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>> Welcome to Battle Creek Church. We exist >> Welcome to Battle Creek Church. We exist to glorify God by helping all people of to glorify God by helping all people of to glorify God by helping all people of all ages advance in [music] their all ages advance in [music] their all ages advance in [music] their journey with Christ. And that includes journey with Christ. And that includes journey with Christ. And that includes you. With campuses across Oklahoma and you. With campuses across Oklahoma and you. With campuses across Oklahoma and international partners in Egypt and international partners in Egypt and international partners in Egypt and Jordan, we are passionate [music] about Jordan, we are passionate [music] about Jordan, we are passionate [music] about helping people take their next step with helping people take their next step with helping people take their next step with Jesus. Wherever you are in your faith, Jesus. Wherever you are in your faith, Jesus. Wherever you are in your faith, [music] we believe God is inviting you [music] we believe God is inviting you [music] we believe God is inviting you to move closer to him. to move closer to him. to move closer to him. We are committed [music] to serving our We are committed [music] to serving our We are committed [music] to serving our community and meeting real needs. community and meeting real needs. community and meeting real needs. Through our local outreach partners, we Through our local outreach partners, we Through our local outreach partners, we care for families, support those in care for families, support those in care for families, support those in crisis, and come alongside people crisis, and come alongside people crisis, and come alongside people [music] throughout greater Tulsa. We [music] throughout greater Tulsa. We [music] throughout greater Tulsa. We believe the church should be a place believe the church should be a place believe the church should be a place that brings hope, help, and the love of that brings hope, help, and the love of that brings hope, help, and the love of Christ to the [music] community around Christ to the [music] community around Christ to the [music] community around us. Around the world, our international us. Around the world, our international us. Around the world, our international partners in the Middle East are serving partners in the Middle East are serving partners in the Middle East are serving [music] their communities, supporting [music] their communities, supporting [music] their communities, supporting refugees, and sharing the hope of refugees, and sharing the hope of refugees, and sharing the hope of Christ. They are [music] also leading Christ. They are [music] also leading Christ. They are [music] also leading recovery programs where people are recovery programs where people are recovery programs where people are finding real freedom, healing, and finding real freedom, healing, and finding real freedom, healing, and restoration through Jesus. We believe restoration through Jesus. We believe restoration through Jesus. We believe [music] every person matters. Through [music] every person matters. Through [music] every person matters. Through our Haven Ministry, we honor and support our Haven Ministry, we honor and support our Haven Ministry, we honor and support [music] individuals with special needs [music] individuals with special needs [music] individuals with special needs and their families, making sure everyone and their families, making sure everyone and their families, making sure everyone has a place to belong. We are so [music] has a place to belong. We are so [music] has a place to belong. We are so [music] passionate about reaching the next passionate about reaching the next passionate about reaching the next generation. Our kids ministry helps generation. Our kids ministry helps generation. Our kids ministry helps children [music] build a lifelong children [music] build a lifelong children [music] build a lifelong foundation of faith in Jesus. And foundation of faith in Jesus. And foundation of faith in Jesus. And [music] our students are encouraged to [music] our students are encouraged to [music] our students are encouraged to live out their faith each and every live out their faith each and every live out their faith each and every week. Our young adults are building week. Our young adults are building week. Our young adults are building community and stepping [music] into community and stepping [music] into community and stepping [music] into their purpose. Every weekend, we gather

their purpose. Every weekend, we gather their purpose. Every weekend, we gather for powerful worship [music] and for powerful worship [music] and for powerful worship [music] and biblical teaching as we grow together in biblical teaching as we grow together in biblical teaching as we grow together in our faith. And throughout the [music] our faith. And throughout the [music] our faith. And throughout the [music] week, community groups create space for week, community groups create space for week, community groups create space for real relationships. While Celebrate real relationships. While Celebrate real relationships. While Celebrate Recovery offers hope and healing for Recovery offers hope and healing for Recovery offers hope and healing for those walking through life struggles. those walking through life struggles. those walking through life struggles. This [music] is a place for you and your This [music] is a place for you and your This [music] is a place for you and your family, but it's more than that. We're family, but it's more than that. We're family, but it's more than that. We're on a mission to reach Tulsa, America, on a mission to reach Tulsa, America, on a mission to reach Tulsa, America, and the world with the hope of Jesus. and the world with the hope of Jesus. and the world with the hope of Jesus. We're so [music] glad you're here, and We're so [music] glad you're here, and We're so [music] glad you're here, and we believe God has a place for you in we believe God has a place for you in we believe God has a place for you in what he's doing through this church. what he's doing through this church. what he's doing through this church. [music] [music] [music] Welcome to Battle Creek Church. Morning, Welcome to Battle Creek Church. Morning, Welcome to Battle Creek Church. Morning, Battle Creek. We're so glad you guys are Battle Creek. We're so glad you guys are Battle Creek. We're so glad you guys are here with us. Let's praise together here with us. Let's praise together here with us. Let's praise together [music] today. >> I have felt the hands that bear the >> I have felt the hands that bear the [music] scars. Reach down and rescue me. [music] scars. Reach down and rescue me. [music] scars. Reach down and rescue me. I have known [music] the love of the I have known [music] the love of the I have known [music] the love of the father's heart. A prodigal now redeemed.

father's heart. A prodigal now redeemed. father's heart. A prodigal now redeemed. From where I was to where I'm now is From where I was to where I'm now is From where I was to where I'm now is overwhelming. [music] The more and more I see you move The more and more I see you move all around [music and singing] me, all around [music and singing] me, all around [music and singing] me, I can't help but praise you. Praise you, I can't help but praise you. Praise you, I can't help but praise you. Praise you, Lord. [music] Lord. [music] Lord. [music] I can't help but I can't help but I can't help but shout shout shout [music and singing] when I think about you. when I think about you. faithful down to the end. I [music] faithful down to the end. I [music] faithful down to the end. I [music] can't help but praise you. Praise you, can't help but praise you. Praise you, can't help but praise you. Praise you, Lord. Lord. Lord. I can't help but [music] I can't help but [music] I can't help but [music] cuz I'm free. Got no chains on me. I'm cuz I'm free. Got no chains on me. I'm cuz I'm free. Got no chains on me. I'm redeemed. I can't help but call on his redeemed. I can't help but call on his redeemed. I can't help but call on his name. [music] I bury my name. [music] I bury my name. [music] I bury my grave. I can't help but [music] grave. I can't help but [music] grave. I can't help but [music] got those chains on me.

got those chains on me. got those chains on me. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] [music] [music] [singing] [singing] [singing] Oh, Praise you. Praise you. Praise you. Praise you. I can't help but praise you. Praise I can't help but praise you. Praise I can't help but praise you. Praise [music] [music] [music] you. >> [music] >> [music] >> We introduced this new song last week >> We introduced this new song last week >> We introduced this new song last week and so we're going to sing it again this and so we're going to sing it again this and so we're going to sing it again this morning. So go ahead and posture your morning. So go ahead and posture your morning. So go ahead and posture your hearts for worship. [music] hearts for worship. [music] hearts for worship. [music] Oh, we thank you.

Oh, we thank you. Oh, we thank you. Thank you, Jesus. Thank you, Jesus. Thank you, Jesus. You're waiting. You're waiting. You're waiting. You're waiting for us. You're waiting for us. You're waiting for us. [music] So we sing to you. [music] So we sing to you. [music] So we sing to you. Thank you, Jesus. Let's sing this. Let's sing this. [music] [music] [music] I left my father when I was young. I left my father when I was young. I left my father when I was young. [music] Wanted the world, so [music] I spent it Wanted the world, so [music] I spent it all. Searching [music] for something I didn't Searching [music] for something I didn't know [music] was under the roof of my [music] was under the roof of my father's home. father's home. father's home. But [music] he's But [music] he's But [music] he's never broke a promise. never broke a promise. never broke a promise. Listen cuz he's calling.

Listen cuz he's calling. Listen cuz he's calling. And Jesus [music] And Jesus [music] And Jesus [music] says he runs till he's a forgiving God. says he runs till he's a forgiving God. says he runs till he's a forgiving God. We're going to [music] sing this out. We're going to [music] sing this out. We're going to [music] sing this out. He's a forgiving God. Yes, he is. He's a forgiving God. Yes, he is. He's a forgiving God. Yes, he is. [music] [music] [music] He's a forgiving God. He's a forgiving God. He's a forgiving God. [music] [music] [music] He's a forgiving. No matter what you He's a forgiving. No matter what you He's a forgiving. No matter what you walked in here with. Come on. walked in here with. Come on. walked in here with. Come on. [music] [music] [music] He's a forgiving. No matter what shame He's a forgiving. No matter what shame He's a forgiving. No matter what shame you're carrying, he's [music] a you're carrying, he's [music] a you're carrying, he's [music] a forgiving God. forgiving God. forgiving God. He's a forgiving God. He's a forgiving God. He's a forgiving God. [music] I've sinned against him [music] more I've sinned against him [music] more ways than words. ways than words. ways than words. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I didn't [music] I didn't [music] I didn't [music] deserve to be called his son. Yeah. [music] Yeah. [music] But no greater love than I ever known.

The [music] father The [music] father said, "Welcome." said, "Welcome." said, "Welcome." Come on, sing it. Cuz [music] he is Come on, sing it. Cuz [music] he is Come on, sing it. Cuz [music] he is broken broken broken [music] [music] [music] cuz he's coming. cuz he's coming. cuz he's coming. Jesus says he was a forgiving [music] Jesus says he was a forgiving [music] Jesus says he was a forgiving [music] God. No longer have to order No longer have to order calls. [music] After all, [music] he is a father. He's After all, [music] he is a father. He's a forgiving [singing] God. [music] >> He's waiting for you. >> He's waiting for you. [music] He's waiting. waiting for you. [music] He's waiting. waiting for you. [music] He's waiting. waiting for you. [music] [music] [music] >> He's been sitting on the porch waiting >> He's been sitting on the porch waiting >> He's been sitting on the porch waiting your arrival. You never left [music] his your arrival. You never left [music] his your arrival. You never left [music] his heart. He's always thinking of you.

heart. He's always thinking of you. heart. He's always thinking of you. He'll come running out to meet [music] He'll come running out to meet [music] He'll come running out to meet [music] you. He's always around you. He's a you. He's always around you. He's a you. He's always around you. He's a forgiving God. Come on, church. [music] forgiving God. Come on, church. [music] forgiving God. Come on, church. [music] He's been setting all the poor way. He's been setting all the poor way. He's been setting all the poor way. You never [music] You never [music] You never [music] heart. He's always thinking of you. You heart. He's always thinking of you. You heart. He's always thinking of you. You come running after me. It's always come running after me. It's always come running after me. It's always [music] around you. He's a Heat. [music] around you. He's a Heat. [music] around you. He's a Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] around around [music] [music] [music] your eyes your eyes your eyes never [music] He's a forgiving God.

He's a forgiving God. Yes, he [music] is. He is. He is. [music] Oh, you've been out on your own. Now it's you've been out on your own. Now it's time to [music] come home. Just run to time to [music] come home. Just run to time to [music] come home. Just run to [singing] Jesus. Just run to Jesus. Can we sing that this Just run to Jesus. Can we sing that this morning? You've been out on your own. morning? You've been out on your own. morning? You've been out on your own. Now it's time [music] to come home. Just Now it's time [music] to come home. Just Now it's time [music] to come home. Just run to Jesus. He's waiting. run to Jesus. He's waiting. run to Jesus. He's waiting. Just run to Jesus. [music and singing] You've [music] been out on your own. Now You've [music] been out on your own. Now it's time to come home. Just run to see. it's time to come home. Just run to see. it's time to come home. Just run to see. [music] He's waiting for you. Just run [music] He's waiting for you. Just run [music] He's waiting for you. Just run to Jesus. [music] Just run [singing] to Jesus.

Just run [singing] to Jesus. You better on your own. [music] Now it's You better on your own. [music] Now it's You better on your own. [music] Now it's time to go home. Just run. time to go home. Just run. time to go home. Just run. Just [music] run to Jesus. Just run. Just [music] run to Jesus. Just run. Just [music] run to Jesus. Just run. Just [music] Just [music] Just [music] run. You [music] You [music] on your own. Heat. Heat. Heat. on your own. Heat. Heat. Heat. on your own. Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] [music] [music] Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] [music] Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. Heat. [music] [music] [music] your own [singing] time. your own [singing] time. your own [singing] time. You better Just run to Jesus. [music] Just run to Jesus. [music] He's waiting. He's waiting, He's waiting. He's waiting, He's waiting. He's waiting, but he's but he's but he's never broke a promise.

never broke a promise. never broke a promise. Listen cuz he's calling Listen cuz he's calling Listen cuz he's calling and Jesus says he [music] wants you. and Jesus says he [music] wants you. and Jesus says he [music] wants you. He's a forgiving God. He's a forgiving God. He's a forgiving God. [music] No longer have to wonder [music] No longer have to wonder [music] No longer have to wonder calling sons and daughters. calling sons and daughters. calling sons and daughters. After all, here is the father. [music] After all, here is the father. [music] After all, here is the father. [music] He's a forgiving God. He's a forgiving God. He's a forgiving God. >> [music] >> Well, Valkyrie, it is so good to see you >> Well, Valkyrie, it is so good to see you today. [music] today. [music] today. [music] I love that we get to come together and I love that we get to come together and I love that we get to come together and worship the King of Kings, the God who worship the King of Kings, the God who worship the King of Kings, the God who calls us his sons and daughters, just calls us his sons and daughters, just calls us his sons and daughters, just like we sang in a forgiving [music] God. like we sang in a forgiving [music] God. like we sang in a forgiving [music] God. And I just want to take a moment to And I just want to take a moment to And I just want to take a moment to encourage you that whatever season you encourage you that whatever season you encourage you that whatever season you may be walking in, God is waiting may be walking in, God is waiting may be walking in, God is waiting [music] for you. You do not have to walk [music] for you. You do not have to walk [music] for you. You do not have to walk it alone. He is there with open arms it alone. He is there with open arms it alone. He is there with open arms just waiting. And I would like to also just waiting. And I would like to also just waiting. And I would like to also invite you to our worship night on invite you to our worship night on invite you to our worship night on August 5th. At any location you can come August 5th. At any location you can come August 5th. At any location you can come and join us for our worship night. But and join us for our worship night. But and join us for our worship night. But it's such a great time to come together it's such a great time to come together it's such a great time to come together praise the King of Kings [music] to ask praise the King of Kings [music] to ask praise the King of Kings [music] to ask for prayer to ask for healing and just for prayer to ask for healing and just for prayer to ask for healing and just to walk life with [music] each other to walk life with [music] each other to walk life with [music] each other because when two or more are gathered in because when two or more are gathered in because when two or more are gathered in his name we can be confident that he is his name we can be confident that he is his name we can be confident that he is there with us. So I hope to see you all there with us. So I hope to see you all there with us. So I hope to see you all on August 5th and I hope that you can on August 5th and I hope that you can on August 5th and I hope that you can just come to the father [music] all hand just come to the father [music] all hand just come to the father [music] all hand in hand that no matter what you may be

in hand that no matter what you may be in hand that no matter what you may be going through, you know that you are not going through, you know that you are not going through, you know that you are not alone, that he is with you, that he alone, that he is with you, that he alone, that he is with you, that he [music] knows you and he sees you. He [music] knows you and he sees you. He [music] knows you and he sees you. He hears everything and that he is [music] hears everything and that he is [music] hears everything and that he is [music] there for you. So before we continue there for you. So before we continue there for you. So before we continue singing, I'm just going to pray over us. singing, I'm just going to pray over us. singing, I'm just going to pray over us. [music] And so here we go. Dear heavenly [music] And so here we go. Dear heavenly [music] And so here we go. Dear heavenly father, I thank you so much that you are father, I thank you so much that you are father, I thank you so much that you are the King of Kings, that you are the God the King of Kings, that you are the God the King of Kings, that you are the God that calls [music] us sons and that calls [music] us sons and that calls [music] us sons and daughters, that you are a forgiving God, daughters, that you are a forgiving God, daughters, that you are a forgiving God, and that you love us. We thank you so and that you love us. We thank you so and that you love us. We thank you so much. [music] Holy Spirit, you are [music] sustainer, Holy Spirit, you are [music] sustainer, my guide and [singing] comfort. Never my guide and [singing] comfort. Never my guide and [singing] comfort. Never changing. You've always been. You will changing. You've always been. You will changing. You've always been. You will always be. So how could I always be. So how could I always be. So how could I [music and singing] [music and singing] [music and singing] keep from singing? keep from singing? keep from singing? Jesus [music] Jesus [music] Jesus [music] [singing] savior, you are redeemer right [music] here with your people. You right [music] here with your people. You always been, you always been, you always been, you be. So, how [music] could I keep from?

be. So, how [music] could I keep from? be. So, how [music] could I keep from? Come on, lift up your hands to the King Come on, lift up your hands to the King Come on, lift up your hands to the King of Kings. You're faithful. [music] of Kings. You're faithful. [music] of Kings. You're faithful. [music] [singing] So faithful. So faithful. [music] [music] [music] Looking back, I can see. Oh God, I Looking back, I can see. Oh God, I Looking back, I can see. Oh God, I [singing] believe [singing] believe [singing] believe that's [music] who you'll always be. that's [music] who you'll always be. that's [music] who you'll always be. Come on, believe this. You're faithful. Come on, believe this. You're faithful. Come on, believe this. You're faithful. [music] looking. [music] looking. [music] [singing] Oh, Oh, [music] [music] [music] that's who [singing] you always >> Take a look around.

>> Take a look around. This is pouring [music] out. This is pouring [music] out. This is pouring [music] out. If you stay [singing] the same, then If you stay [singing] the same, then If you stay [singing] the same, then you'll never [music] change. It's never you'll never [music] change. It's never you'll never [music] change. It's never running [singing] out. So, how could I running [singing] out. So, how could I running [singing] out. So, how could I doubt? doubt? doubt? If you say the same and you'll [music] If you say the same and you'll [music] If you say the same and you'll [music] never change. Come on, take a look never change. Come on, take a look never change. Come on, take a look around. around. around. Pour [music] it out. Pour [music] it out. Pour [music] it out. If you say [singing] the same and you'll If you say [singing] the same and you'll If you say [singing] the same and you'll never [music] say the same and you'll [music] never say the same and you'll [music] never change. You stay the same and you're change. You stay the same and you're change. You stay the same and you're never changing. You stay the same. [music] [music] [singing] [music] [music] [singing] I can see. Oh, [music] I can see. Oh, [music] that's who [singing] you always that's who [singing] you always that's who [singing] you always [music] [music] [music] see. Oh, I believe see. Oh, I believe see. Oh, I believe that's who you always be. [music] that's who you always be. [music] that's who you always be. [music] Yes, that's [singing] who you.

So faithful. So faithful. Yes. Yes. Yes. Looking back, [music and singing] I can Looking back, [music and singing] I can Looking back, [music and singing] I can see. Oh, God, I believe. see. Oh, God, I believe. see. Oh, God, I believe. That's who [singing] you will always be. That's who [singing] you will always be. That's who [singing] you will always be. Oh, that's who you always be. Oh, that's who you always be. Oh, that's who you always be. Yes, that's who you'll [singing] Yes, that's who you'll [singing] Yes, that's who you'll [singing] always be. always be. always be. It's [music] who you are. It's who you It's [music] who you are. It's who you It's [music] who you are. It's who you are. are. are. Yeah. And Jesus, [music] Yeah. And Jesus, [music] Yeah. And Jesus, [music] [singing] your name is the highest. Your [singing] your name is the highest. Your [singing] your name is the highest. Your name is the greatest. Your name is name is the greatest. Your name is name is the greatest. Your name is stands above them all. Are you singing? stands above them all. Are you singing? stands above them all. Are you singing? Stands above [music] Stands above [music] Stands above [music] all. Come on. [music] [music] [singing] [singing] [singing] >> Come on, sing it louder. Oh Jesus, >> Come on, sing it louder. Oh Jesus, >> Come on, sing it louder. Oh Jesus, [music] [music] [music] your name is your name is your name is your name.

your name. your name. [music] [music] [music] Your name Jesus stands above all [music] Your name Jesus stands above all [music] Your name Jesus stands above all [music] stand forever. forever. [music] forever.

forever. [music] [music] [music] You will always be. You will always You will always be. You will always You will always be. You will always [music] be [music] be [music] be holy, holy [music] holy [music] forever. [singing] forever. [singing] forever. [singing] Yeah. Come on. Can we take a moment to Yeah. Come on. Can we take a moment to Yeah. Come on. Can we take a moment to give Jesus a big shout of praise? give Jesus a big shout of praise? give Jesus a big shout of praise? [music] [music] [music] Come on, let's sing that one more time. Come on, let's sing that one more time. Come on, let's sing that one more time. Who the angels [music] cry. Come on, Who the angels [music] cry. Come on, Who the angels [music] cry. Come on, sing it. Holy [singing] holy forever. holy forever. >> Come on. Can we lift [music] our hands >> Come on. Can we lift [music] our hands >> Come on. Can we lift [music] our hands to a holy God? Hear your people. Oh, to a holy God? Hear your people. Oh, to a holy God? Hear your people. Oh, hear your people sing. hear your people sing. hear your people sing. [music] Praise to the King of Kings Jesus, Praise to the King of Kings Jesus, [music] [music] [music] holy, >> Dear heavenly father, you are holy >> Dear heavenly father, you are holy forever. God, we thank [music] you that forever. God, we thank [music] you that forever. God, we thank [music] you that you are here with us today. We thank you you are here with us today. We thank you you are here with us today. We thank you that we can see your faithfulness that we can see your faithfulness that we can see your faithfulness through all generations and that you through all generations and that you through all generations and that you [music] call us your sons and daughters.

[music] call us your sons and daughters. [music] call us your sons and daughters. God, I pray that as we get into the word God, I pray that as we get into the word God, I pray that as we get into the word and we learn more about [music] the love and we learn more about [music] the love and we learn more about [music] the love languages, God, that we would be able to languages, God, that we would be able to languages, God, that we would be able to learn well and how to steward them well learn well and how to steward them well learn well and how to steward them well to love others, God. [music] God, we to love others, God. [music] God, we to love others, God. [music] God, we thank you for everything that you have thank you for everything that you have thank you for everything that you have done and what you have yet to do in done and what you have yet to do in done and what you have yet to do in Jesus' name. Amen. Well, Battle Creek, Jesus' name. Amen. Well, Battle Creek, Jesus' name. Amen. Well, Battle Creek, if you could turn to your neighbor, give if you could turn to your neighbor, give if you could turn to your neighbor, give him a high five, [music] and then you him a high five, [music] and then you him a high five, [music] and then you may be seated. [music] [music] Well, hey and good morning and welcome Well, hey and good morning and welcome Well, hey and good morning and welcome to church today. Man, what a great time to church today. Man, what a great time to church today. Man, what a great time of worship. My name is Josiah Guardo and of worship. My name is Josiah Guardo and of worship. My name is Josiah Guardo and one of the uh things I love about our one of the uh things I love about our one of the uh things I love about our online community here is that we get to online community here is that we get to online community here is that we get to come together no matter where we're at come together no matter where we're at come together no matter where we're at in this world and come together and lock in this world and come together and lock in this world and come together and lock arms and worship the name of Jesus. It's arms and worship the name of Jesus. It's arms and worship the name of Jesus. It's one of my favorite things that we get to one of my favorite things that we get to one of my favorite things that we get to do [music] do [music] do [music] uh on Sunday mornings is come together uh on Sunday mornings is come together uh on Sunday mornings is come together and lift up the name of Jesus, King of and lift up the name of Jesus, King of and lift up the name of Jesus, King of Kings and Lord of Lords. Well, good Kings and Lord of Lords. Well, good Kings and Lord of Lords. Well, good morning. It's Sunday. It's so good to be morning. It's Sunday. It's so good to be morning. It's Sunday. It's so good to be in the house of the Lord and to be in the house of the Lord and to be in the house of the Lord and to be attending service with you today. And uh attending service with you today. And uh attending service with you today. And uh maybe this is your first time attending maybe this is your first time attending maybe this is your first time attending or maybe you've been attending for a or maybe you've been attending for a or maybe you've been attending for a while, I want to say welcome. I get to while, I want to say welcome. I get to while, I want to say welcome. I get to lead our online community here at Battle lead our online community here at Battle lead our online community here at Battle Creek Church. And if you don't know much Creek Church. And if you don't know much Creek Church. And if you don't know much about Battle Creek Church, let me start about Battle Creek Church, let me start about Battle Creek Church, let me start with this. Our mission is simple that we with this. Our mission is simple that we with this. Our mission is simple that we exist to glorify God by helping all exist to glorify God by helping all exist to glorify God by helping all people of all ages all the time advance people of all ages all the time advance people of all ages all the time advance in their journey with Christ. So, it in their journey with Christ. So, it in their journey with Christ. So, it doesn't matter if you've been a believer doesn't matter if you've been a believer doesn't matter if you've been a believer for 50 years or maybe you are are not a for 50 years or maybe you are are not a for 50 years or maybe you are are not a believer or maybe you are just became a

believer or maybe you are just became a believer or maybe you are just became a believer and accepted Jesus into your believer and accepted Jesus into your believer and accepted Jesus into your heart. What I want to tell you is you're heart. What I want to tell you is you're heart. What I want to tell you is you're in the right place because we believe in the right place because we believe in the right place because we believe that we're on a journey and there's that we're on a journey and there's that we're on a journey and there's always a next step regardless of where always a next step regardless of where always a next step regardless of where you're at in that journey. And so maybe you're at in that journey. And so maybe you're at in that journey. And so maybe today your next step is simple. It's to today your next step is simple. It's to today your next step is simple. It's to get connected here at Battle Creek get connected here at Battle Creek get connected here at Battle Creek Church. And so, uh, right now they're Church. And so, uh, right now they're Church. And so, uh, right now they're putting a connect card. I would love for putting a connect card. I would love for putting a connect card. I would love for you to fill that out and just let us you to fill that out and just let us you to fill that out and just let us know what God is doing in your heart. know what God is doing in your heart. know what God is doing in your heart. myself [music] or one of our team myself [music] or one of our team myself [music] or one of our team members would reach out to you and just members would reach out to you and just members would reach out to you and just get to hear your story and what God is get to hear your story and what God is get to hear your story and what God is doing there and seeing how we can come doing there and seeing how we can come doing there and seeing how we can come alongside you to help you advance in alongside you to help you advance in alongside you to help you advance in your journey with Christ. But also on your journey with Christ. But also on your journey with Christ. But also on [music] there I is a prayer request and [music] there I is a prayer request and [music] there I is a prayer request and so maybe you're a part of our team and so maybe you're a part of our team and so maybe you're a part of our team and you've been here uh but you haven't been you've been here uh but you haven't been you've been here uh but you haven't been able to to know that we have this, we able to to know that we have this, we able to to know that we have this, we would love for you to pray for you. would love for you to pray for you. would love for you to pray for you. Every week our staff gets around a table Every week our staff gets around a table Every week our staff gets around a table and prays by name for your prayer and prays by name for your prayer and prays by name for your prayer requests, partnering in prayer with you. requests, partnering in prayer with you. requests, partnering in prayer with you. And so, uh, whether you're new and And so, uh, whether you're new and And so, uh, whether you're new and looking to get connected or or maybe you looking to get connected or or maybe you looking to get connected or or maybe you have a prayer request and just looking have a prayer request and just looking have a prayer request and just looking for somebody to come alongside [music] for somebody to come alongside [music] for somebody to come alongside [music] you and pray for you, you can fill out you and pray for you, you can fill out you and pray for you, you can fill out that connect card or it's in the chat that connect card or it's in the chat that connect card or it's in the chat right now. We'd love to come alongside right now. We'd love to come alongside right now. We'd love to come alongside you, pray with you, and know that your you, pray with you, and know that your you, pray with you, and know that your church family is praying with you and church family is praying with you and church family is praying with you and believing with you for whatever you need believing with you for whatever you need believing with you for whatever you need God to do in your life. Last week, I God to do in your life. Last week, I God to do in your life. Last week, I talked about that we had a team in talked about that we had a team in talked about that we had a team in Egypt. They're actually coming back Egypt. They're actually coming back Egypt. They're actually coming back today and it was incredible. Our our today and it was incredible. Our our today and it was incredible. Our our student ministry, Battle Creek Students, student ministry, Battle Creek Students, student ministry, Battle Creek Students, was there. They helped them with the was there. They helped them with the was there. They helped them with the youth camp and did some street ministry youth camp and did some street ministry youth camp and did some street ministry all around some of our branches there in all around some of our branches there in all around some of our branches there in Egypt and just God doing tremendous Egypt and just God doing tremendous Egypt and just God doing tremendous things. I'm excited to hear uh the things. I'm excited to hear uh the things. I'm excited to hear uh the stories. Uh my wife Deli actually is on

stories. Uh my wife Deli actually is on stories. Uh my wife Deli actually is on that trip and so excited. I can't wait that trip and so excited. I can't wait that trip and so excited. I can't wait to see her and to hear all that God is to see her and to hear all that God is to see her and to hear all that God is doing in and God did all in and through doing in and God did all in and through doing in and God did all in and through [music] [music] [music] this trip. But church, I just want to this trip. But church, I just want to this trip. But church, I just want to say thank you. Thank you for believing say thank you. Thank you for believing say thank you. Thank you for believing in a mission that's big that that in a mission that's big that that in a mission that's big that that doesn't just encompass Tulsa, but doesn't just encompass Tulsa, but doesn't just encompass Tulsa, but America and the world. and and church, America and the world. and and church, America and the world. and and church, thank you for help making a difference thank you for help making a difference thank you for help making a difference all across this globe. It's because of all across this globe. It's because of all across this globe. It's because of your generosity that our teams can go your generosity that our teams can go your generosity that our teams can go and help service and and [music] help be and help service and and [music] help be and help service and and [music] help be a part of the outreach and the ministry a part of the outreach and the ministry a part of the outreach and the ministry happening in the Middle East. If you've happening in the Middle East. If you've happening in the Middle East. If you've never given before, love to give you a never given before, love to give you a never given before, love to give you a chance to do so today. They're putting a chance to do so today. They're putting a chance to do so today. They're putting a link in the chat and there's a a link link in the chat and there's a a link link in the chat and there's a a link here on the screen and and your here on the screen and and your here on the screen and and your generosity, church, just thank you. generosity, church, just thank you. generosity, church, just thank you. Thank you for that and knowing that God Thank you for that and knowing that God Thank you for that and knowing that God is using that to make a difference all is using that to make a difference all is using that to make a difference all around the world. So, thank you [music] around the world. So, thank you [music] around the world. So, thank you [music] for that. Hey, I've been talking about for that. Hey, I've been talking about for that. Hey, I've been talking about this the last couple of weeks, but we this the last couple of weeks, but we this the last couple of weeks, but we launched our online community group uh launched our online community group uh launched our online community group uh right in the chat. Can you celebrate right in the chat. Can you celebrate right in the chat. Can you celebrate with me right now? Put your favorite with me right now? Put your favorite with me right now? Put your favorite emoji. Uh yay, woohoo, whatever that is emoji. Uh yay, woohoo, whatever that is emoji. Uh yay, woohoo, whatever that is in the chat right now for me. But uh we in the chat right now for me. But uh we in the chat right now for me. But uh we launched our community group. It is in launched our community group. It is in launched our community group. It is in full throttle. So, if you're attending full throttle. So, if you're attending full throttle. So, if you're attending and you're looking for community, it and you're looking for community, it and you're looking for community, it doesn't matter where you're at on the doesn't matter where you're at on the doesn't matter where you're at on the globe. We're meeting and it is going globe. We're meeting and it is going globe. We're meeting and it is going fantastic. And so if you're looking for fantastic. And so if you're looking for fantastic. And so if you're looking for community, scan that QR code, click that community, scan that QR code, click that community, scan that QR code, click that link, fill that out. Let's get you link, fill that out. Let's get you link, fill that out. Let's get you connected to the group of believers that connected to the group of believers that connected to the group of believers that are meeting every single week, uh, are meeting every single week, uh, are meeting every single week, uh, advancing in their journey with Christ.

advancing in their journey with Christ. advancing in their journey with Christ. And so, hey, [music] we we know And so, hey, [music] we we know And so, hey, [music] we we know attending online can be different and at attending online can be different and at attending online can be different and at times you can feel isolated. This is times you can feel isolated. This is times you can feel isolated. This is your next step. [music] your next step. [music] your next step. [music] get a part of our group, a part of our get a part of our group, a part of our get a part of our group, a part of our family here at at Battle Creek Church, a family here at at Battle Creek Church, a family here at at Battle Creek Church, a group of believers sharpening you, check group of believers sharpening you, check group of believers sharpening you, check on you, loving on you, being a part and on you, loving on you, being a part and on you, loving on you, being a part and being the body of of Christ. And so, uh, being the body of of Christ. And so, uh, being the body of of Christ. And so, uh, fill that out. Don't miss out on what fill that out. Don't miss out on what fill that out. Don't miss out on what God is doing through this group. And so, God is doing through this group. And so, God is doing through this group. And so, we're thankful for, uh, Karen and and we're thankful for, uh, Karen and and we're thankful for, uh, Karen and and and her husband for leading this. And and her husband for leading this. And and her husband for leading this. And so, we're we're excited for all that God so, we're we're excited for all that God so, we're we're excited for all that God is doing in and through our community is doing in and through our community is doing in and through our community group. And, uh, as this grows, we'll group. And, uh, as this grows, we'll group. And, uh, as this grows, we'll launch more. And so, go ahead and jump launch more. And so, go ahead and jump launch more. And so, go ahead and jump into that. We're excited for what God is into that. We're excited for what God is into that. We're excited for what God is doing here [music] at Battle Creek doing here [music] at Battle Creek doing here [music] at Battle Creek Church with our online community. Well, Church with our online community. Well, Church with our online community. Well, we're in a series, Love Languages, and we're in a series, Love Languages, and we're in a series, Love Languages, and uh I got to teach the first one, acts of uh I got to teach the first one, acts of uh I got to teach the first one, acts of service. Pastor John last week uh talked service. Pastor John last week uh talked service. Pastor John last week uh talked about receiving gifts. And this week, about receiving gifts. And this week, about receiving gifts. And this week, we're talking about physical touch. Uh I we're talking about physical touch. Uh I we're talking about physical touch. Uh I know that could be crazy and at times know that could be crazy and at times know that could be crazy and at times that could be like, oh, I'm nervous, but that could be like, oh, I'm nervous, but that could be like, oh, I'm nervous, but uh we have our good friend, Pastor Ted uh we have our good friend, Pastor Ted uh we have our good friend, Pastor Ted Cunningham in the house to bring the Cunningham in the house to bring the Cunningham in the house to bring the word today. And every time he's here, I word today. And every time he's here, I word today. And every time he's here, I love it. He's funny. Uh, and we're love it. He's funny. Uh, and we're love it. He's funny. Uh, and we're covering a good topic today on how to covering a good topic today on how to covering a good topic today on how to love people, but also, uh, how to love people, but also, uh, how to love people, but also, uh, how to receive love if your love language is, receive love if your love language is, receive love if your love language is, [music] uh, physical touch. And so, uh, [music] uh, physical touch. And so, uh, [music] uh, physical touch. And so, uh, I'm going to pray for us and then grab I'm going to pray for us and then grab I'm going to pray for us and then grab your notebook, your pen, and your Bible, your notebook, your pen, and your Bible, your notebook, your pen, and your Bible, and let's jump into the message today.

and let's jump into the message today. and let's jump into the message today. [music] Would you pray with me? Father, [music] Would you pray with me? Father, [music] Would you pray with me? Father, we're so thankful for you today. I know we're so thankful for you today. I know we're so thankful for you today. I know you have a word for us. Speak to us. you have a word for us. Speak to us. you have a word for us. Speak to us. Help us not only to know our love Help us not only to know our love Help us not only to know our love language, but how to love other people language, but how to love other people language, but how to love other people in the language that they in which they in the language that they in which they in the language that they in which they are, so they receive love the way that are, so they receive love the way that are, so they receive love the way that they need to receive it. God, we love they need to receive it. God, we love they need to receive it. God, we love you. We thank you. Speak to us in Jesus you. We thank you. Speak to us in Jesus you. We thank you. Speak to us in Jesus name we pray. Amen. Let's jump in today. >> Good morning church. Welcome to everyone >> Good morning church. Welcome to everyone here across all the campuses. Glad here across all the campuses. Glad here across all the campuses. Glad you're here.

I hope you have been enjoying the love I hope you have been enjoying the love languages series and learning a lot. languages series and learning a lot. languages series and learning a lot. Josiah and John did a phenomenal job Josiah and John did a phenomenal job Josiah and John did a phenomenal job with the first two love languages. And with the first two love languages. And with the first two love languages. And when they asked me, I think it was last when they asked me, I think it was last when they asked me, I think it was last year, they said, "Which one do you year, they said, "Which one do you year, they said, "Which one do you want?" I said, "Give me physical touch." want?" I said, "Give me physical touch." want?" I said, "Give me physical touch." And here's why. It is my foreign love And here's why. It is my foreign love And here's why. It is my foreign love language. It's my foreign love language. language. It's my foreign love language. language. It's my foreign love language. And in this series, we're learning not And in this series, we're learning not And in this series, we're learning not just to know how to receive love, but we just to know how to receive love, but we just to know how to receive love, but we want to give it as well. And so, let me want to give it as well. And so, let me want to give it as well. And so, let me start with my foreign love language. And start with my foreign love language. And start with my foreign love language. And by the way, it's my wife's foreign love by the way, it's my wife's foreign love by the way, it's my wife's foreign love language as well. My love language is language as well. My love language is language as well. My love language is words of affirmation. My wife has two words of affirmation. My wife has two words of affirmation. My wife has two primary love languages. Uh she has acts primary love languages. Uh she has acts primary love languages. Uh she has acts of service and quality time, which means of service and quality time, which means of service and quality time, which means I serve her for long periods of time. I serve her for long periods of time. I serve her for long periods of time. It's what these two coming together It's what these two coming together It's what these two coming together mean. My children, they have the mean. My children, they have the mean. My children, they have the primary, they both have a primary love primary, they both have a primary love primary, they both have a primary love language of receiving gifts. language of receiving gifts. language of receiving gifts. And the dialects have been so important. And the dialects have been so important. And the dialects have been so important. Last year in the summer, Dr. Chapman Last year in the summer, Dr. Chapman Last year in the summer, Dr. Chapman invited me to be a part of the Five Love invited me to be a part of the Five Love invited me to be a part of the Five Love Languages teaching team. He's almost 90 Languages teaching team. He's almost 90 Languages teaching team. He's almost 90 years old, and he's trying to steward years old, and he's trying to steward years old, and he's trying to steward the message that God gave him 35 years the message that God gave him 35 years the message that God gave him 35 years ago. Uh well, it's been five love ago. Uh well, it's been five love ago. Uh well, it's been five love languages has been published in, you languages has been published in, you languages has been published in, you know, 60 different languages and it's know, 60 different languages and it's know, 60 different languages and it's published and and been sold over 20 published and and been sold over 20 published and and been sold over 20 million copies. And I dove into it uh million copies. And I dove into it uh million copies. And I dove into it uh studying the love languages knowing studying the love languages knowing studying the love languages knowing there were always five, but it was last there were always five, but it was last there were always five, but it was last summer that I learned of the 22 dialects summer that I learned of the 22 dialects summer that I learned of the 22 dialects underneath it. And my daughter, her love underneath it. And my daughter, her love underneath it. And my daughter, her love languages, receiving gifts with a languages, receiving gifts with a languages, receiving gifts with a dialect of uh heartfelt, sentimental, dialect of uh heartfelt, sentimental, dialect of uh heartfelt, sentimental, and simple. And I wish I would have and simple. And I wish I would have and simple. And I wish I would have known this and more when she was young

known this and more when she was young known this and more when she was young because I didn't know how important it because I didn't know how important it because I didn't know how important it was when I would return home from a trip was when I would return home from a trip was when I would return home from a trip and give her a magnet from the state I and give her a magnet from the state I and give her a magnet from the state I was just in. How much she held on to was just in. How much she held on to was just in. How much she held on to that. How many of you would say you're that. How many of you would say you're that. How many of you would say you're sentimental and simple in receiving sentimental and simple in receiving sentimental and simple in receiving gifts? Those are our hoarders. Look gifts? Those are our hoarders. Look gifts? Those are our hoarders. Look around at them right now. They're around at them right now. They're around at them right now. They're raising their hand, right? They don't raising their hand, right? They don't raising their hand, right? They don't let anything go. But my son is let anything go. But my son is let anything go. But my son is functional under receiving gifts and functional under receiving gifts and functional under receiving gifts and extravagant. And right now he's into extravagant. And right now he's into extravagant. And right now he's into watches. And I have told him to think watches. And I have told him to think watches. And I have told him to think Timex, not Rolex. That's where he's at Timex, not Rolex. That's where he's at Timex, not Rolex. That's where he's at in his young life. Those are our primary in his young life. Those are our primary in his young life. Those are our primary love languages. But physical touch, this love languages. But physical touch, this love languages. But physical touch, this is my foreign love language. And let me is my foreign love language. And let me is my foreign love language. And let me just see how many of you right now, if I just see how many of you right now, if I just see how many of you right now, if I said, everybody stand up and hug said, everybody stand up and hug said, everybody stand up and hug somebody you don't know. How many would somebody you don't know. How many would somebody you don't know. How many would love that? Raise your hand. Let me just love that? Raise your hand. Let me just love that? Raise your hand. Let me just see. Look around. Avoid these people at see. Look around. Avoid these people at see. Look around. Avoid these people at all cost is what I say. How many of you all cost is what I say. How many of you all cost is what I say. How many of you would hate that? would hate that? would hate that? How many of you would rather be punched How many of you would rather be punched How many of you would rather be punched in the face? Would you just raise your in the face? Would you just raise your in the face? Would you just raise your hand? Okay, that's been true. It's about hand? Okay, that's been true. It's about hand? Okay, that's been true. It's about a third, a third, and a third. a third, a third, and a third. a third, a third, and a third. So, this is what we're going to do So, this is what we're going to do So, this is what we're going to do today. We're going to embrace the today. We're going to embrace the today. We're going to embrace the awkward. And I am so glad I get to be awkward. And I am so glad I get to be awkward. And I am so glad I get to be here at the end of July because I don't here at the end of July because I don't here at the end of July because I don't think I was in a good emotional place in think I was in a good emotional place in think I was in a good emotional place in June. Uh, I got to tell you, it's been June. Uh, I got to tell you, it's been June. Uh, I got to tell you, it's been an emotional summer for me. This is my an emotional summer for me. This is my an emotional summer for me. This is my family. My son graduated from Liberty family. My son graduated from Liberty family. My son graduated from Liberty University in May. My daughter and her University in May. My daughter and her University in May. My daughter and her husband graduated from Missouri State.

husband graduated from Missouri State. husband graduated from Missouri State. And two weeks after my son graduated, he And two weeks after my son graduated, he And two weeks after my son graduated, he got married. And a few months before his got married. And a few months before his got married. And a few months before his wedding, I I bought a Bible with wedding, I I bought a Bible with wedding, I I bought a Bible with journals in the uh columns. And I wanted journals in the uh columns. And I wanted journals in the uh columns. And I wanted to sit down and spend a little time to sit down and spend a little time to sit down and spend a little time every day sharing with him everything every day sharing with him everything every day sharing with him everything I've learned, everything I've taught, I've learned, everything I've taught, I've learned, everything I've taught, everything I've ever studied on marriage everything I've ever studied on marriage everything I've ever studied on marriage and family. And I just wrote that and I and family. And I just wrote that and I and family. And I just wrote that and I gifted it to him in a Bible. And I had gifted it to him in a Bible. And I had gifted it to him in a Bible. And I had this blessing prepared for his rehearsal this blessing prepared for his rehearsal this blessing prepared for his rehearsal dinner. And I gotta tell you, I just I dinner. And I gotta tell you, I just I dinner. And I gotta tell you, I just I just wasn't prepared for the emotions just wasn't prepared for the emotions just wasn't prepared for the emotions that were going to hit me. And my wife that were going to hit me. And my wife that were going to hit me. And my wife is not a communicator. If you were to is not a communicator. If you were to is not a communicator. If you were to ask her to stand on a stage or ask her ask her to stand on a stage or ask her ask her to stand on a stage or ask her to speak in any way, she would stop to speak in any way, she would stop to speak in any way, she would stop talking to you. She would never speak to talking to you. She would never speak to talking to you. She would never speak to you again. you again. you again. But she stood next to me at the But she stood next to me at the But she stood next to me at the rehearsal and I started to speak this rehearsal and I started to speak this rehearsal and I started to speak this blessing over my son and I lost all blessing over my son and I lost all blessing over my son and I lost all emotion. I couldn't control myself. I emotion. I couldn't control myself. I emotion. I couldn't control myself. I had my napkin up and my hand and napkin had my napkin up and my hand and napkin had my napkin up and my hand and napkin in my face. And I'm not exaggerating in my face. And I'm not exaggerating in my face. And I'm not exaggerating when I say I was sobbing. And my when I say I was sobbing. And my when I say I was sobbing. And my precious wife took over. She took over precious wife took over. She took over precious wife took over. She took over and finished the blessing and prayed.

and finished the blessing and prayed. and finished the blessing and prayed. And she is now the senior pastor of And she is now the senior pastor of And she is now the senior pastor of Woodland Hills Family Church. And so I I I've been learning about the And so I I I've been learning about the love languages and I've had my uh church love languages and I've had my uh church love languages and I've had my uh church even last year I asked them to take the even last year I asked them to take the even last year I asked them to take the love languages assessment and the one love languages assessment and the one love languages assessment and the one that dials in the dialects and we had that dials in the dialects and we had that dials in the dialects and we had over a thousand people take this and I over a thousand people take this and I over a thousand people take this and I asked him to bring I had a stack on my asked him to bring I had a stack on my asked him to bring I had a stack on my desk. I remember our student pastor desk. I remember our student pastor desk. I remember our student pastor brought me his and he goes, "I don't brought me his and he goes, "I don't brought me his and he goes, "I don't even want to give this to you." Because even want to give this to you." Because even want to give this to you." Because his primary love language is physical his primary love language is physical his primary love language is physical touch. And I was like, "Come here, touch. And I was like, "Come here, touch. And I was like, "Come here, buddy. It's okay." Right? And I gave him buddy. It's okay." Right? And I gave him buddy. It's okay." Right? And I gave him a a warm embrace. But it started to make a a warm embrace. But it started to make a a warm embrace. But it started to make sense for me. I always knew Amy's love sense for me. I always knew Amy's love sense for me. I always knew Amy's love language was acts of service, but I language was acts of service, but I language was acts of service, but I never knew her dialect. When I get home never knew her dialect. When I get home never knew her dialect. When I get home and and I see these boxes on our front and and I see these boxes on our front and and I see these boxes on our front porch, [laughter] I used to think porch, [laughter] I used to think porch, [laughter] I used to think receiving gifts is her love language. receiving gifts is her love language. receiving gifts is her love language. That has to be part of it, right? That has to be part of it, right? That has to be part of it, right? Because but it isn't because we sit on Because but it isn't because we sit on Because but it isn't because we sit on the couch at night and Amy's on her the couch at night and Amy's on her the couch at night and Amy's on her phone and she'll look over at me and phone and she'll look over at me and phone and she'll look over at me and she'll say, "Thank you." And I'll go, she'll say, "Thank you." And I'll go, she'll say, "Thank you." And I'll go, "For what?" She goes, "You just got me "For what?" She goes, "You just got me "For what?" She goes, "You just got me something real nice."

something real nice." something real nice." In our marriage, we cut out the In our marriage, we cut out the In our marriage, we cut out the middleman. That's what we do. We cut out middleman. That's what we do. We cut out middleman. That's what we do. We cut out the middleman. And so I used to think, the middleman. And so I used to think, the middleman. And so I used to think, man, this is this must be her love man, this is this must be her love man, this is this must be her love language. See, she wants something every language. See, she wants something every language. See, she wants something every day. But until it wasn't until last day. But until it wasn't until last day. But until it wasn't until last summer when I learned I know her love summer when I learned I know her love summer when I learned I know her love language is acts of service but her language is acts of service but her language is acts of service but her dialect is not convey care is not dialect is not convey care is not dialect is not convey care is not alleviate stress it's saving time. alleviate stress it's saving time. alleviate stress it's saving time. Anything she can do anything I can do Anything she can do anything I can do Anything she can do anything I can do anything her family and friends can do anything her family and friends can do anything her family and friends can do to save her time that fills her up. And to save her time that fills her up. And to save her time that fills her up. And so we we've been working through this so we we've been working through this so we we've been working through this and people would ask okay so was I born and people would ask okay so was I born and people would ask okay so was I born with this? Is this something I developed with this? Is this something I developed with this? Is this something I developed over time? Is this part of my family of over time? Is this part of my family of over time? Is this part of my family of origin and the nurture side? Well, origin and the nurture side? Well, origin and the nurture side? Well, here's how we put it. Like your here's how we put it. Like your here's how we put it. Like your personality, your primary love language personality, your primary love language personality, your primary love language tends to stick with you for life. But tends to stick with you for life. But tends to stick with you for life. But there are circumstances and seasons of there are circumstances and seasons of there are circumstances and seasons of life that can draw out secondary or life that can draw out secondary or life that can draw out secondary or foreign love languages. So there may be foreign love languages. So there may be foreign love languages. So there may be a mom in here that your primary love a mom in here that your primary love a mom in here that your primary love language is physical touch, but you have language is physical touch, but you have language is physical touch, but you have a three, a five, and a seven-year-old.

a three, a five, and a seven-year-old. a three, a five, and a seven-year-old. And half the time you're you're saying, And half the time you're you're saying, And half the time you're you're saying, "Get off of me." "Get off of me." "Get off of me." you're just in a different season or you're just in a different season or you're just in a different season or stage of life. A lot of times people stage of life. A lot of times people stage of life. A lot of times people will say to me, "My love language is will say to me, "My love language is will say to me, "My love language is leave me alone." Like, well, that's not leave me alone." Like, well, that's not leave me alone." Like, well, that's not a love language. Anytime somebody tells a love language. Anytime somebody tells a love language. Anytime somebody tells me that, I almost guarantee you their me that, I almost guarantee you their me that, I almost guarantee you their love language is acts of service. And love language is acts of service. And love language is acts of service. And anything a family member or a friend can anything a family member or a friend can anything a family member or a friend can do to give them time by themselves is do to give them time by themselves is do to give them time by themselves is what fills them up. So yes, you may have what fills them up. So yes, you may have what fills them up. So yes, you may have a primary love language, but boy, there a primary love language, but boy, there a primary love language, but boy, there are seasons and stages of life that we are seasons and stages of life that we are seasons and stages of life that we go through that draw out the secondary go through that draw out the secondary go through that draw out the secondary or foreign love language. If you grew up or foreign love language. If you grew up or foreign love language. If you grew up in a loving home with all five love in a loving home with all five love in a loving home with all five love languages, and love was just poured out languages, and love was just poured out languages, and love was just poured out on you, you receive all of these as on you, you receive all of these as on you, you receive all of these as expressions of love. And so you just you expressions of love. And so you just you expressions of love. And so you just you take them all. And so when you take an take them all. And so when you take an take them all. And so when you take an assessment or we're talking about this assessment or we're talking about this assessment or we're talking about this over five weeks and you're like, I don't over five weeks and you're like, I don't over five weeks and you're like, I don't know. I I I want them all. That's okay. know. I I I want them all. That's okay. know. I I I want them all. That's okay. Because the goal here isn't just to dial Because the goal here isn't just to dial Because the goal here isn't just to dial in what your love language is. The goal in what your love language is. The goal in what your love language is. The goal is for us to become fluent in all five is for us to become fluent in all five is for us to become fluent in all five to better love one another. Now, the to better love one another. Now, the to better love one another. Now, the same is true if you if you grew up in an same is true if you if you grew up in an same is true if you if you grew up in an unloving home. Now, I have not found a unloving home. Now, I have not found a unloving home. Now, I have not found a better way to say this, so please take better way to say this, so please take better way to say this, so please take this from the heart of a pastor who this from the heart of a pastor who this from the heart of a pastor who loves you. If you grew up in an unloving loves you. If you grew up in an unloving loves you. If you grew up in an unloving home absent of the love languages, home absent of the love languages, home absent of the love languages, meaning there was no expression of love meaning there was no expression of love meaning there was no expression of love in any way, shape, or form in your home, in any way, shape, or form in your home, in any way, shape, or form in your home, you will take what you can get%.

you will take what you can get%. you will take what you can get%. you you you crave it and you will lean you you you crave it and you will lean you you you crave it and you will lean in for it. So, we've been in John 13:34 in for it. So, we've been in John 13:34 in for it. So, we've been in John 13:34 and35 and it's a real simple outline. and35 and it's a real simple outline. and35 and it's a real simple outline. Jesus commands it. He modeled it and Jesus commands it. He modeled it and Jesus commands it. He modeled it and this is what points other people to this is what points other people to this is what points other people to Jesus. And a lot of times when we start Jesus. And a lot of times when we start Jesus. And a lot of times when we start with the new command I give you, love with the new command I give you, love with the new command I give you, love one another. We're focused on the love one another. We're focused on the love one another. We're focused on the love part and we forget about this part right part and we forget about this part right part and we forget about this part right here, the one another. Because thriving here, the one another. Because thriving here, the one another. Because thriving relationships relationships relationships uh exist because people are giving and uh exist because people are giving and uh exist because people are giving and receiving. Uh if you've ever been to a receiving. Uh if you've ever been to a receiving. Uh if you've ever been to a lunch uh that just drain the life out of lunch uh that just drain the life out of lunch uh that just drain the life out of you and you get back like why am I so you and you get back like why am I so you and you get back like why am I so tired? It's probably because you were tired? It's probably because you were tired? It's probably because you were giving and receiving nothing. The other giving and receiving nothing. The other giving and receiving nothing. The other person didn't bring anything to the person didn't bring anything to the person didn't bring anything to the conversation or the table. On Monday, I conversation or the table. On Monday, I conversation or the table. On Monday, I got a call. A buddy of mine wanted to go got a call. A buddy of mine wanted to go got a call. A buddy of mine wanted to go golfing with me. I've known this guy for golfing with me. I've known this guy for golfing with me. I've known this guy for 25 years. He lives in Texas now. We 25 years. He lives in Texas now. We 25 years. He lives in Texas now. We don't get together that often. We don't don't get together that often. We don't don't get together that often. We don't see each other that often. And he called see each other that often. And he called see each other that often. And he called and said, "You want to golf?" And I had and said, "You want to golf?" And I had and said, "You want to golf?" And I had some things I needed to do. But as soon some things I needed to do. But as soon some things I needed to do. But as soon as my wife heard who it was, she said, as my wife heard who it was, she said, as my wife heard who it was, she said, "You drop everything and you go spend 5 "You drop everything and you go spend 5 "You drop everything and you go spend 5 hours on a golf cart with that guy." I hours on a golf cart with that guy." I hours on a golf cart with that guy." I said, "Yes, ma'am." And so I went said, "Yes, ma'am." And so I went said, "Yes, ma'am." And so I went golfing and it is he is the most golfing and it is he is the most golfing and it is he is the most lifegiving friend I have. He he and I I lifegiving friend I have. He he and I I lifegiving friend I have. He he and I I got back home and Amy goes, "Is that got back home and Amy goes, "Is that got back home and Amy goes, "Is that refreshing?" I go, "I can't even tell refreshing?" I go, "I can't even tell refreshing?" I go, "I can't even tell you." And we started to figure out what you." And we started to figure out what you." And we started to figure out what why am I so refreshed? And I love the why am I so refreshed? And I love the why am I so refreshed? And I love the term lifegiving. Why am I so refreshed term lifegiving. Why am I so refreshed term lifegiving. Why am I so refreshed every time I'm around him? He's every time I'm around him? He's every time I'm around him? He's lifegiving because number one, he asks a lifegiving because number one, he asks a lifegiving because number one, he asks a lot of questions. He's he's wanting to

lot of questions. He's he's wanting to lot of questions. He's he's wanting to get to know you. And and instead of get to know you. And and instead of get to know you. And and instead of hijacking your question or your story hijacking your question or your story hijacking your question or your story with one of his own, he'll second thing with one of his own, he'll second thing with one of his own, he'll second thing he does is he asks follow-up questions. he does is he asks follow-up questions. he does is he asks follow-up questions. He wants to get to know you. And he He wants to get to know you. And he He wants to get to know you. And he doesn't want anything from me. He just doesn't want anything from me. He just doesn't want anything from me. He just wants to pour into me. And I hear this wants to pour into me. And I hear this wants to pour into me. And I hear this all the time with people in church all the time with people in church all the time with people in church especially. They're like, "I'm probably especially. They're like, "I'm probably especially. They're like, "I'm probably going to go to another church, or this going to go to another church, or this going to go to another church, or this church really isn't doing it for me church really isn't doing it for me church really isn't doing it for me anymore." I'm here to tell you that if anymore." I'm here to tell you that if anymore." I'm here to tell you that if all you ever do is attend a church to all you ever do is attend a church to all you ever do is attend a church to receive, you will never understand what receive, you will never understand what receive, you will never understand what it means to be lifegiving. it means to be lifegiving. it means to be lifegiving. Like, until you join a church, become Like, until you join a church, become Like, until you join a church, become part of a church where you are giving part of a church where you are giving part of a church where you are giving and receiving. This is true of the and receiving. This is true of the and receiving. This is true of the church. This is true of marriage. This church. This is true of marriage. This church. This is true of marriage. This is true of any life-giving relationship. is true of any life-giving relationship. is true of any life-giving relationship. It's the one another. We train our small It's the one another. We train our small It's the one another. We train our small group leaders with this because I said, group leaders with this because I said, group leaders with this because I said, "You got to be real careful because you "You got to be real careful because you "You got to be real careful because you can have one person that gets into the can have one person that gets into the can have one person that gets into the group and they hijack the group and group and they hijack the group and group and they hijack the group and everything is about them and their needs everything is about them and their needs everything is about them and their needs and pretty soon people start drifting and pretty soon people start drifting and pretty soon people start drifting away and you're down to just you and away and you're down to just you and away and you're down to just you and that person."

that person." that person." What does it mean to love one another? What does it mean to love one another? What does it mean to love one another? The Bible's clear. We're to bear with The Bible's clear. We're to bear with The Bible's clear. We're to bear with one another. We're to pray for one one another. We're to pray for one one another. We're to pray for one another. We're to confess sins to one another. We're to confess sins to one another. We're to confess sins to one another. another. another. Forgiving one another. This is what Forgiving one another. This is what Forgiving one another. This is what Jesus commands. And by the way, it says, Jesus commands. And by the way, it says, Jesus commands. And by the way, it says, "As I have loved you, so you must love "As I have loved you, so you must love "As I have loved you, so you must love one another." Jesus showed us how to one another." Jesus showed us how to one another." Jesus showed us how to love each other. He showed us how to love each other. He showed us how to love each other. He showed us how to care for one another. And when you and I care for one another. And when you and I care for one another. And when you and I are doing this, well, guess what? It's are doing this, well, guess what? It's are doing this, well, guess what? It's evident at this church right now. How evident at this church right now. How evident at this church right now. How many people I saw in our first service, many people I saw in our first service, many people I saw in our first service, how many people are here right now? When how many people are here right now? When how many people are here right now? When you truly love one another, right? What you truly love one another, right? What you truly love one another, right? What does it say? People will know that you does it say? People will know that you does it say? People will know that you are my disciples. But here's a caution. are my disciples. But here's a caution. are my disciples. But here's a caution. I have to give you this caution because I have to give you this caution because I have to give you this caution because when we talk about giving and receiving when we talk about giving and receiving when we talk about giving and receiving in relationships, the worst relationship in relationships, the worst relationship in relationships, the worst relationship on planet earth, the worst marriage on on planet earth, the worst marriage on on planet earth, the worst marriage on planet earth is a husband and wife planet earth is a husband and wife planet earth is a husband and wife connected to each other as the source of connected to each other as the source of connected to each other as the source of life or two people connected to each life or two people connected to each life or two people connected to each other as the source of life. The best other as the source of life. The best other as the source of life. The best relationship on the planet, a husband relationship on the planet, a husband relationship on the planet, a husband and wife or two individuals firing each and wife or two individuals firing each and wife or two individuals firing each other as the source of life, plugging other as the source of life, plugging other as the source of life, plugging into the true and only source of life, into the true and only source of life, into the true and only source of life, and spending their days giving each and spending their days giving each and spending their days giving each other the overflow. That's a great other the overflow. That's a great other the overflow. That's a great relationship.

relationship. relationship. And that's why we get this caution as we And that's why we get this caution as we And that's why we get this caution as we and I know Dr. Chapman talks about the and I know Dr. Chapman talks about the and I know Dr. Chapman talks about the love tank and five love languages and love tank and five love languages and love tank and five love languages and that when you're in a relationship where that when you're in a relationship where that when you're in a relationship where someone is loving you according to your someone is loving you according to your someone is loving you according to your love language and your dialect it fills love language and your dialect it fills love language and your dialect it fills your love tank. You have to be careful your love tank. You have to be careful your love tank. You have to be careful even with that language that you don't even with that language that you don't even with that language that you don't mistake that for that person becoming mistake that for that person becoming mistake that for that person becoming your source. People, places, things not your source. People, places, things not your source. People, places, things not your source of life. Jesus is your your source of life. Jesus is your your source of life. Jesus is your source of life. And the Bible says it source of life. And the Bible says it source of life. And the Bible says it clear in 1 John 4:16. And so we know and clear in 1 John 4:16. And so we know and clear in 1 John 4:16. And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. He is rely on the love God has for us. He is rely on the love God has for us. He is the source period in all of this. And he the source period in all of this. And he the source period in all of this. And he gives you everything you need to pour gives you everything you need to pour gives you everything you need to pour into others. He gives you everything you into others. He gives you everything you into others. He gives you everything you need to love others. He gives you need to love others. He gives you need to love others. He gives you everything you need. We read in everything you need. We read in everything you need. We read in Ephesians 4, right? To forgive others. Ephesians 4, right? To forgive others. Ephesians 4, right? To forgive others. He is the source. God is love. Whoever He is the source. God is love. Whoever He is the source. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God and God in lives in love lives in God and God in lives in love lives in God and God in them. them. them. So, a little bit more about the love So, a little bit more about the love So, a little bit more about the love language. If you don't like what you're language. If you don't like what you're language. If you don't like what you're getting out of a relationship right now, getting out of a relationship right now, getting out of a relationship right now, maybe this church, maybe work, a maybe this church, maybe work, a maybe this church, maybe work, a marriage, with a parent, or with a a marriage, with a parent, or with a a marriage, with a parent, or with a a child, I'm going to encourage you to child, I'm going to encourage you to child, I'm going to encourage you to take the first step and change what you take the first step and change what you take the first step and change what you put into it. Change your serve and how put into it. Change your serve and how put into it. Change your serve and how you show up, not the other person. So, you show up, not the other person. So, you show up, not the other person. So, here's a question that you can ask, and here's a question that you can ask, and here's a question that you can ask, and I hope you ask it of one another when I hope you ask it of one another when I hope you ask it of one another when you leave here today. What are some new you leave here today. What are some new you leave here today. What are some new ways I can show up for you?

ways I can show up for you? ways I can show up for you? I see young people in here with parents. I see young people in here with parents. I see young people in here with parents. I I think it'd be fantastic if you I I think it'd be fantastic if you I I think it'd be fantastic if you walked into the kitchen this afternoon walked into the kitchen this afternoon walked into the kitchen this afternoon and said, "Mom, what are some new ways I and said, "Mom, what are some new ways I and said, "Mom, what are some new ways I could show up around here for you?" And could show up around here for you?" And could show up around here for you?" And then as you pick your mother up off the then as you pick your mother up off the then as you pick your mother up off the floor and stand her back up, ask your spouse, "What's some new ways I ask your spouse, "What's some new ways I can show up for you?" Because that's can show up for you?" Because that's can show up for you?" Because that's what you're learning in this fiveweek what you're learning in this fiveweek what you're learning in this fiveweek series. These 22 dialects, they're going series. These 22 dialects, they're going series. These 22 dialects, they're going to be things for you to grab hold of. to be things for you to grab hold of. to be things for you to grab hold of. I've memorized them. I've taken them I've memorized them. I've taken them I've memorized them. I've taken them into my life cuz when I learn about into my life cuz when I learn about into my life cuz when I learn about someone, I want to pour in. And these someone, I want to pour in. And these someone, I want to pour in. And these are all new expressions for me and I are all new expressions for me and I are all new expressions for me and I know for you as well of loving one know for you as well of loving one know for you as well of loving one another, loving people better. So, what another, loving people better. So, what another, loving people better. So, what are some new ways that I can show up? are some new ways that I can show up? are some new ways that I can show up? It's not about trying harder. It's about It's not about trying harder. It's about It's not about trying harder. It's about how love lands. I work with couples. I how love lands. I work with couples. I how love lands. I work with couples. I do a lot of counseling and coaching and do a lot of counseling and coaching and do a lot of counseling and coaching and and they'll sit there and things are not and they'll sit there and things are not and they'll sit there and things are not working in the marriage and and he'll be working in the marriage and and he'll be working in the marriage and and he'll be like, "I do so much. I try so hard. I've like, "I do so much. I try so hard. I've like, "I do so much. I try so hard. I've done this, this, this, this, and this." done this, this, this, this, and this." done this, this, this, this, and this." And she responds with, "Yeah, but you And she responds with, "Yeah, but you And she responds with, "Yeah, but you know what I don't get?" And he's like, know what I don't get?" And he's like, know what I don't get?" And he's like, "I just need credit. I need credit for "I just need credit. I need credit for "I just need credit. I need credit for this. I I can't believe." Let me give this. I I can't believe." Let me give this. I I can't believe." Let me give you an example. A guy says goodbye to you an example. A guy says goodbye to you an example. A guy says goodbye to his wife in the morning. Uh kisses her his wife in the morning. Uh kisses her his wife in the morning. Uh kisses her goodbye. Knows that she has a day full goodbye. Knows that she has a day full goodbye. Knows that she has a day full of meetings. She's not just going to be of meetings. She's not just going to be of meetings. She's not just going to be in meetings. She's leading the meetings.

in meetings. She's leading the meetings. in meetings. She's leading the meetings. She's leading the meeting. She's going She's leading the meeting. She's going She's leading the meeting. She's going to be talking all day. So he gets home to be talking all day. So he gets home to be talking all day. So he gets home before her and he he knows acts of before her and he he knows acts of before her and he he knows acts of service is her love language. So, he service is her love language. So, he service is her love language. So, he prepares a beautiful gourmet meal. He prepares a beautiful gourmet meal. He prepares a beautiful gourmet meal. He puts a white tablecloth on the dining puts a white tablecloth on the dining puts a white tablecloth on the dining room table. He lights candles. She walks room table. He lights candles. She walks room table. He lights candles. She walks in the door with her her bag and and in the door with her her bag and and in the door with her her bag and and looks at the table and he's basically looks at the table and he's basically looks at the table and he's basically like, "Voila." like, "Voila." like, "Voila." And she stands at the door like this. And she stands at the door like this. And she stands at the door like this. Cuz you know what she doesn't want in Cuz you know what she doesn't want in Cuz you know what she doesn't want in that moment is to sit down and have that moment is to sit down and have that moment is to sit down and have lengthy conversation over dinner. lengthy conversation over dinner. lengthy conversation over dinner. She's looking at those candles going, She's looking at those candles going, She's looking at those candles going, "You should have put those around the "You should have put those around the "You should have put those around the tub tub tub because he was conveying care, which is because he was conveying care, which is because he was conveying care, which is a dialect of acts of service, but she a dialect of acts of service, but she a dialect of acts of service, but she was looking to alleviate stress." was looking to alleviate stress." was looking to alleviate stress." And so, yeah, the efforts put in, but And so, yeah, the efforts put in, but And so, yeah, the efforts put in, but boy, when we understand the love boy, when we understand the love boy, when we understand the love languages and the dialects, it's truly languages and the dialects, it's truly languages and the dialects, it's truly how love lands that matters and really how love lands that matters and really how love lands that matters and really begins to change relationships. So, our begins to change relationships. So, our begins to change relationships. So, our deep deepest emotional need is to feel deep deepest emotional need is to feel deep deepest emotional need is to feel loved. What does it mean to feel loved? loved. What does it mean to feel loved? loved. What does it mean to feel loved? You feel seen. You feel heard. You feel You feel seen. You feel heard. You feel You feel seen. You feel heard. You feel cared for. Not only does this person cared for. Not only does this person cared for. Not only does this person think of me, this person knows me. But think of me, this person knows me. But think of me, this person knows me. But why we're learning this and why this is why we're learning this and why this is why we're learning this and why this is so challenging and in a room this big so challenging and in a room this big so challenging and in a room this big and the relationships represented in and the relationships represented in and the relationships represented in this room, we all feel loved in this room, we all feel loved in this room, we all feel loved in different ways.

different ways. different ways. The five love languages as our example. The five love languages as our example. The five love languages as our example. So, my primary love language, words of So, my primary love language, words of So, my primary love language, words of affirmation for Amy, acts of service and affirmation for Amy, acts of service and affirmation for Amy, acts of service and quality time is how I best receive and quality time is how I best receive and quality time is how I best receive and feel loved. But I want to become fluent feel loved. But I want to become fluent feel loved. But I want to become fluent in all five love languages to better in all five love languages to better in all five love languages to better love others. And that's why Dr. Chapman love others. And that's why Dr. Chapman love others. And that's why Dr. Chapman says his biggest regret with the book is says his biggest regret with the book is says his biggest regret with the book is that people read it to learn their own that people read it to learn their own that people read it to learn their own love language rather than become fluent love language rather than become fluent love language rather than become fluent in all five. So, we want to become in all five. So, we want to become in all five. So, we want to become fluent in all five. Jesus was fluent in fluent in all five. Jesus was fluent in fluent in all five. Jesus was fluent in all five. And I hope at the end of this all five. And I hope at the end of this all five. And I hope at the end of this series as you read the Gospels, you series as you read the Gospels, you series as you read the Gospels, you start to point it out and go, "Look at start to point it out and go, "Look at start to point it out and go, "Look at that. Yeah, he's acts of service as we that. Yeah, he's acts of service as we that. Yeah, he's acts of service as we looked at it. Washing the feet of the looked at it. Washing the feet of the looked at it. Washing the feet of the disciples, that's acts of service. And disciples, that's acts of service. And disciples, that's acts of service. And you can even call it physical touch, you can even call it physical touch, you can even call it physical touch, right? He's he's engaged in this. right? He's he's engaged in this. right? He's he's engaged in this. Receiving love through your primary love Receiving love through your primary love Receiving love through your primary love language is a feeling. Feeling seen, language is a feeling. Feeling seen, language is a feeling. Feeling seen, heard, cared for, loved. But giving love heard, cared for, loved. But giving love heard, cared for, loved. But giving love through your foreign love language is a through your foreign love language is a through your foreign love language is a decision. decision. decision. And we have to embrace the awkward when And we have to embrace the awkward when And we have to embrace the awkward when it's not our love language, but we know it's not our love language, but we know it's not our love language, but we know it's the other person's love language to it's the other person's love language to it's the other person's love language to give this expression of it. I have give this expression of it. I have give this expression of it. I have already at Battle Creek today been already at Battle Creek today been already at Battle Creek today been hugged way more than I need.

hugged way more than I need. hugged way more than I need. Had two women over the age of 70, I have Had two women over the age of 70, I have Had two women over the age of 70, I have to really make that clear. Already kiss to really make that clear. Already kiss to really make that clear. Already kiss me on the cheek. So I have reached my me on the cheek. So I have reached my me on the cheek. So I have reached my quota. The rest of this morning is for quota. The rest of this morning is for quota. The rest of this morning is for you people. All right? you go out and do you people. All right? you go out and do you people. All right? you go out and do this because loving someone with your this because loving someone with your this because loving someone with your foreign love language is truly the foreign love language is truly the foreign love language is truly the greater expression of love, right? It greater expression of love, right? It greater expression of love, right? It it's easy to love, easy to love people it's easy to love, easy to love people it's easy to love, easy to love people and it's easy to love people with the and it's easy to love people with the and it's easy to love people with the way we like to be loved. But we're way we like to be loved. But we're way we like to be loved. But we're talking about stretching ourselves, talking about stretching ourselves, talking about stretching ourselves, taking the awkward moments and embracing taking the awkward moments and embracing taking the awkward moments and embracing them. And that's why when I think about them. And that's why when I think about them. And that's why when I think about our marriage for Amy and I, not foreign our marriage for Amy and I, not foreign our marriage for Amy and I, not foreign love language for both of us, but we love language for both of us, but we love language for both of us, but we watch movies where couples cuddle. And watch movies where couples cuddle. And watch movies where couples cuddle. And I'm here to tell you, we ain't cuddlers. I'm here to tell you, we ain't cuddlers. I'm here to tell you, we ain't cuddlers. We don't cuddle. But every now and then We don't cuddle. But every now and then We don't cuddle. But every now and then I'm like, "We should probably do this. I'm like, "We should probably do this. I'm like, "We should probably do this. It's what loving couples do. Should get It's what loving couples do. Should get It's what loving couples do. Should get after it." And she's like, "Get over after it." And she's like, "Get over after it." And she's like, "Get over here, buddy. Let's give it a shot." And here, buddy. Let's give it a shot." And here, buddy. Let's give it a shot." And I'll get on the couch and and we'll try I'll get on the couch and and we'll try I'll get on the couch and and we'll try to snuggle. But both of us after like 30 to snuggle. But both of us after like 30 to snuggle. But both of us after like 30 seconds are like, "Get off of me. I'm seconds are like, "Get off of me. I'm seconds are like, "Get off of me. I'm hot. This is not comfortable at all. My hot. This is not comfortable at all. My hot. This is not comfortable at all. My arm's asleep." Right? So, arm's asleep." Right? So, arm's asleep." Right? So, some of this is only in the movies. You some of this is only in the movies. You some of this is only in the movies. You know that, right? you understand that know that, right? you understand that know that, right? you understand that it's only in the movies and on TV. And it's only in the movies and on TV. And it's only in the movies and on TV. And so, uh, I I love the Song of Solomon so, uh, I I love the Song of Solomon so, uh, I I love the Song of Solomon because Song of Songs gives us so, uh, because Song of Songs gives us so, uh, because Song of Songs gives us so, uh, many expressions of physical touch, but many expressions of physical touch, but many expressions of physical touch, but this is one of my favorite from chapter this is one of my favorite from chapter this is one of my favorite from chapter 2. It's the duet between Solomon and the 2. It's the duet between Solomon and the 2. It's the duet between Solomon and the Shulamite woman. Solomon and the Shulamite woman. Solomon and the Shulamite woman. Solomon and the Shulamite woman, they're they're dating Shulamite woman, they're they're dating Shulamite woman, they're they're dating or courting in chapters 1 and two. They or courting in chapters 1 and two. They or courting in chapters 1 and two. They get married in chapter 3. They go on the

get married in chapter 3. They go on the get married in chapter 3. They go on the honeymoon in chapter 4. There's a lot of honeymoon in chapter 4. There's a lot of honeymoon in chapter 4. There's a lot of physical touch in this book, but I love physical touch in this book, but I love physical touch in this book, but I love this description right here. His left this description right here. His left this description right here. His left arm is under my head and his right arm arm is under my head and his right arm arm is under my head and his right arm embraces me. I love to go into the embraces me. I love to go into the embraces me. I love to go into the kitchen when Amy least expects it. I kitchen when Amy least expects it. I kitchen when Amy least expects it. I just take my hand and pop it right up just take my hand and pop it right up just take my hand and pop it right up there behind her head. I bring her down there behind her head. I bring her down there behind her head. I bring her down to here. I wrap my right arm around her. to here. I wrap my right arm around her. to here. I wrap my right arm around her. And that's exactly what the Bible And that's exactly what the Bible And that's exactly what the Bible teaches us right there. teaches us right there. teaches us right there. That's the word picture. That's the That's the word picture. That's the That's the word picture. That's the physical touch that we're looking for. physical touch that we're looking for. physical touch that we're looking for. So, let's really dive into it. This is So, let's really dive into it. This is So, let's really dive into it. This is the definition of physical touch. the definition of physical touch. the definition of physical touch. Receiving love through meaningful touch Receiving love through meaningful touch Receiving love through meaningful touch when words fail. And the reason the when words fail. And the reason the when words fail. And the reason the dialects are so important, if you're dialects are so important, if you're dialects are so important, if you're unfamiliar with dialects, I was with a unfamiliar with dialects, I was with a unfamiliar with dialects, I was with a church yesterday from Louisiana. They church yesterday from Louisiana. They church yesterday from Louisiana. They got a dialect. Okay? I go to a church in got a dialect. Okay? I go to a church in got a dialect. Okay? I go to a church in Minnesota, very different dialect. I was Minnesota, very different dialect. I was Minnesota, very different dialect. I was in England a couple years ago with my in England a couple years ago with my in England a couple years ago with my family and I walked up to a cashier and family and I walked up to a cashier and family and I walked up to a cashier and I asked, "Hey, where's your nearest I asked, "Hey, where's your nearest I asked, "Hey, where's your nearest restroom?" And she asked me, "What do restroom?" And she asked me, "What do restroom?" And she asked me, "What do you prefer?" you prefer?" you prefer?" I said, "Male, I said, "Male, I said, "Male, I would like a male restroom." And we I would like a male restroom." And we I would like a male restroom." And we both stood there in awkward silence.

both stood there in awkward silence. both stood there in awkward silence. Things were getting lost in translation. Things were getting lost in translation. Things were getting lost in translation. And if things are getting lost in And if things are getting lost in And if things are getting lost in translation in your most important translation in your most important translation in your most important relationships right now, I can almost relationships right now, I can almost relationships right now, I can almost guarantee you it's because of the guarantee you it's because of the guarantee you it's because of the dialects. dialects. dialects. What she thought I asked was, "Where's What she thought I asked was, "Where's What she thought I asked was, "Where's your nearest restaurant?" Okay, but or or she heard restaurant, Okay, but or or she heard restaurant, but I asked restaurant. So we we were I but I asked restaurant. So we we were I but I asked restaurant. So we we were I don't know if you know this about don't know if you know this about don't know if you know this about England. We were both speaking English, England. We were both speaking English, England. We were both speaking English, but I I needed a restroom. She heard but I I needed a restroom. She heard but I I needed a restroom. She heard restaurant. And so you may be real restaurant. And so you may be real restaurant. And so you may be real dialed in and real close, but for me, dialed in and real close, but for me, dialed in and real close, but for me, for Amy with acts of service, like if I for Amy with acts of service, like if I for Amy with acts of service, like if I bring Amy breakfast in bed, she would bring Amy breakfast in bed, she would bring Amy breakfast in bed, she would hate that. Even though that's an act of hate that. Even though that's an act of hate that. Even though that's an act of service, conveying care dialect. She she service, conveying care dialect. She she service, conveying care dialect. She she needs something to save her time. And needs something to save her time. And needs something to save her time. And guess what? Breakfast in bed is taking guess what? Breakfast in bed is taking guess what? Breakfast in bed is taking her time. She's got stuff to do. when her time. She's got stuff to do. when her time. She's got stuff to do. when words fail. I always love to start the words fail. I always love to start the words fail. I always love to start the dialects with the one dialect that we dialects with the one dialect that we dialects with the one dialect that we all Christians need to learn better. And all Christians need to learn better. And all Christians need to learn better. And I think about a funeral for this first I think about a funeral for this first I think about a funeral for this first one. The first dialect of comforting, one. The first dialect of comforting, one. The first dialect of comforting, reassurance, and presence. If you've reassurance, and presence. If you've reassurance, and presence. If you've ever been to a funeral and you just ever been to a funeral and you just ever been to a funeral and you just didn't know what to say, physical touch didn't know what to say, physical touch didn't know what to say, physical touch and this dialect of perfect, you don't and this dialect of perfect, you don't and this dialect of perfect, you don't need to say anything. Just go stand next need to say anything. Just go stand next need to say anything. Just go stand next to the person. Put your arm around the to the person. Put your arm around the to the person. Put your arm around the person. Give a hug to the person who is person. Give a hug to the person who is person. Give a hug to the person who is grieving. That is the dialect of grieving. That is the dialect of grieving. That is the dialect of comforting, affectionate dialect. This comforting, affectionate dialect. This comforting, affectionate dialect. This is warmth and fondness. Gary Smallley, is warmth and fondness. Gary Smallley, is warmth and fondness. Gary Smallley, my mentor, taught that this is one of my mentor, taught that this is one of my mentor, taught that this is one of the best ways to determine whether the best ways to determine whether the best ways to determine whether someone has truly forgiven you or not.

someone has truly forgiven you or not. someone has truly forgiven you or not. Three of the hardest things you'll ever Three of the hardest things you'll ever Three of the hardest things you'll ever say in life. I'm sorry, I was wrong. And say in life. I'm sorry, I was wrong. And say in life. I'm sorry, I was wrong. And worst, sure. Those three things are very worst, sure. Those three things are very worst, sure. Those three things are very challenging to say, challenging to say, challenging to say, but in this whole idea of one another but in this whole idea of one another but in this whole idea of one another forgiving one another is part of it. We forgiving one another is part of it. We forgiving one another is part of it. We we need to get good at saying I'm sorry, we need to get good at saying I'm sorry, we need to get good at saying I'm sorry, but we we tend to drop it right there but we we tend to drop it right there but we we tend to drop it right there and we don't draw the net. How do you and we don't draw the net. How do you and we don't draw the net. How do you draw the net on apology? After you say draw the net on apology? After you say draw the net on apology? After you say I'm sorry, ask the other person, will I'm sorry, ask the other person, will I'm sorry, ask the other person, will you forgive me? Okay. Always ask for you forgive me? Okay. Always ask for you forgive me? Okay. Always ask for forgiveness. Never demand it. And forgiveness. Never demand it. And forgiveness. Never demand it. And physical touch, affectionate touch is physical touch, affectionate touch is physical touch, affectionate touch is one of the fastest ways to know if one of the fastest ways to know if one of the fastest ways to know if someone truly has forgiven you. And you someone truly has forgiven you. And you someone truly has forgiven you. And you probably walked into the kitchen and probably walked into the kitchen and probably walked into the kitchen and maybe with a child or with a spouse that maybe with a child or with a spouse that maybe with a child or with a spouse that you put a hand on the shoulder and if you put a hand on the shoulder and if you put a hand on the shoulder and if you get kind of one of these, you know you get kind of one of these, you know you get kind of one of these, you know they're not there yet. [laughter] they're not there yet. [laughter] they're not there yet. [laughter] and they need more time. Playful touch. and they need more time. Playful touch. and they need more time. Playful touch. There are some of you in here, I'm not There are some of you in here, I'm not There are some of you in here, I'm not going to ask you to raise your hand, but going to ask you to raise your hand, but going to ask you to raise your hand, but you like to be tickled. you like to be tickled. you like to be tickled. Okay, I've told Amy, when you tickle me, Okay, I've told Amy, when you tickle me, Okay, I've told Amy, when you tickle me, that's hate, not love. that's hate, not love. that's hate, not love. She's being mean.

She's being mean. She's being mean. But some of you right now, you're like, But some of you right now, you're like, But some of you right now, you're like, I want a pillow fight, right? I want I want a pillow fight, right? I want I want a pillow fight, right? I want that playful touch and the tapping each that playful touch and the tapping each that playful touch and the tapping each other as we walk through the kitchen. other as we walk through the kitchen. other as we walk through the kitchen. There's romantic touch. And this dialect There's romantic touch. And this dialect There's romantic touch. And this dialect is what most people think of when they is what most people think of when they is what most people think of when they think physical touch. But physical touch think physical touch. But physical touch think physical touch. But physical touch is far more than sex and you know that. is far more than sex and you know that. is far more than sex and you know that. But this can be nonsexual touching, But this can be nonsexual touching, But this can be nonsexual touching, sexual touching, desire and intimacy. I sexual touching, desire and intimacy. I sexual touching, desire and intimacy. I want to be with you. And when we are want to be with you. And when we are want to be with you. And when we are open to one another, it's when I feel open to one another, it's when I feel open to one another, it's when I feel the closest to you. There's protective the closest to you. There's protective the closest to you. There's protective touch. This is care and sacrifice. This touch. This is care and sacrifice. This touch. This is care and sacrifice. This is walking on the street side of the is walking on the street side of the is walking on the street side of the sidewalk while you keep your family over sidewalk while you keep your family over sidewalk while you keep your family over there. It's taking your child by the there. It's taking your child by the there. It's taking your child by the hand and guiding them through a crowd. hand and guiding them through a crowd. hand and guiding them through a crowd. Last year, I was in the lobby talking to Last year, I was in the lobby talking to Last year, I was in the lobby talking to a lady from our church and we were a lady from our church and we were a lady from our church and we were having a conversation and I noticed a having a conversation and I noticed a having a conversation and I noticed a spider crawling through her hair. spider crawling through her hair. spider crawling through her hair. Okay, what would you do? I need to do a Okay, what would you do? I need to do a Okay, what would you do? I need to do a TV. What would you do? I started to TV. What would you do? I started to TV. What would you do? I started to think. I've been studying all this. I think. I've been studying all this. I think. I've been studying all this. I was right in the middle of all this. I'm was right in the middle of all this. I'm was right in the middle of all this. I'm like, I got to do I'm not going to tell like, I got to do I'm not going to tell like, I got to do I'm not going to tell her. Don't be alarmed, her. Don't be alarmed, her. Don't be alarmed, but there's a spider in your hair. I but there's a spider in your hair. I but there's a spider in your hair. I said, I'm going to take care of said, I'm going to take care of said, I'm going to take care of business. Protective touch right here.

business. Protective touch right here. business. Protective touch right here. So, I'm just going to swat it away So, I'm just going to swat it away So, I'm just going to swat it away enough enough enough to get it to the ground and then I'll to get it to the ground and then I'll to get it to the ground and then I'll stomp it. That was what was going on in stomp it. That was what was going on in stomp it. That was what was going on in my head. And I'm right-handed. So, this my head. And I'm right-handed. So, this my head. And I'm right-handed. So, this is what made it awkward. So, this is all is what made it awkward. So, this is all is what made it awkward. So, this is all anybody sees in the lobby. Me going whap anybody sees in the lobby. Me going whap anybody sees in the lobby. Me going whap walking and it hits. And she go she goes walking and it hits. And she go she goes walking and it hits. And she go she goes back a couple feet holding her head. She back a couple feet holding her head. She back a couple feet holding her head. She goes, "What are you doing?" I said, goes, "What are you doing?" I said, goes, "What are you doing?" I said, "There was a spider in your hair." And "There was a spider in your hair." And "There was a spider in your hair." And she goes, "Ted, that is the clip that she goes, "Ted, that is the clip that she goes, "Ted, that is the clip that holds on my hair extension. So, I didn't touch people for a while So, I didn't touch people for a while after that. If you got a spider crawling after that. If you got a spider crawling after that. If you got a spider crawling through your hair, deal with it. All through your hair, deal with it. All through your hair, deal with it. All right. How many of you would have right. How many of you would have right. How many of you would have swatted the spider? Can I see your swatted the spider? Can I see your swatted the spider? Can I see your hands? Okay. Thank you. All right. hands? Okay. Thank you. All right. hands? Okay. Thank you. All right. That's protective touch. Expressive That's protective touch. Expressive That's protective touch. Expressive touch. I'm so glad I learned this about touch. I'm so glad I learned this about touch. I'm so glad I learned this about our student pastor cuz that that's his our student pastor cuz that that's his our student pastor cuz that that's his dialect right there. A high five after dialect right there. A high five after dialect right there. A high five after an event that he puts on screams love to an event that he puts on screams love to an event that he puts on screams love to him. Walking into a staff meeting and him. Walking into a staff meeting and him. Walking into a staff meeting and seeing him sitting there and just taking seeing him sitting there and just taking seeing him sitting there and just taking my fist and kind of tapping him on the my fist and kind of tapping him on the my fist and kind of tapping him on the shoulder as I walk by says I'm seen. He shoulder as I walk by says I'm seen. He shoulder as I walk by says I'm seen. He knows I'm here. It It says care. And knows I'm here. It It says care. And knows I'm here. It It says care. And then there's restorative touch. How many then there's restorative touch. How many then there's restorative touch. How many of you like massages?

of you like massages? of you like massages? Oh, I hate them. Absolutely hate them. A Oh, I hate them. Absolutely hate them. A Oh, I hate them. Absolutely hate them. A foot massage. I'd rather be stabbed in foot massage. I'd rather be stabbed in foot massage. I'd rather be stabbed in the neck with a fork. the neck with a fork. the neck with a fork. Don't do it. The very I have only had Don't do it. The very I have only had Don't do it. The very I have only had one massage in my life. It was in one massage in my life. It was in one massage in my life. It was in California, which was probably part of California, which was probably part of California, which was probably part of the problem. Uh, the problem. Uh, the problem. Uh, [laughter] but we were at a church and [laughter] but we were at a church and [laughter] but we were at a church and they gave us a couple's massage at this they gave us a couple's massage at this they gave us a couple's massage at this resort we were at. And I immediately resort we were at. And I immediately resort we were at. And I immediately told Amy, I've done this a lot over 30 told Amy, I've done this a lot over 30 told Amy, I've done this a lot over 30 years. I go, "Oh, call down to the spa years. I go, "Oh, call down to the spa years. I go, "Oh, call down to the spa and have this traded in for two and have this traded in for two and have this traded in for two treatments for yourself." And she goes, treatments for yourself." And she goes, treatments for yourself." And she goes, "No, you need to do this for me." And "No, you need to do this for me." And "No, you need to do this for me." And I'm like, "I don't listen. I I had no I'm like, "I don't listen. I I had no I'm like, "I don't listen. I I had no knots going into that massage. knots going into that massage. knots going into that massage. [laughter] [laughter] [laughter] I've never been more tense in my life I've never been more tense in my life I've never been more tense in my life than what I felt leaving that massage. I than what I felt leaving that massage. I than what I felt leaving that massage. I remember when the massage was over, we remember when the massage was over, we remember when the massage was over, we had two beds next to each other. We were had two beds next to each other. We were had two beds next to each other. We were getting worked on by two people and and getting worked on by two people and and getting worked on by two people and and I I was just kind of sitting there in my I I was just kind of sitting there in my I I was just kind of sitting there in my robe in the fetal position feeling all robe in the fetal position feeling all robe in the fetal position feeling all sorts of violated. [laughter] sorts of violated. [laughter] sorts of violated. [laughter] Amy comes over and puts her arm around Amy comes over and puts her arm around Amy comes over and puts her arm around me like just give me a second. me like just give me a second. me like just give me a second. I don't want it. I don't want it. But I don't want it. I don't want it. But I don't want it. I don't want it. But this this right here has been one of the this this right here has been one of the this this right here has been one of the best tools that your church created this best tools that your church created this best tools that your church created this and I've sent it on to the five love and I've sent it on to the five love and I've sent it on to the five love languages team. I can't wait to see all languages team. I can't wait to see all languages team. I can't wait to see all five love languages built out on this five love languages built out on this five love languages built out on this because when you and I are walking in because when you and I are walking in because when you and I are walking in the spirit, uh these expressions of love the spirit, uh these expressions of love the spirit, uh these expressions of love given and received mean something given and received mean something given and received mean something completely different than when we are completely different than when we are completely different than when we are acting with selfish ambition, vain acting with selfish ambition, vain acting with selfish ambition, vain conceit when we're walking in the flesh.

conceit when we're walking in the flesh. conceit when we're walking in the flesh. And so, how does it how does it pertain And so, how does it how does it pertain And so, how does it how does it pertain to physical touch? Well, receiving it in to physical touch? Well, receiving it in to physical touch? Well, receiving it in the spirit, you are grateful the other the spirit, you are grateful the other the spirit, you are grateful the other person knows you and makes the effort. person knows you and makes the effort. person knows you and makes the effort. You acknowledge that. I just want to You acknowledge that. I just want to You acknowledge that. I just want to encourage you. I I'm not here to tell encourage you. I I'm not here to tell encourage you. I I'm not here to tell you to give points for trying, but get you to give points for trying, but get you to give points for trying, but get good at receiving something when you good at receiving something when you good at receiving something when you know the other person is stretching. know the other person is stretching. know the other person is stretching. When you know the other person feels When you know the other person feels When you know the other person feels awkward, but they're trying. They're awkward, but they're trying. They're awkward, but they're trying. They're making the effort to to make sure love making the effort to to make sure love making the effort to to make sure love lands well. But in the flesh, we'll lands well. But in the flesh, we'll lands well. But in the flesh, we'll reject it when it feels unnatural coming reject it when it feels unnatural coming reject it when it feels unnatural coming from the other person. from the other person. from the other person. We have to get good at receiving it. We have to get good at receiving it. We have to get good at receiving it. When we give it, so this is me. I When we give it, so this is me. I When we give it, so this is me. I overcome awkward moments to care for the overcome awkward moments to care for the overcome awkward moments to care for the other person. other person. other person. I I can't tell you and I I've been with I I can't tell you and I I've been with I I can't tell you and I I've been with grieving people who head in and shoulder grieving people who head in and shoulder grieving people who head in and shoulder for minutes sobbing for minutes sobbing for minutes sobbing and and some of you like you could stay and and some of you like you could stay and and some of you like you could stay there for a long time. For me, this is a there for a long time. For me, this is a there for a long time. For me, this is a decision right now. decision right now. decision right now. This is all this is all sort but you This is all this is all sort but you This is all this is all sort but you have to overcome that realizing it's not have to overcome that realizing it's not have to overcome that realizing it's not about you.

about you. about you. And on the same side coming from the And on the same side coming from the And on the same side coming from the rejection often we can withhold it or rejection often we can withhold it or rejection often we can withhold it or limit it to express hurt and limit it to express hurt and limit it to express hurt and frustration. I'm not receiving this from frustration. I'm not receiving this from frustration. I'm not receiving this from you until you learn your lesson or until you until you learn your lesson or until you until you learn your lesson or until you change your behavior, until you say, you change your behavior, until you say, you change your behavior, until you say, "I'm sorry again." "I'm sorry again." "I'm sorry again." So, I I go back to all of this. I go So, I I go back to all of this. I go So, I I go back to all of this. I go back 30 years to my uh ordination back 30 years to my uh ordination back 30 years to my uh ordination service. I was ordained in South service. I was ordained in South service. I was ordained in South Georgia. And again, when they told me, Georgia. And again, when they told me, Georgia. And again, when they told me, "You're going to go through the process. "You're going to go through the process. "You're going to go through the process. Then we have a service for you before Then we have a service for you before Then we have a service for you before the church. And then the elders and the the church. And then the elders and the the church. And then the elders and the ordination council is going to gather ordination council is going to gather ordination council is going to gather around you to lay hands on you." and around you to lay hands on you." and around you to lay hands on you." and they all lay hands on you at once. So, they all lay hands on you at once. So, they all lay hands on you at once. So, it's a crowded thing and and you're just it's a crowded thing and and you're just it's a crowded thing and and you're just sitting there going, "Okay, here we go. sitting there going, "Okay, here we go. sitting there going, "Okay, here we go. Let's do this." Let's do this." Let's do this." And when Paul says to Timothy, "Do not And when Paul says to Timothy, "Do not And when Paul says to Timothy, "Do not neglect your gift which was given you neglect your gift which was given you neglect your gift which was given you through prophecy when the body of elders through prophecy when the body of elders through prophecy when the body of elders laid their hands on you." I always come laid their hands on you." I always come laid their hands on you." I always come back to this text and I go back 30 years back to this text and I go back 30 years back to this text and I go back 30 years to my ordination because even though to my ordination because even though to my ordination because even though it's not my primary love language, those it's not my primary love language, those it's not my primary love language, those hands on me from Brother Bud, from hands on me from Brother Bud, from hands on me from Brother Bud, from Brother Doug, from Austin, from Chris, I Brother Doug, from Austin, from Chris, I Brother Doug, from Austin, from Chris, I can still this three decades later can still this three decades later can still this three decades later remember every single word they said to remember every single word they said to remember every single word they said to me. I can remember every prayer they me. I can remember every prayer they me. I can remember every prayer they prayed for me. The power of touch. Yes, prayed for me. The power of touch. Yes, prayed for me. The power of touch. Yes, it's meaningful touch when words fail.

it's meaningful touch when words fail. it's meaningful touch when words fail. But when you combine this with now I But when you combine this with now I But when you combine this with now I have words of affirmation and this have words of affirmation and this have words of affirmation and this touch. That was a moment for me. And I touch. That was a moment for me. And I touch. That was a moment for me. And I don't want us to leave this series don't want us to leave this series don't want us to leave this series unchanged by this thinking, well I I now unchanged by this thinking, well I I now unchanged by this thinking, well I I now I know who I am more. No, no. I I want I know who I am more. No, no. I I want I know who I am more. No, no. I I want to learn about the people in my life, to learn about the people in my life, to learn about the people in my life, the people in my church, what they need the people in my church, what they need the people in my church, what they need and how they feel loved so I can better and how they feel loved so I can better and how they feel loved so I can better love them. Going back to John 13, but love them. Going back to John 13, but love them. Going back to John 13, but Jesus modeled it for he showed us how Jesus modeled it for he showed us how Jesus modeled it for he showed us how meaningful touch loves and blesses meaningful touch loves and blesses meaningful touch loves and blesses others. others. others. Remember when the the disciples rebuked Remember when the the disciples rebuked Remember when the the disciples rebuked the children who were coming to Jesus the children who were coming to Jesus the children who were coming to Jesus and the Bible says that Jesus grew and the Bible says that Jesus grew and the Bible says that Jesus grew indignant and the word indignant there indignant and the word indignant there indignant and the word indignant there means uh just very angry and we read in means uh just very angry and we read in means uh just very angry and we read in that account that Jesus uses physical that account that Jesus uses physical that account that Jesus uses physical touch. He took the children in his arms touch. He took the children in his arms touch. He took the children in his arms placed his hands on their heads and he placed his hands on their heads and he placed his hands on their heads and he blessed them. blessed them. blessed them. Bless them. I maybe you've been in a Bless them. I maybe you've been in a Bless them. I maybe you've been in a Christian bookstore where you see a Christian bookstore where you see a Christian bookstore where you see a picture of Jesus sitting on a rock with picture of Jesus sitting on a rock with picture of Jesus sitting on a rock with children like this.

children like this. children like this. I think a better version of that would I think a better version of that would I think a better version of that would be him sitting there with the children be him sitting there with the children be him sitting there with the children looking over at the disciples over his looking over at the disciples over his looking over at the disciples over his shoulder. [laughter] shoulder. [laughter] shoulder. [laughter] Why? Because in that day, childhood was Why? Because in that day, childhood was Why? Because in that day, childhood was an insignificant season of life, an insignificant season of life, an insignificant season of life, right? Jesus came to break barriers and right? Jesus came to break barriers and right? Jesus came to break barriers and to break down walls. And he's saying, to break down walls. And he's saying, to break down walls. And he's saying, "You you guys better pay attention and "You you guys better pay attention and "You you guys better pay attention and learn." And by placing his he was making learn." And by placing his he was making learn." And by placing his he was making a big statement when he placed his hands a big statement when he placed his hands a big statement when he placed his hands on them and bless them. on them and bless them. on them and bless them. I you know, we have lunch and dinner and I you know, we have lunch and dinner and I you know, we have lunch and dinner and stuff with our kids. I still when I pray stuff with our kids. I still when I pray stuff with our kids. I still when I pray with my kids in their 20s now and with my kids in their 20s now and with my kids in their 20s now and married and out of the house, there's married and out of the house, there's married and out of the house, there's just something about going and putting just something about going and putting just something about going and putting my hand on their head when I see them my hand on their head when I see them my hand on their head when I see them and when I pray over them or I'll put my and when I pray over them or I'll put my and when I pray over them or I'll put my hand on their cheek as I hug him goodbye hand on their cheek as I hug him goodbye hand on their cheek as I hug him goodbye and I say, "Hey, have a great week." and I say, "Hey, have a great week." and I say, "Hey, have a great week." There's just something about those There's just something about those There's just something about those moments. moments. moments. Jesus was others centered and Jesus was others centered and Jesus was others centered and missionfocused. No one could take Jesus missionfocused. No one could take Jesus missionfocused. No one could take Jesus off of his mission. And Jesus went after off of his mission. And Jesus went after off of his mission. And Jesus went after and spent time with. We haven't gotten and spent time with. We haven't gotten and spent time with. We haven't gotten to quality time yet and we'll get there to quality time yet and we'll get there to quality time yet and we'll get there and see how how he spent his time. But and see how how he spent his time. But and see how how he spent his time. But Jesus Jesus gave himself to the Jesus Jesus gave himself to the Jesus Jesus gave himself to the marginalized, to the outcast, to the marginalized, to the outcast, to the marginalized, to the outcast, to the people. Many of us would would would people. Many of us would would would people. Many of us would would would step away from Jesus went toward in step away from Jesus went toward in step away from Jesus went toward in physical touch. You read this throughout physical touch. You read this throughout physical touch. You read this throughout the all the gospels, but here's one the all the gospels, but here's one the all the gospels, but here's one example. A man with leprosy came and example. A man with leprosy came and example. A man with leprosy came and knelt before him and said, "Lord, if you knelt before him and said, "Lord, if you knelt before him and said, "Lord, if you are willing, you can make me clean."

are willing, you can make me clean." are willing, you can make me clean." Jesus reached out his hand and he Jesus reached out his hand and he Jesus reached out his hand and he touched the man. [clears throat] touched the man. [clears throat] touched the man. [clears throat] I am willing, he said. Be clean. I am willing, he said. Be clean. I am willing, he said. Be clean. Immediately he was cleansed of his Immediately he was cleansed of his Immediately he was cleansed of his leprosy. leprosy. leprosy. We have this conversation about the love We have this conversation about the love We have this conversation about the love languages. We can't move on from the languages. We can't move on from the languages. We can't move on from the idea and the question we do get asked idea and the question we do get asked idea and the question we do get asked often is uh what what is God's love often is uh what what is God's love often is uh what what is God's love language? What is God's love language? language? What is God's love language? language? What is God's love language? And I think it's it's just so simple to And I think it's it's just so simple to And I think it's it's just so simple to sum up in the name of Jesus. Jesus is sum up in the name of Jesus. Jesus is sum up in the name of Jesus. Jesus is God's love language. Jesus is how God God's love language. Jesus is how God God's love language. Jesus is how God gives and receives love. For God so gives and receives love. For God so gives and receives love. For God so loved the world that he gave his only loved the world that he gave his only loved the world that he gave his only begotten son that whoever believes in begotten son that whoever believes in begotten son that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have him shall not perish but have him shall not perish but have everlasting life. You know how God everlasting life. You know how God everlasting life. You know how God receives love? He receives love through receives love? He receives love through receives love? He receives love through his son. And if you're new to the church his son. And if you're new to the church his son. And if you're new to the church or if you're a new believer and you or if you're a new believer and you or if you're a new believer and you think, "Well, I have placed faith alone think, "Well, I have placed faith alone think, "Well, I have placed faith alone in Christ alone. I've been born again. in Christ alone. I've been born again. in Christ alone. I've been born again. I'm a new creation in Christ Jesus." And I'm a new creation in Christ Jesus." And I'm a new creation in Christ Jesus." And you might still think because of you might still think because of you might still think because of religion and all of that that that now religion and all of that that that now religion and all of that that that now it's a bunch of rules you have to follow it's a bunch of rules you have to follow it's a bunch of rules you have to follow and it's just going to be a bunch, you and it's just going to be a bunch, you and it's just going to be a bunch, you know, God's a cosmic killjoy in some know, God's a cosmic killjoy in some know, God's a cosmic killjoy in some areas. No, no, no. When you truly follow areas. No, no, no. When you truly follow areas. No, no, no. When you truly follow the Lord, his law, his word, his the Lord, his law, his word, his the Lord, his law, his word, his precepts, they become joy to you.

precepts, they become joy to you. precepts, they become joy to you. They're delight. When when a believer They're delight. When when a believer They're delight. When when a believer reads the word of God and is convicted, reads the word of God and is convicted, reads the word of God and is convicted, that that wells up in delight for us. that that wells up in delight for us. that that wells up in delight for us. Why? Because he loves us. He's forgiven Why? Because he loves us. He's forgiven Why? Because he loves us. He's forgiven us. He cares for us. Jesus said it this us. He cares for us. Jesus said it this us. He cares for us. Jesus said it this way. Whoever has my commands and keeps way. Whoever has my commands and keeps way. Whoever has my commands and keeps them is the one who loves me. So if them is the one who loves me. So if them is the one who loves me. So if you're wondering, how do I show Jesus you're wondering, how do I show Jesus you're wondering, how do I show Jesus that I love him? How you say you say that I love him? How you say you say that I love him? How you say you say you're a follower of Jesus? Follow his you're a follower of Jesus? Follow his you're a follower of Jesus? Follow his commands. Do what Jesus said. You may commands. Do what Jesus said. You may commands. Do what Jesus said. You may have the bracelet that says what would have the bracelet that says what would have the bracelet that says what would Jesus do? But I want to get tell you get Jesus do? But I want to get tell you get Jesus do? But I want to get tell you get another one that just says do what Jesus another one that just says do what Jesus another one that just says do what Jesus did. Do what Jesus said. Follow him. And did. Do what Jesus said. Follow him. And did. Do what Jesus said. Follow him. And guess what? You're expressing love to guess what? You're expressing love to guess what? You're expressing love to him. And watch what he continues to say. him. And watch what he continues to say. him. And watch what he continues to say. The one who loves me will be loved by my The one who loves me will be loved by my The one who loves me will be loved by my father. This is how it works. Giving and father. This is how it works. Giving and father. This is how it works. Giving and receiving. Giving and receiving here. receiving. Giving and receiving here. receiving. Giving and receiving here. Giving and receiving here. And I too Giving and receiving here. And I too Giving and receiving here. And I too will love them and show myself to them. will love them and show myself to them. will love them and show myself to them. And for some of you, uh this idea of a And for some of you, uh this idea of a And for some of you, uh this idea of a lifegiving relationship, uh today's the lifegiving relationship, uh today's the lifegiving relationship, uh today's the first time maybe you've ever uh thought first time maybe you've ever uh thought first time maybe you've ever uh thought it through this way or maybe it's your it through this way or maybe it's your it through this way or maybe it's your first time in church in a long time.

first time in church in a long time. first time in church in a long time. that I pray that today would be the day that I pray that today would be the day that I pray that today would be the day you would receive the gift, the free you would receive the gift, the free you would receive the gift, the free gift of salvation. For the wages of sin gift of salvation. For the wages of sin gift of salvation. For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal is death, but the gift of God is eternal is death, but the gift of God is eternal life through Christ Jesus our Lord. That life through Christ Jesus our Lord. That life through Christ Jesus our Lord. That today you would repent of your sins, today you would repent of your sins, today you would repent of your sins, confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord, confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord, confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that he's been and believe in your heart that he's been and believe in your heart that he's been raised from the dead, that you would be raised from the dead, that you would be raised from the dead, that you would be saved. Would you pray with me? Father, your word Father, your word brings joy to us. brings joy to us. brings joy to us. what Jesus taught and how he lived is what Jesus taught and how he lived is what Jesus taught and how he lived is how we choose to live. We we embrace it how we choose to live. We we embrace it how we choose to live. We we embrace it as we express our love to you. I pray as we express our love to you. I pray as we express our love to you. I pray for the one who's never placed faith in for the one who's never placed faith in for the one who's never placed faith in Jesus that today would be the day of Jesus that today would be the day of Jesus that today would be the day of their salvation. That they would confess their salvation. That they would confess their salvation. That they would confess with their mouth Jesus is Lord. Believe with their mouth Jesus is Lord. Believe with their mouth Jesus is Lord. Believe in their heart he's been raised from the in their heart he's been raised from the in their heart he's been raised from the dead. That they would be born again. dead. That they would be born again. dead. That they would be born again. That that would be the day. And today That that would be the day. And today That that would be the day. And today and the moment is now. Thank you for and the moment is now. Thank you for and the moment is now. Thank you for what you're doing through Battle Creek what you're doing through Battle Creek what you're doing through Battle Creek as we learn to love one another better. as we learn to love one another better. as we learn to love one another better. as we learn to bear with one another and as we learn to bear with one another and as we learn to bear with one another and pray for one another and forgive one pray for one another and forgive one pray for one another and forgive one another and confess our sins to one another and confess our sins to one another and confess our sins to one another that this this church in this another that this this church in this another that this this church in this community as I know it's known this way community as I know it's known this way community as I know it's known this way across the country is known as a across the country is known as a across the country is known as a lifegiving lifegiving lifegiving church. Let that be true and let that be church. Let that be true and let that be church. Let that be true and let that be lived out in each member. And we pray lived out in each member. And we pray lived out in each member. And we pray all of this in the authority of the name all of this in the authority of the name all of this in the authority of the name of Jesus. Amen.

Come on. Well, what a great message Come on. Well, what a great message today by Pastor Ted. And uh I hope you today by Pastor Ted. And uh I hope you today by Pastor Ted. And uh I hope you were encouraged. And just one thing as were encouraged. And just one thing as were encouraged. And just one thing as we're going through this series every we're going through this series every we're going through this series every week, we're going to be talking about week, we're going to be talking about week, we're going to be talking about that box in the flesh and in the spirit that box in the flesh and in the spirit that box in the flesh and in the spirit when you're giving and receiving those when you're giving and receiving those when you're giving and receiving those gifts. Don't forget to take a picture, gifts. Don't forget to take a picture, gifts. Don't forget to take a picture, take notes of that. It's so applicable take notes of that. It's so applicable take notes of that. It's so applicable as we go and we find people uh who have as we go and we find people uh who have as we go and we find people uh who have that gift and how to love on them or if that gift and how to love on them or if that gift and how to love on them or if that is your gift to help people in that is your gift to help people in that is your gift to help people in knowing uh how to give but also how to knowing uh how to give but also how to knowing uh how to give but also how to receive if that's you knowing that you receive if that's you knowing that you receive if that's you knowing that you want to we want God has called us to want to we want God has called us to want to we want God has called us to live in the spirit. Hey, we have an live in the spirit. Hey, we have an live in the spirit. Hey, we have an online resource page for our love five online resource page for our love five online resource page for our love five love language series and so they're love language series and so they're love language series and so they're going to put that in the chat right now. going to put that in the chat right now. going to put that in the chat right now. It's also on our app, Battle Creek It's also on our app, Battle Creek It's also on our app, Battle Creek Church app. Go on there if you can take Church app. Go on there if you can take Church app. Go on there if you can take the test on there. It also has other the test on there. It also has other the test on there. It also has other resources for you. But hey, I'm so resources for you. But hey, I'm so resources for you. But hey, I'm so thankful that you chose to be with us thankful that you chose to be with us thankful that you chose to be with us today. I'm praying for you. I love you. today. I'm praying for you. I love you. today. I'm praying for you. I love you. Hey, invite somebody next week and I Hey, invite somebody next week and I Hey, invite somebody next week and I pray that you have a fantastic week. I pray that you have a fantastic week. I pray that you have a fantastic week. I will see you next Sunday.

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