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>> Heat. Hey, heat. Hey, heat. >> Heat. Hey, heat. Hey, heat. Heat. Hey, heat. Hey, heat. Hey, heat. Hey, heat. >> [music] >> Well, hey church online. Welcome. If we >> Well, hey church online. Welcome. If we haven't met, my name is Carlos and I haven't met, my name is Carlos and I haven't met, my name is Carlos and I serve as pastor of digital disciplehip.

serve as pastor of digital disciplehip. serve as pastor of digital disciplehip. And I'm so glad you're spending part of And I'm so glad you're spending part of And I'm so glad you're spending part of your weekend with us today. Hey, we are your weekend with us today. Hey, we are your weekend with us today. Hey, we are wrapping our best of summer series, the wrapping our best of summer series, the wrapping our best of summer series, the run where every week we've revisited run where every week we've revisited run where every week we've revisited some of the most impactful messages from some of the most impactful messages from some of the most impactful messages from here at Lake Point and Pastor Josh's here at Lake Point and Pastor Josh's here at Lake Point and Pastor Josh's messages. And we're going out with one messages. And we're going out with one messages. And we're going out with one you will not forget. This message comes you will not forget. This message comes you will not forget. This message comes from our love life series called the from our love life series called the from our love life series called the building blocks of godly dating, single building blocks of godly dating, single building blocks of godly dating, single and married. It is practical. It is and married. It is practical. It is and married. It is practical. It is biblical. And honestly, it'll change how biblical. And honestly, it'll change how biblical. And honestly, it'll change how you live this week. So, lean in. If you you live this week. So, lean in. If you you live this week. So, lean in. If you are here and maybe you're new with us are here and maybe you're new with us are here and maybe you're new with us today, welcome. After today, head to our today, welcome. After today, head to our today, welcome. 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Hey, our hosts our lives, our prayer Hey, our hosts our lives, our prayer team is ready. And if you need prayer team is ready. And if you need prayer team is ready. And if you need prayer today at any point, text the word prayer today at any point, text the word prayer today at any point, text the word prayer to 2041. to 2041. to 2041. [music] [music] [music] All right, let's open up our hearts All right, let's open up our hearts All right, let's open up our hearts right now and let's worship our God right now and let's worship our God right now and let's worship our God together. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] >> Lake Point family. Welcome to [music] >> Lake Point family. Welcome to [music] church. We are so glad that you're church. We are so glad that you're church. We are so glad that you're joining us here today. Come on, can we joining us here today. Come on, can we joining us here today. Come on, can we lift up our voices to [music] the only lift up our voices to [music] the only lift up our voices to [music] the only one who is worthy of all of the honor, one who is worthy of all of the honor, one who is worthy of all of the honor, all of the glory, and all of our praise.

all of the glory, and all of our praise. all of the glory, and all of our praise. [music] I [music] have felt the hands that bear I [music] have felt the hands that bear the scars reach down and [music] rescue the scars reach down and [music] rescue the scars reach down and [music] rescue me. I have known the love of [music] the me. I have known the love of [music] the me. I have known the love of [music] the father's heart. I brought me father's heart. I brought me father's heart. I brought me from where I was [music] from where I was [music] from where I was [music] to where I'm now. It's over more and more. I see you move [music] more and more. I see you move [music] all around me. I can never [music] all around me. I can never [music] all around me. I can never [music] praise you. Praise you, Lord. praise you. Praise you, Lord. praise you. Praise you, Lord. >> [music] >> [music] >> [music] >> I can't ever >> I can't ever >> I can't ever sh sh sh [music] you. [music] you. [music] Praise you, Lord.

For the For the still save [music] my life. still save [music] my life. still save [music] my life. I belong to me and for the cross [music] I belong to me and for the cross [music] I belong to me and for the cross [music] you pen you pen you pen salvation [music] salvation [music] salvation [music] my name from where I was to where I'm my name from where I was to where I'm my name from where I was to where I'm now it's overwhelming more and [music] more I see you move more and [music] more I see you move all around me [music] all around me [music] all around me [music] I can praise Yeah. Heat. [music] >> I can't ever praise [music] >> I can't ever praise [music] you. Praise you, Lord. you. Praise you, Lord. you. Praise you, Lord. Come on. Oh, I can't help but [music] Come on. Oh, I can't help but [music] Come on. Oh, I can't help but [music] I'm free I'm free I'm free on me. I on me. I on me. I can't help but can't help but can't help but [music] [music] [music] my my my bra [music] [music] got on me.

[music] [music] Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] Yeah. [music] Yeah. [music] Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] Oh, I can't [music] praise you. Praise Oh, I can't [music] praise you. Praise you, Lord. you, Lord. you, Lord. I can't [music] I can't [music] I can't [music] praise you. Praise you, Lord. Oh, I can't help but praise [music] you. Oh, I can't help but praise [music] you. Praise you, [singing] Lord. Praise you, [singing] Lord. Praise you, [singing] Lord. Oh, I can't help but Oh, I can't help but Oh, I can't help but shout of joy.

shout of joy. shout of joy. [music] And when I think of how good you [music] And when I think of how good you [music] And when I think of how good you been, faithful now to the end. Oh, been, faithful now to the end. Oh, been, faithful now to the end. Oh, [music] I can't help but praise you. [music] I can't help but praise you. [music] I can't help but praise you. [crying] Praise [music] you, Lord. [crying] Praise [music] you, Lord. [crying] Praise [music] you, Lord. [singing] Oh, I can't help but praise [singing] Oh, I can't help but praise [singing] Oh, I can't help but praise you. Praise you, Lord. We praise you, Lord. [singing] We praise you, Lord. [singing] >> Oh, come on family. [music] Why don't we >> Oh, come on family. [music] Why don't we >> Oh, come on family. [music] Why don't we just lift up a shout of praise? Come on just lift up a shout of praise? Come on just lift up a shout of praise? Come on to the King of Kings who is worthy of to the King of Kings who is worthy of to the King of Kings who is worthy of all praise. What a wonderful name it is. all praise. What a wonderful name it is. all praise. What a wonderful name it is. The beautiful truth today. Proverbs 18 The beautiful truth today. Proverbs 18 The beautiful truth today. Proverbs 18 10 says, "The name of the Lord is a 10 says, "The name of the Lord is a 10 says, "The name of the Lord is a strong tower. The righteous run [music] strong tower. The righteous run [music] strong tower. The righteous run [music] in and they are safe." in and they are safe." in and they are safe." Isn't it beautiful that we can run to Isn't it beautiful that we can run to Isn't it beautiful that we can run to the Lord and praise his holy name? the Lord and praise his holy name? the Lord and praise his holy name? [music] So come on church, in this [music] So come on church, in this [music] So come on church, in this moment we're going to lift up his name moment we're going to lift up his name moment we're going to lift up his name in worship. Come on, let's sing. in worship. Come on, let's sing. in worship. Come on, let's sing. I could sing your name [music] for all I could sing your name [music] for all I could sing your name [music] for all my life and still find more to love each my life and still find more to love each my life and still find more to love each [music] time.

[music] time. [music] time. Jesus be the name ever on. [music] Jesus be the name ever on. [music] Jesus be the name ever on. [music] Sweeter every time that I call. Come on. Sweeter every time that I call. Come on. Sweeter every time that I call. Come on. Sweeter every time [music] that I call. Sweeter every time [music] that I call. Sweeter every time [music] that I call. There's just something about your name. There's just something about your name. There's just something about your name. There's [music] just something about There's [music] just something about There's [music] just something about your name. your name. your name. There's just something about your name There's just something about your name There's just something about your name [music] [music] [music] that makes me cry. that makes me cry. that makes me cry. There is no other name. There is no There is no other name. There is no There is no other name. There is no other name. other name. other name. There is no other name. [music] There is no other name. There is no other name. Jesus, you're worthy. Jesus, you're worthy. Jesus, you're worthy. Oh, Oh, Oh, you [music] have been the friend who you [music] have been the friend who you [music] have been the friend who never never never left. I [music] won't forget left. I [music] won't forget left. I [music] won't forget your faithfulness. Jesus [music] be the name ever on life.

Jesus [music] be the name ever on life. Sweeter every time that I call Sweeter every time that I call Sweeter every time that I call sweeter every time that I call [music] sweeter every time that I call [music] sweeter every time that I call [music] it. Oh, there's just something about it. Oh, there's just something about it. Oh, there's just something about your name. your name. your name. There's something about There's something about There's something about [music] [music] [music] There's something about your name There's something about your name There's something about your name that makes me run away. that makes me run away. that makes me run away. There is no [music] other day. There is no [music] other day. There is no [music] other day. There is no other day. There is no other day. There is no other day. There [music] is no other day. There [music] is no other day. There [music] is no other day. Jesus your Jesus your Jesus your name. There's something about your name. >> [music] >> There's just something about your day. >> There's just something about your day. >> There's just something about your day. There's just something about you There's just something about you There's just something about you that makes me [music] All the honor and praise is yours. It's All the honor and praise is yours. It's [music] yours.

[music] yours. [music] yours. Come on, church. Let's sing about our Come on, church. Let's sing about our Come on, church. Let's sing about our king. Jesus, your [music] name. Yes. king. Jesus, your [music] name. Yes. king. Jesus, your [music] name. Yes. Jesus, your name is like the morning Jesus, your name is like the morning Jesus, your name is like the morning light. The one [music] the darkness can light. The one [music] the darkness can light. The one [music] the darkness can deny. The resurrection. deny. The resurrection. deny. The resurrection. Come on, hold my hand. Jesus. Come on, hold my hand. Jesus. Come on, hold my hand. Jesus. Cuz Jesus, [music] your name can save. Cuz Jesus, [music] your name can save. Cuz Jesus, [music] your name can save. Your name can heal. Your name can make Your name can heal. Your name can make Your name can heal. Your name can make the stormy still. You never fail. You the stormy still. You never fail. You the stormy still. You never fail. You never will. Jesus. [music] never will. Jesus. [music] never will. Jesus. [music] Jesus. The bread Jesus. The bread Jesus. The bread for the for the for the world. [music] The first Jesus. Jesus. Heat. [music] Yeah. [music] Yeah. [music] Heat.

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of Jesus. of Jesus. The greatness of mercy and love. The The greatness of mercy and love. The The greatness of mercy and love. The greatness of greatness of greatness of mercy and love [music] at the feet of Jesus. Come on, let's sing together. of Jesus. Come on, let's sing together. We fall down. We lay our crowns. [music] We fall down. We lay our crowns. [music] We fall down. We lay our crowns. [music] We fall down. We fall down. We fall down. We lay our [music] crowns We lay our [music] crowns We lay our [music] crowns at the feet at the feet at the feet of Jesus. Oh Jesus, of Jesus. Oh Jesus, of Jesus. Oh Jesus, >> the greatness [music] >> the greatness [music] >> the greatness [music] of the greatest of the greatest of the greatest your mercy [music] and love at the feet your mercy [music] and love at the feet your mercy [music] and love at the feet of Jesus [music] of Jesus [music] of Jesus [music] of Jes. So we cry. So we cry holy, of Jes. So we cry. So we cry holy, of Jes. So we cry. So we cry holy, [music] [music] [music] holy. holy. holy. Oh, sing it out. We cry, [music] Oh, sing it out. We cry, [music] Oh, sing it out. We cry, [music] holy as we cry, holy, [music] as we cry, holy, [music] holy, holy, holy, holy holy holy is [music] is [music] is [music] Come on every voice, let's sing this out Come on every voice, let's sing this out Come on every voice, let's sing this out to our king. Heat.

to our king. Heat. to our king. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] [music] [music] Heat. Heat. Yeah. Yeah. Heat. [music] [music] Heat. [music] [music] Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] Holy [music] Holy [music] is our lamb.

Come on over the room. We cry holy. Yes, Come on over the room. We cry holy. Yes, we [music] cry holy. we [music] cry holy. we [music] cry holy. >> This is your song to your king. Yes, we >> This is your song to your king. Yes, we >> This is your song to your king. Yes, we cry holy, holy, cry holy, holy, cry holy, holy, holy. holy. holy. We cry holy, [music and singing] We cry holy, [music and singing] We cry holy, [music and singing] holy, holy, holy, holy holy holy is the lamb. is the lamb. is the lamb. Oh, come on. Can we celebrate the one Oh, come on. Can we celebrate the one Oh, come on. Can we celebrate the one who reigns in heaven, the one who lives who reigns in heaven, the one who lives who reigns in heaven, the one who lives forever more. Holy, holy [music] is the forever more. Holy, holy [music] is the forever more. Holy, holy [music] is the Lord our God Almighty. What a privilege Lord our God Almighty. What a privilege Lord our God Almighty. What a privilege to serve the King. Come on, Lake Point to serve the King. Come on, Lake Point to serve the King. Come on, Lake Point family. It's a joy to worship Jesus with family. It's a joy to worship Jesus with family. It's a joy to worship Jesus with you. You can go ahead and take a seat. you. You can go ahead and take a seat. you. You can go ahead and take a seat. And as we turn [music] to the screens, And as we turn [music] to the screens, And as we turn [music] to the screens, let's celebrate with those declaring let's celebrate with those declaring let's celebrate with those declaring their faith in Jesus Christ through their faith in Jesus Christ through their faith in Jesus Christ through baptisms. baptisms. baptisms. [music] That's right. We're going to [music] That's right. We're going to [music] That's right. We're going to continue to worship the Lord through the continue to worship the Lord through the continue to worship the Lord through the celebration of baptism. And we're celebration of baptism. And we're celebration of baptism. And we're getting started here with my friend getting started here with my friend getting started here with my friend Zach. Zack, the question for you, man. Zach. Zack, the question for you, man. Zach. Zack, the question for you, man. Have you put your trust in Jesus as the Have you put your trust in Jesus as the Have you put your trust in Jesus as the Lord and Savior of your life?

Lord and Savior of your life? Lord and Savior of your life? >> Yes, I have. >> Yes, I have. >> Yes, I have. >> Amazing, man. Well, because [music] of >> Amazing, man. Well, because [music] of >> Amazing, man. Well, because [music] of that, it's my honor to baptize you in that, it's my honor to baptize you in that, it's my honor to baptize you in the name of the Father, the Son, and the name of the Father, the Son, and the name of the Father, the Son, and Holy Spirit. Holy Spirit. Holy Spirit. Come on. Come on. [applause] And now, Come on. Come on. [applause] And now, Come on. Come on. [applause] And now, come on. Your wife Savannah is here as come on. Your wife Savannah is here as come on. Your wife Savannah is here as well to make the same declaration of well to make the same declaration of well to make the same declaration of faith. So the question, the same is for faith. So the question, the same is for faith. So the question, the same is for you. Have you put your trust in Jesus as you. Have you put your trust in Jesus as you. Have you put your trust in Jesus as the Lord and Savior of your life? the Lord and Savior of your life? the Lord and Savior of your life? >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Yes. >> Amazing. Well, because of that, it is >> Amazing. Well, because of that, it is >> Amazing. Well, because of that, it is your husband's honor to baptize you in your husband's honor to baptize you in your husband's honor to baptize you in the name of the Father, the Son, and the name of the Father, the Son, and the name of the Father, the Son, and Holy Spirit. [applause] [applause] >> Come on. >> Come on. >> Come on. Praise God. And next [music] up, we've Praise God. And next [music] up, we've Praise God. And next [music] up, we've got my friend Zach as well. Zack, the got my friend Zach as well. Zack, the got my friend Zach as well. Zack, the question is the same for you, man. Have question is the same for you, man. Have question is the same for you, man. Have you put your trust in Jesus as the Lord you put your trust in Jesus as the Lord you put your trust in Jesus as the Lord and Savior of [music] your life? and Savior of [music] your life? and Savior of [music] your life? >> Yes, I have. >> Yes, I have. >> Yes, I have. >> Amen. Well, because of that, it is my >> Amen. Well, because of that, it is my >> Amen. Well, because of that, it is my honor to baptize you in the name of the honor to baptize you in the name of the honor to baptize you in the name of the Father, the Son, and Holy Spirit. Come on. So good. And now, what a Come on. So good. And now, what a beautiful afternoon. I love this. Your beautiful afternoon. I love this. Your beautiful afternoon. I love this. Your wife Allison is here to make the same wife Allison is here to make the same wife Allison is here to make the same declaration of faith. Allison, have you declaration of faith. Allison, have you declaration of faith. Allison, have you put your trust in Jesus as the Lord and put your trust in Jesus as the Lord and put your trust in Jesus as the Lord and Savior of your life?

Savior of your life? Savior of your life? >> Amazing. Well, because of that, it is >> Amazing. Well, because of that, it is >> Amazing. Well, because of that, it is your husband's honor to baptize you in your husband's honor to baptize you in your husband's honor to baptize you in the name of the Father, the Son, and the name of the Father, the Son, and the name of the Father, the Son, and Holy Spirit. [music] [music] Well, hey, church online. We are Well, hey, church online. We are Well, hey, church online. We are wrapping up our best of summer series wrapping up our best of summer series wrapping up our best of summer series with a big one. And I am so excited with a big one. And I am so excited with a big one. And I am so excited because this one right here is coming because this one right here is coming because this one right here is coming from our love life [music] series. We from our love life [music] series. We from our love life [music] series. We are bringing back the building blocks are bringing back the building blocks are bringing back the building blocks for godly dating, single, and married. for godly dating, single, and married. for godly dating, single, and married. And here's the heart of it. From And here's the heart of it. From And here's the heart of it. From building your relationship in the right building your relationship in the right building your relationship in the right order to protecting and strengthening, order to protecting and strengthening, order to protecting and strengthening, and also leading well years into and also leading well years into and also leading well years into marriage, this message speaks to every marriage, this message speaks to every marriage, this message speaks to every season. And by the way, for our parents season. And by the way, for our parents season. And by the way, for our parents with young children, this series right with young children, this series right with young children, this series right here is deemed PG11. So you may want to here is deemed PG11. So you may want to here is deemed PG11. So you may want to have some other activities for those have some other activities for those have some other activities for those young ears at home joining [music] you young ears at home joining [music] you young ears at home joining [music] you right now. Also in this sermon we will right now. Also in this sermon we will right now. Also in this sermon we will see that a disciplined life doesn't grow see that a disciplined life doesn't grow see that a disciplined life doesn't grow in isolation. You need people around you in isolation. You need people around you in isolation. You need people around you who know your name, pray for you and who know your name, pray for you and who know your name, pray for you and keep you anchored when the world feels keep you anchored when the world feels keep you anchored when the world feels uncertain and when life gets tough. Man, uncertain and when life gets tough. Man, uncertain and when life gets tough. Man, that's what you need people with you that's what you need people with you that's what you need people with you for. And that's honestly what the local for. And that's honestly what the local for. And that's honestly what the local church is for. People here are meeting church is for. People here are meeting church is for. People here are meeting Jesus, getting baptized, and taking real Jesus, getting baptized, and taking real Jesus, getting baptized, and taking real next steps. By the grace of God, next steps. By the grace of God, next steps. By the grace of God, campuses are growing. And soon we will campuses are growing. And soon we will campuses are growing. And soon we will be expanding further into Colin County be expanding further into Colin County be expanding further into Colin County as the Lakeoint family moves to Lucas, as the Lakeoint family moves to Lucas, as the Lakeoint family moves to Lucas, Texas. And here's what you need to know.

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book of the Bible called Song of Songs. book of the Bible called Song of Songs. And here's what this book is. Um, for And here's what this book is. Um, for And here's what this book is. Um, for those of us who are are newer to this those of us who are are newer to this those of us who are are newer to this book, it's just like we call Jesus King book, it's just like we call Jesus King book, it's just like we call Jesus King of Kings cuz he's the greatest king and of Kings cuz he's the greatest king and of Kings cuz he's the greatest king and Lord of Lords cuz he's the Lord over all Lord of Lords cuz he's the Lord over all Lord of Lords cuz he's the Lord over all the other lords. Um Solomon in the the other lords. Um Solomon in the the other lords. Um Solomon in the Bible, a king wrote a thous05 songs. And Bible, a king wrote a thous05 songs. And Bible, a king wrote a thous05 songs. And then there was this one song that God then there was this one song that God then there was this one song that God pointed to and went that's the song of pointed to and went that's the song of pointed to and went that's the song of songs. That's the one above all the songs. That's the one above all the songs. That's the one above all the other songs. And it's about romance, other songs. And it's about romance, other songs. And it's about romance, dating, sex, marriage, all the things. dating, sex, marriage, all the things. dating, sex, marriage, all the things. And so we are leaning in to that and And so we are leaning in to that and And so we are leaning in to that and preaching through it. And let me just go preaching through it. And let me just go preaching through it. And let me just go ahead and lay this principle down. Um if ahead and lay this principle down. Um if ahead and lay this principle down. Um if you are in any way have struggled with you are in any way have struggled with you are in any way have struggled with with parts of this series, I'm just with parts of this series, I'm just with parts of this series, I'm just going to tell you why. Here's why. Um going to tell you why. Here's why. Um going to tell you why. Here's why. Um because here here's our principle is because here here's our principle is because here here's our principle is that God has a plan to bless your life that God has a plan to bless your life that God has a plan to bless your life and your marriage and Satan has a plan and your marriage and Satan has a plan and your marriage and Satan has a plan to steal, kill, and destroy your life to steal, kill, and destroy your life to steal, kill, and destroy your life and marriage. And ultimately, you get to and marriage. And ultimately, you get to and marriage. And ultimately, you get to decide which plan you're on. God's plan decide which plan you're on. God's plan decide which plan you're on. God's plan to bless your marriage is in his word. to bless your marriage is in his word. to bless your marriage is in his word. And Satan's plan to curse your marriage And Satan's plan to curse your marriage And Satan's plan to curse your marriage is in the world. And ultimately, you is in the world. And ultimately, you is in the world. And ultimately, you have to decide which one stands in have to decide which one stands in have to decide which one stands in authority over the other. Does what the authority over the other. Does what the authority over the other. Does what the word says stand in authority over what word says stand in authority over what word says stand in authority over what the world says and judge it and say that the world says and judge it and say that the world says and judge it and say that it's wrong and evaluate it? or are you a it's wrong and evaluate it? or are you a it's wrong and evaluate it? or are you a person that's going to prioritize what person that's going to prioritize what person that's going to prioritize what the world says over what the word says the world says over what the word says the world says over what the word says and the world's opinion judges the word and the world's opinion judges the word and the world's opinion judges the word and says what is right and wrong in it and says what is right and wrong in it and says what is right and wrong in it and ultimately if you follow God's plan and ultimately if you follow God's plan and ultimately if you follow God's plan it leads to blessing and if you follow it leads to blessing and if you follow it leads to blessing and if you follow Satan's plan there is only one thing Satan's plan there is only one thing Satan's plan there is only one thing that he wants to ever ever ever do is he that he wants to ever ever ever do is he that he wants to ever ever ever do is he wants to steal kill and destroy wants to steal kill and destroy wants to steal kill and destroy everything you hold dear very much everything you hold dear very much everything you hold dear very much including your marriage and your family

including your marriage and your family including your marriage and your family and so in this series what we're doing and so in this series what we're doing and so in this series what we're doing is we're just walking through and going is we're just walking through and going is we're just walking through and going okay what's God's God's plan for this okay what's God's God's plan for this okay what's God's God's plan for this now here's we're doing in week three. now here's we're doing in week three. now here's we're doing in week three. This week we're going to talk uh we're This week we're going to talk uh we're This week we're going to talk uh we're going to talk about dating and pursuit. going to talk about dating and pursuit. going to talk about dating and pursuit. Now, quick heads up. Um if you are Now, quick heads up. Um if you are Now, quick heads up. Um if you are especially a guy who hears that and especially a guy who hears that and especially a guy who hears that and you're like, "Dating? I don't hear about you're like, "Dating? I don't hear about you're like, "Dating? I don't hear about dating? I'm already married. I'm already dating? I'm already married. I'm already dating? I'm already married. I'm already done with that." I have just figured out done with that." I have just figured out done with that." I have just figured out what is wrong with your marriage. I can what is wrong with your marriage. I can what is wrong with your marriage. I can tell you right now exactly what's wrong tell you right now exactly what's wrong tell you right now exactly what's wrong with your marriage. We we can figure with your marriage. We we can figure with your marriage. We we can figure that out later. But um it was that out later. But um it was that out later. But um it was interesting in getting ready for this interesting in getting ready for this interesting in getting ready for this message. You know, me and Jana, we take message. You know, me and Jana, we take message. You know, me and Jana, we take our little walk every night and we'll our little walk every night and we'll our little walk every night and we'll talk through the sermons. And so James talk through the sermons. And so James talk through the sermons. And so James was telling me this and and um and we I was telling me this and and um and we I was telling me this and and um and we I we started talking about us dating. So we started talking about us dating. So we started talking about us dating. So just for fun um I'm going to show you I just for fun um I'm going to show you I just for fun um I'm going to show you I think the only picture that we have from think the only picture that we have from think the only picture that we have from the ent we only dated for 4 months uh the ent we only dated for 4 months uh the ent we only dated for 4 months uh from the entire time we dated. Um so from the entire time we dated. Um so from the entire time we dated. Um so here it is. This is the only picture I'm here it is. This is the only picture I'm here it is. This is the only picture I'm aware of of us dating. I know some of aware of of us dating. I know some of aware of of us dating. I know some of you are aing and some of you are you are aing and some of you are you are aing and some of you are laughing. The ones that are laughing are laughing. The ones that are laughing are laughing. The ones that are laughing are looking to the left side of the picture looking to the left side of the picture looking to the left side of the picture and the ones that are awing are looking and the ones that are awing are looking and the ones that are awing are looking to the right side of the picture. Now I to the right side of the picture. Now I to the right side of the picture. Now I just want to point a couple things out.

just want to point a couple things out. just want to point a couple things out. Um number one that's 50 lbs ago for me. Um number one that's 50 lbs ago for me. Um number one that's 50 lbs ago for me. That's number one. And number two, um, I That's number one. And number two, um, I That's number one. And number two, um, I grew into my eyebrows. Uh, that's great. grew into my eyebrows. Uh, that's great. grew into my eyebrows. Uh, that's great. Love that. It's great. Love that. I've Love that. It's great. Love that. I've Love that. It's great. Love that. I've never met anybody else who had to grow never met anybody else who had to grow never met anybody else who had to grow into their eyebrows, but I did. The into their eyebrows, but I did. The into their eyebrows, but I did. The other thing I want to point out is I am other thing I want to point out is I am other thing I want to point out is I am virtually unrecognizable. virtually unrecognizable. virtually unrecognizable. And Jana looks exactly the same. Like And Jana looks exactly the same. Like And Jana looks exactly the same. Like literally exactly. It's freakishly the literally exactly. It's freakishly the literally exactly. It's freakishly the same. She might be a vampire, red-headed same. She might be a vampire, red-headed same. She might be a vampire, red-headed vampire. vampire. vampire. So, uh, and so, you know, here's your So, uh, and so, you know, here's your So, uh, and so, you know, here's your principle is that, um, women age like principle is that, um, women age like principle is that, um, women age like wine and men age like milk. And that is wine and men age like milk. And that is wine and men age like milk. And that is very, very clear. Okay. So, here's what very, very clear. Okay. So, here's what very, very clear. Okay. So, here's what we're going to do. We're going to get we're going to do. We're going to get we're going to do. We're going to get right into this and talk about, um, talk right into this and talk about, um, talk right into this and talk about, um, talk about pursuit and dating. Okay. So, here about pursuit and dating. Okay. So, here about pursuit and dating. Okay. So, here we go. Uh, here we go. Chapter 2, we go. Uh, here we go. Chapter 2, we go. Uh, here we go. Chapter 2, starting in verse 10. The woman in the starting in verse 10. The woman in the starting in verse 10. The woman in the passage again, all this book is is a a passage again, all this book is is a a passage again, all this book is is a a king and a country girl with a farmer king and a country girl with a farmer king and a country girl with a farmer stand. They fall in love, sing songs to stand. They fall in love, sing songs to stand. They fall in love, sing songs to each other. That's the whole book. each other. That's the whole book. each other. That's the whole book. Chapter 2 verse 10. What you got is the Chapter 2 verse 10. What you got is the Chapter 2 verse 10. What you got is the woman is singing and she says this. My woman is singing and she says this. My woman is singing and she says this. My beloved spoke and said to me, "Arise my beloved spoke and said to me, "Arise my beloved spoke and said to me, "Arise my darling." So this is what he says. Arise darling." So this is what he says. Arise darling." So this is what he says. Arise my darling, my beautiful one, and come my darling, my beautiful one, and come my darling, my beautiful one, and come with me. Notice this. It is the man.

with me. Notice this. It is the man. with me. Notice this. It is the man. It's the future husband. And he does It's the future husband. And he does It's the future husband. And he does this after the marriage in the book. He this after the marriage in the book. He this after the marriage in the book. He is the one that is primarily initiating is the one that is primarily initiating is the one that is primarily initiating in the relationship. So, principle in the relationship. So, principle in the relationship. So, principle number one, in a godly relationship, a number one, in a godly relationship, a number one, in a godly relationship, a husband pursues his wife. Now, I'm going husband pursues his wife. Now, I'm going husband pursues his wife. Now, I'm going to talk about ladies in a second, but to talk about ladies in a second, but to talk about ladies in a second, but principle number one, a husband pursues principle number one, a husband pursues principle number one, a husband pursues his wife. Okay? Now, when I say pursue, his wife. Okay? Now, when I say pursue, his wife. Okay? Now, when I say pursue, we we're talking about dating. It we we're talking about dating. It we we're talking about dating. It doesn't have to be like literal actual doesn't have to be like literal actual doesn't have to be like literal actual date. You just need to figure it out date. You just need to figure it out date. You just need to figure it out what works for you. But there needs to what works for you. But there needs to what works for you. But there needs to be something in your marriage where it's be something in your marriage where it's be something in your marriage where it's like, hey, I am pursuing her. We are like, hey, I am pursuing her. We are like, hey, I am pursuing her. We are spending relational time together. And spending relational time together. And spending relational time together. And I'm going to talk about what the Bible I'm going to talk about what the Bible I'm going to talk about what the Bible says that needs to look like. Now, what says that needs to look like. Now, what says that needs to look like. Now, what I have learned in just how I am as a as I have learned in just how I am as a as I have learned in just how I am as a as a guy and what I've learned talking to a guy and what I've learned talking to a guy and what I've learned talking to dudes is you can't just tell men like dudes is you can't just tell men like dudes is you can't just tell men like what to do. It's like they got to know what to do. It's like they got to know what to do. It's like they got to know why. You know, lose your wife, lose your why. You know, lose your wife, lose your why. You know, lose your wife, lose your way. So, husbands, let me help you out. way. So, husbands, let me help you out. way. So, husbands, let me help you out. I want to I want to point out four I want to I want to point out four I want to I want to point out four things that we are doing when we date things that we are doing when we date things that we are doing when we date our wives. Four things that happen when our wives. Four things that happen when our wives. Four things that happen when we date our wives. Help us establish the we date our wives. Help us establish the we date our wives. Help us establish the wives. Here we go. Number one, when a wives. Here we go. Number one, when a wives. Here we go. Number one, when a husband dates his wife, number one, you husband dates his wife, number one, you husband dates his wife, number one, you are misery proofing your wife. You're are misery proofing your wife. You're are misery proofing your wife. You're misery proofing your wife. Okay? which misery proofing your wife. Okay? which misery proofing your wife. Okay? which is kind of a big deal. Kind of a big is kind of a big deal. Kind of a big is kind of a big deal. Kind of a big deal. Now, here's what I mean. Um, well, deal. Now, here's what I mean. Um, well, deal. Now, here's what I mean. Um, well, the Bible says that a uh that a a a the Bible says that a uh that a a a the Bible says that a uh that a a a godly wife, a good wife, is like a godly wife, a good wife, is like a godly wife, a good wife, is like a well-watered garden. Husbands, if I look well-watered garden. Husbands, if I look well-watered garden. Husbands, if I look at a woman, ultimately over time, your at a woman, ultimately over time, your at a woman, ultimately over time, your wife is your resume. Ultimately, over wife is your resume. Ultimately, over wife is your resume. Ultimately, over time, your wife is your resume. So, if I time, your wife is your resume. So, if I time, your wife is your resume. So, if I look at a woman that's the longer she's look at a woman that's the longer she's look at a woman that's the longer she's married to a man, the longer she's married to a man, the longer she's married to a man, the longer she's married to him, there's a joy that married to him, there's a joy that married to him, there's a joy that grows. There's a beauty that continue to

grows. There's a beauty that continue to grows. There's a beauty that continue to grows. her confidence continues to grow. grows. her confidence continues to grow. grows. her confidence continues to grow. She's growing in godliness um that there She's growing in godliness um that there She's growing in godliness um that there there's a uh she's moving towards a there's a uh she's moving towards a there's a uh she's moving towards a calling. Okay. Well, that tells me calling. Okay. Well, that tells me calling. Okay. Well, that tells me something about that man. Now, something about that man. Now, something about that man. Now, conversely, when you see a woman who the conversely, when you see a woman who the conversely, when you see a woman who the longer she's married to a man, it's like longer she's married to a man, it's like longer she's married to a man, it's like the more beaten down she is, the more the more beaten down she is, the more the more beaten down she is, the more tired, the less joy she has as her tired, the less joy she has as her tired, the less joy she has as her confidence is eroded. That tells me confidence is eroded. That tells me confidence is eroded. That tells me something not just about her. It tells something not just about her. It tells something not just about her. It tells me something about that man. Why? me something about that man. Why? me something about that man. Why? Because the way that rel the Because the way that rel the Because the way that rel the relationship works is that over time relationship works is that over time relationship works is that over time your wife becomes your resume in general your wife becomes your resume in general your wife becomes your resume in general in some ways. Okay. Now there's a in some ways. Okay. Now there's a in some ways. Okay. Now there's a theology to this. Let me go back to week theology to this. Let me go back to week theology to this. Let me go back to week one of this series so that so that we one of this series so that so that we one of this series so that so that we understand this. So in Genesis chapter 1 understand this. So in Genesis chapter 1 understand this. So in Genesis chapter 1 and two, God creates all the things and and two, God creates all the things and and two, God creates all the things and then he creates a man that's alone. then he creates a man that's alone. then he creates a man that's alone. That's the only thing that God says is That's the only thing that God says is That's the only thing that God says is not good. A man alone. We all know this. not good. A man alone. We all know this. not good. A man alone. We all know this. You've seen college dorm rooms. So then You've seen college dorm rooms. So then You've seen college dorm rooms. So then what God does is he creates a watch this what God does is he creates a watch this what God does is he creates a watch this a helper that will be suitable for him. a helper that will be suitable for him. a helper that will be suitable for him. That's the Bible language. And then in That's the Bible language. And then in That's the Bible language. And then in Hebrew, he uses this language that he is Hebrew, he uses this language that he is Hebrew, he uses this language that he is creating. These are the Hebrew words.

creating. These are the Hebrew words. creating. These are the Hebrew words. Azer condo. Aerkto. Azer condo. Aerkto. Azer condo. Aerkto. Azair means helper. And then conto is a Azair means helper. And then conto is a Azair means helper. And then conto is a weird word that's hard hard to weird word that's hard hard to weird word that's hard hard to translate. If you go back to your King translate. If you go back to your King translate. If you go back to your King James version Bible, what you're going James version Bible, what you're going James version Bible, what you're going to notice is it it just smashes these to notice is it it just smashes these to notice is it it just smashes these two words together and it gives the he two words together and it gives the he two words together and it gives the he it gives the translation help. Bad it gives the translation help. Bad it gives the translation help. Bad translation. Nobody knows what the heck translation. Nobody knows what the heck translation. Nobody knows what the heck that means. that means. that means. >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> [snorts] >> So what what connetodo means is it means >> So what what connetodo means is it means >> So what what connetodo means is it means um it means something like uh a a um it means something like uh a a um it means something like uh a a compliment. It literally means in front compliment. It literally means in front compliment. It literally means in front of. Okay. So he created a woman in front of. Okay. So he created a woman in front of. Okay. So he created a woman in front of. Now let's go back to week one and of. Now let's go back to week one and of. Now let's go back to week one and then let's make it another application. then let's make it another application. then let's make it another application. Husbands, what this means is your Husbands, what this means is your Husbands, what this means is your marriage is going to be one of three marriage is going to be one of three marriage is going to be one of three types of marriages. And you need to know types of marriages. And you need to know types of marriages. And you need to know which type your wife feels like she's which type your wife feels like she's which type your wife feels like she's in. Not you, your wife feels like she's in. Not you, your wife feels like she's in. Not you, your wife feels like she's in. Okay. Three types of marriages. Back in. Okay. Three types of marriages. Back in. Okay. Three types of marriages. Back to back, side to side. Wait, how did I to back, side to side. Wait, how did I to back, side to side. Wait, how did I do that? Back to backs. Let me do it. do that? Back to backs. Let me do it. do that? Back to backs. Let me do it. Back to back, side to side, face to Back to back, side to side, face to Back to back, side to side, face to face. Back to back, side to side, face face. Back to back, side to side, face face. Back to back, side to side, face to face. In a backto-back marriage, this to face. In a backto-back marriage, this to face. In a backto-back marriage, this is when she gets in bed and she faces is when she gets in bed and she faces is when she gets in bed and she faces that way. He gets in bed and he faces that way. He gets in bed and he faces that way. He gets in bed and he faces that way. And never the twain shall that way. And never the twain shall that way. And never the twain shall meet. In fact, there's actually a little meet. In fact, there's actually a little meet. In fact, there's actually a little conflict, a little electricity, a little conflict, a little electricity, a little conflict, a little electricity, a little tension in the home. And this is where tension in the home. And this is where tension in the home. And this is where primarily because of unforgiveness, sin, primarily because of unforgiveness, sin, primarily because of unforgiveness, sin, and bitterness that what's happened is and bitterness that what's happened is and bitterness that what's happened is instead of husband and wife, it's become instead of husband and wife, it's become instead of husband and wife, it's become man versus wife. And they feel like man versus wife. And they feel like man versus wife. And they feel like enemies. Now, some people, they're not enemies. Now, some people, they're not enemies. Now, some people, they're not in a in a back backtoback marriage.

in a in a back backtoback marriage. in a in a back backtoback marriage. They're in a side to side marriage. And They're in a side to side marriage. And They're in a side to side marriage. And this is where the marriage it feels like this is where the marriage it feels like this is where the marriage it feels like it feels like two relationally sterile it feels like two relationally sterile it feels like two relationally sterile co-workers. It's like he's moving this co-workers. It's like he's moving this co-workers. It's like he's moving this way and she's moving this way. We work way and she's moving this way. We work way and she's moving this way. We work on projects. We're getting stuff done, on projects. We're getting stuff done, on projects. We're getting stuff done, chores. I'm in a a season of life where chores. I'm in a a season of life where chores. I'm in a a season of life where I'm like a professional chauffeur for my I'm like a professional chauffeur for my I'm like a professional chauffeur for my kids like 70% of the time. You're in kids like 70% of the time. You're in kids like 70% of the time. You're in that season of life, okay? But there's that season of life, okay? But there's that season of life, okay? But there's no time for intimacy emotionally, no time for intimacy emotionally, no time for intimacy emotionally, physically, relationally. And so it just physically, relationally. And so it just physically, relationally. And so it just feels like co-workers. We're just feels like co-workers. We're just feels like co-workers. We're just getting stuff done. Okay? But then getting stuff done. Okay? But then getting stuff done. Okay? But then whenever God creates the marriage, watch whenever God creates the marriage, watch whenever God creates the marriage, watch this. He creates a helper that's face to this. He creates a helper that's face to this. He creates a helper that's face to face that's in front of Adam. So what we face that's in front of Adam. So what we face that's in front of Adam. So what we want is a marriage that's face to face. want is a marriage that's face to face. want is a marriage that's face to face. Okay? Now, intimacy, it it's marked by Okay? Now, intimacy, it it's marked by Okay? Now, intimacy, it it's marked by intimacy. Intimacy just means into me intimacy. Intimacy just means into me intimacy. Intimacy just means into me see. In fact, watch this definition of see. In fact, watch this definition of see. In fact, watch this definition of the relational nature of a godly the relational nature of a godly the relational nature of a godly marriage. In Song of Solomon 5:16, it marriage. In Song of Solomon 5:16, it marriage. In Song of Solomon 5:16, it says this, "His kisses are sweet. I says this, "His kisses are sweet. I says this, "His kisses are sweet. I desire him so much, young women of desire him so much, young women of desire him so much, young women of Jerusalem," watch this. He is my lover Jerusalem," watch this. He is my lover Jerusalem," watch this. He is my lover and he is my friend.

and he is my friend. and he is my friend. A lover and a friend. These two things, A lover and a friend. These two things, A lover and a friend. These two things, it's a face-to-face marriage. We're it's a face-to-face marriage. We're it's a face-to-face marriage. We're seeing into each other's souls. We're seeing into each other's souls. We're seeing into each other's souls. We're spending time with each other. We're spending time with each other. We're spending time with each other. We're enjoying physical, relational, emotional enjoying physical, relational, emotional enjoying physical, relational, emotional intimacy. This is a face-to-face intimacy. This is a face-to-face intimacy. This is a face-to-face marriage. So, he is my lover. He is my marriage. So, he is my lover. He is my marriage. So, he is my lover. He is my friend. The Bible literally says that a friend. The Bible literally says that a friend. The Bible literally says that a great marriage is friends with benefits. great marriage is friends with benefits. great marriage is friends with benefits. That's what you have right here. That's That's what you have right here. That's That's what you have right here. That's number one. Okay. Number two, husbands. number one. Okay. Number two, husbands. number one. Okay. Number two, husbands. Now, I need everybody to make sure you Now, I need everybody to make sure you Now, I need everybody to make sure you do not misinterpret what I'm about to do not misinterpret what I'm about to do not misinterpret what I'm about to say. So, I'm going to talk about what say. So, I'm going to talk about what say. So, I'm going to talk about what this does not mean. Husbands, what we're this does not mean. Husbands, what we're this does not mean. Husbands, what we're also trying to do is a fair proof your also trying to do is a fair proof your also trying to do is a fair proof your marriage. Now, here's my disclaimer. You marriage. Now, here's my disclaimer. You marriage. Now, here's my disclaimer. You are never responsible for somebody are never responsible for somebody are never responsible for somebody else's sin. Their sin is their fault. So else's sin. Their sin is their fault. So else's sin. Their sin is their fault. So if your spouse has cheated on you, does if your spouse has cheated on you, does if your spouse has cheated on you, does not matter what you did. Their decision not matter what you did. Their decision not matter what you did. Their decision was their sin and not your fault. was their sin and not your fault. was their sin and not your fault. Understood? Now listen to me. God will Understood? Now listen to me. God will Understood? Now listen to me. God will judge them for that. Hold them judge them for that. Hold them judge them for that. Hold them responsible for their thing. He's going responsible for their thing. He's going responsible for their thing. He's going to hold you responsible for your things. to hold you responsible for your things. to hold you responsible for your things. Now that being said, what I'm talking Now that being said, what I'm talking Now that being said, what I'm talking about here is the dynamic. It's speaking about here is the dynamic. It's speaking about here is the dynamic. It's speaking to our desire to remove any opportunity to our desire to remove any opportunity to our desire to remove any opportunity for Satan to get a foothold in our for Satan to get a foothold in our for Satan to get a foothold in our marriages as far as it depends on us.

marriages as far as it depends on us. marriages as far as it depends on us. Okay? [snorts] So, here's what I mean. Okay? [snorts] So, here's what I mean. Okay? [snorts] So, here's what I mean. Husbands, just in a straightforward way, Husbands, just in a straightforward way, Husbands, just in a straightforward way, date your wife before somebody else date your wife before somebody else date your wife before somebody else tries to. If you dated her to get tries to. If you dated her to get tries to. If you dated her to get married to her, date her to stay married married to her, date her to stay married married to her, date her to stay married to her. This is what we do. Now, I I'll to her. This is what we do. Now, I I'll to her. This is what we do. Now, I I'll just I'll give an example. I I got a just I'll give an example. I I got a just I'll give an example. I I got a bunch of of areas in my life where bunch of of areas in my life where bunch of of areas in my life where honestly, man, I I'm just as in need of honestly, man, I I'm just as in need of honestly, man, I I'm just as in need of the grace of Jesus as you. Like, man, the grace of Jesus as you. Like, man, the grace of Jesus as you. Like, man, I'm failing forward in a million things I'm failing forward in a million things I'm failing forward in a million things and that kind of thing. I got areas and that kind of thing. I got areas and that kind of thing. I got areas where I I need to grow, but man, by the where I I need to grow, but man, by the where I I need to grow, but man, by the by the grace of God, like the the maybe by the grace of God, like the the maybe by the grace of God, like the the maybe one area of my life that's like, man, I one area of my life that's like, man, I one area of my life that's like, man, I I I got a really good marriage. And I I I I got a really good marriage. And I I I I got a really good marriage. And I I can just tell you like I treat Jana as can just tell you like I treat Jana as can just tell you like I treat Jana as precious because I have figured out precious because I have figured out precious because I have figured out really quick this woman is precious. really quick this woman is precious. really quick this woman is precious. Okay. Okay. >> [snorts] >> Now, because of the way I treat Jana, if >> Now, because of the way I treat Jana, if >> Now, because of the way I treat Jana, if any man ever tried to come up in in in any man ever tried to come up in in in any man ever tried to come up in in in Jana's vicinity and like try to romance Jana's vicinity and like try to romance Jana's vicinity and like try to romance Janice Sweeper off her feet, two things Janice Sweeper off her feet, two things Janice Sweeper off her feet, two things would happen. Number one, I'd be doing would happen. Number one, I'd be doing would happen. Number one, I'd be doing prison ministry from the inside. That's prison ministry from the inside. That's prison ministry from the inside. That's number one. Like, listen, number one. Like, listen, number one. Like, listen, [clears throat] we uh we got more than [clears throat] we uh we got more than [clears throat] we uh we got more than Bibles at the Howard House. I'll just Bibles at the Howard House. I'll just Bibles at the Howard House. I'll just let me just say, welcome to Texas. Okay, let me just say, welcome to Texas. Okay, let me just say, welcome to Texas. Okay, that's [clears throat] number one.

that's [clears throat] number one. that's [clears throat] number one. Number one, okay? All the dudes sitting Number one, okay? All the dudes sitting Number one, okay? All the dudes sitting on the ends of the rows like, "Amen. on the ends of the rows like, "Amen. on the ends of the rows like, "Amen. Amen. That's what they're doing." Okay, Amen. That's what they're doing." Okay, Amen. That's what they're doing." Okay, that's number one. Okay, number two. that's number one. Okay, number two. that's number one. Okay, number two. Listen, I number two, I can say with Listen, I number two, I can say with Listen, I number two, I can say with complete integrity with my wife sitting complete integrity with my wife sitting complete integrity with my wife sitting in the services, I can say this complete in the services, I can say this complete in the services, I can say this complete integrity. It doesn't matter how any man integrity. It doesn't matter how any man integrity. It doesn't matter how any man would ever try to sweep Jan off her would ever try to sweep Jan off her would ever try to sweep Jan off her feet, no one will ever treat her better feet, no one will ever treat her better feet, no one will ever treat her better than me. So, you see this? What here's than me. So, you see this? What here's than me. So, you see this? What here's what I'm saying? What here's what I'm what I'm saying? What here's what I'm what I'm saying? What here's what I'm saying? I'm that's not fishing for saying? I'm that's not fishing for saying? I'm that's not fishing for applause. That's not what I'm saying is applause. That's not what I'm saying is applause. That's not what I'm saying is that's our goal, husbands, is we want to that's our goal, husbands, is we want to that's our goal, husbands, is we want to treat our wives in such a way that it's treat our wives in such a way that it's treat our wives in such a way that it's like, man, I'm guarding this thing. I'm like, man, I'm guarding this thing. I'm like, man, I'm guarding this thing. I'm treating her as precious. All right. So, treating her as precious. All right. So, treating her as precious. All right. So, here here's what happens to some foolish here here's what happens to some foolish here here's what happens to some foolish men. What foolish men do, you see the men. What foolish men do, you see the men. What foolish men do, you see the same story on repeat is they get married same story on repeat is they get married same story on repeat is they get married and they're giving her lots of attention and they're giving her lots of attention and they're giving her lots of attention and then they get get a little older and and then they get get a little older and and then they get get a little older and and they just get a little crusty. They and they just get a little crusty. They and they just get a little crusty. They stop doing the pursuit thing. Not stop doing the pursuit thing. Not stop doing the pursuit thing. Not there's no into me in the relationship there's no into me in the relationship there's no into me in the relationship anymore physically, emotionally, anymore physically, emotionally, anymore physically, emotionally, spiritually. There's nothing there. And spiritually. There's nothing there. And spiritually. There's nothing there. And then all of a sudden, because of that, then all of a sudden, because of that, then all of a sudden, because of that, because you're not putting in, then you because you're not putting in, then you because you're not putting in, then you know other things aren't happening.

know other things aren't happening. know other things aren't happening. Well, then all of a sudden what happens Well, then all of a sudden what happens Well, then all of a sudden what happens is because of the nature of the is because of the nature of the is because of the nature of the relationship, he starts getting bored or relationship, he starts getting bored or relationship, he starts getting bored or she starts getting bored. Start peeking she starts getting bored. Start peeking she starts getting bored. Start peeking over the fence. And then it's like, "Oh, over the fence. And then it's like, "Oh, over the fence. And then it's like, "Oh, okay. I'm I'm going to look for a a new okay. I'm I'm going to look for a a new okay. I'm I'm going to look for a a new model or what whatever it is." Hey, can model or what whatever it is." Hey, can model or what whatever it is." Hey, can I just say this? Listen to me. Hey, the I just say this? Listen to me. Hey, the I just say this? Listen to me. Hey, the grass isn't greener on the other side of grass isn't greener on the other side of grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. The grass is greener where the fence. The grass is greener where the fence. The grass is greener where you water it. Okay, so this is it. you water it. Okay, so this is it. you water it. Okay, so this is it. That's number two. That's number two. That's number two. That's number two. That's number two. That's number two. Now, check this out. Number three. Now, Now, check this out. Number three. Now, Now, check this out. Number three. Now, before that, don't put it on the screen before that, don't put it on the screen before that, don't put it on the screen yet. This next one has a bit of an edge yet. This next one has a bit of an edge yet. This next one has a bit of an edge to it. to it. to it. It has a bit of an edge to it on It has a bit of an edge to it on It has a bit of an edge to it on purpose. I want the gravity of this to purpose. I want the gravity of this to purpose. I want the gravity of this to fall on especially my fellow fathers, fall on especially my fellow fathers, fall on especially my fellow fathers, husbands and fathers in the house. husbands and fathers in the house. husbands and fathers in the house. Number three, husbands, when you date Number three, husbands, when you date Number three, husbands, when you date your wife, the third thing that happens your wife, the third thing that happens your wife, the third thing that happens is you lose your daughter. You're is you lose your daughter. You're is you lose your daughter. You're losering your daughter. This is losering your daughter. This is losering your daughter. This is something you may not be thinking of. something you may not be thinking of. something you may not be thinking of. There's like four people who think There's like four people who think There's like four people who think that's a good idea. Okay, that's great. that's a good idea. Okay, that's great. that's a good idea. Okay, that's great. This is something you may not be This is something you may not be This is something you may not be thinking of. So, husbands, here's what thinking of. So, husbands, here's what thinking of. So, husbands, here's what you need to know. in the way that you you need to know. in the way that you you need to know. in the way that you treat your wife and in the way that you treat your wife and in the way that you treat your wife and in the way that you love your wife. Again, Ephesians 5, how love your wife. Again, Ephesians 5, how love your wife. Again, Ephesians 5, how are we supposed to love her? We're are we supposed to love her? We're are we supposed to love her? We're supposed to love her as Christ loved the supposed to love her as Christ loved the supposed to love her as Christ loved the church and laid himself down for her, church and laid himself down for her, church and laid himself down for her, washing her with water by the washing of washing her with water by the washing of washing her with water by the washing of the of the word. Ephesians chapter 5. In the of the word. Ephesians chapter 5. In the of the word. Ephesians chapter 5. In the way, husbands, fathers, that we the way, husbands, fathers, that we the way, husbands, fathers, that we treat our wives, we are setting a treat our wives, we are setting a treat our wives, we are setting a standard for our sons about how a man standard for our sons about how a man standard for our sons about how a man should treat a woman. And we are, should treat a woman. And we are, should treat a woman. And we are, listen, the gravity of this ought to listen, the gravity of this ought to listen, the gravity of this ought to fall on you if you're a dad. We are fall on you if you're a dad. We are fall on you if you're a dad. We are setting a standard of expectations for setting a standard of expectations for setting a standard of expectations for our daughter about how they should our daughter about how they should our daughter about how they should expect men to treat them. [snorts] And

expect men to treat them. [snorts] And expect men to treat them. [snorts] And if you listen, if you treat your if you listen, if you treat your if you listen, if you treat your daughter poorly or sorry, if you treat daughter poorly or sorry, if you treat daughter poorly or sorry, if you treat your wife poorly, if you ignore her, if your wife poorly, if you ignore her, if your wife poorly, if you ignore her, if you run her down at home, if you lose you run her down at home, if you lose you run her down at home, if you lose your temper on her, if there is no your temper on her, if there is no your temper on her, if there is no intimacy, what you are doing is giving intimacy, what you are doing is giving intimacy, what you are doing is giving permission to every man that comes into permission to every man that comes into permission to every man that comes into her orbit for the rest of her life to her orbit for the rest of her life to her orbit for the rest of her life to treat her like that and her be okay with treat her like that and her be okay with treat her like that and her be okay with it. So listen, I'll just like this is it. So listen, I'll just like this is it. So listen, I'll just like this is like one of my proudest dad moments in like one of my proudest dad moments in like one of my proudest dad moments in history. Two two of my daughters are history. Two two of my daughters are history. Two two of my daughters are like at [snorts] kind of that age where like at [snorts] kind of that age where like at [snorts] kind of that age where like little school crushes. They start like little school crushes. They start like little school crushes. They start talking about little school crushes that talking about little school crushes that talking about little school crushes that are all the things that are going on in are all the things that are going on in are all the things that are going on in their class. I'm like super not about their class. I'm like super not about their class. I'm like super not about it, but that that's what they're talking it, but that that's what they're talking it, but that that's what they're talking about. And so uh it was like there was about. And so uh it was like there was about. And so uh it was like there was one time one of my daughters came home one time one of my daughters came home one time one of my daughters came home and I'm driving them home from school and I'm driving them home from school and I'm driving them home from school and I'm always like, "Hey, how's the and I'm always like, "Hey, how's the and I'm always like, "Hey, how's the day? Let's talk about everything." and day? Let's talk about everything." and day? Let's talk about everything." and uh and she tells me about a guy in the uh and she tells me about a guy in the uh and she tells me about a guy in the class that she heard or somebody said class that she heard or somebody said class that she heard or somebody said that that he had a crush on her and I that that he had a crush on her and I that that he had a crush on her and I was like what's his address, you know? was like what's his address, you know? was like what's his address, you know? So kind but then the but then So kind but then the but then So kind but then the but then [clears throat] the the eventually I I [clears throat] the the eventually I I [clears throat] the the eventually I I just asked I'm like hey so like we we just asked I'm like hey so like we we just asked I'm like hey so like we we have a very try to keep the the have a very try to keep the the have a very try to keep the the communication super open. That's what communication super open. That's what communication super open. That's what we're going for. So I was like hey um so we're going for. So I was like hey um so we're going for. So I was like hey um so shoot me straight. Do you have a crush shoot me straight. Do you have a crush shoot me straight. Do you have a crush on him? Here's her response. Proudest on him? Here's her response. Proudest on him? Here's her response. Proudest dad moment ever. He said, "Oh, no, Dad.

dad moment ever. He said, "Oh, no, Dad. dad moment ever. He said, "Oh, no, Dad. He doesn't even hold the door open for He doesn't even hold the door open for He doesn't even hold the door open for me." I was like, "Yeah, let's go, me." I was like, "Yeah, let's go, me." I was like, "Yeah, let's go, [screaming] baby. Let's go." You know, [screaming] baby. Let's go." You know, [screaming] baby. Let's go." You know, I'm like, "Yeah." Now, listen. The I'm like, "Yeah." Now, listen. The I'm like, "Yeah." Now, listen. The reason she said that is because she has reason she said that is because she has reason she said that is because she has watched me for years. That's what dad watched me for years. That's what dad watched me for years. That's what dad does for mom. So, that's what a guy is does for mom. So, that's what a guy is does for mom. So, that's what a guy is supposed to do for a girl. See, hey supposed to do for a girl. See, hey supposed to do for a girl. See, hey dads, when we treat our wives like the dads, when we treat our wives like the dads, when we treat our wives like the the book of Proverbs says that a noble the book of Proverbs says that a noble the book of Proverbs says that a noble wife is more precious than rubies. When wife is more precious than rubies. When wife is more precious than rubies. When we treat our wife with nobility, honor, we treat our wife with nobility, honor, we treat our wife with nobility, honor, character, integrity, love, intimacy, character, integrity, love, intimacy, character, integrity, love, intimacy, what we're doing, again, you're loser what we're doing, again, you're loser what we're doing, again, you're loser proofing your daughter because he's proofing your daughter because he's proofing your daughter because he's going to come up near her at some point. going to come up near her at some point. going to come up near her at some point. That's going to happen to every single That's going to happen to every single That's going to happen to every single one of our daughters. one of our daughters. one of our daughters. And when he gets in her vicinity, if you And when he gets in her vicinity, if you And when he gets in her vicinity, if you have set the right example and standard, have set the right example and standard, have set the right example and standard, she's going to be like, "Oo, gross. No, she's going to be like, "Oo, gross. No, she's going to be like, "Oo, gross. No, no, no, not for me." Okay, so this is no, no, not for me." Okay, so this is no, no, not for me." Okay, so this is what we're going for. This is what we're what we're going for. This is what we're what we're going for. This is what we're going for. Okay. Now, number number going for. Okay. Now, number number going for. Okay. Now, number number four, last one. When you date your when four, last one. When you date your when four, last one. When you date your when we date our wives, husbands, we are we date our wives, husbands, we are we date our wives, husbands, we are god-proofing our prayers. I'm going to god-proofing our prayers. I'm going to god-proofing our prayers. I'm going to read a passage from 1 Peter 3 that when read a passage from 1 Peter 3 that when read a passage from 1 Peter 3 that when you read it, it doesn't make sense and you read it, it doesn't make sense and you read it, it doesn't make sense and I'm going help it make sense. It says, I'm going help it make sense. It says, I'm going help it make sense. It says, "Likewise, husbands, live with your "Likewise, husbands, live with your "Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way." Now, wives in an understanding way." Now, wives in an understanding way." Now, some of your Bibles are going to say, some of your Bibles are going to say, some of your Bibles are going to say, "According to understanding." Here's all "According to understanding." Here's all "According to understanding." Here's all this means. It means husbands, the Bible this means. It means husbands, the Bible this means. It means husbands, the Bible is specifically commanding us to study is specifically commanding us to study is specifically commanding us to study the souls of our wives. So, like our my the souls of our wives. So, like our my the souls of our wives. So, like our my job is to get a PhD in the soul of Janet job is to get a PhD in the soul of Janet job is to get a PhD in the soul of Janet Howton. I am supposed to make sure I Howton. I am supposed to make sure I Howton. I am supposed to make sure I don't got a GED in the soul of Jan don't got a GED in the soul of Jan don't got a GED in the soul of Jan Howton. So, like I'll just tell you like Howton. So, like I'll just tell you like Howton. So, like I'll just tell you like I here's what I've learned. Like over I here's what I've learned. Like over I here's what I've learned. Like over the years it listen bro I'm in it with

the years it listen bro I'm in it with the years it listen bro I'm in it with you. Like I just want to point out you. Like I just want to point out you. Like I just want to point out there's probably a reason the Bible was there's probably a reason the Bible was there's probably a reason the Bible was like you're going to have to study like you're going to have to study like you're going to have to study really hard when it said that to the really hard when it said that to the really hard when it said that to the husband to the wife and it never said husband to the wife and it never said husband to the wife and it never said that to the wife to the husband. Okay? that to the wife to the husband. Okay? that to the wife to the husband. Okay? There's probably a reason for that. We There's probably a reason for that. We There's probably a reason for that. We are simple simple creatures ladies. are simple simple creatures ladies. are simple simple creatures ladies. Simple creatures. Okay. But over the Simple creatures. Okay. But over the Simple creatures. Okay. But over the years, what I've learned about Jana is I years, what I've learned about Jana is I years, what I've learned about Jana is I I've learned some things. Like I I've I've learned some things. Like I I've I've learned some things. Like I I've learned I've learned the words that learned I've learned the words that learned I've learned the words that strike Jana's heart in a way that other strike Jana's heart in a way that other strike Jana's heart in a way that other words don't. It's like I can say I words don't. It's like I can say I words don't. It's like I can say I shower Jana with I love you. I love you. shower Jana with I love you. I love you. shower Jana with I love you. I love you. I love you. But I've learned Jana's I love you. But I've learned Jana's I love you. But I've learned Jana's wired in such a way there are other wired in such a way there are other wired in such a way there are other things that I can say that actually mean things that I can say that actually mean things that I can say that actually mean more to her than just I love you. Like more to her than just I love you. Like more to her than just I love you. Like I've learned for Jana, Jana's got a work I've learned for Jana, Jana's got a work I've learned for Jana, Jana's got a work ethic like through the roof. Like insane ethic like through the roof. Like insane ethic like through the roof. Like insane work ethic. I've learned if I say to work ethic. I've learned if I say to work ethic. I've learned if I say to Jana, "Hey babe, I I noticed something Jana, "Hey babe, I I noticed something Jana, "Hey babe, I I noticed something she did." And I say, "Hey babe, thank she did." And I say, "Hey babe, thank she did." And I say, "Hey babe, thank you for working so hard for our family. you for working so hard for our family. you for working so hard for our family. It just does something for a man." Or, It just does something for a man." Or, It just does something for a man." Or, "Hey, heads up. Uh, dads, "Hey, heads up. Uh, dads, "Hey, heads up. Uh, dads, there is no such thing as a mom who there is no such thing as a mom who there is no such thing as a mom who doesn't almost always feel like she's doesn't almost always feel like she's doesn't almost always feel like she's failing or could be doing better."

failing or could be doing better." failing or could be doing better." Almost no such thing. So, what I've Almost no such thing. So, what I've Almost no such thing. So, what I've noticed for Janice is if I'm like I noticed for Janice is if I'm like I noticed for Janice is if I'm like I notice something specific and I'm like, notice something specific and I'm like, notice something specific and I'm like, "Babe, "Babe, "Babe, our kids are so blessed to have you as a our kids are so blessed to have you as a our kids are so blessed to have you as a mother or something like, man, I'm so mother or something like, man, I'm so mother or something like, man, I'm so glad I married you." Okay, here's here's glad I married you." Okay, here's here's glad I married you." Okay, here's here's my point is you study the soul of your my point is you study the soul of your my point is you study the soul of your wife. This is what it's saying. P PhD, wife. This is what it's saying. P PhD, wife. This is what it's saying. P PhD, not GED. Now, here, watch what happens. not GED. Now, here, watch what happens. not GED. Now, here, watch what happens. It says, "Showing honor to the woman is It says, "Showing honor to the woman is It says, "Showing honor to the woman is the weaker vessel." That's not an the weaker vessel." That's not an the weaker vessel." That's not an insult. That is a biological reality. If insult. That is a biological reality. If insult. That is a biological reality. If we lined all of you up and did an arm we lined all of you up and did an arm we lined all of you up and did an arm wrestling comp competition, I dearly wrestling comp competition, I dearly wrestling comp competition, I dearly hope you would beat your wife in an arm hope you would beat your wife in an arm hope you would beat your wife in an arm arm wrestling competition. That's all arm wrestling competition. That's all arm wrestling competition. That's all that means. And then watch what it says. that means. And then watch what it says. that means. And then watch what it says. What it says, okay, so why do we live What it says, okay, so why do we live What it says, okay, so why do we live with them in an understanding way, with them in an understanding way, with them in an understanding way, showing honor to them? Why do we do showing honor to them? Why do we do showing honor to them? Why do we do that? Listen. So that your prayers may that? Listen. So that your prayers may that? Listen. So that your prayers may not be hindered. Now, you may be going, not be hindered. Now, you may be going, not be hindered. Now, you may be going, "Huh? God, what God is saying is he's "Huh? God, what God is saying is he's "Huh? God, what God is saying is he's saying, the way some of you are treating saying, the way some of you are treating saying, the way some of you are treating your wives is causing me I'm not your wives is causing me I'm not your wives is causing me I'm not listening to any of your prayers." Now, listening to any of your prayers." Now, listening to any of your prayers." Now, now here's the reason for this. Think now here's the reason for this. Think now here's the reason for this. Think about this this logic. [clears throat] about this this logic. [clears throat] about this this logic. [clears throat] When God entrusted you with your wife, When God entrusted you with your wife, When God entrusted you with your wife, he entrusted you with one of his he entrusted you with one of his he entrusted you with one of his daughters. If somebody comes to me in daughters. If somebody comes to me in daughters. If somebody comes to me in the lobby and they're like, "Oh, Pastor the lobby and they're like, "Oh, Pastor the lobby and they're like, "Oh, Pastor Josh, I love you. Your ministry has Josh, I love you. Your ministry has Josh, I love you. Your ministry has blessed me so much. I just or maybe they blessed me so much. I just or maybe they blessed me so much. I just or maybe they want something from me like, man, could want something from me like, man, could want something from me like, man, could you send me a resource on? I would love you send me a resource on? I would love you send me a resource on? I would love to know what you think about whatever it to know what you think about whatever it to know what you think about whatever it is." If they say that to me, but then is." If they say that to me, but then is." If they say that to me, but then they hate or they are actively harming they hate or they are actively harming they hate or they are actively harming my daughter. Listen, if you love me, but my daughter. Listen, if you love me, but my daughter. Listen, if you love me, but you cuss her, I punch you. That's how you cuss her, I punch you. That's how you cuss her, I punch you. That's how that triangle works right there. Okay?

that triangle works right there. Okay? that triangle works right there. Okay? Does that make sense? I'm sounding very Does that make sense? I'm sounding very Does that make sense? I'm sounding very violent in this sermon, but these are violent in this sermon, but these are violent in this sermon, but these are jokes. Great joke. [clears throat] jokes. Great joke. [clears throat] jokes. Great joke. [clears throat] What God is saying, hey, hey, husbands, What God is saying, hey, hey, husbands, What God is saying, hey, hey, husbands, some of you right now, because of the some of you right now, because of the some of you right now, because of the way that you speak to your wives, way that you speak to your wives, way that you speak to your wives, the way that you are not faithful to the way that you are not faithful to the way that you are not faithful to your wife, the way that you lose your your wife, the way that you lose your your wife, the way that you lose your temper on her and create a situation temper on her and create a situation temper on her and create a situation where she is scared. God forbid you lay where she is scared. God forbid you lay where she is scared. God forbid you lay a hand on your wife. a hand on your wife. a hand on your wife. God is saying, "The way some of you are God is saying, "The way some of you are God is saying, "The way some of you are treating your wives, I won't listen to a treating your wives, I won't listen to a treating your wives, I won't listen to a single one of your prayers." Because single one of your prayers." Because single one of your prayers." Because there's only one conversation I'm there's only one conversation I'm there's only one conversation I'm interested in having with you, fix the interested in having with you, fix the interested in having with you, fix the way you're treating my daughter. See, way you're treating my daughter. See, way you're treating my daughter. See, when we honor our wives, what we're when we honor our wives, what we're when we honor our wives, what we're doing, the person you don't want to be doing, the person you don't want to be doing, the person you don't want to be against your prayers is God. Okay? So, against your prayers is God. Okay? So, against your prayers is God. Okay? So, we're God proofing our prayers. Now, let we're God proofing our prayers. Now, let we're God proofing our prayers. Now, let me get real practical. Emotional gear me get real practical. Emotional gear me get real practical. Emotional gear shift. Let me get real practical. shift. Let me get real practical. shift. Let me get real practical. Husbands, notice throughout Song of Husbands, notice throughout Song of Husbands, notice throughout Song of Solomon, I've already talked in chapter Solomon, I've already talked in chapter Solomon, I've already talked in chapter 1 and two. Yes, in the marriage she is 1 and two. Yes, in the marriage she is 1 and two. Yes, in the marriage she is the one who is very frequently the the one who is very frequently the the one who is very frequently the sexual initiator. Be aggressive, be sexual initiator. Be aggressive, be sexual initiator. Be aggressive, be aggressive, all the things. But what aggressive, all the things. But what aggressive, all the things. But what you're seeing right here is that in you're seeing right here is that in you're seeing right here is that in general, the initiating, the pursuing general, the initiating, the pursuing general, the initiating, the pursuing energy is primarily coming from the man energy is primarily coming from the man energy is primarily coming from the man and the husband. Okay, so husbands, and the husband. Okay, so husbands, and the husband. Okay, so husbands, let's start right here. Throughout this let's start right here. Throughout this let's start right here. Throughout this uh series already, the question is like, uh series already, the question is like, uh series already, the question is like, okay, I'm hearing that as a husband, I'm okay, I'm hearing that as a husband, I'm okay, I'm hearing that as a husband, I'm supposed to lead my wife and family. How supposed to lead my wife and family. How supposed to lead my wife and family. How do I do it? That's the question. Or do I do it? That's the question. Or do I do it? That's the question. Or you'll hear from wives, my husband's not you'll hear from wives, my husband's not you'll hear from wives, my husband's not leading. What should I be doing? I got a leading. What should I be doing? I got a leading. What should I be doing? I got a lot of thoughts. I I'll give you one, lot of thoughts. I I'll give you one, lot of thoughts. I I'll give you one, husband. This is actually really easy, husband. This is actually really easy, husband. This is actually really easy, man. That it's not a million Bible man. That it's not a million Bible man. That it's not a million Bible studies at home. That's not what I'm studies at home. That's not what I'm studies at home. That's not what I'm talking about. Just start here. Lead

talking about. Just start here. Lead talking about. Just start here. Lead with lets. That's it. Lead with let's. with lets. That's it. Lead with let's. with lets. That's it. Lead with let's. So, you be the one who says, "Let's go So, you be the one who says, "Let's go So, you be the one who says, "Let's go to church together this weekend." You be to church together this weekend." You be to church together this weekend." You be the one that before meal, let's give the one that before meal, let's give the one that before meal, let's give thanks. Two seconds. Real quick prayer. thanks. Two seconds. Real quick prayer. thanks. Two seconds. Real quick prayer. You be the one that before your wife You be the one that before your wife You be the one that before your wife goes to do something hard, work, home, goes to do something hard, work, home, goes to do something hard, work, home, friends, whatever, you be the one that friends, whatever, you be the one that friends, whatever, you be the one that says, "Hey, let's pray together real says, "Hey, let's pray together real says, "Hey, let's pray together real quick. I want to bless you." And then quick. I want to bless you." And then quick. I want to bless you." And then here's what this is. You be the one that here's what this is. You be the one that here's what this is. You be the one that initiates and goes, "Hey, let's figure initiates and goes, "Hey, let's figure initiates and goes, "Hey, let's figure out a way to spend some relational, out a way to spend some relational, out a way to spend some relational, emotional time, relational time emotional time, relational time emotional time, relational time together. Let's figure out the date together. Let's figure out the date together. Let's figure out the date thing. Lead with less." Now, husbands, thing. Lead with less." Now, husbands, thing. Lead with less." Now, husbands, here's what going to happen. You've had here's what going to happen. You've had here's what going to happen. You've had this happen. You're going to get in the this happen. You're going to get in the this happen. You're going to get in the car to go on a date and your door's car to go on a date and your door's car to go on a date and your door's going to close. And then I need you to going to close. And then I need you to going to close. And then I need you to help me finish this phrase. And this is help me finish this phrase. And this is help me finish this phrase. And this is group therapy. You're going to get in group therapy. You're going to get in group therapy. You're going to get in the car. Door's going to close. And then the car. Door's going to close. And then the car. Door's going to close. And then you're going to look at her and say, you're going to look at her and say, you're going to look at her and say, "Where do you want to eat?" And she's "Where do you want to eat?" And she's "Where do you want to eat?" And she's going to say, "What?" She's going to going to say, "What?" She's going to going to say, "What?" She's going to say, "I don't know. I don't know." say, "I don't know. I don't know." say, "I don't know. I don't know." That's what she's going to say. Now, That's what she's going to say. Now, That's what she's going to say. Now, first of all, there's a theology behind first of all, there's a theology behind first of all, there's a theology behind this. If you go back to Genesis chapter this. If you go back to Genesis chapter this. If you go back to Genesis chapter 2, there's a Bible reason. Think about 2, there's a Bible reason. Think about 2, there's a Bible reason. Think about Eve with the apple. The reason that Eve with the apple. The reason that Eve with the apple. The reason that sometimes women can struggle to choose sometimes women can struggle to choose sometimes women can struggle to choose where they're going to eat is because where they're going to eat is because where they're going to eat is because the first time they chose what to eat, the first time they chose what to eat, the first time they chose what to eat, they doomed all of humanity. Okay, they doomed all of humanity. Okay, they doomed all of humanity. Okay, that's it. That's That's number one.

that's it. That's That's number one. that's it. That's That's number one. Number one. Okay. So, husband, I'm gonna Number one. Okay. So, husband, I'm gonna Number one. Okay. So, husband, I'm gonna give you a little trick. Ladies, I need give you a little trick. Ladies, I need give you a little trick. Ladies, I need you all to close your ears. Close your you all to close your ears. Close your you all to close your ears. Close your ears. Close your ear. You're not allowed ears. Close your ear. You're not allowed ears. Close your ear. You're not allowed to listen for the next five seconds. to listen for the next five seconds. to listen for the next five seconds. Husbands, here's your trick. You get in Husbands, here's your trick. You get in Husbands, here's your trick. You get in the car and then you say, "Babe, I have the car and then you say, "Babe, I have the car and then you say, "Babe, I have picked a place for us to go that you've picked a place for us to go that you've picked a place for us to go that you've been dying to go for the last few weeks. been dying to go for the last few weeks. been dying to go for the last few weeks. Guess where it is." First place she Guess where it is." First place she Guess where it is." First place she guesses, take her there. You're welcome. guesses, take her there. You're welcome. guesses, take her there. You're welcome. You're welcome. That's it, man. You're You're welcome. That's it, man. You're You're welcome. That's it, man. You're welcome. Okay. Now, what you need to do welcome. Okay. Now, what you need to do welcome. Okay. Now, what you need to do is again again what you got here is um is again again what you got here is um is again again what you got here is um you have the the definition of marriage you have the the definition of marriage you have the the definition of marriage in Song of Solomon is you are my lover, in Song of Solomon is you are my lover, in Song of Solomon is you are my lover, you are my friend. So, you're looking you are my friend. So, you're looking you are my friend. So, you're looking for friendship. Guys, if you are for friendship. Guys, if you are for friendship. Guys, if you are anything like me, I know this surprises anything like me, I know this surprises anything like me, I know this surprises people. I am an introvert. I am an people. I am an introvert. I am an people. I am an introvert. I am an introverted person. So, if you're the introverted person. So, if you're the introverted person. So, if you're the type of guy that gets in the truck and type of guy that gets in the truck and type of guy that gets in the truck and you're like, I don't know what to talk you're like, I don't know what to talk you're like, I don't know what to talk about. Okay, welcome aboard. I get it. about. Okay, welcome aboard. I get it. about. Okay, welcome aboard. I get it. So, here's what you need to do. This is So, here's what you need to do. This is So, here's what you need to do. This is easy stuff. I'm trying to real easy stuff. I'm trying to real easy stuff. I'm trying to real practical. You can literally Google practical. You can literally Google practical. You can literally Google conversation questions for date night conversation questions for date night conversation questions for date night and then you stick them in I literally I and then you stick them in I literally I and then you stick them in I literally I do this sometimes. You stick them in an do this sometimes. You stick them in an do this sometimes. You stick them in an iPhone note and on the drive to the iPhone note and on the drive to the iPhone note and on the drive to the restaurant you just take turns. You pick restaurant you just take turns. You pick restaurant you just take turns. You pick one. I pick one. You pick one. I pick one. I pick one. You pick one. I pick one. I pick one. You pick one. I pick one. If you're married you can put some one. If you're married you can put some one. If you're married you can put some spicy questions in there. It's going to spicy questions in there. It's going to spicy questions in there. It's going to be fun later. Whatever you want to do.

be fun later. Whatever you want to do. be fun later. Whatever you want to do. You just got to figure it out. Now here You just got to figure it out. Now here You just got to figure it out. Now here I'm going to give you one little hint. I'm going to give you one little hint. I'm going to give you one little hint. Okay. One hint. An older godly couple Okay. One hint. An older godly couple Okay. One hint. An older godly couple with an amazing marriage gave me and with an amazing marriage gave me and with an amazing marriage gave me and Jana this conversation question years Jana this conversation question years Jana this conversation question years ago and probably nothing has resulted in ago and probably nothing has resulted in ago and probably nothing has resulted in more blessing in our marriage than we do more blessing in our marriage than we do more blessing in our marriage than we do this about once a month. Okay? So like this about once a month. Okay? So like this about once a month. Okay? So like if you're going to take a like I'm going if you're going to take a like I'm going if you're going to take a like I'm going to put it on the screen. You can take a to put it on the screen. You can take a to put it on the screen. You can take a little iPhone picture whatever you write little iPhone picture whatever you write little iPhone picture whatever you write it down memorize it. Get a tattoo. it down memorize it. Get a tattoo. it down memorize it. Get a tattoo. Whatever you need to do. Whatever you need to do. Whatever you need to do. This one thing total marriage cheat This one thing total marriage cheat This one thing total marriage cheat code. Total marriage cheat code. It's code. Total marriage cheat code. It's code. Total marriage cheat code. It's this question on a date night. You just this question on a date night. You just this question on a date night. You just go, "Hey, what are three ways I'm go, "Hey, what are three ways I'm go, "Hey, what are three ways I'm blessing you right now? What's one way I blessing you right now? What's one way I blessing you right now? What's one way I could bless you more? What are three could bless you more? What are three could bless you more? What are three ways I'm blessing you right now? What's ways I'm blessing you right now? What's ways I'm blessing you right now? What's one way I could bless you more?" Now, one way I could bless you more?" Now, one way I could bless you more?" Now, here's what's awesome about this. here's what's awesome about this. here's what's awesome about this. There's a cheat code to this. When she There's a cheat code to this. When she There's a cheat code to this. When she tells you this, you're going to feel tells you this, you're going to feel tells you this, you're going to feel amazing. Amazing. Crushing it. And this amazing. Amazing. Crushing it. And this amazing. Amazing. Crushing it. And this question is worded in a way where it's question is worded in a way where it's question is worded in a way where it's essentially asking, "How do I stink as a essentially asking, "How do I stink as a essentially asking, "How do I stink as a husband?" But it sounds positive. Okay?

husband?" But it sounds positive. Okay? husband?" But it sounds positive. Okay? But it sounds positive. And then you But it sounds positive. And then you But it sounds positive. And then you flip it. Okay? Okay. And and then you flip it. Okay? Okay. And and then you flip it. Okay? Okay. And and then you go, but this one thing going to result go, but this one thing going to result go, but this one thing going to result in more blessing in in uh in the car in more blessing in in uh in the car in more blessing in in uh in the car than than you can imagine. Okay. Now, than than you can imagine. Okay. Now, than than you can imagine. Okay. Now, ladies, let me talk to you. Look at look ladies, let me talk to you. Look at look ladies, let me talk to you. Look at look at what um look at how the woman in the at what um look at how the woman in the at what um look at how the woman in the passage is responding to his pursuit. passage is responding to his pursuit. passage is responding to his pursuit. Okay, check this out. She says, "Listen, Okay, check this out. She says, "Listen, Okay, check this out. She says, "Listen, my beloved. Look here. He comes leaping my beloved. Look here. He comes leaping my beloved. Look here. He comes leaping across the mountains, bounding over the across the mountains, bounding over the across the mountains, bounding over the hills. My beloved is like a gazelle or a hills. My beloved is like a gazelle or a hills. My beloved is like a gazelle or a young stag. He's a stud." Now, watch young stag. He's a stud." Now, watch young stag. He's a stud." Now, watch this. Look, there he stands. Now, I hit this. Look, there he stands. Now, I hit this. Look, there he stands. Now, I hit this last week. This is not a peeping this last week. This is not a peeping this last week. This is not a peeping time situation. There he stands behind time situation. There he stands behind time situation. There he stands behind our wall, gazing through the windows, our wall, gazing through the windows, our wall, gazing through the windows, peering through the lattice. Now, this peering through the lattice. Now, this peering through the lattice. Now, this is essentially a 3,000-y old way to say is essentially a 3,000-y old way to say is essentially a 3,000-y old way to say she was taking a long time to get ready, she was taking a long time to get ready, she was taking a long time to get ready, and he was waiting. Now, here's the and he was waiting. Now, here's the and he was waiting. Now, here's the point that's been happening for 3,000 point that's been happening for 3,000 point that's been happening for 3,000 years. Here's the point, ladies. Notice years. Here's the point, ladies. Notice years. Here's the point, ladies. Notice this. She is intentional about trying to this. She is intentional about trying to this. She is intentional about trying to make herself attractive for her man. make herself attractive for her man. make herself attractive for her man. She's intentionally trying to do that.

She's intentionally trying to do that. She's intentionally trying to do that. She's excited. She's engaged. She's She's excited. She's engaged. She's She's excited. She's engaged. She's showing him, "I'm into you and I'm into showing him, "I'm into you and I'm into showing him, "I'm into you and I'm into this time together." Principle number this time together." Principle number this time together." Principle number two, a lot shorter. In a godly two, a lot shorter. In a godly two, a lot shorter. In a godly relationship, the wife makes it fun to relationship, the wife makes it fun to relationship, the wife makes it fun to be pursued. Okay? So, the husband is be pursued. Okay? So, the husband is be pursued. Okay? So, the husband is pursuing, the wife is making it fun to pursuing, the wife is making it fun to pursuing, the wife is making it fun to be be pursued. So, ladies, let me just be be pursued. So, ladies, let me just be be pursued. So, ladies, let me just say something like ladies, be fun to say something like ladies, be fun to say something like ladies, be fun to actually date. What? Be be fun. Be fun actually date. What? Be be fun. Be fun actually date. What? Be be fun. Be fun to date. Okay? We hit last week the book to date. Okay? We hit last week the book to date. Okay? We hit last week the book of Proverbs says like a continual of Proverbs says like a continual of Proverbs says like a continual dripping on a rainy day is a life with a dripping on a rainy day is a life with a dripping on a rainy day is a life with a contentious woman. If he tries to take contentious woman. If he tries to take contentious woman. If he tries to take you out on a date this week and then you you out on a date this week and then you you out on a date this week and then you get in a truck and your response is, get in a truck and your response is, get in a truck and your response is, "Well, finally, finally you want to take "Well, finally, finally you want to take "Well, finally, finally you want to take me on a date. Finally, we always go to me on a date. Finally, we always go to me on a date. Finally, we always go to the same places and you always wear the the same places and you always wear the the same places and you always wear the same things and Pastor Josh said not to same things and Pastor Josh said not to same things and Pastor Josh said not to wear a t-shirt with a team logo on it wear a t-shirt with a team logo on it wear a t-shirt with a team logo on it and you have a team logo on your shirt and you have a team logo on your shirt and you have a team logo on your shirt and you know you're you're only doing and you know you're you're only doing and you know you're you're only doing this because Pastor Josh said to said this because Pastor Josh said to said this because Pastor Josh said to said so." Drip drip drip drip drip drip drip so." Drip drip drip drip drip drip drip so." Drip drip drip drip drip drip drip drip drip. That's you. That's you. drip drip. That's you. That's you. drip drip. That's you. That's you. Better to be waterboarded by ISIS than Better to be waterboarded by ISIS than Better to be waterboarded by ISIS than go on a date with you. That's the book go on a date with you. That's the book go on a date with you. That's the book of Proverbs. Okay.

of Proverbs. Okay. of Proverbs. Okay. Okay. So, this listen Proverbs. Okay. So, this listen Proverbs. Okay. So, this listen Proverbs. Proverbs. [clears throat] So, it's man, Proverbs. [clears throat] So, it's man, Proverbs. [clears throat] So, it's man, it's little things, ladies. It's little it's little things, ladies. It's little it's little things, ladies. It's little things. Again, listen. The goal is things. Again, listen. The goal is things. Again, listen. The goal is always two people who are doing always two people who are doing always two people who are doing everything in their power to bless one everything in their power to bless one everything in their power to bless one another. To bless one another. You're another. To bless one another. You're another. To bless one another. You're just always asking question. How can I just always asking question. How can I just always asking question. How can I be a blessing to him? How can I be a be a blessing to him? How can I be a be a blessing to him? How can I be a blessing to her? like wear his favorite blessing to her? like wear his favorite blessing to her? like wear his favorite stuff, stuff, stuff, engage in and enjoy the conversation. engage in and enjoy the conversation. engage in and enjoy the conversation. You want to make sure as much as You want to make sure as much as You want to make sure as much as possible the date ends Pentecostal, loss possible the date ends Pentecostal, loss possible the date ends Pentecostal, loss of tongues and the laying on of hands. of tongues and the laying on of hands. of tongues and the laying on of hands. That's you PG11. Loosen up. Everybody That's you PG11. Loosen up. Everybody That's you PG11. Loosen up. Everybody loosen up. Okay, listen. You do that loosen up. Okay, listen. You do that loosen up. Okay, listen. You do that stuff, he's going to love it. Okay, now stuff, he's going to love it. Okay, now stuff, he's going to love it. Okay, now let me finish. Let me finish sermon let me finish. Let me finish sermon let me finish. Let me finish sermon right here. Principle number three. right here. Principle number three. right here. Principle number three. Don't toss on the screen yet. It took me Don't toss on the screen yet. It took me Don't toss on the screen yet. It took me a second to I to figure out how do I a second to I to figure out how do I a second to I to figure out how do I want to word some of these last things want to word some of these last things want to word some of these last things from Song of Solomon for a principle and from Song of Solomon for a principle and from Song of Solomon for a principle and I couldn't figure out a way to do it. I couldn't figure out a way to do it. I couldn't figure out a way to do it. So, this is a junk drawer principle. I'm So, this is a junk drawer principle. I'm So, this is a junk drawer principle. I'm just going to say a whole bunch of just going to say a whole bunch of just going to say a whole bunch of things for single people. That's what things for single people. That's what things for single people. That's what I'm going to do. Okay. Now, real quick, I'm going to do. Okay. Now, real quick, I'm going to do. Okay. Now, real quick, um married people, here's what I need um married people, here's what I need um married people, here's what I need from you in the next few minutes. Our from you in the next few minutes. Our from you in the next few minutes. Our single people, they have to hear me talk single people, they have to hear me talk single people, they have to hear me talk about marriage all the time.

about marriage all the time. about marriage all the time. Can you please Shouldn't we honor, Can you please Shouldn't we honor, Can you please Shouldn't we honor, respect, and value the single people in respect, and value the single people in respect, and value the single people in our church by being engaged and honoring our church by being engaged and honoring our church by being engaged and honoring some Bible teaching towards single some Bible teaching towards single some Bible teaching towards single people for a few minutes? Can we do people for a few minutes? Can we do people for a few minutes? Can we do that? Because the these people are all that? Because the these people are all that? Because the these people are all around us and we we need to do that. around us and we we need to do that. around us and we we need to do that. Okay. So, here's what I need from you is Okay. So, here's what I need from you is Okay. So, here's what I need from you is one, I still need you to lean in. You one, I still need you to lean in. You one, I still need you to lean in. You got sons, daughters, grandkids, you're got sons, daughters, grandkids, you're got sons, daughters, grandkids, you're going to need need some of this. going to need need some of this. going to need need some of this. [clears throat] And when you hear [clears throat] And when you hear [clears throat] And when you hear something and you're like, that's true something and you're like, that's true something and you're like, that's true from experience, you can affirm that and from experience, you can affirm that and from experience, you can affirm that and that will help them know, okay, that that will help them know, okay, that that will help them know, okay, that really is true. Okay. So here we go. Let really is true. Okay. So here we go. Let really is true. Okay. So here we go. Let me talk to our single people real quick me talk to our single people real quick me talk to our single people real quick and then sermon's done. Single people, and then sermon's done. Single people, and then sermon's done. Single people, you need to according to the Bible, you you need to according to the Bible, you you need to according to the Bible, you need to shift your focus from finding to need to shift your focus from finding to need to shift your focus from finding to becoming. becoming. becoming. From finding to becoming. Okay, see From finding to becoming. Okay, see From finding to becoming. Okay, see that? That's people are going, "That's that? That's people are going, "That's that? That's people are going, "That's true. That's true. That's true." Now, true. That's true. That's true." Now, true. That's true. That's true." Now, here's what I mean. Sometimes as a here's what I mean. Sometimes as a here's what I mean. Sometimes as a preacher, what I got to do is I got to preacher, what I got to do is I got to preacher, what I got to do is I got to blast something out before I build blast something out before I build blast something out before I build something up. It's like a construction something up. It's like a construction something up. It's like a construction project. This is where I need to blast project. This is where I need to blast project. This is where I need to blast something out. There is a lie that something out. There is a lie that something out. There is a lie that circulates in Christian circles all the circulates in Christian circles all the circulates in Christian circles all the time. That's one of the most damaging time. That's one of the most damaging time. That's one of the most damaging lies to single people and to married lies to single people and to married lies to single people and to married people imaginable. Here's the lie. It's people imaginable. Here's the lie. It's people imaginable. Here's the lie. It's I call it the myth of the one. The myth I call it the myth of the one. The myth I call it the myth of the one. The myth of the one. Okay. So, I'm here's what of the one. Okay. So, I'm here's what of the one. Okay. So, I'm here's what happens. I'm looking for the one. Okay.

happens. I'm looking for the one. Okay. happens. I'm looking for the one. Okay. Who's the one? Is he the one? Is she the Who's the one? Is he the one? Is she the Who's the one? Is he the one? Is she the one? Okay. And and here here's how it one? Okay. And and here here's how it one? Okay. And and here here's how it goes. It's the idea that God created goes. It's the idea that God created goes. It's the idea that God created just one person out there and he created just one person out there and he created just one person out there and he created them exactly just for you, perfect for them exactly just for you, perfect for them exactly just for you, perfect for you, and that your job is to search you, and that your job is to search you, and that your job is to search among the seven billion people on Earth among the seven billion people on Earth among the seven billion people on Earth and find the one. You got to find the and find the one. You got to find the and find the one. You got to find the one, the only person that you would ever one, the only person that you would ever one, the only person that you would ever be happy being married to, the one. And be happy being married to, the one. And be happy being married to, the one. And when you find them, you're going to fit when you find them, you're going to fit when you find them, you're going to fit together like perfect puzzle pieces and together like perfect puzzle pieces and together like perfect puzzle pieces and rainbows and unicorns and snowflakes. rainbows and unicorns and snowflakes. rainbows and unicorns and snowflakes. Everything's going to happen and you'll Everything's going to happen and you'll Everything's going to happen and you'll just live easily just happily ever just live easily just happily ever just live easily just happily ever after. Wrong. Do not pass go. Do not after. Wrong. Do not pass go. Do not after. Wrong. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. There is nothing. Listen collect $200. There is nothing. Listen collect $200. There is nothing. Listen man, there is not one verse, not one man, there is not one verse, not one man, there is not one verse, not one verse in the Bible that says anything verse in the Bible that says anything verse in the Bible that says anything like that. And watch this. Here's why like that. And watch this. Here's why like that. And watch this. Here's why it's damaging. Because when Christians, it's damaging. Because when Christians, it's damaging. Because when Christians, single people believe that, all their single people believe that, all their single people believe that, all their energy is toward finding. I got to find energy is toward finding. I got to find energy is toward finding. I got to find them. I got to find her. Find find. If them. I got to find her. Find find. If them. I got to find her. Find find. If you open your Bible and look for Bible you open your Bible and look for Bible you open your Bible and look for Bible verses on how to find the perfect verses on how to find the perfect verses on how to find the perfect spouse, you're not gonna find one verse.

spouse, you're not gonna find one verse. spouse, you're not gonna find one verse. But if you open your Bible asking the But if you open your Bible asking the But if you open your Bible asking the question, how do I how do I become the question, how do I how do I become the question, how do I how do I become the type of person who would be an amazing type of person who would be an amazing type of person who would be an amazing spouse? Every verse is speaking to you. spouse? Every verse is speaking to you. spouse? Every verse is speaking to you. So watch this. The assumption of the So watch this. The assumption of the So watch this. The assumption of the Bible is that when you become the right Bible is that when you become the right Bible is that when you become the right type of person, then you will attract type of person, then you will attract type of person, then you will attract the right type of person. Okay? So So the right type of person. Okay? So So the right type of person. Okay? So So check this out. That's great. check this out. That's great. check this out. That's great. Check this out. I'm I'm going to give Check this out. I'm I'm going to give Check this out. I'm I'm going to give one example and then let let me move on. one example and then let let me move on. one example and then let let me move on. This is so important, man. So, before I This is so important, man. So, before I This is so important, man. So, before I became a senior pastor, I used to like became a senior pastor, I used to like became a senior pastor, I used to like travel around to a million youth camps. travel around to a million youth camps. travel around to a million youth camps. So, I get into youth camp, bunch of So, I get into youth camp, bunch of So, I get into youth camp, bunch of eighth grade, nth grade boys. And I get eighth grade, nth grade boys. And I get eighth grade, nth grade boys. And I get in a Bible study and I teach a Bible in a Bible study and I teach a Bible in a Bible study and I teach a Bible study. And then I would always ask them study. And then I would always ask them study. And then I would always ask them like, "Hey, what do you guys want to like, "Hey, what do you guys want to like, "Hey, what do you guys want to talk about?" And they would always I talk about?" And they would always I talk about?" And they would always I mean eighth grade, nth grade boys, mean eighth grade, nth grade boys, mean eighth grade, nth grade boys, they're always going to say the same they're always going to say the same they're always going to say the same thing. They're like, "Now, keep in mind thing. They're like, "Now, keep in mind thing. They're like, "Now, keep in mind these are the kid, you know, it's like these are the kid, you know, it's like these are the kid, you know, it's like they got no jobs. that never take a they got no jobs. that never take a they got no jobs. that never take a shower, 30 hours of Xbox, living with shower, 30 hours of Xbox, living with shower, 30 hours of Xbox, living with their mom, all the things. And then you their mom, all the things. And then you their mom, all the things. And then you ask them like, "Oh, what do you want to ask them like, "Oh, what do you want to ask them like, "Oh, what do you want to talk about?" They're like, "Oh, when's talk about?" They're like, "Oh, when's talk about?" They're like, "Oh, when's God going to give me a wife?" They're God going to give me a wife?" They're God going to give me a wife?" They're like in ninth grade. When's God going to like in ninth grade. When's God going to like in ninth grade. When's God going to give me a wife? And and the question you give me a wife? And and the question you give me a wife? And and the question you want to ask somebody like that is, "Hey, want to ask somebody like that is, "Hey, want to ask somebody like that is, "Hey, bro, if you were God, would you give you bro, if you were God, would you give you bro, if you were God, would you give you a wife?" Like, look at you. If you were a wife?" Like, look at you. If you were a wife?" Like, look at you. If you were God, would you give you a wife? You God, would you give you a wife? You God, would you give you a wife? You wouldn't even know what to do with them.

wouldn't even know what to do with them. wouldn't even know what to do with them. And then when you say that, they get a And then when you say that, they get a And then when you say that, they get a little rice smile on their face and little rice smile on their face and little rice smile on their face and like, "Oh, I'd know what to do with like, "Oh, I'd know what to do with like, "Oh, I'd know what to do with them." Okay? It's like, "Sure you would, them." Okay? It's like, "Sure you would, them." Okay? It's like, "Sure you would, buddy. Sure you would." Okay. But then, buddy. Sure you would." Okay. But then, buddy. Sure you would." Okay. But then, so here's a little exercise that I would so here's a little exercise that I would so here's a little exercise that I would do with a bunch of ninth grade guys in a do with a bunch of ninth grade guys in a do with a bunch of ninth grade guys in a Bible study. Okay. Okay, man. Two-minute Bible study. Okay. Okay, man. Two-minute Bible study. Okay. Okay, man. Two-minute drill. I'm going to set a two-minute drill. I'm going to set a two-minute drill. I'm going to set a two-minute timer. You write down the type of wife timer. You write down the type of wife timer. You write down the type of wife you hope God brings you. And bro, it's you hope God brings you. And bro, it's you hope God brings you. And bro, it's like they can't they can't do a homework like they can't they can't do a homework like they can't they can't do a homework assignment for their life. But they were assignment for their life. But they were assignment for their life. But they were like dissertation like like burning up like dissertation like like burning up like dissertation like like burning up the paper. Okay. And then when you're the paper. Okay. And then when you're the paper. Okay. And then when you're done, I'm like, "Okay, you you know, done, I'm like, "Okay, you you know, done, I'm like, "Okay, you you know, read it out loud." And you know, their read it out loud." And you know, their read it out loud." And you know, their list is insane. And it's like, oh, she's list is insane. And it's like, oh, she's list is insane. And it's like, oh, she's got to have the beauty of Sydney Sweeney got to have the beauty of Sydney Sweeney got to have the beauty of Sydney Sweeney and the, you know, the, you know, I'm and the, you know, the, you know, I'm and the, you know, the, you know, I'm I'm looking for somebody with a, you I'm looking for somebody with a, you I'm looking for somebody with a, you know, the godliness of Mother Teresa and know, the godliness of Mother Teresa and know, the godliness of Mother Teresa and the wisdom of Solomon and, you know, the wisdom of Solomon and, you know, the wisdom of Solomon and, you know, whatever, all the things. And they'll whatever, all the things. And they'll whatever, all the things. And they'll read out loud. Now, you can only talk to read out loud. Now, you can only talk to read out loud. Now, you can only talk to other guys like this. You don't talk to other guys like this. You don't talk to other guys like this. You don't talk to eighth grade girls like this ever, ever, eighth grade girls like this ever, ever, eighth grade girls like this ever, ever, ever, ever, ever. But with eighth grade ever, ever, ever. But with eighth grade ever, ever, ever. But with eighth grade guy, he can read his list like that. And guy, he can read his list like that. And guy, he can read his list like that. And he reads that out loud. And I say, "Bro, he reads that out loud. And I say, "Bro, he reads that out loud. And I say, "Bro, that girl would never marry you. The that girl would never marry you. The that girl would never marry you. The girl you just described is never going girl you just described is never going girl you just described is never going to as you are right now, that girl is to as you are right now, that girl is to as you are right now, that girl is never going to marry you. Here's the never going to marry you. Here's the never going to marry you. Here's the point.

point. point. Your goal is to become the type of Your goal is to become the type of Your goal is to become the type of person that the type of person you're person that the type of person you're person that the type of person you're looking for is looking for. I've heard looking for is looking for. I've heard looking for is looking for. I've heard that said. So, it's becoming. Here's the that said. So, it's becoming. Here's the that said. So, it's becoming. Here's the other thing. Now, married people, if you other thing. Now, married people, if you other thing. Now, married people, if you believe the myth of the one, you'll walk believe the myth of the one, you'll walk believe the myth of the one, you'll walk into marriage with insane expectations. into marriage with insane expectations. into marriage with insane expectations. Notice this. The Bible doesn't say uh Notice this. The Bible doesn't say uh Notice this. The Bible doesn't say uh the Bible says the two shall become one. the Bible says the two shall become one. the Bible says the two shall become one. It does not say the halves shall become It does not say the halves shall become It does not say the halves shall become whole. whole. whole. If two halves walk into a marriage, they If two halves walk into a marriage, they If two halves walk into a marriage, they don't make a hole. They make hell don't make a hole. They make hell don't make a hole. They make hell because they walk into the marriage because they walk into the marriage because they walk into the marriage asking their spouse to complete them and asking their spouse to complete them and asking their spouse to complete them and fill the parts of their heart that fill the parts of their heart that fill the parts of their heart that actually only a fully satisfying actually only a fully satisfying actually only a fully satisfying relationship with Jesus Christ can do. relationship with Jesus Christ can do. relationship with Jesus Christ can do. Okay, so that's it. That's number one. I Okay, so that's it. That's number one. I Okay, so that's it. That's number one. I got to do the others much quicker. got to do the others much quicker. got to do the others much quicker. Number [clears throat] two, for single Number [clears throat] two, for single Number [clears throat] two, for single people, dating in the Bible is a process people, dating in the Bible is a process people, dating in the Bible is a process to move through. It is not a status to to move through. It is not a status to to move through. It is not a status to sit in. Dating is a process to move sit in. Dating is a process to move sit in. Dating is a process to move through through, not a status to sit in. through through, not a status to sit in. through through, not a status to sit in. Okay? Notice in Song of Solomon, there's Okay? Notice in Song of Solomon, there's Okay? Notice in Song of Solomon, there's this whole courtship thing right here, this whole courtship thing right here, this whole courtship thing right here, dating, whatever you want to call it.

dating, whatever you want to call it. dating, whatever you want to call it. They immediately move towards marriage. They immediately move towards marriage. They immediately move towards marriage. Watch this. The Bible says nothing about Watch this. The Bible says nothing about Watch this. The Bible says nothing about dating. What dating? It says everything dating. What dating? It says everything dating. What dating? It says everything about deciding. What you're doing in about deciding. What you're doing in about deciding. What you're doing in marriage or what you're doing in dating marriage or what you're doing in dating marriage or what you're doing in dating is you're evaluating. Is this the type is you're evaluating. Is this the type is you're evaluating. Is this the type of person that I want to decide to link of person that I want to decide to link of person that I want to decide to link with and become one with? That is, with and become one with? That is, with and become one with? That is, listen, that's the only purpose of listen, that's the only purpose of listen, that's the only purpose of dating. If you're doing anything else, dating. If you're doing anything else, dating. If you're doing anything else, you are playing with people's hearts and you are playing with people's hearts and you are playing with people's hearts and you're putting them in a position to be you're putting them in a position to be you're putting them in a position to be in significant amounts of temptation and in significant amounts of temptation and in significant amounts of temptation and heartbreak. Okay? So, let me just say it heartbreak. Okay? So, let me just say it heartbreak. Okay? So, let me just say it like this, okay? This becomes real clear like this, okay? This becomes real clear like this, okay? This becomes real clear when you become a dad with daughters. when you become a dad with daughters. when you become a dad with daughters. Like just imag if a guy from our church Like just imag if a guy from our church Like just imag if a guy from our church were to walk up to me and say something were to walk up to me and say something were to walk up to me and say something like this. Hey Pastor Josh. Um I'm not like this. Hey Pastor Josh. Um I'm not like this. Hey Pastor Josh. Um I'm not ready for marriage and I have no ready for marriage and I have no ready for marriage and I have no intention of ending up with your intention of ending up with your intention of ending up with your daughter, but could I please have your daughter, but could I please have your daughter, but could I please have your daughter for the next few months? She's daughter for the next few months? She's daughter for the next few months? She's going to give me parts of her heart that going to give me parts of her heart that going to give me parts of her heart that she might not be able to ever get back. she might not be able to ever get back. she might not be able to ever get back. She's going to give me all of her time She's going to give me all of her time She's going to give me all of her time and attention. She's going to give me and attention. She's going to give me and attention. She's going to give me all of her emotional uh agility. And I all of her emotional uh agility. And I all of her emotional uh agility. And I may honestly, we may end up being in may honestly, we may end up being in may honestly, we may end up being in spots where we're tempted to give each spots where we're tempted to give each spots where we're tempted to give each other parts of our bodies physically or other parts of our bodies physically or other parts of our bodies physically or sexually that we shouldn't. I have no sexually that we shouldn't. I have no sexually that we shouldn't. I have no intention of ending up with her, but intention of ending up with her, but intention of ending up with her, but could I please have your daughter for a could I please have your daughter for a could I please have your daughter for a while? Okay. I mean, if that were to while? Okay. I mean, if that were to while? Okay. I mean, if that were to happen, it's like, you know, my eyes happen, it's like, you know, my eyes happen, it's like, you know, my eyes would turn red, sky would turn dark, would turn red, sky would turn dark, would turn red, sky would turn dark, voice would say, "Finish him." It's like voice would say, "Finish him." It's like voice would say, "Finish him." It's like out of the sky. Like, really quick, man.

out of the sky. Like, really quick, man. out of the sky. Like, really quick, man. Really, really quick. Really quick. Really, really quick. Really quick. Really, really quick. Really quick. Okay. So, here's the point. Hey, here's Okay. So, here's the point. Hey, here's Okay. So, here's the point. Hey, here's the point. The only purpose of dating is the point. The only purpose of dating is the point. The only purpose of dating is to move toward marriage. That's the only to move toward marriage. That's the only to move toward marriage. That's the only purpose. It's like gentle pastoral purpose. It's like gentle pastoral purpose. It's like gentle pastoral encouragement. Do not date until you're encouragement. Do not date until you're encouragement. Do not date until you're ready to move towards marriage. And do ready to move towards marriage. And do ready to move towards marriage. And do not date someone you would not consider not date someone you would not consider not date someone you would not consider for marriage. Because watch this. If you for marriage. Because watch this. If you for marriage. Because watch this. If you do that, you're not dating them. You're do that, you're not dating them. You're do that, you're not dating them. You're using them. You're using them. Okay? So, using them. You're using them. Okay? So, using them. You're using them. Okay? So, here we go. Last one. Last one. here we go. Last one. Last one. here we go. Last one. Last one. [clears throat] [clears throat] [clears throat] Men, I just want to continue to say Men, I just want to continue to say Men, I just want to continue to say this. Men, be clear with your this. Men, be clear with your this. Men, be clear with your intentions. I met three couples last intentions. I met three couples last intentions. I met three couples last night after Saturday services who heard night after Saturday services who heard night after Saturday services who heard week one and a dude literally walked up week one and a dude literally walked up week one and a dude literally walked up to a godly girl as a greeter, asked her to a godly girl as a greeter, asked her to a godly girl as a greeter, asked her on a date, and now they're they're going on a date, and now they're they're going on a date, and now they're they're going out. I love it. Okay, so I just want to out. I love it. Okay, so I just want to out. I love it. Okay, so I just want to Hey, I celebrate it. All in, all in. All Hey, I celebrate it. All in, all in. All Hey, I celebrate it. All in, all in. All in. That's awesome. But man, continue. in. That's awesome. But man, continue. in. That's awesome. But man, continue. Let me say this. You need to be clear Let me say this. You need to be clear Let me say this. You need to be clear with your intentions. Whenever you ask a with your intentions. Whenever you ask a with your intentions. Whenever you ask a girl out on a date, you need to use the girl out on a date, you need to use the girl out on a date, you need to use the word date so she knows what the heck you word date so she knows what the heck you word date so she knows what the heck you are asking her to do. Use the word date.

are asking her to do. Use the word date. are asking her to do. Use the word date. Three times in the Song of Solomon, it Three times in the Song of Solomon, it Three times in the Song of Solomon, it says, "Do not arouse or awaken love says, "Do not arouse or awaken love says, "Do not arouse or awaken love before it so desires." If you ask her before it so desires." If you ask her before it so desires." If you ask her something stupid like, "Hey girl, you something stupid like, "Hey girl, you something stupid like, "Hey girl, you want chill sometime." She doesn't know want chill sometime." She doesn't know want chill sometime." She doesn't know what you're talking about. "Hey girl, what you're talking about. "Hey girl, what you're talking about. "Hey girl, you want to hang out?" That's real you want to hang out?" That's real you want to hang out?" That's real weird. If you send her a stupid text weird. If you send her a stupid text weird. If you send her a stupid text message at 10:30, you up? message at 10:30, you up? message at 10:30, you up? Whatever it is, she doesn't know what Whatever it is, she doesn't know what Whatever it is, she doesn't know what you're doing. She doesn't know what you're doing. She doesn't know what you're doing. She doesn't know what you're doing. So, use the word date. You you're doing. So, use the word date. You you're doing. So, use the word date. You want to say something like, "Could I get want to say something like, "Could I get want to say something like, "Could I get your number sometime? I would like to your number sometime? I would like to your number sometime? I would like to take you out on a coffee date next take you out on a coffee date next take you out on a coffee date next Friday. And just a little pro tip, Friday. And just a little pro tip, Friday. And just a little pro tip, single guys, here's a pro tip. [snorts] single guys, here's a pro tip. [snorts] single guys, here's a pro tip. [snorts] If you want to make it easier on her and If you want to make it easier on her and If you want to make it easier on her and you, the way that you ask her out, you you, the way that you ask her out, you you, the way that you ask her out, you also give her an out. So you say, "Hey, also give her an out. So you say, "Hey, also give her an out. So you say, "Hey, I'd like to take you out on a date next I'd like to take you out on a date next I'd like to take you out on a date next Friday, but I understand if you're Friday, but I understand if you're Friday, but I understand if you're busy." It's just a little gentlemanly busy." It's just a little gentlemanly busy." It's just a little gentlemanly way to give her an easy out to if she's way to give her an easy out to if she's way to give her an easy out to if she's not into it. Now, the other thing I'll not into it. Now, the other thing I'll not into it. Now, the other thing I'll say to the young men, you need to honor say to the young men, you need to honor say to the young men, you need to honor her and protect her heart in that her and protect her heart in that her and protect her heart in that process. So, do not do this. If you go process. So, do not do this. If you go process. So, do not do this. If you go on a date and by the end of the date, on a date and by the end of the date, on a date and by the end of the date, you're like not into it. For the love of you're like not into it. For the love of you're like not into it. For the love of Jesus and the love of her, do not say to Jesus and the love of her, do not say to Jesus and the love of her, do not say to her just to feel awkward silence at the her just to feel awkward silence at the her just to feel awkward silence at the end of the date something like, "I had a end of the date something like, "I had a end of the date something like, "I had a great time. Looking forward to do it great time. Looking forward to do it great time. Looking forward to do it again. I'll call you." Don't lie to her.

again. I'll call you." Don't lie to her. again. I'll call you." Don't lie to her. Your job is to protect her heart just Your job is to protect her heart just Your job is to protect her heart just like you would expect somebody to do for like you would expect somebody to do for like you would expect somebody to do for you. Okay? Now ladies, let me just say you. Okay? Now ladies, let me just say you. Okay? Now ladies, let me just say and I just want to gently pastor you to and I just want to gently pastor you to and I just want to gently pastor you to our young single ladies just watching on our young single ladies just watching on our young single ladies just watching on online and talking to some people in our online and talking to some people in our online and talking to some people in our church in the lobby. Let me just say you church in the lobby. Let me just say you church in the lobby. Let me just say you need to have realistic expectations. need to have realistic expectations. need to have realistic expectations. Realistic expectations. Some of you guys Realistic expectations. Some of you guys Realistic expectations. Some of you guys like for real, your list is ridiculous like for real, your list is ridiculous like for real, your list is ridiculous of expectations. Okay? God could walk up of expectations. Okay? God could walk up of expectations. Okay? God could walk up to you like the spirit of Elijah and the to you like the spirit of Elijah and the to you like the spirit of Elijah and the body of Samson. You'd be like, "Oh, I body of Samson. You'd be like, "Oh, I body of Samson. You'd be like, "Oh, I don't know. He's not 6'4." don't know. He's not 6'4." don't know. He's not 6'4." Okay? Like, can I can I just like let me Okay? Like, can I can I just like let me Okay? Like, can I can I just like let me just point this out? In Song of Solomon, just point this out? In Song of Solomon, just point this out? In Song of Solomon, notice who this this song is about. It's notice who this this song is about. It's notice who this this song is about. It's a king that falls in love with a peasant a king that falls in love with a peasant a king that falls in love with a peasant country girl with a farmer's stand. country girl with a farmer's stand. country girl with a farmer's stand. If he had made his list early, I doubt If he had made his list early, I doubt If he had made his list early, I doubt that was what would have been on the that was what would have been on the that was what would have been on the list. But he met her and he fell in love list. But he met her and he fell in love list. But he met her and he fell in love with her character, her beauty, her with her character, her beauty, her with her character, her beauty, her personality. Okay, so like let's do personality. Okay, so like let's do personality. Okay, so like let's do that, ladies. Character is more that, ladies. Character is more that, ladies. Character is more important than cute and attraction grows important than cute and attraction grows important than cute and attraction grows with connection. Okay, that's it. Now, with connection. Okay, that's it. Now, with connection. Okay, that's it. Now, here's how the sermon is going to end.

here's how the sermon is going to end. here's how the sermon is going to end. I'm going to take everything I just said I'm going to take everything I just said I'm going to take everything I just said and both for married people and for and both for married people and for and both for married people and for single people, I I want to show you the single people, I I want to show you the single people, I I want to show you the order that God wants us to build and order that God wants us to build and order that God wants us to build and strengthen our relationships uh in the strengthen our relationships uh in the strengthen our relationships uh in the Song of Solomon. So, we need to build it Song of Solomon. So, we need to build it Song of Solomon. So, we need to build it in the right order. Okay? So, here's the in the right order. Okay? So, here's the in the right order. Okay? So, here's the order that God wants us to build a order that God wants us to build a order that God wants us to build a relationship with uh in if you're relationship with uh in if you're relationship with uh in if you're single, this is your order. If you're single, this is your order. If you're single, this is your order. If you're married, this is your strengthening married, this is your strengthening married, this is your strengthening order. Okay. Number one, it needs to order. Okay. Number one, it needs to order. Okay. Number one, it needs to start. You're evaluating the person start. You're evaluating the person start. You're evaluating the person spiritually. Book New Testament. Do not spiritually. Book New Testament. Do not spiritually. Book New Testament. Do not be unequally yolked with someone. So, be unequally yolked with someone. So, be unequally yolked with someone. So, you're asking, is this person running you're asking, is this person running you're asking, is this person running towards Jesus? Do they value moral towards Jesus? Do they value moral towards Jesus? Do they value moral purity? Are they consecrated to the purity? Are they consecrated to the purity? Are they consecrated to the purposes of God? You're evaluating purposes of God? You're evaluating purposes of God? You're evaluating spirit. Are they a Jesusloving person? spirit. Are they a Jesusloving person? spirit. Are they a Jesusloving person? Actual Jesus loving person. You're Actual Jesus loving person. You're Actual Jesus loving person. You're evaluating spiritually. Now once you evaluating spiritually. Now once you evaluating spiritually. Now once you look around, you see, you know, a look around, you see, you know, a look around, you see, you know, a greeter somewhere at your campus and greeter somewhere at your campus and greeter somewhere at your campus and you're like, "Ah, it seems like it." you're like, "Ah, it seems like it." you're like, "Ah, it seems like it." Then the next phase is what you're doing Then the next phase is what you're doing Then the next phase is what you're doing here is you're moving to to a social, here is you're moving to to a social, here is you're moving to to a social, it's a social relationship. Notice in it's a social relationship. Notice in it's a social relationship. Notice in Song of Solomon, she actually I forgot Song of Solomon, she actually I forgot Song of Solomon, she actually I forgot to read the passage. We're preaching the to read the passage. We're preaching the to read the passage. We're preaching the Bible, so let me read the passage. She Bible, so let me read the passage. She Bible, so let me read the passage. She says this, "All night long on my bed, I says this, "All night long on my bed, I says this, "All night long on my bed, I look for the one my heart loves. I look for the one my heart loves. I look for the one my heart loves. I looked for him but did not find him." So looked for him but did not find him." So looked for him but did not find him." So notice he's not in her bed. They're not notice he's not in her bed. They're not notice he's not in her bed. They're not doing married people things before doing married people things before doing married people things before they're married. Verse two, I will get they're married. Verse two, I will get they're married. Verse two, I will get up now and go about the city through its up now and go about the city through its up now and go about the city through its streets and squares. I will search for streets and squares. I will search for streets and squares. I will search for the one my heart loves. So I looked for the one my heart loves. So I looked for the one my heart loves. So I looked for him but did not find him. The watchmen him but did not find him. The watchmen him but did not find him. The watchmen found me as they made their rounds in found me as they made their rounds in found me as they made their rounds in the city. Have you seen the one my heart

the city. Have you seen the one my heart the city. Have you seen the one my heart loves? She's like, "Where is he? I I loves? She's like, "Where is he? I I loves? She's like, "Where is he? I I just want to be around him right now." just want to be around him right now." just want to be around him right now." Scarcely [snorts] had I passed them when Scarcely [snorts] had I passed them when Scarcely [snorts] had I passed them when I found the one my heart loves. I held I found the one my heart loves. I held I found the one my heart loves. I held him and I wouldn't let him go till I had him and I wouldn't let him go till I had him and I wouldn't let him go till I had brought him into my Now watch this. Till brought him into my Now watch this. Till brought him into my Now watch this. Till I had brought him to my mother's house. I had brought him to my mother's house. I had brought him to my mother's house. She's getting him, this person she's She's getting him, this person she's She's getting him, this person she's interested in, around godly family interested in, around godly family interested in, around godly family members and other godly people. members and other godly people. members and other godly people. Important to the room of the one who Important to the room of the one who Important to the room of the one who conceived me. Verse 5, daughters of conceived me. Verse 5, daughters of conceived me. Verse 5, daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazels Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazels Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazels and those of the field. There it is. Do and those of the field. There it is. Do and those of the field. There it is. Do not arouse or awaken love till it so not arouse or awaken love till it so not arouse or awaken love till it so desires. So after spiritually she desires. So after spiritually she desires. So after spiritually she immediately gets him around. Watch this. immediately gets him around. Watch this. immediately gets him around. Watch this. It it's around her friends. Chapter 1 It it's around her friends. Chapter 1 It it's around her friends. Chapter 1 and two, they're all around their and two, they're all around their and two, they're all around their friends. That's why the friends hop in friends. That's why the friends hop in friends. That's why the friends hop in singing their little diddy and then they singing their little diddy and then they singing their little diddy and then they hop out. She's like getting her friends hop out. She's like getting her friends hop out. She's like getting her friends eyes on him. Then she's getting mom and eyes on him. Then she's getting mom and eyes on him. Then she's getting mom and dad's eyes on him. She's got godly dad's eyes on him. She's got godly dad's eyes on him. She's got godly parents. I want my parents to see this parents. I want my parents to see this parents. I want my parents to see this person here. Listen, here's why that's person here. Listen, here's why that's person here. Listen, here's why that's really important. I I really need you to really important. I I really need you to really important. I I really need you to hear this. It's important that you have hear this. It's important that you have hear this. It's important that you have at least three older godly people that at least three older godly people that at least three older godly people that you can ask if the person you're dating you can ask if the person you're dating you can ask if the person you're dating is a good choice for you. But here's is a good choice for you. But here's is a good choice for you. But here's why. Because when emotion gets high, why. Because when emotion gets high, why. Because when emotion gets high, logic gets low. So this is what she's logic gets low. So this is what she's logic gets low. So this is what she's doing. She's like, "Okay, let me doing. She's like, "Okay, let me doing. She's like, "Okay, let me evaluate uh socially." Now, after you evaluate uh socially." Now, after you evaluate uh socially." Now, after you look around and you're like, "Man, I look around and you're like, "Man, I look around and you're like, "Man, I like who this person seems to be." Then like who this person seems to be." Then like who this person seems to be." Then it moves to a personal relationship.

it moves to a personal relationship. it moves to a personal relationship. Let's spend some one-on-one time Let's spend some one-on-one time Let's spend some one-on-one time together. Appropriate times, appropriate together. Appropriate times, appropriate together. Appropriate times, appropriate ways. Let's go coffee. Now, I'm learning ways. Let's go coffee. Now, I'm learning ways. Let's go coffee. Now, I'm learning about your heart, your soul, your about your heart, your soul, your about your heart, your soul, your dreams, what God has done in your life. dreams, what God has done in your life. dreams, what God has done in your life. You know, your calling. Then after You know, your calling. Then after You know, your calling. Then after personal, the more personal time you personal, the more personal time you personal, the more personal time you spend, it's going to get emotional. Now spend, it's going to get emotional. Now spend, it's going to get emotional. Now you it's this is the I'm falling in love you it's this is the I'm falling in love you it's this is the I'm falling in love and I'm really into this person and you and I'm really into this person and you and I'm really into this person and you know it's so all this stuff is know it's so all this stuff is know it's so all this stuff is coalescing the emotions are forming coalescing the emotions are forming coalescing the emotions are forming emotional bond now for a godly person emotional bond now for a godly person emotional bond now for a godly person this is where marriage happens this is this is where marriage happens this is this is where marriage happens this is the phase right here is where marriage the phase right here is where marriage the phase right here is where marriage happens nothing else happens before happens nothing else happens before happens nothing else happens before marriage happens this is where marriage marriage happens this is where marriage marriage happens this is where marriage happens then after marriage has happened happens then after marriage has happened happens then after marriage has happened then you add the physical part okay does then you add the physical part okay does then you add the physical part okay does that make sense then you add the that make sense then you add the that make sense then you add the physical part that's it physical part that's it physical part that's it This is how God has designed the This is how God has designed the This is how God has designed the relationship to be built. Now, here's relationship to be built. Now, here's relationship to be built. Now, here's the problem. In our culture, you are the problem. In our culture, you are the problem. In our culture, you are getting discipled to do the exact getting discipled to do the exact getting discipled to do the exact opposite. In our culture, a lot of times opposite. In our culture, a lot of times opposite. In our culture, a lot of times it starts with a physical. Swipe left, it starts with a physical. Swipe left, it starts with a physical. Swipe left, swipe right, hook up, shack up, break swipe right, hook up, shack up, break swipe right, hook up, shack up, break up. We hooked up starts physical. Then up. We hooked up starts physical. Then up. We hooked up starts physical. Then listen, do not lie to yourself. If you listen, do not lie to yourself. If you listen, do not lie to yourself. If you get involved sexually with somebody, it get involved sexually with somebody, it get involved sexually with somebody, it is 100% [snorts] going to become is 100% [snorts] going to become is 100% [snorts] going to become emotional because sex is not just two emotional because sex is not just two emotional because sex is not just two bodies together. It's the mingling of bodies together. It's the mingling of bodies together. It's the mingling of souls. Do not lie to yourself. That's souls. Do not lie to yourself. That's souls. Do not lie to yourself. That's why, check this out. Why do they say why, check this out. Why do they say why, check this out. Why do they say what they say? Well, I caught feelings.

what they say? Well, I caught feelings. what they say? Well, I caught feelings. That is always going to happen. So, when That is always going to happen. So, when That is always going to happen. So, when this happens, the emotions are going to this happens, the emotions are going to this happens, the emotions are going to kick in and then now you're all kick in and then now you're all kick in and then now you're all emotional about the person. You start emotional about the person. You start emotional about the person. You start going, "Well, I I guess we ought to go going, "Well, I I guess we ought to go going, "Well, I I guess we ought to go on some dates. I mean, we're real on some dates. I mean, we're real on some dates. I mean, we're real emotionally into each other. I I guess emotionally into each other. I I guess emotionally into each other. I I guess we ought to go on some dates and do, you we ought to go on some dates and do, you we ought to go on some dates and do, you know, get to know each other a little know, get to know each other a little know, get to know each other a little bit. This feels awkward if we don't. So, bit. This feels awkward if we don't. So, bit. This feels awkward if we don't. So, you start doing this. And then after you start doing this. And then after you start doing this. And then after you've done a bunch of one-on-one dates, you've done a bunch of one-on-one dates, you've done a bunch of one-on-one dates, at the very end of that, then you're at the very end of that, then you're at the very end of that, then you're like, "Well, I mean, I guess he needs to like, "Well, I mean, I guess he needs to like, "Well, I mean, I guess he needs to meet my friends and my parents." At the meet my friends and my parents." At the meet my friends and my parents." At the very end, I I guess he needs to meet my very end, I I guess he needs to meet my very end, I I guess he needs to meet my friends and my parents. You know, that friends and my parents. You know, that friends and my parents. You know, that kind of thing. And then here, now watch kind of thing. And then here, now watch kind of thing. And then here, now watch this. This is the spot where it gets this. This is the spot where it gets this. This is the spot where it gets real fragile and people are like, "Ah." real fragile and people are like, "Ah." real fragile and people are like, "Ah." They start lying to themselves. I think They start lying to themselves. I think They start lying to themselves. I think it's a good relationship. it's a good relationship. it's a good relationship. It's good when it's good. It's good when it's good. It's good when it's good. You know, we both like pickle ball. You You know, we both like pickle ball. You You know, we both like pickle ball. You know, whatever you do, it's like you're know, whatever you do, it's like you're know, whatever you do, it's like you're lying to yourself. lying to yourself. lying to yourself. Then at the very end, what people try to Then at the very end, what people try to Then at the very end, what people try to do is like, well, I guess we should get do is like, well, I guess we should get do is like, well, I guess we should get married. Where's a pastor? Can I find a married. Where's a pastor? Can I find a married. Where's a pastor? Can I find a pastor to do a do a wedding and read me pastor to do a do a wedding and read me pastor to do a do a wedding and read me a Bible verse? And you add this at the a Bible verse? And you add this at the a Bible verse? And you add this at the end and watch. Because the foundation is end and watch. Because the foundation is end and watch. Because the foundation is the smallest part of the relationship, the smallest part of the relationship, the smallest part of the relationship, it's totally unstable. Real easy for it it's totally unstable. Real easy for it it's totally unstable. Real easy for it to fall. Now listen, here's listen to fall. Now listen, here's listen to fall. Now listen, here's listen listen. If you are not married yet and listen. If you are not married yet and listen. If you are not married yet and you're [clears throat] moving towards you're [clears throat] moving towards you're [clears throat] moving towards it, listen to me. Hey, Lakeoint Church.

it, listen to me. Hey, Lakeoint Church. it, listen to me. Hey, Lakeoint Church. Let's build it the right way. Let's Let's build it the right way. Let's Let's build it the right way. Let's build it the right way. Okay? And some build it the right way. Okay? And some build it the right way. Okay? And some of you listen listen. Some of you like of you listen listen. Some of you like of you listen listen. Some of you like literally the whole reason you're at the literally the whole reason you're at the literally the whole reason you're at the love life series and we got still got love life series and we got still got love life series and we got still got two more weeks is because you're here two more weeks is because you're here two more weeks is because you're here and you're trying to add this. Listen, and you're trying to add this. Listen, and you're trying to add this. Listen, no judgment. I'm proud of you. I'm proud no judgment. I'm proud of you. I'm proud no judgment. I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you, man. I'm proud of you. And of you, man. I'm proud of you. And of you, man. I'm proud of you. And listen, here's what you got to know, listen, here's what you got to know, listen, here's what you got to know, man. Here's what you got to know is my man. Here's what you got to know is my man. Here's what you got to know is my Bible tells me the Lord can restore the Bible tells me the Lord can restore the Bible tells me the Lord can restore the years the locusts have eaten. He can do years the locusts have eaten. He can do years the locusts have eaten. He can do that in your life. We are not, Listen, that in your life. We are not, Listen, that in your life. We are not, Listen, we are not a bunch of good people trying we are not a bunch of good people trying we are not a bunch of good people trying to tell bad people how to be good. We to tell bad people how to be good. We to tell bad people how to be good. We are a bunch of forgiven nobodies trying are a bunch of forgiven nobodies trying are a bunch of forgiven nobodies trying to tell everybody about a somebody who to tell everybody about a somebody who to tell everybody about a somebody who can redeem anybody and anything. He can can redeem anybody and anything. He can can redeem anybody and anything. He can do that for you and he can do that in do that for you and he can do that in do that for you and he can do that in your marriage. Okay, that's it. Amen. Amen. Amen. Hey, what an amazing Amen. Amen. Amen. Hey, what an amazing message from Pastor Josh. Hey church message from Pastor Josh. Hey church message from Pastor Josh. Hey church online, thank you for being with us online, thank you for being with us online, thank you for being with us today and for journeying through this today and for journeying through this today and for journeying through this whole best of series with us this whole best of series with us this whole best of series with us this summer. I hope today's message left you summer. I hope today's message left you summer. I hope today's message left you with more hope and encouragement. So, with more hope and encouragement. So, with more hope and encouragement. So, let's live ready and on purpose starting let's live ready and on purpose starting let's live ready and on purpose starting this week. Also, if you're in the DFW this week. Also, if you're in the DFW this week. Also, if you're in the DFW area, we would love to see you in area, we would love to see you in area, we would love to see you in person. We have campuses across all of person. We have campuses across all of person. We have campuses across all of the DFW and there is a place for you the DFW and there is a place for you the DFW and there is a place for you here. And don't forget, next weekend we here. And don't forget, next weekend we here. And don't forget, next weekend we kick off our brand new sermon series, kick off our brand new sermon series, kick off our brand new sermon series, Fight the Good Fight. Make sure that you Fight the Good Fight. Make sure that you Fight the Good Fight. Make sure that you are subscribed on YouTube with are subscribed on YouTube with are subscribed on YouTube with notifications on so you don't miss it.

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