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>> Hey, >> Hey, hey, hey. >> Welcome to Battle Creek Church. We exist >> Welcome to Battle Creek Church. We exist to [music] glorify God by helping all to [music] glorify God by helping all to [music] glorify God by helping all people of all ages advance in their people of all ages advance in their people of all ages advance in their journey with Christ. And that includes journey with Christ. And that includes journey with Christ. And that includes [music] you. With campuses across [music] you. With campuses across [music] you. With campuses across Oklahoma and international partners in Oklahoma and international partners in Oklahoma and international partners in Egypt and Jordan, we are [music] Egypt and Jordan, we are [music] Egypt and Jordan, we are [music] passionate about helping people take passionate about helping people take passionate about helping people take their next step with Jesus.

their next step with Jesus. their next step with Jesus. Wherever [music] you are in your faith, Wherever [music] you are in your faith, Wherever [music] you are in your faith, we believe God is inviting you to move we believe God is inviting you to move we believe God is inviting you to move closer to him. closer to him. closer to him. We are committed to serving our [music] We are committed to serving our [music] We are committed to serving our [music] community and meeting real needs. community and meeting real needs. community and meeting real needs. Through our local outreach partners, we Through our local outreach partners, we Through our local outreach partners, we care for families, support those in care for families, support those in care for families, support those in crisis, [music] and come alongside crisis, [music] and come alongside crisis, [music] and come alongside people throughout greater Tulsa. We people throughout greater Tulsa. We people throughout greater Tulsa. We believe the church should be a place believe the church should be a place believe the church should be a place [music] that brings hope, help, and the [music] that brings hope, help, and the [music] that brings hope, help, and the love of Christ to the community around love of Christ to the community around love of Christ to the community around us. Around the world, our international us. Around the world, our international us. Around the world, our international partners [music] in the Middle East are partners [music] in the Middle East are partners [music] in the Middle East are serving their communities, supporting serving their communities, supporting serving their communities, supporting refugees, and sharing the hope of refugees, and sharing the hope of refugees, and sharing the hope of Christ. They are also [music] leading Christ. They are also [music] leading Christ. They are also [music] leading recovery programs where people are recovery programs where people are recovery programs where people are finding real freedom, healing, [music] finding real freedom, healing, [music] finding real freedom, healing, [music] and restoration through Jesus. We and restoration through Jesus. We and restoration through Jesus. We believe every person matters. Through believe every person matters. Through believe every person matters. Through our Haven Ministry, we honor and [music] our Haven Ministry, we honor and [music] our Haven Ministry, we honor and [music] support individuals with special needs support individuals with special needs support individuals with special needs and their families, making sure everyone and their families, making sure everyone and their families, making sure everyone has a place to belong. We are so has a place to belong. We are so has a place to belong. We are so passionate about [music] reaching the passionate about [music] reaching the passionate about [music] reaching the next generation. Our kids ministry helps next generation. Our kids ministry helps next generation. Our kids ministry helps children build a lifelong foundation of children build a lifelong foundation of children build a lifelong foundation of faith in Jesus. And our students are faith in Jesus. And our students are faith in Jesus. And our students are encouraged [music] to live out their encouraged [music] to live out their encouraged [music] to live out their faith each and every week. Our young faith each and every week. Our young faith each and every week. Our young adults are building community and adults are building community and adults are building community and stepping into their purpose. Every stepping into their purpose. Every stepping into their purpose. Every [music] weekend we gather for powerful [music] weekend we gather for powerful [music] weekend we gather for powerful worship and biblical teaching as we grow worship and biblical teaching as we grow worship and biblical teaching as we grow together in our faith. And throughout together in our faith. And throughout together in our faith. And throughout [music] the week, community groups [music] the week, community groups [music] the week, community groups create space for real relationships, create space for real relationships, create space for real relationships, while Celebrate Recovery offers [music] while Celebrate Recovery offers [music] while Celebrate Recovery offers [music] hope and healing for those walking hope and healing for those walking hope and healing for those walking through life struggles.

through life struggles. through life struggles. This is a place for you and your family. This is a place for you and your family. This is a place for you and your family. But it's more than that. [music] We're But it's more than that. [music] We're But it's more than that. [music] We're on a mission to reach Tulsa, America, on a mission to reach Tulsa, America, on a mission to reach Tulsa, America, and the world with the hope of Jesus. and the world with the hope of Jesus. and the world with the hope of Jesus. [music] [music] [music] We're so glad you're here, and we We're so glad you're here, and we We're so glad you're here, and we believe God has a place for you in what believe God has a place for you in what believe God has a place for you in what he's doing through this church. he's doing through this church. he's doing through this church. >> [music] >> [music] >> [music] >> Welcome to Battle Creek Church. >> Welcome to Battle Creek Church. >> Welcome to Battle Creek Church. >> Battle Creek, we're so glad you guys are >> Battle Creek, we're so glad you guys are >> Battle Creek, we're so glad you guys are here with [music] us. Let's stand and here with [music] us. Let's stand and here with [music] us. Let's stand and worship together. I felt the hands that bear [music] the I felt the hands that bear [music] the scars reach down and rescue me. I have scars reach down and rescue me. I have scars reach down and rescue me. I have known [music] the love of the father's known [music] the love of the father's known [music] the love of the father's heart. A prodal now redeemed. From where heart. A prodal now redeemed. From where heart. A prodal now redeemed. From where [music] I was to where I'm now the more and more the more and more see you move see you move see you move all around me.

all around me. all around me. I [music] can't help but I [music] can't help but I [music] can't help but praise you. praise you. praise you. Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] [music] [music] Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] [music] You love You love You love I can't help but this cuz I'm free. Got I can't help but this cuz I'm free. Got I can't help but this cuz I'm free. Got no chains [music] on me. I feel no chains [music] on me. I feel no chains [music] on me. I feel everything call on the name that my sh [music] call on the name that my sh [music] [singing] [singing] [singing] I can't help but cuz I'm free. Got no I can't help but cuz I'm free. Got no I can't help but cuz I'm free. Got no chains on me. I'm everything. [music] chains on me. I'm everything. [music] chains on me. I'm everything. [music] Heat. Heat. [music] [music] >> I can't Praise you. [music]

Praise you. [music] Praise you, Lord. Let's give him [music] praise. Give him Let's give him [music] praise. Give him praise this morning. [music] [music] We learned this new song last week and We learned this new song last week and We learned this new song last week and we're going to sing it again this we're going to sing it again this we're going to sing it again this morning. to just turn your heart to morning. to just turn your heart to morning. to just turn your heart to [music] a posture of worship. Thank you, Jesus. [music] Thank you, Jesus. [music] Thank you, Jesus. Thank you, Jesus. Thank you, Jesus. [music] You're worthy. You're worthy. You're [music] worthy. You're [music] worthy. You're [music] worthy. With arms wide open, With arms wide open, With arms wide open, thank you. [music] thank you. [music] thank you. [music] Let's sing this. Let's sing this. Let's sing this. Cuz I left my father when I was young. [music] [music] Wanted the world. So I spent it all.

Wanted the world. So I spent it all. Wanted the world. So I spent it all. [music] Was under the roof of my Was under the roof of my [music and singing] father's home. [music and singing] father's home. [music and singing] father's home. Nobody's Nobody's Nobody's [music and singing] never broke a [music and singing] never broke a [music and singing] never broke a promise. promise. promise. Listen, cuz he's [music] calling. Listen, cuz he's [music] calling. Listen, cuz he's [music] calling. Jesus says he wants you. He's [music] a Jesus says he wants you. He's [music] a Jesus says he wants you. He's [music] a forgiving God. [singing] He's a [music] forgiving God. We're He's a [music] forgiving God. We're going to sing that this morning. He's a going to sing that this morning. He's a going to sing that this morning. He's a forgiving God. Yes, he is. forgiving God. Yes, he is. forgiving God. Yes, he is. He's a [music] forgiving God. No matter He's a [music] forgiving God. No matter He's a [music] forgiving God. No matter what you brought in here, come on. what you brought in here, come on. what you brought in here, come on. [music] [music] [music] He's a forgiving. No matter what you're He's a forgiving. No matter what you're He's a forgiving. No matter what you're carrying, [music] carrying, [music] carrying, [music] he's a forgiving God.

he's a forgiving God. he's a forgiving God. He's [music] a forgiving God. And I've sinned against him more ways And I've sinned against him more ways [music] than one. I [music] didn't deserve to be called I [music] didn't deserve to be called son. son. son. [music] There's no greater love than I've ever There's no greater love than I've ever known. known. known. [music] My father and [singing] myself. My father and [singing] myself. Come on and sing it. Cuz he's [music] Come on and sing it. Cuz he's [music] Come on and sing it. Cuz he's [music] never broken promise. never broken promise. never broken promise. [music] [music] [music] Cuz he's calling. Cuz he's calling. Cuz he's calling. Jesus says he [music] want you. He's a Jesus says he [music] want you. He's a Jesus says he [music] want you. He's a forgiving God. forgiving God. forgiving God. [music] [music] [music] No longer have to No longer have to No longer have to call. [music] After all, he's a father. He's a After all, he's a father. He's a forgiving God. [music] >> He's a forgiving God.

>> He's a forgiving God. >> He's a forgiving God. [music] >> He's been sitting on the porch waiting. >> He's been sitting on the porch waiting. cuz never left his heart. He's always cuz never left his heart. He's always cuz never left his heart. He's always thinking of you. [music] He'll come thinking of you. [music] He'll come thinking of you. [music] He'll come running out to meet you and throw his running out to meet you and throw his running out to meet you and throw his arms around you. Come on. He's a arms around you. Come on. He's a arms around you. Come on. He's a forgiving God. [music and singing] Yes. forgiving God. [music and singing] Yes. forgiving God. [music and singing] Yes. He's been on the page when you're He's been on the page when you're He's been on the page when you're never never never thinking [music] of you. He come running thinking [music] of you. He come running thinking [music] of you. He come running out to meet you. He's always around out to meet you. He's always around out to meet you. He's always around [music] you. He's a forever. Heat.

Heat. [music] forgiving [music] God forgiving [music] God is he is he is [music] is he is he is [music] is he is he is [music] waiting. waiting. waiting. He's waiting. He's waiting. He's waiting. [music] You've been out on your own. [music] Now You've been out on your own. [music] Now it's time to come home. Just [singing] it's time to come home. Just [singing] it's time to come home. Just [singing] run to Jesus. run to Jesus. run to Jesus. [music] [music] [music] Just run to Jesus. Just run to Jesus. Just run to Jesus. Just [music] run to Jesus. [singing] Just [music] run to Jesus. [singing] Just [music] run to Jesus. [singing] You've been [music] out on your own. Now You've been [music] out on your own. Now You've been [music] out on your own. Now it's time to come home. Just run to it's time to come home. Just run to it's time to come home. Just run to [music] Jesus. [music] Just run to Jesus.

[music] Just run to Jesus. You've been out [music] on your own. Now You've been out [music] on your own. Now You've been out [music] on your own. Now it's time to come home. Just right Jesus it's time to come home. Just right Jesus it's time to come home. Just right Jesus the other morning. the other morning. the other morning. Just right. [music] Just right. [music] Just right. [music] He's waiting. He's waiting. He's waiting. He's waiting. He's waiting. He's waiting. to Jesus. to Jesus. to Jesus. [music] You may on [singing] your own. You [music] You [music] on your own now. Come on. Come on. Heat. Heat. [music] Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] Jesus.

Jesus. [music] [music] [music] Just run to Jesus. Never broke a promise. Never broke a promise. Listen, cuz he's calling. Listen, cuz he's calling. Listen, cuz he's calling. Jesus says he wants you. He's a Jesus says he wants you. He's a Jesus says he wants you. He's a forgiving God. No [singing] longer have to wonder No [singing] longer have to wonder calling sons and daughterers. calling sons and daughterers. calling sons and daughterers. After all, he is the father. He's a After all, he is the father. He's a After all, he is the father. He's a forgiving God. forgiving God. forgiving God. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. [music] Well, Battle Creek, it is so good to see Well, Battle Creek, it is so good to see you today. I [music] just love how we you today. I [music] just love how we you today. I [music] just love how we get to come together and worship the get to come together and worship the get to come together and worship the King of Kings, the one that calls us King of Kings, the one that calls us King of Kings, the one that calls us sons and daughters. I just want to take sons and daughters. I just want to take sons and daughters. I just want to take a moment to invite you to one of our a moment to invite you to one of our a moment to invite you to one of our worship nights on [music] August 5th.

worship nights on [music] August 5th. worship nights on [music] August 5th. It's such a great opportunity for us to It's such a great opportunity for us to It's such a great opportunity for us to start in this new season [music] start in this new season [music] start in this new season [music] together praising their king, asking for together praising their king, asking for together praising their king, asking for healing, and coming together, walking healing, and coming together, walking healing, and coming together, walking alongside each other in prayer. I want alongside each other in prayer. I want alongside each other in prayer. I want to encourage you that when two or more to encourage you that when two or more to encourage you that when two or more are gathered in his name, that [music] are gathered in his name, that [music] are gathered in his name, that [music] we can be confident that he is with us. we can be confident that he is with us. we can be confident that he is with us. And so, no matter what you're going And so, no matter what you're going And so, no matter what you're going through, just like we sang, he is a through, just like we sang, he is a through, just like we sang, he is a forgiving [music] father just waiting forgiving [music] father just waiting forgiving [music] father just waiting for you to run back into his arms. So, for you to run back into his arms. So, for you to run back into his arms. So, no matter what you're going through, I no matter what you're going through, I no matter what you're going through, I hope that you get to come [music] and hope that you get to come [music] and hope that you get to come [music] and make it on August 5th, that we can just make it on August 5th, that we can just make it on August 5th, that we can just walk life together, that you do not have walk life together, that you do not have walk life together, that you do not have to be alone [music] in this new season. to be alone [music] in this new season. to be alone [music] in this new season. So, let's just take a moment and I'm So, let's just take a moment and I'm So, let's just take a moment and I'm going to pray over us before we continue going to pray over us before we continue going to pray over us before we continue in worship. Dear heavenly father, we in worship. Dear heavenly father, we in worship. Dear heavenly father, we thank you [music] that you are the God thank you [music] that you are the God thank you [music] that you are the God that sees us. We thank you that you are that sees us. We thank you that you are that sees us. We thank you that you are a forgiving father. that no matter what a forgiving father. that no matter what a forgiving father. that no matter what happens in our life [music] that we happens in our life [music] that we happens in our life [music] that we always know that you are constant and we always know that you are constant and we always know that you are constant and we can run to you. That we can [music] look can run to you. That we can [music] look can run to you. That we can [music] look back on our lives and see your back on our lives and see your back on our lives and see your faithfulness and your gentle hand faithfulness and your gentle hand faithfulness and your gentle hand guiding us [music] through every single guiding us [music] through every single guiding us [music] through every single step. Lord, we thank you for your step. Lord, we thank you for your step. Lord, we thank you for your presence in Jesus name. Amen.

>> [music] >> [music] >> Holy Spirit, you are sasser, [singing] >> Holy Spirit, you are sasser, [singing] >> Holy Spirit, you are sasser, [singing] my [music] guide and comfort, never my [music] guide and comfort, never my [music] guide and comfort, never [singing] [singing] [singing] changing. You've [music] always been. changing. You've [music] always been. changing. You've [music] always been. You'll always be. So [music] how could I You'll always be. So [music] how could I You'll always be. So [music] how could I keep from singing? keep from singing? keep from singing? Jesus [singing] savior, you are [music] Jesus [singing] savior, you are [music] Jesus [singing] savior, you are [music] redeemer right here with [music] your people. right here with [music] your people. You've always [singing] been, you You've always [singing] been, you You've always [singing] been, you [music] [music] [music] could keep from seeing. Come on, lift up could keep from seeing. Come on, lift up could keep from seeing. Come on, lift up your hands. You're faithful. your hands. You're faithful. your hands. You're faithful. [music] [music] [music] Yes, he is so faithful. Looking back, [music and singing] Looking back, [music and singing] I see. Oh God, I believe I see. Oh God, I believe I see. Oh God, I believe that's who [music] you always [music] [music] so so so [singing] looking. [music] looking. [music] I can see. Oh, [singing] God. Believe I can see. Oh, [singing] God. Believe I can see. Oh, [singing] God. Believe [music] [music] [music] that's who you Crazy.

that's who you Crazy. that's who you Crazy. Oh, that's [music] Oh, that's [music] Oh, that's [music] you [singing] you [singing] you [singing] always. >> Take a look around >> Take a look around [music] [music] [music] for now. for now. for now. You see the same You see the same You see the same [music] take a look around. take a look around. >> [music] >> [music] >> [music] >> Now >> Now >> Now you stay the same and you'll never you stay the same and you'll never you stay the same and you'll never change. [music] How can I How can I say the [music] same?

You stay [music] the same. You stay [music] the same. You're so so [music and singing] I believe [music] I believe [music] that's who you [singing] [singing] [music] See, oh See, oh that's who you always. that's who you always. that's who you always. Oh, that's [music] who you always [music] You're so faithful.

[music] You're so faithful. Yes. Yes. Yes. [music] Looking like [singing] I can [music] Looking like [singing] I can [music] Looking like [singing] I can see. Oh, God. I believe see. Oh, God. I believe see. Oh, God. I believe that's who you always be. that's who you always be. that's who you always be. Yes, that's who [music and singing] you Yes, that's who [music and singing] you Yes, that's who [music and singing] you always be. always be. always be. Oh, that's who you always [music] be. Oh, that's who you always [music] be. Oh, that's who you always [music] be. Thank [singing] you, Jesus. Thank [singing] you, Jesus. Thank [singing] you, Jesus. We thank you, We thank you, We thank you, >> Jesus. Your [music] name is the highest. >> Jesus. Your [music] name is the highest. >> Jesus. Your [music] name is the highest. your name. Come on. Is your praise your name. Come on. Is your praise your name. Come on. Is your praise [music] [music] [music] your name. >> We're going to sing louder today. Come >> We're going to sing louder today. Come on. All [music] on. All [music] on. All [music] in in in all, your name [music] your name [music] is it stands above them all. Oh Jesus, is it stands above them all. Oh Jesus, is it stands above them all. Oh Jesus, [music] [music] [music] your name is the highest. Your name is your name is the highest. Your name is your name is the highest. Your name is [music] the greatest. Your name [music] the greatest. Your name [music] the greatest. Your name is is is Lord. He says Lord. He says Lord. He says [music] to me [music] [music] Christ.

[music] [music] to the king of kings. to the king of kings. to the king of kings. [music] You always be You always be [music] holy forever. holy forever. You will always be. You [music] will You will always be. You [music] will You will always be. You [music] will always be always be always be holy. holy. holy. [music] [music] [music] Holy forever. Holy forever. Holy forever. [music] Come on. Can we take a moment to [music] Come on. Can we take a moment to [music] Come on. Can we take a moment to give Jesus a big shout of praise, give Jesus a big shout of praise, give Jesus a big shout of praise, church? >> Dear heavenly father, we thank you Jesus >> Dear heavenly father, we thank you Jesus that you are King of Kings, God, that that you are King of Kings, God, that that you are King of Kings, God, that you are holy forever. [music] you are holy forever. [music] you are holy forever. [music] God, I just pray that you would just God, I just pray that you would just God, I just pray that you would just open up our eyes and our ears to hear open up our eyes and our ears to hear open up our eyes and our ears to hear you and see you more. That we would be you and see you more. That we would be you and see you more. That we would be able to take your truth, God, and plant able to take your truth, God, and plant able to take your truth, God, and plant it and that [music] it would flourish. it and that [music] it would flourish. it and that [music] it would flourish. God, we thank you so much for who you God, we thank you so much for who you God, we thank you so much for who you are. We thank you for all that you have are. We thank you for all that you have are. We thank you for all that you have done and what you have yet to do in done and what you have yet to do in done and what you have yet to do in Jesus' name. Amen. [music] Jesus' name. Amen. [music] Jesus' name. Amen. [music] Well, Bow Creek, you can turn to your Well, Bow Creek, you can turn to your Well, Bow Creek, you can turn to your neighbor, give him a high five, and you neighbor, give him a high five, and you neighbor, give him a high five, and you may be seated.

[music] [music] Well, hey and good morning and welcome Well, hey and good morning and welcome Well, hey and good morning and welcome to church today. Man, what a great time to church today. Man, what a great time to church today. Man, what a great time of worship. My name is Josiah Guardo and of worship. My name is Josiah Guardo and of worship. My name is Josiah Guardo and one of the uh things I love about our one of the uh things I love about our one of the uh things I love about our online community here is that we get to online community here is that we get to online community here is that we get to come together no matter where we're at come together no matter where we're at come together no matter where we're at in this world and come together and lock in this world and come together and lock in this world and come together and lock arms and worship the name of Jesus. It's arms and worship the name of Jesus. It's arms and worship the name of Jesus. It's one of my favorite things that we get to one of my favorite things that we get to one of my favorite things that we get to do uh on Sunday mornings is come do uh on Sunday mornings is come do uh on Sunday mornings is come together and lift up the name of Jesus, together and lift up the name of Jesus, together and lift up the name of Jesus, King of Kings [music] and Lord of Lords. King of Kings [music] and Lord of Lords. King of Kings [music] and Lord of Lords. Well, good morning. It's Sunday. It's so Well, good morning. It's Sunday. It's so Well, good morning. It's Sunday. It's so good to be in the house of the Lord and good to be in the house of the Lord and good to be in the house of the Lord and to be attending service with you today. to be attending service with you today. to be attending service with you today. And uh maybe this is your first time And uh maybe this is your first time And uh maybe this is your first time attending or maybe you've been attending attending or maybe you've been attending attending or maybe you've been attending for a while. I want to say welcome. I for a while. I want to say welcome. I for a while. I want to say welcome. I get to lead our online community here at get to lead our online community here at get to lead our online community here at Battle Creek Church. And if you don't Battle Creek Church. And if you don't Battle Creek Church. And if you don't know much about Battle Creek Church, let know much about Battle Creek Church, let know much about Battle Creek Church, let me start with this. Our mission is me start with this. Our mission is me start with this. Our mission is simple that we exist to glorify God by simple that we exist to glorify God by simple that we exist to glorify God by helping all people of all ages all the helping all people of all ages all the helping all people of all ages all the time advance in their journey with time advance in their journey with time advance in their journey with Christ. So, it doesn't matter if you've Christ. So, it doesn't matter if you've Christ. So, it doesn't matter if you've been a believer for 50 years or maybe been a believer for 50 years or maybe been a believer for 50 years or maybe you are are not a believer or maybe you you are are not a believer or maybe you you are are not a believer or maybe you are just became a believer and accepted are just became a believer and accepted are just became a believer and accepted Jesus into your heart. What I want to Jesus into your heart. What I want to Jesus into your heart. What I want to tell you is you're in the right place tell you is you're in the right place tell you is you're in the right place because we believe that we're on a because we believe that we're on a because we believe that we're on a journey and there's always a next step journey and there's always a next step journey and there's always a next step regardless of where [music] you're at in regardless of where [music] you're at in regardless of where [music] you're at in that journey. And so maybe today your that journey. And so maybe today your that journey. And so maybe today your next step is simple. It's to get next step is simple. It's to get next step is simple. It's to get connected here at Battle Creek Church.

connected here at Battle Creek Church. connected here at Battle Creek Church. And so, uh, right now they're putting in And so, uh, right now they're putting in And so, uh, right now they're putting in a connect card. I would love for you to a connect card. I would love for you to a connect card. I would love for you to fill that out and just let [music] us fill that out and just let [music] us fill that out and just let [music] us know what God is doing in your heart. know what God is doing in your heart. know what God is doing in your heart. myself or one of our team members would myself or one of our team members would myself or one of our team members would reach out to you and just get to hear reach out to you and just get to hear reach out to you and just get to hear your story and what God is doing there your story and what God is doing there your story and what God is doing there and seeing how we can come alongside you and seeing how we can come alongside you and seeing how we can come alongside you to help you advance in your journey to help you advance in your journey to help you advance in your journey [music] with Christ. But also on there I [music] with Christ. But also on there I [music] with Christ. But also on there I is a prayer request and so maybe you're is a prayer request and so maybe you're is a prayer request and so maybe you're a part of our team and you've been here a part of our team and you've been here a part of our team and you've been here uh but you haven't been able to to know uh but you haven't been able to to know uh but you haven't been able to to know that we have this. We would love for you that we have this. We would love for you that we have this. We would love for you to pray for you. Every week our staff to pray for you. Every week our staff to pray for you. Every week our staff gets around a table and prays by name gets around a table and prays by name gets around a table and prays by name for your prayer [music] requests, for your prayer [music] requests, for your prayer [music] requests, partnering in prayer with you. And so, partnering in prayer with you. And so, partnering in prayer with you. And so, uh, whether you're new and looking to uh, whether you're new and looking to uh, whether you're new and looking to get connected or or maybe you have a get connected or or maybe you have a get connected or or maybe you have a prayer request and just looking for prayer request and just looking for prayer request and just looking for somebody to come alongside you and pray somebody to come alongside you and pray somebody to come alongside you and pray for you, you can fill out that connect for you, you can fill out that connect for you, you can fill out that connect card or it's in the chat right now. We'd card or it's in the chat right now. We'd card or it's in the chat right now. We'd love to come alongside you, pray with love to come alongside you, pray with love to come alongside you, pray with you, and know that your church family is you, and know that your church family is you, and know that your church family is praying with you and believing with you praying with you and believing with you praying with you and believing with you for whatever you need God to do [music] for whatever you need God to do [music] for whatever you need God to do [music] in your life. Last week, I talked about in your life. Last week, I talked about in your life. Last week, I talked about that we had a team in Egypt. They're that we had a team in Egypt. They're that we had a team in Egypt. They're actually coming back today, and it was actually coming back today, and it was actually coming back today, and it was incredible. Our our student ministry, incredible. Our our student ministry, incredible. Our our student ministry, Battle Creek Students, was there. there.

Battle Creek Students, was there. there. Battle Creek Students, was there. there. They helped them with the youth camp and They helped them with the youth camp and They helped them with the youth camp and did some street ministry all around some did some street ministry all around some did some street ministry all around some of our branches there in Egypt and just of our branches there in Egypt and just of our branches there in Egypt and just God doing tremendous things. I'm excited God doing tremendous things. I'm excited God doing tremendous things. I'm excited to hear uh the stories. Uh my wife Delme to hear uh the stories. Uh my wife Delme to hear uh the stories. Uh my wife Delme actually is on that trip and so excited. actually is on that trip and so excited. actually is on that trip and so excited. I can't wait to see her and to hear all I can't wait to see her and to hear all I can't wait to see her and to hear all that God is doing in and God did all in that God is doing in and God did all in that God is doing in and God did all in and through [music] and through [music] and through [music] this trip. But church, I just want to this trip. But church, I just want to this trip. But church, I just want to say thank you. Thank you for believing say thank you. Thank you for believing say thank you. Thank you for believing in a mission that's big that that in a mission that's big that that in a mission that's big that that doesn't just encompass Tulsa, but doesn't just encompass Tulsa, but doesn't just encompass Tulsa, but America and the world. and and church, America and the world. and and church, America and the world. and and church, thank you for help making a difference thank you for help making a difference thank you for help making a difference all across this globe. It's because of all across this globe. It's because of all across this globe. It's because of your generosity [music] that our teams your generosity [music] that our teams your generosity [music] that our teams can go and help service and and help be can go and help service and and help be can go and help service and and help be a part of the outreach and the ministry a part of the outreach and the ministry a part of the outreach and the ministry happening in the Middle East. If you've happening in the Middle East. If you've happening in the Middle East. If you've never given before, love to give you a never given before, love to give you a never given before, love to give you a chance to do so today. They're putting a chance to do so today. They're putting a chance to do so today. They're putting a link in the chat and there's a a link link in the chat and there's a a link link in the chat and there's a a link here on the screen and and your here on the screen and and your here on the screen and and your generosity, church, just thank you. generosity, church, just thank you. generosity, church, just thank you. Thank you for that and knowing that God Thank you for that and knowing that God Thank you for that and knowing that God is using that to make a difference all is using that to make a difference all is using that to make a difference all around the world. So, thank you for around the world. So, thank you for around the world. So, thank you for [music] that. Hey, I've been talking [music] that. Hey, I've been talking [music] that. Hey, I've been talking about this the last couple of weeks, but about this the last couple of weeks, but about this the last couple of weeks, but we launched our online community group we launched our online community group we launched our online community group uh right in the chat. Can you celebrate uh right in the chat. Can you celebrate uh right in the chat. Can you celebrate with me right now? Put your favorite with me right now? Put your favorite with me right now? Put your favorite emoji. Uh yay, woohoo, whatever that is emoji. Uh yay, woohoo, whatever that is emoji. Uh yay, woohoo, whatever that is in the chat right now for me. But uh we in the chat right now for me. But uh we in the chat right now for me. But uh we launched our community group. It is in launched our community group. It is in launched our community group. It is in full throttle. So, if you're attending full throttle. So, if you're attending full throttle. So, if you're attending and you're looking for community, it and you're looking for community, it and you're looking for community, it doesn't matter where you're at on the doesn't matter where you're at on the doesn't matter where you're at on the globe. We're meeting and it is going globe. We're meeting and it is going globe. We're meeting and it is going fantastic. And so if you're looking for fantastic. And so if you're looking for fantastic. And so if you're looking for community, scan that QR code, click that community, scan that QR code, click that community, scan that QR code, click that link, fill that out. Let's get you link, fill that out. Let's get you link, fill that out. Let's get you connected to the group of believers that

connected to the group of believers that connected to the group of believers that are meeting every single week uh are meeting every single week uh are meeting every single week uh advancing in their journey with Christ. advancing in their journey with Christ. advancing in their journey with Christ. And so, hey, we know attending online And so, hey, we know attending online And so, hey, we know attending online can be different and at times you can can be different and at times you can can be different and at times you can feel isolated. This is your next step. feel isolated. This is your next step. feel isolated. This is your next step. [music] Get a part of our group, a part [music] Get a part of our group, a part [music] Get a part of our group, a part of our family here at Battle Creek of our family here at Battle Creek of our family here at Battle Creek Church. a group of believers [music] Church. a group of believers [music] Church. a group of believers [music] sharpening you, check on you, loving on sharpening you, check on you, loving on sharpening you, check on you, loving on you, being a part and being the body of you, being a part and being the body of you, being a part and being the body of of Christ. And so, uh, fill that out. of Christ. And so, uh, fill that out. of Christ. And so, uh, fill that out. Don't miss out on what God is doing Don't miss out on what God is doing Don't miss out on what God is doing through this groups. And so, we're through this groups. And so, we're through this groups. And so, we're thankful for, uh, Karen and and and her thankful for, uh, Karen and and and her thankful for, uh, Karen and and and her husband for leading this. And so, we're husband for leading this. And so, we're husband for leading this. And so, we're we're excited for all that God is doing we're excited for all that God is doing we're excited for all that God is doing in and through our community group. And, in and through our community group. And, in and through our community group. And, uh, as this grows, we'll launch more. uh, as this grows, we'll launch more. uh, as this grows, we'll launch more. And so, go ahead and jump into that. And so, go ahead and jump into that. And so, go ahead and jump into that. We're excited for what God is doing here We're excited for what God is doing here We're excited for what God is doing here [music] at Battle Creek Church with our [music] at Battle Creek Church with our [music] at Battle Creek Church with our online community. Well, we're in a online community. Well, we're in a online community. Well, we're in a series, love languages, and uh I got to series, love languages, and uh I got to series, love languages, and uh I got to teach the first one, acts of service. teach the first one, acts of service. teach the first one, acts of service. Pastor John, last week uh talked about Pastor John, last week uh talked about Pastor John, last week uh talked about receiving gifts. And this week, we're receiving gifts. And this week, we're receiving gifts. And this week, we're talking about physical touch. Uh I know talking about physical touch. Uh I know talking about physical touch. Uh I know that can be crazy and at times that that can be crazy and at times that that can be crazy and at times that could be like, "Oh, I'm nervous." But, could be like, "Oh, I'm nervous." But, could be like, "Oh, I'm nervous." But, uh we have our good friend, Pastor Ted uh we have our good friend, Pastor Ted uh we have our good friend, Pastor Ted Cunningham, in the house to bring the Cunningham, in the house to bring the Cunningham, in the house to bring the word today. And every time he's here, I word today. And every time he's here, I word today. And every time he's here, I love it. He's funny. Uh, and we're love it. He's funny. Uh, and we're love it. He's funny. Uh, and we're covering a good topic today on how to covering a good topic today on how to covering a good topic today on how to love people, but also, uh, how to love people, but also, uh, how to love people, but also, uh, how to receive love if your love language is, receive love if your love language is, receive love if your love language is, uh, [music] physical touch. And so, uh, uh, [music] physical touch. And so, uh, uh, [music] physical touch. And so, uh, I'm going to pray for us and then grab I'm going to pray for us and then grab I'm going to pray for us and then grab your notebook, your pen, and your Bible, your notebook, your pen, and your Bible, your notebook, your pen, and your Bible, and let's jump into the message today.

and let's jump into the message today. and let's jump into the message today. Would you pray with me? Father, we're so Would you pray with me? Father, we're so Would you pray with me? Father, we're so thankful for you today. I know you have thankful for you today. I know you have thankful for you today. I know you have a word for us. Speak to us. Help us not a word for us. Speak to us. Help us not a word for us. Speak to us. Help us not only to know our love language, but how only to know our love language, but how only to know our love language, but how to love other people in the language to love other people in the language to love other people in the language that they in which they are, so they that they in which they are, so they that they in which they are, so they receive love the way that they need to receive love the way that they need to receive love the way that they need to receive it. God, we love you. We thank receive it. God, we love you. We thank receive it. God, we love you. We thank you. Speak to us in Jesus name we pray. you. Speak to us in Jesus name we pray. you. Speak to us in Jesus name we pray. Amen. Let's jump in today. >> All right, full house this morning.

>> All right, full house this morning. Welcome to everyone. Welcome all across Welcome to everyone. Welcome all across Welcome to everyone. Welcome all across the campuses here. I want to ask if I the campuses here. I want to ask if I the campuses here. I want to ask if I were to ask you right now to stand up were to ask you right now to stand up were to ask you right now to stand up and hug a stranger. Who would love that? and hug a stranger. Who would love that? and hug a stranger. Who would love that? Raise your hand. Let me just see your Raise your hand. Let me just see your Raise your hand. Let me just see your hands. Okay. How many would hate that? hands. Okay. How many would hate that? hands. Okay. How many would hate that? Would you raise your hand? Okay. How Would you raise your hand? Okay. How Would you raise your hand? Okay. How many would rather be punched in the many would rather be punched in the many would rather be punched in the face? Would you go ahead and Oh, look at face? Would you go ahead and Oh, look at face? Would you go ahead and Oh, look at that. That's the most. All right. Well, that. That's the most. All right. Well, that. That's the most. All right. Well, so when they asked me, Ted, which one of so when they asked me, Ted, which one of so when they asked me, Ted, which one of the five do you want to speak on? I the five do you want to speak on? I the five do you want to speak on? I think it was last year I was asked. I think it was last year I was asked. I think it was last year I was asked. I said, I want to go with physical touch said, I want to go with physical touch said, I want to go with physical touch because it is my foreign love language. because it is my foreign love language. because it is my foreign love language. My primary love language is words of My primary love language is words of My primary love language is words of affirmation. We haven't gotten to there affirmation. We haven't gotten to there affirmation. We haven't gotten to there there yet in the series. Uh my wife's there yet in the series. Uh my wife's there yet in the series. Uh my wife's primary love languages are uh acts of primary love languages are uh acts of primary love languages are uh acts of service and quality time, which means I service and quality time, which means I service and quality time, which means I serve her for long periods of time. serve her for long periods of time. serve her for long periods of time. That's what these two love languages That's what these two love languages That's what these two love languages coming together mean. Uh, my children coming together mean. Uh, my children coming together mean. Uh, my children both have receiving gifts as their both have receiving gifts as their both have receiving gifts as their primary love language. primary love language. primary love language. My daughter, her dialects are My daughter, her dialects are My daughter, her dialects are sentimental and simple. And I wish I sentimental and simple. And I wish I sentimental and simple. And I wish I would have known this earlier. Uh, our would have known this earlier. Uh, our would have known this earlier. Uh, our kids are now both married and gone, but kids are now both married and gone, but kids are now both married and gone, but when she was little, if I brought her when she was little, if I brought her when she was little, if I brought her home a magnet from the state I was just home a magnet from the state I was just home a magnet from the state I was just in, she's still holding on to that. Is in, she's still holding on to that. Is in, she's still holding on to that. Is there anybody here with receiving gifts, there anybody here with receiving gifts, there anybody here with receiving gifts, sentimental, simple as your love sentimental, simple as your love sentimental, simple as your love language and dialect? These are our language and dialect? These are our language and dialect? These are our hoarders. Just raise your hand. Real hoarders. Just raise your hand. Real hoarders. Just raise your hand. Real simple. That they don't let go of simple. That they don't let go of simple. That they don't let go of nothing, right? That's my daughter. But nothing, right? That's my daughter. But nothing, right? That's my daughter. But my son is receiving gifts. And his is my son is receiving gifts. And his is my son is receiving gifts. And his is his dialect is functional and his dialect is functional and his dialect is functional and extravagant.

extravagant. extravagant. And he's into watches right now. And And he's into watches right now. And And he's into watches right now. And I've told him think Timex, not Rolex, is I've told him think Timex, not Rolex, is I've told him think Timex, not Rolex, is what he needs to think at this season of what he needs to think at this season of what he needs to think at this season of life. So, we're going with physical life. So, we're going with physical life. So, we're going with physical touch because this is the most awkward touch because this is the most awkward touch because this is the most awkward one for me. And this is really what one for me. And this is really what one for me. And this is really what we're trying to drive home in this we're trying to drive home in this we're trying to drive home in this series is that you don't just learn the series is that you don't just learn the series is that you don't just learn the love languages to find out what yours love languages to find out what yours love languages to find out what yours is. That you would learn the love is. That you would learn the love is. That you would learn the love languages to be fluent in all five. If languages to be fluent in all five. If languages to be fluent in all five. If Dr. Gary Chapman were standing up here Dr. Gary Chapman were standing up here Dr. Gary Chapman were standing up here right now, the author of the five love right now, the author of the five love right now, the author of the five love languages, it's sold over 20 million languages, it's sold over 20 million languages, it's sold over 20 million copies. It's in 60 different languages. copies. It's in 60 different languages. copies. It's in 60 different languages. He would tell you that his biggest He would tell you that his biggest He would tell you that his biggest regret over 35 years with the love regret over 35 years with the love regret over 35 years with the love languages is that people read the book languages is that people read the book languages is that people read the book to learn what theirs was. And he wishes to learn what theirs was. And he wishes to learn what theirs was. And he wishes they would have read it more to learn they would have read it more to learn they would have read it more to learn how to better love other people. Amy and how to better love other people. Amy and how to better love other people. Amy and I have had a a crazy summer. I'm glad I have had a a crazy summer. I'm glad I have had a a crazy summer. I'm glad that I'm here at the end of July. It's that I'm here at the end of July. It's that I'm here at the end of July. It's allowed me to work through some allowed me to work through some allowed me to work through some emotions. Had I been here in June, I emotions. Had I been here in June, I emotions. Had I been here in June, I probably would have cried a lot. I am probably would have cried a lot. I am probably would have cried a lot. I am not going to cry one time today during not going to cry one time today during not going to cry one time today during the message. I I promise. I I don't the message. I I promise. I I don't the message. I I promise. I I don't know. I hope I can keep that. But all know. I hope I can keep that. But all know. I hope I can keep that. But all three, my my daughter, my son, my three, my my daughter, my son, my three, my my daughter, my son, my son-in-law, they all graduated from son-in-law, they all graduated from son-in-law, they all graduated from college in May. And then my son, two college in May. And then my son, two college in May. And then my son, two weeks after he graduated from Liberty weeks after he graduated from Liberty weeks after he graduated from Liberty University, he got married. And when I University, he got married. And when I University, he got married. And when I listen, I I love my kids and the worst listen, I I love my kids and the worst listen, I I love my kids and the worst thing I ever did was officiate their thing I ever did was officiate their thing I ever did was officiate their weddings because it's the worst video

weddings because it's the worst video weddings because it's the worst video you'll ever watch. It's every 5 seconds you'll ever watch. It's every 5 seconds you'll ever watch. It's every 5 seconds me going. me going. me going. And so I I a couple months before Carson And so I I a couple months before Carson And so I I a couple months before Carson got married, I bought him a leatherbound got married, I bought him a leatherbound got married, I bought him a leatherbound Bible with journal margins. And I sat Bible with journal margins. And I sat Bible with journal margins. And I sat down each day and I would open that down each day and I would open that down each day and I would open that Bible up and I I wanted to write in the Bible up and I I wanted to write in the Bible up and I I wanted to write in the margins next to the passages. I I margins next to the passages. I I margins next to the passages. I I everything I've ever learned, studied, everything I've ever learned, studied, everything I've ever learned, studied, been taught, uh and preached, and taught been taught, uh and preached, and taught been taught, uh and preached, and taught myself on marriage and family. And I myself on marriage and family. And I myself on marriage and family. And I just filled those margins next to the just filled those margins next to the just filled those margins next to the text. And I gave that to him as a gift. text. And I gave that to him as a gift. text. And I gave that to him as a gift. And I had this blessing prepared for his And I had this blessing prepared for his And I had this blessing prepared for his rehearsal dinner. And there's only 50 rehearsal dinner. And there's only 50 rehearsal dinner. And there's only 50 people at the rehearsal dinner. And my people at the rehearsal dinner. And my people at the rehearsal dinner. And my wife and I stand up. And if you don't wife and I stand up. And if you don't wife and I stand up. And if you don't know my wife, uh Amy will not stand on a know my wife, uh Amy will not stand on a know my wife, uh Amy will not stand on a stage and speak ever. If you ask her to stage and speak ever. If you ask her to stage and speak ever. If you ask her to ever speak, she'll never speak to you ever speak, she'll never speak to you ever speak, she'll never speak to you again. again. again. She just does not want to do any public She just does not want to do any public She just does not want to do any public speaking, even in front of small groups. speaking, even in front of small groups. speaking, even in front of small groups. And I stood up and I had this blessing And I stood up and I had this blessing And I stood up and I had this blessing prepared to give to my son as I said prepared to give to my son as I said prepared to give to my son as I said goodbye to him. I told her I wasn't goodbye to him. I told her I wasn't goodbye to him. I told her I wasn't going to go out. And so, uh, y'all, it going to go out. And so, uh, y'all, it going to go out. And so, uh, y'all, it was the most embarrassing night of my was the most embarrassing night of my was the most embarrassing night of my life because I grabbed the napkin from life because I grabbed the napkin from life because I grabbed the napkin from the plate in front of me. I put it over the plate in front of me. I put it over the plate in front of me. I put it over my face. And I'm not exaggerating when I my face. And I'm not exaggerating when I my face. And I'm not exaggerating when I say I sobbed into the napkin. I couldn't say I sobbed into the napkin. I couldn't say I sobbed into the napkin. I couldn't get two words together. [gasps] And my get two words together. [gasps] And my get two words together. [gasps] And my wife took over and we all were like, wife took over and we all were like, wife took over and we all were like, "What?" She she spoke a blessing and "What?" She she spoke a blessing and "What?" She she spoke a blessing and then prayed and she's now the new senior then prayed and she's now the new senior then prayed and she's now the new senior pastor of Woodland Hills Family Church

pastor of Woodland Hills Family Church pastor of Woodland Hills Family Church because because because I just I couldn't get through it. I I just I couldn't get through it. I I just I couldn't get through it. I couldn't get through it. And I gave my couldn't get through it. And I gave my couldn't get through it. And I gave my son a watch, not a Rolex uh for his son a watch, not a Rolex uh for his son a watch, not a Rolex uh for his wedding, not a Timex. I went about a wedding, not a Timex. I went about a wedding, not a Timex. I went about a hundred bucks more than that. hundred bucks more than that. hundred bucks more than that. But that's it. Amy and I are official But that's it. Amy and I are official But that's it. Amy and I are official empty nesters. Every night at about 7:00 empty nesters. Every night at about 7:00 empty nesters. Every night at about 7:00 p.m. We call it happy hour, but really p.m. We call it happy hour, but really p.m. We call it happy hour, but really we're just eating Jell-O. Our we're just eating Jell-O. Our we're just eating Jell-O. Our refrigerator is packed full of pudding refrigerator is packed full of pudding refrigerator is packed full of pudding and Jell-O. Our kids come over now. Open and Jell-O. Our kids come over now. Open and Jell-O. Our kids come over now. Open the fridge. Like, what is going on? 7:00 the fridge. Like, what is going on? 7:00 the fridge. Like, what is going on? 7:00 is pudding night. If you want to come is pudding night. If you want to come is pudding night. If you want to come over, that's our pudding time. And so, over, that's our pudding time. And so, over, that's our pudding time. And so, uh, my wife, uh, and I both would say uh, my wife, uh, and I both would say uh, my wife, uh, and I both would say our foreign love language. And we've our foreign love language. And we've our foreign love language. And we've taken the assessments, right? So, our taken the assessments, right? So, our taken the assessments, right? So, our foreign love language is physical touch, foreign love language is physical touch, foreign love language is physical touch, but we also have receiving gifts as our but we also have receiving gifts as our but we also have receiving gifts as our foreign love language. And my wife will foreign love language. And my wife will foreign love language. And my wife will sit on the couch at night and get on her sit on the couch at night and get on her sit on the couch at night and get on her phone and look over at me, and she'll phone and look over at me, and she'll phone and look over at me, and she'll say, "Thank you." And I'll say, "For say, "Thank you." And I'll say, "For say, "Thank you." And I'll say, "For what?" She goes, "You just got me what?" She goes, "You just got me what?" She goes, "You just got me something real nice." In our home, we cut out the middleman.

In our home, we cut out the middleman. Because again, it just doesn't fill us Because again, it just doesn't fill us Because again, it just doesn't fill us up. So, receiving gifts, physical touch, up. So, receiving gifts, physical touch, up. So, receiving gifts, physical touch, Amy and I both share as a foreign love Amy and I both share as a foreign love Amy and I both share as a foreign love language. So, it never made sense to me language. So, it never made sense to me language. So, it never made sense to me until last summer. Dr. Chapman invited until last summer. Dr. Chapman invited until last summer. Dr. Chapman invited me to be a part of the five love me to be a part of the five love me to be a part of the five love languages teaching team. And and uh you languages teaching team. And and uh you languages teaching team. And and uh you know, he's almost 90 years old. He's know, he's almost 90 years old. He's know, he's almost 90 years old. He's trying to figure out what is he going to trying to figure out what is he going to trying to figure out what is he going to do with what God has entrusted to him do with what God has entrusted to him do with what God has entrusted to him with this message. And so a few of us with this message. And so a few of us with this message. And so a few of us are speaking on it now. And so I dove are speaking on it now. And so I dove are speaking on it now. And so I dove in. I even asked our church to take this in. I even asked our church to take this in. I even asked our church to take this uh five love languages premium uh five love languages premium uh five love languages premium assessment uh to find out not just their assessment uh to find out not just their assessment uh to find out not just their love language but their dialect. And love language but their dialect. And love language but their dialect. And last summer was the first time I learned last summer was the first time I learned last summer was the first time I learned that there's not only five love that there's not only five love that there's not only five love languages, but there's 22 dialects under languages, but there's 22 dialects under languages, but there's 22 dialects under those love languages. And we dove in. I those love languages. And we dove in. I those love languages. And we dove in. I wanted to know it for my kids. I wanted wanted to know it for my kids. I wanted wanted to know it for my kids. I wanted to know it for the church. Over a to know it for the church. Over a to know it for the church. Over a thousand people at our church took this thousand people at our church took this thousand people at our church took this assessment. And I had a stack on my desk assessment. And I had a stack on my desk assessment. And I had a stack on my desk like this. And I'll never forget when like this. And I'll never forget when like this. And I'll never forget when our student pastor walked in with his our student pastor walked in with his our student pastor walked in with his and he goes, "I don't even want to give and he goes, "I don't even want to give and he goes, "I don't even want to give this to you." Because his primary love this to you." Because his primary love this to you." Because his primary love language is physical touch. And I went, language is physical touch. And I went, language is physical touch. And I went, "Come here, buddy. It's okay. Come "Come here, buddy. It's okay. Come "Come here, buddy. It's okay. Come here." And I I gave him one of the here." And I I gave him one of the here." And I I gave him one of the warmest hugs you could uh imagine. So, warmest hugs you could uh imagine. So, warmest hugs you could uh imagine. So, as we've studied this, things started to as we've studied this, things started to as we've studied this, things started to really come to light for me. And I hope really come to light for me. And I hope really come to light for me. And I hope that's happening for you during this that's happening for you during this that's happening for you during this series that you're like, "Huh, now that series that you're like, "Huh, now that series that you're like, "Huh, now that makes sense." Because for years when I makes sense." Because for years when I makes sense." Because for years when I would get home and see these boxes on would get home and see these boxes on would get home and see these boxes on the front step, you would think her love the front step, you would think her love the front step, you would think her love language is receiving gifts. Like she language is receiving gifts. Like she language is receiving gifts. Like she buys them for herself. She wants to come buys them for herself. She wants to come buys them for herself. She wants to come home to them every day. But then when I home to them every day. But then when I home to them every day. But then when I realized it's this fast delivery part realized it's this fast delivery part realized it's this fast delivery part that Amy acts of service is her love

that Amy acts of service is her love that Amy acts of service is her love language and her dialect is saving time. language and her dialect is saving time. language and her dialect is saving time. Saving time. Anything I can do to save Saving time. Anything I can do to save Saving time. Anything I can do to save her time. What? That is powerful in our her time. What? That is powerful in our her time. What? That is powerful in our marriage. Anything she can do to save marriage. Anything she can do to save marriage. Anything she can do to save time. These boxes have nothing to do time. These boxes have nothing to do time. These boxes have nothing to do with stuff. They have nothing to do with with stuff. They have nothing to do with with stuff. They have nothing to do with gifts. It has everything to do with Amy gifts. It has everything to do with Amy gifts. It has everything to do with Amy saving time. So, you might be asking the saving time. So, you might be asking the saving time. So, you might be asking the question at this part in the series, question at this part in the series, question at this part in the series, nature and nurture. How is this like our nature and nurture. How is this like our nature and nurture. How is this like our personality? How is this like how we're personality? How is this like how we're personality? How is this like how we're wired coming out of the womb? Or is this wired coming out of the womb? Or is this wired coming out of the womb? Or is this something we develop over time? And something we develop over time? And something we develop over time? And here's here's kind of how we explain it. here's here's kind of how we explain it. here's here's kind of how we explain it. Like your personality, your primary love Like your personality, your primary love Like your personality, your primary love language tends to stick with you for language tends to stick with you for language tends to stick with you for life. But circumstances and seasons of life. But circumstances and seasons of life. But circumstances and seasons of life can draw out secondary or foreign life can draw out secondary or foreign life can draw out secondary or foreign love languages. So as we get into this love languages. So as we get into this love languages. So as we get into this today, there may be a mom that said today, there may be a mom that said today, there may be a mom that said years ago, my primary love language is years ago, my primary love language is years ago, my primary love language is physical touch, but right now I have a physical touch, but right now I have a physical touch, but right now I have a three, a five, and a seven-year-old, and three, a five, and a seven-year-old, and three, a five, and a seven-year-old, and I want them to get off of me. I want them to get off of me. I want them to get off of me. You're just in a season and stage of You're just in a season and stage of You're just in a season and stage of life where it's just a it's a little bit life where it's just a it's a little bit life where it's just a it's a little bit different. You need a break. I I I hear different. You need a break. I I I hear different. You need a break. I I I hear this one probably more than any other this one probably more than any other this one probably more than any other one as I travel and speak on this.

one as I travel and speak on this. one as I travel and speak on this. People will tell me, "Ted, you didn't People will tell me, "Ted, you didn't People will tell me, "Ted, you didn't discuss it really tonight, but my discuss it really tonight, but my discuss it really tonight, but my primary love language is leave me primary love language is leave me primary love language is leave me alone." alone." alone." I'm like, "Well, that ain't a love I'm like, "Well, that ain't a love I'm like, "Well, that ain't a love language." But when somebody tells me language." But when somebody tells me language." But when somebody tells me that, I go, "I guarantee you your love that, I go, "I guarantee you your love that, I go, "I guarantee you your love language is acts of service." Anything a language is acts of service." Anything a language is acts of service." Anything a family member or friend or spouse can do family member or friend or spouse can do family member or friend or spouse can do to give you some alone time, to to give you some alone time, to to give you some alone time, to alleviate stress, to let you be alone alleviate stress, to let you be alone alleviate stress, to let you be alone and recharge a little bit. So and recharge a little bit. So and recharge a little bit. So circumstances and seasons can move the circumstances and seasons can move the circumstances and seasons can move the primary, secondary, and foreign love primary, secondary, and foreign love primary, secondary, and foreign love language around a little bit. But this language around a little bit. But this language around a little bit. But this is also important. If you grew up in a is also important. If you grew up in a is also important. If you grew up in a loving home with all five love loving home with all five love loving home with all five love languages, you receive all of them as languages, you receive all of them as languages, you receive all of them as expressions of love. So you may go expressions of love. So you may go expressions of love. So you may go through these five weeks in this series through these five weeks in this series through these five weeks in this series and be like, well, you know what? I want and be like, well, you know what? I want and be like, well, you know what? I want them all. I want them all. It's because them all. I want them all. It's because them all. I want them all. It's because you received them all growing up, and you received them all growing up, and you received them all growing up, and you really can't differentiate. And you really can't differentiate. And you really can't differentiate. And that's okay. This really isn't about you that's okay. This really isn't about you that's okay. This really isn't about you dialing in and making sure the world dialing in and making sure the world dialing in and making sure the world knows what your primary love language is knows what your primary love language is knows what your primary love language is and your dialect. This is about us and your dialect. This is about us and your dialect. This is about us learning them all and becoming fluent in learning them all and becoming fluent in learning them all and becoming fluent in all of them so we can better love one all of them so we can better love one all of them so we can better love one another. But if you grew up in an another. But if you grew up in an another. But if you grew up in an unloving home, the same is true. Absent unloving home, the same is true. Absent unloving home, the same is true. Absent of the love languages. There were no of the love languages. There were no of the love languages. There were no expressions of love given. And I know expressions of love given. And I know expressions of love given. And I know this sounds harsh, but so hear the heart this sounds harsh, but so hear the heart this sounds harsh, but so hear the heart of a pastor who loves you. It's not of a pastor who loves you. It's not of a pastor who loves you. It's not meant to be harsh. I just have not found meant to be harsh. I just have not found meant to be harsh. I just have not found a better way to say this. You take what a better way to say this. You take what a better way to say this. You take what you can get.

you can get. you can get. When someone shows you love in any of When someone shows you love in any of When someone shows you love in any of the love languages, in any of the the love languages, in any of the the love languages, in any of the dialects, you grab a hold of them. And dialects, you grab a hold of them. And dialects, you grab a hold of them. And so, we've been coming back to this so, we've been coming back to this so, we've been coming back to this passage. Josiah and John have done a passage. Josiah and John have done a passage. Josiah and John have done a phenomenal job leading us. I'm looking phenomenal job leading us. I'm looking phenomenal job leading us. I'm looking forward to the next two weeks of this forward to the next two weeks of this forward to the next two weeks of this series. But Jesus said, "A new command I series. But Jesus said, "A new command I series. But Jesus said, "A new command I give you. Love one another." And you give you. Love one another." And you give you. Love one another." And you know, often when we see this, we focus know, often when we see this, we focus know, often when we see this, we focus on that right there, the word love. And on that right there, the word love. And on that right there, the word love. And we often forget about the one another. we often forget about the one another. we often forget about the one another. And if you want to be in a thriving And if you want to be in a thriving And if you want to be in a thriving relationship, friendship, marriage, relationship, friendship, marriage, relationship, friendship, marriage, church, small group, you know what it church, small group, you know what it church, small group, you know what it takes? It takes giving and receiving. takes? It takes giving and receiving. takes? It takes giving and receiving. On Monday, a a buddy of mine called me. On Monday, a a buddy of mine called me. On Monday, a a buddy of mine called me. We've been friends for 25 years. He We've been friends for 25 years. He We've been friends for 25 years. He lives in Texas and he happened to be in lives in Texas and he happened to be in lives in Texas and he happened to be in Branson. And he said, "You want to golf Branson. And he said, "You want to golf Branson. And he said, "You want to golf today?" And I said, "I I got to be today?" And I said, "I I got to be today?" And I said, "I I got to be honest with you. I've got a lot going honest with you. I've got a lot going honest with you. I've got a lot going on." on. And when my wife heard who it on." on. And when my wife heard who it on." on. And when my wife heard who it was, she said, "You drop everything and was, she said, "You drop everything and was, she said, "You drop everything and you go golf because this is the most you go golf because this is the most you go golf because this is the most lifegiving person I know." She goes, lifegiving person I know." She goes, lifegiving person I know." She goes, "You are so refreshed every time you "You are so refreshed every time you "You are so refreshed every time you come home from being with him. You need come home from being with him. You need come home from being with him. You need to take and I haven't spent any time to take and I haven't spent any time to take and I haven't spent any time with him in a couple of years." And so with him in a couple of years." And so with him in a couple of years." And so we went out and had about 5 hour round we went out and had about 5 hour round we went out and had about 5 hour round and I came home refreshed and I started and I came home refreshed and I started and I came home refreshed and I started to write down why is it that this guy is to write down why is it that this guy is to write down why is it that this guy is so lifegiving?

so lifegiving? so lifegiving? One, he asked great questions. Two, he One, he asked great questions. Two, he One, he asked great questions. Two, he asked follow-up questions. I don't know asked follow-up questions. I don't know asked follow-up questions. I don't know if you know this. A lot of people will if you know this. A lot of people will if you know this. A lot of people will ask you a question, you'll start to ask you a question, you'll start to ask you a question, you'll start to answer it, and it reminds them of a answer it, and it reminds them of a answer it, and it reminds them of a story they want to share with you. So, story they want to share with you. So, story they want to share with you. So, they just kind of hijack the they just kind of hijack the they just kind of hijack the conversation and start cutting you off. conversation and start cutting you off. conversation and start cutting you off. Not my friend. This is probably going to Not my friend. This is probably going to Not my friend. This is probably going to help if you know my friend's one of the help if you know my friend's one of the help if you know my friend's one of the nation's foremost experts in uh nation's foremost experts in uh nation's foremost experts in uh counseling and therapy. So, he's used to counseling and therapy. So, he's used to counseling and therapy. So, he's used to asking questions, but he asked great asking questions, but he asked great asking questions, but he asked great questions. He asked follow-up questions, questions. He asked follow-up questions, questions. He asked follow-up questions, and he wants nothing from me. And I I and he wants nothing from me. And I I and he wants nothing from me. And I I called him the next day. I said, "You called him the next day. I said, "You called him the next day. I said, "You know what it is about our relationship? know what it is about our relationship? know what it is about our relationship? It's giving and receiving. It's giving It's giving and receiving. It's giving It's giving and receiving. It's giving and receiving." Some of you had a a and receiving." Some of you had a a and receiving." Some of you had a a lunch this week with maybe a co-orker lunch this week with maybe a co-orker lunch this week with maybe a co-orker and the entire lunch was about that and the entire lunch was about that and the entire lunch was about that person. You're never going to have a person. You're never going to have a person. You're never going to have a thriving relationship if it's always thriving relationship if it's always thriving relationship if it's always about the other person, getting about the other person, getting about the other person, getting something, receiving something. The the something, receiving something. The the something, receiving something. The the the relationships that thrive are where the relationships that thrive are where the relationships that thrive are where it's this one another, one another. I I it's this one another, one another. I I it's this one another, one another. I I hear it all the time from church hear it all the time from church hear it all the time from church members. I'm I'm leaving or I'm not members. I'm I'm leaving or I'm not members. I'm I'm leaving or I'm not really getting anything out of the really getting anything out of the really getting anything out of the church anymore. I promise you church church anymore. I promise you church church anymore. I promise you church will be a miserable experience for you will be a miserable experience for you will be a miserable experience for you if all you ever do is show up to if all you ever do is show up to if all you ever do is show up to receive.

receive. receive. That's it. I mean that that no That's it. I mean that that no That's it. I mean that that no relationship thrives that way. It's relationship thrives that way. It's relationship thrives that way. It's until it's until you start to give and until it's until you start to give and until it's until you start to give and participate and serve and join. It's why participate and serve and join. It's why participate and serve and join. It's why we train our small group leaders on love we train our small group leaders on love we train our small group leaders on love one another. Love one another. We one another. Love one another. We one another. Love one another. We forgive one another. We pray for one forgive one another. We pray for one forgive one another. We pray for one another. We bear with one another. But another. We bear with one another. But another. We bear with one another. But if you end up in a group with one person if you end up in a group with one person if you end up in a group with one person who wants to take over the whole group who wants to take over the whole group who wants to take over the whole group and you don't do something about them, and you don't do something about them, and you don't do something about them, be like, "Okay, okay, okay, you've been be like, "Okay, okay, okay, you've been be like, "Okay, okay, okay, you've been receiving, receiving, receiving. I'm receiving, receiving, receiving. I'm receiving, receiving, receiving. I'm going to pause. We're going to pour into going to pause. We're going to pour into going to pause. We're going to pour into other people and we're going to allow other people and we're going to allow other people and we're going to allow other people to pour into us." Those are other people to pour into us." Those are other people to pour into us." Those are the relationships that thrive. We tell the relationships that thrive. We tell the relationships that thrive. We tell people in our group because they'll call people in our group because they'll call people in our group because they'll call and go, "This group's not working for and go, "This group's not working for and go, "This group's not working for me. I need another group." And then they me. I need another group." And then they me. I need another group." And then they say in a couple months, "We need another say in a couple months, "We need another say in a couple months, "We need another group." And that that group's full of group." And that that group's full of group." And that that group's full of fruits, flakes, and nuts. You know, fruits, flakes, and nuts. You know, fruits, flakes, and nuts. You know, they're going through. And after the they're going through. And after the they're going through. And after the third or fourth group change, we have to third or fourth group change, we have to third or fourth group change, we have to tell them, "You are the problem. tell them, "You are the problem. tell them, "You are the problem. It's not the group because it's love one It's not the group because it's love one It's not the group because it's love one another, giving and receiving. As I have another, giving and receiving. As I have another, giving and receiving. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. loved you, so you must love one another. loved you, so you must love one another. Jesus commanded it and he showed us how Jesus commanded it and he showed us how Jesus commanded it and he showed us how to do it. He modeled it for us. And we to do it. He modeled it for us. And we to do it. He modeled it for us. And we see throughout the gospels, Jesus is see throughout the gospels, Jesus is see throughout the gospels, Jesus is fluent in all five love languages.

fluent in all five love languages. fluent in all five love languages. By this, everyone will know that you are By this, everyone will know that you are By this, everyone will know that you are my disciples if you love one another. I my disciples if you love one another. I my disciples if you love one another. I travel and speak at a lot of churches travel and speak at a lot of churches travel and speak at a lot of churches and I'm telling you before the service and I'm telling you before the service and I'm telling you before the service even begins you can tell if there's love even begins you can tell if there's love even begins you can tell if there's love in that place. If the people enjoy being in that place. If the people enjoy being in that place. If the people enjoy being together, they enjoy serving together. together, they enjoy serving together. together, they enjoy serving together. They enjoy worshiping together. They are They enjoy worshiping together. They are They enjoy worshiping together. They are together and they realize this isn't together and they realize this isn't together and they realize this isn't just about me. I'm here to celebrate and just about me. I'm here to celebrate and just about me. I'm here to celebrate and be celebrated, love and be loved, care be celebrated, love and be loved, care be celebrated, love and be loved, care and be cared for. and be cared for. and be cared for. This is how it works. This how it works This is how it works. This how it works This is how it works. This how it works in marriage. It's how it works in in marriage. It's how it works in in marriage. It's how it works in church. how it works in life. And so we know and rely on the love God And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives has for us. God is love. Whoever lives has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God and God in them. in love lives in God and God in them. in love lives in God and God in them. And one of the cautions, this is the And one of the cautions, this is the And one of the cautions, this is the caution I always give coming out of John caution I always give coming out of John caution I always give coming out of John 13 because as we talk about giving and 13 because as we talk about giving and 13 because as we talk about giving and receiving, the most miserable receiving, the most miserable receiving, the most miserable relationships are on the planet are the relationships are on the planet are the relationships are on the planet are the ones that are plugged into each other as ones that are plugged into each other as ones that are plugged into each other as the source of life. So as we talk about the source of life. So as we talk about the source of life. So as we talk about love languages and if you've read the love languages and if you've read the love languages and if you've read the book, you know Dr. Chapman uses the book, you know Dr. Chapman uses the book, you know Dr. Chapman uses the illustration of the love tank. And when illustration of the love tank. And when illustration of the love tank. And when someone's speaking your love language, someone's speaking your love language, someone's speaking your love language, it fills you up. But please make no it fills you up. But please make no it fills you up. But please make no mistake here. This is very important.

mistake here. This is very important. mistake here. This is very important. You can't look to the other person that You can't look to the other person that You can't look to the other person that you're in a relationship with with the you're in a relationship with with the you're in a relationship with with the giving and receiving. Never ever giving and receiving. Never ever giving and receiving. Never ever [clears throat] [clears throat] [clears throat] look to them as your source of life. look to them as your source of life. look to them as your source of life. They are not your source. Jesus is your They are not your source. Jesus is your They are not your source. Jesus is your source. We know and rely on the love. He source. We know and rely on the love. He source. We know and rely on the love. He is the source and he gives us everything is the source and he gives us everything is the source and he gives us everything we need. He's unlimited free refills. we need. He's unlimited free refills. we need. He's unlimited free refills. And when he is pouring into us, I can And when he is pouring into us, I can And when he is pouring into us, I can pour into others. As awkward as as pour into others. As awkward as as pour into others. As awkward as as physical touch is for me, I'm getting a physical touch is for me, I'm getting a physical touch is for me, I'm getting a lot better at it. I'm expressing it more lot better at it. I'm expressing it more lot better at it. I'm expressing it more because it's not about how you receive because it's not about how you receive because it's not about how you receive it. It's not whether even you want it or it. It's not whether even you want it or it. It's not whether even you want it or not. Some of you today are going to get not. Some of you today are going to get not. Some of you today are going to get a hug from me and you don't want it and a hug from me and you don't want it and a hug from me and you don't want it and it's too bad it's too bad it's too bad because I know who the source is and he because I know who the source is and he because I know who the source is and he gives me everything I need to pour into gives me everything I need to pour into gives me everything I need to pour into other people. The best relationships on other people. The best relationships on other people. The best relationships on the planet are the ones where you fire the planet are the ones where you fire the planet are the ones where you fire the person you're in a relationship with the person you're in a relationship with the person you're in a relationship with as your source and both of you plugged as your source and both of you plugged as your source and both of you plugged into the true and only source. Giving into the true and only source. Giving into the true and only source. Giving and receiving. That's a relationship and receiving. That's a relationship and receiving. That's a relationship that thrives. And it's it's the new that thrives. And it's it's the new that thrives. And it's it's the new language I've been using a lot too that language I've been using a lot too that language I've been using a lot too that it's it's a lifegiving relationship. You it's it's a lifegiving relationship. You it's it's a lifegiving relationship. You all have the relationships in your life all have the relationships in your life all have the relationships in your life where you come home from a gathering and where you come home from a gathering and where you come home from a gathering and you're just exhausted. You're absolutely you're just exhausted. You're absolutely you're just exhausted. You're absolutely wiped out. Why is that so draining? I'm wiped out. Why is that so draining? I'm wiped out. Why is that so draining? I'm assuming I'm guessing it's because all assuming I'm guessing it's because all assuming I'm guessing it's because all you did was give and there was no you did was give and there was no you did was give and there was no receiving.

receiving. receiving. You're exhausted. So, we are knowing and You're exhausted. So, we are knowing and You're exhausted. So, we are knowing and relying on the love that God has for us. relying on the love that God has for us. relying on the love that God has for us. And my I'm telling you, you are in the And my I'm telling you, you are in the And my I'm telling you, you are in the best position right now to change your best position right now to change your best position right now to change your marriage, to change your relationship marriage, to change your relationship marriage, to change your relationship with this church. You are. Because if with this church. You are. Because if with this church. You are. Because if you don't like what you're getting out you don't like what you're getting out you don't like what you're getting out of a relationship, change what you put of a relationship, change what you put of a relationship, change what you put into it. into it. into it. Change how you show up. You've heard it Change how you show up. You've heard it Change how you show up. You've heard it said, it takes two. I'm telling you, it said, it takes two. I'm telling you, it said, it takes two. I'm telling you, it often starts with one. often starts with one. often starts with one. And you can make the decision today to And you can make the decision today to And you can make the decision today to jump into this. And I hope you're seeing jump into this. And I hope you're seeing jump into this. And I hope you're seeing it as as a blessing for all of your it as as a blessing for all of your it as as a blessing for all of your relationships. Again, not just marriage, relationships. Again, not just marriage, relationships. Again, not just marriage, not just family, but all of your not just family, but all of your not just family, but all of your relationships. So, here's the question I relationships. So, here's the question I relationships. So, here's the question I want you to ask the people you're in want you to ask the people you're in want you to ask the people you're in closest relationship with. And I'm closest relationship with. And I'm closest relationship with. And I'm talking co-workers, small group members, talking co-workers, small group members, talking co-workers, small group members, church members, spouse, children. I church members, spouse, children. I church members, spouse, children. I would love to I see how many of you are would love to I see how many of you are would love to I see how many of you are are uh living at home. You're single, are uh living at home. You're single, are uh living at home. You're single, living at home. Let me just see your living at home. Let me just see your living at home. Let me just see your hands. Okay. Guess what? I want you to hands. Okay. Guess what? I want you to hands. Okay. Guess what? I want you to go home and ask your parents this go home and ask your parents this go home and ask your parents this question. What are some new ways I can question. What are some new ways I can question. What are some new ways I can show up for you? show up for you? show up for you? What are some new ways I can serve? What What are some new ways I can serve? What What are some new ways I can serve? What are some new ways I can participate in are some new ways I can participate in are some new ways I can participate in this home? Because that's really as at this home? Because that's really as at this home? Because that's really as at the end of this series when you get 22 the end of this series when you get 22 the end of this series when you get 22 dialects down, you're going to have 22 dialects down, you're going to have 22 dialects down, you're going to have 22 new ways to show up.

new ways to show up. new ways to show up. And you need to ask and get this And you need to ask and get this And you need to ask and get this conversation flowing. It's a great conversation flowing. It's a great conversation flowing. It's a great question to get started because it's not question to get started because it's not question to get started because it's not about trying harder. It's about how love about trying harder. It's about how love about trying harder. It's about how love lands. lands. lands. And some of us, and I hear this in And some of us, and I hear this in And some of us, and I hear this in counseling all the time, I am doing so counseling all the time, I am doing so counseling all the time, I am doing so much. And then the wife will look at him much. And then the wife will look at him much. And then the wife will look at him and be like, I don't feel like you're and be like, I don't feel like you're and be like, I don't feel like you're participating at all. And I'm telling participating at all. And I'm telling participating at all. And I'm telling you, most of the time it's because it's you, most of the time it's because it's you, most of the time it's because it's just not her love language or dialect. just not her love language or dialect. just not her love language or dialect. Uh the story I love to share on this is Uh the story I love to share on this is Uh the story I love to share on this is when a a husband and wife say goodbye in when a a husband and wife say goodbye in when a a husband and wife say goodbye in the morning, she goes off to work. He the morning, she goes off to work. He the morning, she goes off to work. He knows she's going to be in meetings all knows she's going to be in meetings all knows she's going to be in meetings all day, not just in meetings, leading the day, not just in meetings, leading the day, not just in meetings, leading the meetings. He's going to get home early meetings. He's going to get home early meetings. He's going to get home early because she's leading these meetings, because she's leading these meetings, because she's leading these meetings, talking all day. He knows her love talking all day. He knows her love talking all day. He knows her love language is acts of service. So he gets language is acts of service. So he gets language is acts of service. So he gets home and he's like, "You know what? home and he's like, "You know what? home and he's like, "You know what? She's going to want a a gourmet meal." She's going to want a a gourmet meal." She's going to want a a gourmet meal." He fixes a gourmet meal. We're talking He fixes a gourmet meal. We're talking He fixes a gourmet meal. We're talking white tablecloth, candles on the table white tablecloth, candles on the table white tablecloth, candles on the table lit. She walks in late, but the food is lit. She walks in late, but the food is lit. She walks in late, but the food is ready. She opens the door and she sees ready. She opens the door and she sees ready. She opens the door and she sees the table and he's basically like voila. the table and he's basically like voila. the table and he's basically like voila. And she stands at the door and goes.

And she stands at the door and goes. And she stands at the door and goes. It's not at all what she, you know what It's not at all what she, you know what It's not at all what she, you know what she didn't want? And on the way home, she didn't want? And on the way home, she didn't want? And on the way home, she wasn't thinking about sitting around she wasn't thinking about sitting around she wasn't thinking about sitting around a table having another conversation. She a table having another conversation. She a table having another conversation. She was done with conversations. what she was done with conversations. what she was done with conversations. what she would rather have are those candles would rather have are those candles would rather have are those candles around a bathtub around a bathtub around a bathtub because she wanted she didn't want that because she wanted she didn't want that because she wanted she didn't want that conveyed care. That'd be a good moment conveyed care. That'd be a good moment conveyed care. That'd be a good moment for that dialect, but she didn't need for that dialect, but she didn't need for that dialect, but she didn't need conveying care. She wanted to alleviate conveying care. She wanted to alleviate conveying care. She wanted to alleviate stress and to be done. So, it's not stress and to be done. So, it's not stress and to be done. So, it's not about trying hard. And some of us are about trying hard. And some of us are about trying hard. And some of us are putting effort into relationship. But putting effort into relationship. But putting effort into relationship. But when you learn how the other person when you learn how the other person when you learn how the other person receives it, now this is how love lands. receives it, now this is how love lands. receives it, now this is how love lands. Our deepest emotional need is to feel Our deepest emotional need is to feel Our deepest emotional need is to feel loved. How does a person feel loved? loved. How does a person feel loved? loved. How does a person feel loved? Well, this person feels seen, they feel Well, this person feels seen, they feel Well, this person feels seen, they feel heard, they feel cared for. Uh when I heard, they feel cared for. Uh when I heard, they feel cared for. Uh when I would bring something home for my would bring something home for my would bring something home for my daughter and and now just knowing her daughter and and now just knowing her daughter and and now just knowing her love language and her dialect, that that love language and her dialect, that that love language and her dialect, that that says to her, not only do you think of me says to her, not only do you think of me says to her, not only do you think of me when you're traveling, but you know me when you're traveling, but you know me when you're traveling, but you know me like you really know what makes me tick.

like you really know what makes me tick. like you really know what makes me tick. So, we all have this emotional need to So, we all have this emotional need to So, we all have this emotional need to feel loved, but here's the deal. We all feel loved, but here's the deal. We all feel loved, but here's the deal. We all feel loved in different ways. And that's feel loved in different ways. And that's feel loved in different ways. And that's why we're doing this series and it's why why we're doing this series and it's why why we're doing this series and it's why this series is so important. So my this series is so important. So my this series is so important. So my primary love language is how I best primary love language is how I best primary love language is how I best receive and feel loved. But I want to receive and feel loved. But I want to receive and feel loved. But I want to become fluent in all five to better love become fluent in all five to better love become fluent in all five to better love others. I want to learn the languages. I others. I want to learn the languages. I others. I want to learn the languages. I want to learn the dialects. Jesus was want to learn the dialects. Jesus was want to learn the dialects. Jesus was fluent in all five love languages. fluent in all five love languages. fluent in all five love languages. Receiving love through your primary love Receiving love through your primary love Receiving love through your primary love language is a feeling. But what we're language is a feeling. But what we're language is a feeling. But what we're talking about in this series is also talking about in this series is also talking about in this series is also giving love through your foreign love giving love through your foreign love giving love through your foreign love language. That is a decision. So when I language. That is a decision. So when I language. That is a decision. So when I high-five, high-five, high-five, when I hug, I I I know this staff member when I hug, I I I know this staff member when I hug, I I I know this staff member now in our church, his love language is now in our church, his love language is now in our church, his love language is is physical touch. When I walk into a is physical touch. When I walk into a is physical touch. When I walk into a meeting now, just to tap him on the meeting now, just to tap him on the meeting now, just to tap him on the shoulder a couple of times and keep mo shoulder a couple of times and keep mo shoulder a couple of times and keep mo moving, that just says to him, "Hey, I moving, that just says to him, "Hey, I moving, that just says to him, "Hey, I just recognize that you are in the just recognize that you are in the just recognize that you are in the room." It's a choice we're making. It's room." It's a choice we're making. It's room." It's a choice we're making. It's a decision that we're making. Loving a decision that we're making. Loving a decision that we're making. Loving someone with your foreign love language someone with your foreign love language someone with your foreign love language is a greater expression of love.

is a greater expression of love. is a greater expression of love. And so hopefully you're going to be And so hopefully you're going to be And so hopefully you're going to be stretched throughout this series. Now stretched throughout this series. Now stretched throughout this series. Now Amy and I have been stretched even in Amy and I have been stretched even in Amy and I have been stretched even in our marriage because we watch a movie our marriage because we watch a movie our marriage because we watch a movie and we see a couple cuddling. and we see a couple cuddling. and we see a couple cuddling. We're not cuddlers, okay? We just don't We're not cuddlers, okay? We just don't We're not cuddlers, okay? We just don't cuddle because physical touch is a cuddle because physical touch is a cuddle because physical touch is a foreign love language. But every now and foreign love language. But every now and foreign love language. But every now and then I'll look at her and be like, then I'll look at her and be like, then I'll look at her and be like, "Well, it's what other couples do. "Well, it's what other couples do. "Well, it's what other couples do. We should probably do this." And she'll We should probably do this." And she'll We should probably do this." And she'll like, "Get over here, buddy. Let's get like, "Get over here, buddy. Let's get like, "Get over here, buddy. Let's get this going." this going." this going." and I'll get on the couch with her and and I'll get on the couch with her and and I'll get on the couch with her and just cuz we don't do this. And so we'll just cuz we don't do this. And so we'll just cuz we don't do this. And so we'll start to find a position where we're start to find a position where we're start to find a position where we're comfortable and cuddling and we're both comfortable and cuddling and we're both comfortable and cuddling and we're both after like a minute like get off of me. after like a minute like get off of me. after like a minute like get off of me. I'm hot. Why do people do this? I'm hot. Why do people do this? I'm hot. Why do people do this? Right? Cuz you see, don't listen, it's Right? Cuz you see, don't listen, it's Right? Cuz you see, don't listen, it's only in the movies. Stop watching the only in the movies. Stop watching the only in the movies. Stop watching the movies and the television. It's not how movies and the television. It's not how movies and the television. It's not how it works. So for us, this this can be it works. So for us, this this can be it works. So for us, this this can be quite awkward. And when I go to the Song quite awkward. And when I go to the Song quite awkward. And when I go to the Song of Songs 2:6, I love And by the way, of Songs 2:6, I love And by the way, of Songs 2:6, I love And by the way, throughout this whole book, you get uh throughout this whole book, you get uh throughout this whole book, you get uh romantic relationship formation from romantic relationship formation from romantic relationship formation from Solomon and the Shulamite woman. And you Solomon and the Shulamite woman. And you Solomon and the Shulamite woman. And you get all sorts of physical touch get all sorts of physical touch get all sorts of physical touch throughout this book. But I love this throughout this book. But I love this throughout this book. But I love this word picture and this physical touch.

word picture and this physical touch. word picture and this physical touch. His left arm is under my head and his His left arm is under my head and his His left arm is under my head and his right arm embraces me. I practice this right arm embraces me. I practice this right arm embraces me. I practice this every now and then on Amy. I'll walk every now and then on Amy. I'll walk every now and then on Amy. I'll walk into the kitchen. I will throw that left into the kitchen. I will throw that left into the kitchen. I will throw that left hand behind her head and I will bring hand behind her head and I will bring hand behind her head and I will bring her down to here and put my right arm her down to here and put my right arm her down to here and put my right arm over. That's what he's talking about. over. That's what he's talking about. over. That's what he's talking about. And again, it's not and she's like, And again, it's not and she's like, And again, it's not and she's like, "Come on, can I get back to work?" "Come on, can I get back to work?" "Come on, can I get back to work?" Right? Because she's she again, she has Right? Because she's she again, she has Right? Because she's she again, she has to receive it just like I have to give to receive it just like I have to give to receive it just like I have to give give it. And this is the key. If it's give it. And this is the key. If it's give it. And this is the key. If it's your foreign love language, whether it's your foreign love language, whether it's your foreign love language, whether it's giving or receiving, it's still a giving or receiving, it's still a giving or receiving, it's still a decision. decision. decision. You still have to choose to receive it. You still have to choose to receive it. You still have to choose to receive it. Even though it's like, I don't need Even though it's like, I don't need Even though it's like, I don't need that. Just as though just as you're that. Just as though just as you're that. Just as though just as you're choosing to give it. So physical touch choosing to give it. So physical touch choosing to give it. So physical touch is receiving love through meaningful is receiving love through meaningful is receiving love through meaningful touch when words fail. touch when words fail. touch when words fail. And we've all been in situations and And we've all been in situations and And we've all been in situations and you're going to be in situations where you're going to be in situations where you're going to be in situations where words fail. And this this and this this words fail. And this this and this this words fail. And this this and this this love language has the most dialects. love language has the most dialects. love language has the most dialects. Seven dialects. You get four in most of Seven dialects. You get four in most of Seven dialects. You get four in most of them, three in words of affirmation. But them, three in words of affirmation. But them, three in words of affirmation. But here we get seven. And and the dialects here we get seven. And and the dialects here we get seven. And and the dialects are important. If you're new to are important. If you're new to are important. If you're new to understanding what a dialect is, my understanding what a dialect is, my understanding what a dialect is, my family and I were in London a couple of family and I were in London a couple of family and I were in London a couple of years ago, and I walked up to a cashier years ago, and I walked up to a cashier years ago, and I walked up to a cashier and I asked, "Where's your nearest uh and I asked, "Where's your nearest uh and I asked, "Where's your nearest uh restroom?" and she asked me, "What's restroom?" and she asked me, "What's restroom?" and she asked me, "What's your preference?"

your preference?" your preference?" And I said, "Male. I would like a male And I said, "Male. I would like a male And I said, "Male. I would like a male restroom." restroom." restroom." And we both kind of stood there in And we both kind of stood there in And we both kind of stood there in awkward silence because she thought I awkward silence because she thought I awkward silence because she thought I asked, "Where's your nearest asked, "Where's your nearest asked, "Where's your nearest restaurant?" Now, if you don't know this about Now, if you don't know this about England, they speak English. England, they speak English. England, they speak English. I speak English. Okay? Very different I speak English. Okay? Very different I speak English. Okay? Very different dialects. The dialects are important to dialects. The dialects are important to dialects. The dialects are important to learn. Why? Because if there if love is learn. Why? Because if there if love is learn. Why? Because if there if love is getting lost in translation in your most getting lost in translation in your most getting lost in translation in your most important relationships, I promise you important relationships, I promise you important relationships, I promise you it's not because you don't have the love it's not because you don't have the love it's not because you don't have the love language right. It's because you don't language right. It's because you don't language right. It's because you don't have the dialect dialed in. And so I have the dialect dialed in. And so I have the dialect dialed in. And so I want to start with the first dialect want to start with the first dialect want to start with the first dialect because I think it really captures the because I think it really captures the because I think it really captures the idea when words fail. And I want to take idea when words fail. And I want to take idea when words fail. And I want to take you to a funeral with the first dialect. you to a funeral with the first dialect. you to a funeral with the first dialect. Comforting touch, Comforting touch, Comforting touch, reassurance, and presence. Christians reassurance, and presence. Christians reassurance, and presence. Christians can be some of the most awkward people can be some of the most awkward people can be some of the most awkward people I've ever met at funerals because they I've ever met at funerals because they I've ever met at funerals because they just don't know what to say. So, they just don't know what to say. So, they just don't know what to say. So, they just start using words and it it just just start using words and it it just just start using words and it it just all sorts of awkward. Let me just all sorts of awkward. Let me just all sorts of awkward. Let me just encourage you. This is a powerful encourage you. This is a powerful encourage you. This is a powerful dialect at a funeral. You don't have to dialect at a funeral. You don't have to dialect at a funeral. You don't have to say anything. Just walk up to the say anything. Just walk up to the say anything. Just walk up to the grieving grieving grieving individual and put your arm around them.

individual and put your arm around them. individual and put your arm around them. Just stand there in close proximity Just stand there in close proximity Just stand there in close proximity because it offers that reassurance and because it offers that reassurance and because it offers that reassurance and that presence. A powerful dialect. that presence. A powerful dialect. that presence. A powerful dialect. Affectionate. This is warmth and Affectionate. This is warmth and Affectionate. This is warmth and fondness. Gary Smallley would teach that fondness. Gary Smallley would teach that fondness. Gary Smallley would teach that if if you've been in conflict with if if you've been in conflict with if if you've been in conflict with somebody and you said, "I'm sorry." somebody and you said, "I'm sorry." somebody and you said, "I'm sorry." Which, right, three of the hardest Which, right, three of the hardest Which, right, three of the hardest things we'll ever say in life. I'm things we'll ever say in life. I'm things we'll ever say in life. I'm sorry. I was wrong. And worst of sure sorry. I was wrong. And worst of sure sorry. I was wrong. And worst of sure sauce. Those three things very sauce. Those three things very sauce. Those three things very challenging to say. But if you say, "I'm challenging to say. But if you say, "I'm challenging to say. But if you say, "I'm sorry," I we we don't do well with sorry," I we we don't do well with sorry," I we we don't do well with apologies either. When you say, "I'm apologies either. When you say, "I'm apologies either. When you say, "I'm sorry," ask for forgiveness. We never sorry," ask for forgiveness. We never sorry," ask for forgiveness. We never like draw the net on that. We say, "I'm like draw the net on that. We say, "I'm like draw the net on that. We say, "I'm sorry. Will you forgive me? You ask for sorry. Will you forgive me? You ask for sorry. Will you forgive me? You ask for forgiveness. You never demand it. Do you forgiveness. You never demand it. Do you forgiveness. You never demand it. Do you know that affectionate touch is one of know that affectionate touch is one of know that affectionate touch is one of the best ways to determine whether the best ways to determine whether the best ways to determine whether someone has received that apology to someone has received that apology to someone has received that apology to just a hand on the shoulder. You've done just a hand on the shoulder. You've done just a hand on the shoulder. You've done this where a hand on the shoulder and this where a hand on the shoulder and this where a hand on the shoulder and you kind of get this. That's someone not you kind of get this. That's someone not you kind of get this. That's someone not receiving it. But this is warmth and receiving it. But this is warmth and receiving it. But this is warmth and fondness. We express this here in the fondness. We express this here in the fondness. We express this here in the church all the time just with a hello. I church all the time just with a hello. I church all the time just with a hello. I I've become a hugger because Gary I've become a hugger because Gary I've become a hugger because Gary Smallley was a hugger and he hugged me Smallley was a hugger and he hugged me Smallley was a hugger and he hugged me every time it at the beginning of our every time it at the beginning of our every time it at the beginning of our time together, at the end of our time, time together, at the end of our time, time together, at the end of our time, at the beginning of a meeting, at the at the beginning of a meeting, at the at the beginning of a meeting, at the end of a meeting. Playful touch. This is end of a meeting. Playful touch. This is end of a meeting. Playful touch. This is fun and light. And some of you in here fun and light. And some of you in here fun and light. And some of you in here like to be tickled. Uh, and I've like to be tickled. Uh, and I've like to be tickled. Uh, and I've explained to my wife, when you tickle explained to my wife, when you tickle explained to my wife, when you tickle me, that's hate, not love. Okay? You're me, that's hate, not love. Okay? You're me, that's hate, not love. Okay? You're She's being mean. And so I I once was at She's being mean. And so I I once was at She's being mean. And so I I once was at a church and I asked everybody, turn to a church and I asked everybody, turn to a church and I asked everybody, turn to somebody and tickle them right now just somebody and tickle them right now just somebody and tickle them right now just to see how they receive it. Don't do to see how they receive it. Don't do to see how they receive it. Don't do that.

that. that. But there are some of you that's just But there are some of you that's just But there are some of you that's just that fun, playful, slapping, you know, that fun, playful, slapping, you know, that fun, playful, slapping, you know, each other a little bit in a playful way each other a little bit in a playful way each other a little bit in a playful way is fun. Romantic. And I would say most is fun. Romantic. And I would say most is fun. Romantic. And I would say most people when they hear physical touch as people when they hear physical touch as people when they hear physical touch as a love language, they think that this is a love language, they think that this is a love language, they think that this is it. Has something to do with sex. And I it. Has something to do with sex. And I it. Has something to do with sex. And I hope you're seeing today it has far more hope you're seeing today it has far more hope you're seeing today it has far more to do with expressions of of touch than to do with expressions of of touch than to do with expressions of of touch than than just sexual or nonsexual touching. than just sexual or nonsexual touching. than just sexual or nonsexual touching. But this is desire and intimacy. And But this is desire and intimacy. And But this is desire and intimacy. And some of you to be close to your spouse some of you to be close to your spouse some of you to be close to your spouse and to be touching, to be cuddling, and to be touching, to be cuddling, and to be touching, to be cuddling, foreplay, all of that is very important foreplay, all of that is very important foreplay, all of that is very important to you. And this this is part of the to you. And this this is part of the to you. And this this is part of the touch, protective touch. This is walking touch, protective touch. This is walking touch, protective touch. This is walking on the street side and keeping your on the street side and keeping your on the street side and keeping your family on the inside. This is taking family on the inside. This is taking family on the inside. This is taking your child's hand like through a crowd your child's hand like through a crowd your child's hand like through a crowd and kind of guiding them. Last year, I and kind of guiding them. Last year, I and kind of guiding them. Last year, I was standing in the lobby of our church. was standing in the lobby of our church. was standing in the lobby of our church. I mean, I've just learned all this stuff I mean, I've just learned all this stuff I mean, I've just learned all this stuff fresh, the dialects part. And I was fresh, the dialects part. And I was fresh, the dialects part. And I was talking to a lady in our church and I talking to a lady in our church and I talking to a lady in our church and I looked and I was like, "Uhoh, she had a looked and I was like, "Uhoh, she had a looked and I was like, "Uhoh, she had a spider crawling through her hair." And spider crawling through her hair." And spider crawling through her hair." And I'm like, "Protective touch. I'm going I'm like, "Protective touch. I'm going I'm like, "Protective touch. I'm going to swap that thing out. I'm going to to swap that thing out. I'm going to to swap that thing out. I'm going to kill that thing."

kill that thing." kill that thing." But I I was I was in a moment cuz I'm But I I was I was in a moment cuz I'm But I I was I was in a moment cuz I'm not going to say, "Ma'am, I don't want not going to say, "Ma'am, I don't want not going to say, "Ma'am, I don't want to alarm you, but there's a spider in to alarm you, but there's a spider in to alarm you, but there's a spider in your hair right now." Like, that never your hair right now." Like, that never your hair right now." Like, that never is going to go well. So, I'm like, "If I is going to go well. So, I'm like, "If I is going to go well. So, I'm like, "If I just kind of hit this fast enough and just kind of hit this fast enough and just kind of hit this fast enough and swift enough and get it to the ground swift enough and get it to the ground swift enough and get it to the ground and stomp it, we'll be good." And so I I and stomp it, we'll be good." And so I I and stomp it, we'll be good." And so I I gave it a pretty good swat. Like I went, gave it a pretty good swat. Like I went, gave it a pretty good swat. Like I went, "Wow, like that." And she jumped back "Wow, like that." And she jumped back "Wow, like that." And she jumped back and grabbed her hair and she goes, "I and grabbed her hair and she goes, "I and grabbed her hair and she goes, "I pastor, what are you doing?" I said, pastor, what are you doing?" I said, pastor, what are you doing?" I said, "There was a spider crawling through "There was a spider crawling through "There was a spider crawling through your hair." And she said, "Pastor, that your hair." And she said, "Pastor, that your hair." And she said, "Pastor, that is the clip that holds on my hair is the clip that holds on my hair is the clip that holds on my hair extension." So So I'm I don't touch people much anymore. I'm I don't touch people much anymore. I'm I don't touch people much anymore. I'm trying. That's all I'm trying to I'm trying. That's all I'm trying to I'm trying. That's all I'm trying to tell you. I'm trying to do what I've tell you. I'm trying to do what I've tell you. I'm trying to do what I've been called to do with all this stuff been called to do with all this stuff been called to do with all this stuff we're learning. All of that to set up we're learning. All of that to set up we're learning. All of that to set up again. There going to be some awkward again. There going to be some awkward again. There going to be some awkward moments. If you had a spider crawling moments. If you had a spider crawling moments. If you had a spider crawling through your hair and you want me to through your hair and you want me to through your hair and you want me to swat it out, raise your hand. See, I swat it out, raise your hand. See, I swat it out, raise your hand. See, I know I'm in the right on that one. know I'm in the right on that one. know I'm in the right on that one. Expressive. So, our student pastor at Expressive. So, our student pastor at Expressive. So, our student pastor at our church, physical touch is his love our church, physical touch is his love our church, physical touch is his love language. Expressive, right? This is he language. Expressive, right? This is he language. Expressive, right? This is he he wants the high five after event. Just he wants the high five after event. Just he wants the high five after event. Just words of affirmation don't don't work as words of affirmation don't don't work as words of affirmation don't don't work as much for him, but a high five like, man, much for him, but a high five like, man, much for him, but a high five like, man, good job, Jared. Way to go. This is this good job, Jared. Way to go. This is this good job, Jared. Way to go. This is this is the celebrating with a buddy on the is the celebrating with a buddy on the is the celebrating with a buddy on the golf course after a birdie shot, right?

golf course after a birdie shot, right? golf course after a birdie shot, right? Coming in expressive. And then Coming in expressive. And then Coming in expressive. And then restorative healing and renewal. And uh restorative healing and renewal. And uh restorative healing and renewal. And uh some of you love a foot massage. I I some of you love a foot massage. I I some of you love a foot massage. I I think that's the most I'd rather get think that's the most I'd rather get think that's the most I'd rather get stabbed in the neck with a fork than to stabbed in the neck with a fork than to stabbed in the neck with a fork than to have you massaging my feet. I've only have you massaging my feet. I've only have you massaging my feet. I've only done one massage in my life. And uh I done one massage in my life. And uh I done one massage in my life. And uh I know people love if you love a massage, know people love if you love a massage, know people love if you love a massage, would you raise your hand? Okay. How would you raise your hand? Okay. How would you raise your hand? Okay. How many of you would hate a massage? Would many of you would hate a massage? Would many of you would hate a massage? Would you raise your hand? Man, this is a you raise your hand? Man, this is a you raise your hand? Man, this is a great group. I You're my people. Okay, great group. I You're my people. Okay, great group. I You're my people. Okay, but we were in California, which is not but we were in California, which is not but we were in California, which is not where I'd recommend you get your first where I'd recommend you get your first where I'd recommend you get your first massage. Uh and this church we were at gave us a and this church we were at gave us a couple's massage at this resort. And I couple's massage at this resort. And I couple's massage at this resort. And I immediately told Amy, "Call down. Get it immediately told Amy, "Call down. Get it immediately told Amy, "Call down. Get it traded in for two treatments for traded in for two treatments for traded in for two treatments for yourself." She goes, "Just do this with yourself." She goes, "Just do this with yourself." She goes, "Just do this with me one time. Do this for me." I'm like, me one time. Do this for me." I'm like, me one time. Do this for me." I'm like, okay. It was the It was the most pain. I okay. It was the It was the most pain. I okay. It was the It was the most pain. I was more tense. was more tense. was more tense. I didn't have knots going into the I didn't have knots going into the I didn't have knots going into the massage, but I had them coming out. I massage, but I had them coming out. I massage, but I had them coming out. I was just tense as could be. Afterwards, was just tense as could be. Afterwards, was just tense as could be. Afterwards, I just sat there in the fetal position I just sat there in the fetal position I just sat there in the fetal position on the bed like, "This is horrible." Amy on the bed like, "This is horrible." Amy on the bed like, "This is horrible." Amy comes over, puts her arm around like, comes over, puts her arm around like, comes over, puts her arm around like, "Just leave me alone for just a sec.

"Just leave me alone for just a sec. "Just leave me alone for just a sec. Just give me a second." Just give me a second." Just give me a second." So, it's not mine. But some of you love So, it's not mine. But some of you love So, it's not mine. But some of you love it. And some of you are like, "I give it. And some of you are like, "I give it. And some of you are like, "I give her a foot massage every night, right? her a foot massage every night, right? her a foot massage every night, right? She wants a back rub every night. You She wants a back rub every night. You She wants a back rub every night. You got to let me just say this to the got to let me just say this to the got to let me just say this to the husband in the room. Let me help you husband in the room. Let me help you husband in the room. Let me help you just a little bit. This may be her just a little bit. This may be her just a little bit. This may be her dialect right here. And it doesn't have dialect right here. And it doesn't have dialect right here. And it doesn't have to lead to this right here. Okay. So, to lead to this right here. Okay. So, to lead to this right here. Okay. So, we're going to move on to the next one. we're going to move on to the next one. we're going to move on to the next one. This part I've sent to Dr. Chapman This part I've sent to Dr. Chapman This part I've sent to Dr. Chapman because this was created at your church, because this was created at your church, because this was created at your church, this grid, and I think it's brilliant to this grid, and I think it's brilliant to this grid, and I think it's brilliant to remind us how to do this because we can remind us how to do this because we can remind us how to do this because we can receive and give, but we can do it with receive and give, but we can do it with receive and give, but we can do it with bad motives. We can do it in the spirit bad motives. We can do it in the spirit bad motives. We can do it in the spirit like truly desiring to follow Jesus and like truly desiring to follow Jesus and like truly desiring to follow Jesus and wanting to become fluent in all five. wanting to become fluent in all five. wanting to become fluent in all five. But we can also slip into that vain But we can also slip into that vain But we can also slip into that vain conceit and selfish ambition and into conceit and selfish ambition and into conceit and selfish ambition and into the flesh. And so receiving in the the flesh. And so receiving in the the flesh. And so receiving in the spirit, you're grateful the other person spirit, you're grateful the other person spirit, you're grateful the other person knows you and makes the effort even when knows you and makes the effort even when knows you and makes the effort even when it's awkward. You're like, "Okay, that it's awkward. You're like, "Okay, that it's awkward. You're like, "Okay, that wow. Okay, this person is truly leaning wow. Okay, this person is truly leaning wow. Okay, this person is truly leaning in." But watch what happens when we are in." But watch what happens when we are in." But watch what happens when we are not walking in the spirit and and not walking in the spirit and and not walking in the spirit and and satisfying the lust of the flesh. Right?

satisfying the lust of the flesh. Right? satisfying the lust of the flesh. Right? You reject touch when it feels unnatural You reject touch when it feels unnatural You reject touch when it feels unnatural for the other person. You're like, "Oh, for the other person. You're like, "Oh, for the other person. You're like, "Oh, no, no, no." And this is true of all the no, no, no." And this is true of all the no, no, no." And this is true of all the love languages. Also, giving in the love languages. Also, giving in the love languages. Also, giving in the spirit, you overcome awkward moments to spirit, you overcome awkward moments to spirit, you overcome awkward moments to care for the other person. And that's care for the other person. And that's care for the other person. And that's what I'm learning to do because it's my what I'm learning to do because it's my what I'm learning to do because it's my foreign love language. We say it all the foreign love language. We say it all the foreign love language. We say it all the time at our church. We got this from time at our church. We got this from time at our church. We got this from Pastor Mark Patterson. Awkward is Pastor Mark Patterson. Awkward is Pastor Mark Patterson. Awkward is awesome. awesome. awesome. Embrace the awkward. Embrace the Embrace the awkward. Embrace the Embrace the awkward. Embrace the awkward. But we also can withhold this. awkward. But we also can withhold this. awkward. But we also can withhold this. Limit it to express hurt or frustration. Limit it to express hurt or frustration. Limit it to express hurt or frustration. I I go back to my ordination 30 years I I go back to my ordination 30 years I I go back to my ordination 30 years ago. This verse, every time I read it, I ago. This verse, every time I read it, I ago. This verse, every time I read it, I think about the men who gathered around think about the men who gathered around think about the men who gathered around me and laid hands on me. And I want you me and laid hands on me. And I want you me and laid hands on me. And I want you to see the power of meaningful touch, of to see the power of meaningful touch, of to see the power of meaningful touch, of physical touch. Paul says this to young physical touch. Paul says this to young physical touch. Paul says this to young Timothy, "Do not neglect your gift which Timothy, "Do not neglect your gift which Timothy, "Do not neglect your gift which was given to you through prophecy. when was given to you through prophecy. when was given to you through prophecy. when the body of elders laid their hands on the body of elders laid their hands on the body of elders laid their hands on you. And I sat in a chair over 30 years you. And I sat in a chair over 30 years you. And I sat in a chair over 30 years ago at the front of a church after going ago at the front of a church after going ago at the front of a church after going through the ordination process and men through the ordination process and men through the ordination process and men that mean a lot to me. Many are with the that mean a lot to me. Many are with the that mean a lot to me. Many are with the Lord right now gathered around me. They Lord right now gathered around me. They Lord right now gathered around me. They laid their hands on me. And guess what laid their hands on me. And guess what laid their hands on me. And guess what that is for me in that moment. Super that is for me in that moment. Super that is for me in that moment. Super awkward. One being the center of awkward. One being the center of awkward. One being the center of attention like that being touched at attention like that being touched at attention like that being touched at that level. I'm just sitting there going that level. I'm just sitting there going that level. I'm just sitting there going awkward. But I can tell you this, 30 awkward. But I can tell you this, 30 awkward. But I can tell you this, 30 years later, I still remember every years later, I still remember every years later, I still remember every single word they ever said to me.

single word they ever said to me. single word they ever said to me. Those words attached with that physical Those words attached with that physical Those words attached with that physical touch. And when I read this, every time touch. And when I read this, every time touch. And when I read this, every time I go back to we called him Brother Bud I go back to we called him Brother Bud I go back to we called him Brother Bud and Brother Doug and what Austin said to and Brother Doug and what Austin said to and Brother Doug and what Austin said to me and what Chris said to me as they me and what Chris said to me as they me and what Chris said to me as they laid out, touch is powerful. Let's not laid out, touch is powerful. Let's not laid out, touch is powerful. Let's not forget that in the passage we looked at forget that in the passage we looked at forget that in the passage we looked at in John 13, Jesus modeled love for us. in John 13, Jesus modeled love for us. in John 13, Jesus modeled love for us. And he showed us how meaningful touch And he showed us how meaningful touch And he showed us how meaningful touch loves and blesses others. And I hope you loves and blesses others. And I hope you loves and blesses others. And I hope you embrace it. Now, if this is something embrace it. Now, if this is something embrace it. Now, if this is something that's been awkward for you, that you've that's been awkward for you, that you've that's been awkward for you, that you've withheld from people, that today the withheld from people, that today the withheld from people, that today the goal is real simple, that you would goal is real simple, that you would goal is real simple, that you would leave and say, "Somebody's getting a hug leave and say, "Somebody's getting a hug leave and say, "Somebody's getting a hug from me, whether they want it or not." from me, whether they want it or not." from me, whether they want it or not." And you're just going to embrace it. And you're just going to embrace it. And you're just going to embrace it. when the disciples rebuked the children when the disciples rebuked the children when the disciples rebuked the children from coming to Jesus and the I love it. from coming to Jesus and the I love it. from coming to Jesus and the I love it. The Bible says that Jesus grew The Bible says that Jesus grew The Bible says that Jesus grew indignant. All right, the word indignant indignant. All right, the word indignant indignant. All right, the word indignant just means very angry. Have you ever just means very angry. Have you ever just means very angry. Have you ever seen the picture in a Christian seen the picture in a Christian seen the picture in a Christian bookstore of Jesus sitting on a rock bookstore of Jesus sitting on a rock bookstore of Jesus sitting on a rock with the children and the disciples in with the children and the disciples in with the children and the disciples in the background? What a horrible the background? What a horrible the background? What a horrible depiction of that text. I think he depiction of that text. I think he depiction of that text. I think he should be sitting on the rock with the should be sitting on the rock with the should be sitting on the rock with the children looking at the disciples, children looking at the disciples, children looking at the disciples, right? Because he's blessing the right? Because he's blessing the right? Because he's blessing the children. The Bible tells us in Mark 10, children. The Bible tells us in Mark 10, children. The Bible tells us in Mark 10, he took the children in his arms, placed he took the children in his arms, placed he took the children in his arms, placed his hands on their heads, and blessed his hands on their heads, and blessed his hands on their heads, and blessed them. I I still do this with my kids.

them. I I still do this with my kids. them. I I still do this with my kids. I'll walk in and and I mean, now in I'll walk in and and I mean, now in I'll walk in and and I mean, now in their 20s and married, I mean, I'll I'll their 20s and married, I mean, I'll I'll their 20s and married, I mean, I'll I'll touch their face. I'll touch their head touch their face. I'll touch their head touch their face. I'll touch their head as I I pray over them. as I I pray over them. as I I pray over them. It's this is powerful. Jesus, listen, It's this is powerful. Jesus, listen, It's this is powerful. Jesus, listen, Jesus was so other centered and mission Jesus was so other centered and mission Jesus was so other centered and mission focused. No one could take him off of focused. No one could take him off of focused. No one could take him off of this. And he was mission focused. And he this. And he was mission focused. And he this. And he was mission focused. And he loved and blessed and touched those who loved and blessed and touched those who loved and blessed and touched those who were marginalized, were marginalized, were marginalized, those who were outcasts, those who were outcasts, those who were outcasts, people that may make us feel people that may make us feel people that may make us feel uncomfortable. Jesus moved toward him uncomfortable. Jesus moved toward him uncomfortable. Jesus moved toward him when many of us would be moving away when many of us would be moving away when many of us would be moving away from him. We see in Matthew 8, a man from him. We see in Matthew 8, a man from him. We see in Matthew 8, a man with leprosy came and knelt before him with leprosy came and knelt before him with leprosy came and knelt before him and said, "Lord, if you are willing, you and said, "Lord, if you are willing, you and said, "Lord, if you are willing, you can make me clean." Jesus reached out can make me clean." Jesus reached out can make me clean." Jesus reached out his hand and touched the man. I am his hand and touched the man. I am his hand and touched the man. I am willing, he said. Be clean. immediately willing, he said. Be clean. immediately willing, he said. Be clean. immediately he was cleansed of his leprosy. he was cleansed of his leprosy. he was cleansed of his leprosy. How you see and going back to Acts of How you see and going back to Acts of How you see and going back to Acts of Service and Jesus washing the feet of Service and Jesus washing the feet of Service and Jesus washing the feet of the disciples. I hope that at the end of the disciples. I hope that at the end of the disciples. I hope that at the end of this series as you read the Bible, this series as you read the Bible, this series as you read the Bible, you'll have a moment where you'll go, you'll have a moment where you'll go, you'll have a moment where you'll go, "Oo, that that's acts of service and "Oo, that that's acts of service and "Oo, that that's acts of service and physical touch right there. Oh, that's physical touch right there. Oh, that's physical touch right there. Oh, that's that's physical touch right there." And that's physical touch right there." And that's physical touch right there." And and quality time. Can't wait for you to and quality time. Can't wait for you to and quality time. Can't wait for you to learn about quality time. Oh, Jesus learn about quality time. Oh, Jesus learn about quality time. Oh, Jesus spent a lot of quality time with people.

spent a lot of quality time with people. spent a lot of quality time with people. And and people often ask, "What is God's And and people often ask, "What is God's And and people often ask, "What is God's love language?" Because we we often talk love language?" Because we we often talk love language?" Because we we often talk about receiving God's love, but but how about receiving God's love, but but how about receiving God's love, but but how does God receive love? How do we give does God receive love? How do we give does God receive love? How do we give love to God? love to God? love to God? And I love to put it this simple. Jesus And I love to put it this simple. Jesus And I love to put it this simple. Jesus is God's love language. is God's love language. is God's love language. Jesus is the way God gives and receives Jesus is the way God gives and receives Jesus is the way God gives and receives love to you and to me. For God so loved love to you and to me. For God so loved love to you and to me. For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten the world that he gave his only begotten the world that he gave his only begotten son that whoever believes in him shall son that whoever believes in him shall son that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have everlasting life. not perish but have everlasting life. not perish but have everlasting life. And when you receive, this is why for And when you receive, this is why for And when you receive, this is why for those of you who may be new to church those of you who may be new to church those of you who may be new to church thinking, well, when you give your life thinking, well, when you give your life thinking, well, when you give your life to Jesus, there's going to be all these to Jesus, there's going to be all these to Jesus, there's going to be all these rules. Well, when you understand how rules. Well, when you understand how rules. Well, when you understand how much love he is pouring out and much love he is pouring out and much love he is pouring out and lavishing on you, his commands and his lavishing on you, his commands and his lavishing on you, his commands and his law become delight. law become delight. law become delight. Like they truly do. Like to follow him Like they truly do. Like to follow him Like they truly do. Like to follow him is like yes, I I delight. I meditate on is like yes, I I delight. I meditate on is like yes, I I delight. I meditate on this because I know this is life. And this because I know this is life. And this because I know this is life. And Jesus was clear about this. Whoever has Jesus was clear about this. Whoever has Jesus was clear about this. Whoever has my commands and keeps them is the one my commands and keeps them is the one my commands and keeps them is the one who loves me. It's the one who follows who loves me. It's the one who follows who loves me. It's the one who follows me. And now watch. This is how God me. And now watch. This is how God me. And now watch. This is how God receives love from you. The one who receives love from you. The one who receives love from you. The one who loves me will be loved by my father and loves me will be loved by my father and loves me will be loved by my father and I too will love them and show myself to I too will love them and show myself to I too will love them and show myself to them.

them. them. God gives his son Jesus to us because he God gives his son Jesus to us because he God gives his son Jesus to us because he loves us. And if you've never placed loves us. And if you've never placed loves us. And if you've never placed faith in Jesus, that today would be the faith in Jesus, that today would be the faith in Jesus, that today would be the day of your salvation, day of your salvation, day of your salvation, that you would repent of your sins, that you would repent of your sins, that you would repent of your sins, confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord, confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord, confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that he's been and believe in your heart that he's been and believe in your heart that he's been raised from the dead, that you will be raised from the dead, that you will be raised from the dead, that you will be saved, saved, saved, and then you will leave here what the and then you will leave here what the and then you will leave here what the Bible says, born again, Bible says, born again, Bible says, born again, a a a new creature in Christ Jesus, new a a a new creature in Christ Jesus, new a a a new creature in Christ Jesus, new creation. creation. creation. And with that, now it's like, man, how And with that, now it's like, man, how And with that, now it's like, man, how do I express my love to him? Well, I'm do I express my love to him? Well, I'm do I express my love to him? Well, I'm going to follow him. What Jesus teaches, going to follow him. What Jesus teaches, going to follow him. What Jesus teaches, I'm going after that. It's how I'm going I'm going after that. It's how I'm going I'm going after that. It's how I'm going to live my life. to live my life. to live my life. I'm grateful that you're leaning in and I'm grateful that you're leaning in and I'm grateful that you're leaning in and tuning in and and making these love tuning in and and making these love tuning in and and making these love languages a priority. And I hope that languages a priority. And I hope that languages a priority. And I hope that you learn them all for the purpose of you learn them all for the purpose of you learn them all for the purpose of practicing them, for bringing them into practicing them, for bringing them into practicing them, for bringing them into your life so that we can better love one your life so that we can better love one your life so that we can better love one another. and that all of us loving one another. and that all of us loving one another. and that all of us loving one another as Christ has loved us, it's another as Christ has loved us, it's another as Christ has loved us, it's going to point other people who don't going to point other people who don't going to point other people who don't know Jesus, it's going to let them know, know Jesus, it's going to let them know, know Jesus, it's going to let them know, hey, listen, what is it about that group hey, listen, what is it about that group hey, listen, what is it about that group of people giving and receiving, giving of people giving and receiving, giving of people giving and receiving, giving and receiving, giving and receiving? By and receiving, giving and receiving? By and receiving, giving and receiving? By that, all men will know that you are that, all men will know that you are that, all men will know that you are disciples of Jesus. Would you pray with disciples of Jesus. Would you pray with disciples of Jesus. Would you pray with me? Father, for the one who's never me? Father, for the one who's never me? Father, for the one who's never placed faith in Jesus, that today would placed faith in Jesus, that today would placed faith in Jesus, that today would be the day that they receive that gift, be the day that they receive that gift, be the day that they receive that gift, they receive your love for the very they receive your love for the very they receive your love for the very first time. And that as they seek ways first time. And that as they seek ways first time. And that as they seek ways to express their love back to you, that to express their love back to you, that to express their love back to you, that they would follow you, that they would they would follow you, that they would they would follow you, that they would study the scripture, that they would study the scripture, that they would study the scripture, that they would apply the scripture.

apply the scripture. apply the scripture. I pray for the the the church here back I pray for the the the church here back I pray for the the the church here back in Branson, [clears throat] our friends in Branson, [clears throat] our friends in Branson, [clears throat] our friends around the country, the body of Christ, around the country, the body of Christ, around the country, the body of Christ, that that we would understand that that that that we would understand that that that that we would understand that that showing up week after week for services showing up week after week for services showing up week after week for services and receiving is not where it ends, and receiving is not where it ends, and receiving is not where it ends, but that we would find our place and but that we would find our place and but that we would find our place and give as well. I thank you for this give as well. I thank you for this give as well. I thank you for this church. I thank you for what you're church. I thank you for what you're church. I thank you for what you're doing through this church. I thank you doing through this church. I thank you doing through this church. I thank you for how you care and love this church. for how you care and love this church. for how you care and love this church. um um um bless Battle Creek as they seek to live bless Battle Creek as they seek to live bless Battle Creek as they seek to live out this message of loving one another. out this message of loving one another. out this message of loving one another. We pray all this in the authority of the We pray all this in the authority of the We pray all this in the authority of the name of Jesus. Amen. Love you, church. Come on. Well, what a great message Come on. Well, what a great message today by Pastor Ted. And uh I hope you today by Pastor Ted. And uh I hope you today by Pastor Ted. And uh I hope you were encouraged. And just one thing as were encouraged. And just one thing as were encouraged. And just one thing as we're going through this series every we're going through this series every we're going through this series every week, we're going to be talking about week, we're going to be talking about week, we're going to be talking about that box in the flesh and in the spirit. that box in the flesh and in the spirit. that box in the flesh and in the spirit. When you're giving and receiving those When you're giving and receiving those When you're giving and receiving those gifts, don't forget to take a picture.

gifts, don't forget to take a picture. gifts, don't forget to take a picture. Take notes of that. It's so applicable Take notes of that. It's so applicable Take notes of that. It's so applicable as we go and we find people uh who have as we go and we find people uh who have as we go and we find people uh who have that gift and how to love on them or if that gift and how to love on them or if that gift and how to love on them or if that is your gift [music] to help people that is your gift [music] to help people that is your gift [music] to help people and knowing uh how to give, but also how and knowing uh how to give, but also how and knowing uh how to give, but also how to receive if that's you, knowing that to receive if that's you, knowing that to receive if that's you, knowing that you want to we want God has called us to you want to we want God has called us to you want to we want God has called us to live in the [music] spirit. Hey, we have live in the [music] spirit. Hey, we have live in the [music] spirit. Hey, we have an online resource page for our love an online resource page for our love an online resource page for our love five love language series. And so five love language series. And so five love language series. And so they're going to put that in the chat they're going to put that in the chat they're going to put that in the chat right now. It's also on our app, Battle right now. It's also on our app, Battle right now. It's also on our app, Battle Creek Church app. Go on there. Uh if you Creek Church app. Go on there. Uh if you Creek Church app. Go on there. Uh if you can take the test on there, it also has can take the test on there, it also has can take the test on there, it also has other resources for you. But hey, I'm so other resources for you. But hey, I'm so other resources for you. But hey, I'm so thankful that you chose to be with us thankful that you chose to be with us thankful that you chose to be with us today. I'm praying for you. I love you. today. I'm praying for you. I love you. today. I'm praying for you. I love you. Hey, invite somebody next week and I Hey, invite somebody next week and I Hey, invite somebody next week and I pray that you have a fantastic week. I pray that you have a fantastic week. I pray that you have a fantastic week. I will see you next Sunday. >> Heat. Heat.

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