How God Uses Your Biggest Mistakes | Genesis 45

God God's redemption. That's the thing God God's redemption. That's the thing that's amazing with God's redemption. that's amazing with God's redemption. that's amazing with God's redemption. [laughter] It's like, "No, no, I'm using [laughter] It's like, "No, no, I'm using [laughter] It's like, "No, no, I'm using that, too. I'm gonna use that, too." that, too. I'm gonna use that, too." that, too. I'm gonna use that, too." >> That's something in our earlier >> That's something in our earlier >> That's something in our earlier conversations you pointed out to me. I'm conversations you pointed out to me. I'm conversations you pointed out to me. I'm Yeah, cuz that sticks with me, too, bro. Yeah, cuz that sticks with me, too, bro. Yeah, cuz that sticks with me, too, bro. I'm like, "Wow." Yes. He just redeemed I'm like, "Wow." Yes. He just redeemed I'm like, "Wow." Yes. He just redeemed it, man. it, man. it, man. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> This is the Crossroads Daily. No >> This is the Crossroads Daily. No >> This is the Crossroads Daily. No experts, no perfect people, just honest experts, no perfect people, just honest experts, no perfect people, just honest conversations about what happens when conversations about what happens when conversations about what happens when the Bible shows up in real life. >> Hey, I'm Chuck. >> Hey, I'm Chuck. >> I'm Debo. I'm Mo. I'm Peter. >> I'm Debo. I'm Mo. I'm Peter. >> I'm Debo. I'm Mo. I'm Peter. >> Joseph reveals himself to his brothers >> Joseph reveals himself to his brothers >> Joseph reveals himself to his brothers >> and the redemption story happens. And I >> and the redemption story happens. And I >> and the redemption story happens. And I mean, this is a long walk, right? This mean, this is a long walk, right? This mean, this is a long walk, right? This is multiple chapters in Genesis. is multiple chapters in Genesis. is multiple chapters in Genesis. >> And yet, it comes to this beautiful, >> And yet, it comes to this beautiful, >> And yet, it comes to this beautiful, beautiful conclusion beautiful conclusion beautiful conclusion >> where we see God's redemption. So, we're >> where we see God's redemption. So, we're >> where we see God's redemption. So, we're going to talk about redemption today. going to talk about redemption today. going to talk about redemption today. We're talk about forgiveness today. But We're talk about forgiveness today. But We're talk about forgiveness today. But before that, let's talk about emotions. before that, let's talk about emotions. before that, let's talk about emotions. >> Who what song is that? That Mariah >> Who what song is that? That Mariah >> Who what song is that? That Mariah Carey. Mariah Care's emotions for us. Carey. Mariah Care's emotions for us. Carey. Mariah Care's emotions for us. [laughter] That's a little TOO HIGH FOR ME. I don't That's a little TOO HIGH FOR ME. I don't know if I can hit that note. I got you know if I can hit that note. I got you know if I can hit that note. I got you hit that note.

hit that note. hit that note. Register in that song. I can't hit Register in that song. I can't hit Register in that song. I can't hit whistle [laughter] register. whistle [laughter] register. whistle [laughter] register. >> Oh man. But like there's a lot of I love >> Oh man. But like there's a lot of I love >> Oh man. But like there's a lot of I love it. I actually love that there's a lot it. I actually love that there's a lot it. I actually love that there's a lot of men crying. of men crying. of men crying. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> In Genesis and particularly Joseph and >> In Genesis and particularly Joseph and >> In Genesis and particularly Joseph and brothers. Yes. So, well, let's talk brothers. Yes. So, well, let's talk brothers. Yes. So, well, let's talk about emotions because I think we can about emotions because I think we can about emotions because I think we can fall into one of two camps. You can fall into one of two camps. You can fall into one of two camps. You can either be a person who like your either be a person who like your either be a person who like your emotions dominate everything and can emotions dominate everything and can emotions dominate everything and can cloud maybe good judgment sometimes or cloud maybe good judgment sometimes or cloud maybe good judgment sometimes or you stuff your emotions. And so what you stuff your emotions. And so what you stuff your emotions. And so what >> what uh what part of that extreme do you >> what uh what part of that extreme do you >> what uh what part of that extreme do you tend to fall in? [clears throat] I'll be tend to fall in? [clears throat] I'll be tend to fall in? [clears throat] I'll be honest and tell you I can be too honest and tell you I can be too honest and tell you I can be too emotional. My wife will tell you I can emotional. My wife will tell you I can emotional. My wife will tell you I can be [laughter] too emotional and I need be [laughter] too emotional and I need be [laughter] too emotional and I need to kind of bring it down a level. But I to kind of bring it down a level. But I to kind of bring it down a level. But I can also still can also still can also still >> be very unaware of my emotions. They're >> be very unaware of my emotions. They're >> be very unaware of my emotions. They're real but I'm not like not facing them. real but I'm not like not facing them. real but I'm not like not facing them. How about you guys? Where do you where How about you guys? Where do you where How about you guys? Where do you where do you struggle? do you struggle? do you struggle? >> That is a loaded question for me, man. >> That is a loaded question for me, man. >> That is a loaded question for me, man. Um Um Um >> I could say that if I had to pick >> I could say that if I had to pick >> I could say that if I had to pick between those two, it would probably be between those two, it would probably be between those two, it would probably be somewhat more leaning towards the um somewhat more leaning towards the um somewhat more leaning towards the um >> being emotional to a degree, >> being emotional to a degree, >> being emotional to a degree, >> but um there's I I remember some years >> but um there's I I remember some years >> but um there's I I remember some years ago there was a song and in the song it ago there was a song and in the song it ago there was a song and in the song it says, "Lord over my emotions." M says, "Lord over my emotions." M says, "Lord over my emotions." M >> and that has been like a a regular >> and that has been like a a regular >> and that has been like a a regular prayer of mine prayer of mine prayer of mine >> and to the point where I'm to the like >> and to the point where I'm to the like >> and to the point where I'm to the like now where I'm like Lord now where I'm like Lord now where I'm like Lord >> have you answered that prayer and are >> have you answered that prayer and are >> have you answered that prayer and are you communicating to me through my you communicating to me through my you communicating to me through my emotions cuz I'll find myself dealing emotions cuz I'll find myself dealing emotions cuz I'll find myself dealing with emotions when I'm like where is with emotions when I'm like where is with emotions when I'm like where is this coming from? You know what I'm this coming from? You know what I'm this coming from? You know what I'm saying? Why am I sad right now? Why am I saying? Why am I sad right now? Why am I saying? Why am I sad right now? Why am I you know what you know is this empathy?

you know what you know is this empathy? you know what you know is this empathy? Is this something you know maybe this Is this something you know maybe this Is this something you know maybe this isn't mine? Should I be praying for isn't mine? Should I be praying for isn't mine? Should I be praying for someone else and you're putting on you someone else and you're putting on you someone else and you're putting on you know someone on my heart right now or know someone on my heart right now or know someone on my heart right now or whatever? So it's I'm I'd say like I whatever? So it's I'm I'd say like I whatever? So it's I'm I'd say like I definitely lean into my emotions but I'm definitely lean into my emotions but I'm definitely lean into my emotions but I'm always like like okay God are you know always like like okay God are you know always like like okay God are you know kind of filtering it through you know kind of filtering it through you know kind of filtering it through you know through him. Um I feel like through him. Um I feel like through him. Um I feel like >> and it's stem from that prayer Lord over >> and it's stem from that prayer Lord over >> and it's stem from that prayer Lord over my emotions. my emotions. my emotions. >> Love that. >> Love that. >> Love that. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> I can tend to I would say my struggle is >> I can tend to I would say my struggle is >> I can tend to I would say my struggle is I tend to modulate my emotions too much I tend to modulate my emotions too much I tend to modulate my emotions too much based on environment of what I what I based on environment of what I what I based on environment of what I what I perceive to be appropriate. perceive to be appropriate. perceive to be appropriate. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> You know it's like a like oh like and I >> You know it's like a like oh like and I >> You know it's like a like oh like and I think that leads to some inauthenticity think that leads to some inauthenticity think that leads to some inauthenticity sometimes. it leads to some like maybe sometimes. it leads to some like maybe sometimes. it leads to some like maybe overprotecting myself. And overprotecting myself. And overprotecting myself. And >> that's why as uh >> that's why as uh >> that's why as uh >> this chapter kind of sticks out to me in >> this chapter kind of sticks out to me in >> this chapter kind of sticks out to me in a way because a way because a way because >> Joseph doesn't do that. >> Joseph doesn't do that. >> Joseph doesn't do that. >> He is completely unashamed. Can I can I >> He is completely unashamed. Can I can I >> He is completely unashamed. Can I can I Bible nerd out for like a second Bible nerd out for like a second Bible nerd out for like a second >> please? >> please? >> please? >> Um the the scripture specifically calls >> Um the the scripture specifically calls >> Um the the scripture specifically calls out that the Egyptians heard him and out that the Egyptians heard him and out that the Egyptians heard him and Pharaoh's household knew. Yes. Pharaoh's household knew. Yes. Pharaoh's household knew. Yes. >> And I think that they call that out >> And I think that they call that out >> And I think that they call that out because in Egyptian culture, an Egyptian because in Egyptian culture, an Egyptian because in Egyptian culture, an Egyptian ruler is supposed to be stoic and ruler is supposed to be stoic and ruler is supposed to be stoic and project divine perfection. Right.

project divine perfection. Right. project divine perfection. Right. >> All their art is stoic. doesn't like you >> All their art is stoic. doesn't like you >> All their art is stoic. doesn't like you look at a Greek art a Greek statue it's look at a Greek art a Greek statue it's look at a Greek art a Greek statue it's like the face is contorted with grief like the face is contorted with grief like the face is contorted with grief and rage and passion and Egyptian art and rage and passion and Egyptian art and rage and passion and Egyptian art it's all it's all it's all >> everybody's just one expression and so >> everybody's just one expression and so >> everybody's just one expression and so Joseph was completely bucking every Joseph was completely bucking every Joseph was completely bucking every societal expectation like and and and societal expectation like and and and societal expectation like and and and potentially I mean that would disrupt potentially I mean that would disrupt potentially I mean that would disrupt his ability to command in his position his ability to command in his position his ability to command in his position >> and he did not care he's like I am just >> and he did not care he's like I am just >> and he did not care he's like I am just going to show you guys all this builtup going to show you guys all this builtup going to show you guys all this builtup emotion emotion emotion >> because that joy and that grief mixed >> because that joy and that grief mixed >> because that joy and that grief mixed together I think together I think together I think >> I think David Kler said this grief >> I think David Kler said this grief >> I think David Kler said this grief demands a witness. demands a witness. demands a witness. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> And he's and he's letting everybody >> And he's and he's letting everybody >> And he's and he's letting everybody witness everything that he's feeling and witness everything that he's feeling and witness everything that he's feeling and just how special that is. just how special that is. just how special that is. >> Well, that's powerful. >> Well, that's powerful. >> Well, that's powerful. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Wow. That's powerful. >> Wow. That's powerful. >> Wow. That's powerful. >> Thanks for sharing that. That is really >> Thanks for sharing that. That is really >> Thanks for sharing that. That is really good. [laughter] good. [laughter] good. [laughter] >> I was not expecting that. >> I was not expecting that. >> I was not expecting that. >> That's why we tuned in, right? >> That's why we tuned in, right? >> That's why we tuned in, right? Absolutely. Look, I'm so Yes. [laughter] Absolutely. Look, I'm so Yes. [laughter] Absolutely. Look, I'm so Yes. [laughter] >> Yeah, >> Yeah, >> Yeah, >> that's good. I'm a natural suppressor. >> that's good. I'm a natural suppressor. >> that's good. I'm a natural suppressor. Like I I suppress my emotions at a Like I I suppress my emotions at a Like I I suppress my emotions at a fault. And I think similar to what you fault. And I think similar to what you fault. And I think similar to what you said, like I learned so much in in my said, like I learned so much in in my said, like I learned so much in in my marriage because it's like a mirror. I'm marriage because it's like a mirror. I'm marriage because it's like a mirror. I'm like, I didn't even know that I did that like, I didn't even know that I did that like, I didn't even know that I did that until I, you know, started dating my until I, you know, started dating my until I, you know, started dating my husband and now we're married and husband and now we're married and husband and now we're married and learning so much about about my emotions learning so much about about my emotions learning so much about about my emotions and how like it's unhealthy to like not and how like it's unhealthy to like not and how like it's unhealthy to like not be open. And I I love this chapter too be open. And I I love this chapter too be open. And I I love this chapter too because because because >> and even we see throughout the Bible, we >> and even we see throughout the Bible, we >> and even we see throughout the Bible, we see Jesus weeping. We see we see people see Jesus weeping. We see we see people see Jesus weeping. We see we see people showing their emotions. Absolutely.

showing their emotions. Absolutely. showing their emotions. Absolutely. >> And and I think it's a beautiful thing. >> And and I think it's a beautiful thing. >> And and I think it's a beautiful thing. So, yeah, So, yeah, So, yeah, >> that's good. That's good. >> that's good. That's good. >> that's good. That's good. >> I'm glad we talked about that. >> I'm glad we talked about that. >> I'm glad we talked about that. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> I'm glad we talked about emotions. You >> I'm glad we talked about emotions. You >> I'm glad we talked about emotions. You [clears throat] know, there there's a [clears throat] know, there there's a [clears throat] know, there there's a redemption story that's playing out redemption story that's playing out redemption story that's playing out here. here. here. >> And so, I wonder where where have you >> And so, I wonder where where have you >> And so, I wonder where where have you seen that in your life? Where have you seen that in your life? Where have you seen that in your life? Where have you seen God redeem seen God redeem seen God redeem >> over the long haul, >> over the long haul, >> over the long haul, >> even hard, difficult things in your >> even hard, difficult things in your >> even hard, difficult things in your life? life? life? >> Yeah. I feel like I always keep pointing >> Yeah. I feel like I always keep pointing >> Yeah. I feel like I always keep pointing to this, but I think just my role now, to this, but I think just my role now, to this, but I think just my role now, you know, as um you know, as um you know, as um >> the prison director and just my whole >> the prison director and just my whole >> the prison director and just my whole life now, like just everything that life now, like just everything that life now, like just everything that >> that that that I, you know, from my wife >> that that that I, you know, from my wife >> that that that I, you know, from my wife to our family. Um to our family. Um to our family. Um >> just not anything that like I would say >> just not anything that like I would say >> just not anything that like I would say like I pursued or went after, but it was like I pursued or went after, but it was like I pursued or went after, but it was like this was God's plan. And I'm always like this was God's plan. And I'm always like this was God's plan. And I'm always like I always reflect and I'm like, like I always reflect and I'm like, like I always reflect and I'm like, "God, I can't believe this is the life I "God, I can't believe this is the life I "God, I can't believe this is the life I was running from all of these years." was running from all of these years." was running from all of these years." You know what I'm saying? As I was You know what I'm saying? As I was You know what I'm saying? As I was trying to do things my own way. trying to do things my own way. trying to do things my own way. >> And I didn't have to settle with like >> And I didn't have to settle with like >> And I didn't have to settle with like your consolation prize when I finally your consolation prize when I finally your consolation prize when I finally decide to like, decide to like, decide to like, >> you know, >> you know, >> you know, >> begin walking with you. It's not like, >> begin walking with you. It's not like, >> begin walking with you. It's not like, "Okay, well, you blew it, so now you "Okay, well, you blew it, so now you "Okay, well, you blew it, so now you just get Yeah. You know what I'm saying?

just get Yeah. You know what I'm saying? just get Yeah. You know what I'm saying? It's like you you you placed your best It's like you you you placed your best It's like you you you placed your best for me exactly where you knew I would for me exactly where you knew I would for me exactly where you knew I would end up. And I get to live that now in end up. And I get to live that now in end up. And I get to live that now in spite of all of the mistakes I've made spite of all of the mistakes I've made spite of all of the mistakes I've made and all of the reason I would have, you and all of the reason I would have, you and all of the reason I would have, you know, I've given you to not allow me to, know, I've given you to not allow me to, know, I've given you to not allow me to, you know, experience this and live this. you know, experience this and live this. you know, experience this and live this. So So So >> yeah, man. >> yeah, man. >> yeah, man. >> Not even in spite of, but in some reason >> Not even in spite of, but in some reason >> Not even in spite of, but in some reason because because because >> because of Yeah, absolutely. >> because of Yeah, absolutely. >> because of Yeah, absolutely. >> I mean, God's redemption. That's the >> I mean, God's redemption. That's the >> I mean, God's redemption. That's the thing that's amazing with God's thing that's amazing with God's thing that's amazing with God's redemption. It's like, no, no, I'm using redemption. It's like, no, no, I'm using redemption. It's like, no, no, I'm using that, too. I'm gonna use that, too. that, too. I'm gonna use that, too. that, too. I'm gonna use that, too. >> That's something in our earlier >> That's something in our earlier >> That's something in our earlier conversations you pointed out to me. I'm conversations you pointed out to me. I'm conversations you pointed out to me. I'm Yeah, cuz that sticks with me, too, bro. Yeah, cuz that sticks with me, too, bro. Yeah, cuz that sticks with me, too, bro. I'm like, wow. Yes. He just redeemed it, I'm like, wow. Yes. He just redeemed it, I'm like, wow. Yes. He just redeemed it, man. Yeah. Yeah. man. Yeah. Yeah. man. Yeah. Yeah. >> So, >> So, >> So, >> he doesn't waste anything. >> he doesn't waste anything. >> he doesn't waste anything. >> He does not waste anything. >> He does not waste anything. >> He does not waste anything. >> He doesn't He doesn't waste anything. I >> He doesn't He doesn't waste anything. I >> He doesn't He doesn't waste anything. I mean, I'm even thinking about I just I mean, I'm even thinking about I just I mean, I'm even thinking about I just I just led at our high school camp, you just led at our high school camp, you just led at our high school camp, you know, got a group of boys that I'm you know, got a group of boys that I'm you know, got a group of boys that I'm you know, include my son. You my son know, include my son. You my son know, include my son. You my son >> and I was even just thinking like all >> and I was even just thinking like all >> and I was even just thinking like all they wanted to talk about was girls, they wanted to talk about was girls, they wanted to talk about was girls, right? [laughter] right? [laughter] right? [laughter] >> And, you know, pretty typical. And >> And, you know, pretty typical. And >> And, you know, pretty typical. And >> I could share I mean, I I I have a story >> I could share I mean, I I I have a story >> I could share I mean, I I I have a story with that and and it's not all good, with that and and it's not all good, with that and and it's not all good, [laughter] but God can redeem it. And [laughter] but God can redeem it. And [laughter] but God can redeem it. And it's like I can I can I can show like oh it's like I can I can I can show like oh it's like I can I can I can show like oh I can relate to this. I was this is what I can relate to this. I was this is what I can relate to this. I was this is what I was doing in high school. Like I can I was doing in high school. Like I can I was doing in high school. Like I can >> I I feel I feel they know that I'm not >> I I feel I feel they know that I'm not >> I I feel I feel they know that I'm not just speaking out of a place of theory, just speaking out of a place of theory, just speaking out of a place of theory, but like I'm speaking out of a place of but like I'm speaking out of a place of but like I'm speaking out of a place of personal experience and it adds weight personal experience and it adds weight personal experience and it adds weight and and and >> it felt so terrible at the time, but now >> it felt so terrible at the time, but now >> it felt so terrible at the time, but now it's like it's it's become a source of it's like it's it's become a source of it's like it's it's become a source of ministry and I just I can't uh I can't ministry and I just I can't uh I can't ministry and I just I can't uh I can't thank him enough for that. So thank him enough for that. So thank him enough for that. So >> man, >> man, >> man, >> yeah, it's like it gives purpose to all >> yeah, it's like it gives purpose to all >> yeah, it's like it gives purpose to all of that. Whenever you get to like of that. Whenever you get to like of that. Whenever you get to like someone else in this season now, like it

someone else in this season now, like it someone else in this season now, like it gives so much purpose. gives so much purpose. gives so much purpose. >> And that's what that's the question >> And that's what that's the question >> And that's what that's the question every philosopher through all of every philosopher through all of every philosopher through all of history. It's like, what is the meaning history. It's like, what is the meaning history. It's like, what is the meaning of life? What's our purpose? How do we of life? What's our purpose? How do we of life? What's our purpose? How do we find meaning? Like that's what find meaning? Like that's what find meaning? Like that's what everyone's always asking. And God's everyone's always asking. And God's everyone's always asking. And God's like, I got the answer. like, I got the answer. like, I got the answer. >> You guys want it. I got the answer. You >> You guys want it. I got the answer. You >> You guys want it. I got the answer. You know, know, know, >> generous, [laughter] right? >> generous, [laughter] right? >> generous, [laughter] right? >> Amen. You were wondering. >> Amen. You were wondering. >> Amen. You were wondering. >> Yeah. That's so good. Oh, >> Yeah. That's so good. Oh, >> Yeah. That's so good. Oh, >> yeah. >> yeah. >> yeah. >> Man, I also think there's something in >> Man, I also think there's something in >> Man, I also think there's something in here about forgiveness. You know, Joseph here about forgiveness. You know, Joseph here about forgiveness. You know, Joseph Jo, because Joseph forgave, and I tr Jo, because Joseph forgave, and I tr Jo, because Joseph forgave, and I tr truly believe he forgave his brothers truly believe he forgave his brothers truly believe he forgave his brothers when he's weeping over each of them. when he's weeping over each of them. when he's weeping over each of them. Like, that's powerful. Like, that's powerful. Like, that's powerful. >> I think it's because he forgave them. >> I think it's because he forgave them. >> I think it's because he forgave them. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Um, why is forgiveness so hard? And what >> Um, why is forgiveness so hard? And what >> Um, why is forgiveness so hard? And what does it take to to genuinely forgive? does it take to to genuinely forgive? does it take to to genuinely forgive? >> Gosh. >> Gosh. >> Gosh. >> Well, you got to It's not It's not about >> Well, you got to It's not It's not about >> Well, you got to It's not It's not about the other person at all. It's about you. the other person at all. It's about you. the other person at all. It's about you. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Forgiveness is a gift that you give to >> Forgiveness is a gift that you give to >> Forgiveness is a gift that you give to yourself. yourself. yourself. >> It's >> It's >> It's >> Say that again. [laughter] >> Say that again. [laughter] >> Say that again. [laughter] >> Forgiveness is a gift you give to >> Forgiveness is a gift you give to >> Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. I mean, and it it's all about yourself. I mean, and it it's all about yourself. I mean, and it it's all about your own heart transformation. Like, your own heart transformation. Like, your own heart transformation. Like, there are so many people in my life that there are so many people in my life that there are so many people in my life that I will never get an explanation for for I will never get an explanation for for I will never get an explanation for for what they did. I will never get an what they did. I will never get an what they did. I will never get an apology from them. I will never like it apology from them. I will never like it apology from them. I will never like it like forgiveness is not a reaction to like forgiveness is not a reaction to like forgiveness is not a reaction to them. It's a it's it's a it's a it's a them. It's a it's it's a it's a it's a them. It's a it's it's a it's a it's a welling of of the healing and grieving welling of of the healing and grieving welling of of the healing and grieving and love that God what's working on and love that God what's working on and love that God what's working on inside of you. And so, inside of you. And so, inside of you. And so, >> and and yeah, it's it's it's a it's a >> and and yeah, it's it's it's a it's a >> and and yeah, it's it's it's a it's a blessing to you. And it can be a blessing to you. And it can be a blessing to you. And it can be a blessing to others, but don't make it blessing to others, but don't make it blessing to others, but don't make it about the other person. That's that's about the other person. That's that's about the other person. That's that's that's my that's my that's my >> I love that thing.

>> I love that thing. >> I love that thing. >> I I love in the story that >> I I love in the story that >> I I love in the story that >> like Joseph didn't like, you know, >> like Joseph didn't like, you know, >> like Joseph didn't like, you know, demand answers before he like showed demand answers before he like showed demand answers before he like showed forgiveness. He's like, "Why?" He just forgiveness. He's like, "Why?" He just forgiveness. He's like, "Why?" He just >> showed forgiveness. And I find that hard >> showed forgiveness. And I find that hard >> showed forgiveness. And I find that hard for me cuz I'm that way where I'm like, for me cuz I'm that way where I'm like, for me cuz I'm that way where I'm like, "Before I can forgive you, you need to "Before I can forgive you, you need to "Before I can forgive you, you need to like explain everything and then I can like explain everything and then I can like explain everything and then I can forgive you." [laughter] It's like a forgive you." [laughter] It's like a forgive you." [laughter] It's like a transactional thing. transactional thing. transactional thing. >> Then I will evaluate. >> Then I will evaluate. >> Then I will evaluate. >> Yeah. And then I'll let you know. But >> Yeah. And then I'll let you know. But >> Yeah. And then I'll let you know. But like it's such a powerful thing that like it's such a powerful thing that like it's such a powerful thing that like Joseph is like, I don't even need like Joseph is like, I don't even need like Joseph is like, I don't even need to know why. like he he has such a God to know why. like he he has such a God to know why. like he he has such a God perspective and he's like I know why perspective and he's like I know why perspective and he's like I know why even God didn't like God even allowed even God didn't like God even allowed even God didn't like God even allowed for this to happen. And so that's just for this to happen. And so that's just for this to happen. And so that's just like dang I I feel like I miss that a like dang I I feel like I miss that a like dang I I feel like I miss that a lot. Um lot. Um lot. Um >> and I I operate in this like fleshly >> and I I operate in this like fleshly >> and I I operate in this like fleshly thinking of like how I deliver thinking of like how I deliver thinking of like how I deliver forgiveness and how I should. So forgiveness and how I should. So forgiveness and how I should. So >> yeah, >> yeah, >> yeah, >> man, it is funny cuz even in the story, >> man, it is funny cuz even in the story, >> man, it is funny cuz even in the story, I mean he says to him like don't beat I mean he says to him like don't beat I mean he says to him like don't beat yourself up, yourself up, yourself up, >> you [laughter] know, like don't beat he >> you [laughter] know, like don't beat he >> you [laughter] know, like don't beat he knows like where they're coming from. knows like where they're coming from. knows like where they're coming from. >> And there's just a freedom that comes. I >> And there's just a freedom that comes. I >> And there's just a freedom that comes. I love what you said. Forgiveness is a love what you said. Forgiveness is a love what you said. Forgiveness is a gift not for others but for you. gift not for others but for you. gift not for others but for you. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Um yeah, there there's probably a place >> Um yeah, there there's probably a place >> Um yeah, there there's probably a place in all of us. I know for me I'm thinking in all of us. I know for me I'm thinking in all of us. I know for me I'm thinking about particularly um family about particularly um family about particularly um family relationships where it seems like it can relationships where it seems like it can relationships where it seems like it can be really hard to forgive.

be really hard to forgive. be really hard to forgive. >> And it goes back to what you said cuz >> And it goes back to what you said cuz >> And it goes back to what you said cuz I'm not sure they're going to change, I'm not sure they're going to change, I'm not sure they're going to change, [laughter] [laughter] [laughter] >> right? >> right? >> right? >> I might get hurt again. >> I might get hurt again. >> I might get hurt again. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Um Yeah. >> Um Yeah. >> Um Yeah. >> And yet as God has kind of put me in >> And yet as God has kind of put me in >> And yet as God has kind of put me in places of saying like but I call you to places of saying like but I call you to places of saying like but I call you to forgive. forgive. forgive. >> Yeah. I do keep coming back to this one >> Yeah. I do keep coming back to this one >> Yeah. I do keep coming back to this one thing which is like when I remember how thing which is like when I remember how thing which is like when I remember how much I have been forgiven much I have been forgiven much I have been forgiven >> you know Jesus talks about this stories >> you know Jesus talks about this stories >> you know Jesus talks about this stories about this when I remember how much I about this when I remember how much I about this when I remember how much I have been forgiving have been forgiving have been forgiving >> that's the thing that at the end of the >> that's the thing that at the end of the >> that's the thing that at the end of the day day day >> allows me to say you know what >> allows me to say you know what >> allows me to say you know what >> I will extend >> I will extend >> I will extend >> forgiveness and so whenever I'm stuck >> forgiveness and so whenever I'm stuck >> forgiveness and so whenever I'm stuck >> what God always points me to is I just >> what God always points me to is I just >> what God always points me to is I just gently gently gently >> lovingly want you to see >> lovingly want you to see >> lovingly want you to see >> how much I've forgiven you of Yeah. >> how much I've forgiven you of Yeah. >> how much I've forgiven you of Yeah. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. >> And weigh that against holding this >> And weigh that against holding this >> And weigh that against holding this offense, [laughter] offense, [laughter] offense, [laughter] >> little offense over a person. >> little offense over a person. >> little offense over a person. [clears throat] [clears throat] [clears throat] >> Um, it's a sobering but beautiful thing. >> Um, it's a sobering but beautiful thing. >> Um, it's a sobering but beautiful thing. >> It is. >> It is. >> It is. >> Um, and I think forgiveness is that it's >> Um, and I think forgiveness is that it's >> Um, and I think forgiveness is that it's a sobering but beautiful thing. So, a sobering but beautiful thing. So, a sobering but beautiful thing. So, we're I think we're out of time, but we're I think we're out of time, but we're I think we're out of time, but man, this is great. We could we could man, this is great. We could we could man, this is great. We could we could talk about redemption and forgiveness talk about redemption and forgiveness talk about redemption and forgiveness for an entire [laughter] week, right? for an entire [laughter] week, right? for an entire [laughter] week, right? Um, but I hope you've been blessed Um, but I hope you've been blessed Um, but I hope you've been blessed today.