sweeney and the, you know, the, you know, I'm and the, you know, the, you know, I'm and the, you know, the, you know, I'm I'm looking for somebody with a, you I'm looking for somebody with a, you I'm looking for somebody with a, you know, the godliness of Mother Teresa and know, the godliness of Mother Teresa and know, the godliness of Mother Teresa and the wisdom of Solomon and, you know, the wisdom of Solomon and, you know, the wisdom of Solomon and, you know, whatever, all the things." And they'll whatever, all the things." And they'll whatever, all the things." And they'll read out loud. Now, you can only talk to

read out loud. Now, you can only talk to read out loud. Now, you can only talk to other guys like this. You don't talk to other guys like this. You don't talk to other guys like this. You don't talk to eighth grade girls like this ever, ever, eighth grade girls like this ever, ever, eighth grade girls like this ever, ever, ever, ever, ever. But with eighth grade ever, ever, ever. But with eighth grade ever, ever, ever. But with eighth grade guy, he can read his list like that. And guy, he can read his list like that. And guy, he can read his list like that. And he reads that out loud, and I say, "Bro, he reads that out loud, and I say, "Bro, he reads that out loud, and I say, "Bro, that girl would never marry you. The that girl would never marry you. The that girl would never marry you. The girl you just described is never going girl you just described is never going girl you just described is never going to as you are right now, that girl is to as you are right now, that girl is to as you are right now, that girl is never going to marry you. Here's the never going to marry you. Here's the never going to marry you. Here's the point. Your goal is to become the type point. Your goal is to become the type point. Your goal is to become the type of person that the type of person you're of person that the type of person you're of person that the type of person you're looking for is looking for. I've heard looking for is looking for. I've heard looking for is looking for. I've heard that said. So, it's becoming. Here's the that said. So, it's becoming. Here's the that said. So, it's becoming. Here's the other thing. Now, married people, if you other thing. Now, married people, if you other thing. Now, married people, if you believe the myth of the one, you'll walk believe the myth of the one, you'll walk believe the myth of the one, you'll walk into marriage with insane expectations. into marriage with insane expectations. into marriage with insane expectations. Notice this. The Bible doesn't say uh Notice this. The Bible doesn't say uh Notice this. The Bible doesn't say uh the Bible says the two shall become one. the Bible says the two shall become one. the Bible says the two shall become one. It does not say the halves shall become It does not say the halves shall become It does not say the halves shall become whole. whole. whole. If two halves walk into a marriage, they If two halves walk into a marriage, they If two halves walk into a marriage, they don't make a hole. They make hell don't make a hole. They make hell don't make a hole. They make hell because they walk into the marriage because they walk into the marriage because they walk into the marriage asking their spouse to complete them and asking their spouse to complete them and asking their spouse to complete them and fill the parts of their heart that fill the parts of their heart that fill the parts of their heart that actually only a fully satisfying actually only a fully satisfying actually only a fully satisfying relationship with Jesus Christ can do. relationship with Jesus Christ can do. relationship with Jesus Christ can do. Okay, so that's it. That's number one. I Okay, so that's it. That's number one. I Okay, so that's it. That's number one. I got to do the others much quicker.

got to do the others much quicker. got to do the others much quicker. Number two, [clears throat] Number two, [clears throat] Number two, [clears throat] for single people, dating in the Bible for single people, dating in the Bible for single people, dating in the Bible is a process to move through. It is not is a process to move through. It is not is a process to move through. It is not a status to sit in. Dating is a process a status to sit in. Dating is a process a status to sit in. Dating is a process to move through through, not a status to to move through through, not a status to to move through through, not a status to sit in. Okay? Notice in Song of Solomon, sit in. Okay? Notice in Song of Solomon, sit in. Okay? Notice in Song of Solomon, there's this whole courtship thing right there's this whole courtship thing right there's this whole courtship thing right here. Dating, whatever you want to call here. Dating, whatever you want to call here. Dating, whatever you want to call it. They immediately move towards it. They immediately move towards it. They immediately move towards marriage. Watch this. The Bible says marriage. Watch this. The Bible says marriage. Watch this. The Bible says nothing about dating. What dating? It nothing about dating. What dating? It nothing about dating. What dating? It says everything about deciding. What says everything about deciding. What says everything about deciding. What you're doing in marriage or what you're you're doing in marriage or what you're you're doing in marriage or what you're doing in dating is you're evaluating. Is doing in dating is you're evaluating. Is doing in dating is you're evaluating. Is this the type of person that I want to this the type of person that I want to this the type of person that I want to decide to link with and become one with? decide to link with and become one with? decide to link with and become one with? That is listen, that's the only purpose That is listen, that's the only purpose That is listen, that's the only purpose of dating. If you're doing anything of dating. If you're doing anything of dating. If you're doing anything else, you are playing with people's else, you are playing with people's else, you are playing with people's hearts and you're putting them in a hearts and you're putting them in a hearts and you're putting them in a position to be in significant amounts of position to be in significant amounts of position to be in significant amounts of temptation and heartbreak. Okay? So, let temptation and heartbreak. Okay? So, let temptation and heartbreak. Okay? So, let me just say it like this. Okay? This me just say it like this. Okay? This me just say it like this. Okay? This becomes real clear when you become a dad becomes real clear when you become a dad becomes real clear when you become a dad with daughters. with daughters. with daughters. Like, just imagine something like this. Hey, Pastor Josh. something like this. Hey, Pastor Josh. Um, I'm not ready for marriage and I Um, I'm not ready for marriage and I Um, I'm not ready for marriage and I have no intention of ending up with your have no intention of ending up with your have no intention of ending up with your daughter, but could I please have your daughter, but could I please have your daughter, but could I please have your daughter for the next few months? She's daughter for the next few months? She's daughter for the next few months? She's going to give me parts of her heart that going to give me parts of her heart that going to give me parts of her heart that she might not be able to ever get back.

she might not be able to ever get back. she might not be able to ever get back. She's going to give me all of her time She's going to give me all of her time She's going to give me all of her time and attention. She's going to give me and attention. She's going to give me and attention. She's going to give me all of her emotional uh agility, and I all of her emotional uh agility, and I all of her emotional uh agility, and I may, honestly, we may end up being in may, honestly, we may end up being in may, honestly, we may end up being in spots where we're tempted to give each spots where we're tempted to give each spots where we're tempted to give each other parts of our bodies physically or other parts of our bodies physically or other parts of our bodies physically or sexually that we shouldn't. I have no sexually that we shouldn't. I have no sexually that we shouldn't. I have no intention of ending up with her, but intention of ending up with her, but intention of ending up with her, but could I please have your daughter for a could I please have your daughter for a could I please have your daughter for a while? Okay. I mean, if that were to while? Okay. I mean, if that were to while? Okay. I mean, if that were to happen, it's like, you know, my eyes happen, it's like, you know, my eyes happen, it's like, you know, my eyes would turn red, sky would turn dark, would turn red, sky would turn dark, would turn red, sky would turn dark, voice would say, "Finish him." It's like voice would say, "Finish him." It's like voice would say, "Finish him." It's like out of the sky. Like, really quick, man. out of the sky. Like, really quick, man. out of the sky. Like, really quick, man. Really, really quick. Really quick. Really, really quick. Really quick. Really, really quick. Really quick. Okay. So, here's the point. Hey, here's Okay. So, here's the point. Hey, here's Okay. So, here's the point. Hey, here's the point. The only purpose of dating is the point. The only purpose of dating is the point. The only purpose of dating is to move toward marriage. That's the only to move toward marriage. That's the only to move toward marriage. That's the only purpose. It's like gentle pastoral purpose. It's like gentle pastoral purpose. It's like gentle pastoral encouragement. Do not date until you're encouragement. Do not date until you're encouragement. Do not date until you're ready to move towards marriage. And do ready to move towards marriage. And do ready to move towards marriage. And do not date someone you would not consider not date someone you would not consider not date someone you would not consider for marriage because watch this. If you for marriage because watch this. If you for marriage because watch this. If you do that, you're not dating them. You're do that, you're not dating them. You're do that, you're not dating them. You're using them. You're using them. Okay? So, using them. You're using them. Okay? So, using them. You're using them. Okay? So, here we go. Last one. Last one. here we go. Last one. Last one. here we go. Last one. Last one. [clears throat] [clears throat] [clears throat] Men, I just want to continue to say Men, I just want to continue to say Men, I just want to continue to say this. Men, be clear with your this. Men, be clear with your this. Men, be clear with your intentions. I met three couples last intentions. I met three couples last intentions. I met three couples last night after Saturday services who heard night after Saturday services who heard night after Saturday services who heard week one and a dude literally walked up week one and a dude literally walked up week one and a dude literally walked up to a godly girl as a greeter, asked her to a godly girl as a greeter, asked her to a godly girl as a greeter, asked her on a date, and now they're they're going on a date, and now they're they're going on a date, and now they're they're going out. I love it. Okay. So, I just want to out. I love it. Okay. So, I just want to out. I love it. Okay. So, I just want to Hey, I celebrate it. All in. All in. All Hey, I celebrate it. All in. All in. All Hey, I celebrate it. All in. All in. All in. That's awesome. But man, continue.

in. That's awesome. But man, continue. in. That's awesome. But man, continue. Let me say this. You need to be clear Let me say this. You need to be clear Let me say this. You need to be clear with your intentions. Whenever you ask a with your intentions. Whenever you ask a with your intentions. Whenever you ask a girl out on a date, you need to use the girl out on a date, you need to use the girl out on a date, you need to use the word date so she knows what the heck you word date so she knows what the heck you word date so she knows what the heck you are asking her to do. Use the word date. are asking her to do. Use the word date. are asking her to do. Use the word date. Three times in the Song of Solomon, it Three times in the Song of Solomon, it Three times in the Song of Solomon, it says, "Do not arouse or awaken love says, "Do not arouse or awaken love says, "Do not arouse or awaken love before so desires." If you ask her before so desires." If you ask her before so desires." If you ask her something stupid like, "Hey girl, you something stupid like, "Hey girl, you something stupid like, "Hey girl, you want to chill sometime?" She doesn't want to chill sometime?" She doesn't want to chill sometime?" She doesn't know what you're talking about. Hey know what you're talking about. Hey know what you're talking about. Hey girl, you want to hang out? That's real girl, you want to hang out? That's real girl, you want to hang out? That's real weird. If you send her a stupid text weird. If you send her a stupid text weird. If you send her a stupid text message at 10:30, you up? Mark, whatever message at 10:30, you up? Mark, whatever message at 10:30, you up? Mark, whatever it is. She doesn't know what you're it is. She doesn't know what you're it is. She doesn't know what you're doing. She doesn't know what you're doing. She doesn't know what you're doing. She doesn't know what you're doing. So, use the word date. You want doing. So, use the word date. You want doing. So, use the word date. You want to say something like, "Could I get your to say something like, "Could I get your to say something like, "Could I get your number sometime? I would like to take number sometime? I would like to take number sometime? I would like to take you out on a coffee date next Friday." you out on a coffee date next Friday." you out on a coffee date next Friday." And just a little pro tip, single guys, And just a little pro tip, single guys, And just a little pro tip, single guys, here's a pro tip. If you want to make it here's a pro tip. If you want to make it here's a pro tip. If you want to make it easier on her and you, the way that you easier on her and you, the way that you easier on her and you, the way that you ask her out, you also give her an out. ask her out, you also give her an out. ask her out, you also give her an out. So, you say, "Hey, I'd like to take you So, you say, "Hey, I'd like to take you So, you say, "Hey, I'd like to take you out on a date next Friday, but I out on a date next Friday, but I out on a date next Friday, but I understand if you're busy." It's just a understand if you're busy." It's just a understand if you're busy." It's just a little gentlemanly way to give her an little gentlemanly way to give her an little gentlemanly way to give her an easy out to if she's not into it. Now, easy out to if she's not into it. Now, easy out to if she's not into it. Now, the other thing I'll say to the young the other thing I'll say to the young the other thing I'll say to the young men, you need to honor her and protect men, you need to honor her and protect men, you need to honor her and protect her heart in that process. So, do not do her heart in that process. So, do not do her heart in that process. So, do not do this. If you go on a date and by the end this. If you go on a date and by the end this. If you go on a date and by the end of the date you're like, "Not into it?"

of the date you're like, "Not into it?" of the date you're like, "Not into it?" for the love of Jesus and the love of for the love of Jesus and the love of for the love of Jesus and the love of her. Do not say to her just to feel her. Do not say to her just to feel her. Do not say to her just to feel awkward silence at the end of the day awkward silence at the end of the day awkward silence at the end of the day something like, "I had a great time. something like, "I had a great time. something like, "I had a great time. Looking forward to do it again. I'll Looking forward to do it again. I'll Looking forward to do it again. I'll call you." Don't lie to her. Your job is call you." Don't lie to her. Your job is call you." Don't lie to her. Your job is to protect her heart just like you would to protect her heart just like you would to protect her heart just like you would expect somebody to do for you. Okay? expect somebody to do for you. Okay? expect somebody to do for you. Okay? Now, ladies, let me just say, and I just Now, ladies, let me just say, and I just Now, ladies, let me just say, and I just want to gently pastor you to our young want to gently pastor you to our young want to gently pastor you to our young single ladies just watching on online single ladies just watching on online single ladies just watching on online and talking to some people in our church and talking to some people in our church and talking to some people in our church in the lobby. Let me just say, you need in the lobby. Let me just say, you need in the lobby. Let me just say, you need to have realistic expectations. to have realistic expectations. to have realistic expectations. realistic expectations. Some of you guys realistic expectations. Some of you guys realistic expectations. Some of you guys like for real, your list is ridiculous like for real, your list is ridiculous like for real, your list is ridiculous of expectations. Okay? God could walk up of expectations. Okay? God could walk up of expectations. Okay? God could walk up to you with like the spirit of Elijah to you with like the spirit of Elijah to you with like the spirit of Elijah and the body of Samson. You'd be like, and the body of Samson. You'd be like, and the body of Samson. You'd be like, "Oh, I don't know. He's not 6'4." "Oh, I don't know. He's not 6'4." "Oh, I don't know. He's not 6'4." Okay? Like, can I can I just like let me Okay? Like, can I can I just like let me Okay? Like, can I can I just like let me just point this out in Song of Solomon? just point this out in Song of Solomon? just point this out in Song of Solomon? Notice who this this song is about. It's Notice who this this song is about. It's Notice who this this song is about. It's a king that falls in love with a peasant a king that falls in love with a peasant a king that falls in love with a peasant country girl with a farmer's stand. country girl with a farmer's stand. country girl with a farmer's stand. If he had made his list early, I doubt If he had made his list early, I doubt If he had made his list early, I doubt that was what would what would have been that was what would what would have been that was what would what would have been on the list. But he met her and he fell on the list. But he met her and he fell on the list. But he met her and he fell in love with her character, her beauty, in love with her character, her beauty, in love with her character, her beauty, her personality. Okay? So, like, let's her personality. Okay? So, like, let's her personality. Okay? So, like, let's do that, ladies. Character is more do that, ladies. Character is more do that, ladies. Character is more important than cute. And attraction important than cute. And attraction important than cute. And attraction grows with connection. Okay? That's it.

grows with connection. Okay? That's it. grows with connection. Okay? That's it. Now, here's how the sermon is going to Now, here's how the sermon is going to Now, here's how the sermon is going to end. I'm going to take everything I just end. I'm going to take everything I just end. I'm going to take everything I just said and both for married people and for said and both for married people and for said and both for married people and for single people, I I want to show you the single people, I I want to show you the single people, I I want to show you the order that God wants us to build and order that God wants us to build and order that God wants us to build and strengthen our relationships uh in the strengthen our relationships uh in the strengthen our relationships uh in the Song of Solomon. So, we need to build it Song of Solomon. So, we need to build it Song of Solomon. So, we need to build it in the right order. Okay? So, here's the in the right order. Okay? So, here's the in the right order. Okay? So, here's the order that God wants us to build a order that God wants us to build a order that God wants us to build a relationship with uh in. If you're relationship with uh in. If you're relationship with uh in. If you're single, this is your order. If you're single, this is your order. If you're single, this is your order. If you're married, this is your strengthening married, this is your strengthening married, this is your strengthening order. Okay? Number one, it needs to order. Okay? Number one, it needs to order. Okay? Number one, it needs to start you're evaluating the person start you're evaluating the person start you're evaluating the person spiritually. Book New Testament. Do not spiritually. Book New Testament. Do not spiritually. Book New Testament. Do not be unequally yolked with someone. So be unequally yolked with someone. So be unequally yolked with someone. So you're asking, is this person running you're asking, is this person running you're asking, is this person running towards Jesus? Do they value moral towards Jesus? Do they value moral towards Jesus? Do they value moral purity? Are they consecrated to the purity? Are they consecrated to the purity? Are they consecrated to the purposes of God? You're evaluating purposes of God? You're evaluating purposes of God? You're evaluating spirit. Are they a Jesusloving person? spirit. Are they a Jesusloving person? spirit. Are they a Jesusloving person? Actual Jesusloving person. You're Actual Jesusloving person. You're Actual Jesusloving person. You're evaluating spiritually. Now once you evaluating spiritually. Now once you evaluating spiritually. Now once you look around, you see, you know, a look around, you see, you know, a look around, you see, you know, a greeter somewhere at your campus and greeter somewhere at your campus and greeter somewhere at your campus and you're like, "Ah, seems like it." you're like, "Ah, seems like it." you're like, "Ah, seems like it." [snorts] Then the next phase is what [snorts] Then the next phase is what [snorts] Then the next phase is what you're doing here is you're moving to to you're doing here is you're moving to to you're doing here is you're moving to to a social it's a social relationship.

a social it's a social relationship. a social it's a social relationship. Notice in Song of Solomon, she actually Notice in Song of Solomon, she actually Notice in Song of Solomon, she actually I forgot to read the passage. We're I forgot to read the passage. We're I forgot to read the passage. We're preaching the Bible. So let me read the preaching the Bible. So let me read the preaching the Bible. So let me read the passage. She says this, "All night long passage. She says this, "All night long passage. She says this, "All night long on my bed, I look for the one my heart on my bed, I look for the one my heart on my bed, I look for the one my heart loves. I looked for him but did not find loves. I looked for him but did not find loves. I looked for him but did not find him." So notice he's not in her bed. him." So notice he's not in her bed. him." So notice he's not in her bed. They're not doing married people things They're not doing married people things They're not doing married people things before they're married. Verse two, I before they're married. Verse two, I before they're married. Verse two, I will get up now and go about the city will get up now and go about the city will get up now and go about the city through its streets and squares. I will through its streets and squares. I will through its streets and squares. I will search for the one my heart loves. So I search for the one my heart loves. So I search for the one my heart loves. So I looked for him but did not find him. The looked for him but did not find him. The looked for him but did not find him. The watchmen found me as they made their watchmen found me as they made their watchmen found me as they made their rounds in the city. Have you seen the rounds in the city. Have you seen the rounds in the city. Have you seen the one my heart loves? She's like, "Where one my heart loves? She's like, "Where one my heart loves? She's like, "Where is he? I I just want to be around him is he? I I just want to be around him is he? I I just want to be around him right now." Scarcely had I passed them right now." Scarcely had I passed them right now." Scarcely had I passed them when I found the one my heart loves. I when I found the one my heart loves. I when I found the one my heart loves. I held him and I wouldn't let him go till held him and I wouldn't let him go till held him and I wouldn't let him go till I had brought him into my Now watch I had brought him into my Now watch I had brought him into my Now watch this. Till I had brought him to my this. Till I had brought him to my this. Till I had brought him to my mother's house. She's getting him. This mother's house. She's getting him. This mother's house. She's getting him. This person she's interested in around godly person she's interested in around godly person she's interested in around godly family members and other godly people. family members and other godly people. family members and other godly people. important to the room of the one who important to the room of the one who important to the room of the one who conceived me. Verse 5, daughters of conceived me. Verse 5, daughters of conceived me. Verse 5, daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazels Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazels Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazels and doze of the field. There it is. Do and doze of the field. There it is. Do and doze of the field. There it is. Do not arouse or awaken love till it so not arouse or awaken love till it so not arouse or awaken love till it so desires. So after spiritually she desires. So after spiritually she desires. So after spiritually she immediately gets him around, watch this.

immediately gets him around, watch this. immediately gets him around, watch this. It it's around her friends. Chapter 1 It it's around her friends. Chapter 1 It it's around her friends. Chapter 1 and two, they're all around their and two, they're all around their and two, they're all around their friends. That's why the friends hop in, friends. That's why the friends hop in, friends. That's why the friends hop in, sing a little diddy, and then they hop sing a little diddy, and then they hop sing a little diddy, and then they hop out. She's like getting her friends eyes out. She's like getting her friends eyes out. She's like getting her friends eyes on him. Then she's getting mom and dad's on him. Then she's getting mom and dad's on him. Then she's getting mom and dad's eyes on him. She's got godly parents. I eyes on him. She's got godly parents. I eyes on him. She's got godly parents. I want my parents to see this person here. want my parents to see this person here. want my parents to see this person here. Listen, here's why that's really Listen, here's why that's really Listen, here's why that's really important. I I really need you to hear important. I I really need you to hear important. I I really need you to hear this. It's important that you have at this. It's important that you have at this. It's important that you have at least three older godly people that you least three older godly people that you least three older godly people that you can ask if the person you're dating is a can ask if the person you're dating is a can ask if the person you're dating is a good choice for you. But here's why. good choice for you. But here's why. good choice for you. But here's why. Because when emotion gets high, logic Because when emotion gets high, logic Because when emotion gets high, logic gets low. So, this is what she's doing. gets low. So, this is what she's doing. gets low. So, this is what she's doing. She's like, "Okay, let me evaluate uh She's like, "Okay, let me evaluate uh She's like, "Okay, let me evaluate uh socially." Now, after you look around socially." Now, after you look around socially." Now, after you look around and you're like, "Man, I like who this and you're like, "Man, I like who this and you're like, "Man, I like who this person seems to be." Then it moves to a person seems to be." Then it moves to a person seems to be." Then it moves to a personal relationship. Let's spend some personal relationship. Let's spend some personal relationship. Let's spend some one-on-one time together. Appropriate one-on-one time together. Appropriate one-on-one time together. Appropriate times, appropriate ways. is let's go times, appropriate ways. is let's go times, appropriate ways. is let's go coffee now I'm learning about your heart coffee now I'm learning about your heart coffee now I'm learning about your heart your soul your dreams what God has done your soul your dreams what God has done your soul your dreams what God has done in your life what you know your calling in your life what you know your calling in your life what you know your calling then after personal the more personal then after personal the more personal then after personal the more personal time you spend it's going to get time you spend it's going to get time you spend it's going to get emotional now it's this is the I'm emotional now it's this is the I'm emotional now it's this is the I'm falling in love and I'm really into this falling in love and I'm really into this falling in love and I'm really into this person and you know it's so all this person and you know it's so all this person and you know it's so all this stuff is coalescing the emotions are stuff is coalescing the emotions are stuff is coalescing the emotions are forming emotional bond now for a godly forming emotional bond now for a godly forming emotional bond now for a godly person this is where marriage happens person this is where marriage happens person this is where marriage happens this is the phase right here is where this is the phase right here is where this is the phase right here is where marriage happens nothing else happens marriage happens nothing else happens marriage happens nothing else happens before marriage happens. This is where before marriage happens. This is where before marriage happens. This is where marriage happens. Then after marriage marriage happens. Then after marriage marriage happens. Then after marriage has happened, then you add the physical has happened, then you add the physical has happened, then you add the physical part. Okay? Does that make sense? Then part. Okay? Does that make sense? Then part. Okay? Does that make sense? Then you add the physical part. That's it.

you add the physical part. That's it. you add the physical part. That's it. Now, this is how God has designed the Now, this is how God has designed the Now, this is how God has designed the relationship to be built. Now, here's relationship to be built. Now, here's relationship to be built. Now, here's the problem. In our culture, you are the problem. In our culture, you are the problem. In our culture, you are getting discipled to do the exact getting discipled to do the exact getting discipled to do the exact opposite. In our culture, a lot of times opposite. In our culture, a lot of times opposite. In our culture, a lot of times it starts with a physical. Swipe left, it starts with a physical. Swipe left, it starts with a physical. Swipe left, swipe right. swipe right. swipe right. Hookup, shack up, break up. We hooked up Hookup, shack up, break up. We hooked up Hookup, shack up, break up. We hooked up starts physical. Then listen, do not lie starts physical. Then listen, do not lie starts physical. Then listen, do not lie to yourself. If you get involved to yourself. If you get involved to yourself. If you get involved sexually with somebody, it is 100% sexually with somebody, it is 100% sexually with somebody, it is 100% [snorts] [snorts] [snorts] going to become emotional because sex is going to become emotional because sex is going to become emotional because sex is not just two bodies together. It's the not just two bodies together. It's the not just two bodies together. It's the mingling of souls. Do not lie to mingling of souls. Do not lie to mingling of souls. Do not lie to yourself. That's why, check this out. yourself. That's why, check this out. yourself. That's why, check this out. Why do they say what they say? I caught Why do they say what they say? I caught Why do they say what they say? I caught feelings. feelings. feelings. That is always going to happen. So when That is always going to happen. So when That is always going to happen. So when this happens, the emotions are going to this happens, the emotions are going to this happens, the emotions are going to kick in and then now you're all kick in and then now you're all kick in and then now you're all emotional about the person. You start emotional about the person. You start emotional about the person. You start going, "Well, I I guess we ought to go going, "Well, I I guess we ought to go going, "Well, I I guess we ought to go on some dates. I mean, we're real on some dates. I mean, we're real on some dates. I mean, we're real emotionally into each other. I I guess emotionally into each other. I I guess emotionally into each other. I I guess we ought to go on some dates and do, you we ought to go on some dates and do, you we ought to go on some dates and do, you know, get to know each other a little know, get to know each other a little know, get to know each other a little bit. This feels awkward if we don't." So bit. This feels awkward if we don't." So bit. This feels awkward if we don't." So you start doing this. And then after you start doing this. And then after you start doing this. And then after you've done a bunch of one-on-one dates, you've done a bunch of one-on-one dates, you've done a bunch of one-on-one dates, at the very end of that, then you're at the very end of that, then you're at the very end of that, then you're like, "Well, I mean, I guess he needs to like, "Well, I mean, I guess he needs to like, "Well, I mean, I guess he needs to meet my friends and my parents." At the meet my friends and my parents." At the meet my friends and my parents." At the very end, I I guess it needs to meet my very end, I I guess it needs to meet my very end, I I guess it needs to meet my friends and my parents, you know, that friends and my parents, you know, that friends and my parents, you know, that that kind of thing. And then here, now that kind of thing. And then here, now that kind of thing. And then here, now watch this. This is the spot where it watch this. This is the spot where it watch this. This is the spot where it gets real fragile and people are like, gets real fragile and people are like, gets real fragile and people are like, they start lying to themselves. I think they start lying to themselves. I think they start lying to themselves. I think it's a good relationship.

it's a good relationship. it's a good relationship. It's good when it's good. It's good when it's good. It's good when it's good. You know, we both like pickle ball. You You know, we both like pickle ball. You You know, we both like pickle ball. You know, whatever you do, it's like you're know, whatever you do, it's like you're know, whatever you do, it's like you're lying to yourself. lying to yourself. lying to yourself. Then at the very end, what people try to Then at the very end, what people try to Then at the very end, what people try to do is like, well, I guess we should get do is like, well, I guess we should get do is like, well, I guess we should get married. like where's a pastor? Can I married. like where's a pastor? Can I married. like where's a pastor? Can I find a pastor to do a do a wedding and find a pastor to do a do a wedding and find a pastor to do a do a wedding and read me a Bible verse? And you add this read me a Bible verse? And you add this read me a Bible verse? And you add this at the end and watch. Because the at the end and watch. Because the at the end and watch. Because the foundation is the smallest part of the foundation is the smallest part of the foundation is the smallest part of the relationship, it's totally unstable, relationship, it's totally unstable, relationship, it's totally unstable, real easy for it to fall. Now listen, real easy for it to fall. Now listen, real easy for it to fall. Now listen, here's listen listen. If you are not here's listen listen. If you are not here's listen listen. If you are not married yet and you're moving towards married yet and you're moving towards married yet and you're moving towards it, listen to me. Hey, Lake Point it, listen to me. Hey, Lake Point it, listen to me. Hey, Lake Point Church, let's build it the right way. Church, let's build it the right way. Church, let's build it the right way. Let's build it the right way. Okay? And Let's build it the right way. Okay? And Let's build it the right way. Okay? And some of you, listen, listen, listen, some of you, listen, listen, listen, some of you, listen, listen, listen, listen. Some of you, like literally the listen. Some of you, like literally the listen. Some of you, like literally the whole reason you're at the Love Life whole reason you're at the Love Life whole reason you're at the Love Life series, we got still got two more weeks, series, we got still got two more weeks, series, we got still got two more weeks, is because you're here and you're trying is because you're here and you're trying is because you're here and you're trying to add this. Listen, no judgment. I'm to add this. Listen, no judgment. I'm to add this. Listen, no judgment. I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you, man. I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you, man. I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you, man. I'm proud of you. And listen, here's what proud of you. And listen, here's what proud of you. And listen, here's what you got to know, man. Here's what you you got to know, man. Here's what you you got to know, man. Here's what you got to know is my Bible tells me the got to know is my Bible tells me the got to know is my Bible tells me the Lord can restore the years the locusts Lord can restore the years the locusts Lord can restore the years the locusts have eaten. [music] He can do that in have eaten. [music] He can do that in have eaten. [music] He can do that in your life. We are not, listen, we are your life. We are not, listen, we are your life. We are not, listen, we are not a bunch of good people trying to not a bunch of good people trying to not a bunch of good people trying to tell bad people how to be good. We are a tell bad people how to be good. We are a tell bad people how to be good. We are a bunch of forgiven nobodyies trying to bunch of forgiven nobodyies trying to bunch of forgiven nobodyies trying to tell everybody about a somebody who can tell everybody about a somebody who can tell everybody about a somebody who can redeem anybody and anything. He can do redeem anybody and anything. He can do redeem anybody and anything. He can do that for you and he can do that in your that for you and he can do that in your that for you and he can do that in your marriage. Okay, that's it.

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