Why Isn't It Enough? | Love Languages: Acts of Service | Josiah Guajardo

Come on, church. Can we celebrate all Come on, church. Can we celebrate all that God did at Camp Empower? that God did at Camp Empower? that God did at Camp Empower? >> [applause] >> An incredible few days with Camp >> An incredible few days with Camp Empower. And church, let me just tell Empower. And church, let me just tell Empower. And church, let me just tell you this. What I love most about our you this. What I love most about our you this. What I love most about our church is that we have a mission church is that we have a mission church is that we have a mission statement, but we don't just have a statement, but we don't just have a statement, but we don't just have a mission statement. We live out the mission statement. We live out the mission statement. We live out the mission statement, right? Helping all mission statement, right? Helping all mission statement, right? Helping all people of all ages, all the time advance people of all ages, all the time advance people of all ages, all the time advance in their journey with Christ. And Camp in their journey with Christ. And Camp in their journey with Christ. And Camp Empower is a picture of that. You know, Empower is a picture of that. You know, Empower is a picture of that. You know, our Haven ministry, which they honor and our Haven ministry, which they honor and our Haven ministry, which they honor and value every need, every single week. So, value every need, every single week. So, value every need, every single week. So, church, I I just want to say before we church, I I just want to say before we church, I I just want to say before we do anything today, thank you for being do anything today, thank you for being do anything today, thank you for being the church. Thank you for loving people the church. Thank you for loving people the church. Thank you for loving people so well. If I haven't had the chance to so well. If I haven't had the chance to so well. If I haven't had the chance to meet you, my name is Josiah Guajardo, meet you, my name is Josiah Guajardo, meet you, my name is Josiah Guajardo, and I have the privilege of serving as and I have the privilege of serving as and I have the privilege of serving as our online pastor as well. I get to lead our online pastor as well. I get to lead our online pastor as well. I get to lead our communications and creative teams our communications and creative teams our communications and creative teams here at Battle Creek Church. We get to here at Battle Creek Church. We get to here at Battle Creek Church. We get to make videos just like the one that you make videos just like the one that you make videos just like the one that you just saw. And before we just saw. And before we just saw. And before we jump into our message today, I'd like to jump into our message today, I'd like to jump into our message today, I'd like to take a moment just to to honor our take a moment just to to honor our take a moment just to to honor our pastor. I'm so thankful to be here today pastor. I'm so thankful to be here today pastor. I'm so thankful to be here today to speak to you. And to speak to you. And to speak to you. And can you just let Pastor Alex and can you just let Pastor Alex and can you just let Pastor Alex and Meredith know how much we love them Meredith know how much we love them Meredith know how much we love them today? Can we thank him for their heart today? Can we thank him for their heart today? Can we thank him for their heart and in the way they love us as a church?

and in the way they love us as a church? and in the way they love us as a church? >> [applause] >> You know, one of the privileges of my >> You know, one of the privileges of my role is getting to be with Pastor behind role is getting to be with Pastor behind role is getting to be with Pastor behind the scenes and getting to see him in the the scenes and getting to see him in the the scenes and getting to see him in the day-to-day. And one thing that I've day-to-day. And one thing that I've day-to-day. And one thing that I've learned is that he doesn't just pray for learned is that he doesn't just pray for learned is that he doesn't just pray for us as a whole, our church as a whole, us as a whole, our church as a whole, us as a whole, our church as a whole, but he gets to pray for people but he gets to pray for people but he gets to pray for people specifically. He prays for families and specifically. He prays for families and specifically. He prays for families and over specific situations and people by over specific situations and people by over specific situations and people by name. And so, before we open God's word name. And so, before we open God's word name. And so, before we open God's word today, I would love to just take a today, I would love to just take a today, I would love to just take a minute and to pray for him. As you minute and to pray for him. As you minute and to pray for him. As you heard, he's heard, he's heard, he's recovering and just that the Lord would recovering and just that the Lord would recovering and just that the Lord would continue to help the recovery and would continue to help the recovery and would continue to help the recovery and would continue to bless him and the family. continue to bless him and the family. continue to bless him and the family. Would you pray with me this morning? Would you pray with me this morning? Would you pray with me this morning? Would you bow your heads? Would you bow your heads? Would you bow your heads? Father, we thank you for the gift of Father, we thank you for the gift of Father, we thank you for the gift of Pastor. God, we thank you for Pastor Pastor. God, we thank you for Pastor Pastor. God, we thank you for Pastor Alex and the gift he is to our church. Alex and the gift he is to our church. Alex and the gift he is to our church. We thank you for his faithful leadership We thank you for his faithful leadership We thank you for his faithful leadership and the love and the love and the love that he has for your people and the way that he has for your people and the way that he has for your people and the way he continues to point to Jesus. God, he continues to point to Jesus. God, he continues to point to Jesus. God, today we ask that you would strengthen today we ask that you would strengthen today we ask that you would strengthen his body, restore his health, and give his body, restore his health, and give his body, restore his health, and give him the rest that he needs. God, him the rest that he needs. God, him the rest that he needs. God, encourage him and Meredith to remind encourage him and Meredith to remind encourage him and Meredith to remind them how deeply loved they are by their them how deeply loved they are by their them how deeply loved they are by their church family. Continue to give them church family. Continue to give them church family. Continue to give them wisdom as they lead us. God, we love you wisdom as they lead us. God, we love you wisdom as they lead us. God, we love you and we thank you and in Jesus' name. And and we thank you and in Jesus' name. And and we thank you and in Jesus' name. And everybody says everybody says everybody says amen. Well, today before amen. Well, today before amen. Well, today before today we get to kick off a brand new today we get to kick off a brand new today we get to kick off a brand new series called love languages and I series called love languages and I series called love languages and I couldn't be more excited for that. But couldn't be more excited for that. But couldn't be more excited for that. But before we jump into that, I would love before we jump into that, I would love before we jump into that, I would love to introduce you to my family.

to introduce you to my family. to introduce you to my family. This is my wife Del me This is my wife Del me This is my wife Del me and our two beautiful kids, Josiah and and our two beautiful kids, Josiah and and our two beautiful kids, Josiah and Isabella. And I know what you're Isabella. And I know what you're Isabella. And I know what you're thinking, those kids are so adorable. thinking, those kids are so adorable. thinking, those kids are so adorable. They look like their dad. They look like their dad. They look like their dad. But no, we've been a part of Battle But no, we've been a part of Battle But no, we've been a part of Battle Creek Church for just under 10 years now Creek Church for just under 10 years now Creek Church for just under 10 years now and it has truly been one of the and it has truly been one of the and it has truly been one of the greatest blessings of my life. And I I I greatest blessings of my life. And I I I greatest blessings of my life. And I I I got into the archives and this is us in got into the archives and this is us in got into the archives and this is us in one of our first years here at Battle one of our first years here at Battle one of our first years here at Battle Creek Church. And I know what you're Creek Church. And I know what you're Creek Church. And I know what you're thinking, Del me hasn't aged one single thinking, Del me hasn't aged one single thinking, Del me hasn't aged one single day and I found every good restaurant in day and I found every good restaurant in day and I found every good restaurant in Tulsa to eat at, right? Tulsa to eat at, right? Tulsa to eat at, right? But you know, But you know, But you know, what people don't know or some people what people don't know or some people what people don't know or some people don't know is Del me actually works here don't know is Del me actually works here don't know is Del me actually works here at the church with us and she leads our at the church with us and she leads our at the church with us and she leads our outreach team. And whenever I say I work outreach team. And whenever I say I work outreach team. And whenever I say I work with my wife, usually the next question with my wife, usually the next question with my wife, usually the next question is, how is that? How do you do that? is, how is that? How do you do that? is, how is that? How do you do that? Because if it was us, Because if it was us, Because if it was us, it would not go well. Well, normally I it would not go well. Well, normally I it would not go well. Well, normally I say say say something, but today I just want to show something, but today I just want to show something, but today I just want to show you what is it like to work with your you what is it like to work with your you what is it like to work with your wife. This is what it's like to work wife. This is what it's like to work wife. This is what it's like to work with your wife. with your wife. with your wife. It's okay. You could be truthful. Like It's okay. You could be truthful. Like It's okay. You could be truthful. Like look at her. Look how excited she is look at her. Look how excited she is look at her. Look how excited she is into wearing this costume in this day.

into wearing this costume in this day. into wearing this costume in this day. Look how excited I am Look how excited I am Look how excited I am to be married to her. You know what I'm to be married to her. You know what I'm to be married to her. You know what I'm saying? Like saying? Like saying? Like that's how it goes. But over the years, that's how it goes. But over the years, that's how it goes. But over the years, we've learned a lot about relationships we've learned a lot about relationships we've learned a lot about relationships and we've had to grown grown in our and we've had to grown grown in our and we've had to grown grown in our marriage. And in fact, one of the marriage. And in fact, one of the marriage. And in fact, one of the biggest lessons that I learned was the biggest lessons that I learned was the biggest lessons that I learned was the year before we got married. You see, Del year before we got married. You see, Del year before we got married. You see, Del me and I went to Oral Roberts me and I went to Oral Roberts me and I went to Oral Roberts University. Any Oral Roberts people in University. Any Oral Roberts people in University. Any Oral Roberts people in the house? the house? the house? Praise God. Praise God. Praise God. And so we're we had just got engaged and And so we're we had just got engaged and And so we're we had just got engaged and we're at at at school and at ORU every we're at at at school and at ORU every we're at at at school and at ORU every most of the classes are in one single most of the classes are in one single most of the classes are in one single building. And so when you walk in you building. And so when you walk in you building. And so when you walk in you can choose to go to your left or you can can choose to go to your left or you can can choose to go to your left or you can choose to go to your right. Now they all choose to go to your right. Now they all choose to go to your right. Now they all lead to the same place but you can lead to the same place but you can lead to the same place but you can choose and if you go to your left you choose and if you go to your left you choose and if you go to your left you walk by a coffee shop. If you go to your walk by a coffee shop. If you go to your walk by a coffee shop. If you go to your right you walk by the bookstore. Now right you walk by the bookstore. Now right you walk by the bookstore. Now normally we always walk to the left. normally we always walk to the left. normally we always walk to the left. That's just what That's just what That's just what the flow of the building was. Why I the flow of the building was. Why I the flow of the building was. Why I don't know but that semester don't know but that semester don't know but that semester specifically I was in grad school and I specifically I was in grad school and I specifically I was in grad school and I and I she thought it was like we just and I she thought it was like we just and I she thought it was like we just did it but I specifically chose to go to did it but I specifically chose to go to did it but I specifically chose to go to the right and you're like well why did the right and you're like well why did the right and you're like well why did you do that? Well, I couldn't afford you do that? Well, I couldn't afford you do that? Well, I couldn't afford coffee every day. So I was like I can't coffee every day. So I was like I can't coffee every day. So I was like I can't buy you coffee every day. I need to go buy you coffee every day. I need to go buy you coffee every day. I need to go to the right. Well, that backfired on me to the right. Well, that backfired on me to the right. Well, that backfired on me and you'll see in just a minute. And so and you'll see in just a minute. And so and you'll see in just a minute. And so we would go we would go we would go to the right and we walk by the to the right and we walk by the to the right and we walk by the bookstore. Well, we were walking by the bookstore. Well, we were walking by the bookstore. Well, we were walking by the bookstore they had these two mannequins bookstore they had these two mannequins bookstore they had these two mannequins out and they had these two shirts and out and they had these two shirts and out and they had these two shirts and she really liked one of them. It was she really liked one of them. It was she really liked one of them. It was when the spirit shirt comes out you know when the spirit shirt comes out you know when the spirit shirt comes out you know all the females know what I'm talking all the females know what I'm talking all the females know what I'm talking about like they have big lettering on about like they have big lettering on about like they have big lettering on the back and so I was like well I'm the back and so I was like well I'm the back and so I was like well I'm going to go see if I can buy it for her.

going to go see if I can buy it for her. going to go see if I can buy it for her. Right? We're getting married I want to Right? We're getting married I want to Right? We're getting married I want to give her a gift. Well, I went in and it give her a gift. Well, I went in and it give her a gift. Well, I went in and it cost $85. Like I asked lady at the bookstore like Like I asked lady at the bookstore like does this come with a degree? Like what does this come with a degree? Like what does this come with a degree? Like what $85? Like what what's going on here? $85? Like what what's going on here? $85? Like what what's going on here? Like this is ridiculous. Like it should Like this is ridiculous. Like it should Like this is ridiculous. Like it should come with all the books ever created at come with all the books ever created at come with all the books ever created at Oral Roberts University. Well, I said I Oral Roberts University. Well, I said I Oral Roberts University. Well, I said I love her but I just couldn't do it. I'm love her but I just couldn't do it. I'm love her but I just couldn't do it. I'm a grad assistant I'm making like $7 an a grad assistant I'm making like $7 an a grad assistant I'm making like $7 an hour. That's like 3 days of work and so hour. That's like 3 days of work and so hour. That's like 3 days of work and so I was like I can't do it and so we I was like I can't do it and so we I was like I can't do it and so we continued on with the semester and continued on with the semester and continued on with the semester and finally we got to November and I'm like finally we got to November and I'm like finally we got to November and I'm like you know what? I'm going to buy it for you know what? I'm going to buy it for you know what? I'm going to buy it for her for Christmas. her for Christmas. her for Christmas. Like I'm going to go all out. I'm going Like I'm going to go all out. I'm going Like I'm going to go all out. I'm going to do it. We're going to we're going to to do it. We're going to we're going to to do it. We're going to we're going to set the precedent that I'm going to I'm set the precedent that I'm going to I'm set the precedent that I'm going to I'm going to do it. So in November I go I going to do it. So in November I go I going to do it. So in November I go I buy it and and I wrap it and that buy it and and I wrap it and that buy it and and I wrap it and that Christmas we were going to San Salvador. Christmas we were going to San Salvador. Christmas we were going to San Salvador. She was born and raised in San Salvador She was born and raised in San Salvador She was born and raised in San Salvador and so we're going there. So I like and so we're going there. So I like and so we're going there. So I like listen I wrapped that thing and I put it listen I wrapped that thing and I put it listen I wrapped that thing and I put it in my suitcase in November. Like talk in my suitcase in November. Like talk in my suitcase in November. Like talk about planning and getting ahead. about planning and getting ahead. about planning and getting ahead. I did it. I won that. And so now I'm I did it. I won that. And so now I'm I did it. I won that. And so now I'm like great. So I'm super excited. She like great. So I'm super excited. She like great. So I'm super excited. She keeps talking about how she wants this keeps talking about how she wants this keeps talking about how she wants this shirt. She wants this shirt. So we shirt. She wants this shirt. So we shirt. She wants this shirt. So we finally get to El Salvador and and and finally get to El Salvador and and and finally get to El Salvador and and and Hispanics, you're going to learn some Hispanics, you're going to learn some Hispanics, you're going to learn some things about Hispanics today. I'm going things about Hispanics today. I'm going things about Hispanics today. I'm going to teach you. First of all, we celebrate to teach you. First of all, we celebrate to teach you. First of all, we celebrate Christmas on December 24th. We have a Christmas on December 24th. We have a Christmas on December 24th. We have a party on the 24th. Everybody's there.

party on the 24th. Everybody's there. party on the 24th. Everybody's there. So, it's the 24th, we're there, we just So, it's the 24th, we're there, we just So, it's the 24th, we're there, we just ate, and now it's time to open gifts. ate, and now it's time to open gifts. ate, and now it's time to open gifts. In the back of my mind, I'm like, this In the back of my mind, I'm like, this In the back of my mind, I'm like, this is going to be a great day. Like, is going to be a great day. Like, is going to be a great day. Like, 6 months of her desires, I bought it for 6 months of her desires, I bought it for 6 months of her desires, I bought it for her. And so, we get to that moment and her. And so, we get to that moment and her. And so, we get to that moment and everyone's opening it. Finally, she gets everyone's opening it. Finally, she gets everyone's opening it. Finally, she gets to it and she opens it and she has no to it and she opens it and she has no to it and she opens it and she has no emotion. There's no reaction. emotion. There's no reaction. emotion. There's no reaction. My nervousness, for sure is I bought the My nervousness, for sure is I bought the My nervousness, for sure is I bought the wrong size wrong size wrong size or I bought the wrong shirt. Remember, or I bought the wrong shirt. Remember, or I bought the wrong shirt. Remember, there's only two shirts. So, if I bought there's only two shirts. So, if I bought there's only two shirts. So, if I bought the wrong shirt, just I that's not good. the wrong shirt, just I that's not good. the wrong shirt, just I that's not good. And so, I'm trying to figure out, like, And so, I'm trying to figure out, like, And so, I'm trying to figure out, like, what did I do? And finally, she said, what did I do? And finally, she said, what did I do? And finally, she said, she turns to me and she says, she turns to me and she says, she turns to me and she says, "Thank you, but I really didn't want "Thank you, but I really didn't want "Thank you, but I really didn't want this for Christmas." this for Christmas." this for Christmas." What do you mean you didn't want it for What do you mean you didn't want it for What do you mean you didn't want it for Christmas? You wanted it for 5 months. Christmas? You wanted it for 5 months. Christmas? You wanted it for 5 months. You said you've been wanting this You said you've been wanting this You said you've been wanting this specific shirt. And so, I'm trying to go specific shirt. And so, I'm trying to go specific shirt. And so, I'm trying to go through my mind, like, what I I This is through my mind, like, what I I This is through my mind, like, what I I This is I don't understand. I don't get it. I don't understand. I don't get it. I don't understand. I don't get it. I was so confused. You see, but what I I was so confused. You see, but what I I was so confused. You see, but what I learned in that moment is that we had learned in that moment is that we had learned in that moment is that we had different love languages. You see, love different love languages. You see, love different love languages. You see, love languages are how we express and how we languages are how we express and how we languages are how we express and how we receive love. And so, there's five of receive love. And so, there's five of receive love. And so, there's five of them. And so, for the next 5 weeks, them. And so, for the next 5 weeks, them. And so, for the next 5 weeks, we'll be covering one each week. And we'll be covering one each week. And we'll be covering one each week. And we're talking about love in a we're talking about love in a we're talking about love in a relationship. And that's any relationship. And that's any relationship. And that's any relationship. And so, we're not just relationship. And so, we're not just relationship. And so, we're not just talking about marriage. So, if you're talking about marriage. So, if you're talking about marriage. So, if you're not married, don't check out. This is not married, don't check out. This is not married, don't check out. This is for you and me. Why? Cuz every one of us for you and me. Why? Cuz every one of us for you and me. Why? Cuz every one of us are in relationships of all kinds.

are in relationships of all kinds. are in relationships of all kinds. Each relationship has a language to it. Each relationship has a language to it. Each relationship has a language to it. And so, we need to recognize our own And so, we need to recognize our own And so, we need to recognize our own love language and we need to learn the love language and we need to learn the love language and we need to learn the other four. Think about someone who other four. Think about someone who other four. Think about someone who speaks a completely different language speaks a completely different language speaks a completely different language from you. You can be standing just a few from you. You can be standing just a few from you. You can be standing just a few feet apart, both trying to communicate feet apart, both trying to communicate feet apart, both trying to communicate it, and still find it difficult, at it, and still find it difficult, at it, and still find it difficult, at times impossible, to communicate to each times impossible, to communicate to each times impossible, to communicate to each other. You know, the same thing happens other. You know, the same thing happens other. You know, the same thing happens in our relationships. Sometimes we're in our relationships. Sometimes we're in our relationships. Sometimes we're trying to communicate it and we just trying to communicate it and we just trying to communicate it and we just find ourselves out of sync. And why? find ourselves out of sync. And why? find ourselves out of sync. And why? Well, because we're speaking different Well, because we're speaking different Well, because we're speaking different love languages. love languages. love languages. And some of you already know your love And some of you already know your love And some of you already know your love language and how helpful this can be. language and how helpful this can be. language and how helpful this can be. And that's great. But others, you may be And that's great. But others, you may be And that's great. But others, you may be hearing this for the very first time hearing this for the very first time hearing this for the very first time today. What what I hope is this. today. What what I hope is this. today. What what I hope is this. Wherever you are, over the next 5 weeks, Wherever you are, over the next 5 weeks, Wherever you are, over the next 5 weeks, you'll discover how God has uniquely you'll discover how God has uniquely you'll discover how God has uniquely wired you wired you wired you to give and to receive love. But even to give and to receive love. But even to give and to receive love. But even more than that, listen, my prayer is more than that, listen, my prayer is more than that, listen, my prayer is that you'll become fluent in loving that you'll become fluent in loving that you'll become fluent in loving others that way that they receive love. others that way that they receive love. others that way that they receive love. And you may be thinking, "Why? Why Why And you may be thinking, "Why? Why Why And you may be thinking, "Why? Why Why is my church covering this, right?" is my church covering this, right?" is my church covering this, right?" Well, listen. God made love. And he also Well, listen. God made love. And he also Well, listen. God made love. And he also made language. He made us to love and to made language. He made us to love and to made language. He made us to love and to receive love. And he made us different.

receive love. And he made us different. receive love. And he made us different. And there are different ways that we do And there are different ways that we do And there are different ways that we do that. And when we learn those that. And when we learn those that. And when we learn those differences, what happens is we love differences, what happens is we love differences, what happens is we love better. So, this isn't about a book or better. So, this isn't about a book or better. So, this isn't about a book or or some random theory. This series is or some random theory. This series is or some random theory. This series is about love, and God is love. First John about love, and God is love. First John about love, and God is love. First John 4 tells us that. In fact, turn to your 4 tells us that. In fact, turn to your 4 tells us that. In fact, turn to your Bibles to there real quick. Bibles to there real quick. Bibles to there real quick. First John 4. First John 4. First John 4. It says this, "Dear friends, let us It says this, "Dear friends, let us It says this, "Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love continue to love one another, for love continue to love one another, for love comes from God. comes from God. comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and Anyone who loves is a child of God and Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God. But anyone who does not love knows God. But anyone who does not love knows God. But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love." does not know God, for God is love." does not know God, for God is love." You see, it says child of God. That You see, it says child of God. That You see, it says child of God. That means you belong to him. You see, a means you belong to him. You see, a means you belong to him. You see, a child is known by their parents, right? child is known by their parents, right? child is known by their parents, right? You might have heard someone say that You might have heard someone say that You might have heard someone say that you look like your dad, or you look like you look like your dad, or you look like you look like your dad, or you look like your mom. your mom. your mom. Or maybe your spouse has said this, Or maybe your spouse has said this, Or maybe your spouse has said this, "You're acting like your mom or your "You're acting like your mom or your "You're acting like your mom or your dad." dad." dad." That's right. In some situations, those That's right. In some situations, those That's right. In some situations, those are fighting words, right? Can I get an are fighting words, right? Can I get an are fighting words, right? Can I get an amen in here?

amen in here? amen in here? But we can never really shake the truth But we can never really shake the truth But we can never really shake the truth that we look like our parents, or that that we look like our parents, or that that we look like our parents, or that we act like our parents. And part of we act like our parents. And part of we act like our parents. And part of that is our genetics. The other part is that is our genetics. The other part is that is our genetics. The other part is our upbringing. It's nature and nurture our upbringing. It's nature and nurture our upbringing. It's nature and nurture working together to produce us. Now, working together to produce us. Now, working together to produce us. Now, nature being how God made us and nurture nature being how God made us and nurture nature being how God made us and nurture being a combination of our upbringing being a combination of our upbringing being a combination of our upbringing and experiences. But John says there's a and experiences. But John says there's a and experiences. But John says there's a choice that we can make. choice that we can make. choice that we can make. Where we shake off the negatives of our Where we shake off the negatives of our Where we shake off the negatives of our nature and upbringing and put on the nature and upbringing and put on the nature and upbringing and put on the positives of godly love. John wants us positives of godly love. John wants us positives of godly love. John wants us to be children of God by acting like to be children of God by acting like to be children of God by acting like him. In other words, what? Love is an him. In other words, what? Love is an him. In other words, what? Love is an expression of God. expression of God. expression of God. So, if God is love, then the love So, if God is love, then the love So, if God is love, then the love languages are his idea. They're in the languages are his idea. They're in the languages are his idea. They're in the language of God and he is fluent in all language of God and he is fluent in all language of God and he is fluent in all of them. So, let's start talking about of them. So, let's start talking about of them. So, let's start talking about the language of God. And what do I mean the language of God. And what do I mean the language of God. And what do I mean by the language of God? Well, well, by the language of God? Well, well, by the language of God? Well, well, let's start with a definition of love let's start with a definition of love let's start with a definition of love languages. languages. languages. Love languages are the five basic ways Love languages are the five basic ways Love languages are the five basic ways that we speak and understand emotional that we speak and understand emotional that we speak and understand emotional love. So, let me explain the parts of love. So, let me explain the parts of love. So, let me explain the parts of this definition. First of all, there's this definition. First of all, there's this definition. First of all, there's five of them. So, here's the five. Acts five of them. So, here's the five. Acts five of them. So, here's the five. Acts of service, receiving love, gifts, of service, receiving love, gifts, of service, receiving love, gifts, receiving gifts, physical touch, words receiving gifts, physical touch, words receiving gifts, physical touch, words of affirmation, and quality time.

of affirmation, and quality time. of affirmation, and quality time. Next, it says we speak and understand. Next, it says we speak and understand. Next, it says we speak and understand. In other words, it's not only about how In other words, it's not only about how In other words, it's not only about how we receive, but also how we give. We we receive, but also how we give. We we receive, but also how we give. We need to understand our own love language need to understand our own love language need to understand our own love language because it helps us understand how God because it helps us understand how God because it helps us understand how God has uniquely wired us. has uniquely wired us. has uniquely wired us. But we have to learn the other But we have to learn the other But we have to learn the other languages, too. So, that we can be languages, too. So, that we can be languages, too. So, that we can be fluent in showing love to others because fluent in showing love to others because fluent in showing love to others because at the end of the day, that's what Jesus at the end of the day, that's what Jesus at the end of the day, that's what Jesus called us to do, right? Love one called us to do, right? Love one called us to do, right? Love one another. The common error is this, that another. The common error is this, that another. The common error is this, that we give love in the same way that we we give love in the same way that we we give love in the same way that we receive it. Why? Because we think that receive it. Why? Because we think that receive it. Why? Because we think that since we receive love this way, then since we receive love this way, then since we receive love this way, then everybody else wants to receive love everybody else wants to receive love everybody else wants to receive love that way, too. But and finally, it that way, too. But and finally, it that way, too. But and finally, it involves emotional love. involves emotional love. involves emotional love. Listen. Listen. Listen. Emotions are not bad. Emotions are not bad. Emotions are not bad. But being controlled only by your But being controlled only by your But being controlled only by your emotions, that's where it gets bad. You emotions, that's where it gets bad. You emotions, that's where it gets bad. You see, love is an emotion and it's not see, love is an emotion and it's not see, love is an emotion and it's not just only an emotion. But when we just only an emotion. But when we just only an emotion. But when we understand our emotions, we can put them understand our emotions, we can put them understand our emotions, we can put them in motion. So, this is primarily about in motion. So, this is primarily about in motion. So, this is primarily about how we feed our soul through our how we feed our soul through our how we feed our soul through our feelings. Now, when we say there are feelings. Now, when we say there are feelings. Now, when we say there are five love languages, some of you might five love languages, some of you might five love languages, some of you might say, "Well, well, those are just say, "Well, well, those are just say, "Well, well, those are just suggestions." And you might even think, suggestions." And you might even think, suggestions." And you might even think, "I know more than five love languages."

"I know more than five love languages." "I know more than five love languages." And some of you it's because maybe you And some of you it's because maybe you And some of you it's because maybe you have this shirt or or you've seen this have this shirt or or you've seen this have this shirt or or you've seen this shirt. shirt. shirt. Chocolate is my high love language. Chocolate is my high love language. Chocolate is my high love language. Well, if that was one, let me just Well, if that was one, let me just Well, if that was one, let me just educate you today. Mine is Pro V1X's educate you today. Mine is Pro V1X's educate you today. Mine is Pro V1X's Titleist golf balls. Titleist golf balls. Titleist golf balls. Uh that would be my love language. But Uh that would be my love language. But Uh that would be my love language. But no, it's not that because how are you no, it's not that because how are you no, it's not that because how are you expressing that? Here's the deal. expressing that? Here's the deal. expressing that? Here's the deal. Chocolate is not a love language. And Chocolate is not a love language. And Chocolate is not a love language. And for some of you that's a disappointment. for some of you that's a disappointment. for some of you that's a disappointment. But if somebody gives you some But if somebody gives you some But if somebody gives you some chocolate, you see, that's a gift. And chocolate, you see, that's a gift. And chocolate, you see, that's a gift. And that's one of the five love languages. that's one of the five love languages. that's one of the five love languages. But if somebody makes you chocolate, But if somebody makes you chocolate, But if somebody makes you chocolate, well, that's an act of service, another well, that's an act of service, another well, that's an act of service, another one of the languages. In fact, chocolate one of the languages. In fact, chocolate one of the languages. In fact, chocolate could be considered a dialect. And so, could be considered a dialect. And so, could be considered a dialect. And so, let me let me spread this out for you. let me let me spread this out for you. let me let me spread this out for you. There's five love languages and and at There's five love languages and and at There's five love languages and and at least 22 dialects underneath those five. least 22 dialects underneath those five. least 22 dialects underneath those five. Well, how does that work? What's a Well, how does that work? What's a Well, how does that work? What's a dialect? A dialect is the same language dialect? A dialect is the same language dialect? A dialect is the same language but with different words, right? We have but with different words, right? We have but with different words, right? We have different nuances. different nuances. different nuances. The best way for me to explain Let me The best way for me to explain Let me The best way for me to explain Let me just tell you a personal story to to just tell you a personal story to to just tell you a personal story to to explain this. So, I told you explain this. So, I told you explain this. So, I told you Dalbis from San Salvador and so we made Dalbis from San Salvador and so we made Dalbis from San Salvador and so we made it through our T-shirt debacle.

it through our T-shirt debacle. it through our T-shirt debacle. We got married. Praise God. We got married. Praise God. We got married. Praise God. So, that year we were in El Salvador. So, that year we were in El Salvador. So, that year we were in El Salvador. This year we're going to Albuquerque, This year we're going to Albuquerque, This year we're going to Albuquerque, New Mexico. That's where I was born and New Mexico. That's where I was born and New Mexico. That's where I was born and raised. And so, Dalbis from San Salvador raised. And so, Dalbis from San Salvador raised. And so, Dalbis from San Salvador speaks Spanish. I'm from Albuquerque, speaks Spanish. I'm from Albuquerque, speaks Spanish. I'm from Albuquerque, New Mexico. Uh we speak English but my New Mexico. Uh we speak English but my New Mexico. Uh we speak English but my parents speak Spanish so we speak parents speak Spanish so we speak parents speak Spanish so we speak Spanish in our home. And so, we're there Spanish in our home. And so, we're there Spanish in our home. And so, we're there for Christmas and like I said, we for Christmas and like I said, we for Christmas and like I said, we celebrate on the 24th. It's a whole celebrate on the 24th. It's a whole celebrate on the 24th. It's a whole party. We ate. Well, that year we were party. We ate. Well, that year we were party. We ate. Well, that year we were playing a board game. Well, we were playing a board game. Well, we were playing a board game. Well, we were playing this game called Ticket to Ride. playing this game called Ticket to Ride. playing this game called Ticket to Ride. Some of you have played it. If not, let Some of you have played it. If not, let Some of you have played it. If not, let me just tell you. The whole point of the me just tell you. The whole point of the me just tell you. The whole point of the game is to get from one place to game is to get from one place to game is to get from one place to another. There's different routes and another. There's different routes and another. There's different routes and different cities that you're trying to different cities that you're trying to different cities that you're trying to connect. Now, there's only a certain connect. Now, there's only a certain connect. Now, there's only a certain limit of ways that you can go. So, limit of ways that you can go. So, limit of ways that you can go. So, somebody might put a train down and you somebody might put a train down and you somebody might put a train down and you can no longer use that road. Well, I'll can no longer use that road. Well, I'll can no longer use that road. Well, I'll just be honest with you. We're playing just be honest with you. We're playing just be honest with you. We're playing to win. Kindness comes after the game. to win. Kindness comes after the game. to win. Kindness comes after the game. So, like we we're winning. Like this is So, like we we're winning. Like this is So, like we we're winning. Like this is the whole point of the game. So, in that the whole point of the game. So, in that the whole point of the game. So, in that moment, I'm excited. I got these cards. moment, I'm excited. I got these cards. moment, I'm excited. I got these cards. I put down these trains. And in that I put down these trains. And in that I put down these trains. And in that moment, Delmi says, moment, Delmi says, moment, Delmi says, "Blank Josiah." "Blank Josiah." "Blank Josiah." Well, the word she uses in El Salvador Well, the word she uses in El Salvador Well, the word she uses in El Salvador it is is it is is it is is translated to cheap or lousy.

translated to cheap or lousy. translated to cheap or lousy. Well, in Mexico it it's not that. Well, in Mexico it it's not that. Well, in Mexico it it's not that. So, let me paint this picture. She says So, let me paint this picture. She says So, let me paint this picture. She says this and the entire room goes dead this and the entire room goes dead this and the entire room goes dead silent. silent. silent. And some of you are laughing because And some of you are laughing because And some of you are laughing because you're Latino cuz you know if the room you're Latino cuz you know if the room you're Latino cuz you know if the room goes silent with a bunch of Latinos, it goes silent with a bunch of Latinos, it goes silent with a bunch of Latinos, it ain't a good thing. Like you can laugh. ain't a good thing. Like you can laugh. ain't a good thing. Like you can laugh. Like we loud. We know it. And on the Like we loud. We know it. And on the Like we loud. We know it. And on the 24th, IT'S A PARTY. SO, WHEN THE HOUSE 24th, IT'S A PARTY. SO, WHEN THE HOUSE 24th, IT'S A PARTY. SO, WHEN THE HOUSE goes dead silent, eeh is not good. goes dead silent, eeh is not good. goes dead silent, eeh is not good. It's not good. And in that moment, It's not good. And in that moment, It's not good. And in that moment, Delmi's starting to figure out what Delmi's starting to figure out what Delmi's starting to figure out what what did I what what what's happening? what did I what what what's happening? what did I what what what's happening? Well, you see Well, you see Well, you see >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> [laughter] >> in that moment, my mom tells her, >> in that moment, my mom tells her, >> in that moment, my mom tells her, "What did you say to my hijito?" "What did you say to my hijito?" "What did you say to my hijito?" For those who don't understand what I For those who don't understand what I For those who don't understand what I just said, this is what it translates just said, this is what it translates just said, this is what it translates to. "What did you say to my baby boy?" to. "What did you say to my baby boy?" to. "What did you say to my baby boy?" I'm 25 years old. Just let me just I'm 25 years old. Just let me just I'm 25 years old. Just let me just explain that to you. But I'm the explain that to you. But I'm the explain that to you. But I'm the firstborn in a Hispanic family, which is firstborn in a Hispanic family, which is firstborn in a Hispanic family, which is the God's gift to the world. Let me just the God's gift to the world. Let me just the God's gift to the world. Let me just tell you. And specifically to my mother. tell you. And specifically to my mother. tell you. And specifically to my mother. So, what did this girl just say? That So, what did this girl just say? That So, what did this girl just say? That That's what's going through my mom's That's what's going through my mom's That's what's going through my mom's mind. Well, what Delmi didn't know, mind. Well, what Delmi didn't know, mind. Well, what Delmi didn't know, later found out, is the word that she later found out, is the word that she later found out, is the word that she was using in our culture stands for was using in our culture stands for was using in our culture stands for blank Josiah. You can use your blank Josiah. You can use your blank Josiah. You can use your imagination.

imagination. imagination. So, in that moment, So, in that moment, So, in that moment, she learned that's not what she was she learned that's not what she was she learned that's not what she was trying to say. trying to say. trying to say. So, you can see how this can be pretty So, you can see how this can be pretty So, you can see how this can be pretty difficult, right? Like the dialects can difficult, right? Like the dialects can difficult, right? Like the dialects can get confusing. But we see we all have get confusing. But we see we all have get confusing. But we see we all have one primary love language. And we use it one primary love language. And we use it one primary love language. And we use it to receive and to give love. And we all to receive and to give love. And we all to receive and to give love. And we all have one or two secondary love have one or two secondary love have one or two secondary love languages, but we also have at least one languages, but we also have at least one languages, but we also have at least one foreign love language. That's just a foreign love language. That's just a foreign love language. That's just a language that we just don't understand. language that we just don't understand. language that we just don't understand. But we actually need to become fluent in But we actually need to become fluent in But we actually need to become fluent in all five so that we can give and receive all five so that we can give and receive all five so that we can give and receive love in any language, especially love in any language, especially love in any language, especially from those we love the most and for from those we love the most and for from those we love the most and for those we're trying to reach. Now, let's those we're trying to reach. Now, let's those we're trying to reach. Now, let's look at how Jesus explained this because look at how Jesus explained this because look at how Jesus explained this because as God in the flesh, he was fluent in as God in the flesh, he was fluent in as God in the flesh, he was fluent in all five love languages. Turn to John all five love languages. Turn to John all five love languages. Turn to John 13. This is the last night with his 13. This is the last night with his 13. This is the last night with his disciples before the cross. And he's got disciples before the cross. And he's got disciples before the cross. And he's got some things to say and some things to some things to say and some things to some things to say and some things to do. do. do. That will show that will show them that That will show that will show them that That will show that will show them that he loves them. So, John 13, if you have he loves them. So, John 13, if you have he loves them. So, John 13, if you have your Bible, we'll be there. your Bible, we'll be there. your Bible, we'll be there. And this is what it says. And this is what it says. And this is what it says. I am giving you a new commandment. Love I am giving you a new commandment. Love I am giving you a new commandment. Love each other just as I have loved you. You each other just as I have loved you. You each other just as I have loved you. You should love each other. Your love for should love each other. Your love for should love each other. Your love for one another will prove to the world that one another will prove to the world that one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples. Now, let me show you are my disciples. Now, let me show you are my disciples. Now, let me show you the simple outline of these two you the simple outline of these two you the simple outline of these two verses. First off, what what does it verses. First off, what what does it verses. First off, what what does it say? Love is commanded by Jesus.

say? Love is commanded by Jesus. say? Love is commanded by Jesus. Church, it's not a suggestion. It's Church, it's not a suggestion. It's Church, it's not a suggestion. It's something that he calls us to do. We're something that he calls us to do. We're something that he calls us to do. We're called to do that. And the type of love called to do that. And the type of love called to do that. And the type of love is not a romantic love. It's a selfless is not a romantic love. It's a selfless is not a romantic love. It's a selfless love. love. love. It's the type of love that he modeled to It's the type of love that he modeled to It's the type of love that he modeled to us us us and for us. and for us. and for us. And then that's the second part of the And then that's the second part of the And then that's the second part of the outline, that love is modeled by Jesus. outline, that love is modeled by Jesus. outline, that love is modeled by Jesus. What did he model? He gave up his own What did he model? He gave up his own What did he model? He gave up his own life for us. Romans 5 says that he life for us. Romans 5 says that he life for us. Romans 5 says that he showed the greatest love by dying for showed the greatest love by dying for showed the greatest love by dying for us. And then finally, this. us. And then finally, this. us. And then finally, this. Love points to Jesus. Love points to Jesus. Love points to Jesus. And this is why we're talking about love And this is why we're talking about love And this is why we're talking about love languages. languages. languages. Because how you love others is a part of Because how you love others is a part of Because how you love others is a part of your calling and a part of your your calling and a part of your your calling and a part of your ministry. It's how we, you and I, share ministry. It's how we, you and I, share ministry. It's how we, you and I, share Jesus with the world. More than even Jesus with the world. More than even Jesus with the world. More than even apologetics, the love commanded by Jesus apologetics, the love commanded by Jesus apologetics, the love commanded by Jesus proves to the world that Jesus is who he proves to the world that Jesus is who he proves to the world that Jesus is who he says he is. You see, love is the primary says he is. You see, love is the primary says he is. You see, love is the primary motivation for evangelism. So, this is motivation for evangelism. So, this is motivation for evangelism. So, this is our basic outline for the next several our basic outline for the next several our basic outline for the next several weeks. weeks. weeks. Because love is commanded by Jesus, we Because love is commanded by Jesus, we Because love is commanded by Jesus, we need to know them and understand them to need to know them and understand them to need to know them and understand them to love others. And because love is modeled love others. And because love is modeled love others. And because love is modeled by Jesus, we need to learn all the by Jesus, we need to learn all the by Jesus, we need to learn all the different ways that he showed love. We different ways that he showed love. We different ways that he showed love. We need to get in touch with all of those need to get in touch with all of those need to get in touch with all of those dialects. And then finally, it points to dialects. And then finally, it points to dialects. And then finally, it points to Jesus. We need to learn the right way Jesus. We need to learn the right way Jesus. We need to learn the right way and avoid the wrong way to demonstrate and avoid the wrong way to demonstrate and avoid the wrong way to demonstrate our love language by loving each other.

our love language by loving each other. our love language by loving each other. You got that? So, it's basically going You got that? So, it's basically going You got that? So, it's basically going to be this for the next several weeks. to be this for the next several weeks. to be this for the next several weeks. Each one we're going to talk about the Each one we're going to talk about the Each one we're going to talk about the definition, go through the dialects, and definition, go through the dialects, and definition, go through the dialects, and then talk about the demonstration. You then talk about the demonstration. You then talk about the demonstration. You see, love languages can be spoken in see, love languages can be spoken in see, love languages can be spoken in different ways, from different motives, different ways, from different motives, different ways, from different motives, and with different outcomes. But at our and with different outcomes. But at our and with different outcomes. But at our best, we give and receive love fluently. best, we give and receive love fluently. best, we give and receive love fluently. But at our worst, we use our love But at our worst, we use our love But at our worst, we use our love language or the love language of others language or the love language of others language or the love language of others as a way to manipulate or attack. as a way to manipulate or attack. as a way to manipulate or attack. So, we want to give you the definition, So, we want to give you the definition, So, we want to give you the definition, the different dialects, and then explain the different dialects, and then explain the different dialects, and then explain the demonstration of that language. In the demonstration of that language. In the demonstration of that language. In other words, how it builds up in the other words, how it builds up in the other words, how it builds up in the spirit and how it breaks down in the spirit and how it breaks down in the spirit and how it breaks down in the flesh. So, let me save the rest of our flesh. So, let me save the rest of our flesh. So, let me save the rest of our time today going over our first love time today going over our first love time today going over our first love language. And so, it is acts of service. language. And so, it is acts of service. language. And so, it is acts of service. So, that's what we're going to be So, that's what we're going to be So, that's what we're going to be covering today, acts of service. So, covering today, acts of service. So, covering today, acts of service. So, let's start with the definition, right? let's start with the definition, right? let's start with the definition, right? Receiving love through someone else's Receiving love through someone else's Receiving love through someone else's time and effort to make your life time and effort to make your life time and effort to make your life easier. easier. easier. So, you might read this definition and So, you might read this definition and So, you might read this definition and automatically think, "Okay, Josiah, automatically think, "Okay, Josiah, automatically think, "Okay, Josiah, you're talking about the spiritual gift you're talking about the spiritual gift you're talking about the spiritual gift of service." No, that's not it.

of service." No, that's not it. of service." No, that's not it. See, this is how you like to be treated See, this is how you like to be treated See, this is how you like to be treated and how you like to be cared for. For and how you like to be cared for. For and how you like to be cared for. For some of us, some of us, some of us, where this is a foreign love language, where this is a foreign love language, where this is a foreign love language, we may say, "I don't want I don't want we may say, "I don't want I don't want we may say, "I don't want I don't want others to do something for me." If others to do something for me." If others to do something for me." If that's you, hey, it's okay. But but this that's you, hey, it's okay. But but this that's you, hey, it's okay. But but this isn't your love language, but you still isn't your love language, but you still isn't your love language, but you still need to be fluent in it. In fact, this need to be fluent in it. In fact, this need to be fluent in it. In fact, this is what scripture says in Galatians. is what scripture says in Galatians. is what scripture says in Galatians. In Galatians, it says, "For you have In Galatians, it says, "For you have In Galatians, it says, "For you have been called to live in freedom, my been called to live in freedom, my been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters. But don't use your brothers and sisters. But don't use your brothers and sisters. But don't use your freedom to satisfy your sinful nature. freedom to satisfy your sinful nature. freedom to satisfy your sinful nature. Instead, use your freedom to serve one Instead, use your freedom to serve one Instead, use your freedom to serve one another in love." And Jesus models this another in love." And Jesus models this another in love." And Jesus models this through his whole life, right? In fact, through his whole life, right? In fact, through his whole life, right? In fact, in Mark, it says, "For even the Son of in Mark, it says, "For even the Son of in Mark, it says, "For even the Son of Man came not to be Man came not to be Man came not to be served." Come on, not to be served." Come on, not to be served." Come on, not to be but to but to but to others. Come on, 11:30, you got to wake others. Come on, 11:30, you got to wake others. Come on, 11:30, you got to wake up on me. And to give his life as a up on me. And to give his life as a up on me. And to give his life as a ransom for many. ransom for many. ransom for many. Well, when we talk about ransom, Pastor Well, when we talk about ransom, Pastor Well, when we talk about ransom, Pastor has taught us this many times before, has taught us this many times before, has taught us this many times before, right? Ransom is a price paid to release right? Ransom is a price paid to release right? Ransom is a price paid to release someone from bondage. In other words, someone from bondage. In other words, someone from bondage. In other words, what? Jesus' love to us and for us what? Jesus' love to us and for us what? Jesus' love to us and for us resulted in our freedom.

resulted in our freedom. resulted in our freedom. And then Galatians says that don't use And then Galatians says that don't use And then Galatians says that don't use that freedom for sin. Instead, we need that freedom for sin. Instead, we need that freedom for sin. Instead, we need to give to others what Jesus first gave to give to others what Jesus first gave to give to others what Jesus first gave us. So now, what about the dialects? And us. So now, what about the dialects? And us. So now, what about the dialects? And this is where it will start to make this is where it will start to make this is where it will start to make sense. Remember, Delmi and I spoke sense. Remember, Delmi and I spoke sense. Remember, Delmi and I spoke Spanish. We were sp- speaking the same Spanish. We were sp- speaking the same Spanish. We were sp- speaking the same language, but she said something language, but she said something language, but she said something completely different than what she completely different than what she completely different than what she thought she said. You see, dialects are thought she said. You see, dialects are thought she said. You see, dialects are important because if we don't understand important because if we don't understand important because if we don't understand them and use them, the other person them and use them, the other person them and use them, the other person won't receive it like you think they won't receive it like you think they won't receive it like you think they should. should. should. And what happens is is you get And what happens is is you get And what happens is is you get frustrated, and you throw your hands up, frustrated, and you throw your hands up, frustrated, and you throw your hands up, and you get ready to quit. and you get ready to quit. and you get ready to quit. You see, my love my wife's love language You see, my love my wife's love language You see, my love my wife's love language is receiving gifts. And if you want to is receiving gifts. And if you want to is receiving gifts. And if you want to be honest with you, I think all five of be honest with you, I think all five of be honest with you, I think all five of them are gifts, gifts, gifts, gifts, them are gifts, gifts, gifts, gifts, them are gifts, gifts, gifts, gifts, gifts. All five. gifts. All five. gifts. All five. But what I learned is she's not looking But what I learned is she's not looking But what I learned is she's not looking for expensive gifts, and she would for expensive gifts, and she would for expensive gifts, and she would rather have 10 small gifts than one rather have 10 small gifts than one rather have 10 small gifts than one expensive gift. What I learned like expensive gift. What I learned like expensive gift. What I learned like she wants 10 things from the dollar she wants 10 things from the dollar she wants 10 things from the dollar store, not a ribeye steak. I learned it. store, not a ribeye steak. I learned it. store, not a ribeye steak. I learned it. Why? I didn't buy the T-shirt again. Why? I didn't buy the T-shirt again. Why? I didn't buy the T-shirt again. That's how I learned it. But so, under That's how I learned it. But so, under That's how I learned it. But so, under acts of service, there are four main acts of service, there are four main acts of service, there are four main dialects. And these are what I want us dialects. And these are what I want us dialects. And these are what I want us to to know today. And these are the to to know today. And these are the to to know today. And these are the four.

four. four. Instill security, alleviate stress, Instill security, alleviate stress, Instill security, alleviate stress, convey care, and save you time. convey care, and save you time. convey care, and save you time. So, let's say that your primary love So, let's say that your primary love So, let's say that your primary love language is acts of service. language is acts of service. language is acts of service. I'm going to play this out, but your I'm going to play this out, but your I'm going to play this out, but your dialect is this, that it conveys care. dialect is this, that it conveys care. dialect is this, that it conveys care. But, I speak to you in the dialect of But, I speak to you in the dialect of But, I speak to you in the dialect of saving time. So, maybe I say, "Let Let saving time. So, maybe I say, "Let Let saving time. So, maybe I say, "Let Let me get your keys and go put gas and me get your keys and go put gas and me get your keys and go put gas and bring it back." And you say, "Hey, thank bring it back." And you say, "Hey, thank bring it back." And you say, "Hey, thank you so much. That's nice of you." But, you so much. That's nice of you." But, you so much. That's nice of you." But, it doesn't really register with you it doesn't really register with you it doesn't really register with you because it doesn't convey care. because it doesn't convey care. because it doesn't convey care. But, if your dialect is saving time, But, if your dialect is saving time, But, if your dialect is saving time, then running that errand is super then running that errand is super then running that errand is super helpful. Why? Cuz I just gave you 30 helpful. Why? Cuz I just gave you 30 helpful. Why? Cuz I just gave you 30 minutes back. And so, that's huge act of minutes back. And so, that's huge act of minutes back. And so, that's huge act of love for you. So, can you see how we can love for you. So, can you see how we can love for you. So, can you see how we can speak the same language, but miss the speak the same language, but miss the speak the same language, but miss the dialect? Now, I want you to look at the dialect? Now, I want you to look at the dialect? Now, I want you to look at the demonstration and remember, every demonstration and remember, every demonstration and remember, every language is both is both spoken and language is both is both spoken and language is both is both spoken and heard. And so, what does that mean? It's heard. And so, what does that mean? It's heard. And so, what does that mean? It's how we receive and how we give love. So, I'm going to camp out here for just So, I'm going to camp out here for just a minute.

a minute. a minute. And uh if you're taking notes, I tell And uh if you're taking notes, I tell And uh if you're taking notes, I tell our online our online family every week, our online our online family every week, our online our online family every week, "Hey, don't just take notes. "Hey, don't just take notes. "Hey, don't just take notes. Intentionally listen, take notes, grab Intentionally listen, take notes, grab Intentionally listen, take notes, grab your Bible, uh follow along with us." your Bible, uh follow along with us." your Bible, uh follow along with us." And so, we're going to be in this chart And so, we're going to be in this chart And so, we're going to be in this chart over the next 5 weeks of how do we give over the next 5 weeks of how do we give over the next 5 weeks of how do we give and receive in the spirit and in the and receive in the spirit and in the and receive in the spirit and in the flesh. And so, if the acts of service is flesh. And so, if the acts of service is flesh. And so, if the acts of service is your love language and you are receiving your love language and you are receiving your love language and you are receiving it by someone else, when you are in the it by someone else, when you are in the it by someone else, when you are in the spirit, you receive it this way. spirit, you receive it this way. spirit, you receive it this way. You understand each act of service as a You understand each act of service as a You understand each act of service as a genuine effort. Well, what does that genuine effort. Well, what does that genuine effort. Well, what does that mean? You see the motivation behind the mean? You see the motivation behind the mean? You see the motivation behind the act. Let Let me Let me just play this act. Let Let me Let me just play this act. Let Let me Let me just play this out for you. A child, right? He goes and out for you. A child, right? He goes and out for you. A child, right? He goes and he's making breakfast for their mom in he's making breakfast for their mom in he's making breakfast for their mom in bed. bed. bed. They go, they make the toast, they make They go, they make the toast, they make They go, they make the toast, they make the eggs, but the problem is is the the eggs, but the problem is is the the eggs, but the problem is is the toast is burnt. The eggs have shells in toast is burnt. The eggs have shells in toast is burnt. The eggs have shells in them, but he still takes it to his mom. them, but he still takes it to his mom. them, but he still takes it to his mom. And what does mom do? "Thank you so And what does mom do? "Thank you so And what does mom do? "Thank you so much. much. much. This is amazing." Why? Because it's the This is amazing." Why? Because it's the This is amazing." Why? Because it's the thought that counts, right? It's the thought that counts, right? It's the thought that counts, right? It's the motivation. But you see, when we're in motivation. But you see, when we're in motivation. But you see, when we're in the flesh, this is what happens.

the flesh, this is what happens. the flesh, this is what happens. You slip into victimhood or resentment. You slip into victimhood or resentment. You slip into victimhood or resentment. Same scenario. Kids going to make Same scenario. Kids going to make Same scenario. Kids going to make breakfast for mom. Has the eggs, has the breakfast for mom. Has the eggs, has the breakfast for mom. Has the eggs, has the toast. The toast is burnt and the eggs toast. The toast is burnt and the eggs toast. The toast is burnt and the eggs got shell in it. Same thing. got shell in it. Same thing. got shell in it. Same thing. But instead, this is how they respond But instead, this is how they respond But instead, this is how they respond when they're in the flesh. Man, I always when they're in the flesh. Man, I always when they're in the flesh. Man, I always do so much for everyone else and nobody do so much for everyone else and nobody do so much for everyone else and nobody ever does anything ever does anything ever does anything for me. for me. for me. Some of you you're relating to that that Some of you you're relating to that that Some of you you're relating to that that you can relate to that right now. You you can relate to that right now. You you can relate to that right now. You see, and the key to understanding when see, and the key to understanding when see, and the key to understanding when it goes from the spirit to the flesh is it goes from the spirit to the flesh is it goes from the spirit to the flesh is to find those never and always to find those never and always to find those never and always statements. statements. statements. Right? Because that usually signals that Right? Because that usually signals that Right? Because that usually signals that something's off. And and so that's how something's off. And and so that's how something's off. And and so that's how to receive this love language at its to receive this love language at its to receive this love language at its best. best. best. So, let's look at how to speak this love So, let's look at how to speak this love So, let's look at how to speak this love language as the giver. language as the giver. language as the giver. So, when you are in the spirit and you So, when you are in the spirit and you So, when you are in the spirit and you are giving love through acts of service, are giving love through acts of service, are giving love through acts of service, you perform practical and tangible acts you perform practical and tangible acts you perform practical and tangible acts of love that convey in genuine that of love that convey in genuine that of love that convey in genuine that convey genuine care for them. And those convey genuine care for them. And those convey genuine care for them. And those acts will give other person a sense of acts will give other person a sense of acts will give other person a sense of belonging. They get stronger. They get belonging. They get stronger. They get belonging. They get stronger. They get more more secure in who they are. And more more secure in who they are. And more more secure in who they are. And sometimes it even makes them be able to sometimes it even makes them be able to sometimes it even makes them be able to do more.

do more. do more. But when you're in the flesh, this is But when you're in the flesh, this is But when you're in the flesh, this is what happens. what happens. what happens. You only do something You only do something You only do something to get something in return. to get something in return. to get something in return. What happens? We put conditions What happens? We put conditions What happens? We put conditions on our love. on our love. on our love. We say, "Hey, I will do this for you We say, "Hey, I will do this for you We say, "Hey, I will do this for you as long as I get this from you. Or as as long as I get this from you. Or as as long as I get this from you. Or as long as you do that for me." long as you do that for me." long as you do that for me." And because God love is unconditional, And because God love is unconditional, And because God love is unconditional, what happens is we begin to twist what what happens is we begin to twist what what happens is we begin to twist what true love is. We begin to twist his true love is. We begin to twist his true love is. We begin to twist his love. So, you can see that every love love. So, you can see that every love love. So, you can see that every love language can be spoken in a spiritual language can be spoken in a spiritual language can be spoken in a spiritual tone and in a fleshly tone. But we need tone and in a fleshly tone. But we need tone and in a fleshly tone. But we need to learn the difference. Because when we to learn the difference. Because when we to learn the difference. Because when we are in our flesh, this is what happens. are in our flesh, this is what happens. are in our flesh, this is what happens. Relationships suffer. If you are Relationships suffer. If you are Relationships suffer. If you are receiving an act of service as genuine receiving an act of service as genuine receiving an act of service as genuine love, but the other person is actually love, but the other person is actually love, but the other person is actually manipulating you, that's bad. It gets manipulating you, that's bad. It gets manipulating you, that's bad. It gets bad. Or maybe if you are showing this by bad. Or maybe if you are showing this by bad. Or maybe if you are showing this by intentional acts of love, but the person intentional acts of love, but the person intentional acts of love, but the person receiving it says, receiving it says, receiving it says, "No one does anything for me." You get "No one does anything for me." You get "No one does anything for me." You get frustrated because they can see your frustrated because they can see your frustrated because they can see your acts of service. They can't see your acts of service. They can't see your acts of service. They can't see your acts of service. They can't see what acts of service. They can't see what acts of service. They can't see what you're trying to do for them.

you're trying to do for them. you're trying to do for them. But our obligation, whether we are But our obligation, whether we are But our obligation, whether we are receiving or giving, receiving or giving, receiving or giving, is to remain in the spirit. is to remain in the spirit. is to remain in the spirit. It's to continue in our walk. It's the It's to continue in our walk. It's the It's to continue in our walk. It's the renewing of our mind every single day so renewing of our mind every single day so renewing of our mind every single day so that we can walk and remain in the that we can walk and remain in the that we can walk and remain in the spirit. spirit. spirit. You see, Jesus even modeled this for us. You see, Jesus even modeled this for us. You see, Jesus even modeled this for us. Earlier we read from John 13 and on that Earlier we read from John 13 and on that Earlier we read from John 13 and on that same night same night same night he spent teaching his disciples, he he spent teaching his disciples, he he spent teaching his disciples, he actually he sat down for a meal. Or actually he sat down for a meal. Or actually he sat down for a meal. Or actually he he laid down. actually he he laid down. actually he he laid down. In those days they would sit around a In those days they would sit around a In those days they would sit around a U-shaped table close to the ground and U-shaped table close to the ground and U-shaped table close to the ground and they would lay on their left so they they would lay on their left so they they would lay on their left so they could eat with their right hand. could eat with their right hand. could eat with their right hand. Their feet would be sticking out behind Their feet would be sticking out behind Their feet would be sticking out behind them and they would take off their them and they would take off their them and they would take off their sandals if they wore any and sandals if they wore any and sandals if they wore any and I don't know about you, but it probably I don't know about you, but it probably I don't know about you, but it probably was a little stinky in there. was a little stinky in there. was a little stinky in there. But what did Jesus do? But what did Jesus do? But what did Jesus do? He got up from the table. He got up from the table. He got up from the table. Got up from dinner and decided, "I'm Got up from dinner and decided, "I'm Got up from dinner and decided, "I'm going to express some love with an act going to express some love with an act going to express some love with an act of service." Look at this with me, John of service." Look at this with me, John of service." Look at this with me, John 13.

Says he got up from the table and he Says he got up from the table and he took off his robe, wrapped a towel took off his robe, wrapped a towel took off his robe, wrapped a towel around his waist and he poured water around his waist and he poured water around his waist and he poured water into a basin. into a basin. into a basin. Then he began to wash the disciples' Then he began to wash the disciples' Then he began to wash the disciples' feet, drying them with the towel that he feet, drying them with the towel that he feet, drying them with the towel that he had had had around them. around them. around them. I want us to take a look at a couple of I want us to take a look at a couple of I want us to take a look at a couple of things this morning. Notice that he took things this morning. Notice that he took things this morning. Notice that he took off his robe. off his robe. off his robe. In other words, he took off his outer In other words, he took off his outer In other words, he took off his outer garment before wrapping the towel around garment before wrapping the towel around garment before wrapping the towel around it. In Philippians 2, it talks about how it. In Philippians 2, it talks about how it. In Philippians 2, it talks about how Jesus took off his divine nature and he Jesus took off his divine nature and he Jesus took off his divine nature and he laid it aside. laid it aside. laid it aside. Doesn't mean that he stopped being God. Doesn't mean that he stopped being God. Doesn't mean that he stopped being God. It means he didn't consider his divine It means he didn't consider his divine It means he didn't consider his divine nature as something to hold on to while nature as something to hold on to while nature as something to hold on to while he lived his life. Remember, he came to he lived his life. Remember, he came to he lived his life. Remember, he came to serve, not to be served. serve, not to be served. serve, not to be served. So, he takes off his divine nature, his So, he takes off his divine nature, his So, he takes off his divine nature, his outer robe, and he puts on a human outer robe, and he puts on a human outer robe, and he puts on a human nature. And from his human nature, he nature. And from his human nature, he nature. And from his human nature, he served the disciples. served the disciples. served the disciples. You see this? The act of service cannot You see this? The act of service cannot You see this? The act of service cannot be done be done be done from a position of superiority. Or or from a position of superiority. Or or from a position of superiority. Or or for the purpose of getting something in for the purpose of getting something in for the purpose of getting something in return.

return. return. Right? That's what happens when we're in Right? That's what happens when we're in Right? That's what happens when we're in the flesh, we expect things back. the flesh, we expect things back. the flesh, we expect things back. We don't speak our love language in We don't speak our love language in We don't speak our love language in order to get something. That's not the order to get something. That's not the order to get something. That's not the point. We don't do an act of service for point. We don't do an act of service for point. We don't do an act of service for our spouse or our friend or honestly for our spouse or our friend or honestly for our spouse or our friend or honestly for anyone so that we will get or they will anyone so that we will get or they will anyone so that we will get or they will do something back for us. No, church, it do something back for us. No, church, it do something back for us. No, church, it has to be done from a place of humility. has to be done from a place of humility. has to be done from a place of humility. Listen to that today. It has to be done Listen to that today. It has to be done Listen to that today. It has to be done from a place of humility. from a place of humility. from a place of humility. You see see, many of us are walking You see see, many of us are walking You see see, many of us are walking around and around and around and we have these relationships that are we have these relationships that are we have these relationships that are half broken. half broken. half broken. And some of us, we have some completely And some of us, we have some completely And some of us, we have some completely broken relationships. broken relationships. broken relationships. And the thing is is it's not that we And the thing is is it's not that we And the thing is is it's not that we don't want them to change, don't want them to change, don't want them to change, it's that we're waiting for you to it's that we're waiting for you to it's that we're waiting for you to change. We're waiting for the other change. We're waiting for the other change. We're waiting for the other person to change. person to change. person to change. We're in a conversation and we're just We're in a conversation and we're just We're in a conversation and we're just staring at each other. staring at each other. staring at each other. Let me just tell you, I got a 4-year-old Let me just tell you, I got a 4-year-old Let me just tell you, I got a 4-year-old we're getting really good at staring at we're getting really good at staring at we're getting really good at staring at each other until he breaks down. each other until he breaks down. each other until he breaks down. But we're waiting for the other person But we're waiting for the other person But we're waiting for the other person to blink.

But you're I'm just going to tell you But you're I'm just going to tell you today, today, today, when we're in the spirit, when we're in the spirit, when we're in the spirit, the bravest thing that we can do is to the bravest thing that we can do is to the bravest thing that we can do is to speak first. speak first. speak first. To speak the other person's love To speak the other person's love To speak the other person's love language language language first. To put our pride to the side. To first. To put our pride to the side. To first. To put our pride to the side. To put all the things to the side and say, put all the things to the side and say, put all the things to the side and say, "Hey, I'm going to go first." "Hey, I'm going to go first." "Hey, I'm going to go first." And then it's not just to go first, but And then it's not just to go first, but And then it's not just to go first, but to speak it without the idea of getting to speak it without the idea of getting to speak it without the idea of getting anything in in return. anything in in return. anything in in return. And I know what you're thinking. Why And I know what you're thinking. Why And I know what you're thinking. Why should we go first? Why why? should we go first? Why why? should we go first? Why why? It's simple. He modeled it for us. It's simple. He modeled it for us. It's simple. He modeled it for us. It's because God made the first move for It's because God made the first move for It's because God made the first move for you and for me. you and for me. you and for me. What was that first move? He sent his What was that first move? He sent his What was that first move? He sent his son to die son to die son to die while we were all sinners. He didn't while we were all sinners. He didn't while we were all sinners. He didn't wait for you to get your life together. wait for you to get your life together. wait for you to get your life together. He didn't wait for you to fix that He didn't wait for you to fix that He didn't wait for you to fix that relationship or to get financially relationship or to get financially relationship or to get financially stable. He didn't wait for you to do all stable. He didn't wait for you to do all stable. He didn't wait for you to do all those things in your mind that you think those things in your mind that you think those things in your mind that you think you have to get done. No, he didn't wait you have to get done. No, he didn't wait you have to get done. No, he didn't wait for us to clean ourselves up. for us to clean ourselves up. for us to clean ourselves up. He came and he did everything for us. He came and he did everything for us. He came and he did everything for us. We didn't deserve it, but yet he still We didn't deserve it, but yet he still We didn't deserve it, but yet he still did it.

did it. did it. And church, let me tell you, he expects And church, let me tell you, he expects And church, let me tell you, he expects us to do the same for others. us to do the same for others. us to do the same for others. Every love language should be spoken in Every love language should be spoken in Every love language should be spoken in that same tone, a tone in the spirit. We that same tone, a tone in the spirit. We that same tone, a tone in the spirit. We don't get to choose what our primary don't get to choose what our primary don't get to choose what our primary love language is. Just like we don't get love language is. Just like we don't get love language is. Just like we don't get to choose our own spiritual gift or our to choose our own spiritual gift or our to choose our own spiritual gift or our own personality, but what we can do is own personality, but what we can do is own personality, but what we can do is we can become fluent in them. That's our we can become fluent in them. That's our we can become fluent in them. That's our responsibility. responsibility. responsibility. Why? You remember this. Love is the Why? You remember this. Love is the Why? You remember this. Love is the language of God. language of God. language of God. And right now, if you've ever had a And right now, if you've ever had a And right now, if you've ever had a problem with receiving love, problem with receiving love, problem with receiving love, it may be because your idea of love has it may be because your idea of love has it may be because your idea of love has always been with strings attached. always been with strings attached. always been with strings attached. You've always thought, "In order for me You've always thought, "In order for me You've always thought, "In order for me to get the love that I desire, I need to to get the love that I desire, I need to to get the love that I desire, I need to do this or I need to do that. do this or I need to do that. do this or I need to do that. I need to perform or I need to do a I need to perform or I need to do a I need to perform or I need to do a certain thing." certain thing." certain thing." And let me just tell you the best way to And let me just tell you the best way to And let me just tell you the best way to get over that get over that get over that >> [music] >> [music] >> [music] >> is to receive Jesus. >> is to receive Jesus. >> is to receive Jesus. You see, as we're talking about love You see, as we're talking about love You see, as we're talking about love languages and we're specifically talking languages and we're specifically talking languages and we're specifically talking about acts of service today. about acts of service today. about acts of service today. What I love about it is the ultimate act What I love about it is the ultimate act What I love about it is the ultimate act of service the world has ever seen, of service the world has ever seen, of service the world has ever seen, Jesus dying on the cross for you and for Jesus dying on the cross for you and for Jesus dying on the cross for you and for me.

Dying on the cross for you and for me. Dying on the cross for you and for me. This morning, would you bow your head? This morning, would you bow your head? This morning, would you bow your head? Would you close your eyes? And I want you just for a moment and as And I want you just for a moment and as I probably was speaking today, there was I probably was speaking today, there was I probably was speaking today, there was probably a relationship or a person or probably a relationship or a person or probably a relationship or a person or somebody that came to your mind that God somebody that came to your mind that God somebody that came to your mind that God is just talking about, "Hey, hey, it's is just talking about, "Hey, hey, it's is just talking about, "Hey, hey, it's time for you to be the first to move." time for you to be the first to move." time for you to be the first to move." Let me just encourage you today. Let me just encourage you today. Let me just encourage you today. Work up that boldness and that courage. Work up that boldness and that courage. Work up that boldness and that courage. Be the love Be the love Be the love that God was to you. And and hey, if you're in here today and And and hey, if you're in here today and you're saying you're saying you're saying I've never taken that step to receive I've never taken that step to receive I've never taken that step to receive Jesus, to receive the ultimate act of Jesus, to receive the ultimate act of Jesus, to receive the ultimate act of service, to repent of my sins and to service, to repent of my sins and to service, to repent of my sins and to make him the Lord and the savior of my make him the Lord and the savior of my make him the Lord and the savior of my life. Well, hey, I would love to help life. Well, hey, I would love to help life. Well, hey, I would love to help you do that today. you do that today. you do that today. Would you pray this prayer after me and Would you pray this prayer after me and Would you pray this prayer after me and and everyone around you will pray this and everyone around you will pray this and everyone around you will pray this as a way of encouragement, but don't as a way of encouragement, but don't as a way of encouragement, but don't leave today without receiving the greatest act of without receiving the greatest act of service ever performed.

service ever performed. service ever performed. If that's you today, would you pray this If that's you today, would you pray this If that's you today, would you pray this prayer after me? prayer after me? prayer after me? Dear God, Dear God, Dear God, I know that I'm a sinner. I know that I'm a sinner. I know that I'm a sinner. But today I ask you But today I ask you But today I ask you to forgive me of my sin. to forgive me of my sin. to forgive me of my sin. Jesus, come into my life Jesus, come into my life Jesus, come into my life to be my Lord, to be my Lord, to be my Lord, my savior, my savior, my savior, and my forgiver. and my forgiver. and my forgiver. In the best way I know how, In the best way I know how, In the best way I know how, I turn my back on my sin I turn my back on my sin I turn my back on my sin and I give my life to you. and I give my life to you. and I give my life to you. Thank you Thank you Thank you for saving me. for saving me. for saving me. Now, before we say amen, I Now, before we say amen, I Now, before we say amen, I I would love to pray this prayer over I would love to pray this prayer over I would love to pray this prayer over you. Lord, as we go through these five love Lord, as we go through these five love languages, languages, languages, help us to give and receive this love help us to give and receive this love help us to give and receive this love language of acts of service in the best language of acts of service in the best language of acts of service in the best way possible way possible way possible by giving and receiving it in the by giving and receiving it in the by giving and receiving it in the spirit, God. spirit, God. spirit, God. We're so thankful for what you're doing We're so thankful for what you're doing We're so thankful for what you're doing in and through our church today, God. I in and through our church today, God. I in and through our church today, God. I pray that as we leave this place, pray that as we leave this place, pray that as we leave this place, we would find the courage and the we would find the courage and the we would find the courage and the boldness to speak first boldness to speak first boldness to speak first and to love others well. God, we're so and to love others well. God, we're so and to love others well. God, we're so thankful for what you're doing. We love thankful for what you're doing. We love thankful for what you're doing. We love you and we thank you and in Jesus name you and we thank you and in Jesus name you and we thank you and in Jesus name we pray. Amen and amen. Can we thank him we pray. Amen and amen. Can we thank him we pray. Amen and amen. Can we thank him for what he did this morning?